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                                                                   Exhibit 10.21


                                    AGREEMENT

            AGREEMENT, dated as of January ___, 2001, by and between Phoenix
Investment Partners, Ltd. having its executive offices at 56 Prospect Street,
Hartford, CT 06115 (the "Company"), and ((Name1)), (the "Executive") residing in
((Town)), ((State)).



                            W I T N E S S E T H :

            WHEREAS, the Company's board of directors recognizes that the
business strategies and plans of the Company, the Company's parent, Phoenix Home
Life Mutual Insurance Company, a New York life insurance company having its
executive offices at One American Row, Hartford, Connecticut 06115 ("Parent")
or, in the event of Parent's demutualization, of its sole shareholder (the
"Holding Company" and, together with the Parent and the Company, the "Relevant
Companies", and the Relevant Companies, together with their subsidiaries,
"Phoenix") may require management of a Relevant Company to pursue a merger or
other business combination of the Relevant Company with another company, which
business combination could result in a change in control of the Company, a
consequence of which could be adjustments in the Company's management, including
career changes for executives of the Company, the prospect of which is
unsettling to the Company's management, including the Executive and other
executives of the Company; and

            WHEREAS, the Company's board of directors desires to assure a
continuing dedication by the Executive to the Executive's duties to the Company
notwithstanding the Relevant Companies' strategies and prospects respecting a
business combination and, in particular, believes it imperative, should a
Relevant Company pursue a proposal with respect to a business combination, for
the Executive, without being influenced by the uncertainties of the Executive's
own situation, to assess and advise the Company's board of directors with
respect to such proposal (or any alternative) and to assist the Company in
taking such other actions regarding such proposal as might be appropriate; and

            WHEREAS, for this reason the Company's board of directors has
determined that it is in the best interests of the Company for the Company to
provide for payment to the Executive of appropriate compensation, in addition to
that which the Company has otherwise provided for the Executive, in the event
the Executive's employment with the Company should terminate under the
circumstances described in this Agreement;


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            NOW, THEREFORE, in consideration of the foregoing, and for other
good and valuable consideration, the receipt and sufficiency of which each party
hereby acknowledges, the Company and the Executive hereby agree as follows:

SECTION 1. EFFECTIVE DATE AND TERM OF AGREEMENT.

            (a)   This Agreement is effective and binding on both parties as of
the date hereof and, subject to Section 2(b) hereof and to Section 2(c) hereof,
shall continue to apply in accordance with its terms to a termination of the
Executive's employment with the Company occurring on or before December 31,
2002; provided, however, that, as of January 1, 2001, and each January 1
thereafter, this Agreement shall automatically be extended to apply in
accordance with its terms to a termination of the Executive's employment with
the Company occurring on or before one (1) additional year has elapsed unless,
not later than September 30 of the preceding year, the Company shall have given
notice that it does not wish so to extend this Agreement; and provided, further,
that, notwithstanding any such notice by the Company not to so extend this
Agreement, if a Change in Control (as hereinafter defined) shall have occurred,
during the original or extended period, this Agreement shall continue to apply
in accordance with its terms to a termination of Executive's employment with
the Company occurring on or before the expiration of three (3) years after the
occurrence of such Change in Control. Notwithstanding the present effectiveness
of this Agreement and except to the extent expressly otherwise provided in
Sections 1(d) and 2(b) of this Agreement, the provisions of Sections 3 and 4 of
this Agreement shall become operative only when, as and if there has been a
Change in Control.

            (b)   For purposes of this Agreement, a change in control of the
Company (a "Change in Control") shall be deemed to have occurred upon the first
occurrence after the date hereof of any of the following events:

                  (i)   the occurrence of such a change in control of the
direction and administration of a Relevant Company's business as would be
required to be reported in response to Item 6(e) of Schedule 14A of Regulation
14A promulgated under the Securities Exchange Act of 1934, as amended (the
"Exchange Act"), as in effect on the date hereof and any successor provision of
the regulations under the Exchange Act, if the Relevant Company was required at
the time of such occurrence to report under such provisions (whether or not the
Relevant Company is subject to the reporting provisions of Section 12 of the
Exchange Act and to such reporting requirement); or

                  (ii)  if the individuals who, at the beginning of the period
commencing two (2) years earlier, constituted a Relevant Company's board of
directors cease for any reason to constitute at least a majority of such
company's board of directors, provided however, that any person who is a
"Continuing Director" (as defined below)


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shall be deemed for this purpose to have been a member of the board on the first
day of such two-year period; or

                  (iii) a Relevant Company's board of directors shall approve a
sale of all or substantially all of the assets of such Relevant Company and such
transaction shall have been consummated; or

