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Thread: Being Honest Online

I'm pretty upfront and honest. But, there was a point where I wasn't because I was a very young teenager when I hopped online and started delving into the world of roleplay. I didn't want to be myself so I created a character that I could rely on, who was much stronger and confident than I was. Who felt wanted and necessary. After a point, I realized how separate this character and I were though I had borrowed and then fabricated her make-believe strength into my own person. I grew up with this character and eventually, became her but in a mortal coil without being her, as it were. Eventually, she disappeared as I grew up and I created another person, but that person was myself but with a name I felt proud of calling my own, even though it was an alias. Sure, you can't really trust people online, but why bother not trusting them either? My thing on it is to be wary but not so much so that you can't even enjoy your time with that person without questioning every possible motive they might have. I've been played by several members on this site and some of it my own fault, but the reality is, people do the same thing in real life. The internet is not a far cry from society as a whole, it's just what you do with it that's different.
Thread: Being Honest Online

Hahvoc The Decepticon said I'm pretty upfront and honest. But, there was a point where I wasn't because I was a very young teenager when I hopped online and started delving into the world of roleplay. I didn't want to be myself so I created a character that I could rely on, who was much stronger and confident than I was. Who felt wanted and necessary. After a point, I realized how separate this character and I were though I had borrowed and then fabricated her make-believe strength into my own person. I grew up with this character and eventually, became her but in a mortal coil without being her, as it were. Eventually, she disappeared as I grew up and I created another person, but that person was myself but with a name I felt proud of calling my own, even though it was an alias. Sure, you can't really trust people online, but why bother not trusting them either? My thing on it is to be wary but not so much so that you can't even enjoy your time with that person without questioning every possible motive they might have. I've been played by several members on this site and some of it my own fault, but the reality is, people do the same thing in real life. The internet is not a far cry from society as a whole, it's just what you do with it that's different. Click to expand... Agreed. When people tell me people on the internet aren't honest about themselves, I always answer, and people irl are? I've had a romance that started online, and I knew exactly who he was from the beginning. On the other hand, I met someone irl that was a pathological liar and messed me up badly. That's kind of beautiful, what you said about taking on the traits of your online persona. I feel something similar, that I found a part of myself by being able to be who I want to be online. It's kind of good to develop relationships with people when all they have to deal with is your words, when your words are the strongest part of you.
Thread: Being Honest Online

This is true. It often depends on the person you meet, it isn't like these rules are set in stone or anything. Some of the best folks I have ever met are online and some of the worst came from real life. I for one would love to say that humanity as a whole is basically good, but there is a lot that hammers that faith right into the ground. Still, it certainly lightens the heart to find so many open minds and bleeding hearts here, makes one dare to hope again.
Thread: Being Honest Online

I didn't mean to make it sound like I was laying down a protocol for how to deal with all of your online relationships but more directed at those you feel yourself getting close to. If there are things that don't add up or seem shady, keep it in mind when giving them personal details about yourself. Not everyone who tells stories about themselves or uses fake pictures is looking to steal your money, or your identity for me it wasn't. Sometimes it's just fun to live a fantasy in an environment with people you'll never meet. And as already stated, it depends on how deep the relationship is and what you're using it for.
Thread: Being Honest Online

It all depends on who and where. Overall I think the internet is a great place to just be yourself, and with online relationships friendship, professional, AND romantic I think it's potentially harmful and hurtful to deceive others and pretty much make believe. I mean, I suppose if you don't plan on getting close to anyone, go ahead, but I have yet to see someone who goes out of their way to make up crap about themselves without getting close to other people online. I genuinely prefer it if people were just themselves. In some ways on the internet we can be more-so ourselves than in person because we do have that screen between us and the lack of repercussions as we can abandon ship at any time. This way you can make much more genuine connections with people. Why should you lie about yourself? But that's just me. I have sore feelings about pathological liars who create this super fabulous fictitious version of themselves. I was constantly overshadowed by girls like that in high school and it developed into a personality pet peeve of mine. Not to mention, when I was semi working for a MMO company, we had an incident where one of the forum moderators who'd become popular and famous amongst the the game community had her 'photo' added to a fan video for the game. Turns out it wasn't actually her.
Thread: Being Honest Online

As much as I agree with you MsMuffin i would say there are levels and degrees on this kind of thing and the only added bonus I can see to complete honesty is the Internet has a block button in most cases. I also make a line between outright lieing about who you are like in the case you mentioned and say being in the closet one hurts others and one can save yourself vitriol, but as you mentioned does depend on how close you intend to get and what you want out of the relationship, at the same time some things matter way more to others than they should.
Thread: Being Honest Online

