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# Are Women just Children?
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00:00:04.400 thank you gentlemen
00:00:06.560 this is rumor control here are the facts
00:00:19.930 [Music]
00:00:23.359 short intro there you go see
00:00:26.640 i am mr efficiency today uh
00:00:30.560 before we get started i want to make
00:00:32.800 sure you guys already know
00:00:34.239 that i did an interview because i
00:00:36.079 interviewed a talk with
00:00:37.520 george gammon about two days ago um on
00:00:40.559 his channel
00:00:41.840 i will post the link to it in the
00:00:43.360 description below so you guys can go
00:00:45.200 have a look at that it's about a two
00:00:46.399 hour long talk and man it was
00:00:48.079 that i've not to pat myself on the back
00:00:50.800 too much but i think it was pretty good
00:00:52.239 uh pretty good talk
00:00:53.360 uh it's certainly one of my favorites
00:00:55.600 thus far in 2021 so
00:00:58.000 be sure you go and check that out also
00:01:00.079 uh rational male religion is available
00:01:02.320 on amazon as you can see
00:01:03.760 right there and uh
00:01:06.880 it's available on amazon it's available
00:01:08.640 on kindle and it's available in print
00:01:10.560 the
00:01:10.960 uh audible version is just about done i
00:01:14.159 know that uh
00:01:15.119 sambata my my reader is working on it
00:01:17.439 diligently right now so
00:01:18.880 uh please bear with us for the timing
00:01:20.799 it's a 400 page book so
00:01:22.720 it's a fairly long read for for sam so
00:01:25.520 uh
00:01:26.000 that said i want to jump into today's
00:01:28.159 topic um
00:01:29.280 i know a lot of people have here's
00:01:31.040 today's topic right
00:01:32.720 i know a lot of people have been talking
00:01:34.000 about the lolo jones story because lolo
00:01:36.240 jones
00:01:36.799 is uh 38 years old if you are unfamiliar
00:01:40.240 with lolo
00:01:42.000 she is a nice good christian girl and
00:01:45.520 um she is 38 now she is a former u.s
00:01:49.680 olympic track runner i believe i don't
00:01:52.640 know if she ever meddled i'm not sure
00:01:54.799 uh it's been a while since i've actually
00:01:56.560 kept track of lolo
00:01:58.320 and she was also on the u.s bobsled team
00:02:01.280 if i'm
00:02:01.920 not mistaken uh because they need good
00:02:04.799 fast runners and that's what she is
00:02:07.119 um very athletic very good looking girl
00:02:09.360 um as far as
00:02:10.878 on the tomasi scale i've said she's
00:02:12.720 about a good seven
00:02:14.000 seven and a half somewhere around there
00:02:15.920 uh and even at 38 she's still a good
00:02:17.840 looking girl
00:02:18.560 so um why is she in the news right now
00:02:20.959 well we need to rewind the tape here now
00:02:23.840 before i get
00:02:24.720 too deep into it here um i know that
00:02:27.520 there have been some other guys like i
00:02:28.800 know joker from better bachelor's
00:02:30.480 already talked about this i think maybe
00:02:31.680 even donovan sharps already i
00:02:33.440 sort of touched on the lolo jones thing
00:02:36.000 um
00:02:37.040 i the only reason i'm i'm not trying to
00:02:38.800 flex on anybody i'm not trying to put
00:02:40.239 anybody on blast or anything like that
00:02:41.920 but
00:02:42.400 i do have my own take on this and the
00:02:44.800 reason why i do have my own take on this
00:02:46.879 is because way back
00:02:48.720 let's rewind the tape all the way back
00:02:51.120 to 2012.
00:02:52.640 i wrote about lolo jones on the rational
00:02:54.959 mail so
00:02:55.840 uh here's your insert the joke about how
00:02:58.560 there's always an
00:02:59.599 essay for every um every topic that
00:03:02.720 has ever existed on the rational mail so
00:03:05.760 yes i have
00:03:06.560 actually written directly about her but
00:03:08.720 it was this was back
00:03:09.840 in 2012. so we're looking at
00:03:13.120 nine years ago just about and the reason
00:03:16.480 why
00:03:16.879 she was in the news back then was
00:03:19.120 because she was
00:03:20.159 29 years old and of course that's the
00:03:23.440 beginning of the epiphany phase as
00:03:25.280 most of you are probably aware of if
00:03:26.640 you've read my first horse and or second
00:03:29.040 book
00:03:30.080 and um so she kind of popped up on my
00:03:33.280 radar
00:03:34.080 and nice enough girl i mean i thought
00:03:36.480 wow i mean remember this is 2012
00:03:38.480 okay this is almost almost a decade ago
00:03:41.920 and uh i wrote a full um essay about
00:03:45.440 this uh
00:03:46.720 blog post essay whatever you want to
00:03:48.080 call article um about lolo jones now the
00:03:50.879 reason why
00:03:51.760 i used her as the example was because
00:03:54.480 she was a
00:03:55.439 very good example of what i was sort of
00:03:57.840 delving into at that time called the
00:03:59.519 adolescent social skill set
00:04:02.000 and i have become a little bit more
00:04:04.480 sensitive
