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                                                                    EXHIBIT 10.3

                        IL FORNAIO (AMERICA) CORPORATION

                           1997 EQUITY INCENTIVE PLAN

                             ADOPTED MARCH 17, 1997
                     APPROVED BY STOCKHOLDERS APRIL 23, 1997
               AMENDED BY THE BOARD OF DIRECTORS ON MARCH 11, 1999
                     APPROVED BY STOCKHOLDERS ON MAY 6, 1999
               AMENDED BY THE BOARD OF DIRECTORS ON MARCH 8, 2000

                                  INTRODUCTION.

        This Plan is an amendment and restatement of the Company's existing 1992
Stock Option Plan (the "1992 Plan") and the 1995 Stock Option Plan (the "1995
Plan"), and shall become effective on the date of approval of this Plan by the
Board (the "Effective Date"). No options shall be granted under the 1992 Plan or
the 1995 Plan from and after the Effective Date. Notwithstanding anything to the
contrary, prior to the Listing Date all Stock Awards granted under this Plan
shall comply with all of the requirements set forth in Section 25102(o) of the
California Corporate Securities Law of 1968.

1.      PURPOSES.

        (a) The purpose of the Plan is to provide a means by which selected
Employees and Directors of and Consultants to the Company and its Affiliates may
be given an opportunity to benefit from increases in value of the common stock
of the Company ("Common Stock") through the granting of (i) Incentive Stock
Options, (ii) Nonstatutory Stock Options, (iii) stock bonuses and (iv) rights to
purchase restricted stock, all as defined below.

        (b) The Company, by means of the Plan, seeks to retain the services of
persons who are now Employees, Directors or Consultants, to secure and retain
the services of new Employees, Directors and Consultants, and to provide
incentives for such persons to exert maximum efforts for the success of the
Company and its Affiliates.

        (c) The Company intends that the Stock Awards issued under the Plan
shall, in the discretion of the Board or any Committee to which responsibility
for administration of the Plan has been delegated pursuant to subsection 3(c),
be either (i) Options granted pursuant to Section 6 hereof, including Incentive
Stock Options and Nonstatutory Stock Options, or (ii) stock bonuses or rights to
purchase restricted stock granted pursuant to Section 7 hereof. All Options
shall be separately designated Incentive Stock Options or Nonstatutory Stock
Options at the time of grant, and a separate certificate or certificates will be
issued for shares purchased on exercise of each type of Option.

2.      DEFINITIONS.


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        (a) "AFFILIATE" means any parent corporation or subsidiary corporation,
whether now or hereafter existing, as those terms are defined in Sections 424(e)
and (f) respectively, of the Code.

        (b) "BOARD" means the Board of Directors of the Company.

        (c) "CODE" means the Internal Revenue Code of 1986, as amended.

        (d) "COMMITTEE" means a Committee appointed by the Board in accordance
with subsection 3(c) of the Plan.

        (e) "COMPANY" means Il Fornaio (America) Corporation, a Delaware
corporation.

        (f) "CONSULTANT" means any person, including an advisor, engaged by the
Company or an Affiliate to render consulting services and who is compensated for
such services, provided that the term "Consultant" shall not include Directors
who are paid only a director's fee by the Company or who are not compensated by
the Company for their services as Directors.

        (g) "CONTINUOUS STATUS AS AN EMPLOYEE, DIRECTOR OR CONSULTANT" means the
employment or relationship as a Director or Consultant is not interrupted or
terminated. The Board, in its sole discretion, may determine whether Continuous
Status as an Employee, Director or Consultant shall be considered interrupted in
the case of: (i) any leave of absence approved by the Board, including sick
leave, military leave, or any other personal leave; or (ii) transfers between
locations of the Company or between the Company, Affiliates or their successors.

        (h) "DIRECTOR" means a member of the Board.

        (i) "EMPLOYEE" means any person, including Officers and Directors,
employed by the Company or any Affiliate of the Company. Neither service as a
Director nor payment of a director's fee by the Company shall be sufficient to
constitute "employment" by the Company.

        (j) "EXCHANGE ACT" means the Securities Exchange Act of 1934, as
amended.

        (k) "FAIR MARKET VALUE" means, as of any date, the value of the Common
Stock of the Company determined as follows:

               (1) If the Common Stock is listed on any established stock
exchange, or traded on the Nasdaq National Market or The Nasdaq Market, the Fair
Market Value of a share of Common Stock shall be the closing sales price for
such stock (or the closing bid, if no sales were reported) as quoted on such
exchange or market (or the exchange or market with the greatest volume of
trading in Common Stock) on the last market trading day prior to determination,
as reported in the Wall Street Journal or such other source as the Board deems


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reliable;

               (2) In the absence of such markets for the Common Stock, the Fair
Market Value shall be determined in good faith by the Board.

        (l) "INCENTIVE STOCK OPTION" means an Option intended to qualify as an
incentive stock option within the meaning of Section 422 of the Code and the
regulations promulgated thereunder.

