How Victims Soothe Themselves After Narcissistic Abuse (NEW VIDEO + Compilation)
Channel: Prof. Sam Vaknin
Date: 2023-09-20

LIES that victims tell themselves:

I was chosen for my qualities (truth: you were chosen for the 4 Ss)

The narcissist was obsessed with me (nope, obsessed with the shared fantasy – you were fungible, a thing, a commodity, a puff of smoke)

The best revenge is to have a good life, it will drive the narcissist insane
The narcissist keeps obsessing about me (only for revenge or hoovering – or in order to pose as a victim and attract new “mothers” into the shared fantasy)

The narcissist regrets having lost me (this was the aim of the whole exercise: separation-individuation)

I did nothing to deserve this and I have contributed nothing to this happening (splitting: narcissist all bad, I am all good or innocent)

I have learned so much and this experience has taught me a lesson

Therapy will empower me, heal me, and set me free (taking action will)
 
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