I need your opinion, since you're a neutral part in this situation. When I went to this city outside  of my city to visit my friend, we went outside one night and she invited her friend, this guy was smart, gentleman and cute. I thought he was interesting, but since I've been in situations in the past were when i made the first move or tried to show interest first, or took the situation in my hands to make this work, i always ended up in situations were i didn't feel valued and i felt like the other person was giving me a chance only because i made the first move and i was intered first. Now im looking for a serious relationship, a man that can and wants to be the man in the relationship and show interest and initiative first, of course i will match his energy too. So that night we talked a bit about everything in life, even my friend told me he is a high value man and a gentleman, he treats women with respect. That night we danced together and i felt the was an attraction between us, he said he liked how i danced and the fact that i was making eye contact with him when he was speaking, i very much liked that. After he made sure we took the taxi and the next day he followed me on instagram, proceeded two weeks later to text me and we talked we talked a bt about what we were doing our day hobbies, he was interested in knowing how my first lesson of salsa was and said he would like to dance with me again maybe have dinner, he's just busy and it might take a few weeks to meet me in my city but he said he would like to come visit me. He said if i was inviting him and i said he doesn't need and invitation just to know that i would be happy to see him and be his tour guide. He appreciated that, we talked for two weeks after that we had a last conversation were the night before he said it will take him a few weeks to organise the trip cause he is busy. So i understand him and of course i have a busy schedule too and im continuing my life as always, if he ever contacts me again and wants to come visit me i would be happy to but its not that if he doesn't come i will be heartbtoken because im keeping my options open in the dating scene. the thing is that he is 4 years younger than me but that's not the problem, not even the distance because i think that if you want it enough you will find a compromise with these small things, the thing that bothers me is the fact that we haven't talked for two weeks, i was the last one to send the last message and he didn't replied so now its in his hand to tell me when he wants to come visit or to reach out again. The thing is that i talked with my friend, his friend as well the other day and even if we weren't talking directly about him, because nothing have happened between me and him so for me its pointless to mention it, i just told her that we talked. and she was joking and said that he like agressive girls but his ex was aggressive and he broke uo with her cause he didn't like that, he sends my friends memes about liking latinas cause they are aggressive, i mean i send stupid memes to my friends as well, but see i felt like my friend was giving me these details to let me know in a soft way that maybe me and him are not looking for the same things and when i talked with him i was honest and told him that i go big or i dont bother at all, and i told him that i like people that know what they want and he said he likes the same, and of course i know he wouldn't try to hit on me if he felt like only wanted something casual with me. But after this my friend proceeded to say that two weeks and a half ago he asked her which was her favourite bar in the city were they live cause he had a date, she didn't give me any details on the date if the went out or anything, and that doesn't bother me since im talikng with other people as weel, as i said i want to keep the options open, but the thing is that i again felt like my friend told me that detail to soflty let me know that if im chatting with him to be careful cause i mean he is dating other girls, he said to her that he wanted the bar for the date caus eon dates he asks girls what they like to eat only when going to a restaurant and for the bar he is the one who picks the place. the proceeded to say that maybe they will go to london in two weeks but not yet confirmed cause he is waiting for his visa. The thing is that i have all these things in my head and i cant make order, i know that i just need to ingore this information because since im not talking with this guy i dont have to worry about his things or how to behave with this information, but i cant stop wondering how i should react when and if he texts me ans says he is interested to come visit me or maybe i wanted to go visit my friend in the city, what if he reaches out and says why you didnt tell me you were in my city, what should  i say. i know that i will me direct and honest and tell him that i didn't heard from him so i just thought he was busy and since i havent heard from him that he would reach out if he wanted to since he is the one that said was busy for a few weeks, because i don't like mixedsignals and confused situations, so when i feel like i dont have much info to go on i just distance myself from that situation cause its not from me. what do you think?