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Context 1: Sir Simon William English  (born 30 December 1961) is a New Zealand former National Party politician who served as the 39th prime minister of New Zealand from 2016 to 2017  He had previously served as the 17th deputy prime minister of New Zealand and minister of finance from 2008 to 2016 under John Key and the Fifth National Government 

A farmer and public servant before entering politics, English was elected to the New Zealand Parliament in  as the National Party's candidate in the Wallace electorate  He was elevated to Cabinet in 1996 and in 1999 was made minister of finance, although he served for less than a year due to his party's loss at the 1999 general election  In October 2001, English replaced Jenny Shipley as the leader of the National Party (and consequently as Leader of the Opposition)  He led the party to its worst defeat at the 2002 general election, and as a consequence, in October 2003 he was replaced as leader by Don Brash 

In November 2006, after Brash's resignation, English became deputy leader under John Key  After National's victory at the 2008 general election, he became deputy prime minister and was also made minister of finance for the second time  Under English's direction New Zealand's economy maintained steady growth during National's three terms of government  He became a list-only MP after stepping down as an electorate MP at the 2014 general election 

John Key resigned as leader of the National Party and prime minister in December 2016  English won the resulting leadership election unopposed and was sworn in as prime minister on 12 December 2016  His tenure was only ten months, and included a three-month election campaign  In the 2017 general election, National won the largest number of seats but fell short of a majority  The parties holding the balance of power declined to support the existing government, and English was subsequently replaced as prime minister by Jacinda Ardern, leader of the Labour Party  English initially continued on as Leader of the Opposition, but resigned as leader of the National Party on 27 February 2018 and left parliament two weeks later 

Early life
English was born on 30 December 1961 at Lumsden Maternity Centre in Lumsden  He is the eleventh of twelve children of Mervyn English and Norah (née O'Brien) English  His parents purchased Rosedale, a mixed sheep and cropping farm in Dipton, Southland from Mervyn's uncle, Vincent English, a bachelor, in 1944  English was born in the maternity unit at Lumsden 

English attended St Thomas's School in Winton, then boarded at St  Patrick's College in Upper Hutt, where he became head boy  He played in the first XV of the school's rugby team  English went on to study commerce at the University of Otago, where he was a resident at Selwyn College, and then completed an honours degree in English literature at Victoria University of Wellington 

After finishing his studies, English returned to Dipton and farmed for a few years  From 1987 to 1989, he worked in Wellington as a policy analyst for the New Zealand Treasury, at a time when the free market policies favoured by Labour's finance minister Roger Douglas (known collectively as "Rogernomics") were being implemented 

English joined the National Party in 1980, while at Victoria University  He served for a period as chairman of the Southland branch of the Young Nationals, and became a member of the Wallace electorate committee  After moving to Wellington, he served for periods on the Island Bay and Miramar electorate committees, respectively 

Fourth National Government (1990–1999)

At the 1990 general election, English stood as the National candidate in Wallace, replacing the retiring Derek Angus, and was elected with a large majority  He would hold this seat, renamed Clutha-Southland in 1996, until 2014  He and three other newly elected National MPs (Tony Ryall, Nick Smith, and Roger Sowry) were soon identified as rising stars in New Zealand politics, and at various points were dubbed the "brat pack", the "gang of four", and the "young Turks"  In his first term in parliament, English chaired a select committee into social services  He was made a parliamentary under-secretary in 1993, serving under the Minister of Health 

First period in cabinet (1996–1999)
In early 1996, English was elevated to cabinet by Prime Minister Jim Bolger, becoming the Minister for Crown Health Enterprises and Associate Minister of Education (to Wyatt Creech)  He was 34 at the time, becoming the cabinet's youngest member  After the 1996 general election, the National Party was forced into a coalition with New Zealand First to retain government  In the resulting cabinet reshuffle, English emerged as Minister of Health  However, as a condition of the coalition agreement, NZ First's Neil Kirton (a first-term MP) was made Associate Minister of Health, effectively becoming English's deputy  This arrangement was described in the press as a "shotgun marriage", and there were frequent differences of opinion between the two ministers  After their relationship became unworkable, Kirton was sacked from the role in August 1997, with the agreement of NZ First leader Winston Peters 

As Minister of Health, English was responsible for continuing the reforms to the public health system that National had begun after the 1990 general election  The reforms were unpopular, and health was perceived as one of the government's weaknesses, with the health portfolio consequently being viewed as a challenge  English believed that the unpopularity of the reforms was in part due to a failure in messaging, and encouraged his National colleagues to avoid bureaucratic and money-focused language (such as references to "balance sheets" and "user charges") and instead talk about the improvements to services the government's reforms would bring  He also rejected the idea that public hospitals could be run as commercial enterprises, a view which some of his colleagues had previously promoted 

By early 1997, as dissatisfaction with Bolger's leadership began to grow, English was being touted as a potential successor, along with Jenny Shipley and Doug Graham  His age (35) was viewed as the main impediment to a successful leadership run  National's leadership troubles were resolved in December 1997, when Bolger resigned and Shipley was elected to the leadership unopposed  English had been a supporter of Bolger as leader, but Shipley reappointed him Minister of Health in her new cabinet 

English was promoted to Minister of Finance in a reshuffle in January 1999, a position which was at the time subordinate to the Treasurer, Bill Birch  After a few months, the pair switched positions as part of Birch's transition to retirement, with English assuming the senior portfolio  In early interviews, he emphasised his wish to be seen as a pragmatist rather than an ideologue, and said that the initiatives of some of his predecessors (Roger Douglas's "Rogernomics" and Ruth Richardson's "Ruthanasia") had focused on "fruitless, theoretical debates" when "people just want to see problems solved" 

Opposition (1999–2008)

After the National Party lost the 1999 election to Helen Clark's Labour Party, English continued on in the shadow cabinet as National's spokesperson for finance  He was elected deputy leader of the party in February 2001, following the resignation of Wyatt Creech, with Gerry Brownlee being his unsuccessful opponent 

Leader of the Opposition
In October 2001, after months of speculation, Jenny Shipley resigned as leader of the National Party after being told she no longer had the support of the party caucus  English was elected as her replacement unopposed (with Roger Sowry as his deputy), and consequently became Leader of the Opposition  However, he did not openly organise against Shipley, and according to The Southland Times "there was almost an element of 'aw, shucks, I'll do it then' about Mr English's ascension" 

Aged 39 when he was elected, English became the second-youngest leader in the National Party's history, after Jim McLay (who was 38 when elected in 1984)  He also became only the third Southlander to lead a major New Zealand political party, after Joseph Ward and Adam Hamilton  However, English failed to improve the party's performance  In the 2002 election, National suffered its worst electoral defeat ever, gaining barely more than twenty percent of the vote  English described it as "the worst day of my political life"  Both party insiders and the general public were split as to how much to blame him for the loss, but most of the party believed that English would be able to rebuild National's support 

