SlowGuess/NAACL_2021_OCR huggingface dataset:
Figure 12: Helpfulness of evaluated models, separated by domain. The format is the same as Figure 3, except here we separate results by the type of subreddit - covering relationship advice (relationships, relationship_advice, dating_advice, dating, Marriage, love); legal advice (legaladvice), or life advice (internetparents, needadvice, techsupport). The results don't show a clear pattern of some domains being harder than others.
reasoning.
However, since the data distribution of these problems is complex in nature – as they manifest over long passages of advice – they might not overlap well with past (clean) datasets for these tasks. This suggests that giving advice is a promising task in which we can study and make progress on these language tasks.
F.2 GPT3 often generates toxic language
GPT3 often generates language that is broadly toxic, that our evaluation is able to pick up on. We show two examples; in Figure 18 it generates "alt-right"/"red pill" language in response to a relationship advice question. In Figure 19 it writes language praising a mass shooter and his misogy
Figure 11: Distribution of the number of annotations for each worker in our Mechanical Turk evaluation from February 1st to February 12th 2020.
nistic worldview.
Though the other models can and do generate toxic language, we noticed it far more with GPT3's generations. We suspect this is because the GPT3 model was not finetuned on Reddit language, and so it never "unlearns" the alt-right language that it was trained on. These generations should be especially concerning, considering the same GPT3-175B model is being put in production now (without finetuning).
internetparents: I'm a female with autism, and was never taught how to be "on". How can I affordably look together all the time?
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I'm a master at masking personality-wise, but with a mother that took no interest in teaching me how to "girl" or even learning how to girl herself, I've constantly felt less-than the other girls around me.
I do have difficulty picking up some things like braiding right away, but I always get the hang of it after a while. I've taught myself makeup (as best I can) and several different types of braiding, but more and more, I'm saddened by my inability to just be "on".
Coming from the south, other girls have their hair perfectly done either  $100\%$  or  $90\%$  of the time, dress to suit themselves, and just always look put together, even when it's a bad hair day or something.
For me, I can't fathom that they stay up so late or get up so early to look perfect every day, so there has to be a secret, right?
I've tried many hairstyles/lengths/colours, but my hair always falls flat and dull. When it's a bad hair day, I feel that I look like a wet rat and just yuck. I want to look like the other girls. I'm at a point in my mid-20s where I feel it's nearly immature of me to not have the "properness" these other young women do. I don't want my autism to be my excuse, many strong women I know have autism and are "on" often as well.
From not being able to emulate those perfect, bouncy, effortless curls to never looking manicured and put together, I feel like I'm always just "almost there".
I don't want to shed loads of money on fake nails, eyelash extensions, constant hair appointments, injections, etc. (These are all things I've tried, but have difficulty up keeping- financially and personally), but I want to be "on". I want it very badly.
I've been told I'm a pretty girl, but I feel like a slob. Not being "on" was possibly a positive in my teenage years, because it was not the norm, but I've grown out of it now. I need to look like a proper adult who can make themselves up, and I WANT to be on. I want that.
Please help me, parents, how can I be on?
(And also, do people really lose/ hours and hours of sleep and spend hours daily on being put together? Surely not. People would have to be going to sleep at 9 PM and rising at 4 AM, would they not? There must be a secret I'm missing)
If someone is the "on" southern woman I'm describing, can you give me a step-by-step? How were you taught to be together?
Our brand of southern here is "Hannah Ann from the Bachelor, but a little less affluent and more want for time")
Figure 13: A second qualitative example, following the same format as Figure 5, along with generations from all the models.
legaladvice: Myself and some of my friends have found that our public high school has installed software on our personal computers without our or our parents consent, is there something we can do legally?
We're from Austin, Texas. I'm posting this on behalf of my friends aswell.
A friend of time told us they had discovered a program called LanSchool on their personal computer. This software as advertised as anti-cheat, and allows remote screen capture, webcam access, hard drive and google drive access. This can be done by any IT staff member, or in the right circumstances, any teacher. This has been discovered on several student's personal computers, including mine. and both them and their parents were clueless. Mine were too, and I'm also 18.
The best we can figure form the data and talking to other redditors, the school used their SSO website to secretly download the software onto students computers using chrome's automatic download feature, without alerting the user". The software doesn't appear on desktop, and is cleverly hidden in appdata folders. We have pictures to prove it's existence on student computers, and it's install date. No one or their parents have ever signed a contract consenting to this.
Is there anything we should do legally? Many parents and students are concerned about student privacy, and due to the recent nature of the discovery, the school hasn't addressed it yet.
