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Filed 9/15/15 In re J .M. CA1/5

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IN THE COURT OF APPEAL OF THE STATE OF CALIFORNIA

FIRST APPELLATE DISTRICT

DIVISION FIVE

In re J.M., a Person Coming Under the Juvenile Court Law.

ALAMEDA COUNTY SOCIAL SERVICES AGENCY, Plaintiff and Respondent,

v. MICHAELA D., Defendant and Appellant. A144192
(Alameda County Super. Ct. No. OJ13020878)

California’s juvenile dependency scheme strikes a balance among the goal s of protecting children from neglect and abuse
, preserving existing families, and providing
children with permanent stable homes in which to grow and thrive. When a child is first removed from a parent’s care due to neglect or abuse, the focus is on reunification. However, t he time allowed for reunifi cation is limited so that children do not remain stranded in foster care, lacking the stability and security they need to develop into
confident adults. When the reunification period expires , the emphasis shifts to providing

permanency a nd stability for t he children.
J.M

. was removed from the custody of his mother, Michaela D. (Mother) when he

was about four months old due to neglect by both parents, arising from their mental health issues, domestic violence, and homelessness. J.M. was place d out of state with his paternal grandfather and stepgrandmother (Grandparents) . At the 12

- month review2

hearing, the court terminated reunification services for both parents, and scheduled a
Welfare and Institutions Code section 366.26 hearing. 1 Mother fil ed a section 388 motion for reunification or renewal of services, contending she had made substantial progress in resolving the problems that led to the dependency. At a combined hear ing on Mother’s petition and on termination of parental rights, the tria l court denied her petition and rejected application of the beneficial parental relationship exception (§ 366.26,
subd

. (c)(1)(B)(i)) to termination of parental rights. We agree that Mother demonstrated progress in dealing with her issues, but nevertheles s we must a ffirm.
I. B ACKGROUND Mother grew up in foster care
, and from age five until 18 she lived mostly with a foster mother (Foster Mother) and at times also with Foster Mother’s sister (Foster Aunt)

. When she was 21, she gave birth to J.M. At the time
, Mother and J.M.’s father (Father) 2

were living with Mother’s biological mother in a crowded three

- bedroom apartment in the Bay Area

. Foster Aunt was in the Bay Area

. Foster Mother was living in Germany
and called Mother about once a month.
About a week after J.M.’s delivery in January 2013 , the family began receiving public health services. T he Alameda County Social Services Agency (Agency) reported
that Mother “handle[d] [J.M.] as she would handle a toy. She throws him up and catches
him. Durin g the first few weeks following [his] birth [Mother] needed reminders to support his neck. [She] attempts to make [him] stand. [She] seems disconnected from [him] at times. She does not respond to his cues and does not hold him properly. [On
March 26, 2013, s he] had him on her lap and was hitting his back really hard. When it

was pointed out to her that she was hitting [him] rather than patting him, she continued to hit him.” J.M. also lost weight early on u ntil Mother’s biological mother took over responsibility for feeding him. Mother had diagnoses of bipolar disorder, depression and ADHD and had a history of psychiatric hospitalizations. Father reported a diagnosis of

1 Undesignated statutory references are to the Welfare and Institutions Code.

2 Father is not a party to this appeal.3

ADHD and schizoaffective disorder, d epressive type, with no current symptoms. Neither parent was on medication but both were trying to secure new prescriptions. Both had
criminal histories. They denied any domestic violence or drug or alcohol abuse.
Mother and Father faced eviction as a result of their ongoing arguments, which occurred even in the presence of service providers. On April 23, 2013, Mother was arrested for assaulting Father

. T he next day Father bailed Mother out of jail and she
resumed care of J.M. O n May 1, J.M. was take n into protective custody ; he had lost
10 ounces in 12 days when he should have been gaining an ounce every day or two. Father apparently told a social worker that, because he and Mother would be homeless as of May 3, he preferred that J.M. be taken into custody. On May 3, 2013 , the Agency filed a petition on J.M.’s behalf pursuant to
section 300, subdivision (b) (neglect). The petition alleged the April 23 assault, arrest and eviction; Father’s bailing out Mother and allowing her to resume care of J.M.; J.M.’s weight loss; and Father’s statement that J.M. should be taken into custody because the parents faced homelessness

. T he court ordered J.M. detained on May 6

. Mother and
Father remained homeless.
At a June 2013 jurisdiction hearing, Mother and Father agreed to accept J.M.’s removal on the understanding the petition would be amended and G randparents would be
assessed for J.M.’s placement in Pennsylvania. Mother and Father reported the y were taking their medications and looking for stable housing

. J.M. was placed in foster care. According to the Agency’s November 2013 status review report, Mother was in a housing program
, seeing an individual therapist
, and taking her p rescribed medications. The Agency had referred her to domestic violence clas ses

. Mother and Father consistently attended joint weekly visitation with J.M. “Sometimes .

. . there seemed to
be some co mpetition between the parents

. . . [ and M other ] has [a] hard time consoling or putting [J.M.] to sleep.” The Agency provided weekl y infant

- parent therapy beginning in
October

. Meanwhile, t he G randparents were undergoing the placement approval process

. They met with J.M. one weekend in September and planned to visit him again in
November. J.M. was happy, healthy and developmentally on target. At the4

November 21, 2013 six

- month hearing, the court ordered continued reunification
servi ces. On March 24, 2014, the court ordered J.M.’s placement changed to G randparents’ home in Pennsylvania. “Both parents state that they are not in the place to take care of [J.M.] and would like [him] to be cared [for] by [G randparents ] under legal guardianship.” J.M. was transitioned into their care in April 2014. The Agency’s April 2014 status review rep ort stated that Mother had left a three

month temporary housing placement in February and was staying with a friend while she looked for permanent housing. She had not taken advantage of certain housing services
offered to her. She had been approved for disability benefits and was working occasionally. She had stopped engaging in individual t herapy the prior January. 3 As of January 2014 , she had visitation separate from Father and had visited consistently except
when she or J.M. was sick. The visits we nt well. Mother continued to participate in
infant

