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# DRESS FOR MYSELF: Rules of Modern Dating & Understanding Women "It's Complicated"
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00:00:07.040 when single women dress sexy and wear
00:00:08.840 makeup are they seeking attention yes
00:00:11.639 but not necessarily male
00:00:13.759 attention well are they seeking
00:00:15.559 attention from other women men or the
00:00:17.840 right
00:00:20.960 man I'd say women and men I don't
00:00:25.720 believe there is a right man attention
00:00:28.439 in general they just want to be seen
00:00:30.119 they want to be you know admired does
00:00:33.640 the way you dress attract the type of
00:00:35.559 man that you
00:00:36.879 want no I think it's a lot of like
00:00:40.399 self-expression and not always like you
00:00:42.879 could want like a really nice respectful
00:00:44.680 guy and then you're still really you
00:00:46.079 enjoy like dressing like you're going
00:00:47.719 out and like partying and stuff if women
00:00:50.239 dress sexy for themselves why do some
00:00:52.760 women wear uncomfortable shoes and
00:00:54.440 skimpy outfits when it's freezing
00:00:56.399 outside hoes don't get cold they're
00:00:59.519 popping up no they want to be seen by
00:01:01.440 everybody not themselves or I would stay
00:01:05.000 inside well if they were dressing for
00:01:07.080 themselves wouldn't they be
00:01:08.840 comfortable um not always sometimes they
00:01:11.040 want to they want to feel pretty so you
00:01:13.000 know like it's it's what makes them
00:01:14.640 confident and what it's what makes them
00:01:16.000 feel good and even if it's uncomfortable
00:01:18.200 it's you look in the mirror you like the
00:01:19.520 way you look yeah I think it definitely
00:01:22.360 depends on like the vibe of the place
00:01:23.720 that you're going to as well like if I
00:01:25.799 know I'm going out to a bar I'm going to
00:01:27.360 wear uncomfortable shoes and it's going
00:01:28.640 to suck but if if I look good and I feel
00:01:31.079 good and I get good pictures out of it
00:01:33.560 beauty is pain so they say Pretty Hurts
00:01:36.799 beauty is pain so you know if people
00:01:40.320 should be able to do whatever they want
00:01:41.439 with their bodies why do we have a law
00:01:43.439 that you need to wear clothes in public
00:01:45.439 you got to wear clothes in public
00:01:47.240 obviously why cuz you have to like you
00:01:50.640 can't just be naked that's just crazy I
00:01:52.920 think clothes are restrictive I think
00:01:54.399 clothes suck to be fair that's point I
00:01:57.719 think that's gotten it's gotten a lot
00:01:59.079 looser like in society maybe a hundred
00:02:01.520 years ago again wearing what I'm wearing
00:02:03.360 would be like look at her you know
00:02:05.600 whatever I think it's just gotten a lot
00:02:08.000 it's changed a lot but I think in
00:02:09.639 general like terms of covering up has
00:02:11.879 just become something like I think it's
00:02:13.599 a lot of it has to do with kids cuz
00:02:15.200 there's nude beaches that people don't
00:02:16.480 care about but there aren't kids there I
00:02:17.760 think a lot of it is wanting to protect
00:02:19.560 younger kids from forming any ideas of
00:02:22.120 sexuality too young feel like that's a
00:02:24.280 big part of it yeah should a woman be
00:02:26.800 able to wear whatever she wants wherever
00:02:28.800 she wants
00:02:31.319 I want to say yes but you should also
00:02:34.080 respect yourself as well but yes live
00:02:37.239 your life what if that place has a dress
00:02:40.680 code Follow It Or Break The Rules no
00:02:44.400 definitely follow it if it if it has a
00:02:45.879 dress code and that's somewhere you want
00:02:47.319 to go you want to you want to addess
00:02:50.000 appropriate for the occasion yes it
00:02:52.080 depends on where you're going some
00:02:53.280 restaurants want you to dress classy so
00:02:55.319 I I would understand that what's the
00:02:57.400 difference between dressing Classy
00:02:58.879 versus dressing trash
00:03:01.640 trashy would be more so like when you
