mom got sick and i blamed myself
please do not be so hard on yourself. it is sometimes hard to remind ourselves that our parents are people in their own right and, while we care very much about them, at the end of the day they will do what they think is right.
yes, that is true, they will not always listen. still i cannot help but beat myself up about it, and feel like i could have done more. i am trying to get past the feeling of guilt, but it is hard.