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Title: "My wife and I have been living here since we have been married." is the tense correct?
Question: I want to make a sentence meaning that "we have been living here since the day of our marriage" but is the latter part of the sentence correct? "My wife and I have been living here since we have been married." Or should I write "since we married."  Thank you so much.

Answers:
sents: text: It's very common to use a get -passive with married :
text: My wife and I have been living here since we got married .
text: Most passives use be , but other verbs are possible as well: Pullum lists come, get, go, have, hear, make, need, and see .
text: Most of these are relatively uncommon and each one has idiosyncratic rules for when it's appropriate.
text: In this case get is appropriate because of married .
text: Your active version ("since we married") sounds less common but I think it's also acceptable.
text: Your perfect be -passive version ("since we have been married") doesn't sound idiomatic to me, and I would avoid it in this case.
answer_details: author: ell.stackexchange.com/users/230/snailplane
score: 18
sents: text: Traditionally in the English speaking world, marriages started when a official presiding at a wedding married a couple.
text: So most people, when referring to the state of being married say 'since we were married' (by the official) rather than any of the forms which imply they were the active party.
text: Here's an n-gram showing a few variations, which points to 'were married' being the most common.
answer_details: author: ell.stackexchange.com/users/9024/Pete Kirkham
score: 3
sents: text: Yes, you should write " Since we married " because "Since" always followed by the past simple tense or the beginning time of the verb.
answer_details: author: ell.stackexchange.com/users/8254/Mohamed Hamza
score: 2
sents: text: Since , when used to indicate a duration, must be followed by a point-in-time reference; something has happened from that point in time until now.
text: We have been married indicates a duration rather than a point in time, so it is not suitable for being used with since .
text: Idiomatically speaking, I would suggest the phrase "since the day we got married."
answer_details: author: ell.stackexchange.com/users/87/Hellion
score: 2
sents: text: "Since" needs to be followed by an event (something you could describe by a single time and date).
text: "We have been married" is a period of time (which you'd describe by a range of times/dates).
text: You need to change the latter phrase to describe a point in time, not a period.
text: "Since we got married" or "since we married" would both work.
answer_details: author: ell.stackexchange.com/users/10611/Dave
score: 1
sents: text: The most natural sounding phrases to a native english speaker are: "
text: My wife and I have been living here since we were married", and "
text: My wife and I have been living here since we got married" The phrases with "since we have been married" and "since we have married" are grammatically incorrect.
text: The phrase with "since we married" is grammatically correct but awkward sounding.
answer_details: author: ell.stackexchange.com/users/10621/Magooda
score: 1
sents: text: Magooda's answer is the best here.
text: What I would have said is "since we were married".
text: "Since we got married" also sounds natural. "
text: Since we married" is quite unnatural.
text: It sounds like something only a non-native speaker would say.
text: The rest just sound wrong.
text: You could say "since we have been married" with some other kind of phrase, though, e.g.
text: "My
text: wife and I have lived here since we've been married".
text: But not "My wife and I have been living here since we've been married".
answer_details: author: ell.stackexchange.com/users/10624/blah
score: 0

Summary of the answers:
Idiomatically speaking,  "since the day we got married"; "since we got married" or "since we married" would work. Since should be followed by  a point in time reference. "Since we have been married"  indicates a duration rather than a point in time, so it is not idiomatic and perhaps should be avoided. 
You can write 'since we married' or 'since we got married'. Avoid 'since we have been married'.