Thread: When RPers harass you for a reply

I stress out and get overwhelmed VERY easily. And this can be caused by a slew of different things--even things you might not realize. When I get pestered for posts, I will start to stress out about it and get that feeling like I'm going to literally crash and die. So, that literally causes my brain and functioning in the writing department to more or less freeze up. The more persistent or clingy the tone, the worse my overwhelm. Being a socially awkward individual, I haven't quite perfected how to deal with that. I try my best always, but I'd be lying if I said I had it perfected in way. I will say, that when this happens, my muse and functioning for writing will dwindle and thus I'll stop writing for the RP I'm crashing on. As such, writing can full out stop for a bit until the crash period ends. What can end it? Well, if the pesteringsmothering ceases and an understanding is reached, but sometimes even that won't work. It'll depend. If I reach the 'point of no return', I have to drop. Just like, if the pestering reaches a certain level, I'll have to drop. I literally won't be able to function. On the flip side, I will NOT pester others to post for me in return. I just won't. If I'm interested in the RP, I will patiently wait for forever for you to post. If you never do...then you never do. But I will not ask you to do so. If you tell me up front you're dropping, then I say a polite thank you. If you drop me quietly and just never post again, I move on and just let it go. I don't dwell on it. Typically, I won't consider an RP dropped unless I've had no contact in anyway with the person for at least a couple of weeks maybe even up to a month. And I mean, they aren't even PMing me for idle chit-chat. But most of the time, I know who needs to take a long while to post and am decent enough friends with my writing partners. With those where I'm not? It's a hit and miss...sometimes the chemistry is there and they get it, sometimes they just don't and make assumptions. shrugs One thing I will add is that being the sort I am I can go through distractionloss of focus periods where it might take me a bit to post. And this isn't really writer's block per se. It's more that I'm quite literally distracted by EVERYTHING though also sometimes my life can just get down right busy at times...sights, smells, sounds and the occasional hyper focus hard to explain this one, it's like I'll get REALLY into something and have to spend time researching on it until I've exhausted the energy and OCD to do so. I do tell people this straight up and try to keep in contact while it's occurring. However, some people don't get it and think that they'll be that special snowflake exception. Ummm...no you won't. LOL! My brain makes no exceptions. XD It doesn't care who you are. So, sometimes people get upset and think they're getting snubbed when they aren't. I get irritated by this when this happens, especially since I tell them. But ehh, not much I can do about it. Either you accept this when you write with me or you don't bother. And if you pester me while it's happening, I guarantee you that you'll only trigger a melt down and thus a drop.