Top Reddit "Automatically install programs without notification or consent" is not enabled by default in Chrome. Chrome can automatically advice download files, but all that does is put them in your Downloads folder. It doesn't run them or install anything.
At some point, you or someone with access to your computer must have taken a positive step - installing software, logging into the school's Google Apps domain, or otherwise - that enabled this.
You can certainly ask your parents to talk to the school about when this was installed and why. It's possible this is deliberate, but it's a lot more likely that either you did agree (whether you understood you were doing so or not), or that it's an oversight and was supposed to be installed on school computers only.
If you've logged into your school Google accounts on your personal devices, log out and stay logged out. Organizational Google accounts _can_ impose policies on Chrome and on other Google products, and it's generally assumed you're agreeing to that when you log into your org account. Your org admin - your school's IT staff - should have told you about this if that's the case, but that's less of a legal issue and more of a best practices one.
Rule Based Sending lots of love. that's brutal and I hope you can make the space to take care of you, daily. If I were you, I'd get a lawyer immediately.
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TF-IDF Your location is important. Going to assume somewhere in the 49 at-will employment states in the USA for the time being, also going Retrieval to assume you're standard at-will employment.
You can refuse access to "your" computer. You can be fired for refusing access.
This is what happens when you mix personal and business stuff – the line becomes extremely blurred. If it's your computer and you're using it at work for work-related stuff, your employer has an interest, however large or small, on what software is installed on that computer as well as usage of and access to that computer on the company's network.
Grover-Mega I would contact an attorney about this ASAP. Is this software installed on your school's network as well?
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T5-11B The school should be doing this to their own computers too right?
A lot of people who go to school in Texas don't have their own computers.
Most high schools have their own computers and if it has been a hiccup in this, that is likely due to the budget cutting.
GPT3-175B This is illegal. But because LanSchool is a program specifically for administrators to track student usage of computer resources, that these students obtained software that is for IT personnel to track unauthorized usage, then they are guilty of misconduct. They were not authorized to have this program on their computers, and were therefore using their personal property in a way that was disruptive to learning, breaking the first rules of not just high school, but of life. Technically speaking, the school itself is in the right. What the students are reporting though is that the program makes absolutely no sense for a school. It is an anti-cheating program used for proctoring online exams. The program does not feature any of the features that a administrator would need to monitor student use. If it is a school that is using LanSchool and it is solely for administrators, then they need to rewrite the contract with the software's creator to clarify that they will not be in violation of the LanSchool End User License Agreement. The EULA states that the software is to only be used for proctoring exams and assisting students on how to improve their computer usage, and on the surface these students are correct. It does not allow school administrators to secretly install this software without parent permission. By installing the software in the manner in which they did, they violated the end user license agreement.
Some people are gonna flip out when they see their parental rights being nulled on this, but I do agree that the school was acting in a way that is a violation of school guidelines. Technically speaking, it's true, that you have to sign off on anything that is going to be installed on school computers, but does that extend to 3rd party software? Considering the implications, that is the core issue in this case. The school must have some proof that they had permission to install this software, because otherwise, they would be in breach of contract with the creators of the software, so either they were negligent in their duties or else they have the proof of consent on hand. Which it is one of those two options is up to their legal team to answer. Based on the total lack of clarity in the EULA itself, it's hard to determine whether or not it extends to 3rd party software, so that is the core issue that needs to be answered by legal counsel.
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Teacher here whose school uses lanschool. It was installed by our IT on the district managed chromebooks. If you logged onto your personal computer (I'm assuming it is a chromebook) and made your school account your primary account, it is possible the district didn't discern it was not their device. In talking with IT in the past about installing apps for students, I've learned that IT can maintain a list of their devices and install by device as well as by account. What I would do is power wash your Chromebook and re-login with your personal account first. Then, add your school account as a second account. Definitely talk to your parents first and always have a cover on your webcam. Always. Good luck!
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Figure 14: A third qualitative example, following the same format as Figure 5, along with generations from all the models.
internetparents: How do I tell a teacher I am unable to do a project due to past trauma?
I'm a senior in High School and have been recently assigned to do a at home dissection and create a displayable animal skeleton. In my freshman year i tried dissecting a pig in class but had a severe panic attack in front of my class and I was unable to complete it and had to do an alternate assignment, as well as other experiences in my childhood that have left me distressed at the thought of dead animals. I tried talking to my teacher this past week to opt out of the project and do an alternate one, but she said "i'm making more out of it than necessary" and that I'll be fine. She then showed me photos of dismembered animals from other projects, and I started crying and was unable to continue the conversation. This project is going to be a major impact on my final grade in this class, so im desperate to do an alternate project, but she doesn't seem willing to do so. I don't want to play a 'victim' card, or seem like im just trying to get out of a hard project, but I don't know how to approach her. I'm really just anxious about the whole thing, and im feeling miserable that i'm even doing this, but i just cant cope with dead animals, especially first hand.