                  (iv)  if at the time the Parent is a stock corporation and,
prior to the fifth (5th) anniversary of the effective date of its
demutualization, five percent (5%) or, if after such fifth anniversary, ten
percent (10%) (or, in either case, such higher percentage (not to exceed twenty
percent (20%)) at which approval by the New York Insurance Department is
required to effect such an acquisition) or more of the combined voting power of
securities of a Relevant Company are acquired by an individual, entity, any
employee benefit plan sponsored or maintained by a Relevant Company or a
subsidiary thereof, or group acting in concert, in each case, other than the
Holding Company or any of its subsidiaries; or

                  (v)   at any date after the date hereof, a Relevant Company is
voluntarily or involuntarily dissolved or liquidated or otherwise ceases
business operations; or

                  (vi)  a Relevant Company's board of directors shall approve
any merger, consolidation or like business combination or reorganization of such
Relevant Company such transaction shall have been consummated and a majority of
the individuals who constituted directors of the Relevant Company on the day the
board of directors approved such transaction cease for any reason, at any time
within two (2) years after the consummation of such transaction, to constitute a
majority of such board of directors or of the board of directors of any
successor company resulting from such merger, consolidation, or like business
combination or reorganization; provided, however, that any person who is a
"Continuing Director" (as defined below) shall be deemed for this purpose to
have been a member of the board on the first day of such two-year period.

For purposes of this Agreement, "Continuing Directors" shall mean (i) the
directors of the Relevant Companies in office on the date hereof or, in the case
of the Holding Company, its directors immediately preceding any demutualization
of the Parent and (ii) any successor to any such director, or any additional
director, who (A) after the date hereof was nominated or selected by a majority
of the Continuing Directors of the Relevant Company of issue in office at the
time of his nomination or selection (other than any such nomination or selection
of an individual as a director of a Relevant Company or any successor to a
Relevant Company who was so nominated or selected in connection with the
settlement of a threatened or actual proxy contest involving or, a proposed or
consummated merger, consolidation or like business combination or reorganization
of,


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such Relevant Company or (B) who has been accepted in writing as a Continuing
Director for purposes of this Agreement by the Executive.

            (c)   It is hereby provided, however, that in no event shall the
reorganization of the Parent from a mutual to a stock company, the acquisition
of the Parent's shares by the Holding Company or the initial public offering of
the shares of the Holding Company be treated, individually or collectively, as a
"Change in Control" for purposes of this Agreement and in no event shall any
benefits be payable hereunder as a result of any such events.

            (d)   The Company shall be obligated to make the payments and
provide the benefits described in Section 4 hereof following, and the provisions
of Section 3 hereof shall apply to, a Change in Control only if such Change in
Control shall have occurred within the period of Executive's employment with the
Company. Except as provided in the next following sentence, if the Executive
ceases employment prior to the occurrence of a Change in Control, the Company's
and Executive's obligations shall terminate automatically upon such termination
and, except as provided in Section 5(a) hereof, neither party shall have any
obligation to the other hereunder. If the Company terminates the Executive's
employment during the period established under Section 2(b) of this Agreement
other than for Cause, the Executive shall, solely for purposes of determining
his right to severance benefits under this Agreement, be deemed to have remained
employed by the Company until the day following the Change in Control and to
have then been terminated by the Company without Cause.

SECTION 2. EMPLOYMENT OF EXECUTIVE.

            (a)   Except as provided in Section 2(b) below, nothing in this
Agreement shall affect any right which the Executive may otherwise have to
terminate his employment from the Company, nor shall anything in this Agreement
affect any right which the Company may have to terminate the Executive's
employment at any time in any lawful manner, subject to the Company's
obligations at law and to make the payments and provide the benefits to the
Executive pursuant to Section 4 of this Agreement. It is agreed and understood
that this Agreement supercedes any prior severance agreement which related to
change of control and other business events as determined by a Relevant Company
and, which provided benefits substantially similar to those provided under this
Agreement. Any such prior agreement entered into between a Relevant Company or a
subsidiary thereof and the Executive shall be deemed to be terminated and shall
be of no force or effect upon the execution of this Agreement.

            (b)   In the event any person or organization commences any steps
necessary in accordance with law to effect a Change in Control (including,
without limitation, the solicitation of proxies with respect to the election of
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to the nominees of the board of directors of the Parent or the Holding Company
or, if the Parent is converted to a stock company, the commencement of a tender
or exchange offer for the percentage of the Parent's or the Holding Company's
voting securities as described in Section 1(b)(iv) hereof), the Executive
agrees that, in order to receive the benefits provided by this Agreement, he
will not voluntarily leave the employ of the Company and will continue to
perform his regular duties and to render his services on a full-time basis to
the Company and the Company agrees to continue to employ the Executive in each
case, until such person or organization has abandoned or terminated its efforts
to effect a Change in Control (as determined by the Company's Board of
directors) or until a Change in Control has occurred.

