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                                                                    EXHIBIT 10.9

                          MANAGEMENT FEE LOAN AGREEMENT


         This Agreement, dated as of December 31, 1998, is entered into among
Third Party Investors I, L.L.C., a Delaware limited liability company
("Borrower"), and Alternative Living Services, Inc., a Delaware corporation
("Lender").


                              W I T N E S S E T H:

         WHEREAS, Borrower has requested that Lender make loans to Borrower in
the aggregate amount of up to $1,200,000.00; and

         WHEREAS, Lender is willing to make the loans to Borrower on the terms
and subject to the conditions set forth below.

         NOW, THEREFORE, in consideration of the premises and other good and
valuable consideration, the parties hereto agree as follows:

                                    ARTICLE I
                                   DEFINITIONS

         In addition to the terms defined elsewhere in this Agreement, the
following terms shall have the meanings indicated for purposes of this Agreement
(such meanings to be equally applicable to both the singular and plural forms of
the terms defined).

         "Agreement" shall mean this Loan Agreement.

         "Borrower" shall mean Third Party Investors I, L.L.C., a Delaware
limited liability company.

         "Business Day" shall mean a day on which national banks are open for
the transaction of business required for this Agreement in Milwaukee, Wisconsin.

         "Closing Date" shall mean the date of this Agreement.

         "Event of Default" shall mean any of the events specified in Section
7.1 hereof, provided that any requirement for notice or passage of time has been
satisfied.

         "Lender" shall mean Alternative Living Services, Inc., a Delaware
corporation.

         "Loan" and "Loans" shall have the meanings set forth in Section 2.1
hereof.


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         "Loan Documents" shall mean the Note and any other documents executed
by Borrower or its members with or for the benefit of Lender in connection with
this Agreement or the Loans.

         "Management Agreement" shall mean any Assisted Living Consultant and
Management Services Agreement entered into by Lender and Borrower, as
contemplated by Section 5.6 of the Operating Agreement of Borrower dated as of
December 31, 1998.

         "Material Adverse Effect" shall mean any act, omission or undertaking
which would, singly or in the aggregate, have (or reasonably be expected to
have) a material adverse effect upon the business, assets, liabilities,
financial condition or results of operations of a Person.

         "Note" shall mean the Management Fee Loan Note, dated as of the date
hereof, in the aggregate principal amount of $1,200,000.00, made by Borrower to
the order of Lender and delivered to Lender pursuant to Section 2.1(c) hereof.

         "Person" shall mean an individual, corporation, limited liability
company, partnership, trust or unincorporated organization, or a government or
any agency or political subdivision thereof.

         "Taxes" shall mean, with respect to any Person, taxes, assessments or
other governmental charges or levies imposed upon such Person, its income or any
of its properties or assets.

         "Unmatured Event of Default" shall mean any event or condition which,
with the lapse of time or giving of notice to Borrower contemplated hereby,
would constitute an Event of Default.

                                   ARTICLE II
                 COMMITMENT TO LEND, BORROWING PROCEDURES, ETC.

Section 2.1    Loans

         (a) Amount. Lender agrees, from the Closing Date until the respective
Maturity Dates described in Section 2.1(d) below, and upon the terms and
conditions herein set forth, to make a loan or loans to Borrower in the
aggregate principal amount of up to One Million Two Hundred Thousand Dollars
($1,200,000.00) (the "Commitment") (each such loan in herein referred to as the
"Loan," all such loans are herein referred to as "Loans," and the aggregate
amount of all such Loans outstanding from time to time, the "Loan Amount").
Borrower shall repay all outstanding Loans in installment on the respective
Maturity Dates, or such earlier date if payment of the Loans are accelerated in
accordance herewith.


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         (b) Borrowings. As provided in Section 4.1(g) of each Management
Agreement, Borrower shall draw Loans pursuant to this Loan Agreement as and when
required to pay any management fees due to Lender during the period set forth
therein.

         (c) Management Fee Loan Note. The obligations of Borrower to repay the
Loans shall be evidenced by Borrower's promissory note in the form attached
hereto as Exhibit A, dated the Closing Date and payable to the order of Lender
for the principal sum of $1,200,000.00, or such Loan Amount as shall be
outstanding hereunder from time to time, with interest as therein provided.
Absent manifest error, the Lender's records with respect to Loans and the
aggregate outstanding Loan Amount shall be conclusive as to amounts owed Lender
under the Note and this Agreement.

