summurizr this:    
[00:00.000 -> 00:02.040]  So there's one skill you're going to learn this year.
[00:02.040 -> 00:04.100]  Let it be how to create deep connections
[00:04.100 -> 00:05.720]  with people you just met.
[00:05.720 -> 00:07.520]  Imagine if you could just walk up to a woman
[00:07.520 -> 00:09.800]  and make her feel like you understand her,
[00:09.800 -> 00:12.480]  you get her, you admire her, you appreciate her
[00:12.480 -> 00:14.160]  in a way that no other guy can.
[00:14.160 -> 00:15.760]  Imagine you could walk up to your boss
[00:15.760 -> 00:18.840]  and make them feel understood, feel taken care of
[00:18.840 -> 00:20.720]  in ways nobody else in your team can.
[00:20.720 -> 00:22.660]  Imagine if you speak to your customer
[00:22.660 -> 00:28.160]  and you can pinpoint the core desire they have and instead of jabbering around sales pitches, you're
[00:28.160 -> 00:31.120]  addressing their core desires and telling them how your product, your
[00:31.120 -> 00:35.440]  service can provide the core desire they have, can meet the core desire
[00:35.440 -> 00:38.800]  they have. If you can learn how to connect with people, you'll be golden.
[00:38.800 -> 00:42.480]  Everybody would want to be around you. Everybody will feel connected with you.
[00:42.480 -> 00:47.360]  Everybody would want to be hanging out with you. Women would want to continue to talk to you, they would want to
[00:47.360 -> 00:49.920]  go out on a date with you, they would want to be in a relationship with you,
[00:49.920 -> 00:54.720]  they will travel across the pond to be with you because it's very rare to find
[00:54.720 -> 00:57.560]  a guy with whom they can have this kind of connection. Think about today's time,
[00:57.560 -> 01:02.200]  nobody has time to talk to the people, nobody takes time to invest themselves
[01:02.200 -> 01:08.920]  to like really get to know the other person, all the conversation is happening on a superficial level and there comes this guy who's like no
[01:08.920 -> 01:15.220]  I'm gonna take the time to get to know the real you. I'm gonna take the time to really find out that what drives you
[01:15.220 -> 01:19.440]  What are the motivation that keeps you up at night? What are your goals? What is your vision for the future?
[01:19.480 -> 01:21.160]  Why do you want to do these things?
[01:21.160 -> 01:27.440]  What do you aspire to? If I can find those core emotions, those core drives, core motivation this person has and then
[01:27.440 -> 01:31.960]  communicate to them, I'm going to have a connection on a deeper level because now
[01:31.960 -> 01:35.440]  I'm not operating on a superficial level. Let me give an example, it will make sense.
[01:35.440 -> 01:38.520]  Let's just say you meet someone and they just came and moved here from a
[01:38.520 -> 01:40.800]  different country, different city. So let's just say you met someone, she's
[01:40.800 -> 01:43.960]  from Russia. What will most people do? They'll be like, oh that's great, I love
[01:43.960 -> 01:46.720]  Russia, Russians are so great, great you know oh how's the Russian
[01:46.720 -> 01:50.080]  vodka welcome to America whatever it is this conversation is happening on a
[01:50.080 -> 01:54.000]  superficial level you didn't get to know anything personal about her nothing
[01:54.000 -> 01:57.200]  intimate about her now if I would have just asked her a question oh you left
[01:57.200 -> 02:01.000]  Russia and came here well that was a big step because you left your family there
[02:01.000 -> 02:03.960]  you left your friends there you came alone you didn't have a job you're
[02:03.960 -> 02:07.760]  trying to figure everything out what was the reason that you did this? So it could be
[02:07.760 -> 02:11.200]  that because you know she wanted to upgrade her life, she wanted to go somewhere in life
[02:11.200 -> 02:15.040]  and she didn't get opportunities where she was or she just had a breakup right. So now she will
[02:15.040 -> 02:19.360]  tell me what it is. So now I'm having, I'm getting to know her on an intimate level. I'm getting to
[02:19.360 -> 02:23.280]  know what brought her to America and you see the difference here. One person is just talking
[02:23.920 -> 02:26.280]  on the surface, it's a superficial conversation.