- parent therapy and as a result had been able to think about J.M.’s experien ces and
needs. She reported being compliant with her medication but had not attended a psychiatric appointment or enrolled in do mestic violence classes.
At the 12

- month hearing in April 2014 , the court found that reasonable servic es had been provided, that Mother and Father had made only partial progress toward resolving the issues that led to the dependency, and that J.M. could n ot safely be returned
to their care. It terminated both p arents’ reunification services, ordered continuing visitation, and scheduled a section 366.26 hearing for August. In May 2014, Mother moved to Georgia to live with Foster Mother , who had
moved ther e from Germany

. A. Change in Permanent Plan In July 2014, the Agency changed its permanent plan recommendation from guardianship to adoption, as G randparents had asked to adopt J.M. Grandparents said

3 Mother later testified the therapist was transferred to another program and a replacement was not available. Mother continued her medications.5

they intended to maintain J.M.’s ties with Mother and Father , with visits arranged based on availability and “ consistent with [J.M.’s] well being.” Mother and Father were communicating with J.M. via Skype and by phone, and they were allowed to visit him in

person in Pennsylvania. J.M. was happy, healthy and developmentally on track, and h e seemed to be d eveloping an attachment to G randparents. Mother traveled from Georgia to attend the August 2014 section 366.26 hearing in
California . She objected to the permanency plan and asked for renewed reunification
services. She presented evidence that she had obtained individual therapy on her own
initiative and said she would file a section 388 petition. She explained that her visitation with J.M. was limited by the high cost of traveling from Georgia to Pennsylv ania, and asked for Agency assistance with travel

. A contested section 366.26 hearing was
scheduled for November.
In a November 2014 section 366.26 report, the Agency reported that J.M. had developed a bond with Grandparents. Grandparents again said the y intended to continue allowing J.M. to maintain contact with his parents.
B. Section 388 Petition
On November 7, 2014, Mother filed a section 388 petition seeking a renewal of reunification services or the return of J.M. to her care. As changed circumstances, she wrote: “Mother agreed to termination of reunification services based on [ Grandparents ’] agreement to become legal guardians of [J.M.] They have now requested to ado pt [J.M.] [Mother] now has housing, has continued to comply with her case plan, and has consistently visited with [J.M.] to the best of her ability.” Mother argued that g ranting
the petit ion was in J.M.’s best interest because “[ she ] has benefit[ted] fro m reunification services. She has been appropriate with [J.M.], has found h[ou]sing, has an income, has been medication compliant. [J.M.] would benefit from placement with his biological mother who has demonstrated that she can meet his needs.”
C

. Contes ted Hearing Evidentiary hearings on both the section 388 petition and the section 366.26

matter took place on November 13, 2014
, and January 22, 2015. The November hearing6

had been continued to December 2014 , but Mother’s counsel had a family emergency a nd

a further evidentiary hearing was continued to January 2015. Mother appeared at all
three hearings

. Grandparen ts appeared at the December 2014 hearing
, but they did not have an opportunity to testify at that time . The court allowed them to testify by telephone
at the January 2015 hearing

. The following evidence was presented at the hearings. Before the Move to Georgia Foster Aunt had been in touch with Mother during and after her pregnancy and had offered housing and support to Mother and the baby. “Unfortunately, we felt that [Mother and Father’s] relationship wasn’t a very health[y] relationship and [we weren’t]
read y to open our home to [Father].” Therefore, Mother chose to live with Father at her biological mother ’s home . Foster Mother first learned about J.M.’s removal at the end of the summer of 2013 when she moved to Georgia from Germany.
Mother testified that she agreed to termination of services and establishment of a guardianship without being told the consequences of the decision and under the belief she was “[s]igning over legal guardianship rights temporarily ” until she could get back on her
feet. She ag reed because she did not want J.M. to gr ow up in foster care like she ha d.
She never affirmatively waive d her right to services. Move to Georgia
Foster Mother and Foster Aunt

— both of whom had extensive experience and training in early childhood develop ment and were currently employed in the discipline

— were committed to supporting Mother so she could reunify with J.M. Foster Mothe r had
known Mother for 13 years. She and Mother had moved to a four

- bedroom home where they lived with Foster Mother’s mothe r, who occupied an in

- law unit. Mother was welcome to stay at the home indefinitely. At the December 2014 continued
section 366.26 hearing, Mother asked the Agency to assess the home for placement, but the Agency objected and the court declined to order an assessment unless necessary for
visitation.7 Work and Education Mother was earning income to supplement her disability benefits

. She was babysitting for a three

- year old in her home from Friday to Sunday including overnig hts, tutoring older children aft er school on weekdays, and caring for children at a church three days a week. In November 2014, Mother testified that w hen she returned to Georgia she would start working for a day care provider. However, w hen the social worker contact ed the day care provider to confirm the offer of employment , the provider said Mother had to do a few more things before she could be considered for employment.
Services
In November 2014, Foster Mother testified that Mother was participating in
services to the best of her financial ability with out assistance from the Agency

. Mother
testified that she was taking her prescribed medications and seeing the prescribing doctor once or twice a month. She had completed a four

- hour online parenting class and co uld
take additional courses in the future. She did not take domestic violence classes because
she understood she could ta ke parenting classes instead. Mother said she had attended individual therapy two to three times a month since about June

. In late N ovember
, however, the therapist told the Agency that Mother had only had four therapy sessions in July and one in October . Other sessions that had been scheduled were ca ncelled by
Mother. Due to the limited contact, they had not started to work on any substantive
issues

. Following the November 2014 hearing, Mother stayed in California pending the
December hearing. She volunteered to take parenting and domestic violence classes from certain provider s while she was in California

