Thread: Difficult and uncommon kinks to find partners for

Rudolph Quin said Mr Quixotic said That's true Andy, but in my case, which possibly makes it even harder, I don't look to write opposite a female 'victim', but with a character who will be just as depraved as my own. So it's not so much about 'what my character does to theirs', but in partnership, what each encouragemanipulate the other to do, to meet their own needs. I do have one of those going now, where some of the victims will actually be male. Which brings me to another point, though I'm not sure if this is derailing the direction of this thread, as it's a themeconcept I struggle to find rather than a kink. Let me know, if so, and I'll happily delete, xd. AndNich, you mention To do a role play, where you see a character literally shattered and forced to pick up the pieces is also a challenge to write and that concept, or one where the male character is, not solely of his own making, the subject of any life-altering experience, emotionally traumatised, placed in unique or unusual situations, or required to grow and change as the story progresses, is something that, for me, is extremely difficult to find. I very rarely get the opportunity of being able to challenge myself to write that kind of character. Click to expand... No, it definitely fits with the theme of the thread. It's about those impossible to find partners for -ideasdesires- but when making the thread, I decided to focus the OP mostly on the kink aspect since the other is a bit harder to explain. But totally! Let's talk about it. Can you explain a bit more about this character concept? Sorry, just not sure I understand, because to me, it sounds like something I like to write and usually do. Not necessarily an object acted upon nor submissive, either in the storyline or sexually, but my go-to character, the most sought after and most comfortable for me to play, the aggressive male archetype goes through a lot of shit. I have a kink for not only shaming him for bad behaviors in front a group that will exclude him for them as punishment, but also for the contextual kink of drug addiction. Having gone through addiction myself and something I still struggle with, I like to work through my shit by putting my characters into that situation. Bring them down to the lowest point, fiendishly needing this key to unlocking oblivion, irrespective of the greater impact on himself and those around him, shortsighted and selfish and self-loathing all the while. I like bringing them down to that low and then having them go through a similar healing journey that I myself have, finding something to live for. But in the process of doing this sort of story, sometimes it can manifest in a lot of ways, such as violent behaviors during the high, that they have to own up to and face when they come down from it or when they're sober, or bringing them down to the pitiful angsty depths, tormented by what they've become but being unable to stop, crying and sick with this destructive need. So, do you mean something like that? Because oftentimes, I find I have no trouble finding people willing to explore masculine depravity and torment. Women like their female characters to be controlled but they like their men brought down to this vulnerable place, this self-induced torture that his masculinity cannot save him from. I've done this type of plotline from everything including berserkers who take instead of love, being willing to care for someone in a homosexual setting and it destroying their identity murdererspsychopaths being partnered up with that one woman they can trust and being conflicted by their feelings for her and their desire to give into the urges to kill her and the drug addict that can't seem to love her more than they hate themselveslove the drugs. But when you come at it from a very alpha male portrayal, it makes it easier to swallow and you get a lot more people raising their hands for it. However, sexually submissive men or simply submissive male charactersmeaning they're not exactly great depictions of masculine energy but either more relaxed or more emotional, like that gender role reversal thing Shovel was talking about are both hard to find partners for, I agree. Click to expand... Thanks Rudolph, I oftentimes find it difficult to express ideaconcepts that are so clearly defined in my own mind, in a way that is clear to others. I'll try to articulate it briefly, and I'll start with something that I posted on my journal so, please ignore the 'ranting' aspect of it, as it was posted as a private thought. 'No, I want a plot in which the female character comes in with her own independent motivations, part to play, and goals to achieve which are totally separate from, and not influenced by, the male character. Her goals and her motivations, her purpose, where she needs to go about attempting to achieve something that she wants To me, it's absolutely nothing to do with 'dominance' or 'submissiveness', but an intellectual capacity that both males and females should be equally capable of displaying an ability to desire something, and to take action to achieve what is they want. Too often, I find that stories requested are based entirely around 'what the male wants, and how the male goes about getting it', and very rarely do you see a plot where the female comes in with her own goals. That, to me, means a lot of the time, the male's personality is required to remain static unable to be influenced by the other character's independent motivations or desires, because she possesses none. My brain, and thought processes, revolve around context, and cause and effect. A female has a rape fantasy, that's fine, and I'm more than happy to play it out for her. However, why does my character want to rape her, what has she done to attract his attention, stir his emotions, or arouse him - either sexually, or otherwise - enough to cause him to perpetrate the act? Or is it simply because 'that's what every man wants to do to any female who crosses his path' or 'he rapes her because he's a rapist'. A woman wants to be chased, or lusted after again I can play that, but why? Why her in particular? Before an effect, must come a cause. A lot of it also boils down to the fact that I consider myself largely sapiosexual, which means that physical attractiveness, or 'being female', has very little to do with my or my characters being sexually interested in someone. It's who she is. Not sure if that makes things any clearer, or answer your questionscomments? Edit Apologies, Rudolph, as I tend to do, I changed the wording of my post, and added to it, after you'd already quoted it, and began your reply. I'm never happy with my first draft, and rarely content with my fifth, either, XD