Review: Tumika Patrice Cain - Say What?? Book Club & author of Season of Change
Rating: 3 out of 5
Date: 01 14, 2014
She’s In. I’m Out.  Solutions to 7 Relationship Problems by Dominique Wilkins and Toneal M. Jackson is a quick read, less than 100 pages. In its raw form, the book is a how to for couples, dealing with issues such as financial mismanagement, abuse, trust, etc.  While well written, the book seemed very random.  There was a foreword introducing the authors and their objectives, however what was missing were their credentials to write about and offer advice on such subjects.  It gave the feeling of two people just coming together and deciding to solve everyone’s problems, as if there is just one way to handle every situation that should arise.  The scenarios were good and real to life.  However, the solutions lacked the human aspects that throws a monkey wrench in all of our best laid plans.  Many of the solutions could very well work, but people are people and they choose to exercise their freedom of choice at will.  The book lacked solutions for those who wouldn’t play by the rules, but still had a desire to work on their marriages.  Each person is an individual and what works for one will not necessarily work for another.  When we really want answers to solving the issues in our lives, seeking spiritual help and guidance is typically the best place to start.  After all, who knows a person better than his or her Maker.  And things that look like they would be the right solution for one person, can be completely the opposite depending on who the person is and what their issues are.  To the authors credit, they did manage to stay away from the blame game and provided feedback on where each party missed the mark and managed to play a role in the downfall of their relationship.  With more development, it could become a good manual for marriage workshops or group discussions.