Thread: Partners Vanishing Without a Word: You Are Not Alone

Princess Pittooey said While it was grounds for a little bit of salt, I was more curious for improvement reasons rather than to exonerate myself from any kind of blame. Click to expand... That is a type of blame asking if you personally could have done something to prevent your partner from leaving. To ask if your writing was the problemneeding improvement is trying to take blame for the story ending. To answer your inquiry, finally after all these years, it had nothing to do with your writing ability and in fact I thought you were really good. If you'll remember, we did the Into the Night Land plot line together from my req thread. heartlesskitten had already approached me for this idea but at that early stage, I was opening a lot of windows at the same time because I wanted to write and I didn't know who was going to stick around to do so. So, when you and I talked, I changed the plot in dramatic ways so we didn't end up bumping into heartless and I in the parallel universe same premise guy finds a woman during the monster driven apocalypse and engages in sexual relationship with her. The key point of it and what I eventually realized through playing with the both of you, what I actually wanted at that time was a female character that mine could victimize. The character you wrote was on a very strong pathway and the character that I wrote for you was in no shape to dominate yours in any way ever. So, as I apologize for not telling you Hey sorry, I like the direction this other girl took this story a lot better than you I couldn't find an economical way to do so. And even though it sounds like blame it's not. I gave you a choice on who to be, very liberal because I wasn't sure what I was really looking for without playing through the options. So, the entire thing ending was my fault including not being able to tell you without sounding like a duplicitous asshole. But you do bring up a good point is this about helping other people improve? Because those are not my goals when I role-play with someone. Should it be my responsibility, in discovering that a partner does in fact write poorly to make sure they walk away with a lesson about it before I toss them back into the water? I think that is really great that Broom has the patience and understanding to teach you and guide you but not a lot of people are looking for that. Even if we were better friends, I am not and have never been interested in slowing down and teaching someone how to be better. I'm here to write and if someone can't keep up, then I leave them behind. Like playing WoW with its quests and dungeon runs if you're there for yourself and you see someone struggling, it's not your responsibility to stop and show them the ropes. It'd be nice, yes, but if this is truly about mutual needs being met, being someone's editor is not even close to being on my list. And it's like you said that shit is unfun to hear. Even if someone secretly believes that their writing is weak and that is the reason for a story ending...they do not want to hear that. I've tried that too and no matter how instructive or soft I go about it, there are no thank yous. I agree that feeling more comfortable with a partner can make things easier and more open. If we'd been better friends back then, I'm not sure if informing you of the plot I preferred better would have been easier but if your writing had been the problem, it would have been. And do we even want to explore the fact that writing is subjective when it comes to poor vs strong good vs bad? Someone out there is reading 50 Shades and thought it good enough to recommendover 125 million copies sold, yet a great bulk of people have made fun of it, torn it apart, and pulled their own hair out trying to read itI'm in the latter group. So, who am I to say, when writing with somebody that they do not write well and that nobody else is going to want to write with them unless they change? Their type of writing could be exactly what someone else is looking for and they might not even be looking to improve. So, me telling them in a message Hey, I'm leaving because you don't write very good but before I go, here are some tips... How egotistical of me to assume that they need my advice to enjoy role-playing or to improve. If I'm going to leave anyway, then giving them advice that will make them a better rp partner for me , doesn't do them any favors, especially if they didn't ask, and that is definitely me blaming them for the story failing. I'm saying, we accept what we want from a story and partnership and stay away from blaming people for any endings. It is okay for some people to not like the way a person writes because someone out therepossibly 125 million someones will love it. Accepting that the story may end is a good way to encourage people to say good bye and to be more accepting of that goodbye without feeling defensive or rejected. Because my personal preferences are not anybody else's fault or responsibility.