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I was just wondering if you knew it was going to happen! My friend is convinced that her OH is going to for her birthday. When I asked her how she knew is just said it's because he hasnt asked her what she wants for her birthday and he is distant. I am now worried about thier relationship and how to pick up the pieces if he doesn't. Oh I've been there. We weren't best mates or anything. We had met on holiday and she spent ages telling me about how close they were and how they talked about marriage and kids and everything. She'd moved to London to be with him and was applying for solicitor jobs and the lot. It was her birthday on the holiday and he booked a candlelit dinner on the beach and it was so obvious she was expecting him to propose. Cue later that night them walking into the Martini Lounge, her with a face like thunder and no ring :/ didn't see her for rest of holiday, even when we were supposed to be on same bus back to airport, think they went home early :/ My only advice would be a little dismissive of it when she talks and don't encourage the talks as much as you can. No, I was really surprised when my bf proposed. He'd always said he'd never propose on holiday (which he did in fact do) because he knew so many mate's gfs who had started to expect the proposal every holiday!! Midnight on new years eve my OH told me his news years resolution was to propose but he needed a 'sunny day' to do it. Q excitement every time its sunny we both have a day off and he 'has plans for us'. Trips to London, Beachy head, Picnics ... and as yet NO proposal = a tiny disappointment each time. I had this quite recently- I really thought my OH was going to propose and felt so stupid and embarrassed when he didn't! I think its a bit OTT to get in a massive huff about it though. Even if your friend's OH doesn't propose on her birthday doesn't mean he doesn't have something up his sleeve! My OH has told me that as soon as he can afford a ring then I'll be getting one (things are a bit tight money wise atm). Am trying not to think about it too much, and have told him not to propose on my birthday (in 3 weeks) so I'm not expecting it! Tough situation OP. See if he does propose. Have they discussed marriage at all? I knew my OH was going to propose but just wasn't sure on the day. We had discussed it from the November and he proposed on our anniversary in the May. I knew he had something planned and it was probably proposing. But I didn't know how he was going to do it or the fact that his family had travelled down for a celebration meal (good job I said yes ). Unfortunately, I got food poisoning from the meal so it was a lovely day but I will always remember feeling very ill. On the up side, my OH has joked about how many times/ways he can propose before we actually set a date "Life isn't about waiting for the storm to pass. It's about learning to dance in the rain!" I thought my OH might propose summer 2010, as we were going on a big holiday, had been talking more about marriage etc. When he didn't, I figured he'd propose either the following summer (2011) or the summer after that; I always knew he'd do it abroad. As it was, he suggested a last-minute short break early Feb 2011; we'd both been stressed as his mum had been in hospital for 3 months, and I never guessed he might propose, even though there were like 101 clues lol. He proposed the first night I think expecting a proposal risks setting you up for disappointment; I will admit I was a little disappointed when he didn't that summer, but looking back, it would have been too soon (as in, we're already having a very long (3.5 years) engagement, over 4 years would have been pushing it lol). If your friend talks about it, I would probably not get too involved/encourage her too much. Thanks for you replies and insights guys! I am dreading her birthday haha! She says they have talked about it and has shown me the ring she wants. Deffo going to follow your advice and not talk about it and avoid as much as possible! Thank you all