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# The Difference Between Discipline and Bulldozing
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00:00:00.199 there's a lot of confusion that's going
00:00:02.040 on around when doing something qualifies
00:00:04.720 as being disciplined and when doing
00:00:06.839 something qualifies as bulldozing
00:00:08.760 yourself this confusion is a problem
00:00:11.200 when one is an important element of
00:00:13.280 success and the other is a road to
00:00:15.240 failure for this reason in today's
00:00:17.240 episode I'm going to explain the
00:00:18.680 difference between being disciplined and
00:00:22.920 [Music]
00:00:25.359 bulldozing to understand bulldozing
00:00:27.439 first I want you to imagine an actual
00:00:29.119 bulldozzer
00:00:30.439 when a bulldozer encounters resistance
00:00:32.558 or opposition it drives straight through
00:00:35.000 and over it it will not stop and
00:00:37.120 consider and it will not work with
00:00:39.040 whatever is resisting it so that there's
00:00:40.680 any alignment it in essence plays a zero
00:00:43.280 sum game with whatever is opposing it I
00:00:45.320 win you lose I get my way you don't and
00:00:49.079 this is a recipe for a terrible
00:00:50.879 relationship with yourself and others as
00:00:53.719 well as being a recipe for failure when
00:00:56.199 someone is disciplined or has a high
00:00:58.760 degree of self-discipline what this
00:01:00.719 means is that they have an internal
00:01:02.239 drive to act based on their goals this
00:01:05.280 implies the ability to use their own
00:01:07.119 conscious objective free will to govern
00:01:09.240 their emotional system mind and body and
00:01:12.640 as such they are not controlled by their
00:01:15.119 own thoughts emotions or body even when
00:01:18.720 they encounter resistance when we say
00:01:21.079 that a person is disciplined what we're
00:01:22.720 talking about in layman's terms is that
00:01:24.840 they can take action regardless of the
00:01:27.320 fact that it doesn't feel good or that
00:01:29.680 they do what needs to be done to achieve
00:01:31.400 their goals even though it's difficult
00:01:32.759 or painful or that they pursue what they
00:01:35.399 think is right despite Temptations to
00:01:37.320 abandon it or that they make themselves
00:01:39.360 work hard or behave in a certain way
00:01:41.240 without anyone else having to tell them
00:01:43.040 to do it all of these examples imply
00:01:47.439 that self-discipline has something to do
00:01:49.560 with self-governing as well as the
00:01:51.479 ability to persevere towards one's aim
00:01:54.479 even though there is resistance keep in
00:01:57.000 mind that resistance is any oppositional
00:01:59.520 Force
00:02:00.719 resistance can come from the outside or
00:02:03.799 can come from the inside or both there
00:02:06.799 is a big space between the two extremes
00:02:10.360 of bulldozing right through any
00:02:12.120 resistance you
00:02:13.400 encounter and allowing any resistance
00:02:15.879 you encounter to dictate what you do and
00:02:17.560 don't do in other words ignoring and
00:02:20.760 disregarding
00:02:22.080 resistance and letting the resistance be
00:02:24.360 in control of you discipline and success
00:02:27.640 lies in between these extremes but this
00:02:30.680 in between space is not about balance
00:02:32.879 it's about working directly with your
00:02:34.920 resistance working with resistance means
00:02:37.560 seeing feeling and hearing into it
00:02:40.640 deeply so as to become aware of the
00:02:42.400 cause and the why of the resistance from
00:02:45.200 there it's about resolving that
00:02:46.480 resistance so as to make a decision with
00:02:48.239 your conscious free will that is
00:02:50.080 actually in your best interests doing so
00:02:52.800 will make it so that all of you can say
00:02:54.599 yes to something because it will feel
00:02:56.280 right for you to do potentially even if
00:02:59.920 it comes with discomfort living without
00:03:02.519 discipline means that you are at the
00:03:04.040 mercy of everything around you it means
00:03:06.560 your life is limited when faced with the
00:03:09.040 inevitable downsides of doing something
00:03:11.319 you'll give up on it achieve nothing
00:03:13.560 build up nothing never end up where you
00:03:15.720 want to be you're going to be unreliable
00:03:17.400 unable to plan you're going to be a
00:03:18.640 floater in life you're going to align
00:03:20.720 with your resistance regardless of
00:03:22.519 whether or not that resistance is
00:03:23.879 actually in your best interest or
