Review: Biblical Principles for Lasting Marriage
Rating: 4 out of 5
Date: 05 10, 2014
Prolific author Boomy Tokan works with biblical principles to provide groundwork for good, lasting marriages. Readers will find 10 concepts, or myths, debunked in each of these two books. From why women should rule the home to the fact that men must provide for their wives and children, Tokan lays out the God-ordained best-case scenario for contemporary marriage.Some of these principles are easy to understand and follow; some are not – hence the “hard to swallow” part of the title. Tokan shows readers why the relationship with God is of first importance, the spouse next, and with women— children, third; for men, career, third.I appreciated that Tokan took under consideration that faith and community need to go hand in hand. Men should be able to gracefully admit they need help, and women should be able to learn from other older and wiser women about being a woman of God and putting others first. It may be difficult to stay within the bounds of being “helpful” by taking care of the home and not expecting the husband to help—the principle I found the most difficult—but in a perfect relationship, the husband is doing his ordained work of providing for the home. It should work, but is often a huge failure.Much of the advice for both women and men focuses on attitude, with some surprises, such as men should submit to the wisdom and advice of other men partly because we are created to work in concert with each other.Each chapter introduces a concept, such as Some Men are Too Proud to Say They’re Sorry, then discussed the contemporary social debate over the issue, and finally offers a conclusion by the author.