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Thread: Why do people care what gender you are

I haven't had people solicit pics of me but I have experienced this gender bias first hand. Like, I started out on Literotica and that place is basically a meat market where people look for others to hook up with. One thing I noticed is that the personal ad section and the amateur pic feedbackwhere members post sexual photos of themselves are really popular. People are looking for connection is the only thing I can figure. It's really convenient to hook up and cyber with someone online rather than risk disease and rejection in the real world. At the very least, on a site like Fetlife or whatever, you're in a sexual environment and asking for sexual content isn't necessarily out of the blue, you know? Changing the way we hook up doesn't change a lot of the core things about us, like sexuality. Hetero men will look to hook up online with women and if they find out that the pics and cyber was faked by a man, it's kind of a turn off. I think that extends to the rp world. Not everybody is here for the story. They're looking to fulfill sexual fantasies in order to get off. Well, just like with finding out the pics of a lady you were just with are fake, the same with finding out that the person you were writing with was actually a man. If you're not into that, then it can feel a little weird. I don't begrudge people their preferences but it does sound skeevy when someone asks for pics of you. I mean, you already told them no, so just block them. If they continue to bother you, especially here, just go ahead and report them because I don't think BMR allows people to solicit that sort of thing on site? I know we have specific rules about treating the site like a meat market.
Thread: Why do people care what gender you are

Rudolph Quin said I haven't had people solicit pics of me but I have experienced this gender bias first hand. Like, I started out on Literotica and that place is basically a meat market where people look for others to hook up with. One thing I noticed is that the personal ad section and the amateur pic feedbackwhere members post sexual photos of themselves are really popular. People are looking for connection is the only thing I can figure. It's really convenient to hook up and cyber with someone online rather than risk disease and rejection in the real world. At the very least, on a site like Fetlife or whatever, you're in a sexual environment and asking for sexual content isn't necessarily out of the blue, you know? Changing the way we hook up doesn't change a lot of the core things about us, like sexuality. Hetero men will look to hook up online with women and if they find out that the pics and cyber was faked by a man, it's kind of a turn off. I think that extends to the rp world. Not everybody is here for the story. They're looking to fulfill sexual fantasies in order to get off. Well, just like with finding out the pics of a lady you were just with are fake, the same with finding out that the person you were writing with was actually a man. If you're not into that, then it can feel a little weird. I don't begrudge people their preferences but it does sound skeevy when someone asks for pics of you. I mean, you already told them no, so just block them. If they continue to bother you, especially here, just go ahead and report them because I don't think BMR allows people to solicit that sort of thing on site? I know we have specific rules about treating the site like a meat market. Click to expand... Where would I go for in the future if this happens to me on blue moon to report people this incident happened on kik but if it were to happen on blue moon where should I go to report it
Thread: Why do people care what gender you are

Sleepingskill said Where would I go for in the future if this happens to me on blue moon to report people this incident happened on kik but if it were to happen on blue moon where should I go to report it Click to expand... Any messages you get, go ahead and forward them to any of these people darkangel76 , Razgriz , or Broomhandlehe's not on and I can't find a link to his account. Anybody with a red or green name, just tell them what is happening, show them the messages and they'll be sure to help you as soon as they can. Like, just copy the messages and make sure they know who is doing it.
Thread: Why do people care what gender you are

Rudolph Quin said Sleepingskill said Where would I go for in the future if this happens to me on blue moon to report people this incident happened on kik but if it were to happen on blue moon where should I go to report it Click to expand... Any messages you get, go ahead and forward them to any of these people darkangel76 , Razgriz , or Broomhandlehe's not on and I can't find a link to his account. Anybody with a red or green name, just tell them what is happening, show them the messages and they'll be sure to help you as soon as they can. Like, just copy the messages and make sure they know who is doing it. Click to expand... Ty
Thread: Why do people care what gender you are

It's why I stopped giving out my Skype handle.
Thread: Why do people care what gender you are

Princess Pittooey said It's why I stopped giving out my Skype handle. Click to expand... I might have to do that with kik if it keeps up it only happened once so no need to just yet
Thread: Why do people care what gender you are

