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Thread: DO THE GUYS REALLY CARE ABOUT OUR FLAWS?

I do like the idea of this thread. I agree with what DA mentioned, and I do worry about my flaws sometimes. I've grown up being told that it's what's inside that counts and that all women want is someone that'll care for them. I still do believe that, but it feels like those ideas are complete bullshit where I live. There are good people here, but there's a lot of people that'll go out just based on appearances. I've been rejected and heartbroken countless times because I wasn't an athlete. I'm told that I'm sweet and that I'll make a good boyfriend, but when I decide to make a move, all I'm told is Oh, but I don't want to ruin our friendship. or I'm sorry, but I just want to have some time alone. And they grab a much better looking boyfriend the second I turn my back. It'll gotten so bad that I've become bitter towards the idea of finding someone special, and dating in general. I've gone on a few dates in the past, but it's never really been anything serious, mostly going out as friends calling it a date and occasionally a kiss at the end. I kind of just gave up for now, not really wanting to deal with the heartbreak again, at least while I'm working on improving my life. And there are still girls I'm interested in, but I've kind of gotten a fear of rejection now, that and I seem to keep falling for girls that are already dating someone. And I do work out and eat healthier, but I think it's dumb that I should have to change myself to please people. Personally, I believe it's personality. Sure, I'll be attracted to a hot girl, but it means a lot more to be attracted to someone that you can get along with, even if their looks change. My best friend, also someone I've had strong feelings for, has been worrying about her appearance for years. I'll admit, I was originally attracted to her because of her looks. Slim body, nice curves, long hair, cute smile. But I got to know her, and she was a lot of fun to be around. She even got me out of a huge depression I was in at the time. And over the years, due to stress, she kind of let herself go with eating, as well as started getting a lot of piercings and tattoos. In spite of that, I still have strong feelings for her, she's still very beautiful to me.
Thread: DO THE GUYS REALLY CARE ABOUT OUR FLAWS?

As Jenna Marbles has kind of put it... a guy who goes for looks is simply looking to get laid. He can claim he wants a genuine connection but he is not going to get it as long as he is focusing on her physical being. You should be able to take them at their best and their worst. There was a guy who liked me, or well... he liked he idea of me? He liked my personality and how much I had in common with him, but when it came to my looks, he'd always say stuff like Oh well you're going to lose all of that weight one day anyway, right? Like he was anticipating the hotter thinner me.
Thread: DO THE GUYS REALLY CARE ABOUT OUR FLAWS?

For myself, I don't either like or dislike a woman's flaws, because I don't see them that way. I see them as part of a united whole, a matrix of physical, mental, emotional and sexual traits that makes her who she is. Now either who she is appeals to me, or it doesn't. If she DOES appeal to me, than she appeals to me... all of her, flaws and all. True love is seeing that the person sitting across from you at the breakfast table isn't perfect. They could stand to lose a couple pounds, they fart in their sleep, they do stupid stuff that drives you crazy. They don't have a stellar career, they aren't the most sparkling of wits, and they probably feel the exact same way about you. And yet, despite all that, when you think about them, your soul sings, your body tingles, and you know that there's nobody you'd rather be with.
Thread: DO THE GUYS REALLY CARE ABOUT OUR FLAWS?

Guys do have insecurities, and they are just as valid or invalid, depending on the insecurity in question. Having said that, I also would like to add that just with what I said about where many female insecurities about their flaws or perceived flaws really come from, that goes for us males as well. It is bad enough trying to find someone, spend time, form a relationship and such as it is, and the last thing anyone really needs are people with axes to grind. I am not referring to anyone at all here on BMR unless you are foolish enough to subscribe to so called relationship experts, but the truth is some of the most beautiful women here on BMR, like in the rest of the world, are those who take what we say at face value when we say you are beautiful. The other problem is baggage, and I have to say that that plays a lot in how both men and women perceive themselves and how others see them. No offense at all, but one really needs to start by dumping the unneeded baggage from other relationships. It is hard, yes.. but the longer it takes really depends on you. If you have, that is great... but really... for every five years that perception continues.. the less it is because of how the other gender sees you and more about how you see yourself.
Thread: DO THE GUYS REALLY CARE ABOUT OUR FLAWS?

