Review: Have you ever lost yourself to a role like "wife" or "mother?"
Rating: 5 out of 5
Date: 07 24, 2013
E-Galley provided by Publisher via NetGalley for review on my blog.  No remuneration was exchanged and all opinions expressed herein are my own unless otherwise noted. This review is excerpted and adapted from my blog review.Every so often I find a writer whose writing speaks to me on some visceral, basic level.  Ruthie Knox is, for me, one of these writers.Even though it has much less erotic content than her other books, it has so much deep emotive content, so much spot on understanding of losing oneself in wife and motherhood that I became instantly absorbed in the narrative.  I just love the depth with which she explores Amber and Tony as individuals, as parents, and as a couple.Knox develops the characters of Amber and Tony (beyond their development as characters in Ruthie's earlier book HOW TO MISBEHAVE) where we see into their minds his need to provide and hers to be there for him and their three rambunctious boys. [Are there other kinds of boys?]  In having to be what everyone else needs Amber has lost herself and has fallen into a depression Tony can't even see because he is working so hard to maintain a lifestyle in a house that suffocates her and which will kill him and bury their marriage.The story is an ode to motherhood, to self-hood, to marriage and family and to what really matters.Ruthie is on my MUST BUY and MUST READ  list.