I've rarely had someone doubt I was a girl. The few times it happened? I wasn't going to bother proving anything. They could take it or leave it.
Thread: Why do people care what gender you are

size-2There are many factors as to why people care what gender others are, let's look at this from an online role-playing perspective, shall we? First and foremost, comfort zone, in one on one role-plays, there are those who seek to rp with the opposite gender, for comfort sake, they feel at ease knowing that the person on the other side is the opposite gender, especially the role-play goes the romantic or sexual route. Some people have also had bad or weird experiences role-playing with the same or opposite sex, due to that factor they switch to only rping with the same or opposite sex. Preference, some males prefer to rp with females, because their character is male and want to rp with a female who plays female characters, they feel or believe that they can portray the gender more realistically than a male, rping as a female ever could and vice versa. Some people can pull of role-playing as a gender that they are not with ease, while other struggle or fail at it completely. In the end, females know females better than males do and males know males better than females do. There are also those who seek to improve their portrayal of a certain gender and make things more realistic and one of the ways is to rp with someone who is and rps as the gender, you are trying to portray and can do it justice, due to the fact they are the gender they write as and thus have a much better understanding of the gender. size
Thread: Why do people care what gender you are

While I don't care about male or female writer as long as the character is believable, I definitely understand that some do... If it's more than RP to some, then I understand even better why they only want women.
Thread: Why do people care what gender you are

As a guy though I am one who is more than comfortable with himself and my sexuality, I can only assume that they would feel that roleplaying with a male might be awkward to them. Even if the male is playing a female role. In a round about way it could be seen as being 'gay'. Honestly, I wouldn't worry about it too much. I find it absurd people would want you to send pictures to validate your gender when it comes to an escape such as roleplaying. Don't let them get under your skin.
Thread: Why do people care what gender you are

Most time when an organization or a company ask about my gender -- I understand it is just data information to understand who they serve. Have to say, if they really do not know my gender most women will think of me as a male. And it is the same with males as well. It could be just a natural default comment. Then again, I do work in a organization structure that more men work in the field then women. So it could be a natural bias. But, I do not mind if someone calls me sir.
Thread: Why do people care what gender you are

I was dropped once after being accused of being a guy. Because of how I wrote some male side characters in the rp. Funny thing is, I didn't think I was all that good at writing male characters at the time. Oh well.
Thread: Why do people care what gender you are

Sleepingskill said Lol sometimes it dumbfounds me like how people accuse others of well what if your a guy or girl type of thing I use kik and pm only as a way to get respond faster and so that I don't forget about the rp like what happens with me if I rp via threads lol I'm a forgetful person but I was laughing to myself earlier a person messaged me on kik and asked me for a picture I said no cause my other half doesn't like me sending or receiving pics and I respect the trust that we have built in our relationship then the person a cussed me of being a guy and later asked for a picture of my bra lol I'm like that is even worse it really dumbfounded me because I treat kik like blue moon I will not ask for pics nor will I give any out lol has anyone else had issues similar to this wether it's on kik or blue moon also why do you think some people are like this Click to expand... Oh! O I thought this thread was about something else i.e. Gender particular in jobs but found it to be thus, which is about RPing. Well, firstly, for RPing, I never am particular with gender, as long as the people is honest on what gender they are, and what gender the character they want to RP as. If they want their personal gender to remain undosclosed, then we respect that choice. Secondly, I only suspect that others may be particular because they want to feel the RP as is there is something in make beliefs that want you to imagine that you are really there. If for example, a male wants to RP as male with a female character, it helps that if the partner is also female in real life and not just male playing with a female character. And lastly, I won't give much comment about gender partiality in job seeking, as that is another story. I will only say that I find that it irks me to find a job I want but only that the employer wants female N.B. I'm male in real life.
Thread: Entranced -- RPDan and whtbitch4u2own

It was a cocktail party like most others, except for one woman who caught Dan Lawson's eye -- an exotic-looking brunette with an alluring mix of innocence and sex appeal. There was something in her eyes, Dan thought, that was special. He decided it was a kind of conflict, maybe a conflict between inhibition and a desire to be free of something. He couldn't tell. He wandered over to her and smiled when he overheard her talking about a presentation she had to give at work in the next few days. She was terrified, he heard her say, just scared to death to talk in front of people. And the CEO of her company would be at the table. She sounded almost frantic. I can help you with that, he said, butting in to their conversation. I'm Dan Lawson, I'm a psychologist and I've helped lots of clients with just the problem you have. I use hypnosis, and I've used it dozens and dozens of times to help people relax in stressful situations. He smiled at the woman and her friend. Social anxiety is a very common affliction, and it can be very specific. For instance, you seem perfectly comfortable here, but you say you're in a panic when you need to present at work. Very common. He took a sip of his drink. Lots of practitioners treat this with medicine, but I'm opposed to that. Anti-anxiety meds have lots of side effects, and I think they cause more problems than they solve. But hypnosis has no side effects, and it just brings out the inner person you really want to be. If you want to feel comfortable in social situations, I think I can help you achieve that. Dan gave her his most winning smile. He was handsome enough, he thought, and at a fit six feet people seemed to warm to him. Both women smiled back. Why don't you come to my office tomorrow afternoon? he asked. We can chat a bit and get you started. We'll have you ready well before your presentation! Dan gave the woman a business card and took another look into her eyes. What he saw gave him a thought he'd never had, a terrible thought that went against his vows as a professional. Later that night it would trouble him and then consume him, but by the morning he would feel himself powerless to stop the plan that had begun to hatch in his mind.
Thread: Entranced -- RPDan and whtbitch4u2own