. However, she apparently was not eligible
for the domestic violence classes from the provider she identified, and Mother said she was too old to take parenting classes from the other provider she initially identified

. In
Jan uary 2015, Mother testified that she had started a therapy program with three sessions

per week

— o ne involving one

- on

- one p arenting education, another for anger management and domestic violence training, and the third for individua l therapy. She said e ach
session lasted about two hours and she had attended about 12 sessions

. The social worker8

had not heard about Mother’s participation in the new therapy program until Mother’s testimony at the January hearing. Mother also testified that she was still compl iant with her medication regimen and she would continue to be compliant. T he social worker had
been unable to verify information regarding Mother’s psychiatric treatment. Experience with Children
Mother took care of a seven

- year

- old child with ADHD and a th ree

- year

- old child during the summer of 2014, and the children’s parents were pleas ed with the quality of

care

. From June to August, Mother cared for Foster Aunt’s seven

- year

- old daughter (who was visiting in Georgia ) while Foster Mother was at work. She provided appropriate care and the child appeared attach ed to Mother

. Mother also cared for
children through babysitting, tutoring and working with the church youth group. Additionally, Foster Mother took Mother along on home visits in her job as an e arly
intervention worker “to kind of give her an idea of how to .

. . developmentally and appropriately interact with small children.” Foster Mother testified that Mother was appropriate and very interactive with the ch ildren and would ask questions whe n she was
not sure what to do. Skype Video Chats Mother testified that she Skyped with J.M. every Saturday morning for about an
hour and would do so more often, but Grandparents would not let her. In January 2015, she testified that she was still Skyping w ith J.M. every Saturday except when her Internet connection failed or her phone did not work. Foster Aunt and Foster Mother had observed Mother Skype with J.M. and reported that she was enthusiastic, interactive, loving , and appropriate
, and that J.M. was aware of who Mother was.
Paternal step g randmother testified that she reviewed h er Skype account and no ted the dates and durations of Mother’s Skype calls to J.M. She testified that the first Saturday J.M. lived with Grandparents was April 12, 2014, but Mot her’s first call was on May 3. During the period of April 12, 2014 through January, 18, 2015 (a total of
40 weeks) , Mother made 23 calls ranging in duration from about 15 minutes to 1 hour
and 15 minutes

.9 In

- person Visits When J.M. went to Pennsylvania, the court ordered continued visitation as frequently as possible consistent with the child’s best interest. T he social worker testified
that she informed the visitation supervisor in Pennsylvania that Mother had receive d

we ekly supervised one

- hour visits when J.M. resided in California

. After discussing the distance between Mother’s and J.M.’s residences, however, they decided that two

- hour visits every other week was a more realistic visitation schedule

. Mother visited J. M. in Pennsylvania on June 16 and 23, 2014. She drove 12 hours each way from Georgia to attend the visits at her own expense . Although Mother repeatedly asked Grandparents to meet her halfway , they declined

. Grandmother testified, “I do not feel comfort able without having anyone from an Agency being present to witness any issues that could arise.” The visits were limited to two hours and took place in a social service agency building. Mother asked Grandparents for more visitation
time and for a chance to leave the building with J.M., but they denied her requests. Mother did not visit J.M. in Pennsylvania again until January 2015 , although she had one visit with him in December when they were both in California for a court hearing

. Mother had also sent J.M. gifts

. Mother wanted to visit J.M. more frequently, but could not afford the trips

. Each visit cost her $500 to $600 cost for a rental car, gas and lodging (not counting food). She also had to pay for her trips to California for dependency hearing s as well as all of her services (psychiatric visits, therapy sessions, medical appointments, parenting classes) from Social Security disability benefits and limited additional income. M other had asked for Agency financial assistance with visitation in Au gust 2014, but the Agency never

pro vided assistance. The s ocial w orker testified that the Agency did not fund visitation
after termination of reunification services. In December 2014, the court said, “[I]f the burden o[n] [M other ] to visit up north to Pe nnsylvania could be a little bit alleviated by extended hours or whatever, the Court would certainly like that to happen. .

. . But I’ll leave that up to the Agency.”10

Foster Mother accompanied Mother on the June 2014 trips to Pennsylvania and
observed Mot her’s arrival at the visits and her departure from the first visit. During the first visit, “[J.M.] saw [Mother] and he looked and he buried his head in [Grandmother’s]
chest. .

. . And then .

. . [Mother] was talking to [him]

. . . and he was smiling and talking with her. And then after the visit when they came out, she was holding him .

. . . [¶] [W]hen [Mother] was giving him back to the Social Worker .

. . , he was pulling at her shirt to the point where she was almost exposed. ” During the second vis it a week later
, “[J.M.] w as ready to go with [Mother].” In Foster Mother’s opinion, there was a “type of bonding” between J.M. and Mother. “The fact that he turned when he saw her. He saw all of us. He did not look at any of us. He looked at his mom.

. . . The fact that he was holding onto her so tightly. .

. . [There is] some type of secure attachment there. .

. . She’s somebody special .

. . .”
Mother described her December 2014 visit with J.M. in California as follows: “As a kid, he was everywher e, playing with one toy one minute, then he w anted to move to the next toy. [¶ ] .

. . [¶] [H]e wouldn’t make eye contact with me that much. H e was everywhere. He’s a kid.

. . . When I did call his name, he’[d] look.” She denied that J.M. did not want to play with her during the visit. The social w orker described the visit as
follows: “[J.M.] did not protest when [Grandparents] left but went to the door and waiting room many times. [He] moved from toy to toy . [Mother] sometimes introduced a toy to him but he moved to a different one pretty quickly. [J.M.] did not make much eye contact with [Mother], nor did he engage her in his play. [Mother’s] affect was flat during the visit. She sat on the [ couch ] , som etimes watching him and s ometimes trying to engage him. .

