Review: At Last!
Rating: 4 out of 5
Date: 08 25, 2013
The authors finally points out the problems with the way most girls/women run their friendships, stuff that (c'mon, gals, you know she's right) we've all known deep down inside but would never admit.  And she does so in a very well-written insightful way.But.  The reason I'm not giving this 5 stars:  she suggests that some ways women could have better friendships with women is to handle some things the way that men handle their friendships with other men.  Are you *kidding* me, Ms. Munro?!  Most men--and I'm just talking heterosexual men here for the sake of argument becuz I don't really know any gay guys so don't feel qualified to speak about them--don't even have real friendships with their buddies; they're just acquaintances who do things together & the most help that they'll ever ask from 1 of their "friends" is to help 'em move furniture or get their car started, never, ever any kind of emotional help/support (which all humans need at least once in a while).  In fact a recent study--and yes, the study was done by a man so there was no "female, man-hating bias" involved--of men from all walks of life, discovered that a really high percentage (I think it was at least 95 percent) of the men interviewed, even the ones who said their fathers were great fathers, admitted that the only person they had ever, ever confided anything important in was their mothers (or some other older female figure such as grandma, auntie, older sister, etc.) and/or wives or girlfriends.  Which I guess is because of that alpha-males-never-show-weakness-to-another-male-only-certain-females thing going on.  So almost all men need at least 1 woman to vent their emotional problems to; but yet we woman can't get the same from the men in our lives.  As a wise woman said recently, "The worst person in the world for a woman to have for her best friend is her husband or boyfriend."  So true; I love my husband dearly and I listen & sympathize when he vents to me.  But if I try venting to him?  All he'll do is that guy-thing of telling me how to "fix" it; no sympathy or even just listening forthcoming.So before you start posting angry, anti-feminist replies to this:  I don't hate men; I don't think they're any worse than women but I don't think they're one bit better either, at friendship or anything else important for that matter.  So if we women want better relationships with other women, we're going to have to do it with no help from men, most of whom don't have any more of a clue of how to be a real friend than a lot of women do.