Thread: Flirting/Looking at someone else's SO

Personally, I do not like it when it is intentional. Some people just have flirty personalities and regardless of gender, sexuality, etc. they will act flirty - this means complimenting, teasing, etc etc. And that's not a problem. But to flirt with someone because you think they're cute, you got a little crush, or reasons similar to that I think one should be aware that this behavior could be interpreted in many ways and often it is perceived as advances or hints of interest. If you can help it pay some respect to the boundaries of their relationship. In the past I was rather open minded about this and I can be understanding to a degree but flirting can be very misleading to people and lead to some unnecessary drama. This is from personal experience. My boyfriend was a bit of a flirt and his best friend who was female was also a flirt. So of course... they'd flirt. I knew on his half of the deal it was harmless but the girl was rather promiscuous and had very openly stated interest in getting into his pants. Often the flirting would get beyond suggestive in nature such as her talking about how she wouldn't mind him bending her over a table and I found myself having to bite my tongue. But eventually rumors surrounding them began to spread and I constantly had friends in our social circle coming to me showing concern about what was going on between the two of them. I tried to ignore it but people continued to hunt down signs and proof that there was more there and it began to take a toll on me. I was especially offended when people would straight up ask her what was going on and she wouldn't deny it, she'd just tease the idea of something going on between them. I eventually went to him with my concerns and told him it was becoming too much. I told him all of the rumors that were spreading and informed him that she wasn't exactly denying it. This pissed him off so he went to her and told her it had to stop. She got pissed off at me and told me she could flirt with and fuck whoever she wanted when she wanted. He told her if she didn't back off he'd have to end their friendship. She didn't stop and they are no longer friends. It caused a lot of drama and since then I like to extinguish that shit before it even begins. That woman flirted because she lacked companionship that she'd get from a partner, yet she was also a commitment phobe so she never went as far as to enter relationships with men. Instead she'd boost her ego as it's been said and found ways to feel desired and wanted by flirting with other men and receiving reciprocation. Not just my boyfriend but married men as well - she just felt my boyfriend was the easier target since he and I weren't married . This is when it gets into deeper issues. Like... why do you flirt? I think she did it because like quite a few women unfortunately I think she valued herself based off of her ability to attract men. My boyfriend was a constant challenge for her, and his flirtations probably boosted her ego, and she was probably convinced that deep down inside he probably was attracted to her and desired her. But then she was proven wrong and when that had to stop of course she got pissed off.