. . The interaction between [Mother and J.M.] was minimal. Toward the end of the visit, [Mother] bought a can of ice tea for [J.M.] as there was no [s]ippy cup in his bag[.] [J.M.] sat by her as s he requested and took many sips. He smiled at [Mother].
When [Grandparents] returned, [J.M.] ran to the door and was picked up by [ paternal

g randfather].

. . . [ J.M. ] was asked by [Father] to give [Mother] a kiss, which he did. They said good bye to eac h other and [J.M.] left with [Grandparents and Father].” Stepg randmother commented on the visit: “What I had observed is defiance with her11

giving [J.M.] Brisk tea out of a can, and we had told her he does not get that type of stuff at home and we would p refer her not to give it to him. She proceeded to give him more of the Brisk tea allowing him to stick his tongue down into the opened metal part of the
can and .

. . also allowing him to put his lips down in there, and I told him, ‘No. You’re going to g et hurt. You’r e going to cut yourself.’ ” Mother requested a visit with J.M. in Pennsylvania during his birthday party in January 2015 , but Grandparents were uncomfortable, so Mother had a supervised visit the next day at the social services building. A t that visit, “ [W]hen I first walked in, he walked up to me, jibber

-

jabber a little bit, .

. . took off his hood, then we walked to the back of the place in the room to have a visit, we played with the birthday gifts, he opened them, he was excited, I read him some books, we played with Leg os, and we bought him some food.” Mother said, “He knows I’m his mother. .

. . I’m a familiar face to him. [¶ ]

. . . [¶]

. . . He knows that I love him. He knows that I care about him. [¶ ] .

. . [¶] I
believe we have a bo nd. It may not be strong [er] than

. . . the bond he has with [Grandparents], [but] that’s because I don’t get to visit him a lot.”
The visitation s upervisor described the January 2015 visit as follows: “[ Mother ] immediately began giving [J.M.] his birthday presents. [She] did not take [his] winter coat off. [J.M.] began playing with the dog dressed as a firefighter that [Mother] brought for him. [J.M.] tried wearing the dog’s fire hat. [Mother] discouraged hi m [from doing] so because it ‘isn’t for you. It’s for your doggy.’ [Mother] attempted to play with blocks and read [J.M.] books but was unable to keep his attention. [J.M.] was not interested in being held by [Mother] and did not show an interest in get ting a picture with her.

. . . [¶ ]

. . . [¶]

. . . [J.M.] did not seem interested in playing with [Mother]. .

. . [ He] attempted to climb on [the visitation s upervisor’s] lap during the visit. [¶ ] .

. . [¶]

. . . [Mother] does not appear to have the knowle dge to interact with a child of [J.M.’s] age. [She] seemed as though she expected [J.M.] to be able to manipulate toys he is not developmentally ready for. .

. . [¶ ] .

. . [¶]

. . . [She] did not appear to have a strong bond with [J.M.].”
When asked if m ore visitation would have made a difference in the case, the social

w o rker said, “[W]hen we were in [family reunification] phase, we would not even be able12

to go beyond supervised visits and therapeutic visits. [So] I don’t know if more visits
would make too much difference.” Grandparents There clearly was s ome tension between Mother and Grandparents

. As noted, Grandparents did not allow Mother to attend J.M.’s birthday party or agree to increase
her visitation time in Pennsylvania despite the substantia l distance Mother travel ed for
the visits and the attendant cost . Mother posted comments on her Facebook page about feeling hurt and devastated by Grandparents’ inflexibility and lack of communication
ab out developments in J.M.’s life, and Grandparents ap parently complained about the posts to the social worker

. G randmother testified that Mother’s calls to her were “few and far between, but most of ‘em are to try and see if we can either change the .

. . time for the Skype or pretty much demand that she wants pictures or that she wants to talk to her son and that sort of thing. [¶ ] .

. . [¶]

. . . [Such as,] ‘I want pictures. I should be getting pictures of my son. .

. . I should be in my son’s life. You’re keeping him from me,’ that sort of thing. [¶ ] .

. . [¶]

. . . It upsets me, because I’m not trying to keep him from her in any way, shape, or form.” Grandm other testified that she would not try to contact Mother to find out what happened if she missed a scheduled Skype call. In December, c onfl ict er upted between Mother and paternal g randfather when Mother asked to change the time of a Skype call. Grandfath er testified: “I explained to [Mother] that this is the time that we set up prior to us getting [J.M.]

. . . . She had no problem with it. [¶] She started yelling and cussing at me telling me that she has a right to change it, and I told her, ‘[Mother], I set this time every week for you.’ .

. . [S]he was told that, and she
still sai d she wanted to change the time

. . . .” Nevertheless, Mother and Grandparents seemed to generally be polite to each other. Mother and Foster Mother made positive

statement s about the Grandparents ’ care of J.M.
, and Grandparents said they wanted Mother to remain in J.M.’s life. Mother’s counsel argued “if past actions are any indication, [Grandparents] may not let [Mother] be a part of [J.M.’s] life if parental rights

are t erminated. ”13

D

. Argument on Section 388 Petition Mother’s counsel urged the court to grant the petition. “This is not a young mother with a drug addiction, a history of pregnancy, or ongoing domestic violence. This
is a first

- time mother who was in foste r care struggling to take care of her baby away from her foster family, was homeless for a time, and who has returned to her family and made enormous changes and efforts in her life, all focused on what is best for [J.M.] and keeping [J.M.] in her life. ” Given the limitations on visitation, Mother and J.M. had “as close a bond as is possible under the circumstances.” Father argued it would not be in J.M.’s best interests to reunite with Mother because he was “very, very stable with [Grandparents].” Minor ’s counsel reserved judgment on the petition until after the close of evidence, and then urged the court to deny the petition. “I think [this] is a classic case of changing circumstances and not

ne cessarily changed circumstances

. . . . [¶ ] .

. . [¶]

. . . This is her first child. She was very young when she had [J.M.], and did not necessarily take advantage of services when they were offered. .