00:03:03.599 got like your titties and your ass out
00:03:06.239 for sure it's all about how you carry
00:03:08.480 yourself it's about how you carry
00:03:10.159 yourself you know you can show some
00:03:12.319 skin but it's about how you act when
00:03:14.640 you're showing that skin that matters so
00:03:17.560 do you think men who lead with their
00:03:19.000 wallets attract gold diggers the same
00:03:21.239 way that women who dress [ __ ] will
00:03:22.959 attract F boys yes because if you're
00:03:25.760 leading with your wallet there's nothing
00:03:27.319 else for you to give me and if you're
00:03:29.799 flashing money you're not going to
00:03:31.319 attract the people that really want to
00:03:32.720 deal with you the gold diggers are going
00:03:34.439 to be the first ones to flock to you and
00:03:35.920 they know exactly how to get you should
00:03:38.480 a woman be surprised if she's harshly
00:03:40.080 judged for wearing a [ __ ] outfit to
00:03:41.519 meet her boyfriend's mom no why because
00:03:44.519 that's just unrespectful to the mom moms
00:03:46.760 probably don't like that you got to
00:03:47.879 dress you know you got to got to look
00:03:50.159 good I think outfits are a form of
00:03:52.319 expression 100% And you should wear what
00:03:54.000 you feel confident and comfortable in
00:03:55.200 but I think it's definitely a time and
00:03:56.400 place thing if you're going to meet a
00:03:58.360 parent maybe don't wear that Min skirt
00:04:01.799 if you had a daughter would you let her
00:04:03.360 leave the house wearing whatever she
00:04:04.840 wants no depending on her age but no it
00:04:08.400 really depends on the age consider like
00:04:10.439 whatever she wants really depends if
00:04:12.280 we're assuming that whatever she wants
00:04:13.720 is really little clothing or something
00:04:15.480 that's really revealing probably not
00:04:18.120 simp like for mainly because I know
00:04:21.279 unfortunately how people react in
00:04:23.759 society and how like she'll be looked at
00:04:25.600 how she'll be talked to if she's going
00:04:27.120 out in public will she be cat called
00:04:28.479 could she potentially be touched those
00:04:30.240 kinds of things and out of a
00:04:31.919 protective nature I wouldn't want my
00:04:34.199 daughter being subjected to those things
00:04:36.039 that I think less protective parents
00:04:38.840 allow their kids to be subjected to why
00:04:41.199 is a father considered to be a good dad
00:04:43.560 if he encourages his daughter to dress
00:04:45.280 modestly but a boyfriend is controlling
00:04:47.840 if he encourages his girlfriend to do
00:04:49.479 the same because of a daughter should
00:04:51.759 listen to her father and the boyfriend
00:04:55.759 should you know he he found her how he
00:04:58.680 found her so either way it goes he needs
00:05:01.320 to you know flaunt that you can't date a
00:05:04.759 bad [ __ ] if you can't handle a bad
00:05:06.960 [ __ ] when it seems like a father is
00:05:09.199 doing it it seems protective but when a
00:05:11.000 boyfriend is doing it it seems jealous
00:05:12.440 and controlling because they have
00:05:13.919 different feelings towards that daughter
00:05:16.199 SLG girlfriend like a father won't have
00:05:19.199 like romantic or sexual feelings and so
00:05:21.560 it's just like oh he's trying to protect
00:05:23.160 his daughter he's doing the best for her
00:05:24.720 whereas a boyfriend knows like if he
00:05:26.400 finds her attractive other guys are
00:05:28.600 going to find her attractive and he's
00:05:30.240 trying to control that he doesn't want
00:05:31.919 other guys to think that about her so I
00:05:34.199 think that's why the tone is different
00:05:36.440 well how do you protect something that
00:05:37.680 you don't
00:05:39.280 control I don't know you're the one that
00:05:41.479 said I don't know
00:05:44.479 um I don't know I think I honestly don't
00:05:48.600 think there's like too much of a like a
00:05:50.479 realistically there's not much of a
00:05:51.800 difference in the way that they're
00:05:52.919 controlling or protecting the girl I
00:05:55.160 think it's just that's how people view
