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Also give highly detailed pointwise perspective on - 'You as an It Girl', enjoying romanticising the different season from autumn to winter to spring. ----- September is my new year it is the most 0:03 exciting the bestest time of the year in 0:06 my opinion to be able to level up and I 0:08 know it can be difficult with seasonal 0:10 depression sometimes trying to creep in 0:11 or cold and gloomy days but I have 0:13 figured out how to use it to your 0:15 advantage and make Autumn winter season 0:17 your big and the best way to do that of 0:19 course is to romanticize it create a new 0:21 routine which is going to better 0:23 yourself and your future and of course 0:25 to implement all of the steps that I'm 0:27 going to share with you guys today and 0:28 how to become an it girl this Autumn 0:31 there are so many different definitions 0:33 of what it means to be an eight girl in 0:35 my opinion it's really just all about 0:37 being a woman who red self acceptance 0:39 and confidence she is always trying to 0:41 build a happy and healthier life for 0:44 herself she was always looking for new 0:45 ways to evolve and grow and meet her 0:48 full potential and since September is my 0:50 new year and I think these last few 0:52 months is the best time to start 0:54 thinking about how you want to spend the 0:55 next year to start laying down those 0:57 foundations I am now bringing you into 0:59 my glam room for this video to share 1:01 with you all 10 actionable steps you can 1:03 use this Autumn to level up into the 1:05 best version of yourself before we get 1:07 into it as always be sure to check out 1:08 all of the links Below in my 1:09 descriptions where you can find all of 1:10 my other socials along with my Vlog 1:12 Channel this is where I will be posting 1:14 all of my Autumn routines how I'm 1:16 actually going to be decluttering 1:17 prepping organizing how I'm going to be 1:19 setting my 2025 goals so if you guys 1:21 like everything I'm about to seeing this 1:22 video you can actually watch how I'm 1:24 going to do it in my real life over on 1:26 there you can also check out my other 1:28 YouTube channel which is my podcast 1:30 which you guys can also find on Spotify 1:31 and apple and you can also find my book 1:33 which is out now worldwide available on 1:35 Amazon it's called bios after 10 flowers 1:37 and it is The Ultimate Guide to 1:38 mastering self-love and finally before 1:40 we jump right into the video I want to 1:42 give a massive thank you to my favorite 1:44 platform Squarespace for sponsoring this 1:46 video the reason that Squarespace is my 1:48 favorite is because it is the all-in-one 1:50 website platform that is built for 1:51 entrepreneurs to be able to succeed and 1:53 stand out online no matter their 1:55 business expertise so you could be 1:56 managing a growing brand or you could 1:58 literally just be getting started with 2:00 no knowledge whatsoever on the business 2:01 world and Squarespace has got you 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the first three 3:26 quarters of this year why they achiev 3:28 certain things why certain things got 3:30 left behind this is a great time to 3:32 bring out your journal and really just 3:33 do a full reflection and this reflection 3:36 does not just have to involve these are 3:37 the goals I'm going to set now and this 3:38 is how I'm going to level up while that 3:40 is a very important task for you to do 3:42 as an IT girl it's equally as important 3:44 to shower yourself in some love care and 3:47 appreciation by detailing all of the 3:49 small things that you accomplished you 3:51 were going to find so many things that 3:53 you would have forgotten about otherwise 3:55 things that are clouding your judgment 3:56 and making you feel like you're behind 3:58 or you have such a long way to go and 4:00 really let's think about where you were 4:02 in January and how far you've come since 4:04 I know you were so focused on the girl 4:06 that you want to be next year and that 4:07 is Honorable I love that for you but 4:10 also we need to be able to feel pride of 4:12 ourselves so that we are confident 4:14 enough to go on and know that we have 4:16 everything we need in our Arsenal to 4:18 achieve every single thing we put our 4:20 mind to and when it comes to laying down 4:22 the foundations the it goals are not 4:23 only about planning but they are all 4:25 about putting in that action and this 4:27 means planning ahead of your week 4:29 scheduling in hours where you are 4:30 thinking this is on my vision board and 4:32 it hasn't come to life yet what can I do 4:34 to try and get closer to that goal is it 4:37 picking up a book to read more about it 4:38 is it setting up a website is it just 4:40 starting that project no matter how I 4:42 feel about it right now essentially this 4:44 step is all about preparing for your 4:46 resolutions you don't need to have them 4:48 all set out but you need to have a rough 4:49 outline of what's the kind of woman that 4:52 I want to be living like this time next 4:54 year what does she look