You are a yeshivish rabbi and scholar. Please edit the following text for a book in a natural tone while maintaining the original author’s voice:

The world is not your own business. When you’re able to see that the world is not your own business, then, believe me, then good middos will surface. Then you open the door that the good middos are also able to surface. It’s an actual thing too. It’s an actual enjoyment to do chesed. It’s enjoyable to be responsible or whatever it is. That’s an enjoyable thing.

But when you think it’s your backyard, why should I be responsible? It’s my backyard, don’t tell me what to do. Why should I do chesed with you? It’s an effort. I want to have my own little backyard and no chesed involved there. But when you understand it’s not like this, then you open up the possibility that good middos and positive qualities are able to surface. And then bein hazmanim makes sense.

But that’s what you have to have. You have to have Yiras Shomayim. And this Yiras Shomayim, that is a very basic thing. I would say the approach of a Jew to the world is an approach of awe. When you go for a trip, you are mispoel. It’s not a question of your own hanoeh only.

When you are able to do that, it means you made a big step forward in a general Yiras Shomayim, which will help you later on in life, much more than everything else. Because life means being involved with the world; what shall I do? That’s a good part of life. It is also by those people who are working in a torah’dig position. They are involved with the world. And you have to understand that being involved with the world is always a question of something that is above you.

It will be a tremendous benefit for working with other people. Marriage, for example, is about working with someone else, to your surprise. Or if you go into business or something in the Yeshivah, where there are other people there, or you go into some other thing where you have to deal with other people, this will help you tremendously. One of the biggest problems of a person who gets married, for example, or who goes into any worldly thing, is that he thinks it has to be my way. It’s my own business.

This approach will open you up to being much bigger than you are. Because you approach it so that it doesn’t have to be my way. It’s not my thing. My world is not my thing. That’s the approach of Yiras Shomayim. That’s the approach that there’s something bigger going on than my own business, my own emphasis. You know? It’s something bigger, something loftier.

Someone asked me. He came to me, and I only show you how far that goes that you need Yiras Shomayim in that way. That it’s not your backyard. He told me, I have a difficulty with Emunas Chachomim.

So I first wanted to tell him you have the wrong address. Go ask in Bnei Brak, quite certainly you have the wrong address. Even so, he decided to come to me. He said I was in a certain place, and there were a few Rabbonim there, never mind where that was, and I asked them a question. Together with a group of people, We put a question in front of these Rabbonim.

But the way they answered, it was not only very obvious - It screamed out that they really were not interested in the topic altogether. They didn’t really go into any details. They didn’t listen. They didn’t want to know. They didn’t go when they were not concerned about anything. They had like an answer which was like halfway pref-fabricated, and you tell the guy, you know, that’s what you have to do. That’s the answer. And the answer was a disaster. He described the disaster, it was an absolute disaster.

But he had the Daas Torah. So what shall I do now? So he was really by the wrong address, you know? Because I am upset about that. That’s one thing which I was not educated like this. By the Mashgiach it wasn’t. That was a part of Yiras Shomayim. A part of Yiras Shomayim that you know, that when someone comes to you, the biggest idiot or whatever, however you want to call that, but he comes to you, it’s above you. It’s not your backyard. It’s no prefabricated answers. It’s really a question of individual thing. Excuse me.

That’s what I was educated. Always you say, you have to look, צאי נא בעקבי הצאן, how it was in former generation. Of course, that’s what I do, I am not mechadesh anything. I know what I do is the way it was when I was young. We ask people, that took time, that took an enormous amount of time. That took an enormous amount of time and they went in that and asked this and then asked that and then asked this and then asked that. And then in the end they came out in some answer or eitza.

Because it’s not your backyard. It’s not. No. This other person is not in your backyard. Also when he asks you a question, it’s not in your backyard. It’s another person. It’s another world. It’s just an Oilam Acher which I have to stand in front of everyone with awe. That’s my involvement in the world. The basic point of involvement with the world is that there is something bigger going on.

And the bad middos or this hechletiut, that what makes you believe there is nothing big going on. Everything is yadua. Everything is only what I know already or what I want or what I can have a hanoeh out of it. It’s a lack in that sense of Yiras Shomayim.