        (m) "LISTING DATE" means the first date upon which any security of the
Company is listed (or approved for listing) upon notice of issuance on any
securities exchange, or designated (or approved for designation) upon notice of
issuance as a national market security on an interdealer quotation system if
such securities exchange or interdealer quotation system has been certified in
accordance with the provisions of Section 25100(o) of the California Corporate
Securities Law of 1968.

        (n) "NON-EMPLOYEE DIRECTOR" means a Director who either (i) is not a
current Employee or Officer of the Company or its parent or subsidiary, does not
receive compensation (directly or indirectly) from the Company or its parent or
subsidiary for services rendered as a consultant or in any capacity other than
as a Director (except for an amount as to which disclosure would not be required
under Item 404(a) of Regulation S-K promulgated pursuant to the Securities Act
of 1933 ("Regulation S-K"), does not possess an interest in any other
transaction as to which disclosure would be required under Item 404(a) of
Regulation S-K, and is not engaged in a business relationship as to which
disclosure would be required under Item 404(b) of Regulation S-K; or (ii) is
otherwise considered a "non-employee director" for purposes of Rule 16b-3.

        (o) "NONSTATUTORY STOCK OPTION" means an Option not intended to qualify
as an Incentive Stock Option.

        (p) "OFFICER" means a person who is an officer of the Company within the
meaning of Section 16 of the Exchange Act and the rules and regulations
promulgated thereunder.

        (q) "OPTION" means a stock option granted pursuant to the Plan.

        (r) "OPTION AGREEMENT" means a written agreement between the Company and
an Optionee evidencing the terms and conditions of an individual Option grant.
Each Option Agreement shall be subject to the terms and conditions of the Plan.

        (s) "OPTIONEE" means a person to whom an Option is granted pursuant to
the Plan.

        (t) "OUTSIDE DIRECTOR" means a Director who either (i) is not a current
employee of the Company or an "affiliated corporation" (within the meaning of
Treasury regulations


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promulgated under Section 162(m) of the Code), is not a former employee of the
Company or an "affiliated corporation" receiving compensation for prior services
(other than benefits under a tax qualified pension plan), was not an officer of
the Company or an "affiliated corporation" at any time, and is not currently
receiving direct or indirect remuneration from the Company or an "affiliated
corporation" for services in any capacity other than as a Director, or (ii) is
otherwise considered an "outside director" for purposes of Section 162(m) of the
Code.

        (u) "PLAN" means this 1997 Equity Incentive Plan.

        (v) "RULE 16b-3" means Rule 16b-3 of the Exchange Act or any successor
to Rule 16b-3, as in effect when discretion is being exercised with respect to
the Plan.

        (w) "STOCK AWARD" means any right granted under the Plan, including any
Option, any stock bonus, and any right to purchase restricted stock.

        (x) "STOCK AWARD AGREEMENT" means a written agreement between the
Company and a holder of a Stock Award evidencing the terms and conditions of an
individual Stock Award grant. Each Stock Award Agreement shall be subject to the
terms and conditions of the Plan.

3.      ADMINISTRATION.

        (a) The Plan shall be administered by the Board unless and until the
Board delegates administration to a Committee, as provided in subsection 3(c).

        (b) The Board shall have the power, subject to, and within the
limitations of, the express provisions of the Plan:

               (1) To determine from time to time which of the persons eligible
under the Plan shall be granted Stock Awards; when and how each Stock Award
shall be granted; whether a Stock Award will be an Incentive Stock Option, a
Nonstatutory Stock Option, a stock bonus, a right to purchase restricted stock,
or a combination of the foregoing; the provisions of each Stock Award granted
(which need not be identical), including the time or times when a person shall
be permitted to receive stock pursuant to a Stock Award; and the number of
shares with respect to which a Stock Award shall be granted to each such person.

               (2) To construe and interpret the Plan and Stock Awards granted
under it, and to establish, amend and revoke rules and regulations for its
administration. The Board, in the exercise of this power, may correct any
defect, omission or inconsistency in the Plan or in any Stock Award Agreement,
in a manner and to the extent it shall deem necessary or expedient to make the
Plan fully effective.

               (3) To amend the Plan or a Stock Award as provided in Section
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               (4) Generally, to exercise such powers and to perform such acts
as the Board deems necessary or expedient to promote the best interests of the
Company which are not in conflict with the provisions of the Plan.

        (c) The Board may delegate administration of the Plan to a committee or
committees ("Committee") of one or more members of the Board. In the discretion
of the Board, a Committee may consist solely of two (2) or more Outside
Directors, in accordance with Code Section 162(m), or solely of two (2) or more
Non-Employee Directors, in accordance with Rule 16b-3. If administration is
delegated to a Committee, the Committee shall have, in connection with the
administration of the Plan, the powers theretofore possessed by the Board (and
references in this Plan to the Board shall thereafter be to the Committee),
subject, however, to such resolutions, not inconsistent with the provisions of
the Plan, as may be adopted from time to time by the Board. The Board may
abolish the Committee at any time and revest in the Board the administration of
the Plan.