         (d) Payments. Unless payment of the Loans are accelerated upon
occurrence of an Event of Default pursuant to Section 7.2 hereof, the aggregate
outstanding principal amount of the Loans, together with all accrued interest
thereon, shall be due and payable in installments such that each portion thereof
drawn to pay any management fee to Lender pursuant to Section 4.1(g) of any of
those certain Assistant Living Consultant and Management Services Agreements
between Borrower and Lender of even date herewith (the "Management Agreements")
shall be repaid by Borrower upon the first to occur of (i) the first anniversary
date of the opening of the facility to which such Management Agreement relates,
and (ii) the date on which such Facility first reaches a ninety-five percent
(95%) resident occupancy level (such first to occur date with respect to each
installment payment, the respective "Maturity Date").

         (e) Interest Rate. Each Loan shall be non-interest bearing through the
Maturity Date thereof, but thereafter through the date the Loans are paid in
full, the Loans shall bear interest at the per annum default rate set forth in
the Note.

Section 2.2    Prepayment.

         The principal amount of the Loan may be repaid or prepaid in full or in
part at any time prior to the Maturity Date, without premium or penalty.

Section 2.3    Manner of Payment.

         (a) Each payment (including prepayments) by Borrower on account of the
principal or interest on the Loan shall be made on the dates specified for
payment under this Agreement to the Lender in lawful money of the United States
of America in immediately available funds. Any prepayment by Borrower shall set
forth in writing whether the payment is a prepayment of principal under the
Loan.

         (b) If any payment under this Agreement shall be specified to be made
upon a day which is not a Business Day, it shall be made on the next succeeding
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Day, and such extension of time shall in such case be included in computing
interest, if any, in connection with such payment.

         (c) If some or less than all amounts due from Borrower are received by
Lender, Lender shall distribute such amounts in the following order of priority:
(i) to the payment of all amounts then due and payable under this Agreement
other than interest or principal; (ii) to the payment of interest then due and
payable on the Loan; and (iii) to the repayment or prepayment of the principal
balance of the Loans.

Section 2.4    Basis of Calculation of Interest.

         All interest payable hereunder shall be calculated on the basis of the
360/365 method, which computes a daily amount of interest for a hypothetical
year of 360 days, then multiplies such amount by the actual number of days
elapsed in an interest calculation period.

Section 2.5    Maximum Interest Rate.

         In no event shall the amount of interest due or payable under the Note
exceed the maximum rate of interest allowed by applicable law, and in the event
that any such payment is inadvertently paid by Borrower or inadvertently
received by Lender, then such excess sum shall be credited as a payment of
principal, unless Borrower shall notify Lender, in writing, that Borrower elects
to have such excess sum returned to it forthwith. It is the express intent
hereof that Borrower not pay, and that Lender not receive, directly or
indirectly, in any manner whatsoever, interest in excess of that which would
lawfully be paid by Borrower under applicable law.

                                   ARTICLE III
                               CLOSING DELIVERIES

         The following deliveries shall be made simultaneously with the
execution of this Agreement:

Section 3.1    The Note.

         Borrower shall deliver to Lender the Note duly executed and dated as of
the Closing Date.

Section 3.2    Evidence of Approvals.

         Lender shall have received from the Borrower copies of all such
documents and other evidence that it may reasonably request to confirm the
Borrower's authority to enter into the Agreement and the transactions
contemplated hereby, and to fully perform its obligations hereunder and
thereunder.


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                                   ARTICLE IV
                         REPRESENTATIONS AND WARRANTIES

Section 4.1    Representations and Warranties.

         Borrower hereby represents and warrants that:

         (a) Organization; Power; Qualification. Borrower is a Delaware limited
liability company duly organized, validly existing and in good standing under
the laws of the state of Delaware, has the power and authority, to own or lease
and operate its properties and to carry on its businesses as now being and
hereafter proposed to be conducted and is duly qualified and is in good standing
as foreign limited liability company, and is authorized to do business, in each
jurisdiction in which the character of its properties or the nature of its
business requires such qualification or authorization, and on which failure to
so qualify would have a Material Adverse Effect on Borrower.

         (b) Execution and Enforceability. This Agreement has been duly executed
and delivered by Borrower, and is, and each of the Loan Documents to which
Borrower is a party is, a legal, valid and binding obligation of Borrower,
enforceable in accordance with its terms, subject, as to enforcement of
remedies, to the following qualifications: (i) an order of specific performance
and an injunction are discretionary remedies, and in particular, may not be
available where damages are considered an adequate remedy at law, and (ii) may
be limited by bankruptcy, insolvency, liquidation, reorganization,
reconstruction and other similar laws effecting enforcement of creditors' rights
generally (insofar as any such law relates to the bankruptcy, insolvency or
similar event of the Borrower).

