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                                                                 EXHIBIT 10.3(J)
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Citation Corporation
2 Office Park Circle
Suite 204
Birmingham, Alabama 35223
(205) 871-5731
FAX (205) 870-8211

December 1, 1998

Mr. Timothy L. Roberts
c/o Citation Corporation
2 Office Park Circle
Suite 204
Birmingham, Alabama  35223

     Re:  Change in Control Retention and Severance Agreement

Dear Mr. Roberts:

     Citation Corporation (the "Company"), considers the establishment and
maintenance of a sound and vital senior management team to be essential to
protecting and enhancing the best interests of the Company and its stockholders.
In this connection, the Company recognizes that the possibility of a change in
control may exist in the future, and that such possibility, and the uncertainty
and questions which it may raise among management, may result in the departure
or distraction of management personnel to the detriment of the Company and its
stockholders. Accordingly, the Board of Directors of the Company (the "Board")
has determined that appropriate steps should be taken to reinforce and encourage
the continued attention and dedication of members of the Company's senior
management, including yourself, to their assigned duties without distraction
arising from the possibility of a change in control of the Company.  The Board
has also determined that appropriate steps should be taken to encourage senior
management's participation, in the event of a proposed change in control, in the
successful completion of the change in control transaction while maintaining
their focus on business performance and strategy execution.

     In order to induce you to remain in the employ of the Company and in
consideration of your agreeing to remain in the employ of the Company subject to
the terms and conditions set forth below, this letter agreement sets forth the
benefits which the Company agrees will be provided to you in the event your
employment with the Company is terminated subsequent to a change in control of
the Company (as defined in Section 1 of this letter agreement) under the
circumstances described below.

     1.   CHANGE IN CONTROL.  No benefits shall be payable hereunder unless
there shall have been a change in control of the Company, as set forth below and
such change in control occurs prior to the termination of your employment.  For
purposes of this Agreement, a "change in control" shall mean the occurrence of
any of the following events, if subsequent to the date of this Agreement:

          (a)  Any person, entity or "group" (within the meaning of Rules 13d
through 13d-6 of the Securities Exchange Act of 1934, as amended (the "Exchange
Act")) (other than any subsidiary or affiliate as of the date hereof of the
Company or any employee benefit plan of the Company) has acquired or agreed to
acquire beneficial ownership of 50% or more of the voting and/or economic
interest in the capital stock of the Company; or

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          (b)  A majority of the board of directors of the Company shall consist
at such time of individuals other than (i) members of the board of directors on
the date hereof and (ii) other members of the Board approved to become a
director by a majority of such members referred to in clause (i) or by members
so approved ("Continuing Directors"); or

          (c)  The approval by the stockholders of the Company and completion of
(i) a merger or consolidation of the Company, statutory share exchange, or other
similar transaction with another corporation, partnership, or other entity or
enterprise in which either the Company is not the surviving or continuing
corporation, (ii) a sale or disposition of all or substantially all of the
assets of the Company, or (iii) the dissolution of the Company.

     2.   INCENTIVE AWARDS.  If any of the events described in Section 1 hereof
constituting a change in control shall have occurred, then any award you have
received under the 1994 Incentive Award Plan or a successor plan will be vested
and any restrictions placed on such awards will lapse as of the date the change
in control is completed ("Change in Control Date").

     3.   NONQUALIFIED DEFERRED COMPENSATION. If any of the events described in
Section 1 hereof constituting a change in control shall have occurred, then you
shall receive payment of the entire balance in your Compensation Deferral
Account and Matching Contribution Account, as defined in the Citation
Corporation Nonqualified Deferred Compensation Plan, in cash and in one lump sum
as of the Change in Control Date.