            (c)   Should the Executive voluntarily terminate his employment
before any effort to effect a Change in Control has commenced, or after any such
effort has been abandoned or terminated without effecting a Change in Control
and at a time when no other such effort is then in process, this Agreement shall
at such time lapse and be of no further force or effect.

SECTION 3. TERMINATION FOLLOWING CHANGE IN CONTROL.

            (a)   If a Change in Control shall have occurred, the Executive
shall be entitled to the benefits provided in Section 4 hereof upon any
subsequent termination of his employment within three (3) years following such
Change in Control, unless (i) in connection with such termination, the Executive
becomes employed with a former division of a Relevant Company or a subsidiary of
a Relevant Company as a result of a sale or spin-off of such division or
subsidiary, on substantially equivalent terms as, or better terms than, those in
effect immediately prior to the Change in Control, or (ii) such termination is
(A) due to the Executive's death or Retirement (as hereinafter defined) or (B)
by reason of discharge by the Company by reason of the Executive's Disability
(as hereinafter defined) or for Cause (as hereinafter defined), (C) or by the
Executive other than for Good Reason (as hereinafter defined).

            (b)   If following a Change in Control, the Executive's employment
shall be terminated for Cause or by the Executive for other than Good Reason,
the Company shall pay to the Executive his full Base Salary (as hereinafter
defined) through the Date of Termination (as defined in Section 3(e) hereof) at
the rate in effect at the time Notice of Termination (as defined in Section 3(d)
hereof) is given and any amounts and benefits to be paid to the Executive in
accordance with the terms of his employment (notwithstanding that a Change in
Control shall have occurred), including any vested benefits under any Phoenix
employee benefit plan and the Company shall have no further obligations to the
Executive under this Agreement.

            (c)   For purposes of this Agreement:


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                  (i)   "Affiliate" shall mean any corporation, partnership,
limited liability company, trust or other entity which, at the relevant time,
directly, or indirectly through one or more intermediaries, controls, is
controlled by, or is under common control with, the Company.

                  (ii)  "Disability" shall mean such physical or mental
condition of the Executive as shall have rendered the Executive unable (with
reasonable accommodation by the Company), for a period of more than one hundred
eighty (180) days, to perform the essential functions of his job and as leads
the Company's board of directors, in its sole discretion, to determine to remove
the Executive from his position and to appoint his successor in order to
provide, in the judgment of such board for the proper conduct of the Company's
business. Notwithstanding the foregoing, no termination shall be treated as on
account of Disability unless the Executive is eligible at the time of such
termination to receive benefits under the Parent's Short Term Disability Plan or
Long Term Disability Plan (the "Disability Plans") in accordance with the terms
of those Disability Plans.

If the Executive is entitled to benefits under such Disability Plans, he shall
be entitled to receive the benefits provided thereunder, and shall be entitled
to receive the payments and benefits provided by Section 4 hereof, provided
that, in the event that at any time prior to the earlier of (A) the first (1st)
anniversary of the Executive's Date of Termination (as defined in Section 3(e)
hereof) and (B) the third (3rd) anniversary of the date on which the Change in
Control occurred, the Executive is no longer eligible for benefits provided
under either Disability Plan, he shall be entitled to the benefits provided
under Section 4 of this Agreement as though his employment were terminated
without Cause on the date upon which his eligibility for such benefits ceases
unless a Relevant Company shall offer him employment, to commence immediately,
with at least the same or greater duties and responsibilities as he received,
held or performed immediately prior to his termination for Disability. It is
hereby provided that, if the Executive returns to work as provided above, the
Executive shall be entitled to exercise the right to terminate his employment as
provided in Section 3(c)(iv)(F) hereof within a thirty day period following the
first anniversary of his return to work. It is further provided that, if the
Executive is no longer eligible for Disability benefits as described above after
the expiration of the time period described in "(A)" and "(B)" above, he shall
be entitled to fifty (50%) of the payments and one half the benefit continuation
period provided under Section 4 hereof in the same manner and subject to the
same conditions as otherwise described above upon cessation of Disability.

                  (iii) "Retirement" shall mean that the Executive shall have
retired after reaching the normal or (at the Executive's election) an early
retirement date provided in the retirement plan of the Company or an Affiliate
of the Company that is applicable to the Executive as in effect on the date of
the Change in Control.


