Caught in Narcissist's Pendulum: Romantic Jealousy and Sex
Channel: Prof. Sam Vaknin
Date: 2022-02-07

The narcissist is incapable of attachment, bonding, and positive emotionality

He is possessive of his women only in two situations:

GRANDIOSITY/UNIQUENESS

1. When he is acquiring a woman and she chooses another man over him for sex only or for more, thus disrupting the process of co-idealization; 

UTILITARIAN/INSTRUMENTAL/TRANSACTIONAL

2. When in a shared fantasy and he risks losing the 3 Ss that she provides him with (sex, services, narcissistic or sadistic supply).

Similarly, he is interested in sex only in two situations: 

GRANDIOSITY/UNIQUENESS

1. As a somatic "player" in short term conquests (but not in casual sex with promiscuous non-discriminating women and not with the conquered women); 

UTILITARIAN/TRANSACTIONAL/INSTRUMENTAL

2. As a cerebral in the lovebombing phase which precedes the shared fantasy (but not later).

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