Women do think men care too much about that. But to be fair, a lot of men do.
Thread: DO THE GUYS REALLY CARE ABOUT OUR FLAWS?

Men who care about women's flaws are usually men who have too many flaws themselves and a big ol' dick of an ego to go with it. I have a friend who bemoans on a constant basis about his romance life, and he has had some legitimately crappy experiences and I'll give him that. But other times? He doesn't understand what's wrong, he's saddened that the stage of a gentleman is gone, that his flowers and holding doors for women aren't getting him anywhere but paranoia. Because I swear women can SMELL that kind of intention, but he assured them no...yet comes to me to tell me how he wishes it worked out. This is a problem in many ways. He wants a goal at the end, and when his tricks don't work he wonders why...you look at a relationship like a goal and suddenly the flaws will be glaring for both sides and not for the better.
Thread: DO THE GUYS REALLY CARE ABOUT OUR FLAWS?

A lot of people are mentioning married couples, and how single guys are nit-picking perfectionists, but every guy was single once. And that's really not the case. It's just a psychological phenomenon that causes you to draw their attention to it. Let me explain Some things strike out. Most things don't, unless you draw attention to them yourself. You know how in every movie the player tells the shy guy that women can smell nervousness a mile away? So can men. Forget about the problem, and so will he. Focus on your strengths, and he will pay attention to them. And he will compliment them. In fact, this actually works both ways. I'm a relatively short guy. And the fact that I skipped two years in school means that through school and college I've been surrounded by older women. Older women who, like almost every woman under 30, prefer older, taller men. So what do I do? I don't mention it once. And it's really apparent, too. Does it cross her mind? Of course it does, but then it fades because I guide the conversation away from it, or position my body a certain way, or touch her a certain way, preferably before she even brings it up at all, until she doesn't care either. And you wouldn't believe the perks of having your girlfriend's cleavage constantly at eye-level.
Thread: DO THE GUYS REALLY CARE ABOUT OUR FLAWS?

Regrettably, yes, there are many men with that mindset.
Thread: DO THE GUYS REALLY CARE ABOUT OUR FLAWS?

In my experience as a male, the men who care the most about what a woman looks like or what her body is like, are usually slobs, overweight, boring and crass. They read simple magazines which force feed them images of airbrushed women with fake breasts and over puffed lips. For me, I like natural, I find a variety of attributes, body types and face types attractive. In the end for me it will come down to how much a woman intrigues me and how we respond to each other in conversation and how she makes me feel. Not saying I am a Saint or anything, some people just aren't that attractive, but generally speaking the women with the fake breasts and fake lips etc are the ones that turn me off, not a woman who is real. A good example if Nikki Cox, beautiful before plastic surgery, wrecked after it. Another example - Christina Ricci hot curvy, a little on the eh side skinny. Different looks suit different women.
Thread: DO THE GUYS REALLY CARE ABOUT OUR FLAWS?

Camille said This one if for the guys Would you agree with this sentiment? Women think men care too much about Stretchmarks If one titty is slightly bigger than the other Birthmarks Fat areas Bumps or discoloration Cellulite Sweat Morning breath Human flaws The gentleman who posted this in his blog went on to say If I have you naked in front of me, and I am naked too, the only thing on my mind is Where am I putting my mouth first . Click to expand... Hi, Wow... first post and I get to have some fun... Okay first things first do men care, yes.. is it important .. maybe.. will we be honest it depends. So let me explain, when I was younger my eyes saw tits and ass then the rest of the girl.. as I got older I found things like eyes and glassess turned me on .. certain type of hair.. First time I had sex she was a red head, green eyes and I am certain had things she hated .... but to me .. she was beautiful and I did not see a dam thing.... I got older and my tastes broadened age did not matter as much.. old or young... I did however develop certain tastes and things that turned me off.. we all have them and we have to be honest.. for me number one is smokers.. and thus I refuse to write posts that have smoking as it turns me off and makes me sick... So what does this have to do with those little things that everyone has .... not a dam thing... but if a man sees a woman and it triggers something.... when they find that imperfection it may not be physical.. could be mental.. and you either learn to love it or live with it... I am married and happy... and to me I think my wife is perfect and I have all the imperfections... and she agrees winks but loves me and lives with them... and would not change me save to help make me more healthy and happy... Bottom Line - Nope imperfections do not matter because they are what make life intresting and enjoyable. Rog the Rake
Thread: DO THE GUYS REALLY CARE ABOUT OUR FLAWS?