00:04:05.599 to uh that concept recently
00:04:09.599 uh as a result of being on the fresh fit
00:04:11.439 podcast talking to
00:04:13.040 women who are between the ages of 18 and
00:04:15.519 38
00:04:16.320 so you're looking at a 20-year span
00:04:18.880 right there
00:04:20.079 and even a little bit older than that so
00:04:22.320 um
00:04:23.440 i think the oldest woman that i have
00:04:25.759 encountered on that show when i was out
00:04:27.600 there in miami
00:04:28.560 uh was 37 or 38 i'm not really sure but
00:04:31.440 close enough okay
00:04:32.400 so um we've got uh lolo jones at 38
00:04:35.759 years old
00:04:36.479 who is now in the news again um and like
00:04:39.360 you can go ahead and have a look at like
00:04:41.120 if you're i'll i'll give you a plug go
00:04:42.880 look at uh joker's uh
00:04:44.639 on on better bachelor uh his take on
00:04:47.440 this
00:04:47.840 now the reason why i wanted to dig into
00:04:50.320 this is because i think
00:04:51.600 we're kind of getting lost in the weeds
00:04:53.680 with this one
00:04:54.960 we are so sensitive to wanting to put
00:04:58.720 women on blast or hold them accountable
00:05:00.479 that when we see a woman who is the age
00:05:02.720 of say lolo jones who's
00:05:04.240 uh 38 going on 39 actually going on 12
00:05:08.639 um we have to look at
00:05:11.840 the the circumstances that sort of
00:05:14.639 brought her to where she
00:05:15.919 is right now it is far far too easy for
00:05:19.199 us to say well
00:05:20.240 she's just the product of this uh this
00:05:23.199 age of women being entitled in this
00:05:25.360 hubristic
00:05:26.639 uh you know want for the best of the
00:05:29.520 best and she's just
00:05:30.800 too picky and she just can't um find the
00:05:34.160 right guy
00:05:34.960 well no that's not actually why
00:05:38.720 uh not in not in her case uh simply put
00:05:42.320 she has
00:05:42.960 decided that she wanted to be she's an
00:05:44.960 evangelical christian right she decided
00:05:47.039 that she wanted to save herself for
00:05:48.479 marriage
00:05:49.360 is that not the commendable thing that
00:05:53.199 we
00:05:53.520 keep talking about is that not what
00:05:55.840 tradcons want is that not what everyone
00:05:58.319 says oh
00:05:59.039 i don't want a woman who's all ran
00:06:01.360 through
00:06:02.240 okay she's not run through i mean
00:06:04.800 according to at least a popular opinion
00:06:07.039 anyways
00:06:08.160 um she's still at 37 or 38 she was
00:06:11.520 interviewed saying that she was still a
00:06:13.120 virgin well
00:06:15.360 if that's the case it's not necessarily
00:06:18.639 so much a picky thing it's like where
00:06:20.639 are all the guys who
00:06:22.080 keep saying that they want some like
00:06:23.840 virgin bride here she is
00:06:26.000 she's 37 she's 38 years old why where
00:06:28.400 are you
00:06:29.919 what are you doing i'm not putting
00:06:31.919 anybody on blast in this
00:06:33.360 in this particular episode but let's
00:06:36.479 let's we we need to rewind the tape here
00:06:38.880 so we're going to go back to my
00:06:40.560 my essay and i'll put this back up on
00:06:42.319 the screen here and come back
00:06:43.600 up and this is called the adolescent
00:06:47.120 social skill set
00:06:48.560 and i wrote this like it would uh july 9
00:06:51.759 2012 and there's our good girl
00:06:55.680 lolo jones as you can see because i used
00:06:57.759 her same picture for the thumbnail for
00:06:59.599 this one
00:07:00.319 okay um i'm not gonna get i i was just
00:07:03.280 kind of being a little
00:07:04.240 uh jovial i guess here in the beginning
00:07:06.319 here
00:07:07.280 uh so uh unfortunately the games
00:07:11.120 okay so i was talking about like the um
00:07:13.360 the olympic games and everything that
00:07:14.720 was going on right here so it was with a
00:07:16.080 bit of
00:07:16.560 non-olympic interest that i became
00:07:18.080 peripherally aware of low low
00:07:19.840 of the lolo jones story okay i had a
00:07:22.800 friend i think he's still around this
00:07:24.240 guy grit artesian he wrote a really good
00:07:26.080 breakdown about
00:07:27.199 uh this during that time now people were
00:07:30.240 making a big deal
00:07:31.280 out of lolo jones then because she had
00:07:34.479 decided that she was going to be a
00:07:35.759 virgin
00:07:36.639 she and tim tebow at that time were both
00:07:40.000 kind of the poster children
00:07:41.520 for uh being the good christian good
00:07:44.879 evangelical we've made the right
00:07:46.400 decisions to
00:07:47.599 you know reserve our sexuality for our
00:07:49.919 husbands and our wives
00:07:51.840 um for later on in life now remember
00:07:55.280 at the time of this writing lolo jones
00:07:57.759 is 29
00:07:59.360 years old i don't know exactly how old
00:08:01.440 tim tebow was back then
00:08:03.280 uh however they are most definitely in
00:08:05.039 their 20s and they're definitely
00:08:06.479 even lolo jones was just on this side of
00:08:09.759 30.
