Review: Jerks in love
Rating: 2 out of 5
Date: 04 14, 2014
This book is about two guys who can't figure out how not to dick around with other people's feelings.At the beginning, they break up because they are just messing each other up.  So even though they are SO in love, one guy walks out and basically disappears for 2 years.Then they both find other people.  I guess they decide that if they are going to mess people up, it might as well be each other, because this is when they figure out they can't live without each other.So of course they each make a clean break with their new SOs and go to give it a try?  No, of course not.  One of them sort of breaks up, but keeps his SO hanging on long enough to really rub it in.  The other just jumps into the sack without even warning the new SO.But that's OK, because they live in a magical dream world where no matter how badly you screw someone over, they always forgive you and everyone ends up happy in the end.The real happy ending is the fact that jerk A (I am so devoted that you owe me everything, and my jealousy is your fault) and jerk B) (I am going to pretend to be considerate by doing what I think is best for you way too late for it to do any good, and then pretend it wasn't all about me and making myself feel good all along) are off the market and the nice guys are spared.But there's lots of angst and sex, so I'm sure people will love it.(Note.  This book contains numerous examples of why "I never meant to hurt you" means something entirely different from "I care enough about your feelings to actually make an effort not to hurt you." It would be a good learning manual for young people who might mistake guilt for concern and end up with jerks. Guilt is inherently a selfish emotion, because it makes what someone else is feeling into your own emotional issue.  Concern is when you notice someone is feeling a certain way and try to help them without making it about you.  One is good in relationships, the other isn't.  Lots of guilt in this book, but not much concern).