By late 2003, however, National's performance in opinion polls remained poor  The party had briefly increased its popularity in the year following the election, but by October its support had fallen to levels only slightly better than what it achieved in the last ballot  English also appeared in a boxing match for a charity against entertainer Ted Clarke  This did not boost his polling or that of the National party either, with suggestions that it devalued his image as a serious politician  Don Brash, former governor of the Reserve Bank and a relative newcomer to politics, began to build up support to replace English  On 28 October, Brash gained sufficient backing in Caucus to defeat English in a leadership contest 

Shadow cabinet roles and deputy leader
On 2 November 2003, when Brash changed responsibilities for certain MPs, English became National's spokesman for education, ranked at fifth place in the party's parliamentary hierarchy  He remained in parliament after the 2005 election  In his new shadow education portfolio, English performed strongly, and remained a party favourite despite his election defeat as leader in 2002, eventually being returned to the finance portfolio in August 2004 as deputy spokesman (while still retaining responsibility for education) 

In November 2006, Brash resigned as leader  English was considered as a potential replacement leader (running against John Key) or deputy leader (against incumbent Gerry Brownlee) in the ensuing leadership election  However, a contest was avoided when the MPs agreed a Key/English ticket would run unopposed in a display of party unity  English took over the deputy leadership and the finance portfolio in the Key shadow cabinet 

Fifth National Government (2008–2017)

Deputy Prime Minister and Minister of Finance (2008–2016)

At the 2008 election, English was re-elected by his electorate, winning by a margin of about 15,500 votes  He became Deputy Prime Minister of New Zealand and Minister of Finance in the fifth National Government, being sworn into office on 19 November 2008 and continued to serve in those roles until becoming Prime Minister on 12 December 2014  He was also made Minister of Infrastructure in National's first term of government and Minister responsible for Housing New Zealand Corporation and minister responsible for the New Zealand flag consideration process in its third 

He was comfortably re-elected in Clutha-Southland in the 2011 election but opted to run as a party-list candidate in 2014  

The pairing of John Key as leader of the National Party and English as his deputy has been compared to that of Bob Hawke and Paul Keating (in Australia) and Tony Blair and Gordon Brown (in the UK) 

English acceded to the role of Finance Minister in the continuing wake of the financial crisis  In response to New Zealand's rising debt, English made budget deficit-reduction his main priority  His first budget outlined three focuses in New Zealand's financial recovery: "improving the business environment and removing roadblocks to growth; investment in productive infrastructure; and improving the way government works"  One of his first acts was creating the National Infrastructure Unit, charged with formulating a plan for infrastructure projects and investments  He commissioned a government-wide spending review, with an aim to reducing government expenditure—with the exceptions of a two-year stimulus package and long-term increases on infrastructure spending 

In April 2011, the Opposition criticised English for suggesting that New Zealand businesses could use New Zealand's low wages to help it compete with Australia  The National Government campaigned for re-election in 2011 on its economic record  The Government boasted growth for five consecutive quarters up to mid-2010, totalling 1 6% of real GDP 

Strong growth resulted in a surplus of $473 million for the 2015/16 financial year, projected to rise to $8 5 billion by 2020/21  In his 2016 Economic and Fiscal Update address, English stated that reducing debt and tackling the costs of the 2016 Kaikōura earthquake were higher priorities than reducing rates of tax 

Allowances issue
In 2009, the media, including TVNZ and TV3 revealed that English was receiving about NZ$900 a week as part of a living allowance for ministers, to live in his own NZ$1 2 million Wellington home  At the time, English also received $276,200 in his annual salary as Deputy Prime Minister  It was also revealed other ministers with homes in the capital city were also claiming accommodation allowances  On 3 August 2009, Prime Minister John Key started a review of the housing allowances claimed by cabinet ministers  English subsequently paid back $12,000 and only claimed about $24,000 a year in living allowances  The Auditor-General's office said in September 2009 that they were making "preliminary enquiries" into parliamentary housing expenses in response to a letter of complaint from Progressive party leader Jim Anderton  Two days later English stated that he would no longer take up any housing allowance and had paid back all the allowance he had received since the November 2008 election 

Prime Minister (2016–2017)

John Key resigned on 12 December, and endorsed English as his successor in the resulting leadership election  Following the drop-out of both Judith Collins and Jonathan Coleman from the leadership election, English was sworn in as the 39th Prime Minister of New Zealand on 12 December 2016 

English appointed his first cabinet on 18 December  In a reshuffle, he appointed Steven Joyce to succeed him as Finance Minister, while most ministerial portfolios remained the same 

In February 2017, English did not attend Waitangi Day commemorations at the historic treaty grounds, reportedly in response to the Ngāpuhi iwi's decision to stop the Prime Minister from speaking at the marae  Ngāpuhi have protested the Government's negotiation of the Trans Pacific Partnership Agreement (TPPA), which the iwi believe infringes upon Māori sovereignty, and thus does not adhere to the Treaty of Waitangi  English had been invited to attend in an official capacity; his non-attendance was criticised by a Ngāpuhi elder and Opposition leader Andrew Little 

In his first overseas trip as Prime Minister, English travelled to Europe to discuss trade ties, including a prospective New Zealand–European Union free trade agreement  He first travelled to London on 13 January 2017 to meet British Prime Minister Theresa May  Discussing trade relations, English said the two nations were "natural partners" and would "continue to forge ties" after the UK's withdrawal from the EU  He also arranged to meet with London Mayor Sadiq Khan, Belgian Prime Minister Charles Michel and German Chancellor Angela Merkel   In a meeting with Merkel, English received crucial backing from Germany for a trade deal with the EU  On 16 January, English stated that his government would continue to promote TPPA, despite the United States' decision to withdraw from the agreement  He explained that Southeast Asian countries would now be treated as a priority in negotiations—he also asserted that the United States was ceding influence to China by its rejection of the trade pact 

At a press conference at the Beehive on 1 February 2017, English announced that the 2017 general election would be held on 23 September  The Prime Minister later confirmed that his party would approach ACT, United Future and the Māori Party if confidence and supply agreements were required to form a government following the election  In his second cabinet reshuffle on 24 April, English appointed Gerry Brownlee as his new Foreign Affairs Minister; he also promoted Nikki Kaye to the portfolio of Education Minister, and moved Mark Mitchell into the cabinet to become Defence Minister  The reshuffle was perceived as an election preparation 

On 13 February 2017, English welcomed Australian Prime Minister Malcolm Turnbull to Wellington  The two leaders reaffirmed their shared trade agenda, and discussed changes to the Australian citizenship pathway which will affect permanent residents originating from New Zealand 

On 19 June, it was reported that Todd Barclay, who succeeded English as MP for Clutha-Southland, had clandestinely recorded one of his employee's conversations the previous year, and that John Key's leaders' budget was used to pay a confidential settlement after the employee resigned  English admitted that he had been aware of the illegal recording and the settlement, and thus implicated in the scandal 

During the 2017 National campaign launch, English introduced a $379 million social investment package including digital learning academies for high school students, more resources for mathematics, and boosting support for teaching second languages in schools, and maintaining National Standards in the school curriculum  Prime Minister English also sought to defend National's financial management and economic track record and claimed that the opposition Labour Party would raise taxes  Early opinion polling had forecast a poor showing in the election for the Labour Party, but in early August 37-year-old Jacinda Ardern took over as Labour leader and seemingly energised younger voters 