4.      SHARES SUBJECT TO THE PLAN.

        (a) Subject to the provisions of Section 11 relating to adjustments upon
changes in stock, the stock that may be issued pursuant to Stock Awards shall
not exceed in the aggregate two million three hundred thousand (2,300,000)
shares of Common Stock. Such share reserve shall consist of (i) the options
granted under the 1992 Plan and the 1995 Plan which are outstanding as of the
Effective Date plus (ii) the shares available for grant under the 1992 Plan and
the 1995 Plan as of the Effective Date plus (iii) an additional one million five
hundred four thousand three hundred ninety-five (1,504,395) shares of common
stock. If any Stock Award shall for any reason expire or otherwise terminate, in
whole or in part, without having been exercised in full (or vested in the case
of Restricted Stock), the stock not acquired under such Stock Award shall revert
to and again become available for issuance under the Plan.

        (b) The stock subject to the Plan may be unissued shares or reacquired
shares, bought on the market or otherwise.

5.      ELIGIBILITY.

        (a) Incentive Stock Options may be granted only to Employees. Stock
Awards other than Incentive Stock Options may be granted only to Employees,
Directors or Consultants.

        (b) No person shall be eligible for the grant of an Incentive Stock
Option if, at the time of grant, such person owns (or is deemed to own pursuant
to Section 424(d) of the Code) stock possessing more than ten percent (10%) of
the total combined voting power of all classes of stock of the Company or of any
of its Affiliates unless the exercise price of such Option is at least one
hundred ten percent (110%) of the Fair Market Value of such stock at the date of
grant and the Option is not exercisable after the expiration of five (5) years
from the date of grant.
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        (c) Subject to the provisions of Section 11 relating to adjustments upon
changes in stock, no person shall be eligible to be granted Stock Awards
covering more than five hundred thousand (500,000) shares of Common Stock in any
calendar year.

6.      OPTION PROVISIONS.

        Each Option shall be in such form and shall contain such terms and
conditions as the Board shall deem appropriate. The provisions of separate
Options need not be identical, but each Option shall include (through
incorporation of provisions hereof by reference in the Option or otherwise) the
substance of each of the following provisions:

        (a) TERM. No Option shall be exercisable after the expiration of ten
(10) years from the date it was granted.

        (b) PRICE. The exercise price of each Incentive Stock Option shall be
not less than one hundred percent (100%) of the Fair Market Value of the stock
subject to the Option on the date the Option is granted, and the exercise price
of each Nonstatutory Stock Option shall be not less than eighty-five percent
(85%) of the Fair Market Value of the stock subject to the Option on the date
the Option is granted. Notwithstanding the foregoing, an Option may be granted
with an exercise price lower than that set forth in the preceding sentence if
such Option is granted pursuant to an assumption or substitution for another
option in a manner satisfying the provisions of Section 424(a) of the Code.

        (c) CONSIDERATION. The purchase price of stock acquired pursuant to an
Option shall be paid, to the extent permitted by applicable statutes and
regulations, either (i) in cash at the time the Option is exercised, or (ii) at
the discretion of the Board or Committee, at the time of the grant of the
Option, (A) by delivery to the Company of other Common Stock of the Company, (B)
according to a deferred payment or other arrangement (which may include, without
limiting the generality of the foregoing, the use of other Common Stock of the
Company) with the person to whom the Option is granted or to whom the Option is
transferred pursuant to subsection 6(d), or (C) in any other form of legal
consideration that may be acceptable to the Board. In the case of any deferred
payment arrangement, interest shall be payable at least annually and shall be
charged at the minimum rate of interest necessary to avoid the treatment as
interest, under any applicable provisions of the Code, of any amounts other than
amounts stated to be interest under the deferred payment arrangement.

        (d) TRANSFERABILITY. An Incentive Stock Option shall not be transferable
except by will or by the laws of descent and distribution, and shall be
exercisable during the lifetime of the person to whom the Incentive Stock Option
is granted only by such person. A Nonstatutory Stock Option may be transferred
to the extent provided in the Option Agreement; provided that if the Option
Agreement does not expressly permit the transfer of a Nonstatutory Stock Option,
the Nonstatutory Stock Option shall not be transferable except by will, by the
laws of descent and distribution or pursuant to a domestic relations order
satisfying the requirements of Rule 16b-3,

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and shall be exercisable during the lifetime of the person to whom the Option is
granted only by such person or any transferee pursuant to a domestic relations
order. Notwithstanding the foregoing, the person to whom the Option is granted
may, by delivering written notice to the Company, in a form satisfactory to the
Company, designate a third party who, in the event of the death of the Optionee,
shall thereafter be entitled to exercise the Option.

