Review: Respectful treatment with great information!
Rating: 5 out of 5
Date: 02 8, 2014
If you’re reading reviews on this book, it may be that you are nervous about your comfort level while reading it. Totally understandable; I had the same concern until I finished page one. Carvill is extremely professional in handling such a sensitive subject and his tone is more friend and counselor than clinical. Don’t get me wrong, it’s a very detailed (and illustrated) book, but it’s so well-written and the topic is handled so well, it doesn’t have any of the uncomfortable crudeness some other books have. If you’re considering this book for any reason, I recommend it. There is something in here for everyone, whether you’re having a particular problem or just want to make things even better.From the beginning of this book, Carvill urges readers not to focus on any one problem they’re experiencing. Otherwise you’ll have tunnel vision and may not be open to all the information here. He does guide the reader through identifying problems and working toward solutions, but he hopes to help with more than one single thing. In the introduction there are questions to help the reader understand what they feel about sex and their personal experiences. These are very helpful in getting the mind oriented to the extensive guide they are beginning. And at the end of each chapter are exercises with logs to complete. The logs go to eight weeks, showing that Carvill isn’t trying to put a Band-Aid on things; he wants to help make a sustainable difference in the reader’s life.The content here is incredibly detailed. He approaches the subject like something the reader has never heard of. Somehow he does this without coming across condescending — very impressive. He introduces both men and women to a woman’s body and guides the reader in every aspect of handling it. As a woman, I learned more than a couple things and found his writing style very respectful and clear. I was interested to see that he is writing for both men and women. Examples from the lives of clients’ help shape the chapters and show how diverse we all are. The chapters have separate sections for men, the majority of the chapter meant to enlighten all readers. And he doesn’t jump straight into sexual actions. Chakras, a large part of Tantra, are explained very well for newcomers and massages and baths and a variety of other topics are covered beyond the reason you’re probably considering buying this book. I think this is why his advice in the beginning to be open to all the information is so important. It’s easy to want a quick fix, and a quick fix may be possible in your situation, but this book is trying to help improve your life as a whole.I hope you buy this book, especially if you’re having any trouble in the bedroom. There is a lot here and you’ll likely find more than a few things to consider in addition to working through the reason you’re considering this book. The detail and variety here can only help, and I believe you’ll find it a good investment.