Why Self-less Narcissist Can Never Love YOU (His Enemy)
Channel: Prof. Sam Vaknin
Date: 2022-08-05

The narcissist invests emotional energy (cathexis) only in internal objects (introjects), never in external objects like you. This is because he feels safe only with internal objects: they never abandon or reject him. The introjects and internal objects are not constellated (integrated), so the narcissist has no ego or self. Some of the internal objects constitute self-states. 

In clinical terms: the narcissist has only introject (diffuse narcissistic) libido, never object libido. He identifies with and cathects only his introjects, never a love object. He can never lose a love object.

If you challenge the narcissist's introjects or undermine them, you are threatening to take away his libido (his life force), thereby becoming his enemy (a persecutory internal object).

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