i am afraid to leave my current job which i hate because i might not be able to find work that i enjoy that pays well enough to live on.
at least it sounds like you are giving it a lot of thought. you sound resilient. most people would just quit or get fired, or not even realize the negative impact it is putting on their children. you seem very self aware, so i am sure you will be able to figure out the best decision for everyone involved. good luck!
yes. and the tricky part is that you can choose to stay in the miserable job for financial life stability, and then be crabby and unhappy around your kids, or you can take the risk and maybe be in a worse financial place but be happier at home. it is tough.