Quin this is a really fantastic thread with an excellent chance of building real rapport with others! Honesty and online personas don't always go hand in hand. Maybe it's a kind of wish fulfillment sort of approach for some people that do behave that way. Yes, when I was younger, I felt the need to hide my gender online because of the enforced stereotypes that life seems to force us into. I didn't want to be a 2nd class citizen that was nothing more than spank fuel to the guy on the other side of the screen. I pretended to be a guy in a yahoo chat group when they first came out--I know, VERY long time ago! I learned things about guys I never knew existed and women's treatment of them! In said group, they 1. The women treated the men as steel, unfeeling objects that must dance to the female's whims or they'd be pecked out of the group or thrown to the edges. 2. Both genders got undeserved reputations. My 'guy' was a so called heart breaker because I wouldn't cyber. One girl was very trusting and ended up being called an undeserved whore. 3. Men give douche bag tests to each other. If you 'pass the test' you're in the group. 4. Women like to establish dominance within the group as rapidly as possible and are on the whole, more vicious about it than men are. 5. Both genders lie exactly the same amount online. 6. Men hold each other and themselves up to impossibly high standards of toughness and stoicism that must equate with manliness. 7. Women compare only 2 things--the beauty ideal and rank within the group according to individual and sometimes conflicting criteria. So I revealed my true gender and all the women blocked me. All the men but one, said hey--good joke! That was funny! I learned a scary lesson about stalkers a while back and now I know how much I should reveal and how much I shouldn't for safety's sake. But then again comfort levels are different for everyone. I prefer honesty online, but if someone feels the need to lie, I cannot control them. We can only control ourselves and hope for the best. I'm a 43 year old female of graduate level education and in a 24 year relationship. In essence, i have no illusions of being young and cute, nor am I interested in striking up an online romance or encouraging forum bickering from those I cannot communicate with effectively. I live in New England where we are as warm as the weather. Our state motto is live freeze or die. I love my woman and most animals. I share my honesty with you Quin and am thoroughly refreshed by the honesty of your thread. Hats off and major kudos to you!
Thread: Being Honest Online

Personally, I never really started trying to act like or be a male until I religiously began playing MMOs. Most think one of the following when I reveal I'm actually a woman. 1. What?! You're a chick? No fucking way! 2. You're fucking weird. 3. That's really cool. You acted so much like a guy that you genuinely fooled me. Or something of the like. And I did it mainly because they're online games I not as frequently anymore but still used to roleplay on. So it was to better myself. Still, there's those people in this world who ... don't like others doing the more not-so-typical things. And for some reason, that seems to be one. It's interesting, however, that I honestly have gotten the worst reactions from a dance MMO. Though if I had to guess, it's likely because far more players who log onto that game are so .. hellbent and determined to find an online couple. So when a lot found out my main is a level 60-something male character .. but I'm a woman behind the screen .. yeah. I got an array of 1 and 2 replies so often and those were just the kinder versions. Rooster has a pretty valid point though. Going about it in a curiousexperimental way is fine. But when you use it in a more ... selfish way, yeah. I don't agree with that myself. More than the attempts of seeing how it is to be the opposite gender, I honestly find the reactions even more intriguing to some degrees. . I had a perfectly good reason why off the top of my head ... but now it flew away from me. Then again, I also did acting camps and lessons for so long. I guess after a while, I became naturally curious with such scenarios. But at any rate, that's my two cents on the topic.
Thread: Being Honest Online

I agree with you both on that. Learning how another gender responds and their average treatment is a real eye opener. At least for me. I had no idea that while people expect men to be strong, they're even harder on themselves. I learned that women can be very vehementlike myself when it comes to liking or disliking a person or subject. Men and women try to meet impossible and very different standards. I've seen men picked on for crying, working a low paying job, or having no car, yet women don't normally go name calling other women for these exact things. There is a double standard out there so choose your honesty to a varying degree. If you like to RP mostly males like I do, make it clear that you are indeed a female behind the screen. If you are male looking to get date, it really blows if the girl you're totally into is just a guy dicking with you. Honesty is a great thing as long as over sharing doesn't happen and we don't hurt people's feelings on purpose. hugs BMR This is exactly the kind of conversation I enjoy!
Thread: Being Honest Online

