each other space is the right thing to do and in the same vein if you feel like you aren't being there for your friends in the same way you once were we all understand that it's hard for you and your friends are going to understand that as well so try not to be so hard on yourself on the flip side second tip is if you do have those days where you happen to be doing okay great even and those days will probably be sporadic and unpredictable then you're having a good day for lockdown so when you're done using that energy for the things that you need to do for you to survive use that energy when it does come and try to reach out to someone although we do need to cut each other some slack we also need to accept the reality that at the end of the day we are all relational beings and we are all going to feel better if we feel that sense of community support and love in whatever shape that takes on and my third tip is communication and this goes for literally every single one of you not just in lockdown actually just in life at the beginning of lockdown when i was really struggling with my own stuff which i've already gone into i started to get really snappy with my housemates and that was the first sign that i needed to make a change and that was because i was expecting just under the circumstances irrational as it is i was somehow expecting that my housemates would be able to like read my mind about what i was going through never mind the fact that they were also going through their own stuff and given the circumstances it got into this weird territory of things that would usually not bother me about my housemates started to bother me and i felt like vice versa and i'll use my ice tj housemate as an example and i flagged this with her she uses si as her first function i use se and you can just imagine how that would play out in the household you know i need that exploration freedom and um unpredictability spontaneity and she has very specific structures and orders that she likes to upkeep in the sensory world both both of those functions operate in the sensory world so there was some tension at some points as we started going to getting into the really tough middle ground of lockdown and i suddenly felt like i really wasn't understanding her and i suddenly felt like she was really not understanding me and things that just would never have usually got to me were getting to me just because i'm human and we were around each other NUMBER_TOKEN hours a day and there's this weird people-pleasing part of my brain that was like no don't flag this with her like it's not her fault that this is the things that she cares about but then when i started to notice that there was a difference in the way that i was feeling and that i was starting to like snap at her a little bit i was like something needs to change i always talk about communication open communication so i need to sit down and chat with her lockdown sort of makes us feel sometimes like the people around us don't have our best intentions at heart but literally everything i know about my housemate is that she is so loving loves me so much and cares about me so much so i think a huge thing in lockdown that we need to do as humans is just assume that everyone is operating out of love and good intentions and doing the best that they can a lot
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