Too many men - and women, as darkangel76 pointed out - care about looks. And honestly, that's a real shame. I've found in life thus far the most beautiful thing about a person isn't their physical appearance but their soul and personality. And especially with me being one of the ... well very opposites of what a lot of men ask for big breasts but a skinny figure, it was definitely difficult growing up. I endured a lot of punishment for not being what people wanted me to be and quite a bit of it was more hereditary than my own actual fault. But yet in the end, I still wound up finding someone and getting wed to them. And not just to get laid ... because he loved me and still does for who I am. To say I'm grateful for having finding Veinexes is an understatement. But yes as most have said here, looks shouldn't matter. Does it to a lot of people? Yes, sadly. Does it to me? Fuck no and it never will. Hope this helps. -LadyYunaFFX2
Thread: DO THE GUYS REALLY CARE ABOUT OUR FLAWS?

What LadyYuna wrote and then some. Women are beautiful men on the other hand seem to have been built more for hard-wearing and rough use... function over form and I do appreciate the many many aspects of feminine pulchritude. But real beauty's anything but skin deep. As much as I appreciate good looks, it's the mind that has always really attracted me. Personality, thoughts, intelligence, wit, soul... those are what make a woman or a man for that matter truly attractive. Pretty's nice to look at and all... but it's nothing compared to a fascinating mind and a good conversation. Wish I remember where I read the line first, but... You don't love a woman because she's beautiful, she is beautiful because you love her. -Ursus Peregrinus If Power Corrupts... does Corruption Empower?
Thread: DO THE GUYS REALLY CARE ABOUT OUR FLAWS?

I agree with the statement, but you know, a lot depends on emotional maturity. Most guys in their mid-twenties, beyond or perhaps a little earlier won't care about those oh-so-human flaws, if their head is screwed on right. Younger guys? They're a mess of crude social conformity and hormones without a clue sorry. Generally speaking very young men are utterly unreal perfectionists in what they expect of themselves and others in terms of looks. I think its the same for girls too but harsher. Simple outward appearance of prettiness counts for almost everything, because that's all they can go on with their limited experience. Pure. Glamor. The slightest flaw is like, yuck, how gross! What happens with that is it fades in importance. No matter how outwardly pretty someone is they soon look 'average' once they've been around for a while. Familiarity equalizes prettiness . It doesn't matter if you're amazingly attractive or ugly, once you've been dating a guy for a while you kinda look...kinda like an average girl to them, flaws and all. Glamor loses its power. It happens. Ok, so give or take a little in one direction or the other, but it happens. Believe. The more relationships they're in the more I hope most men wise up to this. They realize, even if its just behavioral, that there is a distinction to be made between short term surface beauty and longer term depth beauty. The former is outward, the latter is inward, to put it simplistically. No matter how mind blowing it is to get with some stunningly elegant looking babe that high doesn't last. What you're left with is what happens after the glow has faded, and that can be somewhere along the spectrum between wonderful and terrible. More and more meeting new girls and how attractive they appear becomes a back and forth between how pretty they look and more complicated cognitive processes aimed at deducing whether getting with them will lead to more satisfying long term feelings than just, Woohoo! I scored a hotty! This eventually results in good looks counting for almost nothing except a kind of pathetic nostalgia for a simpler time when shallow reactions were all that mattered. So no, men don't care about those frivolous so-called flaws, unless they're not very mature. In that case they're probably real worried about their own frivolous so-called flaws too. Easy to spot. EDIT And oh boy, so much of that was foaming at the mouth BS. I know this is all way more complicated. I'm just a little drunk.
Thread: DO THE GUYS REALLY CARE ABOUT OUR FLAWS?