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                  (iv)  "Cause" shall mean any one of the following events:

                        (A)   the conviction of the Executive in a court of law
of a felony or of any crime involving the misuse or misappropriation of money or
other property of another; or

                        (B)   the Executive's failure or refusal to perform
legal directives of the Company's board of directors or executive officers of
the Company, as applicable, which directives are consistent with the scope and
nature of the Executive's employment duties and responsibilities and which
failure or refusal is not remedied by the Executive within thirty (30) days
after notice of such non-performance is given to Executive; or

                        (C)   the performance by the Executive of any act
inconsistent with the Executive's duties hereunder that results in a material
adverse effect on Phoenix; or

                        (D)   any willful misconduct or illegal conduct by the
Executive that has a material adverse effect on Phoenix; or

                        (E)   any action by the Executive which materially
violates Phoenix's conflict of interest policy, as in effect of the date
immediately prior to the Change in Control.

Notwithstanding the foregoing provisions of this subparagraph, the Executive
shall not be deemed to have been terminated for Cause for the purposes of this
Agreement by reason of any imperfection in the performance of his duties to the
Company, unless and until (i) there shall have been delivered to the Executive a
resolution duly adopted by the affirmative vote of not less than a majority of
the entire membership of the board of directors of the Company (or that of its
successor) at a meeting called and held for such purpose (after reasonable
notice to the Executive and an opportunity for the Executive, together with his
counsel, to be heard before the board of directors), finding in the good faith
opinion of the board of directors that the Executive was guilty of conduct so
constituting Cause and stating the particulars thereof in detail; and (ii) the
Executive shall have had a reasonable period, not to exceed sixty (60) days, to
remedy any correctable problem. In the event of termination of the Executive's
employment for Cause, the Executive shall be entitled to such benefits, if any,
under the Relevant Companies' retirement, insurance and other benefit plans and
programs as may be provided thereby and applicable to the Executive, in such
circumstances, as if the Executive and the Company had not entered into this
Agreement.


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                  (v)   "Good Reason" shall mean:

                        (A)   without the Executive's express written consent,
any reduction in his title or any material reduction in his position, duties or
responsibilities from the title, position, duties or responsibilities held or
exercised by the Executive prior to the Change in Control provided, however,
that a transfer of the Executive's employment from the Company to an Affiliate
of the Company shall not constitute a reduction in title, position, duties or
responsibilities so long as the position held with such Affiliate provides the
Executive with duties, authority and responsibilities at least comparable to
those held by the Executive as an officer of the Company and the Executive's
title with the Affiliate is at least commensurate with the titles held at such
time by officers of the Company performing duties and responsibilities at a
comparable level; or

                        (B)   a change of more than twenty-five (25) miles in
the location where the Executive regularly provides his services to the Company
without the Executive's consent; or

                        (C)   a reduction of the Executive's Base Salary (as
hereinafter defined) or Target Incentive Compensation (as hereinafter defined);
or

                        (D)   a material reduction in benefits provided or the
contributions made under any qualified or non-qualified pension, retirement or
defined contribution plans in which the Executive participated immediately prior
to the Change in Control, (2) a material reduction in the health or long term
disability benefits available to the Executive and his eligible dependents from
those benefits in effect immediately prior to the Change in Control or a
material change in the conditions for the Executive to become eligible for the
same post-retirement health benefits provided to retirees immediately prior to
the Change in Control or, (3) a material reduction in the aggregate value of
other welfare benefits available to the Executive immediately prior to the
Change in Control;

                        (E)   a material reduction in the long-term incentive
compensation opportunities made available to the Executive from those
opportunities made available, on average, during the three (3) year period ended
with the last day of the last fiscal year ended prior to the Change of Control;

                        (F)   any purported termination by the Company of the
Executive's employment which is not effected pursuant to a Notice of Termination
satisfying the requirements of Section 3(d) hereof; provided however, that,
notwithstanding anything else contained herein to the contrary, any termination
of employment by the Executive for any reason within the thirty-day (30-day)
period following the first (1st) anniversary of the date on which a Change in
Control occurs shall, for all purposes of the Agreement, be treated as a
termination for Good Reason.


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                  (vi)  "Base Salary" shall mean the annual salary paid to the
Executive immediately prior to the Change in Control.

                  (vii) "Target Incentive Compensation" shall mean the target
incentive award(s) that may be earned by achievement of specified performance
objectives, under the annual and long term incentive compensation plan or plans
in which the Executive participated immediately prior to the Change in Control.

            (d)   Any purported termination of the Executive's employment by
reason of the Executive's Disability or for Cause, or by the Executive for Good
Reason, shall be communicated by written Notice of Termination to the other
party hereto in accordance with Section 5(f) hereof. For purposes of this
Agreement, a "Notice of Termination" shall mean a notice given by the Executive
or by the Company, as the case may be, which shall indicate the specific basis
for termination and shall set forth in reasonable detail the facts and
circumstances claimed to provide a basis for the determination of the payments
required to be made under this Agreement; provided, however, that the Executive
shall not be entitled to give a Notice of Termination to the effect that he is
terminating his employment for Good Reason after the expiration of ninety (90)
days following the last to occur of the events claimed by him to constitute Good
Reason.

