of of blank you guys really like it it's fascinating um yeah i love those kinds of books yeah they're just i just eat that stuff up that's just that's just like i read a lot did you guys read atomic habits i read a little bit of that one that one's good too it's this kind of same genre where they like talk about like ways you can jump start your life but it was interesting i liked it um and i think it's like powerful for people that are either in the process of finding a therapist or can't find a therapist like i think that self-help has yeah yeah that's like a lot of powerful information for people who are looking to jumpstart their life yeah i feel like you should be like in the right mindset yeah you can't just like hey let me like turn on this self-help podcast in a car full of eight people like there's a chance that like yeah three people be into it and the other three are like what the PROFANITY_TOKEN was going on yeah i feel like it's got to be the right like and the right amount of woo-woo mixed with right exactly you know yeah yeah because boo boo's fun i like yeah and people are in different like journeys and stuff and some information is applicable some is not so applicable yeah yeah i mean did you guys ever read that one this this one came out a while ago that was like um how to get people to like you like there it it it had one of those catchy titles that was like how to make friends and get people to like you was the how to make friends and alienate something wasn't that it i'm googling yeah google it it's like how to make friends and something something um but i remember listening to that one and this was pre-audio books so we actually had the cds oh and ned and i listened to it in the car on on the drive out to los angeles and basically what we got from it is let people talk about themselves because when like uh it the the what they were talking about was um when you have a conversation with somebody right um what usually what people take from those conversations is how they felt during that conversation and the way to make somebody feel good during a conversation is for them to talk about themselves isn't that fascinating and so if you're in if like try to remember the last time that you met somebody new at like a party or something and do you remember really liking that person because they told you their life story or do you remember really liking that person because they listened and like you know let you kind of talk about your things and then maybe they asked some like clarifying questions and yeah you know like yeah it's it's interesting it's really interesting to think about the questions it's about the questions that's important yeah asking questions because i think so often we want to relate and the way our brains go like oh yeah you can relate to them by sharing a story that's similar to the thing that they just talked about and it's like well no that's just talking about you right instead of asking like who what where when yeah yeah i got that book no the book is how to lose friends and alienate people it was a movie oh my god oh that's my movie no no this one this one's called i'll
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