Review: Blunt, Solid Answers
Rating: 5 out of 5
Date: 09 20, 2012
I do a lot of counseling, and lately I've been running into sex issues and questions that are a bit outside the scope of my training, reading and previous experience.  One of the topics I teach on is Awesome Sex, but despite that level of expertise, there are simply sides of sex that others sometimes experience that simply have not been a part of my counseling practice.I have developed a fondness for the sort of short books that Amazon Kindle often has.  When I don't want to invest a whole week or a month into a particular subject, I need something short and to the point.  This does that in a very blunt, straight forward fashion.  I understand that in any book, the author needs to play to statistical truisms, and I understand it even more when the book is short.  When it says "men" or "women" I understand it is "most" or "many" in each case - commonly true but not always true.  With 52 books a year on my reading list, when I have a sudden need for information, I am grateful that books like this I can read in one or two sittings are available for me.Much of what is in this book is already well known to me, but there were some things I needed to know.  Most important for getting this particular book: yes, both men and women have their mind wander during sex - even great sex - and that it's common enough that no one should be alarmed when it happens.  And yes, both men and women worry about their bodies, and worry about if they are pleasing their partners.Some of this will be good news to clients.  Of course, I'm likely to get asked "So... should we DO something about that?"  Denise provides suggestions, too, and, of course, I have some of my own.  One persistent theme of my counseling and coaching is this: "You must accept normal as normal.  You might want it other than normal, but normal is just normal."  This book is a help to establish some more of what's normal, and add to my toolbox of ideas to pass along to my clients.I don't know that everyone would agree that it is five star book, but it gave me exactly the answers I was looking for.  To me, that's worth five stars.