Borderline=Failed Narcissist: Intermittent Mother, not "Dead" (EXCERPT)
Channel: Prof. Sam Vaknin
Date: 2023-10-19

The classic Borderline offers the Covert Borderline an ideal love fantasy which he craves. But his ideal partner is a codependent "shy or quiet" borderline. 

Borderline is a failed narcissist because she has had an intermittent mother, not a dead one: intermittent reinforcement allows the borderline to perceive external objects by outsourcing ego functions and even her body despite her huge narcissistic investment.

The narcissist gave up on the externality of separate objects because they are bound to frustrate and hurt. The borderline still has hope: she interacts with separate external objects via merger and fusion, by becoming their internal object. 

Full video here: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ttCH2QYSZ8k

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