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I've recently been playing around with
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this idea or visual representation of
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how to explain the manifestation process
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so I think what I would love to do today
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is just talk through how my mind sees
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this Visual and how important it can be
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in helping you understand the
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manifestation phase so a lot of times
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people will talk about the mind like a
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garden and as a man thinketh by James
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Allen he actually talks about this he
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talks about planting seeds in the garden
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of your mind and you can't grow
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something that wasn't planted so you
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can't plant a tulip and get a rose like
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you can't plant negative seeds and get
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positive outcomes so that's very very
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powerful but I think we can actually be
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even more specific in terms of the
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manifestation um process and likening it
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to a garden and I love this so I want to
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work through this the first step in the
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manifestation process most of the time
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is to ask the question well what do you
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want to manifest let's create a vision
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board and then let's manifest that
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that's wonderful and I think that that
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is a lot of fun it gets you on the
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creative plane it allows you to then get
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excited build the desire about this
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dream life everything that you can have
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what would this wonderful new experience
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be it can be so fun but so many times
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people stop there because they don't
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know what to do next and so to me that's
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like seeing a garden in your
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backyard knowing exactly where you would
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put it and how beautiful it would look
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but never actually planting it like just
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leaving it never getting around to it
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never doing it and never actually seeing
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the garden so to me that's just the
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creation of vision boards so we have a
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whole bunch of people going to vision
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board parties creating vision boards
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putting it in their house and then never
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taking a step further so to me the real
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work happens when we ask the question
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who do I need to be to now create what's
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in the vision board in order to have
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that elevated life in order to become
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that version of me that has the bigger
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house the nicer car has a charity that I
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uh run and do all the philanthropy and
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I'm on this cover of this magazine and
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etc etc who do I need to be in order to
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have all that because there's a
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difference if you were already that
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version you would have it today so when
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I think about now going out into the
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backyard and deciding I'm actually going
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to make this Garden
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this is where we ask what kind of seeds
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are we going to plant to put into this
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Garden so the seeds are meaning the new
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identity the new ideas that I'm going to
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plant in the subconscious mind so if I
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want a mansion overlooking the ocean in
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Malibu and I want this beautiful car and
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I want this type of business and I want
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to experience this life and I want this
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type of man and this type of Health etc
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etc etc I have to ask then who do I need
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to be in order to have that so I would
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venture to say that I'm going to be a
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heck of a lot more confident than I am
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today I'm going to plant seeds of
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confidence in my garden I believe that
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I'm going to need to be disciplined and
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committed I'm going to plant those seeds
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in my garden I'm likely going to need to
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have like an unwavering belief and faith
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in myself I'm going to plant those seeds
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in my garden I think I'm probably going
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to need to be somebody who's going to be
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bold and daring and take risks and go
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for it be all in so I'm going to plant
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those Allin seeds and those bold seeds
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in my garden so the important thing and
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what I'm really getting at here is that
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we have to ask the question of like what
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do we want our garden to be made up of
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what type of person do we desire to be
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what do we want that to look like and we
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can't just willy-nilly throw a whole
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bunch of stuff into it and not have any
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sort of plan for what that's going to
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look like and I think what a lot of
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people are doing today is that they're
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continuing to just replant seeds of who
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they think they are yesterday into their
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New Garden of who they would like to be
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tomorrow and so this is how we end up
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with these overgrown Gardens Full Of
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Weeds you can't even see what's really
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in it because nobody is taking care of
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it nobody is managing it nobody is
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grooming it watering it all that kind of
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stuff so now we're going to be super
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intentional we're going to make sure
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that we are planting certain seeds into
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that Garden because we know what kind of
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flowers we're going to get we know that
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when I plant this little seed I'm going
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to have a beautiful full grown cucumber
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in my garden or I'm going to get these
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beautiful red tomatoes or I'm going to
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get these beautiful roses in my garden
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and it's going to look so beautiful and
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so we have to know what the outcome is
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we desire what kind of seed is going to
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be planted in order to have that outcome
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so we're not going to plant a house seed
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Dreamhouse seed we're going to plant the
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identity seed and this is where I think
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it's very very different to what a lot
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of other people are trying to accomplish
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they're trying to manifest a thing
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without trying to be a thing so now what
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do we do once we've planted the seeds so
