Review: Surviving and Thriving after Divorce
Rating: 5 out of 5
Date: 03 8, 2013
Divorce is not an uncommon occurrence. Half of all marriages in the U.S. end in divorce. That said, divorce is a crisis situation for the partners involved as well as for their children. The Chinese symbol for crisis consists of two characters: danger and opportunity. Don Love's book Divorce Blues Recovery seeks to guide its readers in how to make the very hazardous situation of divorce an opportunity for personal growth and eventual happiness.Divorce Blues Recovery is easy to read and digest and offers ten points of sound advice for the person going through the stress and pain of a divorce. How do you come out of this experience changed for the better? "Personal growth can be most accelerated in hard times. . .You have the opportunity to think about and capture all of the good things about yourself as well as what your divorce showed you about changes you want to make in yourself."Don Love's advice about how to handle divorce with regard to children is excellent. The potential harm to your children is the most painful and critical aspect of a divorce. "It can be tempting to want to turn your children against the other spouse or want them to have the same feelings you do or at least understand your side of the story. But the truth is you will be disappointed if you attempt to bring this about." The best thing you can do for your children is to set them a good example. How you handle this divorce will have the greatest impact on how your children will handle crises in the future.As for yourself, it is important to focus on the positive and banish the negative. "Picture your heart and mind like a garden that has to be attended to in the same way you would care for your flower and vegetable patch. You have to keep out the weeds and bugs that will destroy what you are hoping to grow and enjoy."I strongly recommend that anyone going through a divorce read and re-read Divorce Blues Recovery.