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Question: What happens to Ngotho after he attacks Jacobo at a workers' strike?

Read the following text and answer briefly.

Context 1: Weep Not, Child is a 1964 novel by Kenyan author Ngũgĩ wa Thiong'o  It was his first novel, published in 1964 under the name James Ngugi  It was among the African Writers Series  It was the first English language|English novel to be published by an East African  Thiong'o's works deal with the relationship between Africans and white settlers in colonial Kenya, and are heavily critical of colonial rule  Specifically, Weep Not, Child deals with the Mau Mau Uprising, and "the bewildering dispossession of an entire people from their ancestral land " Ngũgĩ wrote the novel while he was a student at Makerere University 

The book is divided into two parts and eighteen chapters  Part one deals mostly with the education of Njoroge, while part two deals with the rising Mau Mau movement 

Plot summary

Njoroge, a little boy, is urged to attend school by his mother  He is the first one of his family able to go to school  His family lives on the land of Jacobo, an African made rich by his dealings with white settlers, namely Mr  Howlands, the most powerful land owner in the area  Njoroge's brother Kamau works as an apprentice to a carpenter, while Boro, the eldest living son, is troubled by his experiences while in forced service during World War II, including witnessing the death of his elder brother  Ngotho, Njoroge's father and a respected man in the surrounding area, tends Mr  Howlands' crops, but is motivated by his passion to preserve his ancestral land, rather than for any compensation or loyalty 

One day, black workers call for a strike to obtain higher wages  Ngotho is ambivalent about participating in the strike because he fears he will lose his job  However, he decides to go to the gathering, even though his two wives do not agree  At the demonstration, there are calls for higher wages  Suddenly, the white police inspector brings Jacobo to the gathering to pacify the native people  Jacobo tries to put an end to the strike  Ngotho attacks Jacobo, and the result is a riot where two people are killed  Jacobo survives and swears revenge  Ngotho loses his job and Njoroge’s family is forced to move  Njoroge’s brothers fund his education and seem to lose respect for their father 

Mwihaki, Jacobo's daughter and Njoroge's best friend, enters a girls' only boarding school, leaving Njoroge relatively alone  He reflects upon her leaving, and realizes that he was embarrassed by his father's actions towards Jacobo  For this reason, Njoroge is not upset by her exit and their separation  Njoroge switches to another school 

For a time, everyone's attention is focused on the upcoming trial of Jomo Kenyatta – a revered leader of the movement  Many blacks think that he is going to bring forth Kenya’s independence  But Jomo loses the trial and is imprisoned  This results in further protests and greater suppression of the black population 

Jacobo and a white landowner, Mr  Howlands, fight against the rising activities of the Mau Mau, an organization striving for Kenyan economic, political, and cultural independence  Jacobo accuses Ngotho of being the leader of the Mau Mau and tries to imprison the whole family  Meanwhile, the situation in the country is deteriorating  Six black men are taken out of their houses and executed in the woods 

One day Njoroge meets Mwihaki again, who has returned from boarding school  Although Njoroge had planned to avoid her due to the conflict between their fathers, their friendship is unaffected  Njoroge passes an important exam that allows him to advance to High School  His village is proud of him, and collects money to pay Njoroge's High School tuition 

Several months later, Jacobo is murdered in his office by a member of the Mau Mau  Mr  Howlands has Njoroge removed from school for questioning  Both father and son are brutally beaten before release and Ngotho is left barely alive  Although there doesn't seem to be a connection between Njoroge's family and the murder, it is eventually revealed that Njoroge's brothers are behind the assassination, and that Boro is the real leader of the Mau Mau  Ngotho soon dies from his injuries and Njoroge finds out that his father was protecting his brothers  Kamau has been imprisoned for life  Only Njoroge and his two mothers remain free, and Njoroge is left as the sole provider of his two mothers  Njoroge fears that he cannot make ends meet; he gives up hope of continuing in school and loses faith in God 

Njoroge asks Mwihaki's for support, but she is angry because of her father’s death  When he finally pledges his love to her, she refuses to leave with him, realizing her obligation to Kenya and her mother  Njoroge decides to leave town and makes an attempt at suicide; however, he fails when his mothers find him before he is able to hang himself  The novel closes with Njoroge feeling hopeless, and ashamed of cowardice 

Characters in Weep Not, Child
 Njoroge: the main character of the book whose main goal throughout the book is to become as educated as possible 
 Ngotho: Njoroge's father  He works for Mr Howlands and is respected by him until he attacks Jacobo at a workers strike  He is fired and the family is forced to move to another section of the country  Over the course of the book his position as the central power of the family weakened, to the point where his self-realization that he has spent his whole life waiting for the prophecy (that proclaims the blacks will be returned their land) to come true rather than fighting for Kenyan independence, leads to his depression 
 Nyokabi and Njeri: the two wives of Ngotho  Njeri is Ngotho's first wife, and mother of Boro, Kamau, and Kori  Nyokabi is his second wife, and the mother of Njoroge and Mwangi 
 Njoroge has four brothers: Boro, Kamau, Kori and Mwangi (who is Njoroge's only full brother, who died in World War II) 
 Boro: Son of Njeri who fights for the Allies in World War II  Upon returning his anger against the colonial government is compounded by their confiscation of the his land  Boro's anger and position as eldest son leads him to question and ridicule Ngotho, which eventually defeats their father's will (upon realizing his life was wasted waiting and not acting)  It is eventually revealed that Boro is the leader of the Mau Mau (earlier alluded to as "entering politics") and murders Mr Howlands  He is caught by police immediately after and is scheduled to be executed by the book's end  It is highly likely that it is also Boro who kills Jacobo 
 Mwihaki: Njoroge's best friend (and later develops into his love interest)  Daughter of Jacobo  When it is revealed that his family killed Jacobo (most likely Boro), Mwihaki distances herself from Njoroge, asking for time to mourn her father and care for her mother 
 Jacobo: Mwihaki's father and an important landowner  Chief of the village 
 Mr  Howlands: A white settler who emigrated to colonial Kenya and now owns a farm made up of land that originally belonged to Ngotho's ancestors  Has three children: Peter who died in World War II before the book's beginning, a daughter who becomes a missionary, and Stephen who met Njoroge while the two were in high school 

Themes and motifs
Weep Not, Child integrates Gikuyu mythology and the ideology of nationalism that serves as catalyst for much of the novel's action  The novel explores the negative aspects of colonial rule over Kenya  Njoroge's aspiration to attend university is frustrated by both the violence of the Mau Mau rebels and the violent response of the colonial government  This disappointment leads to his alienation from his family and ultimately his suicide attempt 

The novel also ponders the role of saviours and salvation  The author notes in his The River Between: "Salvation shall come from the hills  From the blood that flows in me, I say from the same tree, a son shall rise  And his duty shall be to lead and save the people " Jomo Kenyatta, the first prime minister of Kenya, is immortalised in Weep Not, Child  The author says, "Jomo had been his (Ngotho's) hope  Ngotho had come to think that it was Jomo who would drive away the white man  To him, Jomo stood for custom and traditions purified by grace of learning and much travel " Njoroge comes to view Jomo as a messiah who will win the struggle against the colonial government 

See also

Things Fall Apart
Death and the King's Horseman

References

External links
Official homepage of Ngũgĩ wa Thiong'o
BBC profile of Ngũgĩ wa Thiong'o
Weep Not, Child at Google Books

