Review: Highly recommended
Rating: 5 out of 5
Date: 01 24, 2014
I am not new to the self-help books, indeed there was a time when I read a lot. I particularly like this book because it is written in a style that looks like your old friend talking to you. Hearing the suggestions from someone who knows your situation very well and shares the same background with you is quite encouraging.If you have been to any personal development camp, you probably have gone through the kind of training that the coach guided you to re-think your life, your achievements, your regrets, your family, your childhood… to know yourself better and see the potential you have. The author of this book took the same approach, except that you read instead of listen to her instructions.For example, in Chapter 4 the author asked you to write down the “benefits” you think you have got from being a member of your family. On question after the next, you eventually appreciated the importance of maintaining a supportive family. You also got a chance to review how familial conflicts impact on you. People usually have the tendency to simplify problems. Say, if there is an argument between you and your parent, it must be caused by your parents being inconsiderate. They simply do not understand you. But after going through the exercise, I learnt that the way I choose to interact with my parents is also influential.So ultimately I learnt from my own experience through a deep reflection, i.e. I learn by my own efforts. This is an effective way of personal development. I sincerely recommend this book to everyone, not just the target audience (women), but anybody.