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                                                                     Exhibit 4.1

                             STOCK OPTION AGREEMENT


     THIS STOCK OPTION AGREEMENT between PROVANT, Inc., a Delaware corporation
(the "Company"), and Curtis M. Uehlein (the "Grantee") dated effective as of
October 8, 1999 (the "Date of Grant").

     For good and valuable consideration, the receipt and sufficiency of which
are hereby acknowledged, the parties hereto act and agree as follows:

Section 1.  The Plan

     The option granted pursuant to this Agreement is not granted pursuant to
the Company's 1998 Equity Incentive Plan (the "Plan"). This Agreement shall
nevertheless be subject to the terms of the Plan, a copy of which is attached
hereto as Exhibit A and is incorporated herein in its entirety, except to the
extent this Agreement and the Plan or any agreement between the Company and the
Grantee are in conflict, in which case this Agreement or such other agreement
shall control. Capitalized terms used herein and not otherwise defined shall
have the meanings ascribed to them in the Plan.

Section 2.  Grant of Option

     The Company hereby grants to the Grantee, as of the Date of Grant, an
option (the "Option") to purchase up to 225,000 shares of Common Stock, par
value $.01 per share, of the Company (the "Option Shares") at a price per share
of $16.375, both the price and the number of shares being subject to adjustment
only as provided herein and in the Plan.

Section 3.  Terms of Option

     Subject to such further limitations as are provided herein, the Option
shall be exercisable in three (3) installments, with the Grantee having the
right hereunder to purchase from the Company the following number of Option
Shares upon exercise of the Option, on and after the following dates, in
cumulative fashion:

          (a) on and after the first anniversary of the Date of Grant, up to
     one-third (ignoring fractional shares) of the total number of Option
     Shares;

          (b) on and after the second anniversary of the Date of Grant, up to an
     additional one-third (ignoring fractional shares) of the total number of
     Option Shares; and

          (c) on and after the third anniversary of the Date of Grant, the
     remaining Option Shares.


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Section 4.  Termination of the Option

     The Option and all rights hereunder with respect thereto, to the extent
such rights shall not have been exercised, shall terminate and become null and
void after the close of business on the day that is seven (7) years from the
Date of Grant (the "Option Term").

Section 5.  Cessation of Grantee's Employment

     (a) If the Grantee ceases to be employed by the Company by reason of the
Grantee's death during the Option Term, the Option shall be exercisable, to the
extent the Option was exercisable on the date of the Grantee's death, either by
the Grantee's executor or administrator or, if not so exercised, by the legatees
or distributees of the Grantee's estate, only during the twelve (12) months
immediately following the Grantee's death, after which time the Option shall
terminate.

     (b) If the Grantee ceases to be employed by the Company during the Option
Term for any other reason, the Option (i) to the extent that it is not then
exercisable by the Grantee shall terminate on the date the Grantee's employment
with the Company ceased, and (ii) to the extent that it was exercisable on the
date the Grantee's employment with the Company ceased shall continue to be
exercisable during the thirty (30) days immediately following such cessation,
after which time the Option shall terminate.

     (c) Notwithstanding any other provisions set forth herein or in the Plan,
in no event shall the Option be exercised after the expiration of the Option
Term.

     (d) Notwithstanding any other provisions set forth herein or in the Plan,
the Option shall terminate automatically and without notice to the Grantee on
the date the Grantee's employment is terminated for "cause". For the purposes
hereof, "cause" shall mean any conduct that the Board of Directors of the
Company determines in good faith impairs the reputation, goodwill or business of
the Company or any of its subsidiaries or is inimical to the best interests of
the Company or any of its subsidiaries. A termination for "cause" will include
any resignation in anticipation of discharge for "cause" or accepted by the
Company in lieu of a formal discharge for "cause".

Section 6.  Exercise of Option

     (a) The Grantee may exercise the Option with respect to all or any part of
the number of Option Shares then exercisable hereunder by giving written notice
of election to the Company, attention: Treasurer. Such notice shall specify the
number of Option Shares with respect to which the Option is to be exercised.

