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# GENDER EQUALITY: Rules of Modern Dating & Understanding Women "It's Complicated"
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00:00:06.919 do you believe in gender equality I do I
00:00:09.599 mean I think it's great that we you know
00:00:11.280 consider each gender for who they are
00:00:13.320 and what they need um I do think that
00:00:16.279 maybe there are things that can be
00:00:17.680 contributed differently from each gender
00:00:19.800 but I mean I kind of think that's kind
00:00:21.400 of dependent on the relationship you're
00:00:23.160 in how can men and women be equal if
00:00:25.560 we're not the same well we can be equal
00:00:27.720 because we're all just humans on Earth
00:00:29.279 honestly there's no really difference
00:00:31.039 between like bi biological like
00:00:34.440 differences in DNA I have a big thing
00:00:37.000 about this when they're trying to put
00:00:38.600 like equality for men and women we are
00:00:41.640 not equal at all I don't care like you
00:00:45.440 know what everybody says yes I know
00:00:47.120 about the pay and everything but it's
00:00:49.719 just like we're totally different I
00:00:53.199 guess it depends in what way we think
00:00:55.199 about it like if we're thinking about in
00:00:56.559 a loving relationship I think making
00:00:58.960 sure you think of each other as partners
00:01:01.079 and equals can do that I believe in
00:01:04.280 equality in a lot of ways but I do think
00:01:07.560 that men and women have different roles
00:01:10.040 maybe sometimes how can men and women be
00:01:12.640 equal if we're not the
00:01:14.159 same um I think there should be equality
00:01:18.000 in things like paying and being able to
00:01:20.479 have bank accounts and things that we
00:01:23.040 didn't even have less than 50 years ago
00:01:25.880 how can men and women be equal if
00:01:27.200 coochie costs more money than dick
00:01:29.759 that's that's an interesting one I think
00:01:31.200 that's one that has to do with like the
00:01:35.119 way um Society has put coochie as
00:01:39.600 something that has to be paid for and
00:01:40.920 dick doesn't How likely will women pay
00:01:43.399 for dick or make coochie free I think
00:01:46.479 women are more likely to make coochie
00:01:48.640 something very
00:01:50.320 expensive um and dick free how can men
00:01:54.159 and women be equal if we have double
00:01:55.560 standards double
00:01:57.320 standards okay let me not speak about
00:01:59.360 this I'm going to say something really
00:02:00.560 bad no I don't uh double standers exist
00:02:04.079 because I'm going to get canceled I
00:02:06.039 can't say this well let's not have
00:02:07.560 double standards we need to get rid of
00:02:09.639 the double standards can you think of
00:02:11.200 any double standards that don't benefit
00:02:14.800 women
00:02:18.440 uh I don't know double standards exist
00:02:21.480 because of the people who believe
00:02:23.400 they're more important than everybody
00:02:24.800 else when it comes to their gender their
00:02:27.120 rights Etc um I feel like double
00:02:29.959 standards should not exist I don't know
00:02:32.440 if I'm making sense but they exist to a
00:02:35.560 certain extent with certain
00:02:37.560 people all right this is a little more
00:02:39.440 runchy but um how can men and women be
00:02:41.560 equal if coochie cost more money than
00:02:45.239 dick um that's a little that's that's um
00:02:51.120 actually I fed the F Well I mean How
00:02:54.280 likely will women pay for dick or make
00:02:55.680 coochie free um I don't think women pay
00:02:58.959 for dick is much as men pay for women so
00:03:02.800 so doesn't that prove are more desperate
00:03:04.400 that's why that does kind of prove a
00:03:06.200 point what does equality look like to
00:03:08.879 you what equality looks like to me is
00:03:11.159 not looking down on another person based
00:03:13.760 off something that they can't control
00:03:15.799 equality to me is like being 50/50
00:03:18.760 always both putting in hard work and
00:03:21.239 dedication into a
00:03:22.799 relationship do women want to be equal
00:03:24.720 or do women want to be special I think
00:03:27.000 both isn't that a contradiction
00:03:30.120 I think they want to be both they want
00:03:31.959 to be special and equal when do women
00:03:34.439 want equality and when do they want
00:03:36.000 special treatment they want equality
00:03:38.400 when it comes
00:03:40.439 to I would say like work and paywise but
00:03:45.599 special treatment they want to be you
00:03:47.439 know I want this I want that I want
00:03:50.200 these rings I want these clothes I want
00:03:52.159 you to buy this for me I want a man to
00:03:54.239 take care of me I want him to provide
00:03:55.760 for me but I will take care of him if he
00:03:58.439 takes care of me as well it depends if
00:04:00.720 you want to play the female role the
