Burn that Bridge and Delete Episode 9 - Traits
Channel: Belinda Knight
Date: 2024-04-03

I had the idea for this video after re-reading some notes I made many years ago about the teachings of the Swisse Psychiatrist Carl Jung.  Jung had some revolutionary ideas in his career, probably the most important (well, possibly the most important, anyway) was his concept of individuation - bringing the subconscious to consciousness.

That basically means figuring out exactly who we are by looking at the things we do through an impartial lens and teasing out the traits that underly our behaviours - good and bad.

Traits are everything from honesty, integrity, patience, kindness, open-mindedness, trustworthiness etc to jealousy, temper, spitefulness, greed, arrogance, gluttony etc.

Why on earth would you want to make a list of all your traits?   Well, in short, because if you want to live a life of fulfillment and purpose and contentment, you need to know where your stumbling blocks are and those stumbling blocks often are often rooted in your traits.

As I made this video I realised that it might be helpful to provide you with a list of sample traits and also a few "hypothetical" questions, to get you thinking and maybe help solidify what I'm suggesting in this video:

https://1drv.ms/b/s!ArMp5tN0Dxe4gehR8DjrL0MfQh3P0A?e=VGuy5o

I really hope that works! Let me know if you have trouble downloading the pdf and I'll problem solve my cloud storage-sharing.

I'll also share my personal list - THIS IS A WORK IN PROGRESS! But it is always a work in progress, so....  I suggest in the video that you take a month for this, but I might have mislead you a little... I believe that this process should be ongoing, because as circumstances change in our lives, we may find ourselves expressing different traits than we did previously.  Also, the process of personal growth is never finished.  If you're on a self-growth journey, hopefully you've already accepted that this is lifelong quest.  And hopefully you've also come to believe that that is a great thing - not something to feel exhausted at the mere prospect of, but something you are able to embrace with enthusiasm.

Because it really is - learning who you are is the first step to becoming the person you want to be, and I promise you that the journey between those two steps is nothing to fear or be embarrassed about.  Of the 7? billion people on this planet, only a small fraction have ever even contemplated doing something like this. And of that fraction, even fewer have actually made steps towards it.  If there's one thing I've learned through all the books, courses, apps, podcasts, counselling, therapy etc that I've engaged in over the last 12 years, it's that PRIORITISING your PERSONAL GROWTH, finding out WHO YOU ARE, and WHO YOU WANT TO BE and EMBRACING techniques for developing a more open, accepting, inquisitive mindset, is very probably THE ONLY universal path to actual contentment, self-love and a better life.  

By choosing to live life with your eyes and heart open, you get to experience beauty and wonder in life that is invisible to most.  You gain new appreciation for old things and gain freedom from the limiting beliefs that have been holding you back.

Take care everyone. See you in the next one!