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I've made the decision that I want that
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dream house and that dream car and that
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dream business and that dream man and
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all those things and I now have
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identified all the seeds that are going
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to Encompass my garden and I'm going to
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plant them figuratively speaking it's
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it's a beautiful picture but what we're
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actually talking about is planting the
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seeds in the womb of creation which is
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the subconscious mind so we are going to
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plant new ideas into our subconscious
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mind so we're going to tell ourselves
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yes I'm confident yes I'm disciplined
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yes I take bold action yes I'm going to
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be Allin on this energy yes I have
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absolute unwavering faith in myself but
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what do we do after we've planted all
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the seeds we have to water them we have
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to give them sunlight we have to pluck
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the weeds from the garden so that that
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Garden is able to flourish and to
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actually give us what we want instead of
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a bunch of stuff we don't want so the
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watering of the Garden to me is the
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thoughts it's the ideas it's the
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visualizations it's the imagination it's
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allowing you to focus your attention
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upon what you desire and not what's
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going wrong in your life so to water my
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garden every day means that I'm going to
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fill my mind with positive thoughts and
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experiences I'm going to meditate I'm
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going to visualize I'm going to journal
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I'm going to take a course or a program
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that's going to help me reprogram the
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subconscious mind I'm going to listen to
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this productive podcast this morning
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that makes me feel good I'm going to go
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for a walk and ground myself I'm G to
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play with my kids I'm G to control my
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thinking and tell myself a story that's
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empowering instead of
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disempowering so to me that's the new
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seeds have been planted and now I'm
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going to water them I'm going to take
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care of them I'm going to make sure that
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they get the appropriate sunlight so if
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I go back to thinking negative thoughts
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every single day gossiping venting
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complaining watching TV that's full of
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violence paying attention to the news
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that is nothing but horrible stories of
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things going wrong in life watching
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social media and comparing myself to the
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next influencer on my social media uh on
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my Instagram and making myself feel bad
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because I don't have as good of a life
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as her I'm not giving it sunlight I'm
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giving it Darkness I'm actually putting
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the garden underneath of the clouds I'm
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making the garden look dark I'm hiding
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those beautiful seeds from their
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realization of becoming what they could
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and potentially be so the important
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thing then is is to give it light and to
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give the seeds light is to give them
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focused attention is to to affirm new
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ideas to give it positivity to give it
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love to love yourself to make sure
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you're only consuming social media
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content or news programming or TV
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programs that make you feel good that
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make you feel light the next piece in
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which is so powerful with a garden is
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you have to go out and you have to pluck
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the things that are not meant to be
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there so when you're creating this
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beautiful garden outside and maybe it's
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a vegetable garden or it's beautiful
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flower garden
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you have to go outside and you have to
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watch the garden and look and see if
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there's anything growing in there that
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doesn't match you have to pluck the
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things that don't belong so when the
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Weeds start filling up the garden they
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start to cover up all of the beautiful
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new growth that's starting to come from
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the things that you intentionally
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planted and if those weeds take over
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that Garden it will actually stop those
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beautiful tomatoes from growing those
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beautiful rose bushes from growing they
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will literally suffocate it and not give
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it space to grow so you have to go out
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there and you have to pluck so what are
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the weeds they the negative thoughts
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they're those automatic negative
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thoughts that keep coming in your mind
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they're the things that tell you I can't
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do it I'm not good enough I don't know
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how you can't possibly get this done
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Kathleen you don't know enough you're
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not pretty enough you haven't achieved
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enough yet you have to pluck the weeds
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to allow your mind to flourish and to
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grow so that means
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whatever you intentionally planted in
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that Garden if it doesn't match that you
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let it go you dismiss it you say no not
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today we used to joke in 2020 we there
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was something going around where people
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were saying this statement of pass the
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ketchup it was just like some random
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statement to just stop a thought
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midsection nope pass the ketchup and
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move to a new thought so for me I say no
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Kathleen we're not going to think that
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we're gonna think this oh yeah no we
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planted seeds of confidence into our
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garden Kathleen so we're going to think
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confident thoughts but you have to pay
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attention you have to notice and you
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have to pluck the weeds that are
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overgrowing in your beautiful garden but
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there's this other thing that happens
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and it's called the waiting period or
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the gestational period so there's a time
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where you're going to put the seeds in
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the ground and you're going to water it
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and you're going to give it sunlight and