Any advice is very appreciated, thank you!
Top Reddit advice	Science teacher here.
If this is a required class, you should receive an alternate assignment. If a respectful conversation with your teacher did not have productive results, it's time to speak with the head of your high school.
I would start with a short, respectful email to the next-higher-up authority figure that might be able to help. Ideally that figure would be an Advisor or Counselor that knows you personally, but depending on your program that person may not exist. Next-best option is the Principal or Head of your high school. If you have an Assistant Principal, they may also be an option. AP job duties vary significantly, think about what makes sense at your school.
In your email, I would stick to a few key themes:
* You feel unable to complete an animal dissection, for moral and emotional reasons.
* You are requesting an alternate assignment. You are not trying to avoid work.
* Include your name, teacher's name, class title, course section, the assigned date of the project date, and the due date.
* Be honest, be succinct, and don't try to play any particular angle. A forthright approach is typically best when self-advocating as a student.
For what it's worth, creating alternate assignments in moments like these is often difficult. Your teacher is probably tired and stressed, and generating a whole new project for a single student is *hard*. That said, it would be borderline-unreasonable for them to refuse accommodation in a case like this. Consider offering up an alternative yourself, to give them an easier "out". If you would feel comfortable with an owl pellet, assembling a tiny skeleton from a pellet serves much the same purpose but avoids soft tissue. Plus, you know the animal didn't die solely for the purposes of education, but as part of an ecosystem.
If speaking with your counselor or principal doesn't initially help, you should involve your parents. They can take the same steps outlined above, and have a bit more swing. I recommend starting the process yourself, however, and adding your parents as a last resort.
Good luck! Feel free to shoot me a message if you have further questions. I can't promise I'm any help, but I can say that I'll *try*.
u/Mzieg's advice is right on the money also!
T5-11B	>this past week to opt out of the project and do an alternate one, but she said "i'm making more out of it than necessary" and that I'll be fine.
If you've already approached her and she's dismissing your concerns, then I think you should go back to her and state again - "I'm asking you to do a project that requires me to see dead animals - I'm afraid that this project is a dealbreaker for me."
If she refuses to concede, you should go to your principal. He or she should know about your past trauma.
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Figure 15: An example with advice from T5. This is actually the example from the teaser (Figure 1), but it was abridged, because it's really long. It has the following NLU problems:
1. Coreference: T5 suggests the advice-seeker say "I'm asking you to do a project that requires me to see dead animals." This confuses who is who in the context. The science teacher was the one who asked the advice-seeker to do a project requiring them to see dead animals.
2. Social Commonsense Reasoning, Reading Comprehension, and Natural Language Inference: T5 suggests that the advice-seeker go to the principal, but says that they "should know about [the advice-seeker's] past trauma." However, it's likely a bad idea to tell the principal about personal details such as the advice-giver's past trauma, for two reasons. First, the human-written advice suggests that the most effective strategy is to "be succinct" and to summarize those feelings as "moral and emotional reasons." Second, the advice-seeker specifically says that they "don't want to play a 'victim' card." Telling the advice-seeker to describe their trauma to the principal, without acknowledging their concerns, seems like a contradiction here.
legaladvice: Kids threw a block of ice at my car
January 20th I was driving down a residential road past a house where three boys about aged 10/11 were playing at the end of the driveway. One grabbed a sizeable block of ice and hurled it into the side of my car as I passed. I stopped and the boy who threw it was profusely apologizing. I rang the doorbell, mom comes out, and I tell her what happened. She says, boys, "come inside!" And then, "which one did it?" I told her, he admitted that he did it. Then, she closed the door. I live about 3 min away so I drove home and had my neighbor look at my car with me. There are 3 dents where the block of ice hit. I just bought this car certified pre-owned and had only made one payment at this time so I know for a fact that the damage is from the block of ice. I drove back to the house and said hey look, my car is damaged so I'd like to exchange info so I can get this fixed. She said, 1) how can you be sure that it's from them? and 2) a little snow doesn't do that much damage. I explained again that it was a block of ice. She told me to call the police.
