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One of the most direct ways we can eliminate sexual and gender-based misconduct from our community is to make it unacceptable. Sometimes we see something that we know isn’t right, but we aren’t sure how to address the situation. Click the play button to listen to Tiffany’s story.

Slide 10: Tiffany’s Story

[Slide Information] Tiffany’s Story [Slide Narration]

It started with “compliments.” He would make comments about my clothing like, “That dress really shows off your body.” At first, I brushed it off as me being too sensitive, or as him being socially awkward. One day, we were discussing a patient with two other colleagues. When he saw me with one in my hand, he said, “Wow, that blouse really accentuates your curves. Those Pilates classes are really starting to pay off.” He said it in front of two other people and started walking away. I was shocked and embarrassed. A fast-thinking coworker stepped in and told him that the comment was completely inappropriate for a work environment. He said,"It was a compliment. What's the problem?" My other colleagues tried to make me feel better and after talking for a bit, we discovered that he has said similar things to some of the other women too. It was an uncomfortable situation, and I’m really glad someone said something, and hope things will change for the better.

Slide 11: What Can You Do? (Part 1 of 3: Bystander Intervention, 4Ds – Direct, Delay, Delegate, Distract)

[Slide Information] What can you do? [Slide Narration]

In this situation, a co-worker recognized an unacceptable comment and spoke up. We always want members of our community to speak up, because we cannot stop these behaviors if we do not know they are occurring. If it does not feel safe to intervene, physically, emotionally, or socially, there are avenues where community members can report concerns anonymously. Sometimes when we are in an uncomfortable situation, we feel we might only have two options, to either (a) do something right now or (b) do nothing at all. There are options that you can consider for taking action. Depending on the particular situation you may choose to use “The 4Ds”. Direct, Delay, Delegate, and Distract. When we use the DIRECT option, we are acting immediately to address a situation that is making you or others concerned so that we can minimize the negative effects of the situation. Sometimes, the best option may be to DELAY responding. This can give you or others a chance to pause, reflect, and consider the best path forward. When you use DELAY, you are checking in with those who were involved in or affected by the situation to provide support and assist in generating and implementing solutions. At times, we might not feel we are the best person to intervene in the situation or that we might not have the skills that are necessary. In this case, we might use the DELEGATE option and seek out others who we feel might help us reach a positive conclusion. The DISTRACT option is helpful when you notice a situation that might be causing concern and wish to stop it, but you might not know exactly what to say. DISTRACT helps to draw attention and energy away from the situation. The 4D options can be used in different ways whenever you want to change the energy in a