issues so to get with another broken person subconsciously uh it validates me staying broken it validates me not having to face my issues because now we all have issues you see as long as we all have issues i don't have to face mine but if you have corrected yours how can i validate my own wow what's your issues my issues the coach always has an issue somewhere um what's your biggest fear or insecurities around being in a relationship or finding the right person or dating or so okay i'll say fear and i just i'm being very transparent i've never said this i know you have else all right i know you have it your biggest fear my biggest fear has been can i remain focused and and fulfilled in the relationship long term past a certain time meaning okay i i have no doubts five years in NUMBER_TOKEN years in i'm still good but when it hits year NUMBER_TOKEN this is different and again it's it's because of one i think a lot of people the issue that we have is specifically even with monogamy not saying that i'm gonna be going out there cheating but i always say the issue with monogamy is that people struggle to maintain monogamy and we struggle to maintain monogamy because we don't maintain who we fell in love with all right what do you mean by that meaning that person that i brought you and you brought to me that made us feel like this is it it's different it's different now the thing is though it can be maintained if it's the true you problem is a lot of people aren't being their true self on the jump right so that creates a difference right there also is there a willingness to grow together and that create that needs communication that means connection has to be there a lot of people have not gotten with that person have a connection with so this is where for me there's fear but there's peace in knowing that i do believe if i'm willing to do my part to maintain who who she falls in love with all right whoever that woman is when that day happens i'm willing to do that and that goes spiritually mentally physically i have no problem sticking to the recipe that worked and i and i'm confident in one end because i say you know what i believe in connection and i believe that that's the missing ingredient when i look at these relationships that have failed and haven't made it past that NUMBER_TOKEN-year NUMBER_TOKEN-year mark i do think that the reason is connection was not there in most cases so chemistry was there chemistry may have been there at one point compatibility compatibility based on what they were presenting at one point may have been there but again was it true compatibility they weren't being their true self and if they had not found their true self yet um but connection was not there and i think a lot of people get with each other based off the hype and that's the reason why i'm such a stickler on okay i have to make sure i wait for connection because i want to make it past those NUMBER_TOKEN years i want to make it for the long haul i want to be a representation of what i speak about i want people to look at my relationship and say i don't want to be that fake relationship that people think is good right it's
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