00:05:56.759 it it's you know the dad isn't trying to
00:05:59.319 have the daughter in any way so he's
00:06:01.000 just doing the nice thing whereas I
00:06:02.680 think boyfriends will instantly just
00:06:04.199 come across as controlling and so
00:06:06.400 without really having like the
00:06:07.440 analytical questions like you just ask
00:06:09.080 people just kind of make those snap
00:06:10.240 judgments and are like oh the
00:06:11.759 boyfriend's controlling you should be
00:06:12.800 able to do whatever you want but your
00:06:14.199 dad is protecting you how can a man be
00:06:16.560 responsible for a woman's safety if he
00:06:18.360 has no say over the risks that she
00:06:22.400 takes he can't be I I if a woman's
00:06:25.520 taking a risk
00:06:27.319 I I know I just shoving in my face
00:06:30.240 um
00:06:31.880 I sorry I don't know what the question
00:06:34.000 was okay all right we'll move on we'll
00:06:35.319 move on why are gay people more aware of
00:06:38.360 how their clothes and behavior present
00:06:41.120 to the world than the straight women who
00:06:43.840 complain that revealing clothing
00:06:45.840 shouldn't get them unwanted attention
00:06:48.039 his women are [ __ ] delusional I feel
00:06:50.360 like gay people are more of um embracing
00:06:53.120 their s girls are more of
00:06:56.319 like you know they have everyone has
00:06:58.440 their insecurities but gay people once
00:07:00.919 they come out they're they're embracing
00:07:03.560 it they're you know confident in it so
00:07:05.000 they're going to flaunt it women are
00:07:06.840 delusional they believe in their brains
00:07:09.800 that they're supposed to just do
00:07:12.039 whatever they want to do and nobody else
00:07:13.960 is entitled to their opinion why would a
00:07:16.879 celebrity dress Incognito if it didn't
00:07:19.240 affect the amount of attention they got
00:07:21.160 it yeah they they don't want to be
00:07:23.080 recognized I feel like it would always
00:07:25.000 affect the attention they got if they're
00:07:27.280 not dressed in Incognito they're going
00:07:28.840 to be recognized
00:07:30.440 and they're going to be harassed and
00:07:33.800 bombarded by groups of
00:07:35.720 people do you think that there's a
00:07:37.639 correlation between that and how women
00:07:39.240 dress versus how they're
00:07:41.720 treated no no are men more thirsty for
00:07:45.360 sex or are women more thirsty for
00:07:47.400 attention damn I would say men are more
00:07:50.440 thirsty for sex which one is more of a
00:07:53.159 biological
00:07:55.759 need um I would say men looking for sex
00:08:00.080 women are thirsty for attention women
00:08:02.680 more thirsty for attention I feel like
00:08:04.879 sex would be more of like a biological
00:08:07.520 need well why is one any more shameful
00:08:10.080 than the
00:08:11.000 other they cancel each other out well
00:08:13.960 from my personal experience men love sex
00:08:17.080 like they just love it um I feel like
00:08:19.440 for women a lot of the ones that crave
00:08:21.919 that attention they have like some not
00:08:25.720 all of them I can't speak for like the
00:08:27.879 population but a lot of them have have
00:08:30.280 like issues with like at home um I mean
00:08:34.279 I can speak I'm not like judging like I
00:08:36.399 crave attention a lot that's what they
00:08:38.519 Thrive off like they need attention I'm
00:08:41.760 know they need attention like men we
00:08:43.719 could go so long without talking to boys
00:08:46.360 without posting on Instagram but women
00:08:48.720 they post in bikinis like they need
00:08:51.120 attention they want the likes and the
00:08:53.240 comments if women are so concerned about
00:08:55.519 being judged as [ __ ] why would they
00:08:57.680 ever dress in a way that might be
00:08:58.839 perceived as [ __ ] I don't think
00:09:00.680 they're worried about looking [ __ ] you
00:09:02.360 know you look [ __ ] if you look [ __ ]
00:09:04.200 but like it's mostly for yourself and
00:09:05.959 not for anyone else who's more
00:09:08.240 delusional sexy women who say they dress
00:09:10.320 for themselves or highle men who say