00:08:10.319 so now she's just this side of 40 and
00:08:13.039 things have changed a bit so
00:08:14.879 uh so grit artesian had a pretty good
00:08:16.560 breakdown about our newest american feel
00:08:18.560 good olympic hopeful win or lose expect
00:08:20.560 her to see more of her plastered on a
00:08:22.240 lot of sportswear cereal boxes and
00:08:24.240 energy drinks advertising for the next
00:08:26.400 eight months uh she also did at this
00:08:29.440 time in 2012 and
00:08:30.879 again one of the reasons why i said
00:08:32.080 she's a solid hb7
00:08:34.080 she was doing some cover shots for
00:08:36.320 outside magazine and maybe
00:08:38.159 maybe even runner magazine at that time
00:08:40.719 uh there was a lot of
00:08:42.000 it was interesting to me anyways because
00:08:44.560 she was doing a lot of these kind of
00:08:46.080 sexy photos
00:08:47.120 in swimsuits or in like track outfits
00:08:49.200 and stuff i mean she's in good shape
00:08:50.560 it's just
00:08:51.040 you know okay but uh i thought it was
00:08:54.160 kind of interesting that that was
00:08:56.080 something that she you know advertising
00:08:57.760 herself sexually but yet
00:08:59.519 she was um reserving herself let's just
00:09:03.200 say or reserving her virginity for her
00:09:04.800 husband which
00:09:05.600 okay if that's your if that's your thing
00:09:07.920 that should be the honorable way of
00:09:09.600 thinking about all of this good stuff
00:09:11.680 okay so before you get the wrong
00:09:13.200 impression my intent in
00:09:14.800 beginning this uh uh excuse me beginning
00:09:17.040 this post off with by drawing attention
00:09:19.440 to lolo
00:09:20.399 isn't to eviscerate her i actually kind
00:09:22.240 of like her i actually still do kind of
00:09:24.160 like her
00:09:24.959 uh minus the man jaw she's a solid hb
00:09:27.760 seven and a half on the rigorous tomassi
00:09:29.440 scale mainly because she's got the
00:09:31.279 athletic appeal that i like but she also
00:09:33.519 seems genuinely likable
00:09:35.360 even today she still seems like you know
00:09:37.440 poor girl you know you're kind of a
00:09:39.680 you're kind of caught in the the gears
00:09:41.839 of you know
00:09:43.200 the the girls you're gonna probably see
00:09:45.279 on fresh and fit right you're gonna see
00:09:46.800 the girls who want
00:09:47.760 who we are now holding accountable
00:09:51.200 for not doing what lola jones has done
00:09:54.480 for most of her well for all of her life
00:09:56.480 in fact
00:09:57.600 if she is in fact 8 37 38 39 whatever
00:10:01.279 year old virgin should she not be the
00:10:04.399 girl that we are uh praising and holding
00:10:07.760 up
00:10:08.079 as as a you know a beacon of hope in
00:10:11.360 2021
00:10:12.959 uh so anyways uh i i use lola because
00:10:15.839 she's a prime example
00:10:17.040 of a socialization based on what i've
00:10:19.360 called the adolescent social skill set
00:10:22.560 okay now this was from grits post he
00:10:24.640 wrote this he said uh uh
00:10:26.160 she considers her virginity a gift shock
00:10:30.160 that she wants to give her husband she
00:10:31.760 thinks it's the hardest thing she's ever
00:10:33.760 done in her
00:10:34.560 in her life harder than college or
00:10:36.480 training for the olympics
00:10:38.000 she also realizes and acknowledges the
00:10:40.240 past temptations
00:10:41.600 and temptation and opportunities that
00:10:43.839 she could have had that
00:10:45.200 she could have had sex okay i think it's
00:10:48.079 also
00:10:48.480 important to note that in a
00:10:49.839 feminine-centric media
00:10:51.600 they've used a 29-year-old lolos virgin
00:10:55.200 stat virgin status not only as a
00:10:57.360 rallying cry for evangelically defined
00:10:59.519 abstinence
00:11:00.640 but also as the typical and convenient
00:11:03.839 male sexual response shaming device it's
00:11:06.480 so it loves so much
00:11:07.920 okay track and field fans or not all
00:11:11.040 women can lament in chorus with poor
00:11:13.839 lolo's quest to find
00:11:15.360 the right guy certified trademark
00:11:17.920 registered trademark
00:11:19.279 uh among so many of the immature and
00:11:20.959 uncontrollable sexually
00:11:22.399 uh concerned boy men it was on twitter
00:11:25.519 earlier this year now again i'm going
00:11:28.240 back to grit's uh post here i'm quoting
00:11:30.000 him
00:11:30.720 uh earlier this year where she first
00:11:33.120 announced to her almost 55
00:11:35.120 000 fans on twitter she's probably got
00:11:37.120 quite a bit more now we're about 10
00:11:38.560 years later
00:11:39.600 uh she also said on the program that she
00:11:42.720 has grown accustomed to being rejected
00:11:44.880 by men as a result of her beliefs
00:11:47.360 remember this is 2012. this is a 29 year
00:11:50.720 old lolo jones
00:11:51.920 this is not the 38 year old lolo jones
00:11:53.920 who is bemoaning the same thing
00:11:56.079 on yahoo news and some other uh advice
00:11:59.279 and some of these other
00:12:00.399 posts i'm going to get to as well okay
00:12:03.360 she said
00:12:04.000 here's the two things that happen when
00:12:06.480 you tell a guy you're a virgin
00:12:08.160 this is the honest truth one you tell
00:12:11.440 them
00:12:11.839 and they say oh okay i respect that but
00:12:14.959 you can already see in their eyes
00:12:16.720 that they're uh what they're thinking
00:12:19.040 she's lying about this
00:12:21.360 capping right and i'll crack it so
00:12:24.480 we uh so we'll talk who says that so
00:12:27.200 we'll talk
00:12:27.920 usually one to three months later and
00:12:30.240 then they're like oh shoot
00:12:31.680 she was serious time for me to exit so
00:12:34.480 what she's
00:12:35.360 essentially what she's saying is that
00:12:36.880 the guys who are interested in her only
00:12:38.720 are they're only interested in mentally
00:12:40.480 are interested in one thing and it's
00:12:41.839 disgusting it's sex
00:12:44.800 okay so i can't imagine shots like that
00:12:46.560 okay so i i put this i
00:12:48.079 put some links in there too some of the
00:12:49.519 shots of her being an outside magazine
00:12:51.440 and everything else
00:12:52.320 okay so i want to dig in just i'm going
00:12:54.800 to i'm going to push through
00:12:56.000 just a little bit further here because
00:12:57.760 you can i'm going to link this
00:12:59.440 article this very old article now so
00:13:02.639 uh whether that person is lolo jones or
00:13:04.959 tim tebow the late and purpose of a vow
00:13:06.639 of chastity made in a person's
00:13:08.160 adolescence is an
00:13:09.279 effort to curb the long-term
00:13:10.880 consequences of the action
00:13:13.120 that a volatile chemical cocktail of
00:13:16.120 pre-pubescent hormones prompt in them
00:13:18.639 there's a mouthful sorry uh this
00:13:21.040 decision is couched in whatever moralism
00:13:23.200 helps them
00:13:23.920 and their parents sleep better at night
00:13:25.680 but it doesn't doesn't offer much in the
00:13:27.680 way of educating 15 year old
00:13:29.839 uh promised virgin to understand the
00:13:32.240 social implications of that
00:13:34.000 promise when she reaches 30 and is still
00:13:36.240 a virgin
00:13:37.120 okay now she's 38 and still a virgin
00:13:41.760 again i'm not coming down on her
00:13:43.760 decision to stay that way
00:13:45.920 what i am looking at here is why that is
00:13:48.880 a decision for her
00:13:50.480 in the first place or why it's a
00:13:51.839 decision for a lot of people in the
00:13:53.199 first place
00:13:54.000 again i'm not trying to make a case uh
00:13:57.040 actually let me let me pull back out of
00:13:58.639 here real quick guys my bad
00:14:01.519 pull that out there we go i'm not trying
00:14:03.680 to make a case against
00:14:05.040 staying a virgin if that's your
00:14:06.399 religious beliefs i'm not gonna i'm not
00:14:08.079 gonna crap all over that that's that's
00:14:09.680 on you you guys can decide whatever it
00:14:11.519 is that you want to do
00:14:12.880 um one of the things that brought me to
00:14:15.760 writing this article
00:14:16.959 was that it it prompted a sort of a
00:14:19.600 thought i guess
00:14:21.040 about how we go from maturing from an
00:14:24.880 from a sort of adolescent social skill
00:14:26.639 set into an adult social skill set
00:14:29.279 and now in 2021
00:14:32.399 it's much more pronounced i think than
00:14:34.639 it was in 2012.
