Review: No Need For Sweaty Palms
Rating: 4 out of 5
Date: 11 14, 2012
Have you ever had one of those social experiences whereby you may be doing something relatively routine and mundane, not really thinking much about anything else except what you might have for dinner that evening, and then BAM! All of a sudden you encounter a person who simply makes you weak all over with excitement and desire---who so totally consumes your every conscious thought that you can't help but have amazing fantasies about the two of you together? Do you suddenly find yourself feeling anxious and tongue-tied? Do you want to run and hide so as not to reveal the spreading shade of hot redness that is moving across your face, ears and neck? Do you feel the need to take a deep breath or two in order to calm the seemingly loud heartbeat that is reverberating in your ears and chest?Folks, this happens nearly every day to all of us out there---even to those who may already be in a very secure, loving relationship. These sudden happenstances can be overwhelming for some individuals, and it is important to remember to maintain composure while processing the inevitable feelings that accompany such experiences. No one is immune.Call it one aspect of the complex human condition.Stephen Williams, in his book "First Date Ideas: Experience an Unforgettable one," provides his readers many different positive ideas for making the most of a first date with someone who is the source of your amorous yearnings. He strongly advises his readers to follow one invaluable maxim: BE YOURSELF.Of course, when someone is with their ultimate fantasy date, it is very easy to lapse into incoherent babbling from time to time, in addition to experiencing near-paranoia about saying or doing the wrong thing. This is where it is important to remind yourself that, if she wasn't interested in you for you, and didn't want to know you better as a person with hopes, fears, dreams, desires and baggage, then why would she be there sharing a nice dinner and a drink with you? Or taking a walk with you? Or meeting for coffee at a Starbucks? Being able to maintain proper perspective goes a long way towards being who you are, and also greatly aids in a terrific dating experience for the both of you.Williams also stresses preparation and setting for a first date. It has been stated before on countless occasions by individuals who have reached the pinnacle of personal and financial success in their chosen fields, be it Phil Mickelson, Wayne Gretzky, Don Mattingly, Warren Buffett, and other well-known people: prepare, practice, and produce. (It also helps to genuinely love what you do and have an inner desire to always put forth your best effort every day that you undertake your life's work.) Anything worth undertaking is worth doing well, and even when the inevitable slip-up happens, the true test of adversity is how well we deal with such obstacles--do we simply give up and feel sorry for ourselves? Do we start blaming others for our own actions? Or do we make ourselves confront our numerous shortcomings and foibles so that we can truly learn from our past errata and transgressions and apply them towards our future successes?"First Date Ideas" provides a plethora of knowledge for Williams's followers that can be tailored to fit the appropriate situation. (It should be noted that what Williams presents in his book can also be used by his female fans for the man in their lives, and can also be implemented by same-sex couples as well.)To paraphrase the term used in Walt Disney's classic movie "Bambi," Williams's title is apropos for those who have become twitterpated with the one whom they love and adore.