Thread: When RPers harass you for a reply

Rudolph Quin said Temptationist said I am guilty of making my partners wait days for response. SORRYNOTSORRY. Well, I'm a little sorry. But between working full time and full time studies, plus an active social life - you can only imagine how little time I actually get to myself. Excuse aside, I am guilty. GUILTY. PS. I never even message someone. If they don't respond, I don't message. It's done. RPs dead. It's cool. I'll move on. UNLESS It was really kick-ass, then I might message. But 99 of the time, I don't. Click to expand... Oh, I wasn't trying to set myself up as the standard. I presented some questions and figured I'd answer with my own personal perspective. Everyone will have different needs when it comes to schedules and time frames for posting. Like I said, I know several great rpers who are willing to wait months for a new reply from their partner. Even with that being said, with our two different perspectives and needs when it comes to how we rp and want to rp, I think the expectation for manners and dignity should be the same. Someone sending a message hours after they posted asking where their reply is, is like a landlord demanding rent, or a passive-aggressive and insecure twat trying to niggle some sort of compliment out of you to make sure you're still okay with the rp. This isn't acceptable behavior no matter what your personal rp needs are. So, based on your personal schedule and social activities, when is an appropriate time for someone to come knocking on your door? Or should they not do that at all? How much patience should they have, as a time figure? Just curious on your personal perspective on that. In regards to you saying harass we're talking about people jumping the gun on a general time schedule that can be recognized and accepted by everyoneanywhere from an hour to a full 24, depending on the last time a person messaged them and talked to them if you just talked to the person 12 hours ago and they told you they were going to bed and had to work the next day, you need to check yourself before jumping to inquire hey, are you going to post?. And being generally toxic with their inquiry and approach. Toxicity can range from anything as simple as being rude to being insecure and needing constant validation and reassurance. While I'm thinking of ideas for my post and forming it in my head, I don't want to get a message from you in the middle of that process asking if the post was okay, if I need you to change anything, or offering to edit because it's terrible. Shut the hell up, please, I'm working on a reply and you need to tone down the desperation, scary. Click to expand... I usually dislike receiving any sort of message before 3 days, and even then, it still gets on my nerves. Personally, I don't like receiving any message at all unless I haven't replied in over a week. To me, receiving a message is like a complaint even though it may not necessarily be delivered that way. In the end, you sent me a message because a part of my style dissatisfies you, and that's the consistency of my posts. And this is not because I'm insecure, it's more of an annoyance that I warn people in advance not to expect constant replies, so when I receive a message it's like all of that work and communication went in the trash, and that the expectations have changed. I have definitely dropped roleplays for partners sending me a hey when will you be replying message. Turn off. Major pet peeve of mine. But I'm harsh, and I know that. I'm working on it! Although when I'm referring to harass I'm talking about 3 messages probing for a response. My response is usually GET OFF MY DICK, MAN! ok so I don't have a penis, but you catch my drift. The worst is when I don't answer the probe message, so they just keep sending me more and more. Pls. Don do eet.