Review: Doing Battle with the Green Eyed Monster
Rating: 5 out of 5
Date: 11 9, 2013
Though I am not really the jealous type, I got this book because I thought it might have some good relationship tips and be an interesting read from a psychological standpoint. I was right. This book has tons of tips about how to recognize and control your emotional responses and get to the root cause of relationship killing emotions (jealousy, anger, resentment etc.). As an avid psychology student, some of this stuff was pretty common sense stuff to me, however, everyone can use a reminder every now and then.One line that really stuck out in my mind was: What you focus on grows. If you are focused on negative things in your relationship, or about the other persons behavior that you don't like, you will ultimately drive yourself nuts trying to control the other person and destroy the relationship because of your own insecurities.When people focus more on improving themselves (spiritually, emotionally or physically) they automatically increase their self-esteem and confidence level. Someone jealousy is just caused by how we perceive the other persons actions. What we see may not actually be what is going on. That is why communication is so important to a couple's relationship. Talking to each other and touching base about how we feel creates more confidence in the relationship. The more confidence you have in yourself and your relationship partner, the less likely you are to feel insecure or jealous.If you know you are the jealous type, this book is a great beginning to learning how to control your impulses.