Review: Doesn't even provide a definition of sexual addiction
Rating: 1 out of 5
Date: 01 9, 2014
Are you unsure if your consumption of pornography is a problem? Do you think there is something wrong and you just can't stop? Do you suspect that a loved one is addicted to sex? "Sex Addiction for Men 101" will be of absolutely NO help to you.Instead of presenting signs and symptoms of behavioral addiction, "Sex Addiction" never even gives the reader a definition of sexual addiction. Maybe the author assumes you already know, otherwise you wouldn't be reading.  I am reviewing this book from the stand point on how it would help someone with pornography, the most common of these types of sex addictions.Chris Rocker fails to provide some of the worst potential consequences of extreme behavior:  Loss of Marriage and relationship with family; loss of a job due as a result of being caught watching porn at work; and financial ruin, as someone starts with free images and streaming videos, many find tastes get more specific that they spend money of website subscriptions and purchasing specialized videos, others pay dollars by the minute for phone sex and live webcams, racking huge expenses that drain bank accounts and max-out credit cards.One of the most laughable lines in the book is "Do take note that your own sex addiction is contagious." in a section about how sex addiction affects work performance.  While some men may boast of about the videos they are viewing, a large number do not broadcast this in any fashion, this being why many faith-based treatments refer this is "secret sin."  I will add there is one possible exception, also not covered in this book -- that if there is porn in your home then there is the potential that your children may be accessing it.Another crucial step completely missing in this book is the necessity to admit that there is a problem, instead of denying that it exists.  Without taking this action no formidable change will ever occur.Rocker does come close to a step toward recovery,with a section titled "Steer Clear of Pornography" and gives the reader THREE COMPLETE paragraphs to help them do that.  Lacking are in-depth strategies or extreme measures, such as removing computers, disconnecting internet or cancelling credit cards, instructing only "discipline yourself enough to stop viewing it."No advice is provided in how to handle a relapse.  Never does this book recommend individual or couples therapy or seeking a comprehensive treatment program.This book is another example of someone taking advantage of Kindle Direct Publishing to make a quick buck. I am astounded by the positive reviews this book has, did we read the same book?If pornography or other sexual addictions have a grip on you I wish you much luck.  You have a long road ahead that is going to much perseverance.