summarize this "HI always read where you sing the praises of a porno movie entitled
UTalk Dirty To Me,3 and the lead character UJack.3 What was so
special about that movie and that character? Aren3t all adult films
generally the same? Sex, sex and more sex?K
My reply: Talk Dirty To Me starring adult film legend John Leslie as
eJackf was the very first impetus for the development of the Four
Modes of Verbal Communicationd. For starters, I never knew what
a eWholesome Pretenderf was before I saw that film.
Watching that film was when I first really learned about womenks
sexual duplicity (i.e., a woman pretending to be minnocentk and
mwholesomek when in reality, she is erotically uninhibited and/or into
non-monogamous sex). Secondly, the character of Jack taught me
how to ignore harsh, subjective criticisms and opinionated insults.
Even if you take the explicit sex scenes out of Talk Dirty To Me and
the sequel, Talk Dirty To Me, Part II l and converted those movies
from XXX-rated to R-rated, they would still be great movies and very
educational to watch. Those movies could easily be re-named
eWholesome Pretenders, Part 1f and eWholesome Pretenders, Part
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2.f I actually plan on filming a DVD entitled ePretenders and
Timewastersf sometime soon. I will keep my book readers posted.
HWhy do you emphasize identifying manipulators so much? Why
isn3t your book more about attraction and seduction techniques
than manipulation between the sexes?K
My reply: The ability to attract and seduce the opposite sex varies
from man to man and from woman to woman. Therefore, I donkt
really put too much emphasis on eDating 101f guidelines or
eSeduction 101f tips, tricks and techniques.
It is doubtful that the same principles that help Black men attract
Black women would also help Caucasian men attract Caucasian
women or Asian men attract Asian women. It is doubtful that the
principles that would help an eighteen or nineteen year-old college
fraternity guy would be the same principles that would help a bluecollar factory worker who is between forty-five and fifty-nine.
A lot of helpful, valid dating and seduction advice really depends to a
large degree on how old you are, what your physical appearance is
like, your level of intelligence and education, your level of career
success and financial success, how good you are in bed, etc.
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Many so-called eexpertsf and egurusf will have you foolishly
believing that dating advice is eone philosophy fits all.f That is so
untrue. My ability to attract and seduce women in their thirties was
totally different than my ability to attract and seduce women between
the ages of seventeen and twenty-four.
Manipulation on the other hand is, for the most part, universal. I
donkt care if you are nineteen, twenty-nine, thirty-nine or forty-nine,
you can relate equally to the concept of manipulative head games.
HWhy do so many women pretend to be only into monogamous sex
when they are really into non-monogamous casual sex?K
My reply: Plain and simply, most women are dreadfully afraid of
being labeled a mslut,k a mwhore,k an measy layk or a msuper freak.k
Women value their sense of virtue in the same way that most men
value their sense of manhood and machismo.
Women love sex as much or more than most men do, but they love
the idea of maintaining a good reputation that is beyond reproach
even more. Women are especially this way if they are looking to get
married and/or have children. The reality of life is women who are
kinky and/or promiscuous often times get married just as frequently
as the so-called egood girls.f
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HWhy do men cheat and commit adultery so much? Why can3t men
just find a good woman and remain faithful to her?K
My reply: It is my belief that very few men are truly motivated to
maintain a monogamous sexual relationship with one woman for the
rest of their lives l particularly if they are handsome, charming,
wealthy, and/or have a number of attractive, sexy women throwing
themselves at them.
All of us are guided primarily by four factors: Our desires and
impulses, our fears and insecurities, our morals, values and principles,
and our past experiences. If a man has a desire to have sex with a
wide variety of women, the only thing that is going to stop him from
acting on that desire or impulse is a) some sort of fear or insecurity
(e.g., the fear of losing his wife and family; the insecurity that he is
not really good in bed); b) his morals, values and/or principles (e.g.,
devout Christian, Doesnkt believe in betraying the trust of others,
etc); or c) a bad past experience (e.g., one of his former girlfriends
cheated on him and it was emotionally painful for him).
If none of those factors come into play, then a man is left with
nothing but his desires and impulses. This is what happens with
mentally ill people such as serial killers. Serial killers operate on
their desires and impulses. Their fears and insecurities are
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diminished, they virtually have no morals, values and principles, and
their past experiences usually involve trauma, abuse, or profound
disrespect and ill treatment. 
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