Ты можешь пересказать текст? "Hey, I am in a similar situation but am slightly younger at 24 years old. It's easy for others who have had partners or are currently with someone to say "you've got the rest of your life for dating" or "don't worry, you're still young". But that doesn't help what you feel, it goes deeper than that. I'll share with you some things that have helped me with these same feelings.

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1. Work on yourself, I know that's like saying "Have you tried turning it off and on again?" but none of us are perfect. There's got to be something you can work on, this will give you a goal and in turn a minor distraction from feeling lonely. The classic ones people always turn to are getting in shape and making more money. Those are good picks but what if you're already in shape and have a good job? I think what those examples are saying is to take care of yourself and you'll be more attractive as a result. The gym can be a way to meet people but I think that particular sentiment of workout/money is missing a few things. It glosses over some of the deeper issues/insecurities you may have, that being jacked and rich won't help with. If you're not already, Therapy could be a major one. Almost everyone has issues to some degree, getting ahead of them before meeting a partner will do wonders for you. No matter your flaws, the fact you are willing to say you are not perfect and have things to sort out, can only be viewed as a good thing to new people you meet. From here, you just have to make sure you follow through. For me, I found that whenever I would say "Ugh I've had enough of dating or trying to find someone, I'm just going to focus on myself", what that was code for was "I'm going to remain complacent, not try to overcome my vices and stay where I am". So I could say to everyone around me that I'm not focused on dating but deep down I knew I wasn't doing anything to help my lack of love life or mental state. This leads perfectly to number 2...
2. Be proactive, and make plans. You said you don't have any close friends, I would make this a priority, Everyone needs friends, someone they can turn to for advice and company. Make it your mission to go slightly outside of your comfort zone and talk to new people. Make an effort to do something each week, make small talk with someone new, just put yourself out there. Btw this point doesn't just mean trying to meet new friends, it could just mean going to the gym, doing some DYI, perhaps volunteering work, something that can give you purpose. If you really struggle to meet people, try to get a flatmate or even move back in with your family. That could improve the loneliness. Btw pets are also a great option if it's something you can practically do.
3. What's the reason you feel the need to be with someone? Obviously, we all have an innate desire to find a romantic partner, but think deeper. Is it because your family pressures you, you're lonely, you don't like/love yourself and so want someone as a distraction/validation, fear being left behind, or general societal pressure? It's handy to pinpoint the reason so you can ask yourself if it is valid, E.g. if it's a general feeling of being left behind, the answer is that everyone has a different experience and matures differently. That might be tedious to hear but it's true. For most of the reasons, you can find a way of explaining them. This is where a change of outlook will help. People tend to focus on the negative and ignore the positive. That can make things seem worse than they are. The broader point here is that your outlook has a massive effect on your mood/attitude.
4. Are you cherry-picking? This is handy for someone else to ask you, but are you cheery picking examples of people you know or know of, that have partners? Maybe, in reality, it's only 1-2 people, Plus you have no idea if those are healthy relationships anyway, some of them could be toxic, in which case you're better off alone. If you are in fact cherry-picking examples of what seems perfect couples, then knowing that can act as a consolation, as it's more so your brain playing tricks on you, rather than the real world saying there's something wrong with you.
5. Get off social media, for the most part. It can be a source of comparison to others, not helping with the cherry-picking point as well btw. Unless you're trying to join groups in order to meet new people, I would say it's mostly a waste of your time.
6. Self-compassion. You'll probably notice all these points and my reply in general is based on accountability, the idea of what can you do to change your situation. But that doesn't mean you need to be harsh on yourself. Put in genuine effort and if it doesn't work out how you want it to, you still should treat yourself with compassion. You should talk to yourself the way you would talk to a friend or family member if they were upset or down about something. Be fair but understanding. Be your own coach who's got your back, not a drill instructor who yells insults at you and makes you feel worthless.
7. Attachment styles. There are 4 different ones, Secure, Anxious, Disorganized, and Ambivalent. Figure out which one you are and go from there. This can be tricky as it's most obvious when you have a partner. However, if you ask yourself some hypotheticals, look at your history with girls you've been interested in, or work through it with a Therapist, I'm sure you can find out which one you are. It's quite hard to change your attachment style, but simply knowing what it is can help you be aware of the thinking patterns you engage in and it can help explain some concerns you have about a potential relationship.
8. No expectations. Easier said than done, given what you've posted, as well as if you tend to overthink. Why is it easy to talk to a pretty girl who you find attractive but you know is taken, because you know you've got no chance and so you have no expectations. This sort of mindset can help when speaking to new people, try to let go of any wild thoughts you have or anything you expect of them. Talk to them, get to know them better, and see what happens. This is defo easier to say than do but it really can help. This can also make you come off as more secure and therefore more attractive. Sort of like the girl/boyfriend effect. People tend to be more sure of themselves when they have an intimate relationship and it gives them a ora of confidence, without them even knowing.
9. Be content on your own. This is one of the most important, as you can't rely on someone else for your own happiness. It's not ideal to co-dependant on someone, which btw is different from having people in your life you rely on for certain things. I'm not saying you need to practice words of affirmation or journal about things you're grateful for (which could help though) or that you need to be happy all the time because that's not realistic. What I am saying is there needs to be acceptance of where you are right now. That's not to say be complacent, just that you need to be ok with it. Acceptance is the first step to change.

I hope some if not all of these points help. Sorry in advance if I didn't explain each point 100%, if you're not sure where to start, do some of your own research into each point.

(I've found that YouTubers/influencers that have helped me are: Jordan Peterson, Courtney Ryan, Dr. Julie Smith, Emily King, Healthy Gamer, and Chris Williamson with his podcast Modern Wisdom. For books, I've only read two in my life as I've just taken up reading but 'Atomic Habits' and 'Why Has Nobody Told Me This Before?' are great picks.)

When I saw this post, I could see my past self. I'm not claiming to be some Gigachad who has infinite confidence, because I'm defo not. I have found my own way to most of these bits of advice in the last year or so, and it's helped with feeling down about being single. For the first time in a long time, I don't feel any pressure (95% of said pressure being internal) to meet someone and am content on my own.

I hope you can start to feel the same :)"