Thread: Attractiveness: The Beauty Standard In Roleplaying

I was expecting a thread like this from you after a few discussions that have been had in chat, and because of those discussions I've had a think about it myself so I'll give you my run down of how I view it, this is also coming from a man who's ideal woman is certainly not a Blonde, Blue eyed white girl which I assume is what we're perceiving as the norm? 1 If you think there's a beauty standard in roleplaying, what do you think it is? There certainly is a beauty standard in roleplaying, I don't think there is a need to go over this as you've already said it yourself, roleplaying is, especially at the erotic level, a method to perform your fantasies, at least for most people. There are a bunch of people on BMR who like to write, and they do erotic roleplaying because they like the genre and they even sway to things and kinks they wouldn't even dream of doing in their real lives. However the people who roleplay for their on fantasies and enjoyment is a much higher percentage and even those who're here to write deep down like to play out their fantasies in a roleplay. My favourite roleplay that I've done so far on BMR has been a very much story based one, I didn't even think about the erotic scenes until my partner said 'How do you think erotic scenes would play into this.' However that doesn't mean I don't have a couple of fun fantasy based RP's that I love when it gets down to a smut scene. 1a For men? I'm going to answer this as the beauty standard of men looking at female characters, for which I think it is fairly simple and easy to explain. Google Blonde Models there is your page of made to order BMR approved face claims, easy as that right? The blonde hair blue eye look is one that is coveted even in real life, so many people find it attractive and I'm not surprised, I do too to a lesser extent, and when 95 of BMR are here to roleplay their fantasies, of course they're going to go for what they find attractive. Look at how many girls are dying their hair blonde, the blonde hair dark roots look as become so common that it's insane. However I'm going to throw in what I'm going to name the Sugo complication ball in the fact that my personal preference on face claims for my partner vary vastly to what I would consider the 'norm' of BMR. As not much of a surprise to anyone that knows me pick a Raven haired pale Korean girl and you have by far what I would consider the peak of beauty, that's just me and I'm not alone on a view like this. I feel that Asian women are however a completely varied standard of beauty, and because of that they probably unfortunately fall under like Aria said a 'Kink' on a western site like BMR. I personally feel that other races Not white are definitely attractive and possible options for Face Claims, however what Aria says is definitely true, most will probably just consider it a kink. Asian women in particular are something that I would happily play against, the same goes for black and mixed-race characters and I would have no issue with picking those as a face claim if my partner offered them and the setting was right. I feel that the idea of a character being super slim isn't something that I subscribe to entirely. However it's completely understandable why people don't want to play against larger characters, especially when you start getting into the range of heavily overweight or obese characters. I'm sorry but there is no other way to put it, it's not attractive and it's not healthy. There is nothing attractive about being fat, this is coming from someone who is overweight by a fair margin hopefully not for long. When it comes down to things like 'BBW' that is a kink, at least in my eyes, and I'm afraid there is no other way to put it. Being Obese and overweight is not a nice thing, sorry to be blunt about it but I'm not exactly some hyper muscular guy saying Ew you're fat what the fuck I'm in the same boat, it's not attractive, I personally don't feel it's right to subscribe to the notion that 'All body sizes are beautiful' it's not, some are just downright unhealthy and saying they're beautiful is a bad thing that shouldn't be done. Should you bully someone for their weight? Hell no, but you shouldn't just call them as attractive as everyone else because they're not. I subscribe to a notion that any women I consider myself close to I'll try to call them gorgeous or beautiful at least once while I'm conversing with them, I don't know if it does but I feel and hope that saying something like that might make someones day. All women are beautiful, does that mean they're attractive? No, and then in a realm where 95 are here for their own fantastical reasons unsurprisingly you don't see a lot of fat characters. Here is a body fat index. I personally feel that a body type 35 or lower is completely fine and can be considered attractive, the term 'Thick' applies to stuff like that and I have no problem with it. I don't see that as a kink but anything above it into the realm of 'BBW' is a kink and I'm afraid I see no other way around it. However while I wouldn't really be against playing against a character with a 35 body fat I am here to write out fantastical stories, and since I have full range of picking and choosing I'd likely pick a character who is skinny over thick - it is my preference. 