💘  #shorts: How our memory deceives us
Channel: David Wilchfort
Date: 2023-06-03

"You're just imagining it.
No, I know for a fact that it happened that way.
When two people disagree about what happened, not only one may be misremembering, but often both.
The more often you imagine that your partner is going to hurt you again, the more likely it is that over time you will come to believe that it really happened.
This is the result of a psychological study conducted by the University of London.
When you imagine your partner doing something bad to you, your brain stores the memory in the same place it stores the actual events.
But of course, not every painful memory you have is automatically a product of your own imagination.
The problem is that it is hard for you to tell when this is the case and when it is not.
When you try to recall an experience with your partner, it is easy to confuse what you imagined may happen with what actually happened.
It makes no sense therefore for you and your partner, as two biased observers, to try to agree on what “really” happened.
What does make sense is what I describe in my video "Start".

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(English below)
Würdest du dich auch gerne wieder in deinen Partner verlieben?
Ja, das ist möglich.
Mein Name ist Dr. David Wilchfort, ich bin Arzt und Psychotherapeut und habe mehr als 50 Jahre Erfahrung in der Arbeit mit Paaren, die sich genau das gewünscht haben.
Bevor ich dir erzähle, was zum Wecken der Schmetterlinge in deinem Bauch nötig ist, eine kleine Warnung. 
Vieles von dem, was du bisher für selbstverständlich gehalten hast, werde ich hinterfragen.
Aber ich sehe es als meine gesellschaftliche Pflicht an, meine Erkenntnisse nicht nur den Paaren in meiner Praxis zur Verfügung zu stellen, sondern auch DIR.
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Do you want to fall in love with your partner again?
Yes, you can.
My name is Dr. David Wilchfort, and I am a medical doctor and psychotherapist with more than 50 years of experience working with couples who want to get that wonderful feeling again.
Before I tell you what it takes to recapture your loving feeling, a word of caution.
I am going to challenge a lot of what you have taken for granted.
However, I feel that it is my social duty to make my findings available not only to the couples in my office, but to YOU as well.
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https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCE5RGoWV5ZsR_-WSRYqCQBw

Dr. David Wilchfort
🔗  https://couplecoaching.de