[02:26.280 -> 02:27.400]  Oh, that's great. You're from Russia.
[02:27.400 -> 02:29.120]  Oh, we love Russians.
[02:29.120 -> 02:30.400]  Russians are great.
[02:30.400 -> 02:32.960]  The other person is like, no, you took such a big step.
[02:32.960 -> 02:34.480]  That's amazing you did that.
[02:34.480 -> 02:37.200]  I want to know what drove you to taking these steps.
[02:37.200 -> 02:38.560]  I want to know the real person.
[02:38.560 -> 02:40.160]  Now when she shares that with you,
[02:40.160 -> 02:43.160]  she's sharing intimate details of her life with you.
[02:43.160 -> 02:44.560]  Now she's feeling connected with you.
[02:44.560 -> 02:48.500]  She's feeling, she's sharing things with you that are reserved for people close to her.
[02:48.500 -> 02:52.500]  No other guy has taken the time to get to know her on that level.
[02:52.500 -> 02:54.800]  That connection is amazing.
[02:54.800 -> 02:58.800]  The second benefit from this is when you take this approach of getting to know people
[02:58.800 -> 03:00.900]  and creating a connection on the deeper level,
[03:00.900 -> 03:03.300]  you're never going to have mismatched connections.
[03:03.300 -> 03:06.320]  I'm sure you've had connections in the past where you were with someone,
[03:06.320 -> 03:08.720]  but that relationship was miserable. It was a mess.
[03:08.960 -> 03:11.320]  You know, you didn't get along with her. She didn't get along with you.
[03:11.320 -> 03:12.800]  You didn't appreciate the things she was doing.
[03:12.800 -> 03:16.400]  You thought her way of being was so wrong and she thought the same about you.
[03:16.720 -> 03:17.640]  Everything was a mess.
[03:17.640 -> 03:20.920]  And the reason was you both connected on a superficial level.
[03:20.920 -> 03:24.080]  You didn't take the time to really understand each other's core desires,
[03:24.080 -> 03:28.800]  because had you done that, either you would have appreciated, developed an appreciation for who
[03:28.800 -> 03:33.120]  they are and the choices they're making, or you would have recognized that these choices won't
[03:33.120 -> 03:37.840]  work for you and you would have never gotten into that relationship. That's the reason you need to
[03:37.840 -> 03:42.960]  take time to investigate the person and create a connection on a deeper level. And the third and
[03:42.960 -> 03:47.880]  the biggest benefit is when you are doing this, you don't have to worry about the conversation topics, you don't have to
[03:47.880 -> 03:51.120]  worry about what I'm going to talk about. You're going to talk about her core
[03:51.120 -> 03:54.800]  desires. You're going to talk to her about things that's going to create
[03:54.800 -> 03:58.480]  deep connection. Conversation is going to automatically keep going. I'm going to
[03:58.480 -> 04:02.000]  show you in a minute how that's going to work. So let's start talking about what
[04:02.000 -> 04:04.880]  is a deep connection. How do you even create that? Deep connection really is
[04:04.880 -> 04:07.000]  taking the time to get to know
[04:07.000 -> 04:10.280]  someone on a deeper level, really understanding their desires, their
[04:10.280 -> 04:13.520]  motivations, their core behavior. What are the things that drives them? What are
[04:13.520 -> 04:16.840]  the things that keeps them up at night? And having an interaction on that level.