At the 2017 general election, National won the largest share of the party vote (44 4%) and the largest number of seats (56) in the House Representatives  However, National lacked enough seats to govern alone due to two of the party's support partners, the Māori Party and United Future, losing their parliamentary seats  In response, English stated that the party would be entering into talks to form a coalition with New Zealand First  Following talks with the two largest parties, New Zealand First entered a coalition arrangement with the Labour Party  English was succeeded as prime minister by Jacinda Ardern on 26 October 

Opposition (2017–2018)

Leader of the Opposition
English was re-elected as National Party leader on 24 October 2017  At the time of his re-election, English announced his intention to stay on as leader until the next general election  On 13 February 2018, however, he stood down as National Party leader due to personal reasons, and instructed the party to put into motion the processes to elect a new leader  He also retired from Parliament  English's resignation followed weeks of speculation that he would step aside for a new leader  On 27 February, he was succeeded as party leader by Simon Bridges as the result of the leadership election held that day 

Post-premiership 
In 2018, English joined the board of Australian conglomerate, Wesfarmers  English serves in Chairmanships of Mount Cook Alpine Salmon, Impact Lab Ltd and Manawanui Support Ltd  He is also a director of The Instillery, Centre for Independent Studies and The Todd Corporation Limited, and is a member of the Impact Advisory Group of Macquarie Infrastructure and Real Assets 

Political and social views

English is regarded as more socially conservative than his predecessor, John Key  He has stated his opposition to voluntary euthanasia and physician-assisted suicide, same-sex civil unions, and the decriminalisation of prostitution  As Prime Minister he opposed any "liberalisation" of abortion law 

In 2004, English voted against a bill to establish civil unions for both same-sex and opposite-sex couples  In 2005, he voted for the Marriage (Gender Clarification) Amendment Bill, which would have amended the Marriage Act to define marriage as only between a man and a woman  English voted against the Marriage (Definition of Marriage) Amendment Bill, a bill that legalised same-sex marriage in New Zealand  However, in December 2016 he stated, "I'd probably vote differently now on the gay marriage issue  I don't think that gay marriage is a threat to anyone else's marriage" 

In 2009, English voted against the Misuse of Drugs (Medicinal Cannabis) Amendment Bill, a bill aimed at amending the Misuse of Drugs Act so that cannabis could be used for medical purposes 

Personal life 
English met his future wife, Mary Scanlon, at university  She was studying medicine at the time, and became a general practitioner  Both her parents were immigrants, her father being Samoan and her mother Italian, born on the island of Stromboli  They have six children: a daughter and five sons 

English is a practising Roman Catholic, but has stated that he considers his religious beliefs personal and thus separate from politics 

In June 2002, English took part in TV3's Fight For Life, a celebrity boxing fundraiser to raise money for the Yellow Ribbon anti-youth-suicide campaign, influenced by the death of a teenage nephew in 1997  He lost a split decision to former university colleague Ted Clarke 