        (e) VESTING. The total number of shares of stock subject to an Option
may, but need not, be allotted in periodic installments (which may, but need
not, be equal). The Option Agreement may provide that from time to time during
each of such installment periods, the Option may become exercisable ("vest")
with respect to some or all of the shares allotted to that period, and may be
exercised with respect to some or all of the shares allotted to such period
and/or any prior period as to which the Option became vested but was not fully
exercised. The Option may be subject to such other terms and conditions on the
time or times when it may be exercised (which may be based on performance or
other criteria) as the Board may deem appropriate. The provisions of this
subsection 6(e) are subject to any Option provisions governing the minimum
number of shares as to which an Option may be exercised.

        (f) TERMINATION OF EMPLOYMENT OR RELATIONSHIP AS A DIRECTOR OR
CONSULTANT. In the event an Optionee's Continuous Status as an Employee,
Director or Consultant terminates (other than upon the Optionee's death or
disability), the Optionee may exercise his or her Option within such period of
time designated by the Board, which shall in no event be later than the
expiration of the term of the Option as set forth in the Option Agreement (the
"Post-Termination Exercise Period") and only to the extent that the Optionee was
entitled to exercise the Option on the date Optionee's Continuous Status as an
Employee, Director or Consultant terminates. In the case of an Incentive Stock
Option, the Board shall determine the Post-Termination Exercise Period at the
time the Option is granted, and the term of such Post-Termination Exercise
Period shall in no event exceed three (3) months from the date of termination.
In addition, the Board may at any time, with the consent of the Optionee, extend
the Post-Termination Exercise Period and provide for continued vesting; provided
however, that any extension of such period by the Board in excess of three (3)
months from the date of termination shall cause an Incentive Stock Option so
extended to become a Nonstatutory Stock Option, effective as of the date of
Board action. If, at the date of termination, the Optionee is not entitled to
exercise his or her entire Option, the shares covered by the unexercisable
portion of the Option shall revert to the Plan. If, after termination, the
Optionee does not exercise his or her Option within the time specified in the
Option Agreement or as otherwise determined above, the Option shall terminate,
and the shares covered by such Option shall revert to the Plan. Notwithstanding
the foregoing, the Board shall have the power to permit an Option to continue to
vest during the Post-Termination Exercise Period.

        (g) DISABILITY OF OPTIONEE. In the event an Optionee's Continuous Status
as an Employee, Director or Consultant terminates as a result of the Optionee's
disability, the Optionee may exercise his or her Option (to the extent that the
Optionee was entitled to exercise it at the date of termination), but only
within such period of time ending on the earlier of (i) the


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date twelve (12) months following such termination (or such longer or shorter
period specified in the Option Agreement, which is no event shall be less than
six (6) months), or (ii) the expiration of the term of the Option as set forth
in the Option Agreement. If, at the date of termination, the Optionee is not
entitled to exercise his or her entire Option, the shares covered by the
unexercisable portion of the Option shall revert to and again become available
for issuance under the Plan. If, after termination, the Optionee does not
exercise his or her Option within the time specified herein, the Option shall
terminate, and the shares covered by such Option shall revert to and again
become available for issuance under the Plan.

        (h) DEATH OF OPTIONEE. In the event of the death of an Optionee during,
or within a three (3) month period after the termination of, the Optionee's
Continuous Status as an Employee, Director or Consultant, the Option may be
exercised to the extent vested by the Optionee's estate, by a person who
acquired the right to exercise the Option by bequest or inheritance or by a
person designated to exercise the option upon the Optionee's death pursuant to
subsection 6(d), but only within the period ending on the earlier of (i) the
date eighteen (18) months following the date of death (or such longer or shorter
period specified in the Option Agreement, which in no event shall be less than
six (6) months), or (ii) the expiration of the term of such Option as set forth
in the Option Agreement. If, at the time of death, the Optionee was not entitled
to exercise his or her entire Option, the shares covered by the unexercisable
portion of the Option shall revert to and again become available for issuance
under the Plan. If, after death, the Option is not exercised within the time
specified herein, the Option shall terminate, and the shares covered by such
Option shall revert to and again become available for issuance under the Plan.

        (i) EARLY EXERCISE. The Option may, but need not, include a provision
whereby the Optionee may elect at any time while an Employee, Director or
Consultant to exercise the Option as to any part or all of the shares subject to
the Option prior to the full vesting of the Option. Any unvested shares so
purchased may be subject to a repurchase right in favor of the Company or to any
other restriction the Board determines to be appropriate.

7.      TERMS OF STOCK BONUSES AND PURCHASES OF RESTRICTED STOCK.

        Each stock bonus or restricted stock purchase agreement shall be in such
form and shall contain such terms and conditions as the Board or Committee shall
deem appropriate. The terms and conditions of stock bonus or restricted stock
purchase agreements may change from time to time, and the terms and conditions
of separate agreements need not be identical, but each stock bonus or restricted
stock purchase agreement shall include (through incorporation of provisions
hereof by reference in the agreement or otherwise) the substance of each of the
following provisions as appropriate:

        (a) PURCHASE PRICE. The purchase price under each restricted stock
purchase agreement shall be such amount as the Board or Committee shall
determine and designate in such agreement but in no event shall the purchase
price be less than eighty-five percent (85%) of the

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stock's Fair Market Value on the date such award is made. Notwithstanding the
foregoing, the Board or Committee may determine that eligible participants in
the Plan may be awarded stock pursuant to a stock bonus agreement in
consideration for past services actually rendered to the Company for its
benefit.

