Why Narcissist Desires YOU, Why YOU Fall for It (Conation, Doxastic Voluntarism, Base Rate Fallacy)
Channel: Prof. Sam Vaknin
Date: 2024-02-16

Narcissist mislabels his dopamine addiction to the shared fantasy as desire or love. Having idealized you, he regards you as the best fit for his shared fantasy. He is then motivated to pursue you through lovebombing. This is the conation (conative) phase.

But, being entitled, he resents this conative phase and is frustrated by it.

This resentment and frustration lead to aggression (narcissistic abuse) and the stage is set for devaluation.

LITERATURE

Conation: A Neglected Aspect of Neuropsychological Functioning
Ralph M Reitan, Deborah Wolfson
Archives of Clinical Neuropsychology, Volume 15, Issue 5, July 2000, Pages 443-453
 
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