When an INFP needs space, and an ENFJ needs connection
Channel: Your Love Profiles
Date: 2020-08-24

Here's another clip from an interview with a lovely couple. We're talking about what each partner needs in moments of misalignment or disagreement. ⁠
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People with INFP preferences lead by continually reviewing the universal importance and worth of ...everything. They have a vast range of personal values and need time to match each choice or decision or situation against their internal compass. ⁠

They tend to be more comfortable verbalizing their thoughts or decisions *after* they have done this internal work, so they need time apart to process. 

Her partner has ENFJ preferences, which means he tends to work through things *by talking* about them. He's likely to ask questions to help him understand the situation, and get a feel for his partner's position, because that will enable him to build the necessary bridges and remove any obstacles. ⁠

Not being able to talk things through is likely to make him feel shut out and disconnected. ⁠
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Knowing and honoring your own and your partner's type preferences is a way to explore what each person needs in any given situation, and provides a non-judgmental language to verbalize those needs. Check out Your Love Profiles to learn more. ❤️