        (b) TRANSFERABILITY. No rights under a stock bonus or restricted stock
purchase agreement shall be transferable except by will or the laws of descent
and distribution or, if the agreement so provides, pursuant to a domestic
relations order satisfying the requirements of Rule 16b-3, so long as stock
awarded under such agreement remains subject to the terms of the agreement.

        (c) CONSIDERATION. The purchase price of stock acquired pursuant to a
stock purchase agreement shall be paid either: (i) in cash at the time of
purchase; (ii) at the discretion of the Board or Committee, according to a
deferred payment or other arrangement with the person to whom the stock is sold;
or (iii) in any other form of legal consideration that may be acceptable to the
Board or Committee in its discretion. Notwithstanding the foregoing, the Board
or Committee to which administration of the Plan has been delegated may award
stock pursuant to a stock bonus agreement in consideration for past services
actually rendered to the Company or for its benefit.

        (d) VESTING. Shares of stock sold or awarded under the Plan may, but
need not, be subject to a repurchase option in favor of the Company in
accordance with a vesting schedule to be determined by the Board or Committee.

        (e) TERMINATION OF CONTINUOUS STATUS AS AN EMPLOYEE, DIRECTOR OR
CONSULTANT. In the event a Participant's Continuous Status as an Employee,
Director or Consultant terminates, the Company may repurchase or otherwise
reacquire any or all of the shares of stock held by that person which have not
vested as of the date of termination under the terms of the stock bonus or
restricted stock purchase agreement between the Company and such person.

8.      COVENANTS OF THE COMPANY.

        (a) During the terms of the Stock Awards, the Company shall keep
available at all times the number of shares of stock required to satisfy such
Stock Awards.

        (b) The Company shall seek to obtain from each regulatory commission or
agency having jurisdiction over the Plan such authority as may be required to
issue and sell shares under Stock Awards; provided, however, that this
undertaking shall not require the Company to register under the Securities Act
of 1933, as amended (the "Securities Act") either the Plan, any Stock Award or
any stock issued or issuable pursuant to any such Stock Award. If, after
reasonable efforts, the Company is unable to obtain from any such regulatory
commission or agency the authority which counsel for the Company deems necessary
for the lawful issuance and sale of stock under the Plan, the Company shall be
relieved from any liability for failure to issue

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and sell stock upon exercise of such Stock Awards unless and until such
authority is obtained.

9.      USE OF PROCEEDS FROM STOCK.

        Proceeds from the sale of stock pursuant to Stock Awards shall
constitute general funds of the Company.

10.     MISCELLANEOUS.

        (a) The Board shall have the power to accelerate the time at which a
Stock Award may first be exercised or the time during which a Stock Award or any
part thereof will vest, notwithstanding the provisions in the Stock Award
stating the time at which it may first be exercised or the time during which it
will vest.

        (b) Neither an Employee, Director nor a Consultant nor any person to
whom a Stock Award is transferred in accordance with the Plan shall be deemed to
be the holder of, or to have any of the rights of a holder with respect to, any
shares subject to such Stock Award unless and until such person has satisfied
all requirements for exercise of the Stock Award pursuant to its terms.

        (c) Nothing in the Plan or any instrument executed or Stock Award
granted pursuant thereto shall confer upon any Employee, Consultant or other
holder of Stock Awards any right to continue in the employ of the Company or any
Affiliate, or to continue serving as a Consultant and Director, or shall affect
the right of the Company or any Affiliate to terminate the employment of any
Employee with or without notice and with or without cause, or the right to
terminate the relationship of any Consultant pursuant to the terms of such
Consultant's agreement with the Company or Affiliate or service as a Director
pursuant to the Company's By-Laws.

        (d) To the extent that the aggregate Fair Market Value (determined at
the time of grant) of stock with respect to which Incentive Stock Options are
exercisable for the first time by any Optionee during any calendar year under
all plans of the Company and its Affiliates exceeds one hundred thousand dollars
($100,000), the Options or portions thereof which exceed such limit (according
to the order in which they were granted) shall be treated as Nonstatutory Stock
Options.

