Review: A brave book!
Rating: 5 out of 5
Date: 03 17, 2013
This is, in a way, a survivor's story, as well as a cautionary tale of what can happenon that day women dread - and almost never talk about - the day you discover yourlover and lifemate has a porn habit.This is not romantic, gentle erotica - the kind couples can share to heighten theirintimacy. This is the nasty, ugly, exloitative and just plain disgusting stuff mostwomen abhor (except the women who make a living from 'acting' in these movies orvideos). But, shockingly, many men don't really get it that this habit can haveany effect on the relationship or damage their lives as well as their marriage.The author tells us exactly what watching porn means to the men who do - why theywatch it and what they get out of it (and it isn't as simple or straight-forward aswomen may think). Then she explores the other side - why women object to their man'sporn-watching, giving an articulate view from the points-of-view of each gender.The author's own long-term marriage did not survive - not so much due to the porn-watchingitself, but because of the deception and betrayal. One of the great strengths of thisbook is the author tells you how to avoid the same fate if you both want to keep therelationship, but need to re-build the trust.This is likely to be painful reading for some couples, but it is something that needsto be discussed in an open, trusting and sharing relationship.A valuable book that couples need to read, and discuss, together.