Dogged said I agree with you both on that. Learning how another gender responds and their average treatment is a real eye opener. At least for me. I had no idea that while people expect men to be strong, they're even harder on themselves. I learned that women can be very vehementlike myself when it comes to liking or disliking a person or subject. Men and women try to meet impossible and very different standards. I've seen men picked on for crying, working a low paying job, or having no car, yet women don't normally go name calling other women for these exact things. There is a double standard out there so choose your honesty to a varying degree. If you like to RP mostly males like I do, make it clear that you are indeed a female behind the screen. If you are male looking to get date, it really blows if the girl you're totally into is just a guy dicking with you. Honesty is a great thing as long as over sharing doesn't happen and we don't hurt people's feelings on purpose. hugs BMR This is exactly the kind of conversation I enjoy! Click to expand... One of the biggest things i have come to learn is how similar both the sexes are in treatment of themselves and others, both look way can look too deep into harmless actions at times and expects way too much from the other sex, fight stereotypes yet conform to others and complain when nothing works.. People are confusing at times In the online world there is a big chance for the manipulation of gullibility of those looking for a 1 as it were, as rooster mentioned there are many that take advantage of this, there is a history of girls getting free stuff on mmos that used to be taken advantage of and many websites that cater this notion where you buy gifts for girl ranging from lollies to implants in return for personalised videos. Both sexes try really hard to be what they think will appeal to others to a point that is ridiculous at times LadyYunaFFX2 said Personally, I never really started trying to act like or be a male until I religiously began playing MMOs. Most think one of the following when I reveal I'm actually a woman. 1. What?! You're a chick? No fucking way! 2. You're fucking weird. 3. That's really cool. You acted so much like a guy that you genuinely fooled me. Click to expand... Interesting on that one as if you are a guy playing a chick the most common are. 1. What the hell is wrong with you? 2. Fag! 3. Why would you want to play a girl, freak That was vanilla wow might be different since then
Thread: Being Honest Online

Honesty is the main theme on here and I agree with you Lady. It can be difficult for some to be honest when there is a large and understandable fear of repercussions like crude name calling. It's a shame that a guy can't show his creative side by rping a female without being called a fag. In the same sense, the dike label is something I loathe when a woman wants to rp a man. In the end, I think honesty online comes down to self-esteem. If you are comfortable in your sexuality and gender, you will continue to rp creatively, regardless of your gender behind the screen. When one is dishonest in their RP gender to purposely harm others or play mind games this is strongly linked to attention seeking behavior formed by a low self-esteem. Remember moderation in everything. Don't go overboard and put up your kids cute pics every day, say how long you'll be on vacay while revealing your address, and other safety measures that need be taken. No this is not an idyllic world and honesty should be tempered with common sense as to how much you choose to reveal. When it comes to online dating, relationships and flirtations, I believe that complete honesty is essential for the couple's happiness. Like the Wiccan saying, Harm none do as you will. Just my 2 cents worth.
Thread: Being Honest Online

I'm also going to add, if you're going to lie about yourself, at least don't use fake photos. It always comes to bite people in the ass in the end. I used to be a part of the website staff for a MMO and we had a rather popular moderator. She was this pretty half french half Japanese girl though she looked 100 Japanese, just... with supposedly naturally green eyes that were obviously circle lenses. I could smell the BS from a mile away but I never said anything about it. Eventually a member of the site did a video for the community and staff and included pictures of all of the well known members of the forum and game community and he included her photo he didn't ask, which maybe he should have. There was a shit storm because she apparently stole that photo from a friend, and her friend found out and had a fit.
Thread: Being Honest Online

In terms of pretending to be a characterperson of the opposite gender when RP'ing, I can't see why people would be offended at that, to me by default a RP site is a place where people come to lie and play out elaborate stories and fantasies. If someone wants to pretend to be the opposite gender or a vampire or anything else than this is the place to do that. That said, if someone is writing RP's with the express interest of getting off then it might upset them to find out their RP partner is not the same gender as the character they are playing. But does it even matter when all the action is taking place via text?
Thread: Being Honest Online

littlerooster said In terms of pretending to be a characterperson of the opposite gender when RP'ing, I can't see why people would be offended at that, to me by default a RP site is a place where people come to lie and play out elaborate stories and fantasies. If someone wants to pretend to be the opposite gender or a vampire or anything else than this is the place to do that. That said, if someone is writing RP's with the express interest of getting off then it might upset them to find out their RP partner is not the same gender as the character they are playing. But does it even matter when all the action is taking place via text? Click to expand... Should it matter? Oh hell no. Does it matter? To some ... you'd be amazed. I can't speak on why for anyone else. I just know I've had my share of people not liking finding out I've played male characters. To be fair though, most players on MMOs are generally - not always - more immature. Simply because even mere teens have access to said games, which is where I've had the worst ... criticism on trying out the opposite gender.
Thread: Being Honest Online