. . [H]er participation in the case plan wa s partial. [¶] [I]t seems like she has made a lot of progress recent ly. Particularly regarding her housing and the move to Georgia is probably one of the best things that she h as done for herself and her son

. . . . [¶] In terms of .

. . parenting [classes], it seems like she had very minimal parenting [classes]. .

. . [¶] In terms of mental health, I think her testimony is credible in that she has engaged in mental health services si nce I believe some time i n 2013

. . . . [¶] Unfortunately

. . . , [Mother ha sn’t ] met the burden [of showing changed circumstances], two, [she hasn’t] shown how the requested change is in the minor’s best
interest.” The Agency similarly argued there were changing but not changed circumstances. “She’s still showing immaturity in a rather strident way at times when she testified, and her behavior like on Facebook, cursing out [G randparents ]

. . . . [¶ ] [ S ] he came across in some way like a petulant teenager, and she has not demonstr ated the kind of maturity that
is nec essary for return of the child. [¶ ] .

. . [¶] [I]f any [conflict] exists between [Mother and Grandparents], [it] is [Mother’s] doing because she’s angry that they have her child.”14

She did not really engage in services until December 2014, which was too little, too late.
Because there was no strong bond between Mother and J.M.
, it was not in J.M.’s best
interest to return to her care. The court denied Mother’s section 388 petition. “T his is a very, very tough case. [¶ ] I’ve watched [M other ] grow over the months and now a couple years. I think she has made tremendous progress.

. . . [¶] At first I though t [M] other actually has shown changed circumstances. She has shown stability in her life by housing. She has a job offer. She’s working as a nanny. She’s gone out of her way to visit, these long bus rides,
to see her son .

. . but I’m .

. . stumbling a bit, because she is showing the immaturity at this point. The phone call to [Grandparents]
, . . . how she dealt wit h some redirection by [Grandmother] at the visit in December about the can, that could be very dangerous for a

two

- year

- young child .

. . . So the mother is not showing the parenting skills I think that she needs even at this point, but she’s very close t o it. So in good faith I can’t even make the finding that she has fully changed her circumstances. [¶ ] .

. . [¶] But if I did, [Mother], I sadly tell you that it is not in [the] best interest of [J.M.] to return [him] to you at this
time. The child has n ot bonded with you. You even acknowledge that there’s not a strong bond, and I appreciate that candor and that recognition.”
On the section 366.26 matter, the court said, “The main issue is [ whether ] there [is] an exception to adoptability, a nd the only one .

. . possible .

. . is .

. . a beneficial parental relationship [,] that is so compelling that it trumps adoptability?” The court found J.M. was adoptable, and found “there is a relationship. There is no question about
it. The mother loves the child . The child did not push the mother away. There is kissing, and hugging, and touching, and playfulness between the two. The mother is able to show some parenting skills, frankly, not the best given the examples we heard through this testimony. But ther e is a relationship. [¶] Is it so compelling though to overturn the permanency this child has now achieved at least for the nine months that the child has been back in Pennsylvania with [Grandparents]? I’m going to have to say no.” The court terminated p arental rights. At the suggestion of m inor’s counsel, the court o rdered15

mediation regarding post

- adoption contact with the parents. The results of that mediation
are not in the record.
II. D ISCUSSION A. Telephone Testimony Mother argues the trial court erred by allowing Grandparents to testify by telephone at the final hearing. We disagree

. Grandparents appeared at a hearing on December 1, 2014 , which h ad to be continued because of a death in the family of Mother’s counsel. The court told Grandparents
, “Normally, I would not allow appearance by telephone in that we are taking sworn testimony. But in that .

. . you fol ks live in .

. . Pennsylvania .

. . [i]f you wish to appear by phone, I’ll allow you to appear by phone. It’s not the best way to do it

. . . . [¶ ] .

. . [¶]

. . . It’s very hard to check out the demeanor of the witnesses, especially me, and I have to look at you to get an idea if you’re telling the truth or whatever.” The attorney
who was specially appearing for Mother’s counsel reserve d counsel’s right to object to the ruling, and the court said , “[I]f [counsel] objects, she needs to .

. . notify the Court almost immediately; and then when she does, to notify all the other parties through their attorneys[.] [T]hen the Court will determ ine what to do at that point.” Mother’s counsel never lodged an objection. At the January 22, 2015 hearing, Grandparents testified by telephone. Mother’s counsel successfully objected to their appearing as witnesses in the Agency’s case

- in

- chief because they had not been listed on a pretrial witness list ; consequently, they were limited to rebuttal testimony. But Mother’s counsel did not

object to their appearing by telephone. Mother argues the allowance of telephone testimony is reviewable on appeal despite the absence of contemporaneous objection because the court lacked “jurisdiction” to allow witnesses to testify by telephone. She relies on In re Andres G. (1998)
64 Cal.App .4th 476
, which reversed a disposition order despite the absence of a contemporaneous objection because the court had lacked jurisdiction to order the disposition

. ( Id. at pp. 483, 484.) The juvenile court removed the children from the parents’ care base d on clear and convincing evidence of a risk of harm and “ placed ” them16

with relatives, but nevertheless “ detained ” the m with the parents. ( Id. at pp. 479

– 480 &
fn. 2 , 483 .) The reviewing court held the disposition order was an act in excess of the
court’ s jurisdi ction, and thus invalid despite the parties’ consent, because it “systematically contravene[d] a comprehensive statutory scheme ” ( i d. at p. 483), which permitted only five specified dispositions, not including the one ordered by the court ( i d. at pp. 480

– 48 1 )

. There is no such specific statutory direction regarding the manner in which testimony may be provided in juvenile dependency hearings. Mother argues Evidence
Code section 711

— which provides, “ At the trial of an action, a witness can be heard only in the presence and subject to the examination of all the parties to the action , if they
choose to attend and examine ” (italics added)