00:03:25.159 against it you will also fail to delay
00:03:27.840 instant gratification in the face of
00:03:29.760 short-term Temptation you will have
00:03:32.120 ruined every
00:03:33.319 relationship that you have in your life
00:03:35.640 and you will be at the mercy of
00:03:37.040 everything around you including your own
00:03:38.799 mind emotions and body living your life
00:03:41.239 by bulldozing means you are unresponsive
00:03:44.159 to yourself and to the world around you
00:03:46.120 it means you are willing to play Zero
00:03:48.159 Sum games with parts of yourself and
00:03:50.159 with things external to you and by doing
00:03:52.400 so you are choosing to put yourself and
00:03:54.720 others in danger there is valuable
00:03:57.439 information within resistance keep in
00:04:00.200 mind that resistance is not going to be
00:04:02.599 something that you're going to learn the
00:04:04.799 information underneath so that makes you
00:04:06.920 pretty ignorant right ignoring the
00:04:09.000 information can be catastrophic to you
00:04:11.840 and to other people around you and to
00:04:14.360 your success with true discipline you
00:04:16.639 are working with yourself not against
00:04:18.880 yourself like you are with bulldozing an
00:04:21.279 important thing to know is that it
00:04:22.680 doesn't feel good is not the information
00:04:25.040 you're looking for when it comes to what
00:04:26.880 you should and shouldn't do the fact
00:04:28.720 that something does doesn't feel good is
00:04:30.880 simply your alert that there's like a
00:04:32.880 red flag it's the same as hearing the
00:04:35.560 you've got a message ring on your cell
00:04:37.560 phone but it's as strange to decide that
00:04:40.479 this automatically means you shouldn't
00:04:42.120 do something as it is to decide that
00:04:45.080 when you're you've got a message R goes
00:04:47.199 off on your phone it means you need to
00:04:48.840 not do something all it means is you got
00:04:51.880 a message you have to actually see here
00:04:54.840 feel what that message is underneath the
00:04:57.800 alert in order to make the right
00:05:00.160 decision relative to the information
00:05:03.199 that is contained within that message
00:05:06.120 it's very important to know that you and
00:05:08.000 or a part of you are perfectly able and
00:05:10.479 capable of choosing what does not feel
00:05:12.800 good for an important purpose you're
00:05:15.240 able to say yes to negatives and there's
00:05:17.400 a big difference between part of you
00:05:18.880 really saying no to something for some
00:05:21.360 valid reason and part of you saying yes
00:05:23.560 to something even though it doesn't feel
00:05:26.400 good look if all this was not the case
00:05:28.880 you would never EX exercise all you
00:05:30.919 would ever eat is junk food we would
00:05:32.759 never learn anything new say goodbye to
00:05:34.840 All Sports no one would ever go through
00:05:36.800 pregnancy that's for sure you would
00:05:38.400 never work late hours to accomplish
00:05:40.199 something important or anything else
00:05:42.720 involved in accomplishing something
00:05:44.080 important no one would ever leave an
00:05:46.199 abusive relationship there would be no
00:05:48.319 societal revolutions there would be no
00:05:50.400 Innovations regarding the negatives that
00:05:52.240 come with
00:05:53.319 anything the process of healing in
00:05:55.280 general would be out the window okay you
00:05:57.919 get the point right when you hear
00:06:00.000 teachings like follow your joy or listen
00:06:02.280 to your emotional guidance system that
00:06:04.160 doesn't mean never do anything that
00:06:05.639 feels uncomfortable or painful that
00:06:08.120 doesn't mean if it hurts it's wrong that
00:06:10.720 doesn't mean your emotional guidance
00:06:12.000 system is always going to lead you to
00:06:13.599 something that feels good so let it
00:06:15.160 govern your life that also doesn't mean
00:06:17.319 that your feelings are always a
00:06:18.800 reflection of an accurate perception
00:06:21.400 discipline goes hand inand with
00:06:22.880 following your joy and listening to your
00:06:24.720 internal guidance system but for them to
00:06:27.319 operate hand in hand you have got to
00:06:30.400 understand that your emotions and mind
00:06:33.400 and body are simply providing you with
00:06:36.240 information about you and the world
00:06:38.759 around you all day long this information
00:06:42.680 though important is not necessarily
00:06:45.039 always accurate nor is it necessarily a
00:06:48.319 good thing to allow to govern you your
00:06:52.560 conscious awareness and Free Will must
