These Triggers Are “The Tell” That You Are Manipulating your relationship in The Gambia
Channel: Family Shhh
Date: 2022-12-23

"Spotting Manipulation Triggers in Your Relationship in The Gambia. Had to spill the tea that's been brewing for 5 months. 

If you're an American of African descent, peep the ways manipulation, control, and savior vibes can taint our relationships with our African fam. Let's strive for healthy, balanced connections.

This call to action hits home especially for those in mixed nationality marriages. Be woke to your privilege and nip manipulative behavior in the bud that could compromise your African partner's independence. This includes respect for their culture, language, and values; protecting them from discrimination, and standing up with them. 

Also, don't sleep on the savior complex and its impact on your relationships. Recognize your limits and don't let your expectations overshadow your African partner's voice. Stay open to learning from them and embracing the diversity of your partnership.

Lastly, resist that urge to be "couple goals" or to "rescue" your African partner. It robs you of a genuine relationship journey and undermines your African partner's power.

Let's consciously reject manipulation and the savior complex in our relationships. Stay mindful of your privilege and open to learning from your African partner. Let's build respect-filled and understanding-based relationships together.

00:00 Video Intro
00:23 Family Shhh - Intro Video
00:35 Self-Reflection Time
00:44 Spotlight on African Young Adults
01:17 Don't Play Yourself
01:40 Dealing with Relationship Baggage
02:15 Navigating Perception Gaps
03:10 Real Talk, No Filters
03:32 Beauty of African Partners
03:47 The Experience We Give Our African Partners
04:34 Our Sneaky Manipulation Tactics
06:12 Unexpected Aspects of Your Spouse
08:00 Reasons for This Real Talk
08:25 Unmasking Your Manipulation, Control, and Savior Complex
11:00 Impact of Your Actions
12:35 Action Steps
12:55 Outro

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