Dan was clearing off his desk and getting ready to go home when Lizzie, his receptionist, knocked quietly and stuck her head into his office. Dan, you have one more out here, she said. She walked in and gave him an intake form. She says she doesn't have an appointment but that you had invited her to come by to see you. Dan looked at the name on the form and felt a strange frisson, a somewhat unwelcome mixture of excitement and fear. It was certainly the girl from the party. He had wanted her to come and he had not, and when a couple of days had passed without seeing her he had begun to think he had dodged a ruinous bullet. For a moment he thought of her as a loaded gun that in a minute would be directly across from him, her eyes both barrels pointing at him. Show her in, he sighed, and please go home when it's time no need to stay late. Dan stood as Lizzie brought Priyanka into his office. He went to her and shook her hand, feeling some nervousness, and led her to the chair on the other side of the desk from his. And then, there she was. Modestly dressed, hands clasped together, knees touching. Pretty tightly wound, Dan thought. So, tell me how you've been these last few days, he said with a gentle smile. I had almost thought you'd decided not to come here, but I'm glad you did. Very glad, he thought, his mind spinning.
Thread: Entranced -- RPDan and whtbitch4u2own

Priyanka had things under control, more or less. It wasnt a significant problem but if she were to overcome this then it would open up avenues of opportunities for her. Considering her career choice, it was a cut throat business firm and that meant you have to be on top of your shit. Now, she worked hard to be where she was and would want to move further up the ladder. The presentation would actually be a step towards that dream so why not make the best of it. Just when she needed to be her best, this guy came around claiming that he would be able to help her. Now, she really didnt think there was anything that needed fixing other than this one problem. And her other doctor had prescribed Xanax to ease her nerves but she never took a pill because she wanted to stay away from it if she didnt really need to take one. Considering how she arrived at his office, show up without an appointment, she was only here to test some water. It wasnt a proper appointment so she wanted this to be more or less informative, not therapeutic. Maybe hear from as to how this would help her and what sort of ways his treatments were planned. Hypnosis was something she didnt believe in but if its going to help her, who knows? Shed briefly introduced herself and her colleague to Dan that night but their brief introduction was not even more than a few minutes. She wondered if he would even remember speaking with her. The secretary finally opened the door for Priyanka, Mrs. Singh? The doctor will see you now. It was then, she peeled her eyes off the phone she was glued to and stuffed it into her purse, making her way past the secretary who then pointed towards the door. She had just texted her husband, asking him to pick up a take-out from one of the place they ate at as she didnt feel like cooking tonight. Knocking on the office door at first, she entered, peeking her head in first, Thank you for seeing me. Sorry, I didnt make an appointment she extended her hand for a shake when he reached forward and then took a seat on the other side of his desk. Dressed in sober orange top that showed a bit of her shoulder and a pair of professional slacks, she took a seat with her legs crossed and her hand clasped in between her legs and in her lap. Ive been well. Could be better. She smiled softly and rolled her eyes, Actually I did decide not to come. Figured I will be fine with the presentationbut I am still stuck at the same place. She blew some air, not knowing that her peachy scent had filled the room already, I mean I know its silly but I was curious how is it that you treat your patients with similar problems? She quickly added before leaning back in her chair, And if it really works?
Thread: Entranced -- RPDan and whtbitch4u2own