     4.   TERMINATION FOLLOWING CHANGE IN CONTROL.  If any of the events
described in Section 1 hereof constituting a change in control of the Company
shall have occurred, you shall be entitled to the benefits provided in Section 5
hereof upon the subsequent involuntary termination of your employment by the
Company, if such termination occurs within the period beginning on the Change in
Control Date and ending on the second anniversary of the Change in Control Date
(the "Trigger Period") unless such termination is (i) because of your death or
Retirement, (ii) by the Company for Cause (iii) by the Company or you for
Disability (such termination within such period, as limited by clauses (i)
through (iii), being sometimes referred to hereinafter as a "Payment Trigger").
In the event your employment is terminated within the Trigger Period, following
the occurrence of any of the events set forth at paragraph (c) below, such
termination of your employment shall be deemed to be an involuntary termination
of your employment by the Company and shall entitle you to the benefits provided
in Section 5 hereof.

          (a). Disability; Retirement.

               (i)  "Disability" shall mean a disability which entitles you to a
     disability benefit under a disability program sponsored or maintained by
     the Company; provided, that if no such program is applicable to you, then
     "Disability" shall mean that, based on medical evidence reasonably
     satisfactory to the Compensation Committee of the Board, you are totally
     and permanently unable to engage in any occupation or gainful employment
     for which you are reasonably suited by background, training, education or
     experience.
 
               (ii) Termination by the Company or you of your employment based
     on "Retirement" shall mean termination in accordance with the Company's
     retirement policy, including early retirement, generally applicable to its
     salaried employees.

          (b)  Cause.  Termination by the Company of your employment for "Cause"
     shall mean termination based upon any of the following:
 
               (i)  dishonesty or fraud by you in connection with your
     employment;
 

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               (ii)   appropriation (or attempted appropriation) by you of a
     material business opportunity of the Company, including attempting to
     secure or securing any personal profit in connection with any transaction
     entered into on behalf of the Company;

               (iii)  misappropriation by you (or attempted misappropriation) of
     any of the Company's funds or property;
 
               (iv)   your conviction of, or indictment for (or its procedural
     equivalent) or entering of a guilty plea or plea of no contest with respect
     to, a felony or any other criminal offense involving moral turpitude; or
 
               (v)    deliberate, willful or gross misconduct by you in the
     performance of your duties with the Company, as determined by the good
     faith judgment of the Compensation Committee of the Board.
 
For purposes of this paragraph, no act, or failure to act, on your part shall be
considered "willful" unless done, or omitted to be done, by you not in good
faith and without any reasonable belief that your action or omission was in the
best interest of the Company.

          (c)  Notice of Termination.  Any purported termination by the Company
pursuant to your Disability or Retirement, as defined in paragraph (a) above, or
for Cause, as defined in paragraph (b) above, or by you pursuant to your
Disability or Retirement, as defined in paragraph (a) above or by you or the
Company based on an event of Constructive Termination, as defined in paragraph
(c) above, shall be communicated by written Notice of Termination to the other
party hereto.  For purposes of this Agreement, a "Notice of Termination" shall
indicate the specific termination provision in this Agreement relied upon and
shall set forth in reasonable detail the facts and circumstances claimed to
provide a basis for termination of your employment under the provision so
indicated.
 
          (d)  Date of Termination. "Date of Termination" shall mean (i) if your
employment is terminated for Disability, thirty (30) days after Notice of
Termination is given (provided that you shall not have returned to the
performance of your duties on a full-time basis during such thirty (30) day
period), (ii) if your employment is terminated due to your death, the date of
your death, (iii) if your employment is terminated pursuant to paragraph (b)
above, the date specified in the Notice of Termination, (iv) if your employment
is terminated for Retirement, the date specified in the Notice of Termination,
and (v) if your employment is terminated for any other reason, the date on which
a Notice of Termination is given; provided that if within thirty (30) days after
any Notice of Termination is given the party receiving such Notice of
Termination notifies the other party that a dispute exists concerning the
termination, the Date of Termination shall be the date on which the dispute is
finally determined, either by mutual written agreement of the parties, or by a
final judgment, order or decree of a court of competent jurisdiction (the time
for appeal therefrom having expired and no appeal having been perfected);
provided further, however, that if such disputed termination constitutes a
Payment Trigger, the Trigger Period shall not run pending resolution of the
dispute but shall recommence upon the date that the dispute is finally
determined (as set forth in the preceding proviso).

