Review: Very helpful!
Rating: 5 out of 5
Date: 10 17, 2012
I am so glad that I bought this book. I was most interested in the last chapters the deal with survival, and moving on. This book is different from others in that it doesn't necessarily promote counseling or methods to stay together. Rather, it explores both options (staying together and breaking up). Then, it talks about how to "survive" regardless or whether or not that person is still in your life--it talks about moving on, taking time to find yourself before starting a new relationship, and, most importantly, about forgiveness. It says forgiveness "is not saying to the other person `it was ok for you to do that to me' but rather `I have survived what you have done to me, and no longer hold anger toward you.'" I think my anger over my previous long-term relationship is one of the things that has kept me from being open and trusting in my new relationship. That anger is so toxic in so many ways! Sometimes it is nice to read it from someone else's perspective, and to be reminded that a cheating spouse is NOT your fault, and it is ok to move on and make a commitment to yourself to live a long, healthy, and full life with a new person who deserves you.