00:09:12.880 they improve for themselves highle men
00:09:15.240 who say they improve for themselves why
00:09:17.680 because they overcompensate they're
00:09:19.320 compensating for something don't both do
00:09:21.760 it for the attention of the opposite sex
00:09:24.360 some some men do it to please other men
00:09:28.560 why is it considered cruel to tease an
00:09:30.200 animal but it's not considered cruel to
00:09:32.200 tease a man men ain't [ __ ] sorry what do
00:09:35.360 you mean by that well with wearing a
00:09:37.440 [ __ ] outfit be considered teasing a
00:09:39.079 man no we don't dress for men we dress
00:09:42.680 for ourselves animal way different how
00:09:46.200 so cuz they're cute and fluffy and no
00:09:49.360 men different men are [ __ ] what
00:09:51.519 animal is an [ __ ] wouldn't wearing a
00:09:53.760 [ __ ] outfit be considered teasing a
00:09:56.240 man no cuz it's for yourself and not for
00:09:58.839 men would wearing a [ __ ] outfit be
00:10:01.279 considered teasing a man yes for sure
00:10:04.839 because like men like how like how I
00:10:07.839 said we get aroused easy like we don't
00:10:09.839 know like how to stop it and how to like
00:10:12.120 not H not make it happen so like yeah if
00:10:15.839 a woman has lots of sexy photos on her
00:10:17.519 dating profile and no bio should she be
00:10:20.480 surprised if guys are only contacting
00:10:22.079 her for hookups no why because it's what
00:10:24.839 you're asking for in a way or see it
00:10:27.040 appears that way no she shouldn't be
00:10:28.839 surprised at all all why because men
00:10:31.200 will be men can she be judged the same
00:10:34.120 way if she's out in public wearing a
00:10:35.839 [ __ ]
00:10:36.920 outfit what do you mean like judged as
00:10:39.120 far as like a man just wanting to have
00:10:40.800 sex with her yes so then why would it
00:10:44.160 make any difference if you're online or
00:10:45.760 out in public there isn't a difference
00:10:48.920 but why can people make assumptions
00:10:50.160 about you online but not in person
00:10:52.120 people can make assumptions about you
00:10:53.519 regardless I think people are a lot more
00:10:55.639 bold online and that's why we see so
00:10:57.240 much more of like bullying and stuff
00:10:58.760 like that online um so I think anything
00:11:02.399 you post anywhere if you're an
00:11:03.959 attractive woman if you're posting
00:11:06.600 whatever you're going to get those
00:11:08.600 comments no matter what if you have a
00:11:10.399 bio or not we are men okay from a young
00:11:14.440 age you can't train us any differently
00:11:16.440 we're 5 years old we're walking down we
00:11:18.079 see boobs we go oop boobs okay we're 10
00:11:20.920 years old we're walking down the road we
00:11:22.279 see o boobs okay so we are trained and
00:11:25.120 we are scolded to see boobs and look
00:11:26.680 away okay it is not natural
00:11:29.920 if a prostitute and an average woman are
00:11:31.959 both walking around half naked why would
00:11:34.480 it be wrong to assume both are
00:11:36.519 soliciting sex what's the difference
00:11:39.120 there is no difference if you ask me I
00:11:40.839 mean I feel like there is no difference
00:11:42.720 and it wouldn't be wrong cuz like that's
00:11:45.519 that's what you're perceiving and that's
00:11:46.959 what we that's what we're getting from
00:11:48.920 what we see we don't know you so like
00:11:51.120 this our first first impression on you
00:11:53.920 and you dress and [ __ ] the same as
00:11:56.240 prostitutes of course we're going to
00:11:57.839 think you in the same business business
00:11:59.519 as them I don't think you should be
00:12:01.720 judged for just wanting to exist um me
00:12:04.800 existing does not constitute you know an
00:12:08.880 invite for you to harass me um what is
00:12:12.079 the definition of indecent exposure uh
00:12:14.639 not wearing enough clothes I would think
00:12:17.000 anything you wouldn't wear in front of
00:12:18.639 children like showing private personal
00:12:22.560 parts parts of your body that shouldn't
00:12:25.160 be seen by the public there are sexually
