cover these points in a detailed blog article on deleting social media ---- e now
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actually so what am I like now that I
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have not had social media in over two
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years I think that I'm definitely more
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grounded than I used to be this
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fluctuates because I am an anagram 4 I'm
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a Libra I'm a natural born dreamer like
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I was born with my head in the clouds I
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don't I don't live my life with the
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constant thought of can I post this I
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live my life to live my life you know
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and I think that in doing that in a
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world where time is constantly speeding
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up or at least it feels like it is I can
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find those slow moments and really
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settle into them and I feel like in a
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way I've reclaimed what life is supposed
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to be not what the internet has deemed
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it to be you know Aesthetics and cottage
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core and minimalism and this is a trend
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and this is a trend and this isn't
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anymore so you can't do that I'm just
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living for me and I have never been
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happier I don't think that just deleting
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social media is what has helped to
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ground me and make me happier I think
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it's just the things that I've learned
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since being off of it speaking of
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Aesthetics and stuff like that I feel
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like since being on social media I'm on
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a journey of self-discovery I no longer
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feel the need to label myself as cottage
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core or vanilla Coconut Beach
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girl tomato Queen like even though I
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look like a tomato Queen right now but
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that's just not realistic as human
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beings we are not meant to fit into a
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little tiny box I realized that I don't
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know myself at all because I have spent
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so many years of my life putting myself
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into boxes if you're one of the
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aesthetic girlies you search and scour
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Pinterest to find the aesthetic that
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fits you most but guess what you're not
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going to fit every single checkbox of
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every aesthetic so don't have one just
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be you there is such a thing as you
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aesthetic Jillian
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aesthetic I mean
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I it's way more fun this way I promise
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since being off social media I have lost
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5 million friends like so many friends
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this is just the age in which I feel
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like you start to lose lots of
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friendships
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but without social media I feel like
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I've really been able to Foster the true
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friendships that I have because it's not
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always about oh my God she didn't
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freaking post me on her story for my
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birthday stupid stuff like that it
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doesn't matter anymore I'm not going to
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see it and I'm not going to know I feel
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like real friendship is more about
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connection anyway like who cares if she
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posts for the rest of the world to see
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that it's your birthday what matters is
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if she's telling you herself happy
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birthday I love you like I want to do
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this with you to celebrate that's
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friendship a
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story it's not real it's performative
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like I said I have been living in the
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moment more instead of being so focused
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on trying to capture it because I have
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my own camera up here that remembers it
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and that's even better I am much more
living in the moment
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reserved compared to being an open book
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which again not always a good thing
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because I'm kind of still in that phase
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of trying to figure out what to share
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and what not to share I find that if I'm
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able to share something with someone and
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leave the conversation feeling good and
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refreshed and a weight off my shoulders
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it was the right thing to do if I leave
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a conversation after sharing something
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with someone and I feel this guilt and
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this weight I know that I should
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shouldn't have done it in learning that
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and really carrying that idea with me
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it's helped I am way more secure way
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more secure I'm more physically secure
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internally secure like I could care less
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what the body standard is or the makeup
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standard I don't care I look the way
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that I look and it's about time that I
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came to terms with that and got
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confident with that you know everyone
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struggles with insecurity but I feel
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like without being constantly bombarded
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on social media by all these beautiful
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people and their amazing lives and all
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places they're going and the things that
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they're doing and the people that
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they're dating and all the friends that
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they have again it goes back to
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grounding like I've grounded myself it's
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very important to note that pretty much
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everything I'm saying I'm still in the
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process of learning I mean being on
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social media for 10 years all those
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habits and things that you learn that
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your body learns and craves doesn't just
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disappear as soon as the apps are gone
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like it's been over 2 years and I'm
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still learning and re nurturing myself
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and that's okay I'm having a great
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time sometimes I am way more creative um
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I'm a writer I'm writing a novel right
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now as we speak I have just noticed my
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brain has the capacity to sit down and
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write I I've just learned patience and
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I'm less frazzled I'm less rushed I've