        (e) The Company may require any person to whom a Stock Award is granted,
or any person to whom a Stock Award is transferred in accordance with the Plan,
as a condition of exercising or acquiring stock under any Stock Award, (1) to
give written assurances satisfactory to the Company as to such person's
knowledge and experience in financial and business matters and/or to employ a
purchaser representative reasonably satisfactory to the Company who is
knowledgeable and experienced in financial and business matters, and that he or
she is capable of evaluating, alone or together with the purchaser
representative, the merits and risks of exercising the Stock Award; and (2) to
give written assurances satisfactory to the Company stating that such

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person is acquiring the stock subject to the Stock Award for such person's own
account and not with any present intention of selling or otherwise distributing
the stock. The foregoing requirements, and any assurances given pursuant to such
requirements, shall be inoperative if (i) the issuance of the shares upon the
exercise or acquisition of stock under the Stock Award has been registered under
a then currently effective registration statement under the Securities Act, or
(ii) as to any particular requirement, a determination is made by counsel for
the Company that such requirement need not be met in the circumstances under the
then applicable securities laws. The Company may, upon advice of counsel to the
Company, place legends on stock certificates issued under the Plan as such
counsel deems necessary or appropriate in order to comply with applicable
securities laws, including, but not limited to, legends restricting the transfer
of the stock.

        (f) To the extent provided by the terms of a Stock Award Agreement, the
person to whom a Stock Award is granted may satisfy any federal, state or local
tax withholding obligation relating to the exercise or acquisition of stock
under a Stock Award by any of the following means or by a combination of such
means: (1) tendering a cash payment; (2) authorizing the Company to withhold
shares from the shares of the Common Stock otherwise issuable to the participant
as a result of the exercise or acquisition of stock under the Stock Award; or
(3) delivering to the Company owned and unencumbered shares of the Common Stock
of the Company.

11.     ADJUSTMENTS UPON CHANGES IN STOCK.

        (a) If any change is made in the stock subject to the Plan, or subject
to any Stock Award, without the receipt of consideration by the Company (through
merger, consolidation, reorganization, recapitalization, reincorporation, stock
dividend, dividend in property other than cash, stock split, liquidating
dividend, combination of shares, exchange of shares, change in corporate
structure or other transaction not involving the receipt of consideration by the
Company), the Plan will be appropriately adjusted in the class(es) and maximum
number of shares subject to the Plan and the maximum number of shares subject to
award to any person during any calendar year, and the outstanding Stock Awards
will be appropriately adjusted in the class(es) and number of shares and price
per share of stock subject to such outstanding Stock Awards. Such adjustments
shall be made by the Board or Committee, the determination of which shall be
final, binding and conclusive. (The conversion of any convertible securities of
the Company shall not be treated as a "transaction not involving the receipt of
consideration by the Company.")

        (b) Except as otherwise provided in the Stock Award Agreement, in the
event of: (1) a dissolution, liquidation or sale of substantially all of the
assets of the Company; (2) a merger or consolidation in which the Company is not
the surviving corporation; or (3) a reverse merger in which the Company is the
surviving corporation but the shares of the Common Stock outstanding immediately
preceding the merger are converted by virtue of the merger into other property,
whether in the form of securities, cash or otherwise, then to the extent
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applicable law: (i) any surviving corporation (or an Affiliate thereof shall
assume any Stock Awards outstanding under the Plan or shall substitute similar
Stock Awards for those outstanding under the Plan, or (ii) such Stock Awards
shall continue in full force and effect. Except as otherwise provided in the
Stock Award Agreement, in the event any surviving corporation (or an Affiliate)
refuses to assume or continue such Stock Awards, or to substitute similar Stock
Awards for those outstanding under the Plan, then, with respect to Stock Awards
held by persons then performing services as Employees, Directors or Consultants,
the time during which such Stock Awards may be exercised shall be accelerated
and the Stock Awards terminated if not exercised prior to such event.

12.     AMENDMENT OF THE PLAN AND STOCK AWARDS.

        (a) The Board at any time, and from time to time, may amend the Plan.
However, except as provided in Section 11 relating to adjustments upon changes
in stock, no amendment shall be effective unless approved by the stockholders of
the Company to the extent stockholder approval is necessary for the Plan to
satisfy the requirements of Section 422 of the Code, Rule 16b-3 or any Nasdaq or
securities exchange listing requirements.

        (b) The Board may in its sole discretion submit any other amendment to
the Plan for stockholder approval, including, but not limited to, amendments to
the Plan intended to satisfy the requirements of Section 162(m) of the Code and
the regulations thereunder regarding the exclusion of performance-based
compensation from the limit on corporate deductibility of compensation paid to
certain executive officers.

        (c) It is expressly contemplated that the Board may amend the Plan in
any respect the Board deems necessary or advisable to provide eligible
Employees, Directors or Consultants with the maximum benefits provided or to be
provided under the provisions of the Code and the regulations promulgated
thereunder relating to Incentive Stock Options and/or to bring the Plan and/or
Incentive Stock Options granted under it into compliance therewith.

        (d) Rights and obligations under any Stock Award granted before
amendment of the Plan shall not be impaired by any amendment of the Plan unless
(i) the Company requests the consent of the person to whom the Stock Award was
granted and (ii) such person consents in writing.

        (e) The Board at any time, and from time to time, may amend the terms of
any one or more Stock Award; provided, however, that the rights and obligations
under any Stock Award shall not be impaired by any such amendment unless (i) the
Company requests the consent of the person to whom the Stock Award was granted
and (ii) such person consents in writing.