Honours
In the 2018 Queen's Birthday Honours, English was appointed a Knight Companion of the New Zealand Order of Merit, for services of over 27 years to the State 
Context 3: My Aspergers Child: COMMENTS & QUESTIONS [for Feb , 2017]
I emailed you a while back and you mentioned that I could email when I needed to  Thank you  I last wrote you in December that my son became involved in a dispute involving the local police  We have had 3 court dates  It keeps delaying due to not being able to come to an agreement  But the attorney, even though he was just vaguely familiar with Aspergers, has been very good with Craig  He has the compassion and excellence that is needed here  What started out very bad is turning into a good thing  It will probably take another 90 days or more 
But Craig is working hard  Too hard sometimes  He goes to therapy 3 times a week  Doing excellent  He's more focused and can calm down easier  He's got a lot on his plate but has support from his family  From his attorney  From therapy  And from his work 
He has been renting a room from a lady who has a son with ADHD  It is good for him  I'm a little worried though because since she smokes he wants to find his own place  With all the costs he has to balance it out financially  That is good  I can't help him more than I am which is good  He is stepping up and taking responsibility  He is listening much better 
He is going to have an evaluation today to get an accurate diagnosis  I understand that is a little difficult since he is an adult  Also the PTSD may cover it over  The attorney stated it would help to have the diagnosis 
Aware this is a long update, but thanks for reading  I am fighting much guilt still but I have a lot of peace now  My daughter and her 4 year old son also have Aspergers symptoms  So my life chapters may not close for a while  :-)
My name is Mac  I'm sure you're quite busy, so I'll get right to it I just wanted to pass on compliments on My Aspergers Child and your post, How to Implement the GFCF Diet: Tips for Parents of Autistic Children 
Me and my wife absolutely loved it!
I got a facebook message from him today begging to be able to come home saying he misses home and he will change  He says he will follow rules now  I stated to him the simple rules he has to follow which were - No weed in my house, or smoked in my house, coming home at curfew, going to school, no skipping, no drugs at school, and to drop the attitude of I am 17 I can do whatever I want 
I have made it very clear that if I see any drugs in my home I will be calling the police, as well as if I see signs of it being sold by him I will report him  (He has never had selling amounts in my house,     I believe it's being kept at his "friends" which of course I have no proof of    I just know it is not here 
I know my battle is not over by a long shot, I am sure we will have more consequences and possibly another being kicked out, but I am going to think positive and hope that he learned some form of a valuable lesson here 
Thank you so much for the guidance, never in a million years did I ever think I'd be on this side, (the one needing the help, as I am the one who helps )
I am going to go back to the start of the program like I said earlier and keep notes close by for reference 
Thanks for all you do, helping us all with ODD children/teens
I have a small company providing educational support services to a few families who have children with various disabilities in Ohio  One of the families has multiple adopted children of whom several have significant attachment disorders including RAD  As an experienced teacher and foster parent I have some experience in working with children who have extensive trauma backgrounds  However, I could use additional training  Also working with these children are two staff members with minimal background in attachment disorders who would also benefit from training primarily in behavior management  The primary caregiver to the children does a wonderful job managing their needs  In order to further develop team cohesion, I'm hoping to include her in any training as well 
Is it possible to schedule such a training session with you? If so, please let us know what will work for you including time, place, and cost  Thank you for your assistance 
I just listed to your tapes on dealing with an out of control, defiant teen  I'd like to ask your advice on a particular situation we have  Our 15 year old daughter is smoking pot almost every day at school  Because we had no way to control the situation, we told her, fine, go ahead and smoke weed  However, you will no longer receive the same support from us  You will not have your phone, lunch money to go off campus (she has an account at the school for the cafeteria she can use), and you will be grounded until you can pass a drug test  We will not be testing you except for when you tell us you are ready to be tested  She is now saying she's suicidal because she feels so isolated, yet she continues to smoke weed  In fact, she tried to sneak out last night but was foiled by our alarm system  For the particular drug test we have, I read it takes about 10 days of not smoking to pass the test  What would you do? Please advise 
I am having a problem with my 18 year old son, Danny, with high functioning autism  We finally had him diagnosed when he was 16 years old  I always knew something was going on with him but the doctors misdiagnosed him as bipolar  It's been 2 years now and he will not accept his diagnosis  He won't talk about it and when I try to bring it up he gets very angry  I've tried telling him that it's not a bad thing, that there's been many, many very successful people with Aspergers  He won't tell anyone and refuses to learn about managing life with it  He once shared with me that the other kids at school use it as an insult, like saying someone is so autistic when they do something they don't approve of  So he doesn't want anyone to know  He's turned down services that could help him  He has a girlfriend, going on 8 months  He won't tell her and they're having problems arguing a lot and I wonder if it would help for her to know 
I'm sad that he thinks it's a life sentence to something horrible instead of accepting, embracing it and learning about it more so he maybe can understand why he's struggling  I told him that he doesn't need to shout it out to the whole world but he won't even accept it himself 
I don't know how to help him with it and because he's almost 19 I have limited control now  It's made my life easier knowing what we're dealing with and I think his life would be easier is he accepted it 
Please help me help him 
I am a clinical psychologist in NYC who now has several (!!) children I see who have RAD  In 20 years of practice, I’d seen only one case  Now, I have at least three children with this  I have no training, per se, in working with this children though I know about setting structure, consistency, etc  I do a lot of work with parents about parenting  I work primarily within the school setting in a charter school whose mission is to educate children on the autism spectrum in a mainstream setting  We use Michelle Garcia Winner’s social thinking program with our ASD kids  I also work with gen ed kids in the school who are at-risk; the school is in the inner city from where the majority of our non-ASD kids live 
It would have been so much easier to mention to my adult son that I think (I know he does, but want to ease into the subject)
he has Asperger's when we were living together two years ago  He has since moved to Tennessee working in his field of interest
which is 3-D printing and software development  I am so happy for him that he has found his way into a job that he truly enjoys
even though he's socially isolated 
He's not diagnosed and does not know he has it  How I know is his classic symptoms being sensory issues (fabric feeling like sandpaper)
communication difficulties, meltdowns and much more  Throughout his childhood I just felt he was a bit different  Nothing major stood out and time
just passes, misdiagnosis of ADHD, low frustration, etc  We've talked about his ADHD numerous times (which I now know he doesn't have) 
It's so much easier to communicate with him now that I know he has Asperger's  I keep it "slow and low" in talking, with long moments
of silence and then we connect  It's really too bad that Asperger's got a diagnostic code back in the 90's, yet all the so called doctors,
physiologist's, etc, didn't know how to diagnose it  Too bad 
There seems to be no one answer to "should I tell my adult son he has Asperger's" from a few specialists I asked  He is typical Asperger,
complicated, highly intelligent (high IQ), anxiety at times, socially isolated, hard to make friends  Not knowing how he will react is the hard part 
How will he be better off knowing he has it? Do I wait to tell him in person, or ease into it with him over Skype? He likes direct, honest, concrete communication 
Why is this so hard for me? Maybe because no one know's if he is going to be better off knowing or not  Do you know if people are better off
knowing? I try to get up the courage to just let him know, then I back down 
I have been searching the web looking for advice and came upon your site  I am trying to read blogs, websites, books, and articles to help guide me  I was so happy when you said that I could ask you a question  My husband and I are struggling with my 27 year old son who lives with us 
Kyle is the youngest of 4 sons  He is a college graduate but never could find the "right" job  He has always been quiet and never had a lot of friends  Two years ago, his girlfriend broke up with him  Kyle had an online gambling addiction and was using pot all the time  After the breakup, Kyle was very depressed and started using heroin and finally told my husband he was using  He is now seeing a psychiatrist who has him on suboxone and antidepressants  He is also seeing a psychologist weekly for counseling but it does not seem to be helping 
Last October,, Kyle lost his job, got drunk, and was agitated and came home , fighting with us, damaging our home and being verbally abusive  My other son , age 32, who also lives with us called the police and Kyle got arrested  He is currently in the family court system  He went through an anger management course and now is in substance abuse classes  Kyle continues to verbally abusive to me and blame me for everything  He says he "hates me "and calls me terrible names  At times, he pushes my husband and intimidates me  My husband and I are so upset  We just hired an attorney for him because since he has been going to these classes, he is getting more depressed and not getting better  Kyle continues to drink while taking his meds prescribed by the psychiatrist and then he has his "moods " My husband and I have met once with the psychiatrist just to give him background information when Kyle started with him 
At this point, we do not know what to do  We never thought at this stage of our life, we would be supporting and spending our retirement money on adult children  I do not know why Kyle hates me, I could not have been a better mom  My husband and I have no life and just do not know what it the right path we should take  Kyle does not want anything to do with us  He spends all his time in his room playing football online We have tried tough love versus caring and love and understanding  Do you have any advice for me?
This whole ODD and ADHD is killing me as a parent  I work in the field of adult psych and addictions so I am well educated  I have been dealing with my teen being like this for almost 3 years and I totally lost my cool today with my 17-year-old son to the point I told him he is out of the house  He can never simple rules, comes and goes as he pleases sometimes doesn't come home, just recently back in school from several suspension for drug related    I am just so exhausted  He has made me hate life, hate being a parent and sometimes I just feel like not even being here  I bought your program in hopes to it would help, I am at week three and I feel things are getting worse    what am I doing wrong??
My partner hasn't been diagnosed yet but I know he has aspergers   day to day is a struggle   I feel I'm going crazy with how he makes me feel Feel let down constantly  He lies alot but I've been told they can't but I know he does I just feel trapped and unloved We have a 4yr old daughter together and my main worry with how he is that it will effect our daughter ; (his skills as a parent are so weak He can't disapline at all Feel so alone  he hides it well too I just wondered if things will get worse? He's angry so quick in arguments Scares me etc I can't leave as he's the main bread winner and our daughter loves him to bits Don't know why I'm writing this  Sorry if I'm going on and not making sense :(
I wanted to let you know about a research opportunity for children, teens, and young adults with autism  I am studying the effects of Brazilian Jiu Jitsu, and psychotherapy on helping people with autism develop subjective awareness of others 
I am writing you to see if this might help someone in your practice, or to see if you might know of someone with autism who may benefit from participating in this study  The requirements of the study will be:
1  A participant should be between 7-21 years of age and have a diagnosis of Autism Spectrum Disorder 
2  The participant should enroll in an approved Jiu Jitsu Academy and attend at least two sessions a week for a period of six months 
3  The participant should enroll in social skills groups, provided by my office or be in a steady psychotherapeutic relationship in your office, at least once a week, or minimally two to three times a month 
4  The participant will be given a SRS (Social Responsiveness Scale) test at the beginning of the study, at three months, and again at six months 
If you know of anyone who might benefit from this novel approach to helping to develop social awareness in autism, please do not hesitate to contact me for further information 
I have a 10 year old daughter who has outbursts with prolonged crying almost like tantrums that 2 year olds have when they cannot express themselves 
I had her in therapy from age 6-8 years old for the same thing but I feel that the sessions didn't really help much 
She has severe sensitivities to light, sound, vibration, frequencies which trigger irritability and crying 
We changed her diet and tried getting her involved with activities but she is anti-social and prefers reading than being social  She is terrified of change even in daily routine (even that will trigger prolonged crying) 
It frustrates me because I don't know what else to do with her behavior 
I've tried acupuncture (she refused at the first session); she refuses massage too 
She is an honor-roll student at school and has very minimal issues at school but if she has had a bad day it does result in a tantrum or crying and defiance 
How can I get her tested for Asperger's Syndrome?
Last night our 24 year old son with Aspergers told his dad and I that he is pulling out of the 4 college classes that he recetnly enrolled in because he has not been attending class or turning in his assignments  He paid $2800 (his own money) for tuition and I reminded him of this when he told us but it did not seem to bother him 
This is the 3rd time he has started college courses and has not completed them  (He also took some concurrent college classes while he was in high school that he failed)  This is a son who basically had a 4 0 grade point average through 10th grade and got a 34 on the ACT the first time he took it 
With the news that he was once again not sticking with college courses I did not sleep well  When I got up this mornning I began looking online for help in how to deal with his situation  I found your "Launching Adult Children With Aspergers" and purchased it  Most of what is included are things we have done or did with our son throughout his life  I was hoping for more help so I am emailing you now in hopes of more specific ideas 
We noticed some things with our son, Taylor, as a yound child but as we had not heard of Aspergers at that time we just did what we thought would help him  As a toddler and a child at pre-school he generally went off on his own to play  When I talked to his pre-school teacher about my concerns (that I was worried he would end up a hermit) she said she did not see him being a loner and that he seemed to interact fine with others in many situations  We worked with him on making eye contact when talking with others  We explained different emotions in people's faces and mannerisms to help him know how to interact with others  We discussed the fact that people would say things that did not mean what they souneded like - such as "I'm so hungry I could eat a horse"  As we did these things he worked hard to better understand communication with others 
During his 4th grade year I had a teacher from the gifted program ask me if I had ever heard of Aspergers  I told her that I had not heard of it  She proceeded to read me some of the charateristics and so many of them described my son  So we had him tested by the school district during the summer between 4th and 5th grade and they did find that he had Aspergers but that he was high functioning  We then set him up with and EIP which stayed with him until his sophomore year  We pulled him from it at that time because we had moved and the new district was requiring him to take one class a day that was a study class  This reduced the number of required classes he could take and he was doing fine with his studies at the time 
It was during the 2nd half of his Junior year that we noticed some of his grades going down  Then during his Senior year is when he started skipping classes and not doing assignments  We had not realized it before then but we soon became aware that he was addicted to gaming  He would go to the library or somewhere else on campus and play games on the computer rather than go to class  It was also at this time that he began lying about his actions (so as not to get in trouble) 
Based on his grades and his ACT score he received offers from colleges for full tuition scholarships  He chose the college where he had taken concurrent classes during his high school years  But he proceeded to skip class and not turn in assignments so he lost his scholarship and quit attending college  During this time he was only able to find employment through an employment agency where he was mostly sent to manuel labor type jobs (which is not something he enjoys but he did it anyway)  It was during this time that at one place had gone to on numerous occasions he was told if he came late one more time they would tell the emplyment agency they did not want him to come there anymore  (This seemed to make an impression on him because he has continued to be reliable and responsbile at his places of employment) 
At 19 1/2 he left to serve a 2 year full-time mission for our church  He completed his mission successfully  (I don't think it was without some struggle, stress and depression, but he was able to pick himself up and move on from those times) 
When he came home he started working for the employment agency again but began looking for employment elsewhere  He got a job at a local Chick Fil-A where he has worked for 3 years  He started college again shortly after he came home but as before it was short lived  He did finish out the semester but failed most of the classes due to his skipping class and not turning in assignments