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you're going to pluck the weeds and
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you're not going to see too much
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happening but you know that that was a
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tomato seed like you know that that was
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a rose that you planted in the G in
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there you have to believe in the image
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in your mind of what that seed is
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eventually going to become and hold the
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image and the thought
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regardless of what the outside world is
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telling you and this is where people get
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tripped up so most people will plant the
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new idea seeds in the subconscious mind
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they will water it they will believe
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they will take action but then they
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can't see it and then because they can't
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see it they start to not believe it and
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they walk away from the garden and they
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just stop entirely so this is where you
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stop watering it you stop plucking the
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weeds you just let it go you think oh
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it's dead I'm not good at gardening I
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can't do it and the next thing you know
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you just have a pile of nothing out
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there in the backyard overg growing and
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so in this in between you know the in
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between of planting the seeds and the
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observation of the birth of the new idea
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you must hold the image it's like me
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getting this Rose given to me that's not
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bloomed but I can see that it's bloomed
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in my mind like we really have to see
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what's coming and not what is present in
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front of us and so I love this with the
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garden and I think about my mom one day
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I remember she took me out to her garden
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she has this beautiful vegetable garden
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out there and she took me out one day
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and she was showing me all of these
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plants and they all looked good they
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were they were little buds coming up
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they were green you could see the buds
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it's like the signs of land like o o
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it's working yes here you go here it is
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so she got kind of excited and so she's
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wanting to water it and all that kind of
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stuff but then we go over to this other
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plant and it's all like brown and like
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it it started out looking that way but
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now it had gone kind of brown and I
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looked at her and I was like oh that one
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doesn't look too good and she goes oh no
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no it can turn around in an instant all
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it needs is a little bit more water all
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it needs is maybe some fresh dirt all it
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needs is to be cared for a little bit
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more and it'll turn around and I'll
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never forget about 2 weeks later I go
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back to her garden and it was like the
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most Lively flourishing plant that I've
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ever seen because she held the image she
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wasn't tripped up by the appearance that
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this plant wasn't going to make it she
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could see what the plant could be and I
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think that that's the most impactful
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part of this whole garden metaphor that
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I'm using to describe the manifestation
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process is that there is a time where
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you're going to be in between the
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planting and the observation in between
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the planting and the Harvest where you
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might not it might not appear like
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anything is happening it might not give
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you the signs that there's life at the
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other end you know it might not look
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like it's going to be the biggest
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zucchini plant that you've ever seen in
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your life but it could very much end up
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being that and so This Is The Moment In
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Time the waiting period that the
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gestation period the in between whatever
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language you want to call it where this
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is going to require you to have the most
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faith faith
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is everything in the manifestation
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process success in its simplest terms is
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Faith expressed in action so my mom had
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faith that that plant was going to come
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back so when she had faith that the
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plant was going to come back what did
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she do she gave it more love she gave it
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more attention she fed it more water she
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moved the soil but if she didn't have
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faith in that what would she have done
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she wouldn't have taken action she would
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have walked away from it let it go oh
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well it's gone and not given it any love
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or intention and so truly in the in
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between it's the place where faith is
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the most powerful and important thing
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that you can ever grab on to and this is
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the part where I see people lose the
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faith the most but if we ask what real
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faith is real Faith isn't observing it
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and going oh yeah there it is real faith
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is when you can't see it it's believing
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in it
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when you cannot see it so I have faith
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every single day that what I desire is
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on its way to me and if I don't then I
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go in and I grow my faith I work on that
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belief instead and then the final
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receiving phase of manifestation is the
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observation that's the Harvest so this
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is when we get to go out to the garden
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and we get to take those Tomatoes
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they're beautiful nice ripe and red and
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we get to make a tomato sauce out of
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them we get to go and take those
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zucchinis and make beautiful roasted
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zucchini in the oven with all of the
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fruits of our labor but it's also when
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we get to go out and look at the roses
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and be with the roses and enjoy the
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Roses even if we don't make a bouquet
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out of them we just leave them in the
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garden we get to see them and love them
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and enjoy them and it's in the enjoyment
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of the
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Harvest is the whole entire Point why we
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planted the garden in the first place
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but any Avid Gardener will tell you that
