Thread: Just Correct: Me, plain and simple

Ruphhausin said ............................................................................................ One of the girls in our office, a college student, asked me why is it that there are so many guys that treat her and other women so badly. She gave me the harangue about not calling, only focusing on sex, lack of romance, never wanting to do things they want to do, refusing to deal with their the gffianceewifeetc friends all the time, and not wanting to clean up get dressed fancy is what that means in translation. ............................................................................................. I will tell her after lunch what she wants to know.. I just hope she is up for it. Click to expand... I know I waited a couple of days to share the second half of the events of that day, but It wasn't until I finished lunch today that I realized that I may have given that young woman the best and most honest advice she will ever get, because she sure as hell was never going to get it from her friends. I sat her down in my office and took her step by step what she had asked, and the truthful answer, not one that was shaded but rather simple and succinct truth. Keep in mind that guys and men ARE NOT THE SAME. You asked me to tell you about what guys do, so I just want you to keep that in mind. 1. Guys don't call because that is what a guy is about what he wants when he wants it, and he is always trying to control the relationship at this point. Remember that you are dealing with a 18-26 year-old hound, not a real man when you are talking about an average college recruitment poster guy. They want you always in the frame of mind that your purpose is to please them, and what you want doesn't matter. 2. Guys are about sex, and however they can get it. Not to stir up trouble, but if you are dating a guy like we are talking about, and he isn't pursuing sex with you all the time, and he is neither spiritual or religious, genuinely mature, or truly committed to you, you are dealing with a Tucker Max or a Mystery. thankfully, I didn't have to explain who those two POS excuses for human beings are.... 3. A lack of romance is really the only thing that isn't solely based on what the guy is thinking, but also what you, as the female, perceive as romance. If all you are really wanting is cuddling on the couch, a bouquet once in a while, a picnic in the park, or a once a week chick flick... and he cannot even go for that... then you are not in a relationship you are either the beard or the safety for certain friends and family members to meet. again.. didn't have to explain those terms.... 4. Guys never want to do what you college girls want, because it is not comfortable. Most of what you want to do involves manners, letting others talk, places they don't want to go, money they don't want to shell out even if it is not that expensive, and doesn't have a clear path to sex. 5. Refusing to deal with all of the people that you know, actually, isn't just a guy thing, as real men are like that as well. For a guy, yes, it is about avoiding cock blockage, but for both guys and real men it is about not dealing with the baggage. The biggest lie in relationships is that we both guys and girls... both men and women HAVE TO DEAL with baggage. No, we don't. It is a choice. Now, most of the time, if it is not too bad, men will bone up and man up and deal... but not in the extreme cases. The friendrelative who really wants to break you up so they can get with himher, the friendrelative always giving relationship advice who has never had a stable relationship of any kind lasting longer than 3-24 months or multiple marriages that never get to five years, the clingyoverprotectivecontrolling relative whose input is never really wanted on this or that.. you get the picture. Those are strains on a real relationship, so please don't think a guy will stick around for that... especially not after sex happens. This is the diciest of all of them, as it really involves both of you even when it is a guy involved looking at those people and deciding if they are REALLY worth putting strains on ANY kind of relationship... even if it is something like Friends with Bennies. 6. Guys NEVER like getting dressed up unless sex is not only involved but is guaranteed like the certainty came down from a Mount divinely etched in stone tablets. BE VERY CAREFUL AND BEWARE OF ANY GUY WHO JUST UP AND AGREES TO GO ANYWHERE, ANY PLACE, OR ANY FUNCTION DRESSED UP. To say that there is most likely ulterior motives is as much of an understatement as saying someone in the path of a tsunami they will experience moisture. I hate the fact she had to break up with someone, but the guy was a tool in the biggest meaning of the term. My lady is setting her up with someone we both know who, though still in college, is a real mature guy.. we hope. lol