Thread: Why do people care what gender you are

Personally it does not matter to me what the gender of the person on the other side of the computer is regardless of whether or not the rp involves sexual exploits. For me, rp is an escape from reality a realm of fantasy. I am portraying and playing as a character which may or may not endear attributes of myself personally. To me, rp is acting...after all it's called 'role playing' for a reason. You assume the mantle of something to which can be any variance of yourself or opposite yourself in real life. For those who are seeking a far more realistic session, fostering an actual relationship with the other person verses having fun with a set of characters I can certainly understand the individual's insistence on knowing their partner's gender. This is my own personal interpretation of the term but to me 'cybering' is different than character sex. Cybering can involve anything from sending explicit pictures of one's self through email or text sexting to an individual to using a persona of one's self in a written sex scene. Now again this might very well just be me, but Persona'sSonas are different than Character Muses. I actually do not use nor solicit my Personas for rp. Instead I strictly reserve them for interaction with individuals I have grown to know over a lengthy period of time, have become good friends with and know or at least possess a large sum of confidence I will not be harassed and or judged based upon my Personas since they are much more personal let alone intimate expressions of MYSELF verses a Character Muse I adopt to run around and do whatever with. Normally I will only play A.U. Character designs these days and I normally will only play males. Reason being I've had more than enough of the over sexualization and 'meat market style' aspects being directed or even demanded of my female characters on other sites. I'm tired of having my females degraded or pushed aside because they are not the nymphomaniacs most individuals seems to seek in rp these days. They are very tailored and possess vibrant and bold personalities, strong wills, are readily capable of handling themselves in most mental and physical situations, and often very rough and tumble let alone being jacks of different trades depending. They are rather intimidating women to say the least and unlike most female characters I've encountered they do not readily search for sex. With my females I am FAR more story driven than my males. Using a male character I tend to stick to 7030 or 6040 ratio of story to smut. Where my females are 8020 at the lowest of story to smut. Most of the time they are 9010 story to smut ratio or no smut at all. This is due to the fact they hold a subconscious base of myself. I can certainly be a flirt but I'm not about to get myself involved sexually with someone IRL until I've known them for a long time and feel comfortable enough to take this next step. As such it's reflected in my female characters. My males are a little more brazen as I tend to subconsciously dump a larger amount of my won sexual frustrations into them. My personality is very tom-boy and until you spend time to get to know me I'm easily mistaken for a guy online should one base their assumptions off my writing style, characters, let alone my blunt mannerism of speaking when OOC. I've never adhered myself to stereotypes and never found myself attracted or conditioned while growing up to like or behaving in the 'stereotypical' girly fashion. I was always encouraged to follow my own path and do what felt right for myself. I remember my father's mother making some rather nasty comments when I was a kid to my parents that I was going to turn out to be a butch lesbian because they were not teaching me to be a 'proper girl.' XP Even as a kid I found this comment rather horrible. This lady had some serious homophobic issues to say the least, just putting that out there right now. But she's dead and gone so it doesn't matter any more. As a quick note on the topic same gender lovers is totally fine by me. So long as you are in love and care for one another what does a few body parts matter seriously? Anyways back on topic. I can certainly understand the aspect of one feeling tricked or betrayed if they play in a sexual situation with someone of the same gender despite the partner using an opposite sex character. It can be a bit mind boggling as the individual would sit there and wonder if they were attracted merely to the character or the person controlling the character thus leading into a whole spiral of questioning one's sexuality as it can become very confusing at this point. Some people harbor a serious fear of this, thus they will avoid the issue all together by requesting to rp with opposite sex or even same sex depending, for rps with sexual situations. Again, for me personally, I view the sexual aspect of an rp not a cyber relationship no differently than if I find myself hot and bothered by a steamy scene written in a book or seen in a movie. After all someone has to come up with the stories and the author of the book or screen writer can easily be male or female. For me its the content itself which I am attracted to, not the individual who is writing it or did write it.