00:14:36.800 and that's what i was kind of picking
00:14:38.079 away at in that article
00:14:40.079 um it wasn't so much that she decided
00:14:42.639 that she i didn't it wasn't so much a
00:14:44.720 thing about her being this sort of
00:14:46.000 pollyanna naive little girl who's just
00:14:48.160 like oh i'm just going to save myself
00:14:49.440 from marriage i mean
00:14:50.800 today we she's an outlier and yet we're
00:14:54.160 and here she is at 38 years old and
00:14:55.839 we're saying oh well
00:14:56.959 it's just because she's too picky she
00:14:58.480 wants a guy that is too
00:15:00.000 tall too short to you know too fat
00:15:02.480 whatever he doesn't make enough money he
00:15:03.920 makes too much money he
00:15:05.760 there's the the
00:15:08.480 [Music]
00:15:10.000 common i guess common understanding or
00:15:12.160 common observation is that women are
00:15:14.880 too selective and the reason why she's
00:15:18.000 single the reason why she's still a
00:15:19.600 virgin
00:15:20.079 at 38 years old is because she has such
00:15:22.880 high standards
00:15:24.240 that no one can possibly meet them and
00:15:25.920 even the guy who does meet one standard
00:15:27.839 like with
00:15:28.880 in spades is also deficient in some
00:15:31.199 other other standard that doesn't make
00:15:32.720 him absolutely perfect
00:15:34.800 um so are women just children
00:15:38.639 right are women just not mature enough
00:15:40.880 to really
00:15:42.320 accept and to live within this
00:15:45.600 new world order where they are provided
00:15:49.360 with a they're spoiled for choice right
00:15:52.079 it's the it's choice addiction it's the
00:15:54.000 it's was it the paradox of choice right
00:15:55.519 you have too much choice you know what
00:15:56.959 to do with yourself
00:15:58.320 um i don't necessarily think it's it's
00:16:00.320 that so much as it is
00:16:02.399 uh we have the we have we're smack dab
00:16:05.839 in the middle of this
00:16:06.839 experiment of whether or not we
00:16:10.480 are responsible enough for mature women
00:16:13.199 in particular responsible enough
00:16:14.720 to really use or to really
00:16:18.480 responsibly use the power that they are
00:16:21.040 afforded and have been afforded
00:16:23.199 since say the sexual revolution so for
00:16:26.240 the last like 60 years or so
00:16:28.079 and i think we're start we're kind of
00:16:30.160 seeing this come to fruition right now
00:16:32.639 so when i see an 18 year old girl
00:16:36.079 or 19 well no 20 year old girl in this
00:16:38.000 case on freshman fit who tells me that
00:16:40.399 she has a 15 body count
00:16:43.440 and then i look at lilo jones at 38
00:16:46.240 years old with a
00:16:47.279 zero body count according to her um
00:16:50.800 i have to sort of step back and say okay
00:16:52.959 well who is
00:16:54.000 who's the one that's more immature and
00:16:55.839 who is the one that is more mature
00:16:58.160 who is the one that's living by
00:16:59.600 conviction and who is the one who is
00:17:01.440 also thinks she is living by conviction
00:17:04.240 as well
00:17:05.599 and it's been said in a number of
00:17:08.160 different circles
00:17:09.039 that women are the oldest teen arts it's
00:17:11.359 gonna be the most mature teenager in the
00:17:13.039 house right they get up to a point and i
00:17:15.520 believe there is uh some
00:17:17.280 forget the name of the studies now i
00:17:18.799 wish i had done my homework a little bit
00:17:20.319 more but
00:17:21.199 uh there is a sort of there are degrees
00:17:23.760 of emotional maturity
00:17:25.359 from like a level one to a level six and
00:17:27.359 i forget who the researchers were doing
00:17:28.960 i'm sure somebody will
00:17:30.080 inform me in the comments later um but
00:17:32.640 uh the
00:17:33.440 theory is that women only get up to
00:17:35.039 maybe the fourth or the fifth
00:17:36.640 degrees of emotional maturity and then
00:17:38.960 they sort of stop right there because
00:17:40.080 they don't have
00:17:40.799 any real incentive or any kind of um
00:17:44.000 motivation to mature any further than
00:17:46.320 that because they don't really need to
00:17:48.480 uh for instance men on the other hand
00:17:50.960 can get to a state of emotional maturity
00:17:52.880 where we are much more under control of
00:17:54.559 our maturity and i think that that's
00:17:56.400 our control of our emotions i should say
00:18:00.799 it can be anyways as a result of sort of
00:18:03.360 learning and training but it's also
00:18:04.640 because we do not experience emotions
00:18:06.400 and we do not process emotions in the
00:18:08.000 same way that women do
00:18:09.280 innately so there's got to be that
00:18:12.000 aspect of it as well
00:18:13.760 now this is not going to be a completely
00:18:17.039 uh let's bash women's emotional maturity
00:18:20.000 episode because i also happen to think
00:18:22.720 that the ideal of the adolescent social
00:18:25.039 skill set
00:18:26.559 is also applicable to a lot of the lost
00:18:29.679 boys generation right now as well
00:18:32.559 so we get to a point in our maturation
00:18:35.760 and we become [ __ ] and i mean that
00:18:38.320 in the term
00:18:38.960 in the clinical sense your your maturity
00:18:42.559 your social skill set becomes [ __ ]
00:18:45.760 in that you don't you're not open to the
00:18:48.400 you're
00:18:48.880 just open you don't have the
00:18:50.000 opportunities let's say to
00:18:52.080 get to a point where you are uh
00:18:55.600 you're you're prompted to a higher form
00:18:57.840 of maturity or a higher form of social
00:19:00.320 like your your social skill sets do
00:19:02.480 never really sort of break from being
00:19:04.880 the adolescent side of things like th
