Thread: Difficult and uncommon kinks to find partners for

Mr Quixotic said Thanks Rudolph, I oftentimes find it difficult to express ideaconcepts that are so clearly defined in my own mind, in a way that is clear to others. I'll try to articulate it briefly, and I'll start with something that I posted on my journal so, please ignore the 'ranting' aspect of it, as it was posted as a private thought. 'No, I want a plot in which the female character comes in with her own independent motivations, part to play, and goals to achieve which are totally separate from, and not influenced by, the male character. Her goals and her motivations, her purpose, where she needs to go about attempting to achieve something that she wants To me, it's absolutely nothing to do with 'dominance' or 'submissiveness', but an intellectual capacity that both males and females should be equally capable of displaying an ability to desire something, and to take action to achieve what is they desire. Too often, I find that stories requested are are all about 'what the male wants, and how the male goes about getting it'. My brain, and thought processes revolve around context, and cause and effect. A female has a rape fantasy, that's fine, and I'm more than happy to play it out for her. However, why does my character want to rape her, what has she done to attract his attention, stir his emotions, or arouse him - either sexually, or otherwise - enough to cause him to perpetrate the act. Or is it simply because 'that's what men do to any female who crosses his path'. A woman wants to be chased, or lusted after again I can play that, but why? Why her in particular? Before an effect, must come a cause. Not sure if that makes things any clearer, or answer your questionscomments? Click to expand... I got you, and yes, I've heard you articulate this desire before the way you originally phrased it made it sound more like a role reversal, focused on the man becoming an object in a story, not necessarily in a sexual way but mostly in a plot way, something to be acted upon. Now I see you mean it more in mutual and even give and take of offensive and defensive writing, taking charge. Correct me if I'm wrong, but it also appears to me that what you're talking about isn't necessarily a dominant, confident character it is merely the idea that she has motivations of her own, thoughts and feelings, spirit within her, so that even if she doesn't say it aloud or take charge of every situation, she has an opinion separate from your character and her actions are more than just reactions, an object being acted upon. That seems to me to be more of a writing issue. Some people come to role-pkaying with very simple needs, so, the storytelling and character development is less important than the going through the motions and the moving parts. For instance, someone just saw the film Spiderman 3 and wants to do a rape rp with Venom and Spiderman. They might come at it less like playing the roles of these two characters, understanding the depth of their personalities and living and acting through these roles to get enjoyment not only out of the plotscenario but also the thrill of the emotions present they come at it more like ideas and colors, held distantly from them, writing the sex scene in such a way that you could replace the words and names with just about anything and instantly change the mood, the relationship, and the characters involved. EDIT Also, please understand that no one is saying any of these types of role-plays and types of writing are better or worse than the others. This thread is about preference and the trouble some have had finding people whose preferences match up with their own. I truly believe rping is beautiful in the way that it is different and fluid for everyone everyone's needs can be met, everyone can find a match that works for them and a type of writing that they enjoy engaging with. From something simple and fast like one-liners in a chat program, to long and drawn out, novel length posts that take days at a time to construct. There's no right or wrong way to do it and I would prefer, to keep with the intent of this thread and the positive spirit of the forum, that we continue to keep the language non-judgmental in regards to kink discussion and what we are looking for in regards to writing styles and ideas. You guys have been great so far, let's keep it up! 3