LadyYunaFFX2 said littlerooster said In terms of pretending to be a characterperson of the opposite gender when RP'ing, I can't see why people would be offended at that, to me by default a RP site is a place where people come to lie and play out elaborate stories and fantasies. If someone wants to pretend to be the opposite gender or a vampire or anything else than this is the place to do that. That said, if someone is writing RP's with the express interest of getting off then it might upset them to find out their RP partner is not the same gender as the character they are playing. But does it even matter when all the action is taking place via text? Click to expand... Should it matter? Oh hell no. Does it matter? To some ... you'd be amazed. I can't speak on why for anyone else. I just know I've had my share of people not liking finding out I've played male characters. To be fair though, most players on MMOs are generally - not always - more immature. Simply because even mere teens have access to said games, which is where I've had the worst ... criticism on trying out the opposite gender. Click to expand... The age thing makes sense, they probably don't understand it is just a game. I am not familiar with MMO but that seems the case anyway. I have played female characters and quite enjoy playing from the opposite angle so I can see how it would interest someone to switch genders in that way.
Thread: Being Honest Online

I'm one for the honest approach, but when I say honest, I don't mean necessarily revealing information about yourself. Honesty can also be telling a person that something is none of their business, or that you'd rather not say. I've said that to people, or had to said to me, numerous times - at least it allows me or the other person to make the decision of whether they want to continue. What I have difficulty with is knowing, or finding out, that someone made a deliberate decision to lie. It's actually not the lie itself, it's the fact they made the decision to do it, but then that doesn't just apply to online. On the other hand, if a person just assumes, because of your screen-name or whatever that you're a certain gender, age, etc, that's their problem. As far as someone pretending to be the opposite gender, I could care less if males want to play female need to try that a bit more myself or females want to play males but, as it does matter to some, I think the person it could potentially matter to be given the choice. Have I ever lied online? Of course I have, but these days if I want to pretend to be someone else, I can do it legitimately through roleplay
Thread: Being Honest Online

littlerooster said LadyYunaFFX2 said littlerooster said In terms of pretending to be a characterperson of the opposite gender when RP'ing, I can't see why people would be offended at that, to me by default a RP site is a place where people come to lie and play out elaborate stories and fantasies. If someone wants to pretend to be the opposite gender or a vampire or anything else than this is the place to do that. That said, if someone is writing RP's with the express interest of getting off then it might upset them to find out their RP partner is not the same gender as the character they are playing. But does it even matter when all the action is taking place via text? Click to expand... Should it matter? Oh hell no. Does it matter? To some ... you'd be amazed. I can't speak on why for anyone else. I just know I've had my share of people not liking finding out I've played male characters. To be fair though, most players on MMOs are generally - not always - more immature. Simply because even mere teens have access to said games, which is where I've had the worst ... criticism on trying out the opposite gender. Click to expand... The age thing makes sense, they probably don't understand it is just a game. I am not familiar with MMO but that seems the case anyway. I have played female characters and quite enjoy playing from the opposite angle so I can see how it would interest someone to switch genders in that way. Click to expand... I think one of the biggest issues is it can make people question their sexuality.. I don't know why though its just a game, but i guess people trust and fall for others so easily that anything that makes them question what they think is set in stone is a threat.
Thread: The Guide [Grungeknuckle X VmpDevil101]

Kisho'calag. The shining jewel of the Emerian Merchant Empire, it's capitol city, born up out of the wastelands like a rare desert flower. It was a diamond amid rough, the wonder in the wastes. For over 400 years the vast city had stood, withstanding storms, wars, and even defying the forces of the last great bandit king, Yaabdin Abu, whom in his lifetime, sacked and pillaged three of the ten known kingdoms. For as long as the trade flowed, the city stayed strong. But only as long as the trade flowed. The eastern kingdoms had begun to gaze towards the rising sun, as whispers and tales of new lands, new kingdoms, across the great divide, trickled through them. They began reaching away from their neighbors to the west, who in turn, closed their own borders, and amassed their own forces, fearful that those they had once called allies would return from their travels, with more wealth and power than they could contend with. Gold, the precious life-blood of Kisho'calag, began to dwindle. The once great city began to decay. Trade still continued, but it was stunted, meager. Roads, once well guarded and patrolled, now made prime places for bandits to place ambushes. Though many merchants are still forced to use the main roads, they have found another way to transport their more precious cargo. There have always been those who have felt more at home in the wilds than in civilization. Rangers, nomadic barbarians, druids, hunters, all those who knew and could survive in the wilds were being hired, to transport that which was worth more than it's weight in gold. They were known as Wildwalkers, and they were the merchants' last, best hope. The bandits could not steal what they could not find.