improve upoon and finish this Therapy speak is abuse. It's the misuse and oversimplification of clinical psychology terms by self-proclaimed experts and coaches online. These people spew forth an endless stream of terms and phrases borrowed from Clinical Psychology, without having any idea what they actually mean.
It's a form of misinformation and misleading advice that can lead to manipulation and abuse. The actual vocabulary of Clinical Psychology has context, history, and highly specific clinical meaning. Using these words out of turn and out of context decontextualizes them and renders them tools for manipulation and abuse.
Unfortunately, therapy speak is not only used by YouTubers out for your money, but also by your loved ones and colleagues. It's a debasement, molestation, and mutilation of the actual vocabulary of Clinical Psychology.
I've been warning against this phenomenon for well over 20 years. There are dozens of videos of mine on this channel, and now it's completely out of control, especially in the field of narcissistic abuse.
My name is Saking, and I'm the author of the first book about narcissistic abuse ever written, "Malignant Self Love: Narcissism Revisited." I'm a professor of Clinical Psychology, so I actually know what these words mean.
Information does not amount to knowledge. Information is raw material, while knowledge is structured information. Curiosity and education are not one and the same. Being curious and devouring online articles and videos doesn't make you an educated or knowledgeable person, nor does it make you an expert.
Anecdotes do not make science. Experience is not synonymous with expertise. Surviving a narcissist doesn't make you an expert on narcissism, it makes you an expert on the narcissist you survived.
Only experts can meaningfully converse with other experts and debate with them. It's up to you to determine whether the person you're listening to online is indeed an expert or just a wannabe expert or even worse, a charlatan or a con artist.
All of these people use therapy speak. They all use words like attachment styles, trauma bonding, boundaries, PTSD, CPTSD, triggers, and gaslighting. But if you were to push these people to define a single one of these words or phrases appropriately and correctly, they wouldn't know how.
The rapid rise of therapy speak is a dark phenomenon. It leads inexorably to increasing the epidemic or pandemic of loneliness and ruining relationships. Therapy speak is a weaponization of legitimate speech. When speech becomes delirious and dangerous and manipulative, psycho babble is not an innocent phenomenon. It's pernicious and an indicator of social disintegration and aggression.
Therapy has become a kind of badge of honor. Attending therapy is not about improving yourself or understanding yourself better through insight or managing your relationships more appropriately and efficaciously and productively. Today, therapy is something you have to do in order to prove that you're evolved, self-aware, self-reflective, and humble.
Therapy has become a form of virtual signaling and goes hand in hand with the rise in the self-attribution of victimhood. A study by CNBC found that 86% of daters are more likely to date a person a second time if that person mentioned that they go to therapy on the first date. So therapy is like a certificate of sanity or proof of seriousness and commitment and investment when it comes to life.
But therapy conducted this way is very self-centered, egotistical, and dare I say an expression of narcissism. Analysis therapy has become a very selfish thing to do. It's a naval gazing experience, self-centered to the maximum. It's not about other people or the feelings of other people. There's no emphasis on care within