Review: A Definite Guide to Gay Love and Dating!
Rating: 5 out of 5
Date: 11 23, 2012
No relationship is easy... now add the strain of living in a stigmatized society and what you have is one hell of a battle.My partner and I have been together for almost two years and I must confess that it has not been an easy road leading up to this; as it has been for a number of my friends and continues to be.As a lesbian...wow I just said that; I've never said that before, but I guess that is what the Living Well Series does to you; it helps you to accept yourself, understand the psychology behind who you are and with that I have come to learn that understanding is very important to the growth and development of any person.I went into reading this book because I am just fascinated by humans and find them very intriguing; but also wanted a deeper understanding of my gay friends. I'm the one that listens to the drama of my male friends and always wondered why they click the way they do. Gay Men's Guide to Love and Relationships really does a fantastic job in teaching you about the makeup of a gay man and how that translates into the relationships they find themselves in.One of the questions that always come up for me when talking to my male friends is why do gay men find commitment so hard; and I learned that men are just naturally sexually impulsive; but does this mean that they can't be in a committed relationship? Hell no! It just means that they have to be more conscious of their behavior.Tips on finding love and building a relationship is sprinkled all through this book and Dr. Travis does an excellent job of breaking the various areas down that really helps the gay man understand where he's at emotionally and what is needed from him to get where he wants to be relationship wise.Some exciting areas a gay man will discover in this book are:1. The Eight Date Rule...hard but worth it strategy2. What type of first date is best and how to devise a quick exit strategy3. Committed fouples and throuples and how not to get burned by them4. A lot more good stuff that you need to read aboutThe takeaways that are taught in this book are priceless. It is written in an easy to read style but more importantly it's written by a therapist that actually counsels men on the fact that even though society places a lot of limitations on them; their friendships and relationships should not. This book is a definite pass on to some of my friends; and it's sure to make me more sensitive when I'm in conversation with them because I now have a better understanding of them.