Review: A Cheerleader and a Coach
Rating: 4 out of 5
Date: 10 12, 2013
A little over 40% of births in the U.S. are to single mothers.  If you consider births to women under 30, the percentage of single mothers rises above 50%.  The simple fact is that being a single parent is no longer an exception - it is normal.Shondreka Palmer, the author of Independently Raising a Man, like most single mothers, never dreamed she would be a single mom.  But as she astutely observes, it is much better to be a single mom than to stay in an unhealthy relationship.  She did not plan to be a single mom, but when faced with an unplanned pregnancy, she took total responsibility for the welfare of herself and her unborn son.Ms. Palmer has written a very short, easy to read book on her experience in giving birth and raising her son.  The book is part cheerleader - telling other single moms that she has survived and is doing well and they can do.  Ms. Palmer also dispenses lots of advice about how she managed to do the things she has done.There are plenty of tips about budgeting, eating healthy, managing expenses and taking care of yourself.  She gets very specific about setting boundaries - being consistent and firm.  She also gives some very sound advice about setting bedtime hours and sticking to them.Ms. Palmer writes in a very breezy, conversational style.  She is direct and to the point.  There is no fluff in the book.  She makes her point and moves on.  You will need to stay focused - this is not a book to skim because the lessons are very concise and to the point.  You will need to pay close attention so you don't miss any of the lessons.  A person can read the book in less than an hour.  I would suggest reading it once to gain the attitude and knowledge and then reading it periodically to recharge your attitude.  According to Ms. Palmer, keeping a positive attitude is one of the keys to being a successful single mom.The book was written for the single mother who is overwhelmed or in danger of being overwhelmed.  Ms. Palmer is always cheering on the single mother - telling her she can do it.  Ms. Palmer has a very positive attitude and this has certainly been a real asset.  From her writings, she has never felt like a victim or tried to blame anyone or circumstances.While I am sure that at times it is difficult to remain positive, I believe that Ms. Palmer is a living example of the benefits of a positive attitude.I was provided a review copy of this book.