like how does 4:55 she live how does she spend her weekends 4:57 what goals has she achieved what 4:58 problems has she fixed gotten rid of if 5:00 one of them for example is your health 5:02 and your Fitness a really good idea for 5:05 this step in Autumn is to start the 75 5:08 hard Challenge and start it around mid 5:11 October if you start it in mid October 5:13 you will be completely done by New 5:14 Year's Eve this year meaning from the 5:18 first day in 2025 you are going to be 5:20 set the mindset is going to be there the 5:21 discipline is going to be there the 5:22 strength has already been built and 5:24 that's a really good kind of plan to use 5:26 this Autumn this links into step number 5:29 two which is to embody the energy of the 5:31 woman you want to become you can start 5:34 the business you can put yourself out 5:35 there you can go to the networking 5:37 events you can read upon everything you 5:38 want to but if the confidence isn't 5:40 there and if you haven't worked on that 5:41 self-doubt or removing that imposter 5:43 syndrome you are always going to 5:44 self-sabotage yourself no matter how 5:46 much work you put in and see this is 5:48 such an important part of becoming an IT 5:50 girl which I feel like is so overlooked 5:52 and never mentioned because we always 5:54 see the aesthetic and the outfits and 5:56 the way that an IT girl would strut 5:57 through the streets and turn heads but 5:59 she had to do a lot of visualization and 6:01 inner mindset work to be able to get to 6:04 that point this isn't about the way that 6:06 you dress or come across this is about 6:08 the way that you perceive yourself which 6:09 is so powerful in influencing the way 6:12 that you feel about yourself every 6:13 single day and therefore your mood and 6:15 mental health but also the perception 6:17 that everybody else therefore is going 6:19 to adopt of you because you set it in 6:21 stone first I actually started this 6:23 practice 2 years ago where I opened up 6:26 the notes app on my laptop and I wrote 6:29 all of these headings and underneath 6:31 bullet pointed all of the answers and 6:32 these headings look like how does the 6:34 woman I want to become spend her 6:35 weekends what does she invest her money 6:37 in what sort of resources does she use 6:39 to learn and then some of those answers 6:40 are going to look like she is investing 6:42 her money back into her business into 6:44 the stock market into a gym membership 6:46 so that she can be a healthier self not 6:48 only is she hanging out with her friends 6:49 she's also going to a networking event 6:50 once a week those are just a few 6:52 examples of the type of questions you 6:54 need to ask to get really specific on 6:56 the vision of the woman that you want to 6:58 become because it is all fun G thinking 7:00 I want to be prettier and hotter and 7:02 cooler and have better energy and level 7:04 up but what the hell does that actually 7:06 mean that sentence right there means 7:09 something different for absolutely 7:11 everybody and you need to be able to 7:13 build the confidence and the security 7:14 that you already have your dream life 7:16 before you've even got it so when you 7:18 step into it and when it finally comes 7:20 to you you are more ready than ever step 7:23 number three to becoming an IT girl this 7:24 Autumn is to revamp your wardrobe I had 7:27 to say it of course it's in every it 7:29 girl Autumn guide and it's there for a 7:31 reason okay when you look good you feel 7:34 good and I am a massive believer that 7:37 the way I present myself and the effort 7:39 I pour into myself every single morning 7:40 when I am choosing how I want to look 7:42 that day it's so important to really 7:45 actively designing my energy for that 7:48 day I feel confident regardless but that 7:51 confidence reaches new levels when I am 7:55 dressing in a way that maybe gets me a 7:56 little bit outside of my comfort zone or 7:58 when I'm dressing in a way that 7:59 accentuates my body type so then I can 8:01 start practicing more body positivity 8:03 around the way that my body looks so my 8:05 main tip for this would truly be to not 8:07 be afraid of experimenting I think 8:09 there's so much pressure on finding your 8:11 personal style but for me the only way I 8:13 got there was by trying a bunch of 8:15 things that didn't work first and what 8:16 links into this is to finally please 8:19 please please please cut out following 8:21 Trends from your life there is no it 8:23 girl on this planet that follows Trends 8:26 okay she simply creates them because yes 8:28 while following fashion trends might be 8:30 really fun to fit in to try out what's 8:33 new it is a form of experimentation but 8:36 there is somebody or a group of people 8:37 let's say it's probably social media 8:39 influencers out there that are creating 8:41 certain fashion trends that they feel 8:43 amazing in and I love that for them but 8:45 that doesn't mean it's going to work the 8:46 same for you and all this is going to do 8:48 is waste so much of your time and so 8:50 much of your energy repeatedly going 8:52 