i was furious to find out that my inlaws did not respect my house rules. my husband and i specifically told them the rules and they purposely chose to ignore them.
my husband and i sat down with them and told them that the kids are not to use a door that does not shut properly, not to use the inflatable pool until we get home it is not level and if you put just a little bit of pressure in one spot, the pool water will start to overflow the top and destroy the yard , and no shoes in the bedroom. when we got home, they had broke all of those rules.
that is unbelievably frustrating. i know exactly what you mean. what rules do they not respect?