Thread: The Origins of Sexual Fetishes Explained

Hooray! I get to be the first participant. This topic is something I've often wondered about. Being a freelancer, you have to know what people are like and why so I've had a number of classes on psychology, sociology, and philosophy. But I think if I had gone to any of professors with a topic like this, and going into detail, I'd probably be kicked out. Being a fairly new mom, I've learned waaay more about kids and how their sexuality from my daughter. I was pretty disturbed by it at first, but the more I actually got to talking about it, it is pretty damn common. In some ultrasounds, boys are seen 'masturbating' in the womb. My little girl went through almost three years. It took awhile to get to her to learn that this is something like the potty. You do it in private and don't really go talking about it. Finally we got her to just go to her room and close the door if it was something she wanted to do. Needless to say, every time it happened and there were a lot of closed doors, I'd feel uneasy. It came out of no where, for no real reason but I think that lends some credibility to the fact that sexual nature is prevalent before you're actually born. At that age, it is just something that feels good to them even if they don't get the whole experience yet. As for Freud, at times I just want to go back in time and beat him in the head. This is a little bit of the immature kid coming out in me, but I couldn't stop laughing in class when we started learning about Karen Horney and how she seemed to challenge his theories at every turn when it came to his views on sexuality. Anyways... maybe it was just the environment I grew up in but I've found most of these, at least the earlier ones, to be false in myself and with friends. In the case of incest, I think it is something that does develop overtime. In a way, I see that being on par with homosexuality and pansexuality. I'm a bisexual though, so keep that in mind as I explain. Even as a child, from like eight to ten years somewhere in there, I was attracted to both genders. I was just raised in a pretty sexually repressed environment. When talking face to face with someone, I can barely even get out the word vagina or penis without blushing. God forbid I try to actually spit out a slang or more derogatory term. But getting back to the point... there is a certain truth to people being born with a preference toward their later sexual natures. You can't really help who you become attracted to and the feelings are still there, even if it is your choice to suppress them because you think or are taught that they are wrong. The article about the 'foot orgasm' was actually a bit surprising. Not sure why exactly she'd want them to stop, but that besides the point. xD I think that a major part of understanding or even sometimes developing a fetish is through being introduced to it. Just talking with others openly at least gets communication going, which leads to intrigue, and for some ultimately seeking it out. Even if it is just to try to understand it better and figure out what is so appealing about something they might find appalling. My husband has a foot fetish but when he was first told about someone else's in middle school and showed some videos. He didn't get it. Curiosity kept him looking to figure out just what made it so intriguing... and now he has one. At first I was freaked out and didn't get it. Now after being with him for years, I at least have some appreciation for it. I've always had a thing for shoes. At first it was just because I needed them to match whatever I was wearing, so I could easily have twenty boxes in my closet and all of them were worn frequently. Now though, there is more to it than what just looks the best. I look at the way it makes my foot arch, the way it shapes it, if anything is spilling out or has to be buckled too tight for it to stay on. I don't get all excited about it, but I do take into consideration how he'd think I'd look in it and I've become more comfortable with it and even see it to a point. Nerve connections, shapes seriously, put your feet together and it makes a uterine shape, tactile feelings been told that it also feels like one when giving a foot job... at least for him. Again, I look at them and still see feet but he sees more and keeps me in pedicures so I'm fine with it. Given my own experiences, I find my biggest one Bondage and SM to be a bit ironic. I was in an abusive relationship before where getting tied up and hit didn't get me off. But before and after, I didn't shy away from it. Don't get me wrong, getting punched is different from biting, scratches, and hair pulling. I will say that before that though, I was sort of okay with a little face slap if it was done playfully. Now I'll punch someone if they try it. Again, getting off point though. I am by no means a dominant person in the bedroom. I love to be in the submissive role. It goes into a bit of your own story, wanting to be overpowered. I do like to mix in bondage a lot because... for me at least, it is a build up. You know what is coming, you want it, but you don't know when. When you do get it, you might not be able to get exactly what you wanted and there isn't really anything you can do to make it happen. Or maybe it is too much and you can't immediately stop it or pull away. Fun with spreader bars! But again, the more you are exposed be it thoughts or feelings, your body and mind get used to the idea. I think that is sort of where my thrill for non-con online at least comes from because that is sort of the ultimate form of being helpless and overtaken. If I'm watching someone else in a movie, porn yes, chicks watch it too , or hear about it happening to someone in real life, I cringe. So I guess that is my version of your stigmatophilia. However, I can see that a lot more easily. Most of the time, people get piercings in places that are erotically provocative, or near them. Even something as simple as earrings, which people don't really even consider when talking about body piercings anymore, draw attention to their ear and neck. Navels draw attention to the stomach and ab area, occasionally even hips or pelvic area if you're eyes wander and offers a sort of balance or focal point between them all. Nose rings draw attention to the face and are close by the lips. Labrets pretty much just draw attention toward the lips and mouth. Even most surface piercings like corset rings are done for the purpose of drawing attention to or enhancing something other people naturally find beautiful. When it comes to the tattoos though, I don't have much of a good description or reasoning. Maybe part of the same depending on who is looking and how far. They get drawn in by the actual art and color of the tattoo, then see where it actually is or what it's by with their peripheral vision. Since you specifically mentioned sleeve tattoos, and they're close to the chestbreasts. Similarly, I think we are attracted to things that already interest us like you touched on. Seeing tattoos as a piece of art on a beautiful canvas. My non-con going into being the ultimate form of submission. Even the ones I find stranger, I can at least correlate them to something that corresponds to it. Furries are a consensual with an animal, or at least a safer and legal way to carry it out. Vore going back to maybe the most extreme form of dominance and submission. Hell, even after reading parts of a book, Necrophilia Variations by Supervert, I've come to be able to at least understand why some people would be attracted to that. Then again, maybe it was first being exposed to it from a chick on hysterical literature and knowing what was going on under the table and hearing the erratic breathing as she read a passage from it. I think if there is truly one fetish I don't get at all is Formicophilia bitten by insects and Dendrophilia true hippy tree love. I even have a friend who has Oculolinctus a fetish that sounds like a disease but translates getting off from licking eyes, or having hers licked... which would likely lead to disease x