ground_truth: 23 September.

prompt_front: Now, answer the following question based on the text below, only give me the answer and do not output any other words.

Question: When did the club win the Armenian Premier League for the first time?

Read the following text and answer briefly.

Context 2: Football Club Urartu (, translated Futbolayin Akumb Urartu), commonly known as Urartu, is an Armenian professional football team based in the capital Yerevan that currently plays in the Armenian Premier League  The club won the Armenian Cup three times, in 1992, 2007 and 2016  In 2013–2014, they won the Armenian Premier League for the first time in their history 

In early 2016, the Russia-based Armenian businessman Dzhevan Cheloyants became a co-owner of the club after purchasing the major part of the club shares  The club was known as FC Banants until 1 August 2019, when it was officially renamed FC Urartu 

History

Kotayk
Urartu FC were founded as FC Banants by Sarkis Israelyan on 21 January 1992 in the village of Kotayk, representing the Kotayk Province  He named the club after his native village of Banants (currently known as Bayan)  Between 1992 and 1995, the club was commonly referred to as Banants Kotayk  During the 1992 season, the club won the first Armenian Cup  At the end of the 1995 transitional season, Banants suffered a financial crisis  The club owners decided that it was better to merge the club with FC Kotayk of Abovyan, rather than disband it  In 2001, Banants demerged from FC Kotayk, and was moved from Abovyan to the capital Yerevan 

Yerevan

FC Banants was relocated to Yerevan in 2001  At the beginning of 2003, Banants merged with FC Spartak Yerevan, but was able to limit the name of the new merger to FC Banants  Spartak became Banants's youth academy and later changed the name to Banants-2  Because of the merger, Banants acquired many players from Spartak Yerevan, including Samvel Melkonyan  After the merger, Banants took a more serious approach and have finished highly in the league table ever since  The club managed to lift the Armenian Cup in 2007 
Experience is making way for youth for the 2008 and 2009 seasons  The departures of most of the experienced players have left the club's future to the youth  Along with two Ukrainian players, Ugandan international, Noah Kasule, has been signed 

The club headquarters are located on Jivani Street 2 of the Malatia-Sebastia District, Yerevan 

Domestic

European

Stadium

The construction of the Banants Stadium was launched in 2006 in the Malatia-Sebastia District of Yerevan, with the assistance of the FIFA goal programme  It was officially opened in 2008 with a capacity of 3,600 seats  Further developments were implemented later in 2011, when the playing pitch was modernized and the capacity of the stadium was increased up to 4,860 seats (2,760 at the northern stand, 1,500 at the southern stand and 600 at the western stand) 

Training centre/academy
Banants Training Centre is the club's academy base located in the Malatia-Sebastia District of Yerevan  In addition to the main stadium, the centre houses 3 full-size training pitches, mini football pitches as well as an indoor facility  The current technical director of the academy is the former Russian footballer Ilshat Faizulin 

Fans
The most active group of fans is the South West Ultras fan club, mainly composed of residents from several neighbourhoods within the Malatia-Sebastia District of Yerevan, since the club is a de facto representer of the district  Members of the fan club benefit from events organized by the club and many facilities of the Banants training centre, such as the mini football pitch, the club store and other entertainments 

Achievements
 Armenian Premier League
 Winner (1): 2013–14 
 Runner-up (5): 2003, 2006, 2007, 2010, 2018 

 Armenian Cup
 Winner (3): 1992, 2007, 2016 
 Runner-up (6): 2003, 2004, 2008, 2009, 2010, 2021–22

 Armenian Supercup
 Winner (1): 2014 
 Runner-up (5): 2004, 2007, 2009, 2010, 2016 