    5.    CERTAIN BENEFITS UPON TERMINATION.  If, after a change in control of
the Company shall have occurred, as defined in Section 1 above, your employment
with the Company shall be terminated (including a Constructive Termination)
within the Trigger Period by the Company or you other than for Cause,
Disability, Retirement or death, and other than by your voluntarily terminating
your employment with the Company, then you shall be entitled to the benefits
outlined below:
 
          (a)  the Company shall pay to you within thirty (30) days following
the Date of Termination in a lump sum cash payment your full base salary through
the Date of Termination at the rate in effect at the time

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Notice of Termination is given plus (i) credit for any vacation earned but not
taken, (ii) the amount, if any, of any bonus for a past fiscal year which has
been earned but not yet been paid to you, and (iii) a pro-rated payment, based
on the Company's results as of the Date of Termination, of any bonus due under
any Bonus Plan in which you participate;
 
          (b)  in lieu of any further salary payments to you for periods
subsequent to the Date of Termination, the Company shall pay as severance pay to
you within thirty (30) days following the Date of Termination a lump sum amount
equal to two (2) times the sum of (i) the amount of your annual base salary at
the highest rate in effect during the twelve (12) months immediately preceding
the Date of Termination, and (ii) the average annual bonus received by you
during the three (3) years immediately preceding the Date of Termination or, if
the term of your employment with the Company has been less than the amount of
time necessary for full (not partial or pro-rated) participation in the bonus
plan for three years, then the average annual bonus received by you in the
number of years immediately preceding the Date of Termination (but no more than
three) for which you have been a full participant in the bonus plan; or,  if the
term of your employment has been less than one year, then your average annual
bonus will be equal to the total of your bonus for the first four full quarters
guaranteed at the time of your employment;
 
          (c)  the Company shall maintain in full force and effect, for your
continued benefit until the earlier of (i) two (2) years after the Date of
Termination or (ii) you obtain substantially the same coverage from a new
employer, all life insurance, medical, health and accident, and disability
plans, programs or arrangements in which you were entitled to participate
immediately prior to the Date of Termination, provided that your continued
participation is possible under the general terms and provisions of such plans
and programs.  In the event that your participation in any such plan or program
is barred, the Company shall use reasonable efforts to arrange to provide you
with benefits substantially similar to those which you are entitled to receive
under such plans and programs.

      6.  SECTION 280G CAP.  It is the intent of the parties hereto that no
amount payable pursuant to the terms of this Agreement shall cause any payment
or transfer by the Company to or for your benefit, whether paid or payable (or
transferred or transferable) pursuant to the terms of this Agreement or
otherwise (a "Payment"), to be subject to taxation under section 4999 of the
Code and as an "excess parachute payment" as defined in section 280g of the
Code.  In the event that the last independent auditors selected by the Board
prior to your termination under this Agreement (the "Auditors") determine that
any such item constitutes an "excess parachute payment", then you are required
to irrevocably elect to relinquish or not exercise any payments of benefits
available to you under any plan, contract or program before the payment or
enjoyment thereof in order to limit such payments or benefits for the purpose of
eliminating any "excess parachute payment."