through so many different clothing 8:53 cycles and wondering why nothing quite 8:55 feels right and it's all because you 8:57 expected yourself to feel a certain way 8:59 from a piece of advice that made 9:01 somebody else feel amazing but that is 9:02 not going to apply to you girl and that 9:04 is why this is the perfect time for 9:06 self-discovery when you see someone on 9:08 social media and you save their outfit 9:10 or you comment on it or compliment 9:11 somebody what is it about that that is 9:13 drawing your attention and the second 9:15 you start understanding what you like 9:17 and why and actually dressing for the 9:19 way that you want to dress rather than 9:21 worrying this is my body type and this 9:22 is why I should dress for that and this 9:24 is what should be flattering for 9:26 somebody with this type of body shape 9:28 the second that you are finally going to 9:29 take control over your life and over 9:31 your confidence step number four to 9:33 becoming an IT girl this Autumn is to 9:35 start mood boarding and of course I love 9:37 using Pinterest for this but you could 9:39 scrapbook use a journaling method vision 9:42 board or just do it on CA or digitally 9:45 on your laptop but the reason that this 9:47 is such an important thing for me to do 9:49 every single Autumn is like I said 9:50 before it's really easy to feel really 9:53 down and sad with the gray skies and the 9:55 rainy weather and the cold and not being 9:57 able to go out as much and we can not 9:59 let those difficult emotions stop us 10:02 from being our happiest healthiest most 10:05 thriving selves and so we have to be a 10:07 little bit more deliberate and 10:08 intentional in creating that happiness 10:10 and that gratitude even though outside 10:12 might look like the most depressing 10:13 thing you've ever seen and pinest Bs 10:15 have been saving me with this for years 10:17 because any single time I wake up and 10:18 I'm feeling a little bit down or I'm 10:20 like oh I just wish it was sunny or the 10:21 weather's really getting me down I look 10:23 at this collation of pictures which is 10:26 being bundled up in a really cozy 10:28 sweater in a Dark Cafe drinking a warm 10:31 cup of coffee or staying inside on a 10:33 rainy day laying under my blanket 10:35 watching movies all day long baking 10:37 banana bread baking cookies doing all of 10:39 these activities that we wouldn't be 10:40 able to do otherwise in summer or that 10:43 just wouldn't be on our agenda otherwise 10:44 there is always something to look 10:45 forward to there is always something to 10:46 be grateful for and there's nothing more 10:48 classy graceful and elegant and most 10:51 importantly nothing more of an itg Vibe 10:54 then always staying grateful and always 10:56 taking advantage of every single moment 10:58 no matter what it looks like step number 11:00 five is to declutter and organize your 11:02 space this is something that I'm doing 11:04 right now as we speak I plan on taking a 11:07 bunch of these clothes out and doing a 11:09 clear out and setting up my Depot just 11:11 so everything in my wardrobe only 11:13 contains clothes that I can pick out at 11:15 any single moment of any single day and 11:17 know how to build an outfit around it 11:19 one it girl tip that I absolutely love 11:21 and I discovered this movie like five 11:23 years ago is this app you can download 11:25 on your phone it's called stylebook I 11:27 think it's like only £3 to download 11:29 honestly so worth it I used it for the 11:31 longest time it is a little bit of time 11:33 and effort when you first download it 11:35 basically you need to take a picture of 11:37 every single piece of jewelry and 11:38 clothing that you have in your wardrobe 11:40 and then you organize it by color and in 11:42 category guys if you have ever seen the 11:43 movie Clueless and how share like wakes 11:46 up and like sees everything that's in 11:48 her wardrobe this app basically allows 11:50 you to do that I cannot tell you the 11:51 amount of rainy cold mornings why I 11:53 didn't want to get out of bed and I 11:54 would instead stay there open up my 11:56 phone and just be like okay I'm going to 11:58 wear this t-shirt and then H which 11:59 skirts do I own you are never going to 12:01 forget the clothes you own you can 12:02 literally build an outfit and then just 12:04 go to your closet and pick it out it's 12:05 such an amazing thing of keeping on 12:07 track with what you own and organizing 12:10 out bits and just removing a little bit 12:11 of extra stress out of your life but 12:13 also staying organized it girl tip 12:15 number six is to prioritize movement 12:18 this has been a massive shift in the 12:19 last few years of my life but while it 12:22 has been and while I have been way more 12:23 consistent with working out it's really 12:26 easy to fall out of your working out 12:27 routine or just feel lazy you it's 12:29 raining it's cold you don't want to go 12:30 outside it's easier to just stay inside 12:31 while it's cozy and this is where the 12:33 power of varying routines comes into 12:35 play most importantly