Is It YOUR Fantasy - or Theirs (Narcissists, Psychopaths, Borderlines)?
Channel: Prof. Sam Vaknin
Date: 2024-02-07

The psychopath customizes the fantasy to fit the partner; the narcissist coerces the partner to fit the shared fantasy. The psychopath tailors the relationship fantasy to reflect the partner’s wishes, dreams, needs, wants, and hopes. The narcissist cajoles the partner within the shared fantasy to fit the narcissist’s wishes, dreams, needs, wants, and hopes.

Psychopath distinguishes fantasy from reality and uses fantasy to manipulate (Machiavellian).

Persecutory (narcissist) vs. Idealized (borderline) external locus of control dictate nature of fantasy: coercion vs. enmeshment.

Coercive snapshotting.

Narcissists and psychopaths exploitative, deceptive, and criminal because they want unconditional love from the Universe. Narcissists are addicted to substances or processes (behaviors) within a shared fantasy. 

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