British Empire in fiction
Novels set in colonial Africa
Historical novels
Kenyan English-language novels
Novels by Ngũgĩ wa Thiong'o
Novels set in Kenya
1964 novels
Heinemann (publisher) books
Postcolonial novels
African Writers Series
1964 debut novels
Context 2: Rokebye, Ralph of Yorks, arm  Gloucester Hall, matric  9 Nov , 1582, aged 15; student of Lincoln's Inn 1585  See Foster's Inns of Court Register 
Rokebye, Ralph of Herts (? Yorks), gent  Broadgates Hall, matric  entry 28 Feb , 1589-90, aged 14  See pedigree in Foster's Yorkshire Collection 
Rokeby, William (brother of Sir Richard, treasurer of Ireland, son of John, of Thundercliffe Grange, Yorks), fellow of King's Hall, Cambridge, D Can L ; rector of Sandal 1487, and of Halifax, Yorks, 1502, rector of Fakenham, Norfolk, 1496, chancellor of Ireland 1498, and 1515, bishop of Meath, and privy councillor 1507, archbishop of Dublin 1512, archdeacon of Surrey 1520, until his death 29 Nov , 1521  See Ath  ii  717; Cotton, i  25; & Lansdowne MS  979, ff  4, 6 
Rolfe, Augustine (Rolfus) M A  from Queen's Coll , Cambridge, 1595; incorporated 10 July, 1599 
Rolf, Richard B A  from Emanuel Coll , Cambridge, 1584-5 (incorporated 11 July, 1585); M A  1588  See Foster's Graduati Cantab 
Rolfe, William cler  fil  New Coll , matric  10 March, 1656-7, B A  1660, fellow, M A  14 Jan , 1663-4; rector of Brampton 1668, and of Stoke Bruern, Northants, 1676, until his death, buried (at Stoke Bruern) 6 Sept , 1693  See Baker's Northants, i  86 
Rolfe, William s  William, of Stoke-Bruern, Northants, cler  Brasenose Coll  7 July, 1688, aged 16; student of Inner Temple 1692, buried in the Temple church 1 March, 1692-3  See Foster's Inns of Court Reg 
Rolle, Denis youngest son John, of Steventon, Devon, equitis  Exeter Coll , matric  15 Feb , 1666-7, aged 17; brother of John same date 
Rolle, Denis s  D , of Heanton, Devon, arm  Exeter Coll  matric  24 Oct , 1687, aged 17; B A  1691, M A  1694 (as Denys), rector of Merton, Devon, 1696  See Samuel 1687, & Foster's Index Ecclesiasticus 
Rolle, (Sir) Henry of Devon, arm  fil  Broadgates Hall, matric  14 June, 1594, aged 18; student of Middle Temple 1597 (as son and heir of Henry, of Steventon, Devon, esq ), knighted 23 July, 1603, died in 1617  See Foster's Inns of Court Reg 
Rolle, Henry of Devon, arm  Exeter Coll , matric  20 March, 1606-7, aged 17; bar -at-law, Inner Temple, 1618, bencher 1633 (2s  Robert, of Heanton, Devon), M P  Callington 1621-2, 1624-5, Truro 1625-1626, 1628-9, serjeant-at-law 1640, recorder of Dorchester 1636, a judge of king's bench 1645, chief justice of upper bench 1648-55, died 30 July, 1656, buried in Shapwick church, Somerset; brother of Samuel 1605  See Ath  iii  416; & Foster's Judges and Barristers 
Rolle, Henry s  Alex , of Tavistock, Devon, gent  Christ Church, matric  23 March, 1696-7, aged 17 
Rolle, John of Devon, arm  Exeter Coll , matric  30 May, 1589, aged 15; B A  8 Feb , 1592-3, M A  25 May, 1596 
Rolle, John 1s  John, of Steventon, Devon, equitis  Exeter Coll , matric  15 Feb , 1666-7, aged 18; of Bicton, Devon; died in his father's lifetime, buried at Bicton 22 April, 1689; brother of Denis 1667, and father of Denis 1698 
Rolle, Richard s  Richard, of Cookeburye, Devon, gent  New Inn Hall, matric  26 Sept , 1634, aged 18; B A  from Jesus Coll , Cambridge, 1638, incorporated from Gloucester Hall 17 Dec , 1639, M A  2 July, 1642, rector of Sheviocke, Cornwall, 1656; father of the next-named  See Foster's Index Eccl 
Rolle, Richard s  R , of Sheviock, Cornwall, cler  St  Alban Hall, matric  3 July, 1674, aged 17; B A  1678 
Rolle, Robert (Rooles or Roales) fellow New Coll  1551-60 from Mark Lane, city of London, B A  26 June, 1555, M A  26 July, 1560, B D  22 Jan , 1572-3, D D  June, 1585, a teacher in Westminster school; perhaps canon of Combe (4) in Wells, 1574, and rector of Stoke Climsland, Devon, 1574  See O H S  i  345; & Foster's Index Eccl 
Rolle, Samuel s  Denis, of Great Torrington, Devon, arm  Exeter Coll , matric  16 July, 1687, aged 18, B A  1691; bar -at-law Middle Temple 1697; M P  Barnstaple 1705, died 1747; see Denis 1687  See Foster's Judges and Barristers 
Rolle, William B C L  14 July, 1528; perhaps vicar of Yarncombe, Devon, 1536  See Foster's Index Ecclesiasticus 
Rolles, Gabriel (Rooles) B A  from St  John's Coll , Cambridge, 1610-11, M A  1614; incorporated 13 July, 1619, rector of East Locking, Berks, 1620, as Rolle  See Foster's Graduati Cantab 
Rolles, Richard gent  Jesus Coll , matric  1 March, 1632-3, B A  next day, M A  15 Oct , 1635; perhaps created B D  20 Dec  1642, "ex regis gratia," rector of Wavendon, Bucks, and of Witham, Essex, 1646, by the Westminster assembly  See Add  MS  15,670, p  70 
Rolles, William s  Richard, of Lewknor, Oxon, gent  St  John's Coll , matrie  12 March, 1637-8, aged 17, B A  9 Nov , 1641, M A  6 July, 1644; B D  from Jesus Coll  12 Sept , 1661, rector of Wheatfield, Oxon, 1660, and of Chalfont St  Giles, Bucks, 1662  See Foster's Index Eccl 
Rolles, William created M A  from Exeter Coll  14 April, 1648 
Rolleston, Simon created M A  31 Aug , 1636 
Rolleston, Thomas of Devon, gent  Wadham Coll , matric  12 May, 1620, aged 16 
Rollinson, Francis 1584  See Rallinson 
Rollinson, William s  "Jose," of London, gent  St  John's Coll , matric  7 March, 1694-5, aged 15; perhaps brother of John Rawlinson, of New Coll  1692  See page 1236 
Rolt, Edward youngest son of Tho , of London, equitis  Merton Coll , matric  7 Nov , 1701, aged 15; of Sacomb, Herts, and Chippenham, Wilts, student of Lincoln's Inn, 1702, M P  St  Mawes 1713, Grantham 1715-22, Chippenham 1722; died 22 Dec , 1722; his father knighted 1 Oct , 1682, and died 9 Sept , 1710  See Foster's Parliamentary Dictionary 
Rolte, George s  Thomas, of St  Margarets par  Darenth, Kent, pleb  St  Alban Hall, matric  17 June, 1631, aged 18; B A  20 June, 1631, M A  29 April, 1634, incorporated at Cambridge 1639 
Romane, Edmund pleb  Balliol Coll , matric  20 Feb , 1627-8, aged 18; B A  next day, M A  3 June, 1630 
Romaine, Matthew pleb  Balliol Coll , matric  10 June, 1630, B A  same day, M A  14 May, 1633, vicar of Stoke Gaylard, Dorset, 1639; father of the next  See Foster's Index Eccl 
Romayne, Thomas s  Matth , of Stoke Gaylard, Dorset, minister  Wadham Coll , matric  17 July, 1669, aged 17; B A  from Hart Hall 1673, "the intruded" rector of Stoke Gaylard 1675  See Foster's Index Eccl 
Romayne, William (Ronayne) gent  Trinity Coll , matric  31 July, 1671, aged 16 
Rome, Harcourt s  William, of London, p p  Brasenose Coll , matric  13 Dec , 1672, aged 17 
Rome, William s  G  (? "Gul "), of Northampton (city), pleb  Brasenose Coll , matric  11 Dec , 1684, aged 16 
Romney, Joseph B A  from Emanuel Coll , Cambridge, 1610-11, M A  1614; incorporated 8 July, 1614, student of Inner Temple 1610, as of London, gent  See Foster's Inns of Court Reg 
Rone, John s  Randolph, of Hanmer, Flints, pleb  Brasenose Coll , matric  10 Oct , 1634, aged 18; D D  Trinity Coll , Dublin, 25 Jan , 1666 (as Roane), vicar of Hanmer, Flints, 1644, ejected same year, dean of Clogher 1667, bishop of Killaloe 1675, until his death 5 Sept , 1692  See Cotton's Fasti Ecc  Hib  i  467 
Rone, William of New Coll  1661  See Roane 
Roode, Edward (or Rode) B A  21 July, 1522, M A  26 Nov , 1534; perhaps canon of Southwell 1561-73 
Roode, Edward cler  fil  Merton Coll , matric  22 Nov , 1650; Eton postmaster 1649, fellow 1651, B A  2 March, 1651-2, M A  14 Dec , 1655; incorporated at Cambridge 1657, and LL D  1671; vicar of Gamlingay, co  Cambridge, rector of one moiety 1661, and of the other 1677; died at Cambridge 1689  See Burrows, 525; & O H S  iv  292 
Roode, Onesiphorus s  Edward, of Thame, Oxon, sacerd  New Inn Hall, matric  27 Oct , 1637, aged 16, B A  1 July, 1641; incorporated at Cambridge 1645; chaplain to the house of lords after the expulsion of the bishops; minister of New chapel, Tuttle-Fields, Westminster, 1648, until ejected in 1660  See Calamy, i  195 
Rood, Richard M A  from Pembroke Coll  5 Dec , 1634 
Rooke, John s  Tho , of Broadwell, co  Gloucester, pleb  Pembroke Coll , matric  1 March, 1683-4, aged 17; brother of Thomas 1693 
Rooke, John s  Tho , of Whitchurch, Wilts, gent  Balliol Coll , matric  14 Jan , 1713-14, aged 17 
Rooke, Nicholas s  Arthur, of Totnes, Devon, gent  Exeter Coll , matric  10 March, 1670-1, aged 16; B A  1674, M A  1677, rector of Dartington, Devon, 1679  See Foster's Index Eccl 
Rooke, Robert "ser " Oriel Coll , matric  1 April, 1656, B A  1659 
Rooke, Robert s  R , p p  St  Alban Hall, matric  30 March, 1677, aged 17 
Rooke, Thomas pleb  Christ Church, matric  3 May, 1659 
Rooke, William (Roock) of Dorset, pleb  Brasenose Coll , matric  entry under date 20 March, 1578-9, aged 19; B A  from St  Alban Hall 30 Jan , 1582-3, M A  9 May, 1586 
Rooke, William of Dorset, gent  New Coll , matric  12 July, 1605, aged 18; B A  21 Feb , 1608-9, chaplain, M A  16 Dec , 1611, rector of North Cheriton, Somerset, 1618  See Foster's Index Eccl 
Rooke, William s  J , of Workington, Cumberland, p p  Queen's Coll , matric  22 Oct , 1669, aged 17; B A  1674, M A  1677, B D  1690, vicar of Plumstead, Kent, 1691, and rector of Hadley, Hants, 1695  See Foster's Index Eccl 
Rookes, Christopher (Rokys or Rokkis) B A  8 July, 1522, M
Context 3: My Aspergers Child: COMMENTS & QUESTIONS [for Feb , 2017]
I emailed you a while back and you mentioned that I could email when I needed to  Thank you  I last wrote you in December that my son became involved in a dispute involving the local police  We have had 3 court dates  It keeps delaying due to not being able to come to an agreement  But the attorney, even though he was just vaguely familiar with Aspergers, has been very good with Craig  He has the compassion and excellence that is needed here  What started out very bad is turning into a good thing  It will probably take another 90 days or more 
But Craig is working hard  Too hard sometimes  He goes to therapy 3 times a week  Doing excellent  He's more focused and can calm down easier  He's got a lot on his plate but has support from his family  From his attorney  From therapy  And from his work 
