Review: A Child-Rearing Philosophy
Rating: 5 out of 5
Date: 12 2, 2013
I’m from the south where the general mentality about disciplining children was spanking them and taking away privileges. If that didn’t work then the child was presumably bad in nature. What’s asserted in this book is that maybe these parents aren’t addressing the underlying causes of the bad behavior. The focus is on taking care of your relationship with your child. It touches on ideas such as empathizing, listening and communication. It blew my mind because this was precisely what I needed as a child. Instead my parents trivialized my thoughts and feelings and put the house rules above all. I could feel myself coming to grips with my parents’ way of discipline, like I was going through therapy. All of my anger and resentment was just pulled out of me and I even felt understanding towards my parents. They raised me the way they were raised and I can’t blame them for that. The book even addresses that the commonly accepted ways that children are raised may actually work against them. It's not easy breaking a habit or changing the way you think. It’s a revolutionary book in child rearing and I hope it gains the attention it deserves. I, personally, would love to see the author of this book on Ted Talks one of these days. Her ideas should be put at the forefront and could change America, or even any other culture, for the better.