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Learning to Live in the Present Moment
The friend of time doesn’t spend all day saying: I haven tgot time. He doesn’t fight with time. He accepts it and cherishes it.
)EAN VANIER
Fidelity asks this much of us, that we remain with him even as he fails to remember us; abandonment is not an option.
MARY JO IOZZIO
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■^totef ^ 1 e Fiench Canadian Jean Vanier, former naval officer and Aris- P^ple dn SC^°^ar’ began a movement that would change the way that Ditellectual disabilities would be cared for.1 Vanier’s “revolu-
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tion” started with a small gesture and ended with the development of a profound sign that points the world toward aspects of care, friendship, and being human that are often hidden, but nonetheless vital. Distressed by the institutionalization, isolation, and loneliness of people with intellectual disabilities, Vanier invited three men with intellectual disabilities who had been living in a local mental institution to live with him in his small house in Trosly, France. He called the house “L’Arche,” which is French for “The Ark” in the biblical story of Noah and the Flood. His intention was to invite them to come and share their life in the spirit of the Gospel and the Beatitudes of Jesus.2 Vanier’s intention was not to start a miniature institution; he wanted to live with these men not as carer and cared for, but simply as friends. Vanier’s initial patterning for community and relationships established the template for the beginning of a worldwide movement that has come to be known as the International Federation of L’Arche Communities. L Arche grew quickly and spread around the world, attracting many young people who dedicated their lives to living with people who have intellectual disabilities as opposed to caring for them. Today, there are over 130 L Arche communities in thirty-four countries on six continents.
Vanier s interest is not in dementia, but there is an aspect of his theology and practice that holds particular relevance for the purposes of this book. At the heart of Vanier’s perspective lies a rethinking of the nature, value, and use of time. In his book Community and Growth, he makes the following statement:
Individual growth towards love and wisdom is slow. A community s growth is even slower. Members of a community have to be friends of time. They have to learn that many things will resolve themselves if they are given enough time. It can be a great mistake to want, in the name of clarity and truth, to push things too quickly to a resolution. Some people enjoy confrontation and highlighting divisions. This is not always healthy. It is better to be a friend of time. But clearly too, people should not pretend that problems don’t exist by refusing to listen to the rumblings of discontent; they must be aware of the tensions.
2. Tim Kearney, “Discovering the Beatitudes at L’Arche,” The Furrow 35, no. 7 (July 1984): 460-64.

Vanier’s point is that in order to truly be with a person who has severe intellectual disabilities, it is necessary to re-orient one’s sense of time. Within a capitalist society, it’s an almost irresistible temptation to treat time as one would treat any other commodity: you spend time, buy time, waste time, use time, keep time, and lose time. Many of us spend much of our lives at war with time. Time rules us and dictates the nature and shape of our lives and our relationships. Finding time to be with one another is not always a priority in lives where time seems to be racing away from us. Vanier urges us to take time seriously. To be with someone with severe intellectual disabilities, one needs to slow down and take time to notice those small things that the world sees as unimportant, but which, when we take time, are revealed to be profound.
In There Is a Bridge, Stanley Hauerwas moves Vanier’s ideas into the realm of dementia:
To become a friend with someone with Alzheimer’s, I think, is exactly the kind of challenge that it means to become a friend of time. We forget that our most precious gift for others is presence; just being present.... When there is not a lot to do other than to be present, you find out... what it means to be a friend of time.4
One profound way in which God remembers us is by being present with tts.” A deep way of remembering a person with dementia is by being present with them. Presence means taking time seriously. Memory and pies- ence form the basis for the profound act of being with another without do- lng anything for another. This is the way of being that Vanier has had to learn during his life with people who have severe intellectual disabilities. Hauerwas urges people to learn the same practice of presence as they encounter people with advanced dementia. If L’Arche is a revolutionary movement born out of small gestures, then perhaps as we reflect on the small gesture of presence as it works itself out in the lives of people with advanced dementia, a second revolution can be initiated: a revolution that comes simply from remembering and being with another person.
The basic argument of this chapter is this: To love one another, we need t° be present for one another. To be present, we need to learn to remember well and to use time differently and more faithfully. In remembering well and using time differently, we will discover that being with another is the most powerful way of ministering, not simply with and towards people with dementia, but also with and towards all people. As the community remembers and learns the rhythms of being with one another without the need for words, so healing can begin, even in the midst of deep forgetfulness. If it is the case that love means saying to the other, “It’s good that you exist; it’s good that you are in this world,” then our task will be to discover what it means to engage in such willful love.
Understanding Time
The place to begin is with a question: What is time for? It's interesting to note how time and our perceptions of time are shaped by our social context. Within a social context that values the market and that is determined by the need for effective productivity and output, time is perceived as a pseudophysical commodity to be bartered in the marketplace of temporal/spatial existence. We live with time as if it’s constantly about to run out. It’s valuable to us, but we can never get enough of it. And very often time becomes our enemy rather than our friend. Why does time have such a hold on us?
In Chapter 13 of his Confessions, St. Augustine wrestles with the question of time:
What, then, is time? If no one asks me, I know what it is. If I wish to explain it to him who asks me, I do not know. Yet I say with confidence that I know that if nothing passed away, there would be no past time, and if nothing were still coming, there would be no future time; and if there were nothing at all, there would be no present time.
Augustine is particularly concerned with the question of what God was doing before God created the world:
How, then, shall I respond to him who asks, “What was God doing before he made heaven and earth?” I do not answer, as a certain one is reported to have