either have a small wedding or invite everyone to have a meal it just like seems really strange that you would separate it out and have different guest lists for the different parts of your wedding i can't i find it actually a bit rude if i'm honest and i could never imagine doing it myself and again thankfully it's not happened to me yet but i don't know i don't know if i would even really feel like participating at all it kind of feels like maybe you are an afterthought that you're not you're like a half guest yeah i don't know if this is changing with the times or if it's becoming more prevalent let me know in the comments below have you ever been invited to a wedding and then told to go and eat elsewhere and then come back later how do you guys feel about this whether you're an expat whether you're a dutch native is this normal do lots of people do this being on the subject of celebrations this one is more to do with birthdays so birthdays in the netherlands i always feel like everyone's very present focused so you are the host and you throw a party which means you supply food and drinks but then everyone's kind of obliged to bring a present like you i feel stressed i don't think this is in australian culture you just go along for a drink and it's the present is your presence you are coming to help them celebrate but that i don't think you're obliged to bring a gift unless it's a really really good friend i have received gifts from people that have been completely unexpected and i think it's just in dutch culture it's someone's birthday you give them a present and this just does not correlate with my brain sometimes and i am very notorious for forgetting a gift but at the same time i think you know it's do we really still have to be buying presents for NUMBER_TOKEN year olds like i feel like gifts for birthdays is something you do for children because it's fun and it's nice but like we're all adults now so it seems unnecessary now being the birthday person it's your responsibility to bring the cake so i feel like bringing the cake gets you presents if that's how this exchange is meant to be working but i feel like in australian culture it's my birthday i want other people to organize the cake i know my partner has fond memories of being at primary school and bringing snacks and things on his birthday and having to outdo other kids with better snacks and things like that so it's very much in the culture that you practice like it's your shout you shout everyone snacks and cake because it's your birthday so that is something that i'm not really used to and i guess we're gonna have to do it when our daughter starts going to school so organizing snacks and things for a birthday but yes that is another strange thing about dutch culture that i tend to forget all the time before we get on to the rest of the list i want to give a shout out to skillshare who has sponsored this video today skillshare is an online learning platform for creatives and people who are keen to learn i love this platform and i use it constantly to upskill whether that's in work whether that's in my creative life so i've
START_SPONSOR_TOKEN before we get on to the rest of the list i want to give a shout out to skillshare who has sponsored this video today skillshare is an online learning platform for creatives and people who are keen to learn i love this platform and i use it constantly to upskill whether that's in work whether that's in my creative life so i've END_SPONSOR_TOKEN