Review: Don Love's Ten Steps To Divorce Recovery
Rating: 5 out of 5
Date: 02 11, 2013
Author Don Love offers a short book that will have major implications for you if you follow it closely. I'm assuming you are divorced or are thinking about it and that's why you are here doing your research.The bad news is that if you are hopelessly and helplessly mired in the pitiable hog wallow of divorce blues, Don's excellent book won't help you. Lots of folks around seem to like being miserable!The good news, however, is that because you are here, this means you're actively looking for help and answers so your prognosis of recovery is excellent!IF you are a thoughtful person, looking for help and a way out from the divorce hole you find yourself in, you NEED this book. It's worth every penny you'll pay for it.Don's book contains ten principal points of how you can overcome your present state of mind and drag yourself out of that hole. He reinforces the points with wisdom and advice.For example Don says that (my words: for most folks) a divorce can put the body into a state of shock that can be every bit as bad as shock caused by a physical trauma, and rushing the healing process can do more damage than good.So, he has developed ten points to recovery, point number one being that you might consider placing yourself on a one year recovery trajectory, the theory being that if you had a really traumatic accident, you wouldn't run out the next week telling everyone you were well. In a sense, a divorce can be as violent as an amputation on the psyche.You will find that Don first gives his recovery point in a sentence and then elaborates on it. At the end of the chapter he gives you a practical exercise he calls "Tip Practice." He also provides positive affirmations.Without giving away too much information, for you really do need to purchase this book and put it to use as it is intended, let me give you a couple of Don's points that I found particularly salient and helpful...1. You can't beat divorce until you accept the fact that you are divorced. Then you can start to plan on the next phase of your life.2. When life sucks, it's tempting to shift into neutral. No pain. No joy.3. You WILL go to your friends. Right? Well, don't let them give you a bum steer. Well meaning friends can do you more harm than good with bad advice. Some will happily vindicate your misery because they are miserable as well. Yuck! Don't fall into this trap!4. If kids are in the mix, you MUST be the adult in the room. Don't lean on the kids for support. They have enough problems already.5. As you work through your divorce, remember to be a giver and not just a taker. You can't be a victim when you are giving. This includes your time, compliments, and a supportive shoulder to your friends. Heck, it's a great time to re-invent yourself into the hero you have always wanted to be!Don provides just the right amount of good advice, well laid out. If you have never studied up on positive thinking, affirmations, and that sort of thing, what he has to tell you in his book will be dynamite to you. If you have, then his book will serve as a good reminder to do what you know you need to do to beat divorce once and for all.Don gets my five stars for a book that will serve as a Godsend to folks in the throes of divorce. His recommendations are not hard to follow. Much of it is common sense, sometimes overlooked, ignored, or unknown to folks who are in trouble.If you are looking for a way up and out of the divorce blues, you need to put this book, DIVORCE BLUES RECOVERY, on the top shelf. This may be all you need to recover yourself and get back to life like you like and maybe come out better and smarter for it.My review qualifications... While I have never been divorced, several years ago I saw my beloved biz partnership go belly up. It was as close to a divorce as I ever want to come. I looked on it as a divorce! I experienced nearly every symptom Don describes, and my life did go into neutral for a couple of years. My conclusion is that when you're jammed up like I was, don't try to go it alone. Don's book will help. I promise.