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He is going to have an evaluation today to get an accurate diagnosis  I understand that is a little difficult since he is an adult  Also the PTSD may cover it over  The attorney stated it would help to have the diagnosis 
Aware this is a long update, but thanks for reading  I am fighting much guilt still but I have a lot of peace now  My daughter and her 4 year old son also have Aspergers symptoms  So my life chapters may not close for a while  :-)
My name is Mac  I'm sure you're quite busy, so I'll get right to it I just wanted to pass on compliments on My Aspergers Child and your post, How to Implement the GFCF Diet: Tips for Parents of Autistic Children 
Me and my wife absolutely loved it!
I got a facebook message from him today begging to be able to come home saying he misses home and he will change  He says he will follow rules now  I stated to him the simple rules he has to follow which were - No weed in my house, or smoked in my house, coming home at curfew, going to school, no skipping, no drugs at school, and to drop the attitude of I am 17 I can do whatever I want 
I have made it very clear that if I see any drugs in my home I will be calling the police, as well as if I see signs of it being sold by him I will report him  (He has never had selling amounts in my house,     I believe it's being kept at his "friends" which of course I have no proof of    I just know it is not here 
I know my battle is not over by a long shot, I am sure we will have more consequences and possibly another being kicked out, but I am going to think positive and hope that he learned some form of a valuable lesson here 
Thank you so much for the guidance, never in a million years did I ever think I'd be on this side, (the one needing the help, as I am the one who helps )
I am going to go back to the start of the program like I said earlier and keep notes close by for reference 
Thanks for all you do, helping us all with ODD children/teens
I have a small company providing educational support services to a few families who have children with various disabilities in Ohio  One of the families has multiple adopted children of whom several have significant attachment disorders including RAD  As an experienced teacher and foster parent I have some experience in working with children who have extensive trauma backgrounds  However, I could use additional training  Also working with these children are two staff members with minimal background in attachment disorders who would also benefit from training primarily in behavior management  The primary caregiver to the children does a wonderful job managing their needs  In order to further develop team cohesion, I'm hoping to include her in any training as well 
Is it possible to schedule such a training session with you? If so, please let us know what will work for you including time, place, and cost  Thank you for your assistance 
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I am having a problem with my 18 year old son, Danny, with high functioning autism  We finally had him diagnosed when he was 16 years old  I always knew something was going on with him but the doctors misdiagnosed him as bipolar  It's been 2 years now and he will not accept his diagnosis  He won't talk about it and when I try to bring it up he gets very angry  I've tried telling him that it's not a bad thing, that there's been many, many very successful people with Aspergers  He won't tell anyone and refuses to learn about managing life with it  He once shared with me that the other kids at school use it as an insult, like saying someone is so autistic when they do something they don't approve of  So he doesn't want anyone to know  He's turned down services that could help him  He has a girlfriend, going on 8 months  He won't tell her and they're having problems arguing a lot and I wonder if it would help for her to know 
I'm sad that he thinks it's a life sentence to something horrible instead of accepting, embracing it and learning about it more so he maybe can understand why he's struggling  I told him that he doesn't need to shout it out to the whole world but he won't even accept it himself 
I don't know how to help him with it and because he's almost 19 I have limited control now  It's made my life easier knowing what we're dealing with and I think his life would be easier is he accepted it 
Please help me help him 
I am a clinical psychologist in NYC who now has several (!!) children I see who have RAD  In 20 years of practice, I’d seen only one case  Now, I have at least three children with this  I have no training, per se, in working with this children though I know about setting structure, consistency, etc  I do a lot of work with parents about parenting  I work primarily within the school setting in a charter school whose mission is to educate children on the autism spectrum in a mainstream setting  We use Michelle Garcia Winner’s social thinking program with our ASD kids  I also work with gen ed kids in the school who are at-risk; the school is in the inner city from where the majority of our non-ASD kids live 
It would have been so much easier to mention to my adult son that I think (I know he does, but want to ease into the subject)
he has Asperger's when we were living together two years ago  He has since moved to Tennessee working in his field of interest
which is 3-D printing and software development  I am so happy for him that he has found his way into a job that he truly enjoys
even though he's socially isolated 
He's not diagnosed and does not know he has it  How I know is his classic symptoms being sensory issues (fabric feeling like sandpaper)
communication difficulties, meltdowns and much more  Throughout his childhood I just felt he was a bit different  Nothing major stood out and time
just passes, misdiagnosis of ADHD, low frustration, etc  We've talked about his ADHD numerous times (which I now know he doesn't have) 
It's so much easier to communicate with him now that I know he has Asperger's  I keep it "slow and low" in talking, with long moments
of silence and then we connect  It's really too bad that Asperger's got a diagnostic code back in the 90's, yet all the so called doctors,
physiologist's, etc, didn't know how to diagnose it  Too bad 
There seems to be no one answer to "should I tell my adult son he has Asperger's" from a few specialists I asked  He is typical Asperger,
complicated, highly intelligent (high IQ), anxiety at times, socially isolated, hard to make friends  Not knowing how he will react is the hard part 
How will he be better off knowing he has it? Do I wait to tell him in person, or ease into it with him over Skype? He likes direct, honest, concrete communication 
Why is this so hard for me? Maybe because no one know's if he is going to be better off knowing or not  Do you know if people are better off
knowing? I try to get up the courage to just let him know, then I back down 
I have been searching the web looking for advice and came upon your site  I am trying to read blogs, websites, books, and articles to help guide me  I was so happy when you said that I could ask you a question  My husband and I are struggling with my 27 year old son who lives with us 
Kyle is the youngest of 4 sons  He is a college graduate but never could find the "right" job  He has always been quiet and never had a lot of friends  Two years ago, his girlfriend broke up with him  Kyle had an online gambling addiction and was using pot all the time  After the breakup, Kyle was very depressed and started using heroin and finally told my husband he was using  He is now seeing a psychiatrist who has him on suboxone and antidepressants  He is also seeing a psychologist weekly for counseling but it does not seem to be helping 
Last October,, Kyle lost his job, got drunk, and was agitated and came home , fighting with us, damaging our home and being verbally abusive  My other son , age 32, who also lives with us called the police and Kyle got arrested  He is currently in the family court system  He went through an anger management course and now is in substance abuse classes  Kyle continues to verbally abusive to me and blame me for everything  He says he "hates me "and calls me terrible names  At times, he pushes my husband and intimidates me  My husband and I are so upset  We just hired an attorney for him because since he has been going to these classes, he is getting more depressed and not getting better  Kyle continues to drink while taking his meds prescribed by the psychiatrist and then he has his "moods " My husband and I have met once with the psychiatrist just to give him background information when Kyle started with him 
At this point, we do not know what to do  We never thought at this stage of our life, we would be supporting and spending our retirement money on adult children  I do not know why Kyle hates me, I could not have been a better mom  My husband and I have no life and just do not know what it the right path we should take  Kyle does not want anything to do with us  He spends all his time in his room playing football online We have tried tough love versus caring and love and understanding  Do you have any advice for me?
This whole ODD and ADHD is killing me as a parent  I work in the field of adult psych and addictions so I am well educated  I have been dealing with my teen being like this for almost 3 years and I totally lost my cool today with my 17-year-old son to the point I told him he is out of the house  He can never simple rules, comes and goes as he pleases sometimes doesn't come home, just recently back in school from several suspension for drug related    I am just so exhausted  He has made me hate life, hate being a parent and sometimes I just feel like not even being here  I bought your program in hopes to it would help, I am at week three and I feel things are getting worse    what am I doing wrong??
My partner hasn't been diagnosed yet but I know he has aspergers 



