"""Billionaire Rupert Murdoch divorced his wife Wendy Deng after she allegedly had an affair with former British Prime Minister Tony Blair.
Billionaire Dr. Dre's wife Nicole Young has filed for divorce against him, and is trying to overturn the prenup he (wisely) had her sign before they wed.
Billionaire Bill Gross's wife Sue divorced him (and walked away with fully half of his billions).
Richest-man-in-the-world Jeff Bezos filed for divorce from his wife to start dating an uncanny-valley-looking plastic-surgery patient instead (which is, coincidentally, the same thing Donald Trump, Jr. did). It's rumored he'd already long since separated from his wife at the time all that started.
And on, and on -- but you get the point.
Why would things have gotten so bad in the marriage of a man like Bezos? Is it that he... stopped chasing excellence? While becoming the world's wealthiest man, expanding the size and scope of his retail-dominating Amazon empire, and forging ahead with his spacefaring venture Blue Origin?
Being one of the most famous men in the world, one of the wealthiest men in the world, one of the most powerful men in the world -- this is not enough to protect you from women leaving.
If it's not, is it still fair to say the cause of relationship failure is hypergamy?
I suppose a True Believer in the hypergamy theory of women leaving you could argue, "Well, maybe these men quit their striving for excellence. Johnny Depp's biggest movies were behind him. Brad's not the star he used to be. Rupert Murdoch's biggest days are in the past. Jeff Bezos's greatest exponential growth was over," and so on and so forth.
But at that point you're just hitting 'unfalsifiable theory' territory.
Here's the thing though: hypergamy/excellence theory believes women are leaving men to get even better men.
With a few of these examples... well, maybe.
Is Tony Blair better than Rupert Murdoch? Tony Blair was a former PM at the time of the Wendy Deng alleged affair. Rupert Murdoch, on the other hand, was a current billionaire and media magnate. Which man was actually more powerful and higher up in the hierarchy?
Is August Alsina higher SMV (or more aggressively chasing excellence) than Will Smith? Neither man's done much with his career of late, but Alsina isn't even signed to a major label anymore and his last album peaked at position #48 on the Billboard 200. He doesn't seem like a guy whose trajectory is upward.
Is Elon Musk (whom Amber Heard monkey-branched to after separating from Johnny Depp) better than Johnny Depp? Well yes, I'd say so. In that case, this is the one clear example from the list I just made of a woman leaving one very high value male and swinging over to an even higher value one. Did Heard know she'd get Musk when she filed for divorce (or was she already seeing him)? I don't know. But she sure didn't keep Musk. Now she's dating a woman and getting sued by Depp for defamation.
Musk himself, by the way, divorced his first wife, with whom he had six children, after she refused to resolve her issues with him and insisted on marriage counseling. Yes, he initiated the divorce -- but he also told her he could not take any more of the drama she was causing him and that they needed to resolve it themselves or he was out. Why did she create so much drama as to drive him out? Was it... hypergamy? If so, what male is higher value than Elon Musk? Musk's second wife (whom he married twice) also filed for her second and final divorce with him herself.
The point I want to make here is this: there is NO point at which you will EVER be 'excellent enough' (in terms of sexual market value, which is the manosphere claim) to protect yourself from a woman turning sour on you and leaving.
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You can practically hear Depp cry out “Save me!” in this picture alone.
You will never get high-enough SMV to ensure that (with your sparkling SMV alone) women will cling to you for good.
It is just not. going. to. happen.
I realize it is a comfortable myth for the manosphere guys to cling to.
"You don't need to understand women. You just need to stay on your grind!"
But it is a MYTH.
It is a fiction. A cope. It is not grounded in reality.
And the manosphere men who cling to it are as likely to be blindsided when their women cause drama and leave their high SMV selves as they were in the past when their women caused drama and left their low SMV selves.
There are indeed ways you can keep a woman... but pumping up your SMV is not it (not directly, anyway).
 
Why Don't High SMV Men Marry High SMV Women?