00:06:54.280 heed this information and use it to
00:06:56.960 decide what is right to do given that
00:06:59.039 information
00:07:00.560 if you are making a choice from
00:07:02.120 conscious objective free will often
00:07:04.080 times it becomes obvious that the right
00:07:06.599 choice to make is in the direction of
00:07:08.120 something painful because you align with
00:07:09.840 the reason for doing so okay so now that
00:07:12.639 I've said all of that to understand this
00:07:14.360 difference between discipline and
00:07:15.560 bulldozing and allowing your resistance
00:07:17.000 to rule you completely here's an example
00:07:20.000 or should I say three Bryce is currently
00:07:22.440 obese and has his sight set on losing
00:07:24.400 weight he decides to go on an extreme
00:07:26.479 diet and commit to going to the gym with
00:07:28.440 an aggressive personal training every
00:07:30.120 day because he thinks this is going to
00:07:31.919 get him the fastest results this goes
00:07:34.400 pretty good for about 2 days then he
00:07:36.160 starts to feel deprived and like he's
00:07:37.759 being forced to do something that he
00:07:39.400 really doesn't want to do he has big
00:07:41.919 time resistance to what he is doing none
00:07:44.440 of it feels good brace decides this is
00:07:47.039 normal and forces himself to keep
00:07:49.039 dieting and bulldozes himself to
00:07:50.960 exercise anyway in fact he pushes
00:07:53.599 himself even harder and as if things
00:07:56.240 weren't unenjoyable enough his ankle
00:07:59.120 started is hurting making what he is
00:08:01.599 doing in the gym even harder for him to
00:08:03.800 do he bulldozes through this too and
00:08:06.759 ends up injured as a result guess what
00:08:09.879 he has to take a break to recover but
00:08:12.400 this sends him into a nothing ever works
00:08:14.560 out for me spiral and eventually he
00:08:17.520 breaks down and copes emotionally by
00:08:20.800 binging junk food that is your
00:08:22.919 bulldozing example next example Charlie
00:08:26.240 is also obese and has his sight sit on
00:08:28.400 losing weight he decides to exercise and
00:08:30.720 go on a diet on Monday because of this
00:08:33.159 he's very excited and starts off the
00:08:35.200 morning on Monday by eating cottage
00:08:37.000 cheese and cantaloupe and he takes a
00:08:39.279 45-minute walk at lunchtime two of his
00:08:42.640 friends invite him to a restaurant he
00:08:44.760 goes along looks at the menu at all
00:08:47.160 these delicious options that he could
00:08:48.640 order and realizes that the only thing
00:08:50.600 on his new diet is an overpriced
00:08:53.279 salad well needless to say he starts
00:08:55.480 feeling bad he feels resistance to
00:08:57.160 staying on his new diet when he closes
00:08:59.200 his eyes to see why he's feeling so bad
00:09:01.600 he sees that he's feeling deprived and
00:09:03.760 cut off from enjoyment he immediately
00:09:06.279 decides this is not good and so he lets
00:09:09.120 himself order whatever he really wants
00:09:11.720 off of the menu especially because his
00:09:14.200 friends who want him to feel good are oh
00:09:17.880 so encouraging about him getting
00:09:19.839 whatever he really wants to eat the next
00:09:22.279 morning Charlie feels really tired
00:09:24.240 getting up and he doesn't want to go on
00:09:25.920 a walk because of it even though he does
00:09:28.079 want to lose weight so what does he do
00:09:30.240 in response to the resistance he decides
00:09:32.399 he doesn't want to bulldoze himself and
00:09:33.880 calls it his rest day okay that is an
00:09:36.360 example of your resistance ruling
00:09:39.440 you anti- disipline next example Lyle is
00:09:43.720 also obese and has his sight set on
00:09:45.560 losing weight he decides to hire a
00:09:47.600 personal trainer and cut out all sugar
00:09:49.240 and junk foods from his diet even though
00:09:51.399 his personal trainer was really good and
00:09:53.399 supportive his first day of exercising
00:09:55.200 with this personal trainer made him feel
00:09:56.800 really bad he initially interp Ed that
00:09:59.760 resistance is no we shouldn't be doing
00:10:02.079 this however when this resistance came
00:10:04.920 up he didn't bulldo it nor did he just
00:10:07.440 give into it he decided to sit on a park
00:10:09.839 bench and really become aware of the why
00:10:13.040 behind the way he feels doing so made
00:10:16.079 him aware that he feels bad because
00:10:18.040 working out makes him feel bad about
00:10:20.480 himself because of how little he can
00:10:22.360 currently do that he doesn't really want
00:10:24.480 to go back and feel the physical pain or
