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                                                                   EXHIBIT 10.23


                              OMNIBUS AMENDMENT TO
                             STOCK OPTION AGREEMENTS


         OMNIBUS AMENDMENT TO STOCK OPTION AGREEMENTS dated as of January 7,
1999 ("Amendment Agreement") by and between ABACUS DIRECT CORPORATION, a
Delaware corporation having an office located at 8774 Yates Drive, Westminster,
Colorado 80030 (the "Corporation"), and CARLOS E.
SALA ("Executive").

                                   WITNESSETH:

         WHEREAS, the Corporation has granted Executive certain options pursuant
to agreements described on Exhibit A hereto (the "96 Plan Agreements") under the
Amended and Restated Abacus Direct Corporation 1996 Stock Incentive Plan, As
Amended (the "96 Plan").

         WHEREAS, the Corporation has determined that it is in its best
interests, and the best interests of its shareholders, to assure that the
Corporation will have the continued dedication of Executive, notwithstanding the
possibility, threat or occurrence of a change of control of the Corporation.

         NOW, THEREFORE, in consideration of the mutual covenants and agreements
hereinafter set forth, and intending to be legally bound hereby, the Corporation
and Executive hereby agree as follows:

         1.       Notwithstanding anything to the contrary contained in any of
                  the 96 Plan Agreements between the Corporation and Executive
                  pursuant to which options were granted by the Corporation to
                  Executive under the 96 Plan, the 96 Plan Agreements are hereby
                  amended to provide that in the event of a Change in Control
                  (as defined in the 96 Plan) of the Corporation such options
                  issued pursuant to the 96 Plan Agreements shall immediately
                  vest and become exercisable by Executive with respect to one
                  hundred (100%) percent of the shares subject to such options.

         Except as expressly set forth in this Amendment Agreement, the 96 Plan
Agreements between the Corporation and Executive shall remain in full force and
effect as the same were in effect immediately prior to the effectiveness of this
Amendment Agreement.

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         IN WITNESS WHEREOF, the Corporation and Executive have executed and
delivered this Amendment Agreement on the date first above written.


                                       ABACUS DIRECT CORPORATION

                                       By:     /s/ M. ANTHONY WHITE
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                                            Name:  M. Anthony White
                                            Title: CEO


                                       EXECUTIVE

                                                   /s/ CARLOS E. SALA
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                                                     Carlos E. Sala



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                                    EXHIBIT A



         1.       Stock Option Agreement dated June 6, 1997 between Abacus
                  Direct Corporation and Carlos E. Sala.

         2.       Stock Option Agreement dated April 7, 1998 between Abacus
                  Direct Corporation and Carlos E. Sala granting 2,269 options.

         3.       Stock Option Agreement dated April 7, 1998 between Abacus
                  Direct Corporation and Carlos E. Sala granting 20,731 options.

         4.       Stock option grant dated January 1999 by Abacus Direct
                  Corporation to Carlos E. Sala.