Review: Trust is Not an Excuse to Ignore the Signs
Rating: 5 out of 5
Date: 12 18, 2013
There are a lot of indications that someone might be cheating on you, and this book covers them all. If you don’t know the signs to look for, then this book is for you. Anyone in a relationship should read this book. Yes, you should be able to trust your partner, but if they are continually giving you clues that there is a reason you can’t trust them, speak up. Be honest and open about your suspicions. One of the biggest (most common) clues is how a person reacts to you touching, using or seeing their cell phone. If they have nothing to hide, then what is the big deal? Why be so secretive?In my relationship with my man, we completely trust each other. We have a policy of “no secrets”. We established this in the very beginning of our relationship. He’s never given me a reason to think he’s keeping secrets. I don’t pry or demand to know who he talks to. I respect his privacy, and he respects mine. He knows he doesn’t have to tell me who he’s talking to, he just volunteers. He told me once, “I don’t want you to ever doubt me.” I never have, and he doesn’t doubt me either. I tell him when I talk to people online, what I’m doing if I go somewhere without him, or who I talk to on the phone. When a person has nothing to hide, sharing these kinds of things doesn’t feel like a breech of trust. If anything, we trust each other more, because we know there are no secrets between us.The biggest sign of infidelity is feeling like your partner is keeping secrets from you.If your partner is constantly defensive and secretive, you have a right to find out why. Don’t let them get away with the line “If you really trust me, you wouldn’t ask.” That’s a cop out to make you feel guilty for asking. Don’t buy into it. Being in a healthy relationship means openly sharing your life with someone. If your partner stops sharing with you, then they are hiding something. You have a right to find out what it is.