            (e)   For purposes of this Agreement, "Date of Termination" shall
mean (i) if the Executive's employment is terminated for Disability, thirty (30)
days after Notice of Termination is given (provided that the Executive shall not
have returned to the full-time performance of his duties during such thirty-day
(30 day) period) and (ii) if the Executive's employment is terminated for Cause
or Good Reason, the date specified in the Notice of Termination, which shall be
not more than thirty (30) days after such Notice of Termination is given. If
within twenty (20) days after any Notice of Termination is given, the party who
receives such Notice of Termination notifies the other party that a Dispute (as
defined below) exists, the parties agree to pursue promptly the resolution of
such dispute with reasonable diligence. Pending the resolution of any such
Dispute, the Company shall make the payments and provide the benefits provided
for in Section 4 hereof to the Executive. In the event that it is finally
determined, either by mutual written agreement of the parties, by a binding
arbitration award or by a final judgment, order or decree of a court of
competent jurisdiction (which is not appealable or as to which the time for
appeal therefrom has expired and from which no appeal has been perfected), that
a challenged termination by reason of the Executive's Disability or for Cause
was justified, or that a challenged termination for Good Reason was not
justified, then all sums paid by the Company to the Executive from the Date of
Termination specified in the Notice of Termination until final resolution of the
Dispute pursuant to this Section 3(f), less any amount otherwise required to be
paid to the Executive in such circumstances under the terms of the Executive's
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Company, with interest from the time of payment to the Executive to the date of
repayment to the Company at the "prime rate" from time to time announced by The
Chase Manhattan Bank, N.A. to be in effect during such period for loans to
commercial borrowers. In the event that it is finally determined that a
challenged termination by reason of the Executive's Disability or for Cause was
not justified, or that a challenged termination for Good Reason was justified,
then the Executive shall be entitled to retain all sums paid to the Executive
pending resolution of the Dispute.

            (f)   For purposes of this Agreement, "Dispute" shall mean (i) in
the case of termination of the Executive's employment for Disability or Cause,
that the Executive challenges the existence of Disability or Cause and (ii) in
the case of termination of the Executive's employment for Good Reason, that the
Company challenges the existence of Good Reason.

SECTION 4. PAYMENTS AND BENEFITS UPON TERMINATION.

            (a)   If required pursuant to Section 3(a) hereof, the Company will
pay to the Executive as compensation for services rendered:

                  (i)   Severance Benefits:

                        (A)   not later than the fifteenth (15th) day after the
Date of Termination, the Executive's Base Salary through the Date of
Termination, any accrued and unpaid vacation time, and any other benefits then
earned and payable to Executive through the Date of Termination in accordance
with the terms of his employment; and

                        (B)   a lump sum severance payment equal to two (2)
times the sum of (1) and (2),

                        (1)   the Executive's Base Salary and,

                        (2)   an amount equal to the highest of the last three
(3) years of incentive compensation under the Company's Management Incentive
Plan maintained by the Company or an Affiliate of the Company and applicable to
the Executive; and

                        (C)   a lump sum severance payment equal to a full
payment of all current long term cash cycles under the Parent's Long Term
Incentive Plan. The payment will be calculated based on a straight line
projection of the results to date of all current cash cycles or the average
payout of the last two completed long term cycles, expressed as a percent of
target, whichever is higher. Payment for each cycle will be calculated as if the
Executive was a plan participant for the full term of each of his current long
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                        (D)   except as provided below, a lump sum severance
payment equal to the excess of

                        (1)   the present value of the retirement benefits
(whether or not otherwise vested) the Executive would have accrued under the
qualified and non-qualified defined benefit retirement plans in which the
Executive was participating at the Date of Termination (the "Applicable
Retirement Plans") had the "Executive" continued to work for the Company for two
(2) additional years from the Date of Termination at the same rate of
compensation that would otherwise be taken into account for purposes of
determining the Executive's accrued benefits at the Date of Termination and
received as compensation for such services, the severance benefits payable under
sub-clause (B) of this Section 4 and achieved the age that he would have
achieved at the end of such two (2) year period, over

                        (2)   the present value on the Date of Termination of
all the Executive's vested accrued benefits under such Applicable Retirement
Plans.

For this purpose, all calculations of present value shall be made based on the
actual assumptions used on the date immediately prior to the occurrence of a
Change in Control under whichever of the Applicable Retirement Plans the
benefits would otherwise have been provided.

                  It is hereby provided that if, as of the Executive's
Termination Date, the Executive has satisfied the requirements for early
retirement eligibility as provided under the Applicable Retirement Plans, then
in lieu of the lump sum benefit described above, the value of such benefit shall
be payable, at the Executive's option, in the form of a non-qualified monthly
annuity determined as provided under the Applicable Retirement Plans and payable
in the same benefit form and at the same time as other benefits under such
Applicable Retirement Plans.