ground_truth: After attacking Jacobo at a workers' strike, Ngotho loses his job and Njoroge's family is forced to move.

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Question: Who was Ralph Rokebye's brother?

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Context 2: A  1 July, 1527, B D  supd  Oct , 1540; principal of Magdalen Hall 1529-32, vicar of Stanstead Abbots, Herts, 1534  See Foster's Index Eccl 
Rookes, Jonas B A  from Magdalen Hall 24 April, 1599, M A  11 Feb , 1601-2 (2s  William, of Roydes Hall); vicar of Penistone, Yorks, 1619, see Foster's Index Eccl ; styled fellow and bursar of University Coll  in Foster's Yorkshire Collection, possibly brother of the next-named 
Rookes, Robert of Yorks, pleb  Magdalen Hall, matric  14 May, 1602, aged 19; possibly brother of the last-named 
Ro(o)kes, William demy Magdalen Coll  1544, B A  supd  1551, fellow 1552-71, M A  27 April, 1556, B Med  supd  24 April, 1561  See Bloxam, iv  99 
Rookes, William s  William, of Rhodes Hall, Yorks, gent  University Coll , matric  30 June, 1665, aged 16; died at Oxford in 1667 
Roope, Ambrose s  A , of Dartmouth Parva, Devon, arm  Exeter Coll , matric  15 March, 1671-2, aged 16 
Roope, George s  Ant , of Bradford, Wilts, gent  Hart Hall, matric  10 Oct , 1702, aged 15 
Roope, John s  Nicholas, of Dartmouth, Devon, gent  Exeter Coll , matric  17 Nov , 1637, aged 15; student of Lincoln's Inn 1638  See Foster's Inns of Court Reg 
Roope, Nicholas of Devon, gent  Broadgates Hall, matric  6 Feb , 1606-7, aged 18; B A  6 Nov , 1610; probably father of the last-named 
Rooper, Thomas s  T , of London, gent  Trinity Coll , matric  9 July, 1699, aged 16; B A  1703, M A  19 Feb , 1705-6, as Roper 
Rooper, William of St  Alban Hall 1667  See Roper 
Roos, Brian D Can L  or doctor of decrees of the university of Valentia; incorporated 3 Feb , 1510-11; died 1529, buried in the church of Chelray  See Fasti, i  31 
Root, Isaac pleb  St  John's Coll , matric  2 July, 1658, admitted to Merchant Taylors' school 1649 (only son of Isaac, merchant taylor); born in Trinity parish 20 Aug , 1641  See Robinson, i  193 
Roots, Richard s  Tho , of Tunbridge, Kent, gent  St  John's Coll , matric  26 Dec , 1689, aged 15; demy Magdalen Coll  1690-1702, B A  1693, M A  1696, rector of Chilmarck, Wilts, 1702-27, canon of Sarum 1722, rector and vicar of Bishopstone, Wilts, 1728; brother of William 1699  See Rawl  iii  447, and xix  90; Bloxam, vi  111; & Foster's Index Eccl 
Roots, Thomas of Sussex, pleb  Magdalen Hall, matric  entry 17 Nov , 1581, aged 13; B A  supd  1 July, 1584, bar -at-law, Lincoln's Inn, 1594  See Foster's Judges and Barristers 
Rootes, Thomas s  William, of Tunbridge, Kent, pleb  St  John's Coll , matric  31 Jan , 1628-9, aged 23; B A  12 Feb , 1628-9, vicar of Long Stanton All Saints, co  Cambridge, 1630  See Add  MSS  15,669-70; & Foster's Index Eccl 
Rootes, Thomas pleb  St  John's Coll , matric  2 July, 1658; B A  1661, M A  1666; possibly father of Richard 1689, and William 1699 
Roots, William s  Tho , of Tunbridge, Kent, gent  Christ Church, matric  16 March, 1698-9, aged 18; B A  1704; clerk Magdalen Coll  1705-11, M A  1707, rector of Little Berkhampstead, Herts, 1714; brother of Richard 1689  See Bloxam, ii  85; & Foster's Index Eccl 
Roper, Francis s  Robert, of Trimdon, co  Durham, gent  Corpus Christi Coll , matric  16 Dec , 1661, aged 18; probably identical with Francis, son of Robert, of Kelloe, co  Durham, farmer, was admitted sizar of St  John's Coll , Cambridge, 21 Sept , 1658, aged 16; fellow, B A  1662-3, M A  1666, B D  1673, vicar of Waterbeach, co  Cambridge, 1678, canon of Ely 1686-90, rector of Northwold, Norfolk, 1687, died 13 April, 1719  See Mayor, 138; Surtees' Durham, i  107; & Foster's Index Eccl 
Roper, John (or Rooper) demy Magdalen Coll , from Berks, M A  fellow, 1483, D D  disp  27 June, 1506, (first) Margaret professor of divinity, 1500, vice-chancellor of the university 1505, and 1511, principal of Salesurry and George Hall, rector of Witney, Oxon, 1493, vicar of St  Mary's church, Oxford, canon of Cardinal Coll  1532; died May, 1534  See Ath  i  76; & Landsowne MS  979, f  118 
Roper, John B A  disp  4 July, 1512 
Roper, Thomas of Trinity Coll  1699  See Rooper 
Roper, Philip of Kent, arm  Gloucester Hall, matric  7 Sept , 1588, aged 15 (subscribes Rooper) 
Roper, William (subscribes Rooper) of co  Hereford, militis fil  St  Alban Hall, matric  entry dated 5 June, 1607, aged 13; probably of Malmains, Kent, 2nd son of Sir Christopher Roper, afterwards 2nd baron Teynham  See Foster's Peerage 
Roscarrock, Henry of Cornwall, arm  Hart Hall, matric  entry under date 17 Dec , 1576, aged 21; probably son of Thomas, of Roscarrock, and brother of the next, and of Richard 1581 
Roscarrock, John B A  11 Feb , 1576-7; perhaps from Exeter Coll  (and 1s  Thomas, of Roscarrock, Cornwall); died 24 Nov , 1608; brother of Henry and Richard  See O H S  xii  65 
Roscarrock, Nicolas (Roiscariot) B A  supd  3 May, 1568, student Inner Temple 1571, as of Roscarrock, Cornwall  See Foster's Inns of Court Reg 
Roscarrock, Richard of Cornwall, arm  Broadgates Hall, matric  entry under date circa 1581, aged 19; student of Middle Temple 1583 (as 3s  Thomas, of Roscarrock, Cornwall, esq ), brother of Henry and John  See Foster's Inns of Court Reg 
Rosdell, Christopher of Yorks, pleb  St  Edmund Hall, matric  entry under date 22 Dec , 1576, aged 22, B A  4 July, 1576; rector of St  Bennet Sherehog, London, 1579, and vicar of Somerton, Somerset, 1582  See Foster's Index Eccl 
Rose, Christopher s  John, of Marlow, Bucks, gent  Christ Church, matric  13 Feb , 1622-3, aged 21, B A  same day; rector of Hutton, Essex, 1642  See Foster's Index Ecclesiasticus 
Rose, Christopher s  Giles, of Lynn Regis, Norfolk, gent  Lincoln Coll , matric  8 July, 1670, aged 15; student of Gray's Inn, 1673  See Foster's Gray's Inn Register 
Rose, Gilbert Augustinian Canon, B D  supd  22 May, 1512, and supd  12 Dec , 1519, for incorporation as D D 
Rose, Henry "ser " Lincoln Coll , matric  22 July, 1658, B A  16 Jan , 1660-1, fellow 1662 from Pirton, Oxon, M A  1663 (incorporated at Cambridge 1688), B D  1672; minister of All Saints, Oxford, but running much into debt, and marrying beneath himself, left his fellowship and church about 1674, retired to London, and at length to Ireland  See Ath  iv  561 
Rose, Hugh s  "Dav  Ni " (Nigg 4to ), of Ross, Scotland, p p  (subs  pleb )  Balliol Coll , matric  3 April, 1707, aged 20; B A  1709 
Rose, John B A  8 June, 1519, fellow Merton Coll  1523, M A  31 March, 1525; one of these names vicar of Shoreham, Kent, 1536  See Foster's Index Ecclesiasticus 
Rose, John of co  Leicester, pleb  Merton Coll , matric  24 Nov , 1581, aged 21 
Rose, John s  Jeremy, of Swell, co  Gloucester, pleb  Corpus Christi Coll , matric  12 Dec , 1623, aged 15; B A  4 July, 1626 
Rose, John s  Rich , of Halberton, Devon, gent  Exeter Coll , matric  14 May, 1688, aged 17 
Rose, John s  J , of West Derby, co  Lancaster, pleb  University Coll , matric  7 March, 1712-13, aged 18, B A  1716; rector of Bilborough, Notts, 1722  See Foster's Index Eccl 
Rose, Jonathan s  Th , of Mickleton, co  Gloucester, pleb  St  Alban Hall, matric  16 May, 1677, aged 18; B A  9 Feb , 1680-1 
Rose, Joseph s  Thomas, of Sturminster Newton, Dorset, pleb  Oriel Coll , matric  12 Dec , 1623, aged 19 
Rose, Richard B A  from Exeter Coll  14 June, 1621; perhaps student of Middle Temple 1622 (as son and heir of John, of Lyme, Dorset, gent ), and M P  Lyme Regis April-May, 1640, 1640 (l p ), till his death after 1648  See Foster's Inns of Court Reg  & Foster's Parliamentary Dictionary 
Rose, Richard arm  Exeter Coll , matric  29 March, 1656; student of Lincoln's Inn 1659, as 4s  Richard, of Wootton Fitzwarren, Dorset, esq  See Foster's Inns of Court Reg 
Rose, Richard s  Richard, of Monks Kirby, co  Warwick, pleb  Magdalen Coll , matric  3 May, 1672, aged 16 (as Rosse); chorister 1670-6  See Bloxam, i  95 