Everyone was skeptical, Dan thought, but he was proud of his results. He wondered if he'd be proud of the result he hoped for with Pryianka. It's not silly at all, Dan said, looking directly into Pryianka's eyes. I use hypnosis every single day to treat people with all sorts of issues -- smoking, eating disorders, some sexual disorders. Some people have problems relating to very specific kinds of situations, like you do. Hypnosis won't change a person into someone completely different for instance it would be very difficult and perhaps impossible to hypnotize a person and suggest that he or she commit murder. It only opens the mind to things the mind is willing to accept. Let's talk for a moment about the connection, for our purpose, between the mind and the body, Dan said. You may know that in Eastern cultures people have been using the mind to heal the body for thousands of years. Meditation is one of the best-known examples. It helps people relax, lowers blood pressure and improves a host of other ailments that Western medicine prefers to treat with drugs. We should also talk about elements of your medical history that might call on us to look for a medical solution. Have you any history of heart or autonomic disorders? Do you drink to excess? Do you use recreational drugs? Do you take anti-depressants or have you been treated for any other emotional disorders? Then, let's talk about your relationships with people individually. Do you have problems relating to them? Is your marriage happy and fulfilling? Have you any issues with intimacy or sexuality that interfere with the happiness of your marriage, as you define it? If we can eliminate any purely medical reasons for this problem, then it may become easier for you to understand my belief that it is entirely of the mind and can be resolved entirely through the mind. And in fact, it's not a problem with your mind so much as it is an issue with the way your mind has been conditioned, possibly through experience or upbringing or just chance that's how it works sometimes. Dan smiled and sat back in his chair. So, after hearing my litany of questions, have you experienced any of the issues I've mentioned? Can you think of any medical reason why you would have this problem with speaking in public?
Thread: Entranced -- RPDan and whtbitch4u2own

Dan listened patiently to Pryianka's recitation of her history, watching her movements carefully. She seemed nervous almost to the point of distraction he wondered if he could even put her under in her current state. Everyone gets busy sometimes, and marriages do take a bit of a pounding when that happens, he said. But I don't see anything that would get in the way of a good result from hypnosis. He was sorry that she hadn't said that her marriage was a disaster that her husband abused her or neglected her. It would have made him feel a little better about what he wanted to do. The question was Did she want to be hypnotized at all, and if so, when? So from what you've told me, I think it's possible that your issue comes from your past as a child of an introvert. Possibly you were patterned to not make a lot of noise about yourself, to be aggressive in asking for what you want. But you know that in business today one needs to put ones self forward in order to advance. There is the conflict -- the disconnection between the reality of your childhood and that of your present -- that we need to address. Dan sat forward in his chair, his hands in front of him on the desk. I see you looking around and acting as if you'd like to leave. You certainly may I don't want you to be uncomfortable in the least. If you'd like to try hypnosis you could do so now, or at some other time. If you don't want to, that's no problem and there's no charge. If you have more questions, I'll answer them. If you'd like to do more research on your own, please go ahead and let me know if you'd like to schedule something in the future. He sat back and ran a hand through his sandy hair. But I have time now if you do, he said. And you did say your presentation is coming up soon.
Thread: Entranced -- RPDan and whtbitch4u2own

According the information he gave her, she tried very hard to think of some connection. What seemed like a simple matter, her upbringing, he proved that it MIGHT be the thing thats standing in her way. Could it really be?....she wondered and that was the very first doubt that took birth in the back of her mind. She always took pride in how shes turned up by her parents upbringing, proving to be their best child out of two. She had an older sister who was also married and was living her life. A thought of her sister actually made Priyanka wonder if her sister also had similar problems. Whatever the case, she had enough on her plate to worry about. He was right about that. They were so free back in their college days and a year into their marriage, they both were career centered like no other. That is what made their lives hectic, her husband having to even travel at times as well as she due to work. Perhaps her marriage did have problems but they were too busy to recognize or even accept it. Maybe it was something she failed to accept and hide being loads of work. Whatever the case, it was going well and it was working for now. The older gentleman across her seemed very experienced in his line of work as he had provided nothing but great knowledge of things that may be posing a problem not only in her career but her life as well. She gasped and also chuckled, Did you just call my mother an introvert? She joked with him and shrugged her shoulders as he continued to explain a great deal of herself to her. Something which shed never thought in the way he was thinking but all she could see was that he was right. She didnt make a lot of noise about herself. At times, she wanted to pursue something she wanted so bad but she ends up giving it up. When he sat forward in his chair, she did as well, seeming interested as she quickly shook her head no, NO...no. I mean yeah. Its getting late but she said and quickly checked the clock on the wall while listening to him tell her that her presentation was coming up soon. She could come tomorrow but she figured she was here and since she was testing waters here, she might as well see what this is all about. She had already asked her husband to pick up a take-out so she didnt have to go home and cook dinner. She certainly wasnt in hurry and since this was turning a bit interesting, she uncrossed her legs and nodded, Charge is not a problem. I have insurance. I guess we can give it a try. You need me to fill some form out or anything? she asked him, Only if you have time, I dont want to hold you back today if its late for you?