— requires witnesses to testify in person. Courts, however, have held that this statute does not bar juvenile c ourts from taking testimony by child witnesses in chambers and outside the presence of parents in dependency cases
, even before enactment of a specific statute that authorized such a procedure ( § 350, subd

. (b) ) . (See In re Mary S. (1986) 186 Cal.App.3d 4 14, 416

– 420 [reviewing cases].) The “presence” requirement was deemed satisfied because the testimony was given in the presence of the parent’s attorney, who had the opportunity to

cross

- examine the child witness. ( Id. at p. 417.) Here, the Grandparents were “ presen t” at the hearing by telephone, which afforded Mother a full opportunity for cross

examination. The “presence” language in section 355, which is cited by Mother but is not directly applicable here , may be interpreted in the same manner

. 4
Mother notes that no statute specifically authoriz es the court to take testimony by telephone, but the courts have inherent power and wide discretion to “develop rules of procedure aimed at facilitatin g the administration of justice. ” ( In re Jeanette H. ( 1990)

4 Section 355, subdivision (c)(1)(D) provides, “For purposes of this section, the court may deem a witness avai lable for cross

- examination if it determines that the witness is on telephone standby and can be present in court within a reasonable time of a request to examine the witness. ” (Italics added.) Section 355 only applies to jurisdictional hearings.17

225 Cal.App.3d 25, 34.) This is particularly true in dependency cases, where “[j]uvenile courts are required to ‘control all proceedings with a view to the expeditious and effective ascertainment of the jurisdictional facts and of all information re levant to the present
condit ion and welfare of the child.’ ” ( Id . at p. 36 ; Cal. Rules of Court, rule 5.534(a) .) Moreover, the practice of allowing testimony by telephone is not novel. Family Code
section 3411 , subdivision (b) allows out

- of

- state witnes ses to testify by telepho ne in child custody proceedings, and Federal Rules of Civil Procedure, rule 43(a), authorizes the use of telephone testim ony at trial “for good cause in compelling circumstances

. ” Because the trial court did not exceed its jurisdi ction in permitting telephone testimony, the ordinary forfeiture rule applies. Finally, Mother argues the use of telephone testimony is reviewable despite the absence of a contemporary objection because the practice infringed on her constitutional confrontation rights. In criminal proceedings the defendant has a fundamental Sixth
Amendment r ight to confrontation , which can be waived only by a knowing personal waiver by the defendant . ( In re Kerry O. (1989) 210 Cal.App.3d 326, 331, 333 .) In civil proceedings such as a dependency proceeding, the parties have a Fifth Amendment due

process right to confront and cross

- examine witnesses . The right is not coextensive with the Sixth Amendment right and a personal waiver is not always required

. ( See Kerry O. , at pp. 333

– 334 [no confrontation violation where parents’ attorneys stipulated to
admi ssion of transcript of child’s testimony in prior dependency hearing]; In re Mary S.
, supra, 186 Cal.App.3d at pp. 419

– 420 [ no confrontation violation where minor was
examined outside presence of parents]; § 350, subd. (b) [permitting child’s testimony in
chambers in certain circumstances ] .) Here, Mother’s counsel received advance notice that Grandparents would testify by telephone, lodged no objection, and had an opportunity to cross

- examine Grandparents and present rebuttal witnesses. There wa s no
const itutional violation.
Mother also argues the testimony was inadmissible because the court did not properly administer the witness oath. Before Grandparents testified, the court said, “Normally I’d have you stand and raise your right hand, but we won’t eve n see you .

. .18

so I’m not going to require that. But I am going to require you answer the oath question because we definitely want you under oath.” Grandparents were then sworn in as witnesses. Mother argues the evidence was inadmissible under Evidence Code
section 710 because “no one was able to observe [Grandparents] standing and raising their right hands.” She made no such objection at the time of the hearing. Where the adequacy of the oath

- taking is not raised at trial, the issue is deemed waived on appeal. ( In re Heather H. (1988) 200 Cal.App.3d 91, 96.) The claim also fails on the merits.
Evidence Code section 710 provides, “Every witness before testifying shall take an oath
or make an affirmation or declarat ion in the form provided by law

. . . .” The Grandparents each took the oath in the required form. Mother cites no authority in statute
or case law requiring witnesses to also stand and raise their right hands when taking the oath, even if such is the usual courtroom custom. Therefor e, her argument is unpersuasive.
B

. Section 388 Petition Mother argues the trial court erred in denying her section 388 petition. We affirm

. Section 388 permits a parent to seek modification of a prior court order “upon grounds of change of circumstance or new evidence” and a showing that “the best interests of the child may be promoted by the proposed change of order.” (§ 388; In re Daijah T. (2000) 83 Cal.App.4th 666, 670

– 672.) The party who files the petition bears the burden of proving these elemen ts , and we review a denial of a section 388 petition for
abuse of discretion. ( In re Stephanie M. (1994) 7 Cal.4th 295, 318.)
A section 388 petition filed after the termination of services and before termination of parental rights plays an important role in the dependency scheme. In In re Marilyn H. (1993) 5 Cal.4th 295, t he Supreme Court upheld the constitutionality of
section 366.26

— which bars a juvenile court from return ing a child to a parent’s custody
after termination of services

— on the ground that section 388 “provides the ‘escape
mechanism’ .

