summarize this "On the other hand, when you think of all of the “Kevin” types of the world,
the “Tyrone” types of the world, the “Kimberly” types of the world, and
probably most importantly, the “Tanya” types of the world, the idea of a strictly
monogamous marriage would appear to potentially create more problems than it
solves, wouldn’t you say?
Remember when I referred to Kevin as being ‘in the dark?’ He had no clue
that Kimberly broke things off with him because she was not feeling sexually
satisfied with him. Similarly, Kevin has no clue that Tanya is also dissatisfied
with his companionship sexually, and really wants to reconnect with Tyrone.
Kevin has no clue that Tanya has no real desire to give birth to his child. He is
literally “clueless.”
Before the days of the internet, many men who were “Kevin” types would
remain ‘clueless’ indefinitely. Then, around 2000, 2001, 2002, the creation of
internet message boards and discussion forums geared toward ‘men-only issues’
gave birth to a world of shared information, knowledge, wisdom and general
men’s dating advice. We refer to this world of shared information and manoriented wisdom as “The MANosphere.”
Soon, you had the “Tyrone” types sharing their experiences with women
with the “Kevin” types. Guys like “Kevin” were like, “Oh my God. Are you
KIDDING me?!?” The men who had experiences similar to “Kevin” on
Monogamy Island became enlightened, but yet, very angry, hurt, and frustrated.
In the world of the MANosphere, a man of Tyrone’s personality and
tendencies would be categorized as what is known as an ‘Alpha male.’ A man
of Kevin’s personality and tendencies would be referred to as a ‘Beta male.’
Generally speaking, an Alpha male is a man who on the positive end, is
very confident, erotically dominant and uninhibited, and exceptionally skilled in
the art of pleasing and satisfying women sexually. On the other hand, his
controversial qualities are the fact that he is very egotistical to one degree or
another, extremely uncompromising, and not at all enthusiastic about spending a
significant amount of 'quality time' with women in a non-physical, non-sexual,
purely platonic manner. Alpha males are not known for being the exceptionally
flattering types, entertaining types, or emotionally empathetic and supportive
types. The vast majority of Alpha male types are pretty ‘self-absorbed.’
Conversely, the prototypical Beta male is a man who, on the positive end, is
much easier to get along with personality wise than the average Alpha male is,
and more often than not, he tends to be much more financially responsible and
self-sufficient (and many times, wealthier) than most of the Alpha male types.
Also, Beta male types are usually very monogamy-oriented and family-oriented.
They usually want to find one good, loyal and monogamous woman, and raise a
family with her.
Sadly, one of the primary attributes about Beta male types that is often
perceived as ‘unappealing’ in the eyes of women is that Beta males have no real
backbone and they present no real ‘challenge’ to a woman’s ego (in other words,
women generally know that they can ‘have their way’ with Beta males and
influence their behavior and dominate them, and they know they can get away
with exhibiting behavior that is spoiled and even somewhat disrespectful to a
degree).
Also Beta males do not possess nearly as much seductive charm nor as
much raw sex appeal as the typical Alpha male does. Their degree of sexual
prowess tends to be perceived as ‘average’ at best, or sometimes even ‘less-thanaverage’ in the eyes of most women, with the possible exception of women who
are virgins or sexually inexperienced. Beta males are considered to be ‘basic,’
‘conventional,’ and ‘vanilla’ in bed. Beta males generally tend to be more
loving in bed, more gentle, and even a bit more submissive and accommodating
sexually.
If society was set up where it was absolutely mandatory that all men and
women could only legally engage in sexual activities with one sex partner and
one sex partner only for their entire adult life, then the concept of a strictly
monogamous marriage would have to be tolerated by the Alpha males (much to
their anger and frustration), but it would more-than-likely be to the general
liking of the vast majority of Beta male types.
We all know that realistically, this is not the case in the real world.
Especially in the 21st Century dating scene.
When it comes to women’s desire for highly enjoyable and satisfying
sexual companionship, and even more so, if a woman has a strong preference for
really ‘kinky’ and ‘raw animal’ type sex, just about all women are going to
prefer the sexual companionship of an Alpha male over a Beta male.
Studies and surveys conducted with women about their most frequently
entertained sexual fantasies have revealed that just about all of the men who
(heterosexual) women fantasize about are men who are very Alpha, incredibly
masculine, extremely kinky, and unapologetically erotically dominant.
The only women who tend to generally be content with the sexual
companionship of Beta male types are women who are virgins, or women who
have only engaged in sexual activities with other Beta male types.
On the flip side, when it comes to women’s desire for accommodating,
flattering and entertaining non-sexual companionship and their desire to have a
man provide them with some degree of financial assistance and support as well
as a high quality, affluent lifestyle, the vast majority of women are always going
to prefer the companionship of Beta male types rather than Alpha male types.
Again, Beta male types are also more known for being more family-oriented and
monogamy-oriented than the average Alpha male is.
MANY WOMEN WANT TO HAVE THEIR CAKE
AND EAT IT TOO
In the world of Erotic Domination & Erotic Submission (i.e., the BDSM
lifestyle) and Polyamory, there is an arrangement known as the ‘Bull-CuckoldHotwife’ arrangement.
Men who operate as ‘Bulls’ for women are men who are very erotically
dominant, free-spirited and kinky, usually possess an athletically proportioned
and fairly muscular physique, an above-average sized penis, and most
importantly, they are very skilled in the art of arousing, pleasing, and satisfying a
woman sexually.
Men who function as ‘Cuckolds’ for women are extremely passive and
subservient when interacting with a woman. These men usually earn a high five
figure salary at minimum, and even more so, a six or seven figure salary.
Cuckolds are committed to remaining faithfully monogamous to their wife or
romantic companion. They provide their wife or romantic companion with the
highest quality of life possible, and if children are involved, they commit
themselves to being the best father that a son or daughter could possibly want.
Many times, Cuckolds will act as a step-father for the children that a woman
conceived with one or more of her Bulls (think about if Kevin, on Monogamy
Island, was willing to raise a son or daughter that was conceived between Tyrone
and Tanya).
The woman who is the ‘Hotwife’ in this arrangement (even if the woman is
unmarried, she is still referred to as a ‘Hotwife’) experiences the best of both
worlds. She has access to one or more Bulls for kinky, enjoyable, and satisfying
sex, and she has a wealthy or financially secure ‘Cuckold’ who will fulfill her
every request and satisfy her every non-sexual and financial need.
For all practical purposes, the Bull-Cuckold-Hotwife arrangement is
somewhat of a microcosm for how many men and women who are not even
involved in the BDSM lifestyle or polyamorous lifestyle are operating these
days."