13.     TERMINATION OR SUSPENSION OF THE PLAN.

        (a) The Board may suspend or terminate the Plan at any time. Unless
sooner

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terminated, the Plan shall terminate ten (10) years from the date the Plan is
adopted by the Board or approved by the stockholders of the Company, whichever
is earlier. No Stock Awards may be granted under the Plan while the Plan is
suspended or after it is terminated.

        (b) Rights and obligations under any Stock Award granted while the Plan
is in effect shall not be impaired by suspension or termination of the Plan,
except with the consent of the person to whom the Stock Award was granted.

14.     STOCKHOLDER APPROVAL.

        No Stock Awards granted under the Plan shall be exercisable in whole or
part unless and until the Plan has been approved by the stockholders of the
Company, which approval shall be within twelve (12) months before or after the
date the Plan is adopted by the Board.

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        STOCK OPTION AGREEMENT


        Pursuant to the Grant Notice and this Stock Option Agreement, the
Company has granted you an option to purchase the number of shares of the
Company's common stock ("Common Stock") indicated in the Grant Notice at the
exercise price indicated in the Grant Notice. Defined terms not explicitly
defined in this Stock Option Agreement but defined in the Plan shall have the
same definitions as in the Plan.

        The details of your option are as follows:


        1. VESTING. Subject to the limitations contained herein, your option
will vest as provided in the Grant Notice, provided that vesting will cease upon
the termination of your Continuous Status as an Employee, Director or
Consultant.

        2. METHOD OF PAYMENT.

               (a) PAYMENT OPTIONS. Payment of the exercise price by cash or
check is due in full upon exercise of all or any part of your option, provided
that you may elect, to the extent permitted by applicable law and the Grant
Notice, to make payment of the exercise price under one of the following
alternatives:

                          (i) Payment pursuant to a program developed under
Regulation T as promulgated by the Federal Reserve Board which, prior to the
issuance of Common Stock, results in either the receipt of cash (or check) by
the Company or the receipt of irrevocable instructions to pay the aggregate
exercise price to the Company from the sales proceeds;

                         (ii Provided that at the time of exercise the Company's
Common Stock is publicly traded and quoted regularly in the Wall Street Journal,
payment by delivery of already-owned shares of Common Stock, held for the period
required to avoid a charge to the Company's reported earnings, and owned free
and clear of any liens, claims, encumbrances or security interests, which Common
Stock shall be valued at its fair market value on the date of exercise; or

                        (iii) Payment by a combination of the above methods.

        3. WHOLE SHARES. Your option may only be exercised for whole shares.

        4. SECURITIES LAW COMPLIANCE. Notwithstanding anything to the contrary
contained herein, your option may not be exercised unless the shares issuable
upon exercise of your option are then registered under the Securities Act or, if
such shares are not then so registered, the Company has determined that such
exercise and issuance would be exempt from the registration requirements of the
Securities Act.

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        5. TERM. The term of your option commences on the Date of Grant and
expires upon the earliest of:

                        (i) the Expiration Date indicated in the Grant Notice;

                        (ii) the tenth (10th) anniversary of the Date of Grant;

                        (iii) eighteen (18) months after your death, if you die
during, or within three (3) months after the termination of your Continuous
Status as Employee, Director or Consultant;

                        (iv) twelve (12) months after the termination of your
Continuous Status as Employee, Director or Consultant due to disability;

                        (v) immediately after the termination of your Continuous
Status as Employee, Director or Consultant for Cause; or

                        (vi) three (3) months after the termination of your
Continuous Status as an Employee, Director or Consultant for any other reason,
provided that if during any part of such three (3) month period the option is
not exercisable solely because of the condition set forth in paragraph 4
(Securities Law Compliance), in which event the option shall not expire until
the earlier of the Expiration Date or until it shall have been exercisable for
an aggregate period of three (3) months after the termination of Continuous
Status as an Employee, Director or Consultant.

               For these purposes, "Cause" shall include, but not be limited to,
the commission of any act of fraud, embezzlement or dishonesty, any unauthorized
use or disclosure of confidential information or trade secrets of the Company,
or any other intentional misconduct adversely affecting the business or affairs
of the Company in a material manner. The foregoing definition shall not be
deemed to be inclusive of all the acts or omissions which the Company may
consider as ground for your dismissal or discharge.

               To obtain the federal income tax advantages associated with an
"incentive stock option," the Code requires that at all times beginning on the
grant date of the option and ending on the day three (3) months before the date
of the option's exercise, you must be an employee of the Company, except in the
event of your death or permanent and total disability. The Company cannot
guarantee that your option will be treated as an "incentive stock option" if you
exercise your option more than three (3) months after the date your employment
with the Company terminates.

        6.     EXERCISE.

               (a) You may exercise the vested portion of your option during its
term (and the


                                       2.
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unvested portion of your option if the Grant Notice so permits) by delivering a
notice of exercise (in a form designated by the Company) together with the
exercise price to the Secretary of the Company, or to such other person as the
Company may designate, during regular business hours, together with such
additional documents as the Company may then require.

