Savior/Rescuer as Entitled Narcissist (Excerpt)
Channel: Prof. Sam Vaknin
Date: 2023-01-03

Watch Victim in Drama Triangle with Abuser, Savior: Karpman's Drama Triangle https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ujw-jbjOOpg

Karpman’s triangle, shifting roles

Perfidious fake friends, who always claim to be the helpless and defenseless victims of manipulation and abuse and so, oh so in need of love. Women lap it up, of course.

Saviors, healers, fixers, rescuers are grandiose, covert (fake), and predatory

Wingman or backdrop for contrast as empathic, compassionate, altruistic, loving, caring, saintly. 

Can’t see them coming, like a snake in the grass. Masquerade as good people but engage in perfidy and betrayal.

Actually rabidly misogynistic (closet gays), narcissistic, and psychopathic in dating (players)

Pick up line: self-appointed savior of damsels in distress from bad, mentally ill, dangerous, damaging so called abusers. “I am the alternative to the horrors of your relationship”. 

But often savior is the abuser, not the “abuser” (Karpman: roles not fixed, playacting)

Select heartbroken, sad, damaged, crying, devastated, anxious, depressed women as targets. They need to talk and end up being preyed on.

The “abuser” could be a friend or a colleague. They are fake friends, seething with envy and resentment owing to inferiority complex. Saving is omnipotence.

Badmouth and betray confidences for hours, not realizing that their words are reported back to the “abuser” (example: this guy and me, I gad info from multiple sources about his badmouthing and egregious backstabbing, but I refused to believe it, he is that good at faking).

Savior/rescuer attempts to create alliance/coalition with victim against abuser.

Predatory 3 Ss: save you, sex you, scram (“not another fantasy”, “not ready for a relationship”)

May believe their own lies about saving or rescuing as their “job” (abuser all bad, they all good splitting): caters to grandiosity, unboundaried sexual needs

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