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     (b) At the time the Option is exercised, the Grantee shall make full
payment for the Option Shares purchased, in cash, certified check or bank
cashier's check, or, with the prior written consent of the Company, in whole or
in part through the surrender of shares of Common Stock having a fair market
value equal to the exercise price, through delivery of a note or pursuant to any
cashless exercise program that the Company may adopt. The Grantee also shall pay
to the Company or make provision satisfactory to the Company for the payment of
any taxes required by law to be withheld by the Company at the time of the
exercise of the Option or the sale of the Option Shares acquired upon such
exercise. For purposes of this Section 6(b) and Section 6(c) below, "fair market
value" shall be determined based on the last sale price of the Common Stock as
reported by the principal national securities exchange or automated quotation
system on which the Common Stock is listed on the date of exercise.

     (c) In the event exercise of the Option otherwise would require the Company
to issue a fractional share of Common Stock of the Company, except as otherwise
provided below, such fraction shall be disregarded and the purchase price
payable in connection with such exercise shall be appropriately reduced. Any
such fractional share shall be carried forward and added to any shares covered
by future exercise(s) of the Option.

     (d) Notwithstanding anything to the contrary contained herein, the Option
shall not be exercisable unless either (a) a registration statement under the
Securities Act of 1933, as amended, with respect to the Option Shares shall have
become, and continues to be, effective, or (b) the Grantee (i) shall have
represented, warranted and agreed, in form and substance satisfactory to the
Company, at the time of exercising the Option, that the Grantee is acquiring the
Option Shares for the Grantee's own account, for investment and not with a view
to or in connection with any distribution, (ii) shall have agreed to
restrictions on transfer in form and substance satisfactory to the Company, and
(iii) shall have agreed to an endorsement which makes appropriate reference to
such representations, warranties, agreements and restrictions on the
certificate(s) representing the Option Shares.

Section 7.  No Rights of a Stockholder

     Neither the Grantee nor any personal representative shall be, or shall have
any of the rights and privileges of, a stockholder of the Company with respect
to any Option Shares, in whole or in part, prior to the date of exercise of the
Option.


Section 8.  Nontransferability of Option

     During the Grantee's lifetime, unless otherwise allowed by the Board of
Directors of the Company pursuant to Section 6.4 of the Plan, the Option shall
be exercisable only by the Grantee, and the Option shall not in any event be
transferable except, in case of the death of the Grantee, by will or the laws of
descent and distribution.

Section 9.  Employment Not Affected

     Neither the granting of the Option nor its exercise shall be construed as
granting to the Grantee any right with respect to the Grantee's continued
employment by the Company. Except

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as may otherwise be limited by a written agreement between the Company and the
Grantee, the right of the Company to terminate at will the Grantee's employment
at any time (whether by dismissal, discharge, retirement or otherwise) is
specifically reserved by the Company.

Section 10.  Amendment of Option

     The Option may be amended or modified at any time by the Company; provided,
however, that the Grantee's consent to such amendment or modification shall be
required unless the Board of Directors or Compensation Committee (if any) of the
Company determines that the amendment or modification, taking into account any
related action, would not materially and adversely affect the Grantee.

Section 11.  Notice

     (a) Any notices required or permitted hereunder shall be addressed to the
Company at 67 Batterymarch Street, Suite 400, Boston, Massachusetts 02110,
Attention: Treasurer, or to the Grantee at the most current address of the
Grantee appearing in the records of the Company, as the case may be.

     (b) Either the Company or the Grantee may, by notice to the other given in
the manner provided in Section 11(a), change the designated address for future
notice.

Section 12.  Governing Law

     The validity, construction, interpretation and effect of this instrument
shall be governed by and determined in accordance with the law of the
Commonwealth of Massachusetts, without regard to conflicts of law principles.


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     IN WITNESS WHEREOF, the Company has caused this Agreement to be duly
executed by its officer thereunto duly authorized and the Grantee has hereunto
set his hand all as of the 8th day of October 1999.

                                     PROVANT, INC.


                                     By /s/ Rajiv Bhatt
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                                       Its: Executive Vice President


                                     ACCEPTED:


                                     /s/ Curtis M. Uehlein
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                                     Curtis M. Uehlein, Grantee


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