1b For women? I'll stay away from this for the most part, as I'm not a woman and there is no way that I can put an input as indepth, however This I would say is what I'd consider the male face claim standard of beauty. Beautiful hair, little bit of stubble and a long face with a muscular build. Another thing I'll chirp in on is black men. Black men are one of the biggest kinkified things on here, the idea of BBC is where it comes from. But that's just a side point. 1c Where do you think it came from? What people find attractive becomes the face claim majority, it's not too surprising. We are a western English site with mostly Europeans and American's, the blonde hair blue eyes status is considered one of the most beautiful and unsurprisingly that becomes what people want to play aganst. 1d Do you think it's a reflection of the beauty ideals we have in real life? Absolutely, raises hand guilty as charged. My three roleplays with Face Claims right now use Emily Rudd Tiffany and Katie McGrath notice a trend? Pale skin dark hair, SLAY ME MORE PLEASE. 2a Why do you think other physical preferences are seen as fetishes? Anything that's not their norm they consider a fetish I guess. In my thread the only thing that hints towards the partners character is Petite A fairly common and identified kink of size difference and a list as a Story turn on Asian characters. I say Asian Characters I like Asian Cultures and their people, Korea, Japan and China being the main three that I have an interest in, playing along side or playing Asian characters is interesting to me. This is just something that I felt I wanted to highlight in my thread, I don't go out of the way to describe my perfect woman as I find a wide variety of things attractive, much wider than most people I've noticed. I find the Blonde Hair blue eyes attractive, Ginger girls, thicker women, black haired girls, brunettes, Asian's, black women, mixed-race girls. I pretty much have no solid preference for character so i leave it mostly up to them. Whenever I talk to my partner about their character I will always say something along the lines of As long as she's half a foot to a foot shorter than my character I'm probably fine with it because for the most part it's true. Obviously if they then tried to offer me a 50 body fat woman with dwarfism I'm going to turn it down, as I would consider both of those things a kink. If she's not over 5 foot I don't really care xD 2b Do you think the fetish label is a deterrent for being vocal about those physical preferences i.e., I don't want to be seen as someone who's into that fetish? I have nothing I think I can really add for this question to be honest. 3a Beauty can be found everywhere what are some physical traits that you find attractive, either in real life or in roleplaying, that deviate from the beauty standard? You've asked me this one before, but I'll go over it again here. As stated somewhere above I find a lot of things about the opposite sex attractive. As long as they aren't obese or heavily overweight I will likely find something attractive in them. It is rare that I look at a woman and say Jesus she's ugly. If I had to point out what I find most attractive in a woman it's going to have to go with a nice pair of legs and beautiful hair. That's just what it boils down to me, but really in real life and roleplaying the thing I find most attractive about a woman is what I'll call a Quix Woman a woman who knows how much she has control over me, Jesus Christ woman you're gorgeous and I fucking love you, you have so much leverage over me you don't even know - use it. Timid women is one of the things I find least attractive in my real life and in roleplaying, playing against a timid woman has no interest to me at all in roleplaying. 3b What are some uncommon things you find attractive that aren't normally talked about under attractiveness? I don't really have anything abnormal to be honest, the only thing abnormal on my preferences of attractive is my over exaggeration on things people do already find attractive just I find way more attractive like a woman with a good pair of legs or nice hair, men will always find that attractive just I find it REALLY attractive. Overall I think you answered your question in your opening statement, most people are here for fantastical roleplays, and unsurprisingly they want to play against what they would find attractive. The 'defining everything else as a kink' is a weird one, especially stuff like race and especially stuff like black men which is one I find really weird.