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                                                                   EXHIBIT 10.30









                            THE NEW METROPOLITAN LIFE

                 SUPPLEMENTAL AUXILIARY RETIREMENT BENEFITS PLAN




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                            THE NEW METROPOLITAN LIFE
                 SUPPLEMENTAL AUXILIARY RETIREMENT BENEFITS PLAN


         Metropolitan Life Insurance Company (the Company) hereby establishes
The New Metropolitan Life Supplemental Auxiliary Retirement Benefits Plan (the
Plan), effective January 1, 1996.

                                   Article 1
                                Purpose of Plan

         The sole purpose of the Plan is to provide to participants and their
beneficiaries under the Metropolitan Life Retirement Plan for United States
Employees ("the Retirement Plan") the excess amount that would have been payable
under the Retirement Plan in the absence of the limitations under section
1.415-2(d)(2) of the Income Tax Regulations that excludes salary deferred under
the Company's deferred salary and sales commission arrangements.

                                   Article 2
                                 Participation

         (A) Except as provided in Paragraph (B) below, a Participant under the
Plan is any Company employee participating in the Retirement Plan whose
compensation, as defined in the Retirement Plan, is in excess of the limitation
described in Section 401(a)(17) of the Internal Revenue Code and whose benefits
are reduced because of the application of section 1.415-2(d)(2) of the Internal
Revenue Regulations because of the exclusion of salary deferred under the
Company's deferred salary arrangements.

         (B) (1) No individual shall be a Participant if on or after January 1,
1995 he or she is either (i) a member of the Executive Council participating in
the Company's Long Term Performance Compensation Plan or (ii) a member of the
President's Council for 3-consecutive years participating in the MetLife
Executive Life Insurance Program.

         (2) If on or after January 1, 1995 a Participant under the Plan becomes
either (i) a member of the Executive Council participating in the Company's Long
Term Compensation Plan or (ii) a member of the President's Council for
3-consecutive years participating in the MetLife Executive Life Insurance
Program, his or her Participation in the Plan shall cease on that date and all
the benefits under the Plan that accrued through that date shall be forfeited
under this Plan; instead, such accruals shall be part of such

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individual's benefits under the Metropolitan Life Supplemental Retirement
Plan in which he or she will be a participant.

                                   Article 3
                              Payment of Benefits

         (A) Benefits under this Plan shall be payable to a Participant in an
amount equal to the difference between

                (i) the largest amount (without duplication of amount) that
would have been payable to the Participant under the Retirement Plan, had the
Retirement Plan not been subject to the deferred compensation income exclusion
under section 1.415-2(d)(2) of the Internal Revenue Regulations with respect to
the Company's deferred salary and sales commission arrangements; less

                (ii) the amounts of benefits payable under the Retirement Plan
and the Metropolitan Life Auxiliary Retirement Benefits Plan (i.e., the
predecessor plan to this Plan).

         (B) Benefits payable under this Plan shall be payable in the same form
and at the same times as the benefits under the Retirement Plan, and shall not
in combination with the benefits earned under the Retirement Plan, the
Metropolitan Life Auxiliary Retirement Benefits Plan and the New Metropolitan
Life Auxiliary Retirement Benefits Plan exceed the limitations on benefits
established by regulations of the New York Insurance Department.

                                   Article 4
                                  Unfunded Plan

         The Plan is completely unfunded, and payment of benefits is supported
only by the general assets of the Company. This Plan is entirely separate from
the Retirement Plan, the Metropolitan Life Auxiliary Retirement Benefits Plan,
the New Metropolitan Life Auxiliary Retirement Benefits Plan, and the
Metropolitan Supplemental Retirement Benefits Plan, and Participation in this
Plan gives a Participant no right to any funds or assets of the Retirement Plan,
the Metropolitan Life Auxiliary Retirement Benefits Plan, the New Metropolitan
Life Auxiliary Retirement Benefits Plan, or the Metropolitan Life Supplemental
Retirement Benefits Plan. The fact that contracts or certificates of the Company
may be distributed to recipients of benefits under the Retirement Plan in
discharge of the Company's obligations thereunder shall in no way entitle a
Participant in


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this Plan to receive any such contract or certificate in discharge of the
Company's obligations hereunder.

                                   Article 5
                  Non-transferability of Participant's Interest

         No Participant shall have any power or right to transfer, assign,
mortgage, commute or otherwise encumber any of the benefits payable hereunder,
nor shall such benefits be subject to seizure for the payment of any debts or
judgments, or be transferable by operation of law in the event of bankruptcy,
insolvency or otherwise.

                                   Article 6
                                 Effect of Taxes

         In making payments under this Plan, the Company shall withhold any
Federal, state or local income or other taxes it determines that it is legally
obligated to withhold. In the event the payments received by the Participant
incur greater tax burdens (whether income, estate or other tax burdens) than
would such payments if they had been able to be received under the Retirement
Plan, the Company shall have no obligation to reimburse the Participant for such
greater tax burdens.

                                   Article 7
                         Company Interpretation Binding

         In the event of a difference of opinion between a Participant and the
Company with respect to the meaning or application of the provisions of the
Plan, the Company's final interpretation shall be set forth in writing to the
Participant and shall be binding and conclusive.

                                   Article 8
                                  Governing Law

         To the extent not inconsistent with Federal law, the validity of the
Plan and its provisions shall be construed according to the laws of the State of
New York.


