How to Change Other People Without Being an A-hole: Glenn Murphy and Howie Jacobson on PYP 453
Channel: Sick to Fit | Plant Yourself Podcast
Date: 2021-03-01

Do ever have the urge to tell other people what they're doing wrong? To give them advice that will make them happier, healthier, and more successful? To let them know how they're upsetting/annoying/bumming you out?
It's only human to want to help the people around us when they're struggling. It's perfectly understandable to tell people how they're screwing up when they're making us miserable.
But be honest - how effective are you at getting them to change? 
If you're like most people, your efforts to change others backfires big time. First, instead of changing, they resist even more. "Have a salad instead of this donut? No way. In fact, I think I'll have TWO donuts now."
Second, your criticism and advice damages the relationship. So now they're still struggling, you're still pissed, and now they're mad at you for butting in. 
So is the answer found in that old truism: "You can't change other people. You can only change yourself?"
Nope. It is not only possible to change other people, it's often one of the kindest and most generous things you can do. And sometimes - if you're a parent or manager - it's even your job.
But how to do it without being an a-hole, without generating resistance - that's the tricky part. You need not just good intentions, but a process.
In this conversation, Glenn and Howie discuss the process featured in Howie (and Peter Bregman's) upcoming book, You CAN Change Other People. 
Enjoy! 
Check out the show notes at https://plantyourself.com/453 (available March 2, 2021)
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