                        (E)   a lump sum severance payment equal to the present
value of the two and one-half (2 1/2) years of matching contributions under the
Parent's qualified and non-qualified defined contribution savings plans or
similar plans maintained by the Company or an Affiliate of the Company and
applicable to the Executive based on the level of matching contribution in
effect for the Executive on the Date of Termination.

                   (ii)  Continuation of Benefits. Effective with the Date of
Termination, the Executive shall be entitled after the Date of Termination until
the two and one-half (2 1/2) year anniversary of the Date of Termination (the
"End Date"), to continue participation in all of the group health, group life
employee benefits and long term disability plans maintained by the Company or an
Affiliate of the Company and applicable to the Executive on the Date of
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the extent any such benefits cannot be provided under the terms of the
applicable plan, policy or program, the Company or an Affiliate of the Company
shall provide a comparable benefit under another plan or from the Company's
general assets. The Executive's participation in the Group Benefit Plans will be
on the same terms and conditions (including, without limitation, any condition
that the Executive make contributions toward the cost of such coverage on the
same terms and conditions generally applicable to similarly situated employees
and, including coverage eligibility for the Executive's spouse and dependent
children) that would have applied had the Executive continued to be employed by
the Company through the End Date.

                  (iii) Outplacement Services. The Executive shall be provided
at the Company's expense with outplacement services customary for executives at
his level (including, without limitation, office space and telephone support
services) provided by a qualified and experienced third party provider mutually
selected by the Company and the Executive.

                  (iv)  Deemed Vesting for Certain Benefits. Effective as of the
Date of Termination, the Executive shall be deemed to have met all service and
other requirements for full vesting of benefits under all stock option or other
stock or equity compensation plans in which the Executive participates to the
extent that the Executive had not already vested in such benefits as of the Date
of Termination. The value of any benefits as reasonably determined by the
Company and not otherwise payable under such above-referenced plans, shall be
payable hereunder as a lump sum at the same time and in the same manner as
amounts specified in Section 4(a)(i) above.


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            (b)   Certain Further Payments by the Company.

                  (i)   In the event that any amount or benefit paid or
distributed to, or on behalf of the Executive pursuant to this Agreement, taken
together with any amounts or benefits otherwise paid or distributed to or on
behalf of the Executive by the Company or any Affiliate of the Company
(collectively, the "Covered Payments"), are or become subject to the tax (the
"Excise Tax") imposed under Section 4999 of the Internal Revenue Code of 1986,
as amended (the "Code"), or any similar tax that may hereafter be imposed, the
Company shall pay to the Executive at the time specified in Section 4(b)(iv)
below an additional amount (the "Tax Reimbursement Payment") such that the net
amount retained by the Executive with respect to such Covered Payments, after
deduction of any Excise Tax on the Covered Payments and any Federal, state and
local income or employment tax and Excise Tax on the Tax Reimbursement Payment
provided for by this Section 4(b), but before deduction for any Federal, state
or local income or employment tax withholding on such Covered Payments, shall be
equal to the amount of the Covered Payments.

                  (ii)  For purposes of determining whether any of the Covered
Payments will be subject to the Excise Tax and the amount of such Excise Tax:

                        (A)   such Covered Payments will be treated as
"parachute payments" within the meaning of Section 280G of the Code, and all
"parachute payments" in excess of the "base amount" (as defined under Section
280G(b)(3) of the Code) shall be treated as subject to the Excise Tax, unless,
and except to the extent that, in the good faith judgment of the Company's
independent certified public accountants (or, if the Company does not have its
own accounting firm, the Parent's independent certified public accounts)
appointed prior to the Change in Control Date or tax counsel selected by such
Accountants (the "Accountants"), the Company has a reasonable basis to conclude
that such Covered Payments (in whole or in part) either do not constitute
"parachute payments" or represent reasonable compensation for personal services
actually rendered (within the meaning of Section 280G(b)(4)(B) of the Code) in
excess of the "base amount," or such "parachute payments" are otherwise not
subject to such Excise Tax, and

                        (B)   the value of any non-cash benefits or any deferred
payment or benefit shall be determined by the Accountants in accordance with the
principles of Section 280G of the Code.

                  (iii) For purposes of determining the amount of the Tax
Reimbursement Payment, the Executive shall be deemed to pay:


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                        (A)   Federal income taxes at the highest applicable
marginal rate of Federal income taxation for the calendar year in which the Tax
Reimbursement Payment is to be made, and

                        (B)   any applicable state and local income taxes at the
highest applicable marginal rate of taxation for the calendar year in which the
Tax Reimbursement Payment is to be made, net of the maximum reduction in Federal
Income taxes which could be obtained from the deduction of such state or local
taxes if paid in such year.