[04:16.840 -> 04:20.200]  Just like I gave you the example of someone traveling, leaving their city,
[04:20.200 -> 04:22.960]  moving somewhere else. It's not just about moving somewhere else. It's not just
[04:22.960 -> 04:25.760]  about who they are. It's like why did they make this decision and then
[04:25.760 -> 04:29.800]  appreciating them for the decision, really evaluating them also for that
[04:29.800 -> 04:33.120]  decision because when you evaluate them maybe you will think oh I would never
[04:33.120 -> 04:36.640]  leave my family for a better life so I don't value this in this person and you
[04:36.640 -> 04:40.480]  may instantly identify this person is not for you and at the same time and you
[04:40.480 -> 04:44.120]  will tell them that you appreciate them that they took such a big risk that they
[04:44.120 -> 04:48.400]  came here alone with no one around them, no job, nothing and there was a big bold thing
[04:48.400 -> 04:52.560]  that tells me they're so passionate about improving their life. That's the kind of partner
[04:52.560 -> 04:57.360]  I want. They're gonna love you because they're gonna feel you really get them and you really
[04:57.360 -> 05:02.480]  appreciate them for who they really are. And this is what deep connection is. You have to peel
[05:02.480 -> 05:05.720]  through the layers of the onions and really go deep into their life,
[05:05.720 -> 05:08.560]  really take a peek and see who they are
[05:08.560 -> 05:11.480]  and then interact with them on that deeper level.
[05:11.480 -> 05:12.400]  If you can do that,
[05:12.400 -> 05:14.160]  you're gonna become the most charismatic guy,
[05:14.160 -> 05:15.080]  the most charming guy,
[05:15.080 -> 05:16.900]  no matter where you get, people love you
[05:16.900 -> 05:18.480]  because they feel so great around you.
[05:18.480 -> 05:20.120]  And I hear this all the time from people like Magic.
[05:20.120 -> 05:21.660]  When you come there, people love you.
[05:21.660 -> 05:22.920]  People feel so good around you.
[05:22.920 -> 05:24.760]  You know, people like you when you're around
[05:24.760 -> 05:26.640]  and they like that because I don't have a
[05:26.640 -> 05:30.240]  superficial conversation. I go deep and within a minute I can give them a
[05:30.240 -> 05:33.200]  compliment, say something about them that makes them feel like, wow, this is
[05:33.200 -> 05:36.080]  amazing. Nobody has said that, nobody has seen this in me.
[05:36.080 -> 05:39.200]  That's the power of deep connection and I always tell people, you know, dating,
[05:39.200 -> 05:42.400]  again, it's not about just learning lines routinely. That's the main way of
[05:42.400 -> 05:48.880]  meeting people. It's really about becoming that amazing guy who can just charm people, who can just lure people to him, who can just be that
[05:48.880 -> 05:53.920]  charismatic person that people are drawn to. And these habits, these skills is what makes you that
[05:53.920 -> 05:58.640]  charismatic person that draws people to them. So there's a very simple way to achieve this.
[05:58.640 -> 06:02.240]  There's a simple formula. I use this in every single workshop. This is how important it is
[06:02.240 -> 06:07.320]  that I never start a workshop without this. My first part of my workshop is really identifying the
[06:07.320 -> 06:11.400]  core desires of my client. So what you are basically going to do is you're going
[06:11.400 -> 06:15.560]  to make a list of all the core desires you have, all the things you value in
[06:15.560 -> 06:18.800]  yourself, everything you want to achieve in your life. So this way you identify
[06:18.800 -> 06:23.220]  who you are, what things you value, where you want to go in life and then you're
[06:23.220 -> 06:25.520]  going to make a list of things that you value in a woman.
[06:25.520 -> 06:28.960]  Now you want to take some time and really investigate that because
[06:28.960 -> 06:32.720]  things can get really confusing, right? Do I want a woman who's independent or
[06:32.720 -> 06:34.960]  do I want a woman who's going to be a good mother?
[06:34.960 -> 06:38.560]  Do I want a woman who's going to be like out there like have her own
[06:38.560 -> 06:41.120]  lifestyle or do I want a woman who's going to be nurtured, right? So things can
[06:41.120 -> 06:44.960]  get really confusing. So you really have to take time and dig
[06:44.960 -> 06:48.840]  deep and really not the superficial conversations, not the politically correct
[06:48.840 -> 06:54.640]  answers. You also have to go deep inside and really extract who you are, what you value,
[06:54.640 -> 06:58.440]  what's going to make you happy, because you cannot, dating and relationships cannot be
[06:58.440 -> 07:02.920]  about being politically correct. It's about what you crave for and finding that in someone
[07:02.920 -> 07:07.760]  and then being with that person, that's where you're going to experience a fulfilling relationship, right?