00:19:06.640 the adolescent social skill set would be
00:19:08.640 something that you would learn let's say
00:19:10.160 in like between the ages of maybe 13
00:19:12.720 until you're about 18
00:19:13.919 maybe even 19. and from that point
00:19:17.520 on at least in our certainly in our
00:19:20.480 ancestral past but not even in
00:19:22.160 even in our most recent past um a
00:19:25.360 a young man was expected to have
00:19:27.520 maturity
00:19:28.640 to be an adult much earlier
00:19:31.840 than they are today so when we look at
00:19:34.720 the
00:19:35.120 um i'm just using this as a benchmark so
00:19:38.480 don't don't throw rocks at me for this
00:19:40.160 but when you look at the average age of
00:19:42.160 first marriage
00:19:43.600 for men today in the united states is 29
00:19:47.360 29 years old almost 29 and a half years
00:19:49.520 old a little bit more than that
00:19:50.799 for women it's 28 and a half years old
00:19:53.919 in 1965 i believe 6465 the average
00:19:58.720 age of first marriage was right around
00:20:00.880 22
00:20:01.840 for them for a young man and 20 for a
00:20:04.480 woman and that was
00:20:05.440 that was normal that's that was the
00:20:07.840 average
00:20:09.600 and so it's not so much well that should
00:20:12.559 be the benchmark you know marriage
00:20:13.840 should necessarily be the
00:20:15.120 benchmark of emotional maturity however
00:20:18.320 it has been in the past and assuming
00:20:21.760 and uh taking adult responsibilities
00:20:24.880 earlier in life was something that we
00:20:26.880 sort of were forced
00:20:28.000 into doing as recently as
00:20:31.440 50 or 60 years ago today
00:20:34.720 when we complain about young men who are
00:20:36.720 kiddults or peter pan boys or
00:20:39.120 guys who are attempting to let's say
00:20:41.440 where they're always said
00:20:42.720 what is it they they're sustaining or
00:20:45.360 maintaining or perpetuating they're
00:20:46.559 perpetuating
00:20:47.520 their adolescence into their 30s
00:20:51.120 and that none of the lost boys
00:20:53.840 generation
00:20:56.080 are really prepared for adulthood and
00:20:59.360 in some senses i guess i can understand
00:21:02.320 why they would say that i don't
00:21:03.760 necessarily agree with that and i have
00:21:05.600 said and written in the past that i
00:21:07.039 don't
00:21:07.520 i don't necessarily agree with that i
00:21:09.600 just simply think that it's because of
00:21:10.960 the incentives
00:21:12.720 that young men have today in order to
00:21:15.280 mature
00:21:16.640 for women on the other hand they are
00:21:18.400 handed everything from a very early age
00:21:21.520 they are empowered they are encouraged
00:21:23.280 they are emboldened
00:21:26.159 to a degree of hubris that their
00:21:29.120 emotional maturity is
00:21:30.640 not prepared for so when you've got a 20
00:21:34.960 20 year old girl on fresh and fit who
00:21:36.640 tells me that she's got a 15
00:21:38.559 lay count and most likely by the time
00:21:40.880 she gets to be even
00:21:42.000 29 years old like lola was in the the
00:21:44.880 original article here
00:21:46.640 uh god only knows what her her lay count
00:21:49.280 is going to be by then
00:21:51.200 and yes your sexual past matters ladies
00:21:54.320 i've done
00:21:55.280 episodes of that too i'll actually i
00:21:56.960 think i'll tag that on to the end of
00:21:58.559 this
00:21:59.120 of this video so you guys can understand
00:22:00.799 what i'm saying yes it does make a
00:22:02.720 difference
00:22:04.000 there is a and it's a big difference and
00:22:06.240 so
00:22:07.120 along with that comes emotional it
00:22:10.000 should come
00:22:10.720 an emotional maturity that i don't think
00:22:13.600 at least the last two generations
00:22:15.760 have learned or have had the
00:22:18.120 opportunities to learn those things
00:22:20.880 so you get a generation at least two j i
00:22:23.919 would say i would argue the millennial
00:22:25.280 generation
00:22:26.000 and generation z of young men and young
00:22:29.280 women
00:22:29.840 who are acculturated and socialized
00:22:32.480 behind a screen
00:22:33.919 behind uh behind their theirs their
00:22:36.480 smartphones
00:22:37.919 we have the first generation i i saw a
00:22:40.400 meme not too long ago about the
00:22:42.320 generation z being the first generation
00:22:45.280 uh
00:22:45.679 to be uh to be raised on
00:22:49.039 twitter to be raised on twitch to be
00:22:51.840 raised on
00:22:53.280 youtube and uh instagram and you name
00:22:56.960 the social media facebook whatever
00:22:59.280 uh is the very first generation that has
00:23:01.360 sort of grown up with that now they've
00:23:02.640 reached adulthood
00:23:03.760 as a as a result but certainly certainly
00:23:06.960 influenced by
00:23:08.159 social media and a global sexual
00:23:10.240 marketplace
00:23:11.919 unfortunately that limits the
00:23:14.320 opportunities the real world
00:23:16.159 in real life irl opportunities
00:23:19.200 to develop a an adult
00:23:22.559 social skill set so you've got a
00:23:25.840 you've got women who get [ __ ] in the
00:23:29.039 in their adolescent social skill set
00:23:30.960 that they drag
00:23:32.640 into their adult years and the same is
00:23:35.440 true i think
00:23:36.000 for for a lot of men although i think
00:23:37.679 that young men have more of an
00:23:39.120 opportunity or
00:23:40.080 simply have more um occasion let's just
00:23:42.799 say
00:23:43.600 to develop a little bit more than women
00:23:46.559 do because they are not
00:23:47.760 handed the rewards that women are given
00:23:51.200 in their sexual market value peak years
00:23:53.279 that men are
00:23:54.559 so men must become women just are and
00:23:57.600 if we're saying ladies you're perfect