Rose, Richard s  R(ichard), of Wyng, Bucks, gent  Trinity Coll , matric  7 May, 1680, aged 16; bar -at-law, Inner Temple, 1699  See Foster's Judges and Barristers 
Rose, Stephen of co  Gloucester, pleb  Corpus Christi Coll , matric  21 Jan , 1619-20, aged 16; B A  13 Nov , 1621, M A  2 July, 1625, vicar of Aldermaston 1627, and rector of Barkham 1633, and of Arborfield, Berks, 1640, and perhaps of Hartley Mawditt, Hants, 1652  See Foster's Index Ecclesiasticus 
Rose, Stephen "ser " Lincoln Coll , matric  19 Nov , 1650 
Rose, Stephen "servi  fil " Magdalen Coll , matric  19 Nov , 1650 (subscribes "serv ") 
Rose, Stephen "ser " Magdalen Coll , subscribed 23 Nov , 1655; B A  from Wadham Coll  1659, vicar of Cold Overton, co  Leicester, 1662-3, and rector of Woolhampton, Berks, 1667-95, father of Temple  See Foster's Index Eccl 
Rose, Temple s  Step , of Woolhampton, Berks, cler  Trinity Coll , matric  29 March, 1693, aged 17, B A  1696 
Rose, Thomas Minorite, B D  22 June, 1509 
Rose, Thomas of Herts, pleb  Magdalen Hall, matric  10 Oct , 1589, aged 15 
Rose, Thomas s  Seth, of Telscombe, Sussex, sacerd  Oriel Coll , matric  5 June, 1640, aged 18; his father rector of Telscombe 1604, etc  See Foster's Index Eccl 
Rose, Thomas s  Edw , 
Context 3:  day to day is a struggle   I feel I'm going crazy with how he makes me feel Feel let down constantly  He lies alot but I've been told they can't but I know he does I just feel trapped and unloved We have a 4yr old daughter together and my main worry with how he is that it will effect our daughter ; (his skills as a parent are so weak He can't disapline at all Feel so alone  he hides it well too I just wondered if things will get worse? He's angry so quick in arguments Scares me etc I can't leave as he's the main bread winner and our daughter loves him to bits Don't know why I'm writing this  Sorry if I'm going on and not making sense :(
I wanted to let you know about a research opportunity for children, teens, and young adults with autism  I am studying the effects of Brazilian Jiu Jitsu, and psychotherapy on helping people with autism develop subjective awareness of others 
I am writing you to see if this might help someone in your practice, or to see if you might know of someone with autism who may benefit from participating in this study  The requirements of the study will be:
1  A participant should be between 7-21 years of age and have a diagnosis of Autism Spectrum Disorder 
2  The participant should enroll in an approved Jiu Jitsu Academy and attend at least two sessions a week for a period of six months 
3  The participant should enroll in social skills groups, provided by my office or be in a steady psychotherapeutic relationship in your office, at least once a week, or minimally two to three times a month 
4  The participant will be given a SRS (Social Responsiveness Scale) test at the beginning of the study, at three months, and again at six months 
If you know of anyone who might benefit from this novel approach to helping to develop social awareness in autism, please do not hesitate to contact me for further information 
I have a 10 year old daughter who has outbursts with prolonged crying almost like tantrums that 2 year olds have when they cannot express themselves 
I had her in therapy from age 6-8 years old for the same thing but I feel that the sessions didn't really help much 
She has severe sensitivities to light, sound, vibration, frequencies which trigger irritability and crying 
We changed her diet and tried getting her involved with activities but she is anti-social and prefers reading than being social  She is terrified of change even in daily routine (even that will trigger prolonged crying) 
It frustrates me because I don't know what else to do with her behavior 
I've tried acupuncture (she refused at the first session); she refuses massage too 
She is an honor-roll student at school and has very minimal issues at school but if she has had a bad day it does result in a tantrum or crying and defiance 
How can I get her tested for Asperger's Syndrome?
Last night our 24 year old son with Aspergers told his dad and I that he is pulling out of the 4 college classes that he recetnly enrolled in because he has not been attending class or turning in his assignments  He paid $2800 (his own money) for tuition and I reminded him of this when he told us but it did not seem to bother him 
This is the 3rd time he has started college courses and has not completed them  (He also took some concurrent college classes while he was in high school that he failed)  This is a son who basically had a 4 0 grade point average through 10th grade and got a 34 on the ACT the first time he took it 
With the news that he was once again not sticking with college courses I did not sleep well  When I got up this mornning I began looking online for help in how to deal with his situation  I found your "Launching Adult Children With Aspergers" and purchased it  Most of what is included are things we have done or did with our son throughout his life  I was hoping for more help so I am emailing you now in hopes of more specific ideas 
We noticed some things with our son, Taylor, as a yound child but as we had not heard of Aspergers at that time we just did what we thought would help him  As a toddler and a child at pre-school he generally went off on his own to play  When I talked to his pre-school teacher about my concerns (that I was worried he would end up a hermit) she said she did not see him being a loner and that he seemed to interact fine with others in many situations  We worked with him on making eye contact when talking with others  We explained different emotions in people's faces and mannerisms to help him know how to interact with others  We discussed the fact that people would say things that did not mean what they souneded like - such as "I'm so hungry I could eat a horse"  As we did these things he worked hard to better understand communication with others 
During his 4th grade year I had a teacher from the gifted program ask me if I had ever heard of Aspergers  I told her that I had not heard of it  She proceeded to read me some of the charateristics and so many of them described my son  So we had him tested by the school district during the summer between 4th and 5th grade and they did find that he had Aspergers but that he was high functioning  We then set him up with and EIP which stayed with him until his sophomore year  We pulled him from it at that time because we had moved and the new district was requiring him to take one class a day that was a study class  This reduced the number of required classes he could take and he was doing fine with his studies at the time 
It was during the 2nd half of his Junior year that we noticed some of his grades going down  Then during his Senior year is when he started skipping classes and not doing assignments  We had not realized it before then but we soon became aware that he was addicted to gaming  He would go to the library or somewhere else on campus and play games on the computer rather than go to class  It was also at this time that he began lying about his actions (so as not to get in trouble) 
Based on his grades and his ACT score he received offers from colleges for full tuition scholarships  He chose the college where he had taken concurrent classes during his high school years  But he proceeded to skip class and not turn in assignments so he lost his scholarship and quit attending college  During this time he was only able to find employment through an employment agency where he was mostly sent to manuel labor type jobs (which is not something he enjoys but he did it anyway)  It was during this time that at one place had gone to on numerous occasions he was told if he came late one more time they would tell the emplyment agency they did not want him to come there anymore  (This seemed to make an impression on him because he has continued to be reliable and responsbile at his places of employment) 
