Thread: Why RP partners are so UNRELIABLE (a friendly rant about myself)

Rudolph Quin said kaigen said I am also somewhat unreliable. Sometimes my mood changes. It happens from time to time. Ya end up really excited about a story just to have it fizzle out rather quickly. I try to keep things going. But sometimes it doesn't work out. I am of a different mindset than some of you people though. I constantly see people say that no one owes anyone an explanation. Or a response. I disagree completely its called respect. If you agree to write with someone then if you decide not to write anymore then as a decent human being you owe an explanation for quitting. Sure it's the internet so we are more detached than those in real life. Just like in real life of someone agrees to go to the bar with me, then decide against it I expect a heads up. Just like in real life. If a friend thinks I don't deserve a heads up Then they aren't the type of person that I want to associate with. Does that mean I've never dropped out of a rp or whatever with no notice? I sure have. Shit happens sometimes. And it is really easy to loose messages in the thousands that accumulate in your box. But still. I do what I can. Click to expand... I find it somewhat disingenuous of you to say people are owed an explanation and then to give justifications of why you have sometimes not given explanations or prior notice and termed those okay. Like I said in my post, a lot of times people come at this rp thing from a very defensive position right off the bat. Nobody signs up for a bunch of rp partners just to be a dick to them all later on. And when we're talking about what people are owed it isn't a scale of either respectful or absolute asshole. If we allow that sometimes shit happens and it is okay when it happens to you and you can't get to a computer then why would you be so severe and hateful towards your partner that you would assume they don't go through the same exact thing? Why would the assumption be, if you don't have the energy or you're not feeling up to facing me to tell me you'll not be around every single time you won't be, then you're disrespecting me? How is THAT respectful to your partner? How does that give your partner humanity and dignity? Two scenarios Scenario A Two people are in an rp together and person A feels overwhelmed by their rps but doesn't want to deal with telling people they don't want to do this sort of thing anymore right now. So, they flake, go chill and watch Netlfix, maybe even make a different rp account on another site. Person B sends them a strongly worded letter of how they are owed an explanation because you don't just skip out on your obligations. Scenario B Two people are in an rp together and person A gets into a car crash and are in hospital with broken something or other and away from the computer for a couple of weeks. Person B sends them a strongly worded letter of how they are owed an explanation because you don't just skip out on your obligations. In both scenarios, Person B feels entitled to this respect he is owed something and the assumption is that Person A is a dick who needs to be held accountable. But in one scenario, Person B actually comes off as the dick and a little insecure in both. Is it nice to have an explanation? Yes, but as has been discussed in other threads and particularly in my post in this one, there is this whole element to the rp community that is unhealthy and takes this stuff way too seriously. It is not fun being held to a schedule and given ultimatums for a creative hobby as dependent on relaxation and fun as writing is. Sorry, it IS toxic to demand people justify their lives to you. If you'd like people to punch in on time and be forced to explain their activities, then maybe you should start putting them on payroll. Then it'd be fair. Click to expand... Perhaps I wasn't clear enough. I figured it would be implied but I guess not. Shit happens. It's gonna happen that's ok and excusable. Just make an attempt. Take my shitty memory and being disorganized for example. If I think I've forgotten someone or went through and cleaned out my inbox I throw up something in my request thread. Life gets busy And ya cant get to the computer but when ya do you offer up an explanation then cool. Hey. Shit got busy. Sorry. It takes ten seconds. Then ya have the other side of the coin. No fuck you I'm probably gonna vanish on you because you're just a random person on the internet, means you're an asshole. Are constantly in the online list at the bottom of the page but after being prompted you get pissed and say you haven't been around to write? You're not only an asshole but a liar. I personally have a couple stories on hold right now. All are really good and I want to keep them going but haven't been able to find the words for them. Like I said Shit happens. But I paid them the same respect I expect in return.