Review: Why Men Are From Earth and Women Are Not From Venus (Laverdiere)
Rating: 5 out of 5
Date: 10 23, 2012
Geez, Mark. Seriously long title. Anyway, loved your book. It's a very funny, insightful, quick look at the psyche of the Alpha Male. I just need to add one more scenario to your insights on honesty/communication.I understand that guys are innate problem-solvers, and I totally respect that (Alpha Female eye-roll). However, when I, for example, slam the phone, door, kitchen appliance etc... and start cursing the cable company, botched recipe, idiot in front of me at the supermarket etc... it is NOT a good time for my beloved to offer me helpful suggestions. When I'm mad, there IS no good time to offer me helpful suggestions. All that happens is my wrath becomes directed towards my beloved, instead of what I was mad about in the first place.There is a simple solution:1. Pretend to listen (sympathetic smile/occasional head nod).2. Give it time (do not try to distract me with a semi-related question or interjection).3. Say "I understand" (Oscar-winning performance required).As you know, in a long-term, committed, loving relationship, lying about the small stuff is highly recommended. Eg. You don't tell me you clogged the toilet. Again. I don't tell you how much I spent at  "UnnecessaryThings.com". See? Everybody's happy.Note to the Ladies: Do not ask a guy a direct question, unless you want a direct answer. He is NOT your best girlfriend who will instinctively know what to say. HE will actually tell you the truth.I know, right?!