At 19 1/2 he left to serve a 2 year full-time mission for our church  He completed his mission successfully  (I don't think it was without some struggle, stress and depression, but he was able to pick himself up and move on from those times) 
When he came home he started working for the employment agency again but began looking for employment elsewhere  He got a job at a local Chick Fil-A where he has worked for 3 years  He started college again shortly after he came home but as before it was short lived  He did finish out the semester but failed most of the classes due to his skipping class and not turning in assignments  When he skipped class he would usually sleep in his car 
Taylor's life consists of working (where to the best of our knowledge) he does well, he is reliable and his employer likes him  When he comes home from work he either sleeps or plays video games or other games - such as kakuro  He spendes most of his time in the basement where his bedroom is and this is where he games  Taylor owns his own car, bought his own laptop and very rarely spends money  He pays us $200 /month to still live at home, unloads the dishwasher on a regular basis and does the weekly garbage  However, his room is a mess and he only cleans his bathroom when I tell him he needs to clean it 
Taylor used to read quite a bit and loved to learn  It has just been in his adult years that he has not read as much - I think because of his gaming addiction  Taylor goes to church on a regular basis but sleeps through the main meeting  In Sunday class room settings he stays awake - I think because he is able to particpate in discussions 
Taylor has only had 2 real friends since entering Junior High school  And as of now he only keeps in contact with one of them who still lives in Georgia  We have lived in Utah since the summer of 2007 and he has never had a friend to do things with since we have lived here  He has two younger siblings, a brother 22 and a sister 20  They love Taylor and spend time with him when they are home  They are both at college and doing well 
Throughout Taylor's school years he has seen a counsleor on a fairly regular basis  One summer during junior high he attended a weekly class where he interacted with other kids with Aspergers  We did see a lot of change in him from this group  After he returned from his mission he went to see a counselor for a short period - this counselor tried to help him with some social skills  His dad and I went with him the first 3 or 4 times but we found out that after we quit going with him he only went a few more times and then scheduled appointments but did not show a couple of the times  We only found this out when a bill came for a "no show" appointment 
I don't know if this is too much information but were are in dire need of help for him  In the information that we purchased from you you mentioned that you do coaching for Aspergers adults  I don't know if you can help us but I thought I would check with you just in case 
Alas I think I have found your information too late to save my marriage but I am hoping to save myself 
I am currently going through a very very painful separation after a 27 year relationship with my husband whom I am convinced has aspergers syndrome  It is a long and painful story and I am desperately trying to process it all alongside dealing with a very conflictual separation  My partner is angry non communicative and totally dismissive of me and our long shared history 
He walked out last year after I discovered he had been visiting massage parlours and developed a relationship with an illegal Chinese escourt whom he subsequently moved in with  He had been seeing this woman behind my back for over 18 months  The pain of all this indescribable and his dismissal of my pain and very existence beyond belief 
Leading up to this I had been battling anxiety and depression which my husband found very hard to cope with 
Over the years of our relationship I knew something was off but I just could not put my finger on it  I often felt a complete lack of validation and empathy  Communication was also difficult as my husband was defensive and unwilling to look at issues in our marriage 
Please Mark could you help me validate some of this pain and try and make dense of 27 years of my life without drowning in fear guilt and despair about my future 
Thank you for listening and your site 
I have had problems with drunkenness, being late for school, not handing in school work, buying pot from a dealer etc  I chose to focus on the drinking and did the grounding then (grounding happened 3 times)  I also stopped sleep overs at friends 100%  I have stopped handing out money for no reason or even buying treats like chocolate 
I did lose it one evening (and didn't do the poker face) when I was trying to unplug the internet at midnight on a school night (she’s always late for school so I am trying to get her to sleep at a reasonable hour)  I was physically stopped and pushed around so I slapped my daughter (it was not hard)  This ended up with her saying she didn’t want to come home (the next day after school)  By this stage, I also had enough and didn’t go get her  I thought I am not begging  You will run out of money soon  It was quite a relief to have some peace  Daughter’s Dad was in town (from another country) and called a family meeting with the counsellor  To cut a long story short, daughter and her counsellor put it on the table that daughter wants to go live somewhere else (with her friends family) because of the stress at home with me (we live on our own) (i e  stricter rules and her bucking up against it) 
I didn’t really want this but made a compromise that daughter would go there Tues morning – Friday afternoon as the friend is an A student whereas my daughter is failing  They do the same subjects  I made the decision at the end of the day based on what is good for me – some time away from the daughter  I also thought of your book when the child went to live with the grandparents – daughter will dig her own hole over at the friend’s house  They have a week day no going out policy which made me think it is OK  I went and discussed with them the problems experienced (drinking, pot, late nights, not handing in work)
I am also trying to follow the let go of school thing per your book  I find it really difficult to remain calm when I can see daughter on her phone and watching series (when I have her on the weekends) when I know there are projects due  I hired her a private tutor once a week for help with a subject  The tutor has just fired my daughter for not handing in work and being not committed  It’s not the first time private tutoring has not been appreciated  The school give me a report back on a Friday as to whether everything is handed in  The deal is – if the work is not handed in – no pocket money and no Friday night out)  Her school is a "progressive" school and there are no repercussions for her being late or not handing in work  I would change schools if I could but there are only 8 months left of school (she turns 18 in August) 
We have just completed the first week and beginning week two of your material  We are agreeing with your take and see our son and ourselves in most of what you are saying  Prior to finding your material and starting your program we had been having extreme out of control behaviors and had to call the police because he was breaking things in our house and pushed my husband  This happened three weeks ago  After that incident we took away privileges ie  PS4, phone (which had already been taken for a few days), and friends  So, last week while doing your program he already didn’t have privileges and has continued with poor behavior – name calling, throwing things, slamming doors  We are not sure when to give privileges back  He has been given the privilege of playing with friends on occasion  His 13th birthday is tomorrow  This past weekend, for his birthday my husband and he went boar hunting