         (c) Authorization. Borrower is duly authorized to execute, deliver and
perform its obligations under this Agreement and the Loan Documents. The
execution, delivery and performance by Borrower of this Agreement and the Loan
Documents do not and will not require any consent or approval of any
governmental agency or authority.

         (d) No Conflicts. The execution, delivery and performance by the
Borrower of this Agreement and the Loan Documents (i) do not and will not
conflict with: (A) any provision of law, (B) the Borrower's operating agreement
or the Delaware Limited Liability Company Act, (C) any material agreement
binding upon Borrower, or (D) any court or administrative order or decree
applicable to Borrower, and (ii) do not and will not require, or result in, the
creation or imposition of any lien on any asset of Borrower.


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                                    ARTICLE V
                              AFFIRMATIVE COVENANTS

         From the date of this Agreement and thereafter until all Loans pursuant
to this Agreement, and all interest thereon, are paid in full, and unless Lender
shall otherwise consent in writing:

Section 5.1    Notices.

         Borrower shall notify the Lender in writing of any of the following
immediately upon learning of the occurrence thereof, describing the same and, if
applicable, the steps being taken with respect thereto:

         (a) Default. The occurrence of an Event of Default or Unmatured Event
of Default;

         (b) Litigation. The institution of any litigation, arbitration
proceeding or governmental proceeding which would constitute a Material Adverse
Effect on the Borrower;

         (c) Material Adverse Change. The occurrence of a material adverse
change in the business, operations or financial condition of Borrower; or

         (d) Other Events. The occurrence of such other events as the Lender may
from time to time reasonably specify regarding the financial condition of
Borrower.

Section 5.2    Existence.

         Borrower shall maintain and preserve its existence as a limited
liability company, and all rights, privileges, licenses, patents, patent rights,
copyrights, trademarks, trade names, and other authority to the extent material
and necessary for the conduct of its business in the ordinary course as
conducted from time to time.

Section 5.3    Books, Records and Access.

         Borrower shall maintain accurate books and records in conformance with
its method of tax accounting. Within 15 days after receiving written notice from
Lender, Borrower shall permit reasonable access by the Lender to the books and
records of Borrower during normal business hours and permit the Lender to make
reasonable copies of such books and records.

Section 5.4    Insurance.

         Borrower shall maintain insurance to such extent and against such
hazards and liabilities as is commonly maintained by companies similarly
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Section 5.5    Repair.

         Borrower shall maintain, preserve and keep its properties in good
repair, working order and condition, and from time to time make all necessary
and proper repairs, renewals, replacements, additions, betterments and
improvements thereto so that at all times the efficiency thereof shall be fully
preserved and maintained except for where the failure to comply with this
Section 5.5, individually or in the aggregate, does not have a Material Adverse
Effect on Borrower.

Section 5.6    Taxes.

         Borrower shall pay when due, all of its Taxes, unless and only to the
extent that Borrower is contesting such Taxes in good faith and by appropriate
proceedings and Borrower has set aside in its books reasonable reserves
therefor.

Section 5.7    Compliance.

         Borrower shall comply with all statutes and governmental rules and
regulations applicable to it, except where the failure to comply with this
Section 5.7, individually or in the aggregate, does not have a Material Adverse
Effect on the Borrower.

                                   ARTICLE VI
                               NEGATIVE COVENANTS

         From the date of this Agreement and thereafter until the Loan Amount,
and all interest thereon, is paid in full, and unless Lender shall otherwise
consent in writing:

Section 6.1    Liquidation, Merger or Sale.

         Borrower shall not, without the prior written consent of Lender:

         (a) liquidate or dissolve itself (or suffer any liquidation or
dissolution) or otherwise windup its
affairs;

         (b) sell, lease, abandon, transfer or otherwise dispose of any real
property or of any personal property having a value of in excess of $25,000; or

         (c) be party to any merger or consolidation.

Section 6.2    Liens.

