Getting your partner to come to therapy #shortsvideos #shortsviral
Channel: Marriage Restoration with Rabbi Shlomo Slatkin
Date: 2022-07-20

It's not a good idea to force a spouse to come to therapy if they refuse to go. On the one hand you know you need it, on the other hand, you don't want your efforts to backfire.

Today's video will cover 4 things you can do to try to help get your spouse to come with you to therapy despite their reluctance. 

These 4 ways to get a partner to come on board to getting help for your marriage aren't tricks or anything manipulative, but are things you may not have thought of from a marriage therapist, that have been proven to work for our clients.

1. Don't offer ultimatums or pressure because that can backfire
2. Take ownership for your role, acknowledging that you'd like to be a better spouse, rather than blaming your husband or wife
3. Clarity, closure, co-parenting- it's beneficial to work on the relationship due to the children that you may have together, even if you do leave and enter into a new relationship. Getting closure is essential to minimize the anger and resentment that can come about in a bad breakup.
4. Try the 180 challenge. Do the exact opposite of what you're doing and don't be needy, beg, cajole. Love from a distance and let go. It's a risk but one that's worth taking if done right.

Doing any one of these steps can help get your partner to come to therapy even when they've refused counseling in the past.

Check out our other important videos on what you can do to fix a marriage that's in crisis, getting help that can work for you, rather than the typical marriage counseling that doesn't work or unfortunately makes things worse.

Start by reading our 60 Second Plan to a Happy Marriage and learn what we did to save our marriage 20 years ago that you can do in 60 seconds:
https://themarriagerestorationproject.com/free-guide-60-second-plan-to-a-happy-and-healthy-marriage

Attend one of our in-person or online marriage retreats: 
https://www.themarriagerestorationproject.com/marriage-intensives

Talk with us about your unique situation for a free 20 minute Relationship clarity call:
https://www.themarriagerestorationproject.com/book-call

We are happy to support you in whatever stage of relationship you're in and hold the hope for you to be able to create the marriage of your dreams with our assistance.