00:04:03.000 male role or do you guys just want to be
00:04:06.159 equal Partners um I I lean into my
00:04:09.360 feminine energy so I know what I'm best
00:04:12.400 at and I can do what I'm best at and
00:04:14.879 hopefully my man is doing what he's best
00:04:16.759 at and we come together and it's perfect
00:04:19.238 balance why would women who used to be
00:04:21.798 protected and provided for choose to
00:04:23.960 work and pay taxes instead I think
00:04:25.960 there's a power and self-sufficiency and
00:04:28.320 Independence and I don't know when I
00:04:30.680 walk around and know that I can do
00:04:31.960 whatever I want whatever money I make or
00:04:34.199 anything like that there's a big Power
00:04:35.479 in that and then it chooses people not
00:04:37.000 to feel like they can decide what I do
00:04:39.360 at the time like I said we didn't have
00:04:40.759 bank accounts we couldn't buy our own
00:04:42.400 houses so we want to be able to survive
00:04:45.039 on our own and now that we can survive
00:04:47.440 on our own now we have the option to be
00:04:49.120 on our own Be Independent Women or we
00:04:51.320 can also have a traditional life with a
00:04:53.520 man why do women get to pick and choose
00:04:56.240 any more than a man does women pick and
00:04:58.560 choose less I want want my man to tell
00:05:00.600 me where I'm eating for dinner what does
00:05:02.960 it mean when women say that men are
00:05:04.880 supposed to lead and how is that
00:05:06.639 different than patriarchy well honestly
00:05:09.240 in the modern day and I can speak this
00:05:11.240 to my own relationship like I I want to
00:05:13.919 be an equal in my relationship but as
00:05:17.520 how men are brought up I feel like being
00:05:19.919 so motherly to a boy can make them not
00:05:22.520 as self-sufficient so when the next
00:05:24.280 woman comes in as their partner they're
00:05:26.520 not feeling like they're equals anymore
00:05:28.840 cuz we still have to baby them cuz
00:05:30.720 they're not like ready so it's like when
00:05:32.759 they take lead it's almost showing like
00:05:34.479 it's for once I can maybe not make a
00:05:36.759 decision or I can be led into something
00:05:39.039 where I don't have to give more thought
00:05:40.360 than my partner why do people believe
00:05:42.520 that chivalry is dead and feminism
00:05:44.560 killed it it did it absolutely 100% did
00:05:48.840 women push for too much of equality I
00:05:51.840 want a man's man I want him to treat me
00:05:53.720 like a man I want equal opinions but at
00:05:55.720 the same time I definitely want a man
00:05:57.280 that can protect hold doors open do
00:05:59.080 things for me I want to be feminine I
00:06:00.520 don't want to be like a man some women
00:06:01.880 do and that's okay not my thing but I do
00:06:04.600 think feminism kind of ruin it for us do
00:06:06.880 women want to be independent while also
00:06:08.560 being provided for and if so who's more
00:06:10.639 delusional in their
00:06:12.479 wants actually yeah that's probably
00:06:14.720 pretty true I'm going to be honest with
00:06:16.080 that one um we're probably more
00:06:18.520 delusional we want equality we want this
00:06:20.479 but we want a man to take care of us too
00:06:22.360 so yeah women are definitely that's our
00:06:25.840 problem how can chivalry and equality
00:06:28.720 coexist is that a contradiction that's
00:06:31.520 true that is true I believe in equality
00:06:33.800 not chivalry why do people believe that
00:06:36.160 chivalry is dead and feminism killed it
00:06:38.759 I don't know they shouldn't believe that
00:06:40.120 I think feminism lifts up women and
00:06:44.240 shivery can go both
00:06:45.919 ways well why doesn't it typically go
00:06:49.000 both ways where I mean men are expected
00:06:51.080 to approach women ask them out pick them
00:06:52.560 up pay for dates make the first move why
00:06:54.560 aren't women expected to do all those
00:06:55.879 things as the
00:06:57.160 standard we're stuck in traditional way
00:07:00.000 and I think it's badass if women go up
00:07:01.840 to men so do I people have this idea
00:07:06.039 about feminism right now there's like a
00:07:08.240 huge gender War right and they say
00:07:10.599 feminism is pretty much hating men and
00:07:13.319 not needing men and really feminism is
00:07:16.759 originally is wanting equality how did
00:07:20.080 feminism go from being about equality to
00:07:22.639 now it's about wanting Equity maybe not
00:07:25.720 feeling equal feels like something's
00:07:27.160 taken from them so you're always going
00:07:29.840 to grab for more if you feel like
00:07:31.639 there's something diminished or lacking
00:07:33.160 in your life do feminists believe in
00:07:35.560 equality even when it doesn't benefit
00:07:37.560 them feminists probably not I don't know
00:07:41.440 the only reason I'm not sure about that
00:07:42.960 is just cuz I don't know if I'm 100%
00:07:45.840 feminist but if feminists do want