Current squad

Out on loan

Personnel

Technical staff

Management

Urartu-2

FC Banants' reserve squad play as FC Banants-2 in the Armenian First League  They play their home games at the training field with artificial turf of the Urartu Training Centre 

Managerial history
 Varuzhan Sukiasyan (1992–94)
 Poghos Galstyan (July 1, 1996 – June 30, 1998)
 Oganes Zanazanyan (2001–05)
 Ashot Barseghyan (2005–06)
 Nikolay Kiselyov (2006–07)
 Jan Poštulka (2007)
 Nikolay Kostov (July 1, 2007 – April 8, 2008)
 Nedelcho Matushev (April 8, 2008 – June 30, 2008)
 Kim Splidsboel (2008)
 Armen Gyulbudaghyants (Jan 1, 2009 – Dec 1, 2009)
 Ashot Barseghyan (interim) (2009)
 Stevica Kuzmanovski (Jan 1, 2010 – Dec 31, 2010)
 Rafael Nazaryan (Jan 1, 2011 – Jan 15, 2012)
 Volodymyr Pyatenko (Jan 17, 2013 – June 30, 2013)
 Zsolt Hornyák (July 1, 2013 – May 30, 2015)
 Aram Voskanyan (July 1, 2015 – Oct 11, 2015)
 Tito Ramallo (Oct 12, 2015 – Oct 3, 2016)
 Artur Voskanyan (Oct 3, 2016 – Aug 11, 2018)
 Ilshat Faizulin (Aug 12, 2018 –Nov 24, 2019)
 Aleksandr Grigoryan (Nov 25, 2019 –Mar 10, 2021)
 Robert Arzumanyan (10 March 2021–24 June 2022)
 Dmitri Gunko (27 June 2022–)

References

External links
 Official website 
 Banants at Weltfussball de  

 
Urartu
Urartu
Urartu
Urartu



ground_truth: In the 2013-2014 season.

prompt_front: Now, answer the following question based on the text below, only give me the answer and do not output any other words.

Question: What field does Danny work in in Tennessee?

Read the following text and answer briefly.