00:12:27.880 explicit things that can be done that
00:12:29.360 are not meant to be done in public near
00:12:31.800 children public places that nature of
00:12:34.399 things if sex is conveyed through sexual
00:12:37.199 acts and not nudity why are nude photos
00:12:40.399 effective cuz men get turned on yeah men
00:12:43.320 get turned on by naked they could turned
00:12:46.000 on by anything if a woman's naked body
00:12:48.600 is not sexual why is nudity
00:12:50.959 inappropriate around children isn't that
00:12:53.240 admitting that nudity is sexual and
00:12:54.880 conveyed through Visual means
00:12:59.800 I mean I think once a kid like she has a
00:13:02.600 kid that's three you know once they h a
00:13:05.000 certain age I just feel like they should
00:13:07.720 know about the woman's body and male
00:13:09.760 body and what their body parts are not
00:13:12.399 no cheesy names for it but like you
00:13:15.279 don't need to be naked in front of your
00:13:17.160 child all the time yeah throughout
00:13:20.440 history and culture the standards of
00:13:22.639 what's considered indecent exposure have
00:13:24.720 changed skirt length burkas Etc why do
00:13:28.680 these rules apply mainly towards women
00:13:31.560 that is a great question because men
00:13:34.279 love to control women and what they wear
00:13:36.639 and how they act and everything in
00:13:39.040 between because they are mainly the ones
00:13:41.800 doing in decent exposure men we wear
00:13:45.079 fully like we we're fully clothed when
00:13:46.920 we step outside you never see a man in
00:13:49.519 his Jaws coming outside at what point is
00:13:52.959 a woman initiating a sex act through her
00:13:55.920 clothes or lack of clothes there's no
00:13:58.759 way of initiating a sex act through your
00:14:01.240 clothes or lack of clothes why is it not
00:14:04.120 considered corn when women expose
00:14:06.519 themselves out in public cuz they want
00:14:08.440 to just dress for themselves they're not
00:14:10.040 just like that's not a sexual invitation
00:14:12.839 if sex isn't conveyed through Visual
00:14:14.680 means why is corn even
00:14:18.399 effective cuz that's like fully it's
00:14:20.560 like watching someone have sex basically
00:14:22.759 social conditioning I mean there's
00:14:24.920 plenty of countries like um if you've
00:14:27.759 ever watched the Nat Geo Channel you've
00:14:29.560 seen boobs on N Geo in a nonsexual way
00:14:33.480 that's completely appropriate for
00:14:35.040 children to see but if you like put
00:14:38.199 boobs in front of the camera rub your
00:14:39.800 nipples that's a whole different story
00:14:42.000 um I think that cultural um needs are
00:14:46.120 very important when talking about who is
00:14:48.759 naked and how that makes people feel I
00:14:51.199 don't feel like women are initiating a
00:14:52.839 sex act just because a woman dresses a
00:14:54.720 certain way doesn't mean that she wants
00:14:57.000 you to feel a way that she dresses she
00:14:59.040 dresses for herself if that's the way
00:15:01.199 she wants to dress and it makes her feel
00:15:02.880 beautiful makes her feel sexy then by
00:15:05.320 all means do you how is that not a
00:15:07.199 contradiction if we just admitted that a
00:15:09.440 woman's lack of clothes can be
00:15:11.399 considered sexual around children around
00:15:14.639 children yes there's a time and a place
00:15:16.560 for everything there's things that I
00:15:18.920 would wear to the club that I'm not
00:15:20.399 going to wear to church there's a time
00:15:21.839 and a place for everything but I'm
00:15:23.199 saying if it's considered sexual around
00:15:24.360 children why wouldn't it be considered
00:15:25.639 sexual around just the General Public
00:15:30.319 good
00:15:31.720 question
00:15:33.959 um I believe it is still sexual around
00:15:36.360 the general public so then once again
00:15:38.160 what's wrong with being sexual well I'm
00:15:40.160 just wondering at what point then is a
00:15:42.000 woman initiating a sex act based on what
00:15:44.959 she's wearing so being sexual in public
00:15:47.759 and initiating a sex act are two
