hi everyone welcome back to my channel if you're new here i'm courtney ryan and today i'm going to be talking about a topic that gets brought up a ton on my channel and that is how to handle rejection rejection is something that all of us will experience at some point in our lives no matter how wonderful and great you are so understand that you are not alone in this whether it be a we regret to inform you letter from the top college on your list a turn down from your dream job or being ghosted by someone that you really liked we're all going to experience this at some point and you are not alone most of us have known the feeling and by interacting with all of you i understand that many of you have faced this when it comes to dating and i also know that this can often make you feel really sad and discouraged about yourself so today i want to tell you that being rejected is totally normal rejection and failure is just a part of life and the more you understand that and can cope with the fact that it's going to happen to you the better off you will be so today i'm going to take a little deep dive into rejection and how you can use it for positivity and growth in your life instead of being sad and feeling defeated because none of you should feel that way rejection is completely normal so the first point i want you guys to all understand is that rejection stings it's painful it hurts it feels like a jab in the chest it really is just brutal there have actually been studies that have been done that have shown that rejection is actually associated with the part of our brain that feels pain and i found this little snippet that says functional mri scans compared brain activity and people who'd experienced rejection with brain activity in people who'd experienced physical pain and found that many of the same regions of the brain lit up and those regions had previously been linked to physical pain subsequent research found that the pain we feel from rejection is so akin to that we feel from physical pain that taking acetaminophen such as tylenol after experiencing rejection actually reduced how much pain people reported feeling and brain scans show neutral pain signaling was lessened too which is just insane and i'm not going to recommend that you take tylenol if you get rejected from a girl on tinder but it's just very interesting to see how associated it is with the parts of our brain that feel physical pain so i think when you can understand that rejection is legitimately painful it's been proven it can help you kind of cope with it a little bit better and find ways to move forward although rejection in this day and age won't kill us like it might have in our evolutionary past it still doesn't feel good rejection gets our attention it stings it hurts our ego and it really makes us evaluate our social circumstances so now i'm gonna go into how we can kind of cope with that and make sure that we're dealing with rejection the right way and that leads me into my next point which is be kind to yourself this is something that i think so many of us struggle with and that's why i'm so happy that today's video is sponsored by betterhelp big thank you to betterhelp for sponsoring this video if there's something interfering with your happiness or preventing you from achieving your goals better help will assess your needs and match you
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