. . to allow the court to consider new information [possibly justifying a return]

. [¶] Sections 366.26 and 388, when construed together and with the legislative scheme as a whole, are reasonable and bear a substantial relation to the objective sought19

to be attained. The parent’s interest in having an opportunity to reunify with the chil d is balanced against the child’s need for a stable, permanent home. The parent is given a reasonable period of time to reunify and, if unsuccessful, the child’s interest in permanency and stability takes priority. Even after the focus has shifted from

r eunification, the scheme provides a means for the court to address a legitimate change of
circumstances [by way of a section 388 petition] while protecting the child’s need for prompt resolution of his custody status. Thus, both substantive and procedural due process are satisfied.” ( Marilyn H. , at p. 309.) Mother argues the trial court unreasonably denied her the benefit of this escape mechanism when it denied her
section 388 petition.
Mother first argues the trial court committed legal error when it r uled that it could
not order additional reunification services for Mother even if it found changed circumstances and the best interest of the child would be served by a renewal of services. The court reasoned that it was prohibited from renewing services because the maximum statutory period for such services had already expired

. 5 Whether the court was absolutely barred from renewing services in such circumstances is not entirely clear. (See Seiser & Kumli, Cal. Juvenile Courts Practice and Procedure (201 5) § 2.154[2][b], pp. 2

- 547 to 2

- 550 .) However, w e need not resolve this issue because it is apparent from the record that
, even if the court believed it could renew services in granting the section 388 petition
, the

court would have denied such relief fo r the same reasons it denied Mother’s request for a

return of J.M. to her custody.
Mother clearly presented some ev idence of changed circumstances, as the juvenile court acknowledged. At the time J.M. was removed at four months old , Mother was in a
confl ict

- ridden relationship with Father and facing eviction; s he had no reliable family

5 At th e outset of the joint contested hearing on the section 388 petition and section 366.26 matter, the court stated, “The Court’s analysis .

. . is that there is no issue about reinstatement of reunification services at this time because [Mother] has run out o f time by law. [¶] On the other hand, what is right and alive is the possibility that the Court would order the return of the child to [M]other at this moment.”20

support ; she was not taking medication for her mental health problems or engaging in services; she was unemployed ; and her childcare skills were weak . At the time services
were terminated a year later
, Mother was taking her medications
, had engag ed in some therapy
, and had visited consistently with J.M. However, she was just learni ng appropriate childcare skills
, and she still lacked housing, employment
, and family support

. S he also had not taken any domesti c violence or parenting classes and apparently was not engaged in individual therapy or psychiatric treatment. When Mother
filed her section 388 p etition seven months after reunification services were terminated
, she h ad stable housing and family support, had gained experience in childcare , was appropriate in visits with J.M., as well as taking her medications and engaging in therapy apparently to the extent she could afford to do so . S he also h ad taken an online paren ting
class and p ossibly had a pros pect of employment. Mother also had sought to maintain
contact with J.M. despite the distance between them. To justify modification of a court order, however, the change in circumstances must be significant in relation to the problems that initially brought the child within the dependency system. ( In re A.A. (2012) 203 Cal.App.4th 597, 612.) The changes in Mother’s housing, family support, compliance with medication, and relationship (i.e., her separation from Father) were significant. Her participation in services, however, wa s fitful, belated or inadequate . Moreover, the trial court commented that her behavior
remained immature
, specifically referencing the incident with the can of iced tea at the
December 20 14 visi t and her argument with paternal g randfather. The court also had the opportunity to observe Mother testify on multiple occasions and the Agency’s counsel had argued that Mother acted like a “petulant teenager” on the witness stand . Maturity

was relevant to the causes of the dependency action not only because of the instability of Mother’s life when J.M. was an infant in her care, but also because she initially did not

seem to understand how to care for a young child. Although Mother and Foster Mother

tes t ified that Mother had obtained child care experience in Georgia, the court could view that testimony with some skepticism in view of Mother’s exaggerated testimony about other developments in Georgia. In sum, the court acted within its discretion in infe rring21

from Mother’s recent conduct that she had not obtained a level of maturity that justified thwarting the permanent plan of adoption for J.M.
We likewise find that the court did not abuse its discretion in ruling that J.M.’s
best interest would not be served by a change in the permanent plan

. It was essentially undisputed that Mother did not have a parental bond with J.M. , but only a friendly relationship. J.M. recognized her and showed no distress when visiting her or video chatting with her, but he did not show any kind of parental attachment to Mother. Mother

corre ctly notes that there were argua bly insurmountable obstacles to development of such a bond given the distance between her and J.M. and her lack of personal financial

resources or financi al assistance from the Agency . However, she does not argue on appeal that the Agency had an obligation to provide such financial assistance after the
termination of services. N or does she argue that her right to services or visitation was in any way violated. Mother had the benefit of one year of services in California and she unfortunately failed to forge a parental bond with J.M. during that time

. Thereafter, the statutory scheme dictated a shift in emphasis from assisting her with reun ification to providing permanency and stability for J.M

. , particularly given his young age. (See § 361.5, subd. (a)(1)(B ), (3).)
Mother bore the burden of demonstrating that a modification would serve J.M.’s
best interests , despite the fact that it would require another upheaval in his life. Regrettably, she was not able to make the required showing. The same result is dictated by application of the three

- factor test set forth in In re
Kimberl y F. : “First, and probably most basic, any modification unde r section 388 must consider the seriousness of the reason for the dependency in the first place. .

. . [¶] A second important factor .

. . is the strength of the existing bo nd between the parent and
child

. . . . [¶] Correlatively, the strength of a child’ s bond to his or her present caretakers, and the length of time a child has been in the dependency system in relationship to the parental bond are also vital. .

