Review: Just the Push You Need
Rating: 4 out of 5
Date: 10 23, 2012
I bought this book by Stephen Williams a few days ago for me and my fiance. We've been together for over 9 years now, ever since high school, and lately we have been trying to spice up our time together in the bedroom. As much as we love each other and love being with each other, 9 years can make any relationship just a little monotonous. We have tried a couple of books by Stephen Williams before (in the last few weeks) and we really loved them, so I thought we'd try another from him and, boy, am I glad we did.This book is filled with page after page of invaluable tips and tricks. It is not just about improving your love-making - it is also about improving your entire relationship. The book is mostly geared toward men, giving them advice for how to heat things up with the woman in their lives. Williams' voice is clear and funny, as always. He never talks down to you or makes you feel judged for needing advice, and he always writes through the benefit of his own experience. I love that Williams describes this book as being about "falling in love again." I also love that he approaches everything from the perspective that absolutely nothing is out of your reach. He writes that there is no secret magic that will suddenly turn a man into a "love machine"; instead, there is a hidden "Don Juan" in every man just waiting to come out if given the right push.The very first thing that Williams tells men who are reading his book is that they should not be afraid to "ask for directions." Williams' advice goes a long way towards taking the taboo out of not knowing absolutely everything as a man. Williams understands that a huge part of having a great love life is  feeling comfortable enough to communicate with your significant other. This is great advice that can be applied to every part of your relationship. I found it especially helpful in getting my fiance to feel less awkward about opening up about the things he really enjoys. For some reason, men seem to respond better to advice when it's given to them by another man - something about the shared camaraderie I think. Even after 9 years, it turns out my man was holding out on me about some of his fantasies - thank god this book came along for us!The one thing I didn't like so much was that Williams goes out of his way to avoid using "grown up" words, resorting to using terms like "male part" and "woman's lower part." I, of course, appreciate that Williams wasn't trying to write erotica or anything like that, so he stayed away from more explicit terms. But any time one of those phrases popped up, my guy and I just couldn't help giggling! Aside from that, this was a really great book with really great information (and some really creative ideas for bedroom play that we never would have thought of on our own). This is the 5th or 6th book by Stephen Williams that I have read and I have to say, he really knows his stuff. I will definitely be keeping my eye out for more gems like this one from Mr. Williams.