a time i felt i should be loyal and honest is when my good friend s boyfriend showed interest in me in a romantic manner. i am married, and i also really care for my friend, so two reasons i would not encourage his behavior. i let him know that he was wrong to do that, and felt good that i did, but felt really bad for my friend.
thats a tough situation.
i struggled with it, but my friend was in a really bad spot, with no income and raising her grandchild, he was the financial supporter. so, i did not tell her, as i knew it would really hurt her in several ways, plus she really loves him!