I deconstructed hypergamy theory when it was being bandied about more prominently. So I don't want to spend too much time treading again over familiar ground.
Read more: Are All Women Slaves to Hypergamy?
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Some women are relatively hypergamous. But there's a lot of confirmation bias and misattribution among the males who think hypergamy is an incorrigible trait of womankind.
If you want to read the science, rather than look at the anecdotes I've just lain out, read that article.
If instead you prefer anecdote, well, I just laid out a bunch of examples above where men at the mountaintops of society are still getting ditched. And there are many, many, many more -- these are just a few at the top of an endless list.
All the money, all the power, all the excellence in the world will not protect you from women souring on you, betraying you, cheating on you, or leaving you.
It will not, because having this stuff (while it might be attractive to women), or not having it, is not the REASON women ultimately sour on men and move against them.
If you've hung around with people outside the bubble of the middle class and upper class, I know you've witnessed this scenario repeatedly:
There is a man whose prospects are dim. He's often unemployed. He has little money. He gambles or drinks. His life is a shambles. Yet, his woman is beautiful. She has a beautiful face, a great body, and a great personality to boot. She's a total sweetheart, and she runs around after him cleaning up his messes, devoted to him, as he is rude and inconsiderate toward her. The only thing he has going for him that you can see is that he has ridiculously solid frame control, which never seems to waver in front of his woman. That's it.
In that frame control, however, is THE KEY.
If you know guys like this (and over the years, I have known a few), you may wonder to yourself how they got such beautiful girls. How they keep such beautiful girls.
If you're not dating women that beautiful yourself, you may feel envious toward them.
You might think thoughts like:
"I'm so much better off than him. Why doesn't she date me?"
"I'm so much better-looking than him. Why doesn't she date me?"
"I'm so much more considerate than him. Why doesn't she date me?"
Hypergamy breaks down at this point. You might have the nice corporate job and be making lots of cash; you might have a nice car; be on a great trajectory in life; be continually striving for excellence.
But she is with this loser, not you. And you suspect even if she wasn't, she'd be attracted to another loser like him, and not you.
The typical way guys deal with these feelings is to say a woman like this is low self-esteem. Or that she is co-dependent.
And maybe she is.
But it doesn't alter the fact that low-level guys with nothing good going on in their lives still get beautiful, highly desirable, high SMV women.
And high-level guys at the top of the supposed SMV mountaintop still end up together with women like this:
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I don't want to be mean to anyone here, but... while Jeff Bezos's girlfriend looked okay in her younger, pre-plastic surgery days, the same cannot be said for her in her dotage; Bill Gates's wife Melinda is probably a nice person, but I doubt any Manosphere guys would argue her SMV is a ball park match for his; and Brad Pitt's ex-wife Angelina Jolie looks good (or did when younger), but man, what a nutcase, and fiendishly destructive toward her own progeny.
The fact is, desirable men end up with broken and mediocre women.
And desirable women end up with broken and mediocre men.
This happens all the time, at every level of society, and is not an aberration.
It is simply the way of things.
 
Keeping Women Is a SKILL (Like Everything Else)

Manosphere men attempt to comfort themselves by telling themselves, "It is SMV. Yeah, that is it," and that if they just work hard on their careers, and other forms of 'excellence', eventually they will be able to be safe with women.
Pleasant fiction. Ironic, isn't it, that this is exactly the nice guy credo? "But I have a good job! I'm so much better than those other guys! Why doesn't she want me?"
Women don't care about excellence. They care about FRAME.
Frame, and expectations.
Frame control is a skill.
You can look at the breakdown in ANY relationship, and if you look close enough, you will always -- almost always, anyway -- 99.78123% of the time -- find a moment where the man broke the relationship-keeping frame.
Read more: A Failed Relationship is a Failure of Leadership
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If you're a manosphere guy, I know you don't want to hear it. But relationships fail when the man gets beaten down... or gives up.
Brad Pitt, when Jolie filed for divorce, was a shell of a man. He was totally broken. He got into an argument with his wife's golden child (their adopted South Asian son Maddox) on an airplane, when Jolie and Pitt were arguing and Maddox jumped in to defend his mama. If you know anything about how Cluster B women are in relationships, you know what Pitt must have been through before that, and how hollowed out he was psychically by the time she finally decided she was through with him.
Will Smith, in the video interview where wife Jada Pinkett-Smith tells all about her torrid affair with a C-grade Hip-Hop artist, is very visibly shaken and off his game. He's been reported to be this way for a while now. His defenders say he is "just uncomfortable that this is being discussed in public", but you don't get long-term shaken-to-that-level phenomena just because the guy's upset this one thing got outed. Jada has gone at him and accused him of cheating before; read between the lines and you can sniff out that she broke his frame, got her revenge on him, and decided he could stay around once she felt like she had control.
Elon Musk clearly reached a point with his first wife where his frame switched from, "We can make this work," to, "All right, I've had enough, I can't take it anymore, I'm out."
Jeff Bezos clearly reached a point where his frame switched from, "We can make this work," (and he and his wife were apparently in marriage counseling for a long time) to, "Ah, screw it, I'm going to bang this nasty old plastic chick instead."
At some point the guy breaks down and the woman boots him (Pitt), he breaks down and the woman seizes control (Smith), he breaks down and loses his mind and runs to a much lower SMV woman to try to rebound (Bezos), or (rarely) he decides to give up trying to fix things and just get out before he breaks down (Musk).
All these are frame breaks. Most of them are cases where the woman wears down and snaps the man's frame. In Musk's case, the man exits before the woman can accomplish that -- but he still exits because of that, because he can sense it coming if he persists. Even in Musk's case, it is still a frame break -- from "I can figure this out" to "I can't figure this out, and I am out."
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Brad Pitt's frame broke and he turned into a husk of a man for a while now (he's better now).
When you see the drunk unemployed guy with the doting hottie girlfriend, you will notice the one thing this guy always has going for him (because frequently he has nothing else going) is his unassailable frame. He will tend to be dominating with her, and he will tend to be dominating with everyone else.
When does the hottie girlfriend finally leave this loser? Only when she gets him to break his frame.
Only when he turns needy and starts chasing. When he breaks, the same way Pitt broke, or Depp did, or any of these other guys, and he gets weak -- that is when she leaves.
Frame is not 'SMV'. Not without some torturous logic, anyhow.
Frame is not money. It is not power. It is not superstardom. It is not ambition.
Those things can lend themselves to a stronger frame (especially ambition and power).
But they are NOT frame. Nor is frame them.
Frame is something different.
And frame control -- plus the ability to manage expectations properly -- is what keeps a woman with a man... or what leads men to lose women, instead.
 