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Context 3:  Of course we debated about it but decided to go ahead since it was his bday  We are cooking some of the meet on the grill tomorrow night for his bday and inviting a couple of his friends over for a cookout  No more gifts other than cards and balloons  We are wondering if we should go ahead and give him his privileges back and not sure how to do it  Last Friday morning we attempted to talk giving him a date to return privileges and that conversation ended with him getting angry but he gathered from our conversation that he is getting his stuff back on his bday  We are starting week 2 assignments today but not sure how to handle what was already in place  Of course, we aren’t seeing the respect and responsibility we are looking for but realize it has been a long time  We were wanting him to pay for his phone and thought it might be a good time to introduce that idea  Allowing him to earn his phone  We expect that he will be angry with this idea and not sure how to implement 
My son and myself are interested in a inpatient Aspergers program  We line in Calif which is preferable  My son is very high functioning and was diagnosed dry late  He was eight years old  He has never been in or attended a full day of class  Partially due to depression,anxiety, and trouble with his ADHD also his aversion and being bullied and of course his Aspergers  He will not attend his freshmen year due to surgery on both Achilles' tendons from walking on his toes  With physical therapy he should be ready by his sophomore year! We all feel he needs in patient therapy to give him the tools on how to work with his issues in a structured setting and a place that will give him tools for the rest of his life 
In my utter desperation to find a way to get some help for my daughter's increasingly challenging behaviour I trawled the internet to see if I could find some strategies that would provide specific methods on dealing with teenagers with Asperger's syndrome  When I came across your website, I couldn't believe that every statement you made was exactly what I have been going through with my daughter  She has just turned 14 last week, and was diagnosed with Asperger's/ Autism Spectrum Disorder 15 months ago  I have already been seeing a child psychologist for the past five months, however the methods she has been advising have not been very effective 
Our main difficulty with our daughter is her overwhelming obsession to use her cell phone (and to a lesser extent her laptop) constantly  Without any restriction, she will be on it every minute of the day, and will be awake until the early hours every day  We have tried to incorporate her input around rules as to when she has to give in her phone, but she is unwilling to compromise on a time that she should give it to us, believing that she should have unlimited use  I believe she is unable to do any adequate study or homework, as she is constantly having to look at the phone  We have tried to put rules in place that she has to give in her phone and laptop on school nights at 22:15  If she is able to do this then she is given rewards, and if she doesn't then she knows that there will be consequences  The consequence has been restricted use the following day  However, this is usually where we fail, because taking her phone away from her results in tantrums, screaming, and even threatening to harm herself  This behaviour is relentless to the point where the whole family becomes deeply distressed, and inevitably results in her getting the phone back 
This obsession is affecting her schoolwork, and more severely her eyesight  She has become very shortsighted, and her eyesight continues to deteriorate as a result of holding the phone or laptop very close, and mostly in the dark without any lights on  My husband and I have a constant battle on our hands daily, in all areas of discipline with our daughter, but our main concern is that we have been unable to find a way to minimise this obsessive behaviour centred around her phone and laptop  Please can you provide some strategies that can help us specifically with this problem 
First of all, I thank you for developing this program and I am only at the first stage of assignment 1  I have loads of books I have bought, attended psychiatrists for my son and myself, family therapy, occupational therapy, begged and prayed for change but have been dealing with behavioural issues for so long I am definitely exhausted and resentful 
I am a mum to a 15 yr old boy with ASD, dyslexia, OCD and ODD  Sorry to focus on the labels but just to give you an idea of what I am dealing with  I also have a 13 yr old son whom finds his brother’s behaviours difficult, embarassing and challenging  My husband whom is not in great health ( he had a cerebral aneurysm clamped two years ago and has two further aneurysms that are inoperable so endures fatigue, headaches and stress)  We have however a pet cat that is very social and a calming influence in the home! I was fortunate enough to have loving parents but I lost both my mum and dad in 2008 and 2015  My inlaws are elderly and quite directly say they are too old to help us so it feels we are alone in dealing with the issues we have 
I am desperate for change as the household is one of stress and anger and I feel all the control lies in my son Patrick’s hands  I am hopeful your programme can make life better for all of us but I wonder if it is too early to ask you two questions?
The first lies with what to do when Patrick goes into my other son Brendan’s room and will either turn on a light when he is sleeping, yell when he is on his phone or create some disturbance  He will not leave the room when asked to do so and the situation always escalates into yelling and Brendan attempting to physically remove him  This happens regularly and always ends badly with doors slamming, my husband being woken and myself in tears feeling the lack of control and also I admit I seem to think “Why me?” which rationally I know is of no help 
The second problem is leaving the house for school  Patrick refuses personal hygiene (either morning or night) and any request to even brush his teeth is fraught with swearing and abuse  If I can get him to shower, he will watch the water roll down the drain and turn up the water really high temp (mu husband has had to turn down the thermostat on the hot water service) without so much as getting wet  My husband leaves for work at 6am but I leave at 745 to work as a nurse in a busy outpatients department in the Alfred Hospital (Melbourne)  My work is my sanity as it is a paid break from home but most days I am late which is causing considerable stress and anxiety not to mention my responsibility to do my job  Patrick simply refuses to leave the house and as much as I am tempted to just walk out and leave I know the house would be left unlocked and wonder if Patrick would even attend school  The time I need to leave is not negotiable but Patrick uses this to his advantage and seems to delight in stressing me out and subsequently speeding to work in a frazzled mess 
The interesting and frustrating element in all of this is that although he is socially isolated at school (he has no friends) and academically challenged his behaviour at school is not a problem  He is quiet and his teachers report he does his best and is compliant and well mannered  It is like a Jekyll and Hyde situation where another side of him at home is so angry and abusive yet at school this behaviour does not happen 
I’m Jackie, I now work primarily as a freelance tech writer, after starting my career in software development and moving on to teach IT to young adults at a variety of colleges and schools 
My freelance work is pretty varied and looks at many aspects of the computer industry as a whole, and I’ve just recently completed a piece which gives help and advice to anyone wanting to become a game designer, which you can read here: http://www gamedesigning org/become-a-game-designer/  It highlights the hard work and effort it takes to get into such a role, and also how you can further your career and continue to learn and improve as you go  I hope you’ll agree it shows that starting work in the industry takes dedication and skill and that becoming a game designer isn’t just a fly-by-night job!
If you’d be interested in sharing a quick mention of my work on your blog that would be really wonderful and I’d appreciate the chance to get my work out there to a wider audience  Alternatively, I’d be happy to write a short blurb or paragraph or two (or a longer piece - just let me know) highlighting the key points because I think some of your readers might get a lot of value from it 