. . [¶] Finally,

. . . the nature of the change [in circumstances], the ease by which the chang e could be brought about, and the reason the change was not made before bear on any such motion.” ( In re Kimberly F. (1997)22

56 Cal.App.4th 519, 530

– 531; but see In re J.C. (2014) 226 Cal.App.4th 503, 527 [criticizing In re Kimberly F. for in sufficient emp hasis on the shift of focus to a child’s need for permanency and stability following termination of reunification services]; Seiser & Kumli, Cal. Juvenile Courts Practice and Procedure (2015) § 2.140[5], p. 2

- 497 [same].) Here, the record demonstrates that Mother never developed a strong attachment with J.M. either before his removal or during the reunification period. There were no insurmountable obstacles to her reunifying with J.M. during her 12 months of services, yet she failed to obtain stable h ousing
, consistently participate in services , or reach out to
Foster Mother or Fos ter Aunt for family support until late in the case . That the obstacles to reunification later became more substantial does not excuse Mother’s earlier failure to

reun ify or obligate the court to give Mother yet another chance . B y the time the court
ruled on the section 388 petition, the relative strength of the bonds favored Grandparents,

par ticularly since J.M. had spent the last nine months with them and only had lived wit h
Mother f o r the first four months of his life

. Mother claims she agreed to Grandparents’ guardianship of J.M. only because she thought she would have the opportunity to reunify with J.M. once she got her life together. However, at the time the court ter minated services, Mother had already
exhausted 12 months of services, which is greater than the presumptive limit of six month
of services for a child under the age of three (§§ 361.5, subd. (a)(1)(B); 366.21, subd. (e) , par

. 3 ), although a further extensi on of services was possible (§§ 361.5, subd. (a)(3); 366.21, subd. (f))

. T he court terminat ed services after finding that reasonable services had been provided and there was not a substantial probability that J.M. would be return ed
to Mother within six mo nths (§ 366.21, subd. (g)(1), (4) ) , and Mother failed to challenge
that ru ling by filing a writ petition (§ 366.26, subd. ( l ) ) . Mother cannot demonstrate that her rights were violated when her services were terminated and the permanency plan
went forward. In sum, t he court did not abu se its discretion in denying Mother’s section 388 petition.23

C

. Beneficial Parental Relationship Exception Mother also argues the court erred in not applying the beneficial parental relationship exception to termination of parental rights. We affirm

. “At a [section 366.26] hearing, the court may order one of three alternative plans: (1) adoption (necessitating the termination of parental rights); (2) guardianship; or (3) long

- term foster car e. (§ 366.26, subd. (c)(1), (4 )(A).) If the child is adoptable, there is a strong preference for adoption over the other alternatives. [Citation.] Once the court determines the child is adoptable .

. . , a parent seeking a less restrictive plan has the burden of showing that the ter mination of parental rights would be detrimental under one of the exceptions listed in section 366.26, subdivision (c)(1)(B). [Citation.] “Section 366.26, subdivision (c)(1)(B)(i) provides for one such exception when ‘[t]he parents have maintained regula r visitation and contact with the child and the child would benefit from continuing the relationship.’ The ‘benefit’ necessary to trigger this exception has been judicially construed to mean, ‘the relationship promotes the well

being of the child to such a degree as to outweigh the well

- being the child would gain in a permanent home with new, adoptive parents. In other words, the court balances the strength and quality of the natural parent/child relationship in a tenuous placement against the security an d the sense of belonging a new family would confer. If severing the natural parent/child relationship would deprive the child of a substantial, positive emotional attachment such that the child would be greatly harmed, the preference for adoption is overc ome and the natural parent’ s rights are not terminated.’ [Citations.] “A parent asserting the parental benefit exception has the burden of establishing that exception by a preponderance of the evidence. [Citation.] It is not enough to show that the par ent and child have a friendly and loving relationship. [Citation.]

‘ “Interaction between [a] natural parent and child will always confer some incidental
benefit to the child .

. . .” ’ [Citation. ] For the exception to apply, ‘ a parental relationship
i s necessary

. . . .’ [Citation.] ‘ “While friendships are important, a child needs at least one parent. Where a biological parent .

. . is incapable of functioning in that role, the child should be given every opportunity to bond with an individual who will assume the24

role of a parent.” ’ ” ( In re J.C., supra, 226 Cal.App.4th at pp. 528

– 529.) We review the trial court’s findings of whether the re was regular visitation and beneficial parental relationship for substantial evidence and the determination w hether maintaining the relationship outweighed the benefits of adoption for abuse of discretion. ( Id. at p p

. 530

– 531.)
The record clea rly demonstrates that Mother had a friendly relationship with J.M., but not a parental bond, much less a bond that outweighed J.M.’s right to permanency and stability. Courts have reversed denials of the beneficial parental exception where the children had lived with the parent for years before their removal and the child

- parent bond was strong. (See In re S.B. (2008) 164 Cal.App.4th 289, 293

– 294, 299

– 301 [child
removed at 3 years old; child wanted to leave with parent at end of visits ] ; In re
Amber M. (2002) 103 Cal.App.4th 681, 684, 689

– 690 [ children removed when they were five years, two year s, and seven months old; bond of older child confirmed with bonding study; second child had difficulty separating from mother after visits ]; In re Jerome D. (2000) 84 Cal.App.4th 1200, 1203 , 1207 [child removed at 6 years old; child wanted to
live with mot her and parent

- child bond confirmed by psychologist].) Mother’s situation
is instead similar to cases where the parent has a friendly relationship with the child akin to that of an extended family member, but the child’s parental bon d is with the current caregiver. I n such circumstances, the beneficial parental relationship exception does not apply. (See, e.g., In re Derek W. (1999) 73 Cal.App.4th 823, 825

– 827 [child removed at birth; child had “emotional bond” with father but “consistent, daily nurturin g” provided by caregivers]; In re Beatrice M. (1994) 29 Cal.App.4th 1411, 1414, 1419

– 1420 [child ren removed at birth; child ren had “close ” relationship with mother similar to that
with other extended family members, but caregiver provided daily care, comfort
, and nurturing ].) On review of the order of the juvenile court terminating parental rights, it is not our function to reweigh the evidence or express our independent judgment on the issues
before the trial court. ( In re Jasmon O. (1994) 8 Cal.4th 398, 423.) The court did not25

abuse its discretion in refusing to apply the beneficial parental relationship exception to termination of parental rights

. III. D ISPOSITION The order denying Mother’s section 388 petition and terminating her parental rights to J.M. is affirmed.

_________________________ BRUINIERS, J.

WE CONCUR:

_________________________ JONES, P. J.

_________________________ NEEDHAM, J.