         Borrower shall not create, incur or suffer to exist, any lien
(including, without limitation, any pledge, assignment, mortgage, title
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interest) to exist on any of the assets or property (real, personal or mixed,
tangible or intangible) of the Borrower, other than:

               (i) Liens for Taxes not delinquent or for Taxes being contested
         in good faith by appropriate proceedings and as to which adequate
         financial reserves have been established on Borrower's books and
         records;

               (ii) Liens created in connection with workmen's compensation,
         unemployment insurance, and social security, or to secure the
         performance of bids, tenders or contracts (other than for the repayment
         of borrowed money), leases, statutory obligations, surety and appeal
         bonds, and other obligations of like nature made in the ordinary course
         of business;

               (iii) Each lien existing on the date hereof; or

               (iv) Liens created in connection with purchase money mortgages or
         security interests granted to secure the purchase price of assets, the
         purchase of which does not violate this Agreement or any instrument
         required hereunder.

Section 6.3    Distributions.

         Borrower shall not make any distribution, directly or indirectly,
whether in cash or in other property, on account of or for the benefit of its
members, other than payments or distributions to Lender pursuant to this
Agreement, the other Loan Documents, or any other loans made to Borrower by
Lender.

                                   ARTICLE VII
                          EVENTS OF DEFAULT & REMEDIES

Section 7.1    Events of Default.

         An Event of Default shall have occurred under this Agreement:

         (a) Non-payment. If Borrower shall default in the payment when due of
any principal of, or interest on, the Loan, and such default shall not be cured
within three (3) Business Days following notice thereof from Lender.

         (b) Insolvency. If Borrower becomes insolvent, or generally fails to
pay, or admits in writing its inability to pay, its debts as they mature, or
applies for, consents to, or acquiesces in, the appointment of a trustee,
receiver or other custodian for Borrower or for a substantial part of the
property of Borrower, or makes a general assignment for the benefit of
creditors; or, in the absence of such application, consent or acquiescence, a
trustee, receiver or other custodian is appointed for Borrower or for a
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and is not discharged within sixty days; or any bankruptcy, reorganization, debt
arrangement or other proceeding under any bankruptcy or insolvency law, or any
dissolution or liquidation proceeding, is instituted by or against Borrower and,
if instituted against Borrower, is consented to or acquiesced in by Borrower or
remains for sixty days undismissed; or any warrant of attachment or similarly
legal process is issued against any substantial part of the property of Borrower
which is not released within sixty days of service.

         (c) Representations and Warranties. If any representation or warranty
made under this Agreement or any statement in any certificate given by Borrower
hereunder shall be untrue, incorrect or misleading in any material respect when
made or given.

         (d) Covenants. If Borrower shall default in the performance or
observance of any covenant set forth in Article V or Article VI hereof and, with
respect to any covenant set forth in Section 5.1, 5.3, 5.4, 5.5, 5.6, or 5.7,
such default shall not be cured within thirty (30) days following notice thereof
from Lender to Borrower.

         (e) If there is an event of default under any of the Loan Documents,
subject to any applicable period of grace.

         (f) Other Obligations. If, subject to any applicable grace period,
Borrower (i) fails to pay any indebtedness or other obligations, direct or
indirect, for borrowed money in an amount in excess of $25,000.00 (other than as
evidenced by this Agreement or the Note) owing by Borrower when due, whether at
maturity, by acceleration or otherwise, or (ii) fails to perform any term,
covenant or agreement on its part to be performed under any agreement or
instrument (other than this Agreement or under the Loan Documents) evidencing or
securing or relating to such indebtedness or other obligations, when required to
be performed, and, if as the result of such failure, the maturity date of such
indebtedness or other obligations has been accelerated.

         (g) Judgments. If Borrower fails to satisfy or stay the execution by
appropriate proceedings of any judgment rendered against it in excess of
$25,000.

Section 7.2    Remedies.

         If an Event of Default shall have occurred and shall be continuing,
Lender shall have the right at its option, and in its sole discretion, to
declare all amounts outstanding under the Note and this Agreement to be
immediately due and payable (except that if an event described in Section 7.1(b)
occurs, all amounts outstanding under the Note and this Agreement shall
automatically become immediately due and payable). Lender shall promptly advise
Borrower, in writing, of any such declaration, but failure to do so shall not
impair the effect of such declaration. Lender shall also be entitled to exercise
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                                  ARTICLE VIII
                                  MISCELLANEOUS

Section 8.1    Waiver and Amendments.