00:23:59.600 the way you are it doesn't matter what
00:24:01.200 you look like doesn't matter how you
00:24:02.799 confidence this and and and hubris that
00:24:05.440 if if they are
00:24:06.799 if you take that and give that to women
00:24:09.440 uh
00:24:09.840 of a you know the last two generations
00:24:12.799 anyways
00:24:13.840 you give that to them get you give them
00:24:16.799 default respect you give them default
00:24:18.400 rewards you give them default
00:24:20.000 uh self-confidence and self-esteem that
00:24:22.640 is unearned
00:24:24.240 they have no motivation and less
00:24:26.400 opportunity to develop
00:24:28.080 from an adolescent social skill set into
00:24:30.320 an adult social skill set
00:24:32.240 now when a woman gets to be in her
00:24:33.919 epiphany phase that's when she will
00:24:36.080 presume that she
00:24:37.200 is more mature and she is more adult
00:24:38.880 when in fact she still is clinging to
00:24:41.039 that adolescent social skill set
00:24:44.000 so when women get upset that they can't
00:24:46.400 find the right guy or they're gonna
00:24:47.919 freeze their eggs or
00:24:49.440 they become uh subject to um
00:24:53.279 to the social conventions that tries to
00:24:55.919 perpetuate
00:24:57.360 their sexual agency that they had when
00:24:59.760 they were 22
00:25:01.039 21 22 23 years old and to say it's
00:25:04.080 evergreen you don't have to worry about
00:25:05.440 it it's imperishable ladies don't worry
00:25:07.120 you're
00:25:07.520 perfect the way you are you don't have
00:25:09.760 to do anything when you tell
00:25:11.360 generations of women that they're
00:25:12.880 perfect the way they are they will have
00:25:14.799 no occasion to develop anything beyond a
00:25:18.000 adolescent social skill set as a result
00:25:20.720 you get
00:25:21.360 a generation after generation of women
00:25:23.039 who get to be 29 30 31
00:25:25.200 even even 38 years old and they're still
00:25:27.840 thinking
00:25:28.640 like they were when they were 18 years
00:25:30.799 old
00:25:32.000 so that's the difference between the
00:25:34.080 adolescent social skill set
00:25:35.360 and the adult social skill set and
00:25:38.799 again makes me sound like oh old man
00:25:40.559 rolo talking about
00:25:42.320 get off my lawn that's not where i'm
00:25:44.000 going with this what i'm saying is
00:25:45.919 when you are looking for if you if you
00:25:48.799 are in the market for a long-term
00:25:50.240 relationship even if you're in the
00:25:51.360 market for a short-term relationship
00:25:53.039 you need to understand that the vast
00:25:55.200 majority of women
00:25:56.240 first of all are going to be on
00:25:57.440 antidepressants we already we've already
00:25:59.600 discussed that uh in previous shows but
00:26:03.279 but also they're still operating and
00:26:06.000 still
00:26:06.960 bewildered by reality
00:26:10.320 when they get to a certain age and they
00:26:12.240 realize that they are not as desirable
00:26:14.000 at
00:26:14.559 32 as they were at 22 but when they are
00:26:18.000 still
00:26:18.320 operating from an adolescent social
00:26:20.559 skill set at 32 33 years old they don't
00:26:23.120 understand
00:26:24.799 why when roller tomassie or kevin
00:26:26.880 samuels or the guys on freshman fit or
00:26:28.720 anybody else in the red pill circles
00:26:30.480 says ladies you are not as desirable as
00:26:33.360 you were
00:26:33.919 when you were in your 20s they think
00:26:36.640 because
00:26:37.279 they've got an entire gynocentric social
00:26:39.279 order that has been reinforcing the idea
00:26:41.360 that it doesn't matter
00:26:42.640 that men it should just be falling at
00:26:45.600 their feet
00:26:46.880 they're processing that and they are
00:26:49.520 coming to the conclusions and they're
00:26:51.039 coming to the ideals that they hold at
00:26:53.440 that particular age
00:26:54.640 as a result of never having matured past
00:26:57.679 the 18
00:26:58.480 year mark past the high school years in
00:27:01.520 how things ought to be for them so even
00:27:04.640 when women are saying
00:27:05.600 oh i i you know i'm i'm 40 years old and
00:27:08.320 i'm i'm at my sexual
00:27:10.080 my sexual peak no you're really not what
00:27:12.640 you are is the victim
00:27:14.080 of social conventions that have taught
00:27:16.159 you that you should be at that point
00:27:18.159 and that men should respond to you at
00:27:19.679 that point but yet they're not
00:27:21.679 they're not doing that because you are
00:27:24.000 also just
00:27:24.880 just as women are in the sexual
00:27:26.799 marketplace
00:27:27.919 uh the global sexual marketplace right
00:27:29.679 now men are also in the global sexual
00:27:31.520 marketplace
00:27:32.640 so if you've got a woman who is 38 years
00:27:35.279 old
00:27:35.679 and maybe to her credit is still a
00:27:38.480 virgin
00:27:39.440 she still doesn't understand why she's
00:27:42.480 having
00:27:42.880 so much difficulty in locking down a guy
00:27:46.720 finding the man that god has ordained
00:27:48.880 for her since birth or soul mate
00:27:51.360 why he hasn't just simply arrived at her
00:27:53.440 doorstep right now
00:27:54.880 why is that she's shocked and dismayed
00:27:58.640 because she hasn't found the right guy
00:28:01.039 the you know prince
00:28:02.000 charming hasn't ridden up on his you
00:28:04.399 know white stallion when shining silver
00:28:06.799 armor well because you're still thinking
00:28:10.399 in terms of how you thought when you
00:28:13.200 were 29
00:28:14.320 according to certainly according to the
00:28:16.159 the essay that i was writing back in the
00:28:18.080 back then and most likely when you were
00:28:21.200 19 years old
00:28:23.279 a lot of women still today and this is
00:28:25.039 something you guys can take to the bank
