Author of Surrendered Wives & First Kill All the Marriage Counselors (yikes!) Laura Doyle interview
Channel: Marriage Restoration with Rabbi Shlomo Slatkin
Date: 2023-01-15

In this honest interview with our marriage counselor Shlomo Slatkin and coach Laura Doyle, we want to talk to all the women out there!

Usually, here at TheMarriageRestorationProject.com, we talk to both the husband and wife as a couple. 

In this case though, we were just so curious about what Laura Doyle's work on Empowered Women and Surrendered Wives is all about and wanted to share it with all of the women in our audience, thought it can of course be used by both partners.

When a husband is unwilling to participate in any kind of marriage help or counseling, implementing some of Laura Doyle's suggestions can make headway in improving a marriage by onesself.

Laura describes how she had been doing just about everything in her marriage-and not realizing how she was pushing her husband away by her wanting to control every situation.

For instance, he'd say- "I want to take you to dinner" and Laura would say, "I just defrosted the steaks".

It was no wonder he started to pull away. 

As soon as she made it emotionally safe on her side of the street, of course he responded to Laura very differently––in a much better, more tender way. His natural desire to make her ridiculously happy returned! 

Emotional safety is something we talk a LOT about. It's almost a theme of every one of our videos, books, podcast episodes, and live workshops.

It's a critical skill to learn so that your home can be an emotionally safe one.

Laura also talks about 6 Intimacy skills that are wonderful to put into place for your relationship, ladies!

1. Replenishing your spirit by practicing good self care

2. Relinquish inappropriate control- A surrendered wife knows she can’t control anyone else so she doesn’t try telling her husband how to drive, what to do at work or how to dress or what to eat because she focuses on her own happiness instead and that, in turn, improves the intimacy.

3. Restoring respect- expect the best outcome. So instead of expecting him to mess up you are holding out an expectation for your husband that he is wise and thoughtful and competent, and your words and your deeds match those expectations.

4.  Receiving graciously, we talked about that one a little bit about receiving gifts, compliments and help with just a simple thank you and a smile instead of “You shouldn’t have,” or “I’ll just do it myself!” 

5. Revealing your heart, choosing vulnerability even when you are angry

6. Refocusing your view with gratitude. So it is really focusing on the things that you want instead of the things that you don’t want. 

The bottom line is that you want your home to be a place that is physically and emotionally.

To learn how to achieve that as a couple and work together with us by attending a workshop, tropical couples retreat, or with private intensive therapy, please visit: 

https://www.themarriagerestorationproject.com/marriage-intensives

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https://themarriagerestorationproject.com/find-a-transformational-retreat-for-relationship-healing-calendar-of-events/