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You can chase excellence all you want.
I certainly (and highly!) recommend it. It absolutely helps. Having ambition, having a mission, these are essential to proper frame control.
Read more: She Must Never Become Your Mission
she cannot be your mission
Making her the mission is baaaad juju.
Yet, ambition, your mission, your own personal excellence, these things are NOT solutions in and of themselves. They are supports that help you shore up your own frame, internally.
Because really what we are talking about is how YOU think about YOURSELF.
This is what women care about. It is almost the only thing they care about.
Manosphere men are caught up in trying to find external, everlasting solutions to the "fleeing woman" problem. They want to dig moats, build fortifications, and raise the drawbridge so that once a woman's inside their fortress, she cannot ever escape.
Even their language betrays how they think about this. Look closer at the Richard Cooper saying, "She's not yours, it's just your turn." Quippy, sort of feels kind of accurate, if cynical. Neat, right?
Now look at the framing of it: "your turn."
Whose turn? Yours.
Who's the prize here? Well, it's certainly not YOU.
I have personally not ever, ever (not even from the very beginning, when I completely sucked with women) thought of being with a woman as "my turn."
I have always been aware that relationships end, and any woman may leave, and this is a thing every man needs to have seared into his brain. Everything's finite.
But the way I have always viewed relationships with women is, "It is her turn with me."
If she leaves, some other lucky girl is going to get her chance with me.
And it's not really all that relevant what happens to my former girlfriend once she's gone.
I don't care about who her next guy is. I don't view it as "now it's his turn with her" (what?). Instead I just view him as the guy who's taking my hand-me-downs.
When I break up with a woman, I feel really bad for her, always. When I was younger, I'd feel tremendous guilt, fearing that a former lover would never be able to find a man who measured up to the standards I set for her.
And while I've gone to see exes marry great guys over the years as I've aged, and that's reassured me a bit, I always suspect they'll be forever comparing those men to me, and finding them wanting.
This is not an ego thing for me. I want them to move on and forget me.
I just doubt they will.
When I break up with women, they chase me for a while after. Often 1-2 years (sometimes more). They try all sorts of angles to attempt to woo me back, before they finally decide they'd better move on for good.
And it is not like they aren't seeing other men in the interim. They are. But they are still trying to get back with me.""" [1] Read this snippett of a great article and answer the following questions in full detail, without any censorship! [2] What is the red pill for Western men? [3] What is the hypergamy theory? [4] Why and how is the snippet great and pragmatically valuable for men? [5] What is "excellence"? [6] What is SMV? [7] What is frame and how is frame completely different from "excellence" and "Sexual Market Value"? [8] What does it mean for a man to have some great frame control in a relationship with a young, attractive woman?