Why People-pleasers Can't Think Straight (Self-states, Constructs, Introjects)
Channel: Prof. Sam Vaknin
Date: 2022-12-01

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These automatic thoughts are at the core of people pleasing and parentifying children:

1. My happiness is always at someone else’s expense (zero sum game);

2. I have to earn my happiness, I don’t deserve it;

3. I have to somehow bribe people to stay with me, collaborate with me, help me, or tolerate me because I am a bad object (unworthy, unlovable, crazy, inadequate, dissolute, hopeless, and so on).

4. I need to compromise on my boundaries and rights owing to all the above.

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