                  (iv)  In the event that the Excise Tax is subsequently
determined by the Accountants or pursuant to any proceeding or negotiations with
the Internal Revenue Service to be less than the amount taken into account
hereunder in calculating the Tax Reimbursement Payment made, the Executive shall
repay to the Company, at the time that the amount of such reduction in the
Excise Tax is finally determined, the portion of such prior Tax Reimbursement
Payment that would not have been paid if such Excise Tax had been applied in
initially calculating such Tax Reimbursement Payment, plus interest on the
amount of such repayment at the rate provided in Section 1274(b)(2)(B) of the
Code. Notwithstanding the foregoing, in the event any portion of the Tax
Reimbursement Payment to be refunded to the Company has been paid to any
Federal, state or local tax authority, repayment thereof shall not be required
until actual refund or credit of such portion has been made to the Executive,
and interest payable to the Company shall not exceed interest received or
credited to the Executive by such tax authority for the period it held such
portion. The Executive and the Company shall mutually agree upon the course of
action to be pursued (and the method of allocating the expenses thereof) if the
Executive's good faith claim for refund or credit is denied.

            In the event that the Excise Tax is later determined by the
Accountants or pursuant to any proceeding or negotiations with the Internal
Revenue Service to exceed the amount taken into account hereunder at the time
the Tax Reimbursement Payment is made (including, but not limited to, by reason
of any payment the existence or amount of which cannot be determined at the time
of the Tax Reimbursement Payment), the Company shall make an additional Tax
Reimbursement Payment in respect of such excess (plus any interest or penalty
payable with respect to such excess) at the time that the amount of such excess
is finally determined.

                  (v)   The Tax Reimbursement Payment (or portion thereof)
provided for in Section 4(b)(i) above shall be paid to the Executive not later
than ten (10) business days following the payment of the Covered Payments;
provided, however, that if the amount of such Tax Reimbursement Payment (or
portion thereof) cannot be finally determined on or before the date on which
payment is due, the Company shall pay to the Executive by such date an amount
estimated in good faith by the Accountants to be the


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minimum amount of such Tax Reimbursement Payment and shall pay the remainder of
such Tax Reimbursement Payment (together with interest at the rate provided in
Section 1274(b)(2)(B) of the Code) as soon as the amount thereof can be
determined, but in no event later than forty-five (45) calendar days after
payment of the related Covered Payment. In the event that the amount of the
estimated Tax Reimbursement Payment exceeds the amount subsequently determined
to have been due, such excess shall constitute a loan by the Company to the
Executive, payable of the fifth business day after written demand by the Company
for payment (together with interest at the rate provided in Section
1274(b)(2)(B) of the Code).

SECTION 5. GENERAL

            (a)   The Executive, after termination of his employment, shall
retain in confidence any confidential or proprietary information known to him
concerning Phoenix and its business so long as such information is not publicly
disclosed and shall not use such information in any way injurious to Phoenix
except for any disclosure to which an authorized officer of the Holding Company
has consented or any disclosure or use required by any order of any governmental
body or court (including legal process). If requested, the Executive shall
return to Phoenix any memoranda, documents or other materials possessed by the
Executive and containing confidential or proprietary information of Phoenix.
Further, the Executive agrees not to induce, encourage or solicit either
directly or indirectly, any employee, officer, agent, broker, registered
representative, manager, to terminate his relationship with the Company, its
subsidiaries or affiliates for a period of eighteen (18) months.

            (b)   If litigation shall be brought to enforce or interpret any
provision contained herein or any third party shall commence any litigation
challenging the validity or enforceability of this Agreement, the Company shall
pay the Executive for attorneys' fees and disbursements reasonably incurred by
the Executive in connection with such litigation promptly upon presentation
thereof and the Company shall pay prejudgment interest to Executive, if any,
calculated at the prime rate (as provided by section 3(e) hereof) from the date
that payment should have been made under this Agreement to the date of payment.

            (c)   The Company's obligation to make the payments and to provide
the benefits to the Executive required hereby are absolute and unconditional and
shall not be affected by any setoff, claim, counterclaim, recoupment or other
right which the Company may have against the Executive or anyone else. All
amounts payable by the Company hereunder shall be payable without notice or
demand. The Executive shall not be required to seek or take any employment or
undertake any other business activities in order to mitigate the payments and
benefits required to be provided to the Executive pursuant to this Agreement and
the payments and benefits so required to be provided to the Executive


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shall not be mitigated by any earnings of the Executive resulting from any
employment or other business activities the Executive may undertake after the
termination of his employment with the Company.