00:15:49.839 different things I'm allowed to exist
00:15:52.360 without being harassed when women walk
00:15:55.000 around in public wearing what might be
00:15:57.040 perceived as lingerie how is a man's
00:16:00.000 subconscious metabolism supposed to know
00:16:02.560 when the sexual stimulation is real when
00:16:05.560 it's real sexual stimulation is always
00:16:08.600 real that's natural whether it's a short
00:16:12.720 dress summer dress
00:16:16.399 or
00:16:18.199 lingerie like it's some people are
00:16:21.199 conservative lingerie only belongs
00:16:22.959 inside some people are like yeah walk
00:16:24.839 around no body shaming perfect I person
00:16:29.440 do not care but again do not scold me
00:16:34.160 for having a look I think that a great
00:16:36.720 way is by asking walking up to someone
00:16:39.279 saying hey what's your name starting the
00:16:40.800 conversation not in a sexual way at all
00:16:43.440 um and then if the let me rephrase if
00:16:48.440 the woman seems like she is interested
00:16:51.000 in your advances then I think that it's
00:16:53.399 a great time to ask
00:16:55.680 hey what what you doing tonight you know
00:16:58.319 like I think that it's a great time to
00:17:00.720 put forward and put out consent that
00:17:02.800 doesn't necessarily have to be do you
00:17:04.559 want to have sex tonight but it could be
00:17:06.880 like hey what are you doing tonight yeah
00:17:09.839 and then you can go based off of what
00:17:11.839 the woman says in her body language or
00:17:13.839 anyone in between honestly like even if
00:17:16.359 I were to like make a move on a man um I
00:17:19.799 wouldn't just immediately go up and like
00:17:22.000 start like grinding on him you know like
00:17:24.400 I would cuz like I've had that done to
00:17:26.319 me in ways that was not a wanted advance
00:17:29.520 um have we ever considered that men
00:17:32.080 might have erectile dysfunction from
00:17:34.440 being teased so often that they become
00:17:36.880 conditioned and confused about when it's
00:17:39.280 okay to become aroused that's that's a
00:17:41.919 good one cuz like like women they show
00:17:45.600 the self a lot and men like we can't
00:17:48.320 stop it so like it could really it could
00:17:51.000 really cause something but why why
00:17:53.080 wouldn't that be the same for women then
00:17:55.120 can you be more specific like men should
00:17:57.320 be able to control themselves the way
00:17:58.919 way that women can control themselves a
00:18:01.159 lot of the times when a man is nervous
00:18:03.120 to have sex with someone they get like
00:18:05.919 they're not able to get hard and stuff
00:18:07.520 like that like so they could tease you
00:18:09.400 and everything and then get you to a
00:18:10.960 point and then you're like stop or
00:18:12.280 they're like stop and at that point a
00:18:15.440 man if he has that control to say okay
00:18:18.440 it's frowned upon for men to look at
00:18:21.080 women and go oh boobs okay I can't stand
00:18:24.200 that if girls are going to dress that
00:18:26.480 way guys should look at them and guys
00:18:28.360 should not embarrassed guys should not
00:18:29.840 be ashamed the boobs are out your boobs
00:18:32.000 are out I like looking at your eyes too
00:18:34.960 but I mean if I look at your boobs don't
00:18:36.840 sco many women complain about not
00:18:39.520 feeling safe when they walk around in
00:18:41.159 public why don't men in prison walk
00:18:43.919 around with their body exposed for fear
00:18:46.520 of being assaulted but women will walk
00:18:49.039 around exposing their body despite their
00:18:51.559 fear of being assaulted cuz I feel like
00:18:54.280 their fear of being assaulted is lowkey
00:18:56.280 made up like they that like they want to
00:18:58.799 attention like how you started the
00:18:59.960 question is they want attention so like
00:19:01.880 they're going to thrive for that like
00:19:04.440 everything we we got they wanted see
00:19:07.000 what I'm saying it's not like I'm not
00:19:08.240 trying to make it a competition but
00:19:10.000 that's just really how it is and how it
00:19:11.520 been lately