- Weak men try to convince

the world they are not weak.

Strong men try to convince

the world of nothing.

There's a lot of terrible advice

for young men on the

internet, and I get it.

Being a man in 2024 is (beep) confusing.

So in this video,

I'm going to explain

some timeless principles

that are important for any

young man to understand.

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Let's start with this.

The project of a young man

means defining your

usefulness to the world.

A woman's value to society is innate.

She has an inherent

potential to create life,

but men we're expendable.

Young men, especially as

long as there's one man

somewhere with a working dick,

civilization is going to be fine.

Therefore, throughout history,

there has been an intense

pressure on young men

to earn the right to be part of the tribe,

society, or civilization.

As the philosopher

Camille Paglia once wrote,

"A woman simply is but a man must become."

The project that Paglia alludes

to the becoming of a man

is therefore to build your value

to become a net positive for society.

As men, we have a deep

instinctual desire to do this.

It's largely what generates

confidence and self-esteem,

and it gives our lives a

sense of meaning and purpose.

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Develop the ability to

approach women in person

and state your sexual interest in them

in the simplest and most respectful terms.

Assuming you have your together

and don't look like a

basement dwelling troglodyte,

you will absolutely be shocked

how far this will get you.

Ultimately, the only good dating

advice is self-improvement.

Everything else is either

a detail or a distraction.

Build value within yourself,

give that value to those around you,

and most of your dating problems

will take care of themselves

over the long run.

Choosing a long-term partner

will be the most important

decision you make

at this stage of your life.

I know no one tells you

that, but it's true.

A great partner will

make every other endeavor

that much easier and more enjoyable.

A bad partner will make

every other endeavor

unnecessarily difficult and complicated.

So choose wisely.

And if you're really

struggling with women,

then read my men's dating book

"Models: Attract Women Through Honesty."

It sold nearly half a million copies

and even 12 years later,

it continues to be

one of the bestselling

men's books in the world.

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You're probably like most young men

and that you're incredibly impatient.

You wanna prove your status and worth now.

You want the fast car and

the fat bank account now.

You wanna bang the hot girl now.

Trust me, my dude, I get it.

Almost all things that

are valuable in a man

compound slowly over

a long period of time.

Wealth, knowledge,

strength, self-awareness,

emotional maturity, family.

These things are not found.

They're slowly built Over the

course of years and decades,

there will be many temptations to bypass

the long status game

for a bunch of short-term

bullshit status games.

This is the biggest mistake

that I made when I was young.

I thought I could shortcut

the long-term value game

by winning a bunch of dumb

short-term value games,

found in parties, video games,

nightclubs, and traveling.

These experiences were a lot

of fun, don't get me wrong,

and I did learn some things from them,

but ultimately they probably distracted me

from the bigger and more important goal

of developing myself.

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If the value of being

a man compounds slowly,

then that means the primary

project of every young man

should be to continue their

education indefinitely.

You do not stop learning

when you finish school.

On the contrary, the real

useful education has only begun.

Your project then is to learn the things

they didn't teach you in school.

How to relate to people,

how to be dependable and trustworthy,

how to listen well, how to take risks,

how to communicate your thoughts

and feelings effectively.

How to stomach rejection,

how to manage your emotions,

how to admit when you're wrong.

If you have emotional

or mental health issues,

now is the time to deal with them.

Not when you have a girlfriend,

not when you're married,

not when you're already

fucking up your kids.

Get it taken care of now.

Everyone will thank you

for it decades later,

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There's a bit of a meme

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And as a man who got therapy in his 20s

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The key is to find a good therapist,

a therapist who understands

what you're going through

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Try not to think of life as

a series of achievements,

but rather a series of explorations.

You're not trying to achieve money.

You are simply exploring

the means to make money.

You are not trying to achieve sex.

You are simply exploring your sexuality.

You're not trying to achieve six back abs.

You are simply exploring the potential

of your health and fitness.

This allows you to

pursue worthy experiences

while not entangling your

ego and identity up in them.

Because even the most

noteworthy achievements

when laced with ego, will turn

you into a selfish asshole.

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If you have to say you are something,

you are not that thing.

If you have to convince people

that you are high value,

then you are not high value.

If you have to make people respect you,

then you are not worthy of respect.

The best way to earn respect

from people around you

is to first give it unconditionally.

Took me a long time

to learn that satisfaction

and self-respect as a man

will grow in proportion to

the value that you bring

to those around you.

Don't make the same mistakes that I did.

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Don't be afraid of your emotions.

Learn to recognize your

emotions and state them bluntly,

but never let them

dictate your life to you.

Emotions are merely a

suggestion, not a decree.

Don't make excuses.

Don't blame the world

for your shortcomings.

Don't become bitter or resentful

about things that don't affect you at all.

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The world will constantly

try to seduce you

with moral outrage.

Usually these narratives are sold

by other men whose projects

have been derailed,

men who have failed themselves and others,

and are trying to prove to you

that success is impossible.

This outrage is empty calories.

Don't buy into these narratives.

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Become an expert of your own mind.

Learn what motivates you.

Learn what scares you.

Learn what temps you and

what vices derail you.

Test and build systems for yourself.

What gets you to exercise in the morning?

What helps you have

difficult conversations?

What gets you to stop drinking

before you go too far?

What upsets you unnecessarily?

What the ins and outs of your own mind is?

This will affect everything you do.

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Complaining and talking shit

is how weak people relate to each other.

Train yourself to stop doing both

and stop hanging around

people who do both.

You are the average of the five people

you surround yourself with.

So take a long hard look

at who you're choosing.

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The world may seem like shit.

The world always seems

like shit to young people,

but recognize that today

there is more freedom and opportunity

than any other time in history,

yet fewer men are willing to act on it

and take it than ever.

The average young male is undereducated,

underemployed, overweight, broke,

and has never approached

a woman in his life.

Just fucking try, my God, just

try and your already ahead.

So push yourself, build

value, share it with others,

push yourself, build value,

share it with others.

Rinse and repeat. Play the long game.

Start compounding value

within yourself now,

reap the massive rewards down the line.

Then it's just a matter of being patient.

Compounding takes a long time,

so never interrupt it unnecessarily.

Just remind yourself periodically

that it's only going to

get better as you go.

And when you do get there,

it won't be some big celebratory moment.

Nobody's gonna throw you a parade.

No.

Once you get there,

you actually won't 

even know you're there

until one day you see an old video

or a story or someone

reminds you of something

and you kinda laugh to yourself

and say, "Wow, can't believe

I used to be that way."

I would say, "I'd congratulate

you when you get there."

I will be happy for you.

But once you're there,

you won't need any

fucking congratulations.

You'll be fulfilled all on your own.

Instead, I'll just do you a

favor by ending this video.

After all, you've got a lot of work to do,

so it's time to get started.

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