helpingyourchild

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through early adolescence

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tips for parents

As children enter the middle grades, parents often become less

involved in their lives. However, adolescents need as much attention

and love from their parents as they did when they were younger—

possibly more!

Here are some tips to help your child through early adolescence:

✪ Stay involved in your child’s life, both inside and outside of school;

✪ Provide both unconditional love and appropriate limits to help your

child thrive and feel safe;

✪ Learn as much as you can about early adolescence;

✪ Talk with your child often about what is most important to

him or her;

✪ Hold your child to high, but realistic, standards;

✪ Show that you value education;

✪ Provide opportunities for your teenager to succeed;

✪ Monitor your child’s friendships;

✪ Work with your child to become more aware of the media and how

to use the media appropriately;

✪ Model good behavior;

✪ Be alert to major problems; and

✪ Hang in there when times are tough.

resources

This brochure was drawn from the larger booklet in the Helping Your Child

series, “Helping Your Child Through Early Adolescence.” Based on the

latest research in adolescent development and learning, this booklet

addresses parents’ questions, provides suggestions, and tackles issues

that parents of young adolescents (ages 10 through 14) generally find

most challenging. For more information on helping your child during

adolescence and other topics, please visit the Helping Your Child series

Web site at www.ed.gov/parents/academic/help/hyc.html.

For more information on how you can help your young teenager, take a

look at the following resources from the U.S. Department of Education

and other organizations:

U.S. Department of Education: www.ed.gov or 1-800-USA-LEARN

The Parents Portal: www.ed.gov/parents/landing.jhtml

Office of Safe and Drug Free Schools:

www.ed.gov/about/offices/list/osdfs/index.html

Parental Information and Resource Centers:

www.ed.gov/programs/pirc/index.html

National Institute of Child Health and Human Development:

http://www.nichd.nih.gov

NOTE: This document contains information about and from public and private entities and

organizations for the reader’s information. Inclusion does not constitute an endorsement

by the U.S. Department of Education of any entity, organization, products and services

offered, or views expressed. This publication also contains hyperlinks and URLs created

and maintained by outside organizations and are provided for the reader’s convenience.

The Department is not responsible for the accuracy of this information.

Early adolescence can be a difficult time for children and parents

alike. While adolescents are feeling insecure in their identity and

abilities, parents often feel unprepared for the challenges that arise

as their children mature, and they may view the early adolescent

years from ages 10 through 14 as a time just “to get through.” However,

parents should know that they have an important influence on their

children at this stage of development.

Of course, it’s not easy to raise an adolescent. Exhaustion, anxiety, a

lack of support, and limited resources may make it hard for some

parents to be all that they want to be for their children. Additionally,

there are outside influences that distract children and complicate

parents’ nurturing efforts. Whatever the challenges, parents share

one aim: to do the best possible job raising their children.

At the heart of the No Child Left Behind Act, the national effort to

improve education, is the belief that parents should be empowered to

make choices about their children’s education and that a family’s

income or zip code should not determine the quality of that

education. This brochure is based on the larger Helping Your Child

series of publications for parents and families, designed to provide

parents with the latest research and practical information to help

them support their children and ensure their children’s success in

school and in life.

Learning as much as you can about the world of early

adolescence is an important step toward helping your child—

and you—through the fascinating, confusing, and wonderful

years from ages 10 through 14.

We all know that mothers and fathers are the most important

influences in a child's life. Children whose parents show them

love and support and stay active in their lives have an enormous

advantage growing up.

—Mrs. Laura Bush

A parent is a child’s first and most important teacher, which is

why the No Child Left Behind Act of 2001 recognizes parents’

vital role in education.

—Secretary of Education Margaret Spellings

U.S. Department of Education

encouraging learning

and school participation

Education works best when teachers and parents work closely with one another.

Research shows that when parents stay informed about their child’s school

activities and life in general, the child does better in school.

Be a part of your child’s school life by: setting ground rules for your child at the

beginning of the academic year; knowing the school policies for homework;

helping your child get organized; providing an environment at home that

encourages learning; and staying involved in your child’s school. The more visible

you are, the more educators will be able to communicate openly with you.

It is during the middle grades that adolescents build the foundation for lifelong

reading habits. Below are some tips for helping your child be a successful reader:

✪Make sure your home has lots of reading materials that are appropriate for

your child;

✪Encourage your child to use the library;

✪Be a positive role model for reading;

✪Find out from your child’s teachers how they encourage or teach reading;

✪Find out how to help your child if his or her first language is not English; and

✪Get help for your child if he or she has a reading problem.

Your encouragement and support can help your child develop a stronger sense of

self and build confidence.