Review: Disappointing
Rating: 2 out of 5
Date: 03 30, 2013
I do think that Janet has given us a very honest picture of her feelings relating to her adoption and how it affected her relationship with other family members but it is far too repetative and lacks structure.I always view this question of whether or not a child has the right to contact a birth parent extremely difficult.  I hav two friends that years ago had babies adopted.  One was very young and had the baby adopted immediately, she married some years later, and the matter was never discussed.  Her husband didn't want children and they have been happily married for nearly fifty years.  I am quite sure that neither of them would have welcomed a child suddenly arriving at their front door.  The second friend was sadly a case of rape by two Irish labourers working on a new road. It was early evening and she had just stopped at a corner shop for groceries, they dragged her into their van and drove away.  Her family were Catholic and sadly instead of allowing her an abortion, which was possibole under the circumstances as police were involved, she had the child and it was adopted.  If this child had turned up on her doorstep twenty years later, when she had married and had two children in a loving relationship, what could she have said.  If the child asked about her Father, or why or how her birth Mother didn't keep her, the truth would hurt the child even more.I'm sorry Janet but I do think that you have put too much emphasis on the importance of birth parents. I do think however that your adoption by a Mormon family may have had some bearing on your decision to search for your birth parents.