I've found that looks really don't bother me much at all. Smell, however, can knock me out. And I'm not referring to morning breath, or anything originating from the upper body, even. Keep it clean back there, please
Thread: DO THE GUYS REALLY CARE ABOUT OUR FLAWS?

It's a sad reality that most people do care about physical appearance. It's a complete shame. I myself do not qualify myself as a beautiful person or will ever be, just average. But that may be because of my self-trust problems. Thing is, what really cares about a person is -Personal Hygiene I cannot stand the stench of a person coming from it's private parts or the smell of sweat after 4 days without taking a shower -And their attitude. Those are the two factors. Sadly, most people in the male community are really picky when it comes to looks...and i was absolutely teased in high school for being really slim and a late bloomer.
Thread: DO THE GUYS REALLY CARE ABOUT OUR FLAWS?

I'll be honest here, and I'm sure people will find me shallow or superficial but as a female, I'm just as concerned about the little details on a guy. Hygeine and keeping in good physical shape as well as looking after hair and skin is important to me in a guy. Obviously if I was totally in love then it wouldn't matter so much, but I doubt I'd be totally in love with a guy who is going to let himself go. I'm attracted to good looking, well built, sporty guys. Personality of course plays the major part, but the initial physical attraction is what decides whether the personality gets a shot or not. As for do guys care too much about these things. I've never met a guy who seemed to care any more than I do. Most find my little breast size imbalance cute as far as I can tell.
Thread: DO THE GUYS REALLY CARE ABOUT OUR FLAWS?

Stretchmarks If one titty is slightly bigger than the other Birthmarks Fat areas Bumps or discoloration Cellulite Sweat Morning breath Human flaws Stretchmarks - if they're those really big pronounced ones, then we will notice, we won't stop loving you over them, but it wouldn't kill you just to tone up just a little bit to help them fade. If one titty is slightly bigger than the other - we call that one our favorite Birthmarks - a lot of guys think they're cute, the rest of us are indifferent. Fat areas - we all have 'em. Bumps or discoloration - no offense love, but you might wanna have them checked out, if you already have and they're nothing bad, then we don't care overall. Cellulite - meh, don't really care. Sweat - if you sweat just from getting up, then you need to hit a treadmill, but if you've been working hard all day or it's a hot day, then we don't care, in fact it could lead to some kinky stuff. Morning Breath - we both get it, let's stink together!.... for 5 seconds before we both throw up from eachother's stink and brush our teeth. Human Flaws - oh so you can't get DD size boobs?... well i can't get a 7 inch cock, you're not Molly Cavalli and I'm not Chris Hemsworth, we're normal humans, with flaws... Honestly the only real deal breaker in terms of appearance is if you look like this other than that, the only possible deal breaker is your personality, if you act like a spoiled, ungrateful, lazy bitch, then i'll dump you, just like you'd dump me if i was a no-good abusive drug-taking lazy drunk asshole.
Thread: User CP bug?

It's causing no trouble for me but it's odd none the less... My User CP page, in recent days, has listed alerts of threads I subscribed to with new posts. Problem is, it keeps doing this with old threads that do not have new posts, edits, or any distinguishable differences from before. Is there a factor I'm missing here? Just curious.
Thread: User CP bug?

Glitch. I get it to. As far as I know, no current fix. Just visit the last post of the page and it'll go away.
Thread: User CP bug?

So I thought. Ah well, it's not the worst thing in the world.
Thread: User CP bug?

If it's not criminal of me to necro this I apologize if it is, since Veksied's been mucking about this site a lot recently, is there any way he could maybe take a look at the code? If the subscription notification in user CP isn't too complex to be looked at in an hour or two Cuz it's an ongoing thing that I've been having for awhile, too. It's not actually a -problem-, or even that irritating, it's just...I wanna know -what- causes this, if that's not a big thing to ask.
Thread: User CP bug?

If it's not wrong of me, bumping this up hoping that Veksied or someone else sees this...am really curious about finding out why this happens...
Thread: User CP bug?