00:10:26.480 the shame that he feels when he has to
00:10:28.560 exercise Lyle thinks through the option
00:10:30.680 of quitting based on this reasoning
00:10:32.680 after all he can quit and decides it's
00:10:35.399 actually bad reasoning to quit because
00:10:37.120 it would simply be avoiding shame so
00:10:39.160 instead he decides to dive into that
00:10:41.600 shame with the completion
00:10:43.320 process and doing so brings him back to
00:10:46.560 an initial trauma which he resolves he
00:10:49.600 also decides to do belief work he works
00:10:51.639 on the belief I shouldn't be fat when he
00:10:54.360 does this process he sees that given
00:10:56.200 everything he went through it makes
00:10:57.519 perfect sense that he's fat and has
00:10:59.320 struggle to lose weight for so long he
00:11:01.519 also sees that his personal trainer
00:11:03.079 actually has no judgment towards him
00:11:04.639 being fat and wants to be a support to
00:11:07.200 his health he sees that unlike his
00:11:08.959 stepfather who made him bad and wrong
00:11:10.399 for everything his personal trainer
00:11:12.279 wants him to feel good and to feel good
00:11:13.959 about himself as a result Lyall feels in
00:11:16.959 alignment with exercising even if it
00:11:18.760 isn't comfortable and decides to involve
00:11:20.839 his personal trainer in how he's feeling
00:11:23.360 so that they can work through it
00:11:24.600 together and adjust things accordingly
00:11:26.440 if that feeling arises in a workout
00:11:28.240 session while still remaining committed
00:11:30.399 to working out when Lyall starts to feel
00:11:33.000 like he doesn't want to be on a diet
00:11:34.639 anymore especially when he went to
00:11:36.959 Thanksgiving dinner and saw how many of
00:11:39.639 his absolute favorite foods he would
00:11:41.720 have to say no to he started to question
00:11:44.320 himself about what it was about those
00:11:47.360 foods that he felt so desperate for he
00:11:50.839 realized that it wasn't even like a
00:11:52.160 physical craving he realized it was
00:11:53.880 emotional the part of him that wanted to
00:11:56.000 say screw you to the diet wanted the
00:11:58.240 emotional element of those Foods he
00:12:01.560 Associates those foods with togetherness
00:12:04.200 and comfort something that he really
00:12:06.760 struggles to feel with the people in his
00:12:09.560 family he wants to feel those feelings
00:12:12.519 and also he wants to stop eating foods
00:12:15.199 that are bad for him so with that
00:12:17.639 information he decides to suggest to the
00:12:20.279 family to play a specific game why
00:12:23.639 because Lyall feels that when they play
00:12:26.000 that game everyone's together and there
00:12:28.399 is harmony and he feels comforted kind
00:12:30.839 of like what he was trying to go for
00:12:32.399 with the food he also decides that on
00:12:35.240 special occasions like holidays he's
00:12:36.959 going to let himself have a taste of his
00:12:38.560 favorite foods but to not have a portion
00:12:40.880 of them he also decides that when he's
00:12:43.120 going to have a taste of them he's going
00:12:44.519 to really Savor them and experience them
00:12:46.720 in his whole body so that he won't feel
00:12:48.680 completely deprived and cut off from
00:12:50.240 joint experiences as a result of working
00:12:53.000 with his resistance to make up his mind
00:12:54.839 about what to do about it Lyall stays
00:12:56.839 disciplined to lose weight and he does
00:12:58.760 lose weight
00:12:59.800 not only that he heals a great deal of
00:13:02.040 the emotional and mental patterns that
00:13:04.079 are feeding his obesity because those
00:13:07.320 patterns came up during the process as
00:13:10.560 they would in the form of his resistance
00:13:13.320 to losing weight the moral of the story
00:13:15.760 is when resistance arises you must see
00:13:17.720 it as important you must be responsive
00:13:20.000 to it you must look directly at it you
00:13:22.560 must explore it you must question it you
00:13:25.120 must work with it the why behind
00:13:27.519 resistance is absolutely everything and
00:13:29.920 based off of all the information that
00:13:32.959 that resistance contains you must then
00:13:35.160 make a decision about what is best to do
00:13:37.519 knowing that to act in alignment with
00:13:39.680 your internal drive to act based on your
00:13:42.160 goals this often means saying yes to a
00:13:45.480 specific unwanted thing or to doing
00:13:47.760 something even though it doesn't feel
00:13:51.519 good have a good week
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