00:28:26.320 now
00:28:26.720 and i'm not again i'm gonna make this a
00:28:28.960 little bit my usually don't i usually
00:28:31.039 i usually focus on just you know i'm
00:28:32.799 female on the female side of things i
00:28:34.159 will focus on the guy side of things but
00:28:36.240 on the female side right now gentlemen
00:28:40.240 when you are dealing with women between
00:28:42.000 the ages of say like 18 or 19
00:28:44.880 all the way up till 28 years old he had
00:28:47.039 tommy larry tommy lawrence perfect
00:28:48.559 example of this right
00:28:50.000 28 years old just entering into the
00:28:52.240 epiphany face
00:28:53.120 is frustrated and angry that she can't
00:28:55.919 find
00:28:56.720 the right guy because she's still
00:28:59.919 stuck in high school in
00:29:03.360 resida or wherever the hell she was
00:29:05.520 whoever where
00:29:06.399 texas i don't know where the hell she
00:29:07.840 came from she's still stuck
00:29:10.559 in high school in the high school
00:29:12.799 mentality in the adolescent social skill
00:29:15.039 set
00:29:16.000 so when she's frustrated that she hasn't
00:29:19.600 found what she thought she was gonna
00:29:20.880 what she deserves it's because
00:29:24.000 those goals though those ideals the guy
00:29:27.039 that's going to be the perfect dude for
00:29:28.399 her
00:29:29.919 is the guy that her 18 year old social
00:29:32.480 skill set taught her that she deserves
00:29:36.080 and now lolo jones good example 38 years
00:29:39.520 old
00:29:40.000 still frustrated still confused still
00:29:42.799 oblivious to the fact
00:29:44.559 that between the age of like 29 and now
00:29:48.399 pretty soon 39 that things have changed
00:29:51.440 you should have matured you should have
00:29:53.039 figured this stuff out
00:29:55.200 it should it should be obvious to you
00:29:57.039 painfully obvious to you in some cases
00:29:59.440 but yet we're going to write article
00:30:00.880 after article about this and
00:30:02.559 at her bewilderment so when i hear and
00:30:06.640 just to sum the
00:30:07.360 nice oh so let me actually before i
00:30:09.200 finish guys are like this too
00:30:12.000 so and and i would say in some ways
00:30:14.320 maybe even worse off
00:30:15.840 because guys still think in terms of
00:30:18.720 maybe they're a little bit more down to
00:30:19.840 earth when it comes to the sexual
00:30:21.279 marketplace
00:30:22.399 takes longer for men to mature into it
00:30:24.880 but that doesn't necessarily mean that
00:30:26.399 they
00:30:26.799 they graduate from an adolescent social
00:30:28.640 skill set into an
00:30:29.840 adult social skill set as a result of
00:30:31.840 that i think that men are stunted
00:30:34.559 generally young men today are still
00:30:36.080 stunted in that adolescent
00:30:38.159 that that maturation process maybe not
00:30:41.039 nearly so much as women because we
00:30:42.880 simply give women
00:30:44.000 everything right women be women just our
00:30:46.240 men must become
00:30:47.840 and so as a as a group as a demographic
00:30:51.360 of young women
00:30:53.360 you run into the problem of too much too
00:30:55.039 young too fast right
00:30:56.480 so they're giving they're given too much
00:30:58.480 they're given they're too young to
00:30:59.840 really
00:31:00.240 to really interpret it and they're
00:31:01.519 giving it too much too fast
00:31:04.159 and even the women who are like you say
00:31:05.679 well man not all women are like you know
00:31:07.440 nines and tens yeah i know that
00:31:09.279 but they think that they're nine's
00:31:11.039 intense courtesy of social media
00:31:13.679 but also courtesy of what the
00:31:17.039 the belief sets that they developed when
00:31:19.679 they were
00:31:20.320 adolescents that they are carrying over
00:31:23.440 into their 20s
00:31:24.480 for men it's a little bit different the
00:31:26.640 expectations might be different
00:31:28.480 when guys get to a certain like right
00:31:30.159 now guys are just simply don't know what
00:31:31.679 to do
00:31:32.000 with themselves they're purposeless
00:31:33.440 they're rudderless they're against the
00:31:35.360 jordan peterson
00:31:36.320 lost boys generation they don't know
00:31:37.919 what to do with themselves they lack a
00:31:39.760 purpose
00:31:41.200 more than anything else not meaning not
00:31:44.320 you know um not not some ephemeral
00:31:47.679 understanding of life the universe and
00:31:49.760 everything
00:31:50.960 they lack purpose and they lack a
00:31:52.720 function and i think that
00:31:54.880 if you want to see men who have a higher
00:31:57.440 degree of happiness or
00:31:58.640 or or you know sense of self that are
00:32:01.600 much more
00:32:02.240 emotionally healthy much more
00:32:03.840 intellectually healthy those are the
00:32:05.200 guys who say you know what i know what i
00:32:06.720 want to do and this is what i'm going to
00:32:08.080 do
00:32:08.799 my sense of purpose is my sense of
00:32:10.320 direction is at least
00:32:12.480 if not completely clear at least i gotta
00:32:14.799 at least i'm going
00:32:15.840 this way instead of that way or don't
00:32:18.000 just sitting around doing nothing
00:32:20.080 that i think is i think when it comes to
00:32:22.559 maturation from
00:32:24.080 an adolescent social skill set to an
00:32:25.519 adult social skill set men have an
00:32:27.360 advantage
00:32:28.080 because we have to have the insight to
00:32:30.640 say well that's not working and we have
00:32:32.240 to experiment with it a little bit more
00:32:34.320 but i think that when we're talking
00:32:37.200 about
00:32:37.760 uh the occasion right or the opportunity
00:32:41.200 to have the experiences that will
00:32:43.440 develop