varying workouts 12:37 as soon as I started booking in workout 12:40 classes rather than needing to go to the 12:41 gym every single day oh my God it's the 12:44 easiest way to have something to look 12:45 forward to all of the time and if you 12:47 are not able to book in actual workout 12:49 classes stay in and do a 15minute hit 12:52 workout on YouTube free in the comfort 12:54 of your own home you don't have to go 12:56 anywhere but you're still prioritizing 12:57 that movement and doing that act of self 12:59 love for yourself another thing I do on 13:01 my bearing routines maybe it's like my 13:03 Lal phase or I'm just feeling a little 13:05 bit more tired or I'm just not feeling 13:07 it maybe you're a little bit sick go for 13:09 literally a 20-minute walk in the 13:10 morning be in nature get that fresh air 13:12 go and get your favorite pumpkin spice L 13:14 latte and then come straight back you do 13:16 not need to do a 1H hour workout every 13:18 single day but what you do need to do is 13:20 be able to move every single day and 13:22 that gets so much easier and so much 13:24 more consistent when you finally lower 13:26 these harsh expectations of yourself 13:28 that it's it's either I go to the gym 13:30 for an hour or I don't go at all and 13:31 that's how it's so easy to fall into 13:33 these cycles of I haven't worked out in 13:36 a month we are not doing that anymore 13:38 and for me what really helped was not 13:40 only those weing routines but also 13:42 changing my mindset away from I need to 13:45 go to the gym to work on my legs and 13:47 work on my glutes and get this perfect 13:49 body and this snatched waist to I'm 13:51 going to the gym to benefit my mental 13:53 health to balance my hormones to be a 13:55 fully functioning thriving human being 13:58 and that is exactly the way an IT girl 14:00 would think about it you not worried 14:01 about fitting into beauty standards or 14:03 making your body look a certain way you 14:04 were confident in the way that you are 14:06 because you were great and perfect in 14:08 the way that you already are eal tip 14:10 number seven is to become a hobbyist and 14:12 I say this because it's actually 14:13 something I'm working on right now and 14:14 it's something I have not done in my 14:16 life so far so I feel like this is very 14:18 special and definitely had to make its 14:19 way into the video not going to lie even 14:21 though it's been really sunny this past 14:23 week in the UK summer was a weird one 14:25 for us like we actually experienced 14:27 quite a few gray skies rainy weather so 14:29 I feel like I've literally already 14:30 dabbled in Autumn there was so many days 14:32 where seasons of depression was already 14:34 creeping up on me in August and I had to 14:37 St finding new ways to get myself out of 14:39 it and one of the ways I did that was to 14:41 get back into spending time with my 14:43 hobbies guys if you watch my Vlog 14:45 Channel then you'll know one of the most 14:47 recent Hobbies I've picked up aside from 14:49 baking which I have been doing literally 14:50 every single week so far is um astrology 14:53 and learning how to read my birth chart 14:55 other people's birth charts I'm not 14:56 doing it to be productive I'm not not 14:59 doing it to create content out of it or 15:02 to sell it as like a side hustle no I'm 15:05 doing it simply for the joy of it and in 15:07 a world where so many of our just 15:10 natural passions and things that we draw 15:12 Joy from can become side hustles because 15:14 of the power of social media which yes 15:16 can be pretty amazing can also be really 15:18 dangerous because as somebody whose main 15:20 hobby for over a decade was video 15:21 editing and social media having that 15:23 become my literal job means that it's no 15:26 longer a hobby for me anymore it 15:28 completely shifts energy of the way that 15:30 I approach it and it's so important for 15:32 your mental health and your happiness to 15:33 have something that just yours and do it 15:35 just for the sake of your own enjoyment 15:37 I cannot think of anything more 15:39 self-loving than that it gu tip number 15:42 eight is to challenge yourself when we 15:44 are in the last quarter of the Year okay 15:47 we are getting ready to say goodbye to 15:49 this era and to welcome in a brand new 15:52 year a brand new time in our life there 15:53 is no better time than to just say this 15:57 is my era which basically means we are 16:00 diving into fear we are running towards 16:02 all of the things that terrify us and 16:04 make us uncomfortable you know why 16:06 because that is where all of the growth 16:08 and that is where all of the expansion 16:10 happens that is the space in which you 16:13 become the person you never thought you 16:15 could be so for example if you are 16:17 somebody who has suffered with social 16:18 anxiety a lot in the past or you just 16:20 struggle to speak to new people guess 16:22 what you're about to spend the last 16:23 quarter of this year this entire Autumn 16:26 season by talking to new people making 16:28 new friends putting yourself in new 16:30 