         No failure or delay on the part of Lender in the exercise of any power
or right, and no course of dealing between Borrower and Lender, shall operate as
a waiver of such power or right, nor shall any single or partial exercise of any
power or right preclude other or further exercise thereof or the exercise of any
other power or right. Remedies provided for herein are cumulative and not
exclusive of any remedies which may be available to the Lender at law or in
equity. No notice to or demand on the Borrower required hereunder or under the
Note shall in any event entitle Borrower to any other or further notice or
demand in similar or other circumstances or constitute a waiver of the right of
Lender to any other or further action and any circumstances without notice or
demand. No amendment, modification or waiver of, or consent with respect to, any
provision of this Agreement or the Note shall in any event be effective unless
the same shall be in writing and signed and delivered by Lender. Any waiver of
any provision of this Agreement or the Note, and any consent to any departure by
Borrower from the terms of any provision of this Agreement or the Note, shall be
effective only in the specific instance and for the specific purpose for which
given.

Section 8.2    Notices

         All notices and other communications required or permitted under this
Agreement shall be in writing and, if mailed by prepaid first-class mail, or
certified mail, return receipt requested, shall be deemed to have been received
on the earlier of the date shown on the receipt or three (3) Business Days after
the post-mark date thereof and, if by telecopy, shall be followed forthwith by
letter and shall be deemed to have been received upon dispatch and
acknowledgment of receipt by the recipient's telecopier machine. In addition,
notices hereunder may be delivered by hand in which event the notice shall be
deemed effective when delivered or by overnight courier, in which event the
Notice shall be deemed delivered the day after it is accepted by the courier for
next day delivery. All notices and other communications under this Agreement
shall be given to the parties hereto at the following addresses:

         (i)   If to Borrower:

                    Third Party Investors I, L.L.C.

                    c/o McDonald Investments, Inc.
                    250 Pearl Street, N.W.
                    Grand Rapids, Michigan 49503
                    Attn: Randall S. Damstra
                    Fax: (616) 732-3394


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                    with a copy to (which shall not constitute notice):

                    Hecht & Lentz
                    333 Bridge, N.W., Suite 330
                    Grand Rapids, Michigan 49504
                    Attn: David M. Hecht, Esq.
                    Fax: (626) 776-7203

         (ii) If to Lender:

                    Alternative Living Services, Inc.
                    450 N. Sunnyslope Road
                    Suite 300
                    Brookfield, Wisconsin  83005
                    Attn:  President and CEO
                    Fax: 414-789-6677

                    with a copy to (which shall not constitute notice):

                    Rogers & Hardin LLP
                    229 Peachtree Street, N.E.
                    2700 International Tower
                    Atlanta, Georgia  30303
                    Attn:  Alan C. Leet, Esq.
                    Fax: 404-525-2224

         Any party hereto may change the address to which notices shall be
directed under this Section by giving written notice of such change to the other
parties.

Section 8.3    Severability.

         Any provision of this Agreement which is prohibited or unenforceable in
any jurisdiction, shall as to such jurisdiction, be ineffective to the extent of
such prohibition or unenforceability without invalidating the remaining
provisions hereof or affecting the validity or enforceability of such provision
in any other jurisdiction.

Section 8.4    Governing Law.

         This Agreement shall be construed under and governed by the laws of the
state of Wisconsin, without giving effect to its principles of conflicts of
laws.


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Section 8.5    Successors and Assigns.

         This Agreement shall be binding upon Borrower and Lender and their
respective successors and assigns, and shall inure to the benefit of Borrower
and Lender and their successors and assigns. Neither Borrower nor Lender shall
assign its rights or delegate its duties hereunder without the consent of the
other party.

Section 8.6    Headings.

         Headings used in this Agreement are for convenience only and shall not
be used in connection with the interpretation of any provision hereof.

Section 8.7    Counterparts.

         This Agreement may be executed in two or more counterparts, each of
which shall be deemed to be an original, but all of which counterparts shall
together constitute one and the same instrument.

Section 8.8    Expenses.

         Borrower agrees to pay, and hold Lender harmless from liability for the
payment of, all reasonable costs and expenses of Lender (including reasonable
fees and expenses of counsel) in connection with any Event of Default or the
enforcement of this Agreement.


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         IN WITNESS WHEREOF, the parties hereto have caused this Agreement to be
executed by the undersigned thereunto duly authorized as of the date first
written above.


                       ALTERNATIVE LIVING SERVICES, INC.,
                       a Delaware corporation


                       By: /s/ Mark W. Ohlendorf
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                          Title:  Senior Vice President          
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                       THIRD PARTY INVESTORS I, L.L.C.
                       a Delaware limited liability company


                       By: /s/ Randall S. Damstra
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                          Title: Manager
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