Thread: The Prince (Comments Welcome)

HeyThereLittleBear said Machiavelli said HeyThereLittleBear said See more I can completely understand how you feel and I want you to know that you're not alone. Sex isn't everything in a relationship but when it isn't there and all of the other feelings are, I can understand it putting a strain on everything else. It hurts to have someone go from desiring you intensely to absolutely nothing and it's a strain not only on your emotions but your self-worth. A discussion about it is going to be hard but it needs to be had. You need to let her know how you feel and let her know that you dont want pity sex. I've been on the receiving end of pity sex and that is worse to your self-esteem and self-worth than anything else. This isn't just about not damaging her, but about not damaging you as well. You need to discuss with her your want for intimacy and try to find things that will spark it back. If you think it can be salvaged, salvage it. But don't sacrifice yourself if you think the relationship is doomed. Click to expand... See more Firstly, I really appreciate your response and thoughts. Also know that our roleplay is one of the ones I'm feeling most into at the moment, whether due to this or just in general. I don't think the relationship is doomed, ultimately, because she's made it very clear in the past that she's willing to do a lot of things to salvage the relationship when we've had troubles. It's also my first serious relationship, and so I have some selfish thoughts of not being able to have sexual experiences that I'm curious about. There's that aspect of the issue as well, though I'm trying not to let myself be affected by what might have been, y'know? I've slept since writing that last post and have thought on a few things that might help, just to encourage intimacy and desire again between us, so I'm going to talk through those ideas with her in the near future. The larger underlying problem, however, is that I'm a passive, self-sacrificing, non-confrontational person. But I don't see that changing anytime soon. Click to expand... See more Again, totally understood here. I, too, deal with the feeling that I won't be able to experience the sexual side of things. In all truth, I've only had sex with 1 man. I've only given a blowjob to 2 men. Everything else has only been women which still only raises the number to 2 people for sex, or has just been me beating my meat like I'm a butcher. Role-playing can be a nice relief for you when you don't have anything else so I never want you to feel alone in enjoying the sexual aspects of role-play. It's something that can take you away from a shitty situation. I use it as an escape because my life is devoid of pretty much all of what I crave - sex, romance, intimacy, etc. I have the same issues that you do of not being sexually compatible with people I'm interested in, whether they just don't want me or they just aren't close enough to satisfy my needs. It's a struggle. It really is. And it hits your self-esteem like a damn rock. But coming from someone in the same boat as you, I'm positive you can get through this. You are a strong and capable person. And if nothing else, I'm here for you in moments when you need someone to help you through the dark times. You aren't alone. Click to expand... See more I really appreciate all your love and support! Thanks for being here for me and sharing your own stories - it really does help to know that I'm not alone. And you're right, roleplaying is a great release, and I think that's why I love it so much. It lets me play roles and parts I don't get to normally, and it's a nice way of satisfying those cravings. Thank you again. Also, replied!