[07:07.760 -> 07:10.720]  So go through this list and if you struggle, come to the Tees Workshop.
[07:10.720 -> 07:14.280]  I can work with you and I can help you because I've been doing this for 15 years.
[07:14.280 -> 07:15.600]  I can help you identify those.
[07:15.600 -> 07:16.600]  I can challenge you.
[07:16.600 -> 07:19.040]  If you go through my reviews, you're going to see one thing constantly.
[07:19.040 -> 07:22.840]  I'm always challenging people to really finding who they are to making progress.
[07:22.840 -> 07:24.840]  It's really important that someone challenges you.
[07:24.840 -> 07:25.000]  Either you do it yourself or somebody else does it. So come to a Te. It's really important that someone challenges you,
[07:26.800 -> 07:29.100]  either you do it yourself or somebody else does it. So come to a team's workshop and I can do this for you.
[07:29.100 -> 07:30.200]  Come to a one-on-one workshop.
[07:30.200 -> 07:32.300]  If you want to take your game to a really whole different level
[07:32.400 -> 07:34.400]  and I can work with you, I can help you identify this.
[07:34.400 -> 07:35.900]  So you're going to make a list.
[07:36.100 -> 07:38.500]  Okay, of all the things you value, all the things you crave,
[07:38.500 -> 07:41.400]  all for you, all the things you value in you and all the things
[07:41.400 -> 07:42.100]  you want in a woman.
[07:42.400 -> 07:48.320]  Then you're going to start using these in your interactions just like I told you. So when you meet a woman, you're going to start asking
[07:48.320 -> 07:52.720]  questions around things you value. If I meet a woman, I can ask her, do you like to travel?
[07:52.720 -> 07:55.840]  And she says she doesn't like to travel or she doesn't have time to travel because she's so
[07:55.840 -> 08:00.080]  busy with her job. Now I can decide in that minute and say, you know what, traveling is really
[08:00.080 -> 08:03.840]  important for me. So I like this girl, but she cannot be my long-term partner because I want
[08:03.840 -> 08:06.800]  someone with whom I can travel the world so we are incompatible
[08:06.800 -> 08:10.160]  we're cool we can be friends we can even like have a short-term relationship but
[08:10.160 -> 08:14.040]  this is not going to work in the long run right I can even talk about these
[08:14.040 -> 08:17.000]  things like you know are you a woman who likes to take care of her man like I'm
[08:17.000 -> 08:20.360]  someone I'm old-fashioned I like to take care of my women and I like women to
[08:20.360 -> 08:23.360]  nurture me in return what kind of person you are so I can have conversations
[08:23.360 -> 08:29.240]  about things that I value. So the conversation topics are coming naturally. We are both talking
[08:29.240 -> 08:33.160]  about our life, our vision now, things we want to achieve in life, what kind of relationship
[08:33.160 -> 08:37.200]  we want to have. Then when she's saying all these things, I just ask her a question, she
[08:37.200 -> 08:40.160]  says something, I'm like, you know what, this is great. I like what you said that that's
[08:40.160 -> 08:43.840]  exactly the kind of things I want. It's really unfortunate. A lot of people don't have it
[08:43.840 -> 08:45.680]  now these days. But you know what?
[08:45.680 -> 08:48.000]  Keep talking and you won't be single from tomorrow onwards.
[08:48.000 -> 08:50.380]  So I can just take this conversation also
[08:50.380 -> 08:52.920]  and go deep and tell her I like her
[08:52.920 -> 08:54.800]  for who she really is inside.
[08:54.800 -> 08:57.000]  So now this connection is happening
[08:57.000 -> 08:59.080]  on a really deeper level.
[08:59.080 -> 09:00.080]  And I can talk about anything.
[09:00.080 -> 09:02.240]  I can even talk about things like, do you ever smoke?
[09:02.240 -> 09:03.080]  She's like, no.
[09:03.080 -> 09:04.320]  I'm like, ah, I smoke sometimes.
[09:04.320 -> 09:07.560]  Not a smoker, but once a year I like to go to a whiskey bar, smoke some cigar.
[09:07.720 -> 09:08.600]  It's so much fun to do.