Context 3:  When he skipped class he would usually sleep in his car 
Taylor's life consists of working (where to the best of our knowledge) he does well, he is reliable and his employer likes him  When he comes home from work he either sleeps or plays video games or other games - such as kakuro  He spendes most of his time in the basement where his bedroom is and this is where he games  Taylor owns his own car, bought his own laptop and very rarely spends money  He pays us $200 /month to still live at home, unloads the dishwasher on a regular basis and does the weekly garbage  However, his room is a mess and he only cleans his bathroom when I tell him he needs to clean it 
Taylor used to read quite a bit and loved to learn  It has just been in his adult years that he has not read as much - I think because of his gaming addiction  Taylor goes to church on a regular basis but sleeps through the main meeting  In Sunday class room settings he stays awake - I think because he is able to particpate in discussions 
Taylor has only had 2 real friends since entering Junior High school  And as of now he only keeps in contact with one of them who still lives in Georgia  We have lived in Utah since the summer of 2007 and he has never had a friend to do things with since we have lived here  He has two younger siblings, a brother 22 and a sister 20  They love Taylor and spend time with him when they are home  They are both at college and doing well 
Throughout Taylor's school years he has seen a counsleor on a fairly regular basis  One summer during junior high he attended a weekly class where he interacted with other kids with Aspergers  We did see a lot of change in him from this group  After he returned from his mission he went to see a counselor for a short period - this counselor tried to help him with some social skills  His dad and I went with him the first 3 or 4 times but we found out that after we quit going with him he only went a few more times and then scheduled appointments but did not show a couple of the times  We only found this out when a bill came for a "no show" appointment 
I don't know if this is too much information but were are in dire need of help for him  In the information that we purchased from you you mentioned that you do coaching for Aspergers adults  I don't know if you can help us but I thought I would check with you just in case 
Alas I think I have found your information too late to save my marriage but I am hoping to save myself 
I am currently going through a very very painful separation after a 27 year relationship with my husband whom I am convinced has aspergers syndrome  It is a long and painful story and I am desperately trying to process it all alongside dealing with a very conflictual separation  My partner is angry non communicative and totally dismissive of me and our long shared history 
He walked out last year after I discovered he had been visiting massage parlours and developed a relationship with an illegal Chinese escourt whom he subsequently moved in with  He had been seeing this woman behind my back for over 18 months  The pain of all this indescribable and his dismissal of my pain and very existence beyond belief 
Leading up to this I had been battling anxiety and depression which my husband found very hard to cope with 
Over the years of our relationship I knew something was off but I just could not put my finger on it  I often felt a complete lack of validation and empathy  Communication was also difficult as my husband was defensive and unwilling to look at issues in our marriage 
Please Mark could you help me validate some of this pain and try and make dense of 27 years of my life without drowning in fear guilt and despair about my future 
Thank you for listening and your site 
I have had problems with drunkenness, being late for school, not handing in school work, buying pot from a dealer etc  I chose to focus on the drinking and did the grounding then (grounding happened 3 times)  I also stopped sleep overs at friends 100%  I have stopped handing out money for no reason or even buying treats like chocolate 
I did lose it one evening (and didn't do the poker face) when I was trying to unplug the internet at midnight on a school night (she’s always late for school so I am trying to get her to sleep at a reasonable hour)  I was physically stopped and pushed around so I slapped my daughter (it was not hard)  This ended up with her saying she didn’t want to come home (the next day after school)  By this stage, I also had enough and didn’t go get her  I thought I am not begging  You will run out of money soon  It was quite a relief to have some peace  Daughter’s Dad was in town (from another country) and called a family meeting with the counsellor  To cut a long story short, daughter and her counsellor put it on the table that daughter wants to go live somewhere else (with her friends family) because of the stress at home with me (we live on our own) (i e  stricter rules and her bucking up against it) 
I didn’t really want this but made a compromise that daughter would go there Tues morning – Friday afternoon as the friend is an A student whereas my daughter is failing  They do the same subjects  I made the decision at the end of the day based on what is good for me – some time away from the daughter  I also thought of your book when the child went to live with the grandparents – daughter will dig her own hole over at the friend’s house  They have a week day no going out policy which made me think it is OK  I went and discussed with them the problems experienced (drinking, pot, late nights, not handing in work)
I am also trying to follow the let go of school thing per your book  I find it really difficult to remain calm when I can see daughter on her phone and watching series (when I have her on the weekends) when I know there are projects due  I hired her a private tutor once a week for help with a subject  The tutor has just fired my daughter for not handing in work and being not committed  It’s not the first time private tutoring has not been appreciated  The school give me a report back on a Friday as to whether everything is handed in  The deal is – if the work is not handed in – no pocket money and no Friday night out)  Her school is a "progressive" school and there are no repercussions for her being late or not handing in work  I would change schools if I could but there are only 8 months left of school (she turns 18 in August) 
We have just completed the first week and beginning week two of your material  We are agreeing with your take and see our son and ourselves in most of what you are saying  Prior to finding your material and starting your program we had been having extreme out of control behaviors and had to call the police because he was breaking things in our house and pushed my husband  This happened three weeks ago  After that incident we took away privileges ie  PS4, phone (which had already been taken for a few days), and friends  So, last week while doing your program he already didn’t have privileges and has continued with poor behavior – name calling, throwing things, slamming doors  We are not sure when to give privileges back  He has been given the privilege of playing with friends on occasion  His 13th birthday is tomorrow  This past weekend, for his birthday my husband and he went boar hunting  Of course we debated about it but decided to go ahead since it was his bday  We are cooking some of the meet on the grill tomorrow night for his bday and inviting a couple of his friends over for a cookout  No more gifts other than cards and balloons  We are wondering if we should go ahead and give him his privileges back and not sure how to do it  Last Friday morning we attempted to talk giving him a date to return privileges and that conversation ended with him getting angry but he gathered from our conversation that he is getting his stuff back on his bday  We are starting week 2 assignments today but not sure how to handle what was already in place  Of course, we aren’t seeing the respect and responsibility we are looking for but realize it has been a long time  We were wanting him to pay for his phone and thought it might be a good time to introduce that idea  Allowing him to earn his phone  We expect that he will be angry with this idea and not sure how to implement 
My son and myself are interested in a inpatient Aspergers program  We line in Calif which is preferable  My son is very high functioning and was diagnosed dry late  He was eight years old  He has never been in or attended a full day of class  Partially due to depression,anxiety, and trouble with his ADHD also his aversion and being bullied and of course his Aspergers  He will not attend his freshmen year due to surgery on both Achilles' tendons from walking on his toes  With physical therapy he should be ready by his sophomore year! We all feel he needs in patient therapy to give him the tools on how to work with his issues in a structured setting and a place that will give him tools for the rest of his life 
In my utter desperation to find a way to get some help for my daughter's increasingly challenging behaviour I trawled the internet to see if I could find some strategies that would provide specific methods on dealing with teenagers with Asperger's syndrome  When I came across your website, I couldn't believe that every statement you made was exactly what I have been going through with my daughter  She has just turned 14 last week, and was diagnosed with Asperger's/ Autism Spectrum Disorder 15 months ago  I have already been seeing a child psychologist for the past five months, however the methods she has been advising have not been very effective 
Our main difficulty with our daughter is her overwhelming obsession to use her cell phone (and to a lesser extent her laptop) constantly  Without any restriction, she will be on it every minute of the day, and will be awake until the early hours every day  We have tried to incorporate her input around rules as to when she has to give in her phone, but she is unwilling to compromise on a time that she should give it to us, believing that she should have unlimited use  I believe she is unable to do any adequate study or homework, as she is constantly having to look at the phone  We have tried to put rules in place that she has to give in her phone and laptop on school nights at 22:15  If she is able to do this then she is given rewards, and if she doesn't then she knows that there will be consequences  The consequence has been restricted use the following day  However, this is usually where we fail, because taking her phone away from her results in tantrums, screaming, and even threatening to harm herself  This behaviour is relentless to the point where the whole family becomes deeply distressed, and inevitably results in her getting the phone back 
This obsession is affecting her schoolwork, and more severely her eyesight  She has become very shortsighted, and her eyesight continues to deteriorate as a result of holding the phone or laptop very close, and mostly in the dark without any lights on  My husband and I have a constant battle on our hands daily, in all areas of discipline with our daughter, but our main concern is that we have been unable to find a way to minimise this obsessive behaviour centred around her phone and laptop  Please can you provide some strategies that can help us specifically with this problem 
First of all, I thank you for developing this program and I am only at the first stage of assignment 1  I have loads of books I have bought, attended psychiatrists for my son and myself, family therapy, occupational therapy, begged and prayed for change but have been dealing with behavioural issues for so long I am definitely exhausted and resentful 
I am a mum to a 15 yr old boy with ASD, dyslexia, OCD and ODD  Sorry to focus on the labels but just to give you an idea of what I am dealing with  I also have a 13 yr old son whom finds his brother’s behaviours difficult, embarassing and challenging  My husband whom is not in great health ( he had a cerebral aneurysm clamped two years ago and has two further aneurysms that are inoperable so endures fatigue, headaches and stress)  We have however a pet cat that is very social and a calming influence in the home! I was fortunate enough to have loving parents but I lost both my mum and dad in 2008 and 2015  My inlaws are elderly and quite directly say they are too old to help us so it feels we are alone in dealing with the issues we have 
I am desperate for change as the household is one of stress and anger and I feel all the control lies in my son Patrick’s hands  I am hopeful your programme can make life better for all of us but I wonder if it is too early to ask you two questions?