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kind of slowed down and I think that is
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mostly an effect of Tik Tok I went
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through a period where I couldn't sleep
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I couldn't concentrate and I just
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realized I had spent too much time on
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Tik Tok my attention span my brain I
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don't know I'm not a scientist but I
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just felt terrible all the time I
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couldn't slow down everything was so
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fast sometimes I still feel that need to
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do this this this and this all at the
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same time but that's normal that's
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that's normal but it's not normal to
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constantly be we're not made for that
what hasnt changed
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now let's get on to what hasn't changed
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since deleting social media I still
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compare myself to others and the
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timeline of their lives which I
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think is inevitable I stay in my room
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and I read my books and I watch
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Outlander that was a jum scare I that's
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my life there was a period where I
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wasn't okay with that I felt like I
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should be going out partying I should be
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kissing boys I should be I don't know I
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don't know but I'm not and that's fine
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some days I struggle with it more than
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others sometimes I still find myself
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wanting to prove my happiness to others
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you cannot live your life constantly
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trying to either please people or to
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spite people I feel like that's the two
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common things there should be another
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word a people spider I feel like they're
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both
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so detrimental to your health and your
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mind and your happiness like who cares
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what they want who cares how they'll
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react just do it for you so much harder
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said than done trust me I know but I'm
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learning with you so we're in this
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together Pinky Promise one of the
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biggest things as to why I have not
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gotten it back yet and why I don't see
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myself getting it
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back in the near future is because I
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still find myself in some moments
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wanting to get it back to make a big
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Grand return and to make a spectacle of
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myself a who do you think you are nobody
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cares and then B it goes back to what I
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was just saying about people pleasing
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and people spiting nobody cares either
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way you are hyping it up in your head so
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I think the day that I can finally look
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at social media is something fun to
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build community is the day that I know
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that I'm ready is that day anytime soon
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no so in conclusion does my life look
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any different from this do that again do
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the uppercut upper why
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like to this do the
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uppercut no it does doesn't but how I
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live is what is different and I think
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that's the main take away from this is
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that deleting social media doesn't
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equate to your life just magically
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changing and everything becoming
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brighter and sparkly and the sun getting
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warmer and the wind blowing through your
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hair perfectly it doesn't your life is
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still going to look the exact same but
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all those little things I just said the
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world getting brighter the sun getting
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warmer I do think that that is possible
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because the way you live changes you
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start to live in the moment and you
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start to slow down and you start to
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really take things in like that and take
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in every single moment as it comes I
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don't share anything with anyone anymore
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because it's just mine it's just for me
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and that is honestly the most wholesome
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thing ever ever um I would like to make
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a little disclaimer though deleting
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social media isn't this magical cure
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everyone uses it and approaches it
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differently and I'm so aware of that
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social media also isn't inherently good
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or bad I think that what is is how you
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notice your behaviors towards it so that
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just goes back to everyone using it
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differently not everyone's story
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surrounding it is the same I don't think
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social media is a terrible awful thing
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contrary to some of my statements maybe
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throughout this video I do think that if
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you're considering deleting social media
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it's worth it to look at your behaviors
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and how you feel after you've used it
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and I think that is going to help to
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determine whether or not social media
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has a positive negative or no impact on
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your life I think all of the above are
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possible I will leave you with this at
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the end of the day ask yourself this
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question if you suddenly disappeared off
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the internet would any of your followers
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check up on you if someone you follow
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did the same would you check up on them
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and that's just food for thought that is
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it for this video um thank you guys so
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much for watching if you have any
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anything to add any points to make any
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to refute mute or any arguments to make
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leave them down below in the comments
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I'd love to hear them I mean I figure if
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you're watching this video it's maybe
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because you might want to delete social
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media too I say go with your gut and if
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your gut has been chipped away at
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because of all the validation
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seeking [ __ ] I don't know good
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