Introduction We live in a world where love, care, and intimiacy are often taken for granted in favor of the cheap and immediate thrills that our limited time allows. Sometimes, a day passes when we forget to remind each other of how important we are in each other’s lives. There have been times when we let our arguments remain unresolved for days because we just have too many things to do. It hurts me to realize that the same love that brought us together is also the same love that tears us apart because we fail to work on our relationship. In order to be fair to each other, and not leave us guessing about where we stand or how we expect each other to act within the confines of our marriage, I thought it best that we spell out what our expectations are out of this relationship. I am coming out into the open with you in the hopes that you will do the same with me and thereby help improve our relationship now and the future. Discussion First of all, you should know that I do not believe that we shold strive to have an argumentless marriage. I want us to argue when there is something we don’t agree upon. This exchange of ideas will help us learn more about each others personality and also help our relationship grow. Experts like Gottman and Silver (1994) have expressed the opinion that in order for a marital relationship to grow, the coupled must also display an ever evolving style of arguing which eventually set the pace for the relationship. These argument styles are the validating, volatile, and conflict avoiding types of arguments. It is my belief that our relationship shall start with the volatile agruments because we will have yet to discover everything we have in common or not. So don’t give up when we end up in heated and passionate arguments at the start. It does not mean I love you less or you love me less. It just means we are trying to find some common ground between us. Later on, I am sure we will come to the point in our married lives when we reach the Conlict avoiding stage. Although it might seem wise at this state for us to “…agree to disagree, rarely confronting their differences head on” (Gottman & Silver, 1994), this will also leave us with plenty of unresolved issues and misunderstandings. Rather than keeping things bottled up inside, I hope that we can instead have validating arguments which usually exists when “Couples compromise often and calmly work out their problems to mutual satisfaction as they arise.” (Gottman & Silver, 1994). Don’t get me wrong, I realize that the marital vows we took means that we have our work cut out for us if our marriage is to survive. That is why I am writing this letter to you. I want you to know that I do not have any unreasonable expectations of married life and how it should be conducted. I was reading another article called Simple Steps For Making Marriage Work (Gott, 2007) and I came to the understanding that we will both need to see the warning signs when our marriage starts to hit the skids. We need to know how to strike up a conversation concerning a delicate topic with each other. It won’t hurt to fire a warning shot at the start and ask me to pay attention to what you are saying. Don’t hesitate to tell me to keep an open mind and I wi