My family is everything to me… now. What changed?
Channel: Impulsive
Date: 2024-03-29

For 12 of the first 15 years I’ve been a husband and father I sucked. 

I put everything before connecting with my family. Video games, sports, porn, alcohol, social media, the gym, golf, pills, other women, even my job I hated.

I was really terrible at this family thing.

At the height of my disconnection a day in my life would look like this:

Wake-up just in time to go to work and kiss my wife on the way out of the door taking the lunch she thoughtfully packed for me and the coffee she woke up 30 minutes before me to make.

I would instantly forget about her. And the kids.

Work was check out time. 

I would spend hours in the crapper.

Playing mobile games. Scrolling social media. Even watching porn and jerking off when I would get triggered.

Most days not sending a single text or making a single phone call to my wife.

I would then take a long lunch, not to go home which was right around the corner. No. To get a long workout and steam in. 

If you would’ve asked me at the time what was wrong with me, I would’ve said “huh? I am doing a better job than my dad did.” And I wouldn’t be lying because I had no idea what it meant to connect with my family.

It wasn’t until years later that I would start to see that is not what it is supposed to be like to be a married parent.

At that point I had no idea how to connect with my family and had no where to turn to learn such an embarrassing thing.

What I know now is, it is embarrassing that I didn’t ask! I missed precious years of fulfilling engagement and connection with my beautiful family.

But my pain became my purpose because I developed the Connect framework to bring all the parties to the table to heal and learn to connect meaningfully to avoid the inevitable divorce and estrangement that my parent’s way led to.

If you are interested in getting on the waitlist for the free Connect framework masterclass type Me in the comments or send me a DM and I will put you on the list for this powerful experience!