My son just turned 15 and is a freshman in high school  Although this is his first year in a general ed environment, he is struggling with behaviors in school  He has meltdowns and does not express why he would have them until much later  Once we all know what caused it, the school will accommodate him and try to "change up" things so as not to cause his meltdown  Once that is resolved, another issue comes up and causes him to melt down  He is a high functioning and academically does well, when he wants to do the work  We battle at home over homework  He does not care how it is done, as long as he hands it in  He thinks failing a test is ok, at least he took the test  Homework is never on his mind when he gets home from school  If I never prompt him, he would never open is backpack  He can be aggressive but is never intentionally trying to hurt anyone  He may push over a chair in school, but it is not directed at anyone  We know how that in itself could hurt someone who gets hit by it though  He is defiant in that he only wants to do what interests him  He does not go out by himself (still immature), or abuse alcohol or drugs and never curses  He is a very funny kid and very talented  His main problems are task avoidance and seeking attention  He can be disrespectful to adults in that he is "cheeky" with them, trying to be funny or cute  And he has no "filters" 
I’ve just finished reading your Living with an Aspergers Partner ebook  I found it so informative, thank you 
You offered some personal advise, and i wanted to run a situation past you and seek your input as to a strategy for what to do next 
I’ve been seeing a guy for about 7 months now who I believe has Aspergers  I came to this conclusion months ago and I don’t think he realizes, (or acknowledges) although he is aware he has some traits 
He’s highly intelligent and successful, a pattern seeker, has a tendency to focus on the project to hand to the total exclusion of all else for as long sit takes (work or home) socially awkward (has learned coping strategies), sensitive to loud noise, high anxiety with control strategies, black and white thinking etc  He’s currently not working and I’ve seen a slow withdrawal over the last 6 weeks, including the need to ‘escape’ and leave a situation at least once 
He also has a bipolar ex overseas who has primary custody one daughter where there has been ongoing patterns of drama which has recently increased 
Over the past couple of months (since stopping work and drama increase) I’ve gone from being ‘wonderful’ in his eyes to him now being sorry and not having the ‘urge’ to spend close/intimate time with me and offering friendship  Since he shared that with me in a message he’s stonewalled and has retreated to the safety of minimal messages and talks about not knowing what best to say and not being able to find the right words somehow 
He’s a good kind man who I feel is struggling  I’m concerned about his anxiety and possibly the risk of depression  I’m fairly resilient and whilst i’m disappointed he doesn’t want to pursue a relationship with me, i’m concerned for him and his well being  One of his very few close friends is also just leaving the country to live overseas 
The strategy I’ve used so far is simply to back off and give him space  I’ve asked to take him up on an original offer he made to talk but haven’t pushed it  I also haven’t been aggressive or accusatory in the few messages i’ve sent 
Any advise you could give would be greatly appreciated,
Carli who is 10 years old and has had behavioral issues her whole life  The other night she came home very upset after having a conflict with a friend  She was at her friend's house and her and her friend wanted to get on the computer and the older sister was using it  Carli made up a story that someone was at the door to get the older sister off the computer  Her friend didn't understand that she was making up a story to get the sister off the computer  She got excited that someone was at the door and ran downstairs to answer the door  In the process of getting the door, she fell and yelled at Carli  Carli became extremely upset  She was able to control her feelings at her friend's house, but when she came home, she proceeded to cry extremely loudly for over an hour  Her dad spent most of that time with her, talking to her and trying to calm her down  After an hour, I asked him if he could please tell her to be more quiet because the other members of the household were trying to go to sleep 
My question is    how do I as the girlfriend, handle this? He did not like that I asked her to be quiet  We have a rule that if she is having bad behavior, and can't calm down in 5 minutes, he takes her out of the house because her yelling doesn't stop for a long time and is very upsetting to everyone in the household  I would like to ask him to do this with this kind of situation as well  Is this a reasonable request? His thought was that she shouldn't be made to calm down, because everyone handles being upset in a different way  But, she was literally sobbing and wailing very loudly 
My other question is should she have been told that if she wouldn't have lied, this wouldn't have happened? She has a history of lying and of not accepting responsibility for her actions  My boyfriend became very upset with me when I brought this up  He was being very sympathetic and understanding to her  I feel like he was giving her negative attention, and being an over indulgent parent by not putting his foot gown and saying, "you can't carry on like this, even though you are upset"  Please let me know how we can handle these situations better 
I am contacting you for help with adult AS  I am taking initiative to pre screen potential therapists to help my current boyfriend get therapy and help with Adult AS 
He has seen many therapists, but it seems like they aren’t really helping him with his problems  They don’t seem to understand how his (undiagnosed) AS would affect therapy approaches  For example, he may not share enough in therapy session and I’m assuming an AS therapist would recognize that is part of the AS and employ strategies to get information from him that helps with treatment  Sometime he tunes out when he is processing something heavy or that he doesn’t want to hear necessarily, or he gets distracted and I’m hoping an As therapist would recognize that and get that he may need repeated something for example, if this is happening 
He is currently suffering from depression that appears clinical in nature as well as reoccurring negative thoughts about something specific that has been worrying him about our relationship  Today he told me these reoccurring thoughts happen during all waking hours unless he watches TV, he never gets a break from them and they make him feel like he is going crazy  As his girlfriend, I am extremely concerned that he cannot get relief from these thoughts and that the therapists he is seeing are unable to help him with his problems  Therefore, I am taking initiative to try and help him find better therapy options, because I want to see him someone who can better help him get to the bottom of things and help him with the challenges he is facing  He really needs an advocate that will help him go deep to figure things out and not just assume therapies are working well, without seeing changes or getting supporting feedback from him in that regard 
Here are some questions I am trying to ask in advance to find the right people to help us with this  As you may know, insurance for these therapies are not often available  We don’t have a lot of money to go from therapist to therapist to find the right person and are hoping prescreening will help 
I recently downloaded your e-book and listened to your talks and your information is by far the most helpful I have been able to find to date  It's very accurately describes my situation as an NT wife married to a very probable AS husband  I think you for taking the time to write this and sharing your insights as well as the experiences of many of your clients  It has really helped me understand the last 32 years of our marriage and get a grasp on how to move forward 
One area that is of primary concern to me, that I did not see addressed, is stimming  I believe that is the behavior my husband is showing through constant vocal singing, repetition of words, shouting out, as well as slapping himself in the chest and general nervous activity  It is very loud and disruptive to our household and it is often a relief when he is not at home  I think there may be a level of Tourette's syndrome as well 
I did some searches on the Internet and could not find anything that really describes his behavior  Most of what I found was flapping or children's behavior  I understand that it is a release of nervous tension but I am really trying to find some strategies to help him stop this behavior as it is extremely frustrating and builds my resentment in dealing with it daily  A lot of it is embarrassing as well and sounds childish to me 
He usually does this when close family members are around and will reign himself in if he is around other people besides us  When we are home it is constant  He also has a lot of anger, mostly at himself, and blows up at unimportant things, it is as if he has a ton of negative energy inside him that need to get out and stimming is one outlet 
I will try to build my acceptance of it, but I also would just like him to stop especially the loudest and most annoying portions  Would you have any resources you could point me to?



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