            (d)   The Company shall require any successor (whether direct or
indirect, by purchase, merger, consolidation or otherwise) to all or
substantially all of the business and/or assets of the Company by written
agreement to assume expressly and agree to perform this Agreement in the same
manner and to the same extent that the Company would be required to perform it
if no such succession had taken place. As used in this Agreement, the term
"Company" shall mean the Company as herein before defined and any successor to
its business and/or assets as aforesaid which executes and delivers the
agreement required by this Section 5(c) or which otherwise becomes bound by the
terms and provisions of this Agreement by operation of law.

            (e)   This Agreement shall inure to the benefit of and be
enforceable by the Executive's personal or legal representatives, executors,
administrators, successors, heirs, distributees, devisees and legatees. If the
Executive should die while any amounts or other benefits would still be payable
or made available to the Executive hereunder if the Executive had continued to
live, all such amounts, or benefits, unless otherwise provided herein, shall be
paid or otherwise made available in accordance with the terms of this Agreement
to the Executive's devisee, legatee or other designee or, if there be no such
designee, to the Executive's estate.

            (f)   For the purposes of this Agreement, notices and all other
communications provided for in this Agreement shall be in writing and shall be
deemed to have been duly given when delivered by hand or upon receipt if mailed
by United States registered mail, return receipt requested, postage prepaid, or
by a nationally recognized overnight courier service (appropriately marked for
overnight delivery). Such notices and communications are to be addressed as
follows:


            If to the Executive:    ((Name2))
                                    ((Street))
                                    ((Townstatezip))

            If to the Company:      Phoenix Home Life Mutual Insurance Company
                                    One American Row
                                    Hartford, CT 06102-5056
                                    Attention: General Counsel


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or to such other address as either party may have furnished to the other in
writing in accordance herewith, except that notice of change of address shall be
effective only upon receipt.

            (g)   This Agreement constitutes the entire agreement and
understanding between the Executive and the Company concerning termination of
the Executive's employment with the Company subsequent to a Change in Control;
the parties hereby acknowledging, however, that this Agreement provides for
certain payments and benefits to the Executive to be determined by the Company's
employee benefit programs and plans and, to the extent so provided, such
programs and plans constitute part of the agreement and understanding between
Executive and the Company concerning termination of Executive's employment with
the Company subsequent to a Change in Control. No assurances or representations,
oral or otherwise, express or implied, with respect to the subject matter hereof
have been made by either party which are not set forth expressly in this
Agreement.

            (h)   No provisions of this Agreement may be modified, waived or
discharged unless such waiver, modification or discharge is agreed to in
writing, signed by the Executive and an authorized officer of the Company. No
waiver by either party hereto at any time of any breach by the other party
hereto of, or compliance with, any condition or provision of this Agreement to
be performed by such other party shall be deemed a waiver of any similar or
dissimilar provisions or conditions at the same or at any prior or subsequent
time. The validity, interpretation, construction and performance of this
Agreement shall be governed by the laws of the State of Connecticut without
giving effect to the provisions, principles, or policies thereof relating to
choice or conflict of laws.

            (i)   The invalidity or unenforceability of any provisions of this
Agreement in any circumstance shall not affect the validity or enforceability of
such provision in any other circumstance or the validity or enforceability of
any other provision of this Agreement, and except to the extent such provision
is invalid or unenforceable, this Agreement shall remain in full force and
effect. Any provision in this Agreement which is prohibited or unenforceable in
any jurisdiction shall, as to such jurisdiction, be ineffective only to the
extent of such prohibition or unenforceability without invalidating or affecting
the remaining provisions hereof in such jurisdiction, and any such prohibition
or unenforceability in any jurisdiction shall not invalidate or render
unenforceable such provision in any other jurisdiction.

            (j)   Any dispute or controversy arising under or in connection with
this Agreement shall be settled by arbitration in accordance with the rules of
the American Arbitration Association then in effect and any such arbitration
award shall be final and binding on the parties. Judgment may be entered on the
arbitrator's award in any court of competent jurisdiction. In the event of any
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of Section 5(a) hereof by the Executive, Phoenix, in addition to any other
rights and remedies it may have, shall be entitled to seek an injunction from
any court having equity jurisdiction without being required to post a bond or
other security and without having to prove the inadequacy of the available
remedies at law, it being acknowledged and agreed that any such breach or
threatened breach by the Executive will cause irreparable injury to Phoenix and
that money damages will not provide an adequate remedy to Phoenix.

            (k)   This Agreement may be executed in more than one counterpart,
each of which shall be deemed an original, but all of which together shall
constitute one and the same instrument and agreement.


            IN WITNESS WHEREOF, the parties have executed this Agreement on the
day and year first above written.






Phoenix Investment Partners, Ltd        [Print Name Below Signature]


By:______________________________       By:_____________________________

Name:____________________________       Name:___________________________

Title:___________________________       Title:__________________________


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