               (b)  By exercising your option you agree that:

                        (i) as a condition to any exercise of your option, the
Company may require you to enter an arrangement providing for the payment by you
to the Company of any tax withholding obligation of the Company arising by
reason of (1) the exercise of your option; (2) the lapse of any substantial risk
of forfeiture to which the shares are subject at the time of exercise; or (3)
the disposition of shares acquired upon such exercise;

                        (ii) you will notify the Company in writing within
fifteen (15) days after the date of any disposition of any of the shares of the
Common Stock issued upon exercise of an incentive stock option that occurs
within two (2) years after the Date of Grant or within one (1) year after such
shares of Common Stock are transferred upon exercise of your option; and

                        (iii) the Company (or a representative of the
underwriters) may, in connection with the first underwritten registration of the
offering of any securities of the Company under the Act, require that you not
sell or otherwise transfer or dispose of any shares of Common Stock or other
securities of the Company during such period (not to exceed one hundred eighty
(180) days) following the effective date of the registration statement of the
Company filed under the Act as may be requested by the Company or the
representative of the underwriters. You further agree that the Company may
impose stop-transfer instructions with respect to securities subject to the
foregoing restrictions until the end of such period.

        7. TRANSFERABILITY. Your option is not transferable, except by will or
by the laws of descent and distribution, and is exercisable during your life
only by you. Notwithstanding the foregoing, by delivering written notice to the
Company, in a form satisfactory to the Company, you may designate a third party
who, in the event of your death, shall thereafter be entitled to exercise your
option.

        8. OPTION NOT A SERVICE CONTRACT. Your option is not an employment
contract and nothing in your option shall be deemed to create in any way
whatsoever any obligation on your part to continue in the employ of the Company,
or of the Company to continue your employment with the Company. In addition,
nothing in your option shall obligate the Company, its shareholders, board of
directors, officers or employees to continue any relationship which you might
have as a director or consultant for the Company.

        9. NOTICES. Any notices provided for in your option or the Plan shall be
given in writing and shall be deemed effectively given upon receipt or, in the
case of notices delivered by the Company to you, five (5) days after deposit in
the United States mail, postage prepaid, addressed to you at the last address
you provided to the Company.


                                       3.
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        10. GOVERNING PLAN DOCUMENT. Your option is subject to all the
provisions of the Plan, the provisions of which are hereby made a part of your
option, including without limitation the provisions of the Plan relating to
option provisions, and is further subject to all interpretations, amendments,
rules and regulations which may from time to time be promulgated and adopted
pursuant to the Plan. In the event of any conflict between the provisions of
your option and those of the Plan, the provisions of the Plan shall control.



                                       4.

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                        IL FORNAIO (AMERICA) CORPORATION

                            STOCK OPTION GRANT NOTICE
                          (1997 EQUITY INCENTIVE PLAN)


IL FORNAIO (AMERICA) CORPORATION (the "Company"), pursuant to its 1997 Equity
Incentive Plan (the "Plan"), hereby grants to Optionee an option to purchase the
number of shares of the Company's common stock set forth below. This option is
subject to all of the terms and conditions as set forth herein and in
Attachments I, II and III, which are incorporated herein in their entirety.


Optionee:                           -Optionee-
                                    -------------------------------------------
Date of Grant:
                                    -------------------------------------------
Vesting Commencement Date:
                                    -------------------------------------------
Shares Subject to Option:           -Shares-
                                    -------------------------------------------
Exercise Price Per Share:
                                    -------------------------------------------
Expiration Date:


                                    -------------------------------------------

   X    Incentive Stock Option                  Nonstatutory Stock Option
--------                            ----------

        EXERCISE SCHEDULE:   Exercisable as vested.

        VESTING SCHEDULE:    4 equal annual installments commencing on the first
                             anniversary of the Vesting Commencement Date.

PAYMENT: Any or a combination of the following: (i) by cash or check, (ii)
pursuant to a Regulation T program, as set forth in the Stock Option Agreement
or (iii) delivering shares of previously-owned common stock, as set forth in the
Stock Option Agreement.

ADDITIONAL TERMS/ACKNOWLEDGEMENTS: The undersigned Optionee acknowledges receipt
of, and understands and agrees to, this Grant Notice, the Stock Option Agreement
and the Plan. Optionee further acknowledges that as of the Date of Grant, this
Grant Notice, the Stock Option Agreement and the Plan set forth the entire
understanding between Optionee and the Company regarding the acquisition of
stock in the Company and supersedes all prior oral and written agreements on
that subject with the exception of (i) options previously granted and delivered
to Optionee under the Plan, and (ii) the following agreements only:

        OTHER AGREEMENTS:
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IL FORNAIO (AMERICA) CORPORATION            OPTIONEE:

By:
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                                            Signature

Title:
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Date:                                       Date:
      --------------------------------           -------------------------------


Attachment I:  Stock Option Agreement
Attachment II: 1997 Equity Incentive Plan
Attachment III:  Notice of Exercise