Sam Vaknin DECOMPENSATION Regresses NPD ➡ BPD ➡ Psychosis = a 2nd chance to Differentiate
Channel: Visceral Gravitas
Date: 01/08/2022

excerpt from https://youtu.be/Tgd7zgJ9CjA
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transcript: 
decompensation is when all the defenses crumble 
we can put a lot of stress, a lot of force on the defenses and resistances of narcissists and borderlines and then disable them 
then the narcissist and borderline remain defenseless 
they remain exposed, face to face with their own disorder 
and decompensation creates regression 
regress the other way 
psychopathy narcissism borderline psychosis 
we can affect regression in therapy and we can fix the failures 
we can give the inner child a second chance 
go all the way back to the psychotic phase and 
then using transference we can encourage the inner child to try again 

this time as therapists we provide a safe base 
the holding containing environment 
we allow the child to start again from scratch, from the psychotic phase to progress to health 
not to borderline because there's no need, we are not challenging the child, the inner child 
we are not merging with the inner child or fusing with it 

we just create the environment where the patient feels safe to regress 
and then we hold the patient's hand, as parental figures 

and we encourage the patient to try again to become healthy 
by separating from us and becoming an individual 
by separating from us and becoming an individual