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they don't just do it to get from the
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garden they do it for the joy of the
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Journey of gardening of growing of
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expanding of spending time in that
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Garden they do it for the joy of the
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process of seeing something go from
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absolutely nothing to something and
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their hands being a part of it along the
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way it's not just about what you get so
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how many times are you manifesting ing
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what you want in this energy of just get
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me the tomatoes just get me the rose
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bush that's not how this works so we
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must enjoy the process we must love
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every moment of it we must be an active
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participant in our manifestation journey
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to allow this beautiful garden and then
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guess what second Garden you do the
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third garden you do the fourth Garden
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you do will just become effortless you
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now know how to do it you have figured
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it out and you know exactly what seeds
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will give you what plant or what
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vegetable or what fruit it really
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becomes that easy for you when you
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understand that this is a process of
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life that happens within you
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intentionally using your mind using
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controlling your thoughts and your
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emotions and then faith and then being
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open to receive the Harvest or the
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Sabbath n God calls it the Sabbath or
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the receiving of your manifestations but
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it is the last part and so many of us
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are so consumed with receiving that
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we're not enjoying the entire growth
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process along the way so I want to live
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in enjoyment of who I'm becoming now so
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that when I experience her I can say
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loved that whole process I loved every
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minute of becoming this elevated version
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and when you do that you detach from the
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outcome too which is a really powerful
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thing to do as we were recording this
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episode actually at the end of the
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episode Michelle said something really
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profound and I want to give her uh
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credit for saying that because it's so
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so good she actually said you know
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sometimes the weeds we mistake them for
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flowers and I think this is so
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interesting because it's true um if I
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were to go into my garden right now I
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would not be able to tell you what a
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like what a weed actually is and I'm
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sure that there's some weeds that
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actually look quite beautiful but um an
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avid Gardener would say that that's a
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weed so what's so beautiful about
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mentorship and about being a coach in
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the space is that I get to be the one
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that that says oh that's actually a weed
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you know I get to be like that expert
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Gardener who's like oh no that's a weed
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that's that kind of flower that's that
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that's that so um a lot of people will
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come to me or my team to be like hey you
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know I'm experiencing that is it this is
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it that is it this and we're able to
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allow them to become aware of what they
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aren't aware of but the other thing is
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to have a critical eye so when you are
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going through your manifestation process
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notice what thoughts you are having
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notice the feeling that you're in noce
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is the decisions that you're going to
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make and ask yourself this one question
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and this this question has served me so
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well is this thought I'm having right
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now an empowering thought is this
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feeling I'm in empowering is this
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decision that I'm making right now
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coming from an empowered place because I
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know what it feels like to feel
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empowered and I know what it feels like
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to feel limited so when you feel limited
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you feel less than you feel lacking it
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doesn't feel good but when you're in
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your power it always feels good so that
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might be a good way for you to know if
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you're in if it's a weed or if it's one
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of the seeds that you planted because
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empowerment will never match limitation
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they're two separate ends so if I feel
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inspired if I feel empowered if I feel
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lit up if I feel confident then I know
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that it's one of the flowers that I've
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planted and when I feel
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lack and limitation doubt if I feel
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confused energy if I feel sadness
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overwhelm anger those are all the weeds
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and they're not real and they're not
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true and so I remind myself of the
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beautiful flowers that I planted within
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my mind in my first book becoming the
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one I talk about there's a chapter
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called purity of mind and I love this
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idea so much because it is up to me to
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decide how pure my mind is it is up to
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me to decide how I feed it how I control
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it and the Direction with which I want
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it to take and so that thought of Purity
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feels good to me like what is a a pure
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thought it was something that I would
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want to say to my
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daughters it's something that I would
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want to say to my best friend it is
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something that I would want to say as
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like a cheerleader like you can do this
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you've got this this is a great idea
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you're amazing and incredible etc etc
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etc anything that is different to me
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would be a weed maybe trying to disguise
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itself as a flower but I just thought
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that was a beautiful um thing to add to
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the ending of this podcast um and a very
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very insightful thing to pay attention
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to in your manifestation process and
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remember whether you are building a
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actual Garden or a manifestation Garden
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that the limit does not exist
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