     7.   TERM OF AGREEMENT.  This Agreement shall become effective on the date
hereof and shall continue in effect until the earliest of the following:

          (i)   a Date of Termination in accordance with Section 4(e) or other
termination of your employment with the Company shall have occurred prior to a
change in control of the Company; or

          (ii)  if a Payment Trigger shall have occurred during the term of this
Agreement, the performance by the Company of all its obligations, and the
satisfaction by the Company of all its obligations and liabilities, under this
Agreement; or

          (iii) the date that is the third (3rd) anniversary of the date of this
agreement, or, if the agreement has been renewed, the date that is the first
(1st) anniversary of date of the renewal of the agreement; provided, however,
that if a change in control of the Company occurs prior to the third (3rd)
anniversary of the date of this agreement or the first (1st) anniversary of the
Renewal Date (whichever is later), the Company's obligation to you under this
Agreement due to such change in control shall continue through the final day of
the Trigger Period that begins with such change in control.

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Beginning on the third (3rd) anniversary of the date of this agreement and
continuing each anniversary thereafter ("Renewal Date"), the agreement will be
automatically renewed for a one-year period, unless either party gives written
notice to the other party at least thirty (30) days prior to the Renewal Date.

          Any change in control of the Company during the term of this Agreement
that for any reason ceases to constitute a change in control under this
agreement or is not followed by a Payment Trigger shall not effect a termination
or lapse of this Agreement.

     8.   COMPANY'S RIGHT TO TERMINATE.  You acknowledge that this Agreement
does not operate as an employment contract nor establish any right of continued
employment with the Company and that the Company may terminate your employment
at any time, subject to providing the benefits specified in this Agreement, if
applicable.

     9.   SUCCESSORS; BINDING AGREEMENT.

          (a)  The Company will require any successor (whether direct or
indirect, by purchase, merger, consolidation or otherwise) to all or
substantially all of the business and/or assets of the Company to expressly
assume and agree to perform this Agreement in the same manner and to the same
extent that the Company would be required to perform it if no such succession
had taken place.  Failure of the Company to obtain such agreement prior to the
effectiveness of any such succession shall be a breach of this Agreement and
shall constitute an event of Constructive Termination.

          (b)  This Agreement shall inure to the benefit of and be enforceable
by your personal or legal representatives, executors, administrators,
successors, heirs, and legatees.

     10.  NOTICE.  For the purposes of this Agreement, notices and all other
communications provided for in the Agreement shall be in writing and shall be
deemed to have been duly given when delivered personally or mailed by certified
or registered mail, return receipt requested, postage prepaid, addressed to the
respective addresses set forth on the last page of this Agreement (provided that
all notices to the Company shall be directed to the Chief Executive Officer of
the Company with a copy to the Secretary of the Company), or to such other
address as either party may have furnished to the other in writing.

     11.  MISCELLANEOUS.  No provisions of this Agreement may be modified,
waived or discharged unless such waiver, modification or discharge is agreed to
in writing signed by you and such officer as may be authorized by the Board of
Directors of the Company.  The validity, interpretation, construction and
performance of this Agreement shall be governed by the laws of the State of
Alabama.  This Agreement shall not supersede or in any way limit the rights,
duties or obligations you may have under any other written agreement with the
Company.

     12.  ENFORCEMENT; EXPENSES.  The provisions of this Agreement shall be
regarded as divisible, and if any provision is declared invalid or unenforceable
by a court of competent jurisdiction, the validity and enforceability of the
remainder of such provisions hereof shall not be affected.  The Company shall
pay all fees, costs and expenses (including, without limitation, reasonable
attorneys' fees and the costs of investigating any potential claim) incurred by
you in connection with any dispute arising under or relating to this Agreement
or any action(s) or proceeding(s) to enforce your rights under this Agreement,
should you prevail in such action or proceeding.

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     Kindly sign and return to the Company the enclosed copy of this letter,
which will then constitute our agreement on the subject.

CITATION CORPORATION


   /s/    Frederick F. Sommer
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Frederick F. Sommer, Chief Executive Officer
2 Office Park Circle, Suite 204
Birmingham, Alabama  35223


AGREED TO THIS 4th DAY OF  DECEMBER, 1998.


 /s/     Timothy L. Roberts
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Timothy L. Roberts, Executive
 

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