Heroic Intelligence vs Health Intelligence ✔
Channel: David William Beck
Date: 12/05/2019

I've wanted to make a video like this for a long time. I really hope it helps someone. 

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This video was inspired by The Boy Crisis: https://www.amazon.co.uk/Boy-Crisis-Boys-Struggling-About/dp/1942952716

by Warren Farrell PhD (Author), John Gray PhD (Author)


Transcript:


This video could save your life, or the life of someone you care about. 

I want to talk about Heroic intelligence. This is the idea that men, and sometimes women, need to sacrifice their own lives and happiness for the greater societal or familial good. 

The classic idea of heroic intelligence comes from war and the army. Men and women would often be expected to risk, or even give their lives in war for the good of the nation, to jump on that grenade to save your comrades, to work to the point of breaking to help your family and community with little regard to your long term health. 

This can translate into other areas of life; many people playing games like rugby or American football and other dangerous sports can suffer long term concussion and health problems related to the sport - why do people play these games? Is it to achieve the same kind of heroic identity that's been promoted for centuries by the army?

when we see statues to war heroes and great leaders, we imagine these are great heroic men and women, but in a way aren't these statues also a social bribe to try and set an example we should follow? 

Men and women now work at about the same rate - but still, men are working more hours than women on average, and some men still hardly ever see their families, despite over half of American men say they wish they could spend more time with their families, especially when their kids are young. Fathers bond with their kids more through play and care, so fathers who miss this really lose out - it seems deeply unfair on both parents to expect them to go back to work so quickly and miss their baby learning about the world for the first time. 

John F Kennedy may have said ‘ask not what your country can do for you—ask what you can do for your country.’ - in other words, we should put the needs of others before the needs of ourselves. of course, these are wise words but in a modern context, we need to make sure we look after ourselves before we can look after others. 

This kind of heroic intelligence may have worked well in the past - but today these ideas of self-sacrifice are damaging relationships, damaging our bodies and even ending our lives. 

The solution is health intelligence. Health int... says that we all have worth and value irrespective of our jobs or what we do. Health intelligence says we need to love and care for ourselves and our bodies and the people we are close to; 

Health intelligence says we should not be embarrassed about weakness or illness, that we should never be afraid to go to the doctor, friends and family when we need to, that we aren't immortal and sometimes need emotional and medical help - and we should not be ashamed of that. 

Of course, serving our friends, family and community are important - but we can't do that unless we take care of ourselves first. So, take medical tests when offered, never be afraid to ask for help when you need it, Value people for not what they do but for who they are, and offer unconditional love in good times and in bad. Look after yourselves.