00:07:48.960 equality then they can't have it all
00:07:50.680 about themselves if you were at the top
00:07:53.199 of a hierarchy would you still want
00:07:55.159 equality even if it was a step down for
00:07:57.360 you is this in a relationship or is this
00:07:59.800 in any regard how do you how do you
00:08:02.280 interpret that well if it was a
00:08:04.319 relationship yeah if if if I'm take
00:08:07.319 right now in my relationship if I'm at
00:08:09.240 the top then I feel like he's not going
00:08:10.960 to lead and which means all power and
00:08:12.680 decisions come on me it's exhausting if
00:08:14.879 I was in my job if I felt I did my job
00:08:17.080 really well and I was above I don't
00:08:18.960 believe in equality there because if I'm
00:08:20.599 the best person to do the job then I
00:08:22.919 believe I should be the one leading the
00:08:24.599 position do you believe in 50/50
00:08:26.840 relationships or traditional roles and
00:08:29.039 why I believe in 50-50 how can
00:08:31.800 relationships ever be 5050 if the man is
00:08:34.799 always the one who's expected to
00:08:36.120 sacrifice himself for the woman and
00:08:38.200 serve her with chivalry that wouldn't be
00:08:40.799 50/50 I think traditionally men are
00:08:43.240 expected to give more but in a healthy
00:08:46.200 relationship whoever is able to gives
00:08:50.360 more than the other if we accept that
00:08:53.080 premise wouldn't that inequality
00:08:55.200 manifest itself in all of our laws and
00:08:57.839 institutions yes it would and that's not
00:09:00.279 fair well how do you see that
00:09:02.680 happening in the government and and in
00:09:06.320 and in our societal expectations for
00:09:08.160 each other especially in the family
00:09:10.120 courts right yes sir I know my man
00:09:12.480 doesn't do that because we're 50/50 in
00:09:14.040 our relationship but I know in other
00:09:15.800 relationships they're expecting a
00:09:18.040 certain type of man to provide for them
00:09:21.640 but also like what's theirs is ours and
00:09:25.519 what's ours is ours as well that doesn't
00:09:27.360 make sense to me what are your thoughts
00:09:29.040 on the expression happy wife happy life
00:09:31.360 why not happy spouse happy house isn't
00:09:33.680 that more of an equal Arrangement it is
00:09:35.959 equal but I think when the wife is Happy
00:09:37.720 everything runs more smoothly because
00:09:40.519 when the wife is happy it's just like a
00:09:44.680 happier lifestyle if I'm happy we're all
00:09:47.000 going to be happy cuz if I'm in a bad
00:09:48.440 mood I'm going to make it known that I'm
00:09:50.079 in a bad mood and everybody is not going
00:09:52.120 to have a good time but if I'm good then
00:09:54.959 we're all going to be good and it's
00:09:56.360 going to be great if your wife is happy
00:09:58.839 she's going going to treat you like a
00:10:00.279 king all the time cuz you treat her like
00:10:02.920 a queen she's going to do the same to
00:10:04.360 you happy wife happy life that's a
00:10:06.160 pretty traditional term honestly our
00:10:08.760 parents believe in it but not so much
00:10:10.760 these days why not happy spouse happy
00:10:13.240 house isn't that more of an equal
00:10:14.959 Arrangement it is but it depends like
00:10:17.760 are both putting in that same effort for
00:10:19.640 both to be happy why not happy spouse
00:10:22.360 happy house isn't that more of an equal
00:10:24.240 arrangement I think that's just as true
00:10:27.440 so why don't we have that expression I
00:10:29.600 would say because
00:10:32.000 men what they do is more tangible men
00:10:35.839 are protectors and providers you can see
00:10:38.360 that it's more physical what women do is
00:10:41.880 more esoteric and spiritual and
00:10:45.120 emotional and
00:10:46.800 supportive and
00:10:49.360 so um you know if you know a good woman
00:10:52.440 you know what a good woman can do for
00:10:53.920 your life why do you think women want
00:10:56.160 equality in everything except for dating
00:10:58.720 um women want to be superior they want
00:11:00.839 to be the one above they always want to
00:11:03.399 know that they are better than the other
00:11:05.720 so why do women say they want equality
00:11:07.480 when they actually want
00:11:09.519 superiority they want equality
00:11:12.560 when they want men to understand their
00:11:15.600 feelings they want men to know that they
00:11:18.920 are also capable of emotions why do
00:11:22.639 women get to pick and shoes any more
00:11:24.959 than a man
00:11:28.240 does because women have high
00:11:30.000 expectations they want everything to
00:11:31.360 happen for a reason and they think that
00:11:33.120 if it doesn't then it's not meant to be
00:11:34.880 I want a man again sorry want a man in
00:11:36.959 the bedroom but I want equality and
00:11:38.839 respect for my like just my opinion it
00:11:41.720 doesn't you don't have to agree with it
00:11:43.519 but you definitely have to respect it do
