Thread: The Obligation of Saying "No"

Re Should I RP with you No. I never feel like I HAVE to RP with anyone. Firstly, if I get a PM from someone who has clearly not read my request thread or profile, for that matter or I get a one-liner or something along the lines of cyber, I just ignore it and will not respond to it at all. My reasoning behind that is simple. If they didn't bother to take the time to give a damn, then neither shall I. Now, if they did read my request thread and their ideas are just not something that thrills me, I will politely tell them I'm not interested. Depending on things, I might ask them to make another suggestion or just tell them a simple 'thanks for asking' and then be on my way. Re Posting and the 'disappearance phenomenon' I'm more of a stickler about people letting me know when it comes to groups MUCH more so over 1x1s and even more so when I run the group and for obvious reasons. Most of this is because in groups, you just don't know how many people are going to want to actually continue RPing vs not and man... I swear usually that one person who decides to vanish is that person that has that crucial role or is a role that at least someone who wants to RP on a more active basis is dependent upon. My thing is this with groups.... don't care if you have shit to do, a life, whatever, just give a heads up if you're going to be out of the picture for a bit and kind of give people a heads up and then at least have the decency to not pick such a crucial role andor make it such that your character is in a position where others aren't so dependent on you and can move on. You know.... just some basic courtesy. My own personal rules are a bit more lax. I'm cool if people want to take longer to post when it comes to 1x1s. So I'm not the sort to go OMFG WHY AREN'T YOU POSTING RIGHT NOW YOU'RE ONLINE WAHHH! when it comes to them. However, I do expect a level of courtesy. So, if you're going to take longer than a week, just a quick PM letting me know you'll be taking a while for one reason or another is nice, just so that I know. I won't care that you're taking a while. I know I try my best to do the same to those I RP with if I can help it. I'm sure I've failed a time or two, but on the whole, I've been pretty good about letting my RP partners know that I'm either having issues with my muse, no longer interested in the RP, having schedule conflicts or just... something. I think it's just best to be up front with your RP partner and let them know the deal. Though even then it's funny how some of them don't always get the picture. But that's another story in and of itself. Overall, when it comes to disappearance, it is indeed something I've experienced several times and have come to expect. Do I like it? No. Do I practice it on people? I most certainly try not to just out of respect and courtesy for those I RP with. I try to treat those as I want to be treated in return. Do I deal with it? Of course, so naturally I'm not going to get all 'bent' over it either. But that doesn't mean I like it because I mean, let's face it... who likes to be abandoned when they're in the middle of writing a story with someone when they're enjoying it? I know I don't. But it's the way of RP it seems and thus probably isn't going to be going away any time soon. Personally, I think it's just easier for people to hide behind their screens sometimes and that is just why it happens. Were it the land of the 'real', it wouldn't be such a common occurrence. Re Finished RPs The closest I've come to a finished RP is probably my 'To Train A Dragon Rider' RP which I did here actually. We started it, discussed it, developed it, everything. And as it slowed, we did sort of agree on an eventual ending. But unfortunately, we never actually got quite around to writing it out. But boy did we get close, lol. We probably only needed to do a handful of posts more to actually finish it up. So why we never did so is beyond me. Who knows, maybe one day we will... though the guy I RP'd with doesn't come on site here much any longer. However, we do still keep in touch.