Thread: Parenting and Work

with mothers especially children associate the role of mother to be the nurturer, while the role of father is associated with the Provider. Click to expand... I heartily disagree. Growing up my mother was both the nurturer and the provider. She worked incredibly hard while I was growing up to make sure there was food on the table, a roof over our heads and that I got the tools I needed to get a shot at success. Very few of my friends had stay at home moms, particularly the older we got the more likely it was for mom to enter the workforce again. I watched my mother give up a lot of her personal dreams so that I could have a shot. I dont know anything more nurturing than sacrificing for your children, if even at the outset it appears that your mom favors work over spending time with you. This is not the case. I think parents choose to shield their children, for the most part, from the financial realities of their situation. Why would you want your kids stressing over money? If a child has a learning disability to the degree they need to be home schooled, then a parent should be home at all times, even if this means sacrificing work time in order to make sure their child is propperly cared for. Click to expand... I strongly disagree. Children with disabilities, be they learning or otherwise, require a lot of resources not just financially, but also in terms of navigating managing that disability. There are many, many careers that focus on working with the disabled and it does require a special skill set and training that most people dont have. Would you rather have a parent to home school their children without a background in educationparticularly without the expertise to most effectively manage whatever disability is present, as in this caseor would you rather have a parent who worked to make sure their child received the best care possible? I think that the role of parent should never just be left down to taxable labor, childcare like nannies and the such should only be for occasions, to prevent especially young children from associating their nannies and the such as their parents. Taxable labor should never replace parenting in my opinion, like what happened with my friend here. Click to expand... Have you ever heard the phrase, It takes a village to raise a child? For most people their adult role models and the people who took responsibility for them werent just their parents. They were also teachers taxable labor, healthcare professionals taxable labor, bus drivers taxable labor, coaches taxable labor and Im sure a whole bunch of others who were not family members, immediate or extended. Given that, it appears that by your definition the role of parent, particularly mother nurture, per your definition is often left down to taxable labor and these relationships are often fostered and viewed as important. To extend the mother nurture thing, then all nurses and doctors are moms. Every uncle and aunt you who took you aside as a child to say good job or teach you something, theyre a mom, too. Same goes for teachers, police officers if protecting is considered part of nurturing and school cafeteria staff whats more nurturing than making someone a healthy meal?. What about you? do you think it's fine for the role of parent to be given to someone paid to take care of them? Click to expand... I think its a lot more nuanced than you are portraying it here. Personally, I believe it is no way just the parents responsibility to take care of a child, but rather everyones responsibility to take care of all children insofar as they are able. In the situation that is referenced above youre talking about a hard working businesswoman with three children, one of whom is so disabled that she cant integrate into mainstream education, who is providing for her children. That is taking care of them. She chooses to spend money on someone who is trusted, that the children have clearly developed a relationship with, who is trained to handle her childs special needs while she ensures their future. Sounds like a pretty smart thing to do to me. Additionally, can you imagine a better role model for children? Their mom owns a business with eight successful locations, employing who knows how many people if theres a minimum of five workers to cover the salons for the entire work, thats forty people, chances are there are a lot more than that, she does it all on her own, provides for her children and works hard every day. They can always look up to her and say, If she did it, so can I. I wish I had a mother who was successful in business. I would have access to so many more opportunities. do you think parents should be putting spending more time with their kids over fewer work hours? Click to expand... I think it depends on what their situation looks like, so let me ask you the other side of this situation, which is pretty much how I see it. How much time can parents afford not to work to provide their children with everything they need? Thats the important side of that question. Its definitely a case-by-case basis. Theres no resolution that would work for even a majority of parents. or do you think I'm just some women shouldn't work etc... sexist like others have called me when I told them about this? Click to expand... This is flame bait. You are specifically inviting someone to judge you in a negative light as a sexist. You can do better. This debate is not about you or me. It is about opinions, the discussion of the opinions expressed and the analysis of those opinions. That is debate.