gear inside get NUMBER_TOKEN off your first monthly box when you sign up at box of awesome dot com enter the code dr drew at checkout that's box of URL_TOKEN code dr drew for NUMBER_TOKEN off your first box but but this brings us to the other topic i wanted to get to which is trust which is really important for people to be able to trust so do you just not trust the medical community or do you have entrusting authority or tried trusting you know anybody where does trust what's the boundaries of trust for you can't wait to get into this yeah see here's the thing though man like you you want to do this it's going to be the rest of the show trust it is we can always come back to it trust me trust me because trust is a big deal i get it it's everything it's it's uh yeah i don't trust you're not alone a lot of people are gonna relate to what you're saying here because they trust here's the problem i think i've expressed this before on this show and i'm gonna say it again now which is that if you don't trust you can't get close right and for each of us to develop our sense of self a cohesive identity and our ability to regulate emotions it requires closeness with other humans now i'm guessing there are certain people you are close to right you can do that you're not it's not that you're incapable of it right if you've been badly traumatized those people become incapable of closeness incapable of that kind of being in that frame of closeness that allows for you know really tight exchange of feelings and the ability to develop regulation i'm guessing this is more sort of to just you're not easy it's not easy to get to that closeness for you you don't trust people just generally not such a bad thing by the way because most people are worthy of your trust right i mean i don't know i i treat everybody the same way i mean like you said you know i i don't i don't get close to many people yeah but you do you're capable of it i'm capable yeah but yeah i over trust i'm too trusting way too trusting and and that's my that's that's equally a problem as as and these are all issues of boundaries batteries being overly tight or overly porous that kind of stuff i wrote a book i just wrote a book coming out my daughter and i recommend you pre-buy it it's called it doesn't have to be awkward and it's about these issues it's written for sort of moms and and teen teen children it's not your mom's house per se i mean those of you that are sending me these emails and things i don't think this is your thing so much but but if you have kids who are in sort of teenage stuff and it's funny the it came up for me today i didn't think i was going to talk about this i'm surprised um it's called it doesn't have to be awkward please please support it my daughter's a writer and this is a big deal for her as our first big book is it audiobook as well the audiobook i'm finishing it on friday
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