trans men and lesbians
Channel: iradgray
Date: 2011-07-11

i apologize for not being uber articulate since i made this video on a whim. 

trans men and lesbians, it's okay to date each other! dating a trans man doesn't make you not a lesbian. dating a lesbian doesn't make you not a man. only you can dictate your identity. who you date and/or fuck doesn't dictate that. someone else's identity doesn't dictate your own. no one but you has that power. other people will always try, of course, but you reserve the right to put them in their place!

NOTE: i should have said this in the video, and i'm sorry i didn't. LESBIANS AND TRANS* MEN ARE NOT MUTUALLY EXCLUSIVE. there indeed are trans men who identify as lesbians. there are trans men who don't entirely identify as men (myself included). i'm sorry to the people this offends, but you seriously don't get to go around dictating who people can consensually fuck and/or date.
 
also, this video is not about lesbians who fetishize trans men and tokenize them. this is not about lesbians who single out trans people based on assumed genitals. this is directed to lesbians and trans men who may happen to find themselves interested in each other. trans men have no right to tell women how they can or cannot identify. lesbian is more than a sexuality. it's a community. it's a culture. 
conversely, if someone's identity triggers your dysphoria, you can either not date this person or you can attempt to work something out together.