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                                   Article 9
                        Amendment and Termination of Plan

         The Company through the Nominating and Compensation Committee of the
Board of Directors of the Company reserves the right to amend or terminate this
Plan hereunder at any time without the consent of any Participant or of any
other person. However, any such amendment or termination will not affect
adversely the entitlement to benefits hereunder of any Participant receiving
benefits under the Plan at or prior to the time of such amendment or termination
or of an employee who is a Participant in the Retirement Plan at or prior to the
time of such amendment or termination to the extent such benefits are
attributable to Company service prior to the date of such amendment or
termination.


--------------------------                  METROPOLITAN LIFE INSURANCE COMPANY
Date

                                            By
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-------------------------
Witness




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                                AMENDMENT TO THE
                              NEW METROPOLITAN LIFE
                 SUPPLEMENTAL AUXILIARY RETIREMENT BENEFITS PLAN

                The NEW METROPOLITAN LIFE SUPPLEMENTAL AUXILIARY
        RETIREMENT BENEFITS PLAN ("Plan") is hereby amended as follows:


         1.  Article 1 of the Plan is hereby amended to provide as follows:

                  "Article 1 - Purpose of Plan

                  The purpose of the Plan is to provide to certain participants
         employed by Metropolitan Life Insurance Company (the Company) and
         Metropolitan Property and Casualty Insurance Company (the Subsidiary)
         and their beneficiaries under the Metropolitan Life Retirement Plan for
         United States Employees ("the Retirement Plan") the excess amount that
         would have been payable under the Retirement Plan in the absence of the
         limitations under section 1.415-2(d)(2) of the Income Tax Regulations
         that excludes salary deferred under the Company's deferred salary and
         sales commission arrangements."

         2. Article 2 of the Plan is hereby amended as follows:

                  "Article 2 - Participation

                  (A) Except as provided in Paragraph (B) below, a Participant
         under the Plan is any Company or Subsidiary employee participating in
         the Retirement Plan whose compensation, as defined in the Retirement
         Plan, is in excess of the

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         limitation described in Section 401(a)(17) of the Internal Revenue Code
         and whose benefits are reduced because of the application of section
         1.415-2(d)(2) of the Internal Revenue Regulations because of the
         exclusion of salary deferred under the Company's deferred salary
         arrangements.

                  (B)(1) No individual shall be a Participant if on or after
         January 1, 1995 he or she (i) was a member of the Executive Council at
         the time the Executive Council was disbanded and who participated in
         the Company's Long Term Performance Compensation Plan; (ii) holds the
         title of Senior Vice President or higher; (iii) is a member of the
         President's Council for 3-consecutive years participating in the
         MetLife Executive Life Insurance Program; or (iv) he or she has been
         inducted into the Sales Representative Hall of Fame and has attained
         the age of 65.

                  (2) If on or after January 1, 1995 a Participant under the
         Plan (i) was a member of the Executive Council at the time the
         Executive Council was disbanded and who participated in the Company's
         Long Term Performance Compensation Plan; (ii) holds the title of Senior
         Vice President or higher; (iii) is a member of the President's Council
         for 3-consecutive years participating in the MetLife Executive Life
         Insurance Program; or (iv) he or she has been inducted into the Sales
         Representative Hall of Fame and has attained the age of 65, his or her
         Participation in the Plan shall cease on that date and all the benefits
         under the Plan that accrued



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         through that date shall be forfeited under this Plan; instead, such
         accruals shall be part of such individual's benefits under the
         Metropolitan Life Supplemental Retirement Plan in which he or she will
         be a participant."

         3. Article 4 of the Plan is hereby amended as follows:

                  "Article 4.  Unfunded Plan.

                  The Plan is completely unfunded, and payment of benefits is
         supported only by the general assets of the Company or the Subsidiary.
         This Plan is entirely separate from the Retirement Plan, the
         Metropolitan Life Auxiliary Retirement Benefits Plan, the New
         Metropolitan Life Auxiliary Retirement Benefits Plan, and the
         Metropolitan Supplemental Retirement Benefits Plan, and Participation
         in this Plan gives a Participant no right to any funds or assets of the
         Retirement Plan, the Metropolitan Life Auxiliary Retirement Benefits
         Plan, the New Metropolitan Life Auxiliary Retirement Benefits Plan, or
         the Metropolitan Life Supplemental Retirement Benefits Plan. The fact
         that contracts or certificates of the Company may be distributed to
         recipients of benefits under the Retirement Plan in discharge of the
         Company's or the Subsidiary's obligations thereunder shall in no way
         entitle a Participant in this Plan to receive any such contract or
         certificate in discharge of the Company's or the Subsidiary's
         obligations hereunder."

         4. Article 6 of the Plan is hereby amended as follows:

                  "Article 6.  Effect of Taxes

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                  In making payments under this Plan, the Company and the
         Subsidiary shall withhold any Federal, state or local income or other
         taxes it determines that it is legally obligated to withhold. In the
         event the payments received by the Participant incur greater tax
         burdens (whether income, estate or other tax burdens) than would such
         payments if they had been able to be received under the Retirement
         Plan, the Company and the Subsidiary shall have no obligation to
         reimburse the Participant for such greater tax burdens."

         5. This amendment shall be effective on January 1, 1999.


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                  IN WITNESS WHEREOF, the Company has caused this amendment to
         be executed in its name and behalf this ____ day of _______________,
         1999, by its officer thereunto duly authorized.

                                    Metropolitan Life Insurance Company

                                    By   _______________________________
ATTEST:

 _______________________________

                                    Metropolitan Property and Casualty Insurance
                                    Company

                                    By   _________________________________
ATTEST:

 _______________________________


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