Thread: Difficult and uncommon kinks to find partners for

AndNich123 said Off topic question, and if you want me to delete it I can, but do you find that people label you because of the types of rps you do? The plots? One liners? Lit? Semi-lit? Advanced? Just curious, and do you think it hinders people from possible partners if they only find, or read, one type of rp that you do? I think that, much like kinks, these things can become issues that can reduce the number of partners we have to select from. Theres no shortage of partners here on BMR though. Thats one of the many things I like about this place. Diverstiy and an abundance of partners. Click to expand... Not at all and I think it definitely fits within the same theme of the thread topic, like with Quix bringing up ideas and contextual kinks that are hard to find partners for. The way we write and desire to write can make things difficult when searching for partners. I'm not sure if it's still going on but when I first joined, I remember a big prejudice against those who would write one-liners. Even those who considered it difficult to write 5 sentence paragraphs for a reply in an rp, would often reject or turn people down if they were not literate, meaning, wrote their rps like a book. I don't know if that is necessarily a preference with individuals or if, the impressions I got at the time, was actually a sort of community-bias. Like, being told that longer, more detailed posts were something to aspire to, thus, it was seen as shameful if you yourself didn't measure up or desire to write with the people who write like that. I haven't noticed it in recent years but mostly because my own desires as far as post length has changed, but I get the feeling that there is less of a stigma on one-liner rps. It's just a different type of rping and I feel like it is easier now to find people who write to your tastes than it was before. As far as labeling goes, I'm not sure. I will admit that I search people's posts looking for how they write. I used to ask for writing samples but 1. I feel like that is really condescending, just right off the bat but also 2. people tend to lie, or they, paradoxically, don't put forth a good effort in it. Here I am asking for them to sell themselves and they give me something that they admit isn't their best work or it's something they're not interested in doing anymore or what have you. So, I secretly look at posts, to get a feel for their voice. Post length is a load of crap when it comes to determining quality, because you can have a post several pages long and it says nothing, it's boring, or it lacks coherence, then what was the point of all those words. So, mostly I look and see if what I read, even in an rp I'm not a part of, if it is interestingfunentertaining to read. I do then label someone depending upon what I find there and their ability to articulate Ooc and it often does have to do with literacy. If you cannot articulate your character's actions and thoughts in a clear way, or in an entertaining way, then I, personally, label it a lacking skill issue. However, there's tons of things to take into account with it, so, the label itself is not a stamp that condemns them for all of eternity, in my mind. Sometimes the posts I find in their history are old, and people's desires and abilities change over time. So, generally, even if the writing is sloppy or loose, if the characters and dialogue catch my eye, I'll give them a chance anyway. I remember several rps in my writing career where I was drunk and writing just to write, just to express, just to curb boredom. You go back and read those posts, not my best, it's not even good. I'd hate to be judged by that and a lot of times, I'll feel a certain way about a partner or a story and put in the extra effort, whereas others, I'll sort of bounce on the balls of my feet waiting for something interesting to happen. It's based on an individual basis and I try to awaken that passion in people with my stories, so, often, even if I'm only slightly impressed by someone, I don't reject them outright we'll try a play and see if we can get the spark going. I don't know about other people's impressions in regards to writing style and labeling people either because of that or the types of kinksstories they choose to do. But I'd be very interested in hearing other people's take on it, whether they feel judged, or it puts a crimp in their ability to find partners or whether they also unintentionally judge others based on these perceptions and preferences.