Weaponizing the DENIAL SPLIT | The DEVOICING TORTURE of Destroying language w/ PAIN & Double Binds
Channel: Visceral Gravitas
Date: 2023-04-26

excerpt from Visceral Gravitas Community zoom group 2/18/23 Afterparty  
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Pain & The Language of Agency​

transcript:
there's a torture book written by a Harvard researcher Elaine Scarry 
the body in pain the making & unmaking of the world 
she researched torture across cultures and systemic culture and then broke down the steps 
of how to devoice a person 
after you devoice the person 
then you take over their voice and then you redefine their world 
because when you devoice them you take over their voice 
by applying pain that knocks away, that destroys their language circuits

then you you amplify the torture not from the pain 
the pain is the doorway that opens psychosis or too much reality 
then you can devoice the person and blame them for stuff that's not their fault 

if you give them two choices and then you make them lose either way 
so you create a false reality by devoicing 
then you make them love you so you have that intimacy bond 

she studied that across cultures and broke down the mechanisms of how it's used in war and interrogation, The structure of how beliefs work, have religions, artifacts, very academic but well researched 

I shared this in the early days it's pretty simple that's the downside 
It's simple rules, where is it? It's like pain in the language of agency, 
so pain is a shortcut to take away someone's agency

we create stories, language of agency, it's a verbal internalization strategy, has a positive that allows you to keep your sense of self and be stable in the pain, but the negative aspect of #3, is it pushes your pain more invisible, not just other people 

so #1 your pain is invisible to others 
empathy doesn't exist that's just a guess you guess what their pain is 
and if you relate to their emotional pain you'll feel their pain through Contagion but if you don't have excess panic and someone floods you have Panic you aren't gonna feel their panic because you're hollow 
so if you manage your pain and your flashbacks other people flooding you it goes right through you 
because other people's pain is invisible to you and your pain is invisible to others 
so pain obliterates language so I can destroy your story by insulting you by physically pushing you and then once your language is broken 
then I can now use the language of agency
to create a different storyline for you for the torture subject 
and then the double bind is that I can doubt your pain because other person to hear your pain always has doubt 
and then you who have pain has certainty 
so I can amplify the split 
so this is the denial split 
I can always deny your pain
because to me it's real 
it's not my pain so hearing your pain I always have doubt there's always room to deny you 
and then if I accentuate the difference that creates a split in you of the target

I can just see this all so clearly how this applies 

this is weaponizing the denial split 
break you down then split the difference between pain 
amplify the difference of shared Humanity 
so me as shared Humanity I can torture inflict pain on you 
and then I can amplify the split that the pain is in you 
and I'll disown all the blame and say you're at fault for the pain that you're feeling 

That's the denial mindfuck
I will deny my agency of causing you pain 
and I'll create a story to make you blame yourself

it's not complicated 
I mean a lot of colonization happens with this formula 
yes she studied it
they teach it to torturers CIA probably has their protocol to break down a person

and then Karl Marx said the only antidote to mental suffering is physical pain , 
the shortcut is to get to your hate and then you have someone that can help you articulate your hate 
and now you can have language of agency for your unmet needs

physical pain obliterates all psychological content 
so that's the adaptive quality of trauma and pain it takes you to a blank state 
the blank state is psychosis and psychosis is adaptive because 
psychosis is changing to a new reality 
psychosis changing to a new reality 

so if I'm a therapist and I make you be addicted to comfort
I've disabled you from change because physical pain is what makes you have a clear blank slate, a reset that allows you to change the next reality 

I keep you incapacitated by constantly numbing your pain 
constantly numbing your pain means I can also torture you more because that means it takes less pain to make you destroy your language circuits 
to destroy your language of agency, to devoice you 

this is weaponizing the denial split 
break you down, then split the difference between pain, 
me as shared Humanity I can torture inflict pain on you, 
then amplify the split that the pain is in you, and I'll disown all the blame and say you're at fault for the pain that you're feeling 
That's the denial mindfuck.