Still hoping an admin will see this...
Thread: Bruised Love

Coraline put the dishes in the sink sighing, seems he's going to be late again. Cory as her friends like to call her, grabbed the uneaten food putting it into the trash. Why did she stay with him sure he was sometimes rough with her but she loved him. She ran her hands through her black hair that had natural waves to it. She turned around hearing the front door slam as she slowly walked to the front door of their apartment looking at her boyfriend. Who was late once again, making her frown slightly.
Thread: The Grim Reaper Does Not Love...

This is a Role Play about a young man, who's also known as the Grim Reaper himself. He refuses to take the life of a beautiful girl, but doesn't realize that by refusing her death, he has given her the ability to see him. The reasoning behind the title The Grim Reaper Does Not Love Is the fact that he does indeed end up falling for this girl but refuses to express it to her. He is afraid of his emotions. But if he shows him... Well that's for the Rping to take part. Anyone girl may join.
Thread: My Little Kitten (Alexander May & SweetNothings)

Alexander May was twenty-nine years old, and he lived alone except for his adopted daughter. He had golden blonde hair, sapphire blue eyes, at a height of 6'3 and a weight of 250 lbs. He was fit and athletic, healthy and strong. He was a great cook to which was a good thing. Sometimes his daughter could have a strong and sometimes...odd appetite. Raising her was a bit hard, after all she had no motherly figure there for her, only him. He had no problem doing it though, and he was happy that he had adopted her. He knew that given the chance to do things differently, he would do the same exact thing. At the moment he was just arriving home, opening the door and walking into the living room as he closed it behind him. He wondered slightly if his daughter was home yet as he sat down on the couch.
Thread: My Little Kitten (Alexander May & SweetNothings)

Lana May was fifteen. She was adopted from Germany, which was a good thing to some degree. When she was born, she was born into a Nekomimi family. Her parents were scared she would be shunned upon and sent her to the adoption center. That's where her father, Alexander May, took her in. Ever since she was seven, she was grateful he adopted her. It showed how people in this world could do great things. Lana had blonde hair and sea green eyes. She stood at 5'6 and weighed around 143 lbs. She had played soccer for a good five years until the games became too rough and people started pulling on her tail. She dreaded that. Lana sat outside under a tree, her tail swaying behind her and her ears shoved forward attentively as she read a book. She stayed outside during the afternoon, especially while she was in heat. Her ears perked up when she heard the door open to the house. She looked up and tilted her head. Father? She called out. She set her book to the side and stood, walking to the patio door
Thread: My Little Kitten (Alexander May & SweetNothings)

He smiled slightly as he heard Lena calling him. He stood up and moved out back to kiss her forehead gently, brushing her hair out of her eyes and gently scratching on her ears. Hey baby girl. How was school today? He knew that the other students could be mean and on more than one occasion they had been. It made him angry, but he couldn't do anything about it. Some people were just natural jerks and they always were. It was the only reason it never upset him when Lena got in trouble. Because she always got in trouble getting revenge on the people who teased and tortured her.
Thread: My Little Kitten (Alexander May & SweetNothings)

Her face brightened we she saw her father. Her tail swayed happily and she blushed gently as he moved her hair. She purred under his touch, smiling. Today wasn't as bad as the others, She answered, smiling up at him. How are your day? She asked, before walking into the kitchen and pulling out a tuna sandwich she had prepared for herself after school. She hopped onto the counter and took a bite of it, humming quietly as she chewed
Thread: My Little Kitten (Alexander May & SweetNothings)

He smiled following her into the kitchen. I'm glad you had a nice day at least. My client keeps backing out and redeciding everything last minute. He was a lawyer and one of the best. He can't decide on a case. He leaned down and kissed her forehead gently, once more scratching behind her ears for a minute before standing up and stretching. I'm going to take a shower okay Lena?
Thread: My Little Kitten (Alexander May & SweetNothings)

She smiled at him and finished her sandwich. What's the case supposed to be about? She asked, purring once more as he rubbed her ears. O-okay, dad. She sighed and smiled. Once he turned to leave, she decided to go get dressed for bed. She rubbed her ears. She trudged up the steps, singing quietly