Irene Lyon Calm Coping is NOT Regulated
Channel: Visceral Gravitas
Date: 19/04/2024

excerpt from https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=51nXEXnDbpM
@IreneLyon 

transcript:
if we need something for the most part to calm us down 
if we're feeling something overwhelmed and we instantly have to do an action to bring our system down 
it's a big indication that the system doesn't know how to self-regulate 
because if we do know how to self-regulate at that autonomic nervous system level 
then we don't have to think it 
because autonomic nervous system means automatic 
it just happens 
it just happens 
a big part of this work is gaining obviously the education, the capacity, the skills, the Mastery 
to actually be with the real intense stuff 
real intense stuff 
and not calm it down 

nothing wrong with using some strategies and external resources 
but my interest here and what I do when I work with my students 
is to help them gain the foundation and the capacity to be with the intensities 
be with the intensities 
be with the intensities 
slowly over time 
so they can learn this new language of nervous system regulation 
so they can in fact wake up in the morning and just go about their day 
without needing these things to get through their day