From Grooming to Discard via Shared Fantasy: Cheat, Mortify, Exit
Channel: Prof. Sam Vaknin
Date: 2020-06-05

LISTEN WELL, TAKE NOTES, and POSITION YOURSELF in the NARCISSIST's CYCLE to PREDICT THE FUTURE and design COPING STRATEGIES!!!

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In the first encounters, the narcissist assumes the role of the strict, ostensibly benevolent, but sadistic parent ("tough love") - or the hurt, petulant, entitled, self-centred, and sadistic child. As a parent, he is having sadistic incest. As a child, he is having masochistic incest. The inevitable cheating by the partner punishes the parent and mortifies the child, fostering personal development and growth as well as a creative spurt.

In the narcissist’s relationships OF ALL KINDS (romantic, business, "friendships"), there are five phases: grooming, shared fantasy, interstitial I (two options: exit or persist), mortification or anti-fantasy, and interstitial II.