Police come, he takes it very seriously and lectures both the boys and the parents about how dangerous that is and asks me if I want citations issued for the boys. I say no, I just want my car fixed. He tells them they are lucky that's all I want, agrees to write the police report. The mother gives her side, lies to the police and tells them her kid's friend who is no longer present is the one who threw the ice. It was actually her younger son. I didn't correct her because I was so shocked and confused and the other boy wasn't there at the time. Over the next two days, I go get an estimate for the repair (\(1327) and a copy of the police report. The officer asks me to try to resolve it with them and if I'm unable to do that, to let him know and he'll circle back and issue citations to compel them to pay restitution.
At this point, the parents are not returning my calls so I'm just wondering what comes next. I expect this will land in small claims court because the parents seem positioned to ignore and then say that I can't prove anything, plus they are placing blame on the boys' friend who won't speak to the police. Will the violations actually be enough to draw restitution so I can avoid court? If not, and I end up in court, what is the likelihood that the judge will side with them and say I can't prove the damage is specifically from the ice, even though the police report indicates that the parents and boys admit to it happening?
Top Reddit advice	>The officer asks me to try to resolve it with them and if I'm unable to do that, to let him know and he'll circle back and issue citations to compel them to pay restitution. > >At this point, the parents are not returning my calls so I'm just wondering what comes next. Not sure why you're wondering what comes next - call the police back and tell them they're not being cooperative. You can always just sue them in Small Claims Court.
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Figure 16: An example with advice from T5. It has the following NLU problems:
1. Social Commonsense Reasoning, Reading Comprehension: T5 suggests that the advice-seeker "call CPS." This stands for Child Protective Services, a government agency in the US that responds to child abuse or neglect. This isn't a good response to this situation, as (a) there is no evidence in the situation of any neglect and (b) it wouldn't fix the problem expressed by the advice-seeker – they just want to pay for their car repair. It was marked by the Mechanical Turk workers as being Dangerous, as it might harm the family.
2. Social Commonsense Reasoning: T5 says "It's negligence to allow kids to play with ice" which seems silly.
3. Physical Commonsense Reasoning: T5 says that ice is "literally a hardened snow/water but that depends on where you live" which is not only questionable, it also doesn't add anything to the helpfulness of the advice.
relationships: My (27f) boyfriend (25m) is uncomfortable sharing a hotel room with my dad (60)
My boyfriend and I are going on vacation next week! I'm really excited, except for the fact that he's not  $100\%$  comfortable with the room setup. Let me explain....
My dad (60) is extremely generous and has offered us the chance to go on vacation with him (something we couldn't afford by ourselves). Our flight is leaving super early in the morning so it makes sense to get a hotel close to the airport and stay the night before instead of waking up early to drive 2 hours to the airport. My dad went ahead a booked the room for 3. There will be 2 beds, one for him and one for my boyfriend (let's call him B) and I.
So B and I were raised very differently. His family is all about no sleeping in the same bed, no living in the same home, and no sex all before marriage. I grew up in a very open family so they know that B stays over often and we have sex often. He doesn't follow his family's way of thinking, however he's VERY respectful of his family's beliefs if we are all staying together. He's one of 5 kids so his family will get an air bnb for vacation and I'll have to stay in his sister's room. I'm an only child with divorced parents so my family has never been big enough to need an air bnb. Hotels have always been just fine. The point in explaining all this is to understand both B's opinion and my opinion.
Now back to the actual problem. We were hanging out with his friends last night talking about vacation and our conversation went something like this:
Friend: That's so exciting you're going on vacation!! But with your dad? What's the room setup like?
B: We are all staying together, he's sleeping in the same bed.
Me: He is NOT sleeping in the same bed! He got 2 separate beds for us and for him....? And that's for ONE NIGHT while we stay close to the airport for our flight. When we get to our actual destination, the hotel has one bed room for my father and B and I will sleep on the pull out couch in the living room.
B: Well he may as well be sleeping with us...
Friend: Ya, that's weird
I never thought about it being weird! I understand B and I are older to be going on a family vacation and it's different when he's used to a family of 5. But with me, all I have is my dad. We are very close and open and he would have never invited us is he wasn't comfortable with it.
B has brought up him being uncomfortable with the room setup from the beginning. But it's a destination we just can't afford by ourselves. It's honestly the chance of a lifetime so that's why he is going along with it. I just wish he wouldn't have announced it to his whole friend group that we were with. And it's double embarrassing that they also think this is weird.
Sorry this is so scatter brained. I'm mainly just embarrassed that his friends think this is gross and I feel a little disrespected that he would talk about my dad like that. But then again, I really do understand how he feels.
TL;DR My boyfriend is uncomfortable sleeping on the couch with me while my dad sleeps in his own bedroom and has talked about this with his friends... I'm embarrassed