00:32:44.080 from an adolescent social skill set into
00:32:45.760 an adult social skill set
00:32:47.279 men have a much higher advantage but i
00:32:49.120 don't think that they are
00:32:50.880 i think they take much way more time now
00:32:54.000 than they used to in the past as i said
00:32:55.919 you had to grow up quick
00:32:57.760 back in the day and even in my day right
00:33:00.320 but you still had the gr you guys still
00:33:01.600 had to grow up
00:33:02.240 pretty fast if you were if you were part
00:33:03.840 of the greatest generation or any
00:33:05.279 generation prior to that
00:33:06.880 you knew what you had to do you knew
00:33:08.399 what was expected of you and you had to
00:33:09.919 grow up really quick
00:33:10.960 because that them's the rules
00:33:14.480 now we're floundering and not knowing
00:33:16.720 what to do and as a result
00:33:18.559 we tend to like young men of this the
00:33:21.440 last two generations tend to be a little
00:33:23.360 more confused
00:33:24.640 and a little more purposeless because
00:33:27.200 they
00:33:28.080 simply lack the opportunity to develop
00:33:30.480 from that adolescent social skill set
00:33:32.159 into the
00:33:32.720 adult social skill set so last but not
00:33:35.279 least
00:33:36.640 how can you use this how can you how can
00:33:38.320 you progress past this
00:33:39.840 well first off you have to look for
00:33:41.120 women who have a an
00:33:42.880 emotional maturity which is next to
00:33:45.679 impossible these days
00:33:47.200 simply because we have an online culture
00:33:50.559 we have a global culture
00:33:52.000 right now that encourages uh let's see
00:33:54.720 uh
00:33:55.440 zero accountability for women and so
00:33:58.720 one of the one of the reasons i think
00:34:00.240 that shows like
00:34:02.000 fresh and fit or any any of these shows
00:34:03.840 that are using this formula right which
00:34:05.200 is
00:34:05.519 holding women accountable putting them
00:34:06.960 on the spot telling them how it is
00:34:08.800 the reason why that is so popular right
00:34:10.960 now is because it will almost
00:34:12.719 automatically provoke a reaction in that
00:34:16.719 woman
00:34:17.679 because and why is that the reason why
00:34:20.159 she's having that reaction
00:34:22.079 is because she's still using an
00:34:23.359 adolescent social skill set the goals
00:34:25.359 and the ideals that she has
00:34:27.199 at 33 35 even 38 years old
00:34:30.800 were established when she was 18 when
00:34:33.760 she was 19.
00:34:35.040 and so between those ages when we're
00:34:37.280 saying you go
00:34:38.079 girl and it doesn't matter what you do
00:34:40.480 there is no response
00:34:42.079 you have a default respect you should be
00:34:44.639 eminently desired by men no matter what
00:34:47.359 your sexuality and your sexual agency is
00:34:50.000 evergreen it doesn't matter if you're
00:34:52.320 21 41 or 71 you're always hot girl
00:34:56.560 and men should always find you
00:34:58.000 attractive because beauty is just a
00:34:59.680 social convention right
00:35:01.440 when you feed generation after
00:35:02.800 generation of women on that yeah it's
00:35:04.800 going to be really difficult
00:35:06.320 so you have to be able to learn
00:35:09.839 what you're doing like know who you're
00:35:11.200 dealing with that's one of the 48 laws
00:35:12.720 of power right you know who you're
00:35:14.000 dealing with
00:35:14.960 but you've also got to figure out like
00:35:16.720 how can you leverage that to your best
00:35:18.400 advantage
00:35:19.839 most guys simply don't have the patience
00:35:22.160 to do that i get it
00:35:23.599 she should just grow up okay well
00:35:28.000 she's not going to or maybe she should
00:35:31.359 and maybe she just needs to be pushed
00:35:32.960 over the fence
00:35:33.920 right maybe she's she's almost there
00:35:36.320 it's up to you
00:35:37.280 to sort of discern that you're not going
00:35:39.920 to fight guys you are not going to find
00:35:42.000 the perfect girl you have to create the
00:35:44.000 perfect girl
00:35:45.680 you have to build that because
00:35:48.880 up until that point most likely the
00:35:51.040 woman that you just met is still stuck
00:35:53.119 in an adolescent social skill set
00:35:55.599 and you need to accept that and work
00:35:58.240 with that
00:35:58.880 and build upon that if that is something
00:36:01.040 you even want to do
00:36:03.440 so when you guys got the black pill when
00:36:05.680 you've got the mgtow then
00:36:07.440 the more extreme ends of the mgtow gotta
00:36:09.680 clarify that right
00:36:11.680 guys if it's not worth it to you
00:36:15.440 try looking at why you think it's not
00:36:17.200 worth it to you is it because you simply
00:36:19.040 don't have the emotional maturity
00:36:20.640 to understand this or to use this or to
00:36:23.200 leverage this or is it just simply
00:36:24.640 because you're just like done you're
00:36:25.839 free forget it i'm out
00:36:28.000 so keep that in mind and i will be back
00:36:31.680 actually i am hosting rule zero
00:36:33.760 this saturday uh it will be at 11 30 a.m
00:36:36.880 eastern and as i said in the beginning
00:36:38.240 of this show
00:36:39.520 make sure you go check out uh george
00:36:40.960 gammon and the podcast that i did with
00:36:43.520 him back on monday of this week i
00:36:45.440 thought it was really really good
00:36:47.119 um and i got some big things big news
00:36:49.520 coming very soon i think i might even
00:36:51.760 announce it at the end of this week so
00:36:53.520 we'll see how that goes thanks for
00:36:54.720 watching and uh if you have any
00:36:56.560 questions if you have
00:36:57.280 comments please just throw them in the
00:36:59.520 in the commentary and i will talk to you
00:37:01.280 guys later bye