The first lies with what to do when Patrick goes into my other son Brendan’s room and will either turn on a light when he is sleeping, yell when he is on his phone or create some disturbance  He will not leave the room when asked to do so and the situation always escalates into yelling and Brendan attempting to physically remove him  This happens regularly and always ends badly with doors slamming, my husband being woken and myself in tears feeling the lack of control and also I admit I seem to think “Why me?” which rationally I know is of no help 
The second problem is leaving the house for school  Patrick refuses personal hygiene (either morning or night) and any request to even brush his teeth is fraught with swearing and abuse  If I can get him to shower, he will watch the water roll down the drain and turn up the water really high temp (mu husband has had to turn down the thermostat on the hot water service) without so much as getting wet  My husband leaves for work at 6am but I leave at 745 to work as a nurse in a busy outpatients department in the Alfred Hospital (Melbourne)  My work is my sanity as it is a paid break from home but most days I am late which is causing considerable stress and anxiety not to mention my responsibility to do my job  Patrick simply refuses to leave the house and as much as I am tempted to just walk out and leave I know the house would be left unlocked and wonder if Patrick would even attend school  The time I need to leave is not negotiable but Patrick uses this to his advantage and seems to delight in stressing me out and subsequently speeding to work in a frazzled mess 
The interesting and frustrating element in all of this is that although he is socially isolated at school (he has no friends) and academically challenged his behaviour at school is not a problem  He is quiet and his teachers report he does his best and is compliant and well mannered  It is like a Jekyll and Hyde situation where another side of him at home is so angry and abusive yet at school this behaviour does not happen 
I’m Jackie, I now work primarily as a freelance tech writer, after starting my career in software development and moving on to teach IT to young adults at a variety of colleges and schools 
My freelance work is pretty varied and looks at many aspects of the computer industry as a whole, and I’ve just recently completed a piece which gives help and advice to anyone wanting to become a game designer, which you can read here: http://www gamedesigning org/become-a-game-designer/  It highlights the hard work and effort it takes to get into such a role, and also how you can further your career and continue to learn and improve as you go  I hope you’ll agree it shows that starting work in the industry takes dedication and skill and that becoming a game designer isn’t just a fly-by-night job!
If you’d be interested in sharing a quick mention of my work on your blog that would be really wonderful and I’d appreciate the chance to get my work out there to a wider audience  Alternatively, I’d be happy to write a short blurb or paragraph or two (or a longer piece - just let me know) highlighting the key points because I think some of your readers might get a lot of value from it 
My son just turned 15 and is a freshman in high school  Although this is his first year in a general ed environment, he is struggling with behaviors in school  He has meltdowns and does not express why he would have them until much later  Once we all know what caused it, the school will accommodate him and try to "change up" things so as not to cause his meltdown  Once that is resolved, another issue comes up and causes him to melt down  He is a high functioning and academically does well, when he wants to do the work  We battle at home over homework  He does not care how it is done, as long as he hands it in  He thinks failing a test is ok, at least he took the test  Homework is never on his mind when he gets home from school  If I never prompt him, he would never open is backpack  He can be aggressive but is never intentionally trying to hurt anyone  He may push over a chair in school, but it is not directed at anyone  We know how that in itself could hurt someone who gets hit by it though  He is defiant in that he only wants to do what interests him  He does not go out by himself (still immature), or abuse alcohol or drugs and never curses  He is a very funny kid and very talented  His main problems are task avoidance and seeking attention  He can be disrespectful to adults in that he is "cheeky" with them, trying to be funny or cute  And he has no "filters" 
I’ve just finished reading your Living with an Aspergers Partner ebook  I found it so informative, thank you 
You offered some personal advise, and i wanted to run a situation past you and seek your input as to a strategy for what to do next 
I’ve been seeing a guy for about 7 months now who I believe has Aspergers  I came to this conclusion months ago and I don’t think he realizes, (or acknowledges) although he is aware he has some traits 
He’s highly intelligent and successful, a pattern seeker, has a tendency to focus on the project to hand to the total exclusion of all else for as long sit takes (work or home) socially awkward (has learned coping strategies), sensitive to loud noise, high anxiety with control strategies, black and white thinking etc  He’s currently not working and I’ve seen a slow withdrawal over the last 6 weeks, including the need to ‘escape’ and leave a situation at least once 
He also has a bipolar ex overseas who has primary custody one daughter where there has been ongoing patterns of drama which has recently increased 
Over the past couple of months (since stopping work and drama increase) I’ve gone from being ‘wonderful’ in his eyes to him now being sorry and not having the ‘urge’ to spend close/intimate time with me and offering friendship  Since he shared that with me in a message he’s stonewalled and has retreated to the safety of minimal messages and talks about not knowing what best to say and not being able to find the right words somehow 
He’s a good kind man who I feel is struggling  I’m concerned about his anxiety and possibly the risk of depression  I’m fairly resilient and whilst i’m disappointed he doesn’t want to pursue a relationship with me, i’m concerned for him and his well being  One of his very few close friends is also just leaving the country to live overseas 
The strategy I’ve used so far is simply to back off and give him space  I’ve asked to take him up on an original offer he made to talk but haven’t pushed it  I also haven’t been aggressive or accusatory in the few messages i’ve sent 
Any advise you could give would be greatly appreciated,
Carli who is 10 years old and has had behavioral issues her whole life  The other night she came home very upset after having a conflict with a friend  She was at her friend's house and her and her friend wanted to get on the computer and the older sister was using it  Carli made up a story that someone was at the door to get the older sister off the computer  Her friend didn't understand that she was making up a story to get the sister off the computer  She got excited that someone was at the door and ran downstairs to answer the door  In the process of getting the door, she fell and yelled at Carli  Carli became extremely upset  She was able to control her feelings at her friend's house, but when she came home, she proceeded to cry extremely loudly for over an hour  Her dad spent most of that time with her, talking to her and trying to calm her down  After an hour, I asked him if he could please tell her to be more quiet because the other members of the household were trying to go to sleep 
My question is    how do I as the girlfriend, handle this? He did not like that I asked her to be quiet  We have a rule that if she is having bad behavior, and can't calm down in 5 minutes, he takes her out of the house because her yelling doesn't stop for a long time and is very upsetting to everyone in the household  I would like to ask him to do this with this kind of situation as well  Is this a reasonable request? His thought was that she shouldn't be made to calm down, because everyone handles being upset in a different way  But, she was literally sobbing and wailing very loudly 
My other question is should she have been told that if she wouldn't have lied, this wouldn't have happened? She has a history of lying and of not accepting responsibility for her actions  My boyfriend became very upset with me when I brought this up  He was being very sympathetic and understanding to her  I feel like he was giving her negative attention, and being an over indulgent parent by not putting his foot gown and saying, "you can't carry on like this, even though you are upset"  Please let me know how we can handle these situations better 
I am contacting you for help with adult AS  I am taking initiative to pre screen potential therapists to help my current boyfriend get therapy and help with Adult AS 
He has seen many therapists, but it seems like they aren’t really helping him with his problems  They don’t seem to understand how his (undiagnosed) AS would affect therapy approaches  For example, he may not share enough in therapy session and I’m assuming an AS therapist would recognize that is part of the AS and employ strategies to get information from him that helps with treatment  Sometime he tunes out when he is processing something heavy or that he doesn’t want to hear necessarily, or he gets distracted and I’m hoping an As therapist would recognize that and get that he may need repeated something for example, if this is happening 
He is currently suffering from depression that appears clinical in nature as well as reoccurring negative thoughts about something specific that has been worrying him about our relationship  Today he told me these reoccurring thoughts happen during all waking hours unless he watches TV, he never gets a break from them and they make him feel like he is going crazy  As his girlfriend, I am extremely concerned that he cannot get relief from these thoughts and that the therapists he is seeing are unable to help him with his problems  Therefore, I am taking initiative to try and help him find better therapy options, because I want to see him someone who can better help him get to the bottom of things and help him with the challenges he is facing  He really needs an advocate that will help him go deep to figure things out and not just assume therapies are working well, without seeing changes or getting supporting feedback from him in that regard 
Here are some questions I am trying to ask in advance to find the right people to help us with this  As you may know, insurance for these therapies are not often available  We don’t have a lot of money to go from therapist to therapist to find the right person and are hoping prescreening will help 
I recently downloaded your e-book and listened to your talks and your information is by far the most helpful I have been able to find to date  It's very accurately describes my situation as an NT wife married to a very probable AS husband  I think you for taking the time to write this and sharing your insights as well as the experiences of many of your clients  It has really helped me understand the last 32 years of our marriage and get a grasp on how to move forward 
One area that is of primary concern to me, that I did not see addressed, is stimming  I believe that is the behavior my husband is showing through constant vocal singing, repetition of words, shouting out, as well as slapping himself in the chest and general nervous activity  It is very loud and disruptive to our household and it is often a relief when he is not at home  I think there may be a level of Tourette's syndrome as well 
I did some searches on the Internet and could not find anything that really describes his behavior  Most of what I found was flapping or children's behavior  I understand that it is a release of nervous tension but I am really trying to find some strategies to help him stop this behavior as it is extremely frustrating and builds my resentment in dealing with it daily  A lot of it is embarrassing as well and sounds childish to me 
He usually does this when close family members are around and will reign himself in if he is around other people besides us  When we are home it is constant  He also has a lot of anger, mostly at himself, and blows up at unimportant things, it is as if he has a ton of negative energy inside him that need to get out and stimming is one outlet 
I will try to build my acceptance of it, but I also would just like him to stop especially the loudest and most annoying portions  Would you have any resources you could point me to?



ground_truth: 3-D printing and software development.