HOW to navigate DEFENSIVENESS - The Preston Smiles Show
Channel: Preston Smiles
Date: 2023-05-22

“Approach the conversation with empathy and respect. If possible, try to find a solution together rather than just pointing out each other's mistakes.”
Preston Smiles is a self-help guru and influencer focusing on personal wellness and positivity. His mission is to mentor and guide people in loving themselves and seeking fulfillment. He is the author of Love Louder: 33 Ways to Amplify Your Life and Now Or Never: Your Epic Life in 5 Steps. He has been featured in LA Weekly, Los Angeles Magazine, and Origin Magazine. New Year, New Campaign, Preston together with Alexi create The BRIDGE EXPERIENCE. It is a laboratory where we re-create how you show up in life with exercises and challenges over the course of a 2-day workshop. They will literally repatterning the way you see yourself-your identity–so that your worldview fundamentally shifts along with it. The Bridge Experience gives you the gift of revealing these blindspots so you can work on them. Every concept you learn, you can instantly put into practice so that you feel the difference on a cellular level.
In this episode, Preston will discuss defensiveness and how it destroys relationships.
When we become defensive, we put up walls that prevent us from truly hearing and understanding the other person's perspective. It can cause a breakdown in communication and trust, which can be detrimental to the relationship. One way to prevent this is to connect before you correct someone. Make sure you have all the facts straight. It's essential to approach a situation with an open mind and gather as much information as possible before making any assumptions or accusations. It takes a certain level of emotional intelligence to recognize that sometimes, being right isn't the most important thing. It can be detrimental to relationships and personal growth. Instead, a mature individual understands the value of empathy and compassion. Don't miss until the end and remember that communication is KEY in any relationship or interaction!

Episode highlight:
 
[00:27] Introduction
[02:10] The death of a relationship
[02:34] The innocent victim defense is a prevalent type of defensiveness
[04:01] Truth about Relationship Repair
[04:41] Connect before you Correct
[06:20] The definition of Connecting
[07:50] Say Less and Apologize
[09:39] Being present for each other is a sign of maturity
[10:35] Closing message

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