Review: Common sense on a very painful topic...
Rating: 5 out of 5
Date: 01 9, 2013
When I began to suspect infidelity, I found myself frequently engaged in self-talk trying to talk myself out of those gut feelings and convince my own heart that my suspicions were unfounded and wrong.  Until I began reading this book I struggled with validating the things I was seeing.  To be honest, I think the title drew my attention first because I am not looking at merely proving myself right or wrong.  I really just want to survive this crisis in whatever manner is best for myself ultimately because I am only truly responsible for myself in the marriage.  There are sections I am not quite ready to read, but the table of contents is detailed enough that I can read the information I need at the moment throughout this nightmare.  Right now, I've especially found the author's explanation of appropriate privacy within in a marriage as compared to secrecy within a marriage extremely helpful.  I've not heard it described so simple and clear before, but that is what is helping me most at this point.  I don't have to see that particulars of what he's hiding from me when the obsession with secrecy itself is so overwhelmingly a problem.  I would have wished to never need to read a book such as this, but since I do, this is proving to be a common sense guide through the pain and betrayal of infidelity.