Therapist's IMPOSED NICENESS aggression policing tactic = masked self-hate, shame attack
Channel: Visceral Gravitas
Date: 2023-02-17

from Jordan Peterson meetup 2/11/23
https://www.meetup.com/sorting-ourselves-out-dmv-jordan-peterson-growth-study-group/

transcript:
I'm in this current imposed niceness battle with professional therapists
they're trying to impose niceness 
and one trap that I just recognized, which might be useful to others, is that 
they present this argument that people should control their reactions 
so if you feel aggression that's a sign that you need to look inward and work on yourself 
doesn't that sound fairly disarming and high-minded

but I'm gonna point out how that doesn't make any sense because aggression means to step forward 
stepping forward means it's an external action 
that's why you need aggression to defend outer boundary 
if they're telling you to direct your aggression inward, to work on yourself, 
that's translated to say you should hate yourself
you're directing your aggression inward towards yourself
they're promoting shame and self-hate, 
in this coded language of saying
"oh why are you triggered? what's wrong with you?"

So whenever you call out their fuck ups 
or you say oh I sense there's something wrong here
I sense something unfair

they say: "Oh looks like you're triggered you should work on yourself."
it's a very common easy turnaround that therapists use 
and most people in self-help use 
that is encouraging you to attack yourself with shame 
they're adding moral judgment on you the target
to create self-hate

and it's more of a mind fuck with this group 
is because this group is supposed to be actively using hate to dialogue and talk it out
the more you can talk out your hate 
the more you can be less people pleasing
because if you talk out your boundaries you feel energy
if you suffocate yourself, you feel resentment 

that was sort of talked about earlier right
people have a murderous rage 
that's because you're suffocating your voice
you need an outlet to express your voice