00:11:46.920 feminists believe in equality even when
00:11:48.720 it doesn't benefit them I don't really
00:11:50.959 think so could you give me an example of
00:11:52.920 what you mean uh there might be certain
00:11:55.959 responsibilities that women don't want
00:11:57.680 to take on because maybe it's a mass
00:11:59.240 masculine role or something like that
00:12:00.880 let's say for example being drafted into
00:12:02.920 war yeah so this is one of the the
00:12:06.519 situations where gender equality and
00:12:11.120 comes into play because there are
00:12:13.040 certain situations which you don't want
00:12:16.040 to be equal across the board because
00:12:18.480 there are certain situations and um
00:12:21.560 areas where men are just going to be
00:12:24.560 more for that role so there's no reason
00:12:27.079 to enlist all women into the military 18
00:12:30.320 versus all men even though Israel
00:12:33.079 already does that and they're doing
00:12:34.199 great so maybe we should learn from them
00:12:35.920 as well why not which of the following
00:12:38.440 is worse feminists who only want
00:12:41.199 equality when it benefits them or
00:12:44.360 religious conservatives who don't
00:12:46.279 believe in equality at all I think
00:12:48.560 probably the first one cuz at least the
00:12:50.440 religious people expect it versus
00:12:52.680 feminists you know they want it their
00:12:56.040 way but they also want equality why are
00:12:58.920 men still expected to provide for women
00:13:01.199 who can provide for themselves and are
00:13:03.040 celebrated for it that's a really
00:13:04.839 interesting thing on the expectation of
00:13:06.440 that because most of the men I meet now
00:13:07.959 even though it's expected that people
00:13:09.360 can do 50/50 in the relationship and
00:13:10.920 women can work and contribute to the
00:13:12.320 relationship most men now feel like it's
00:13:14.320 their duty to provide and it makes them
00:13:16.399 feel lacking when they can't isn't
00:13:18.720 telling men that it's their masculine
00:13:20.480 duty to protect and provide for women
00:13:23.360 really just telling men to place women
00:13:24.920 on a pedestal above themselves I think
00:13:27.519 yeah in a way it is definitely well is
00:13:30.199 that equality no no I don't think so I
00:13:33.519 think sometimes girls just like to be
00:13:35.760 spoiled wouldn't men like to be spoiled
00:13:38.040 by women yes and women should spoil
00:13:40.120 their men as well so then why aren't
00:13:42.120 women expected to protect and provide
00:13:43.560 for men they can do that too but why is
00:13:46.199 that not typically the standard expected
00:13:48.120 the way it is for men to do that for
00:13:49.560 women I don't know it should be we
00:13:51.120 should all support each other but why
00:13:52.959 isn't it I don't know I mean honestly
00:13:56.040 take a look at everything we do if
00:13:57.240 there's a fire they say women and
00:13:58.759 children first so I mean if we can also
00:14:01.000 get rid of that that can be helpful
00:14:03.279 towards that but I mean it can be
00:14:04.959 putting them on a pedestal but again it
00:14:07.759 also comes from like that internal
00:14:09.880 teaching and teaching from a young age
00:14:11.199 of men if they need to be the provider
00:14:13.160 and if we don't put it that way and we
00:14:14.600 show that everyone can be either the
00:14:17.399 stay-at-home mom or the stay-at-home dad
00:14:19.120 or you know someone can provide more for
00:14:20.880 the partnership with still being an
00:14:22.120 equal and have a say than I think we can
00:14:23.720 move forward in a better way do you
00:14:25.800 believe in the God manom child hierarchy
00:14:29.320 and if so should everyone be held to
00:14:31.360 that standard when we're trying to
00:14:33.079 promote gender equality you know what so
00:14:35.560 I think that there's no I I myself
00:14:38.000 believe in God and believe that he's my
00:14:40.120 higher power but I think that everybody
00:14:42.160 I think that that's why there's
00:14:43.199 different religions different gods
00:14:44.800 different things to believe in because I
00:14:47.399 think there has to be something for
00:14:48.480 everybody that's my opinion and I feel
00:14:50.920 that you can believe in what you want
00:14:53.120 and I'm going to respect you 100% And I
00:14:54.839 can believe in what I want and you
00:14:56.959 should respect me no judgment wasn't
00:15:00.360 religion the original patriarchal
00:15:04.000 system yeah you got that one so then why
00:15:06.720 are women blaming all men for patriarchy
00:15:08.800 when it's really religious people who
00:15:10.120 are pushing that you know uh that's kind
00:15:13.240 of religious people amp feminisms and
00:15:15.279 everybody else so I can't necessarily
00:15:17.120 dis blame women on that one I mean it's
00:15:20.000 religious and women I'm I'm sorry
00:15:22.279 feminist but I got to give you that one