Fake Doormat Narcissist Implodes
Channel: Prof. Sam Vaknin
Date: 2021-03-10

The narcissist’s intimate partners cheat on him openly, his ideas and inventions are plagiarized and stolen brazenly and contemptuously, his property is seized, his children - if he has any - made hateful and alienated. All these negative outcomes because he steadfastly refuses to commit, invest, or compromise. Why not?

1. Entitlement: “I deserve the best, the world owes me everything without any commensurate accomplishments or efforts on my part”;

2. Magical thinking: “If I want something strongly enough, it will manifest and come to pass. I am immune to adversity and to the consequences of my misdeeds”;

3. Schizoid core: the narcissist misreads social and sexual cues, avoids hurt, is pain and toil averse, and catastrophizes. The safest course is to shun intimacy or any committed, meaningful relationships;

4. Impostor syndrome: “I am faking it and most people are sufficiently brain dead to fall for it, hook, line, and sinker. But, one day, I am bound to be exposed and forced to move on - so, why bother?”

5. Grandiosity: “I am unique, superior, above the fray and the rat race. I don’t need to prove or justify myself in any way. I don’t owe a thing to anyone.”

6. Self-defeating and self-destructive behaviors, a “rejection of life” (Cleckley, Guntrip, Sutherland, Seinfeld), victim mentality and comfort zone (Gabay’s TIV). Self-punishment via failure and recurrent losses, narcissistic injuries and mortifications: the equivalent of self-mutilation in BPD.

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