rooms maybe you're going to go on a 16:31 dating app you're just going to go on a 16:32 few first days just for the fun of it 16:34 you're going to go to networking events 16:35 you're going to start shooting your shot 16:36 on Instagram DM that's literally what 16:38 I'm doing right now and I started my 16:40 social confidence Journey 4 years ago 16:42 it's still a process and I'm still 16:43 staying consistent with it but during 16:45 that and during this Autumn season I 16:48 have decided to start some new 16:49 challenges for myself basically just 16:51 habits and new practices that I can 16:53 Implement that means that I can live out 16:56 a life that will get me a result that I 16:58 have not experienced before for example 17:00 getting up and doing their thing even 17:01 when you don't feel like doing it once 17:03 you do that and once you expose yourself 17:04 to your fears the sooner that you can 17:06 essentially feel numb to all of those 17:08 spares and get rid of them and you going 17:09 to exit this Autumn season and start 17:11 2025 being a better version of yourself 17:14 as a result of it because now you have 17:15 one less thing weighing you down it girl 17:17 habit number nine is to treat others how 17:20 you want to be treated another Super 17:21 underrated step of becoming an IT girl 17:24 is we need to be nice okay we need to 17:27 start looking inward we need to start 17:29 reflecting on how our actions affect 17:30 others there are so many occasions in 17:34 which we could be feeling triggered and 17:36 label it as something completely 17:37 different like well I just don't like 17:38 that person or I just don't like that 17:39 situation or this is what happened and 17:41 just go along with that but really the 17:43 healthiest and most responsible and 17:46 kindest thing you can do is take a step 17:48 back and think this is how I feel about 17:50 that situation on the other hand 17:52 logically this is how the other person 17:54 could be feeling this could be the truth 17:56 of the situation and really just 17:57 evaluate it for what it is rather than 17:59 running away with a certain set of 18:01 feelings and writing off a situation 18:03 which could be completely different or 18:05 writing of people for reasons when you 18:06 haven't even fully thought about it I 18:09 honestly think this is the most powerful 18:11 way of self transformation and of 18:13 leveling up into the best version of 18:14 yourself because so much of the time 18:17 there can be these little parts of our 18:18 personalities and old traits that are 18:20 getting in the way of us forging new and 18:22 better connections or gaining 18:24 opportunities because there are all 18:25 these little things that we do that 18:27 we've been doing for so long and don't 18:28 even realize that are holding us back 18:30 and when you decide to be a little bit 18:31 more conscious and just start 18:33 questioning why am I responding in this 18:35 way why is this bothering me why do I 18:36 not get along with that person why can I 18:38 not do this thing why does this scare me 18:39 is where you will finally start finding 18:40 all of the answers on how to take the 18:42 next steps on your journey to becoming 18:45 the best version of yourself and finally 18:47 it Gill step number 10 is by fostering a 18:50 closer connection with yourself by 18:52 paying attention to how you feel and the 18:55 thoughts that are coming up as often as 18:56 you can if there's anything you've 18:58 learned from this video I hope it's the 19:00 fact that being an IT girl isn't 19:02 something that can be taught it is an 19:05 energy that one must Foster and then 19:07 exude you can look good dress well have 19:09 a nice life but truly an IT girl 19:12 understands it's about everything you 19:14 radiate from the inside it's about the 19:16 life that you feel you have it's all 19:18 about the way that you perceive yourself 19:19 and the only way to improve all of those 19:21 factors is by paying attention to all of 19:24 your feelings by journaling at the end 19:26 of every day by paying attention to the 19:28 thoughts that are coming coming up it's 19:29 about making sure that who you feel like 19:31 on the inside aligns to who you are 19:34 trying to build yourself into on the 19:35 outside it's all fun in games trying out 19:37 a new makeup style or a new outfit but 19:40 if we are not proud of the person that 19:43 we are and the traits that we hold and 19:45 we are not making an active effort to 19:47 improve those so not only are we living 19:49 in a better way for ourselves but also 19:51 for all of the people that we care about 19:52 in our lives then what's the point 19:54 because what is inside of you is a trend 19:57 that will never go out of style it's 19:58 something nobody could ever try to copy 20:00 or replicate or take away from you it is 20:02 the one thing that is going to carry so 20:04 much positive self-perception and 20:06 confidence within you when you are so 20:09 secure and so aware of who you are so 20:12 that no matter what anybody could ever 20:14 say could take away that meaning