[09:08.600 -> 09:12.440]  So I can take any of the topics that are important to me,
[09:12.840 -> 09:15.840]  ask her questions around that or ask questions about her,
[09:16.040 -> 09:19.760]  then go dig deeper on who she is, why she's making those choices,
[09:19.960 -> 09:22.120]  what kind of things she values, why she values,
[09:22.400 -> 09:24.840]  and then create a connection based on this value.
[09:24.840 -> 09:26.720]  Show appreciation for those values,
[09:26.720 -> 09:28.920]  show how we both can build the life together
[09:28.920 -> 09:30.820]  based on these shared values.
[09:30.820 -> 09:32.240]  You can do that.
[09:32.240 -> 09:34.360]  You can create a connection based on that,
[09:34.360 -> 09:35.320]  you're unstoppable.
[09:35.320 -> 09:36.400]  And this is not just about dating.
[09:36.400 -> 09:38.320]  Imagine you go to your boss, okay?
[09:38.320 -> 09:40.680]  And you really take some time to think,
[09:40.680 -> 09:42.720]  what is the motivation behind the project
[09:42.720 -> 09:44.000]  that my boss has given me?
[09:44.000 -> 09:49.520]  Do he really wants to free up his time? Does he really want to get like look good in the eyes of his boss?
[09:49.520 -> 09:52.680]  So if you're instead of saying yes boss I'll do this project imagine if you can say you
[09:52.680 -> 09:56.480]  know what boss I got this project you don't have to worry about it you go home sleep watch
[09:56.480 -> 10:01.040]  movie do whatever you want to do you won't be bothered this project now is my responsibility.
[10:01.040 -> 10:05.720]  You'll be the only person in the whole team who would say this and speak to his core desire,
[10:05.720 -> 10:07.360]  his, her, whatever it is, right?
[10:07.360 -> 10:10.220]  If you're like, you know what, boss, I got this project, don't worry about it.
[10:10.220 -> 10:13.800]  I'm going to get it done so well that even the top bosses are going to come and tell
[10:13.800 -> 10:15.680]  you that this is a job well done.
[10:15.680 -> 10:17.440]  Once again, nobody in the team is saying that.
[10:17.440 -> 10:20.880]  You're the one who's not just accepting the project, but you're talking about doing it,
[10:20.880 -> 10:21.880]  delivering their core desires.
[10:21.880 -> 10:23.840]  You have a client who comes like, hey, you know what?
[10:23.840 -> 10:24.960]  I want to do the sales.
[10:24.960 -> 10:26.240]  I want to help the world, I want to create
[10:26.240 -> 10:29.680]  these products to help everyone. Here's the thing, that's not their core desire,
[10:29.680 -> 10:33.920]  because if their desire was to help the world, they could just send this product out for free.
[10:33.920 -> 10:39.520]  Their core desire is to become successful, get known, make money while helping the world.
[10:39.520 -> 10:42.240]  So if I just tell them, oh, that's great, you want to be popular, you want to help people,
[10:42.240 -> 10:46.480]  let's just put this content for free everywhere else, they're going to run away. But if I tell them,
[10:46.480 -> 10:50.880]  look, we can help the world, we can achieve all of these while making you rich, while making you
[10:50.880 -> 10:54.400]  popular, so everybody looks at you and says, remembers you for a long time that this was the
[10:54.400 -> 10:57.840]  person who made a difference in their life, now I'm speaking to their core. So you see,
[10:59.040 -> 11:04.480]  developing the skin to ask questions, getting to their deep desires, knowing who they really are,
[11:04.480 -> 11:07.760]  and then interacting on that, complimenting on that, creating a connection on that,
[11:07.760 -> 11:12.380]  leading them on that, is going to create connections that are invaluable. They
[11:12.380 -> 11:15.920]  can never find it anywhere. They're going to love you for that experience. You're
[11:15.920 -> 11:19.660]  going to win them over and you're going to get whatever it is you want. So hope
[11:19.660 -> 11:23.560]  this helps and I'll talk to you soon.
[11:16.760 -> 11:20.280]  and I'll talk to you soon.