Friendships:💟Celebration vs Competitive! 💟 Judgement Game; + Listening & Parenting 💟
Channel: Conversations with Wa
Date: 2021-01-24

Being able to celebrate the God in other Sisters & Brothers, in full love & reverence, is a gift of Higher Consciousness! Not ever, entertaining a spirit of jealous or competitive energy, is a higher consciousness, as well. 
Here are some things that have come into the stream:
"Being a friend, not a attention fiend" 
-When you are capable of being a friend to someone, & not someone that is just feigning for attention, you are able to appreciate, love. This would include being balanced in priorities, & not demanding attention from your friends, that are busy. Including, not feeling abandoned, or like they are not being a good friend, or selfish, because they do not have the time, to talk to you consistently.
"Inappropriate comments"
-Not projecting your insecurities on someone else, loving yourself enough, to allow someone else to be themselves, without projecting a insecure or negative energy towards them, while they are just projecting love & support. 
"Selfish"
-Put Yourself First, Practice Self Love, Put Your Children First, if you are a Parent.
"Constructive Criticism"
-I took the time to politely listen to someone, all of their unbalanced thoughts & projections. I had thoughtfully planned to explain to them, what I did not appreciate about their words/expressions, prior to the conversation. In the middle of my turn, I was interrupted & yelled at. That is ok, because I have been there, immature, & defensive, but those who have a hard time listening, have a hard time learning. If you are not in a space of peace, its hard to understand, what the other person is communicating. Often time, when someone's thoughts are on defending themselves, they are not comprehending what the other person is expressing.
"Projections"
-If you have made a mistake, its ok, apologize & move forward. We all make mistakes, we are all human. One thing, that is hard to deal with though, is when someone has made a mistake, & instead of taking 100% accountability, they decide to project their stuff onto the other party. For example, if offended party, says that someone is selfish, instead of just staying in the acknowledgement of how they where selfish, they decide to try & tell the other person, that they are selfish. "Well you are selfish too, you must be, you are not perfect" If someone is correcting you, they are not correcting, from a space of perfection. They are trying to help you, (If they are a kind person) so that you do not have this problem in the future. 

Growing up can be difficult in this world, so I am not condemning anyone, However, I will always do my best to practice Self Love. I do not feel authentic in my self love, if I allow someone to project "their lesson" on me, to deflect what I am saying about them, to a focus on me, when I have done nothing wrong to them. I will always take my space, of self love & allow people like that, to learn from their mistakes, if they can. 'If they can', because when people are always in defensive- victim mode, its hard for them to see how their actions can truly harm others, because they are so victimized. This is not expressed in anyway to downplay, someone's trauma, I know we all have to heal from our trauma. I understand, how hard healing can be, when one continues to create, new things to heal from. That is why its important to practice disciplined self love & not create new trauma to heal from. In victimization mode, people are in a distortion based on their need of healing, so they often do not see experiences & situations from a space of clarity but from their space of trauma. 

In today's society, there is often a mentality shared for women or men to be in a unhealthy envy, jealousy and competition with each other. Being all about elevation is what makes sense, its important for people to celebrate one another. To be happy to see the love of others, not be hateful or spiteful because one does not have a lover or that specific person. To not be envious of someone's gifts, talents, blessings, appearance. Instead in appreciation for God's Beauty, Talent, & Genius because these are God's Creations. Out of Love & Respect for God, its beautiful to have a genuine love, appreciation & admiration of Gods Beautiful Creation, displayed through people in the variety of ways.

 In this video, I also discuss my personal experience with people making unfriendly comments that sound unbalanced, mean or competitive. In addition, I share what I have learned from it all, including judgement, being real, for growth. Lastly, I talk about parenting, in relation to parents, projecting their flaws onto children, by not wanting to admit their mistakes. As parents, many of us, make mistakes, the key is to be willing to grow and do better. Instead of being in denial & projecting onto the child or the friend that they are the problem, when they aren't. Its challenging! All we can do is, be willing to learn from our mistakes, as parents, friends, humans & do better! Peace & Love 🙏🏾💜🙏🏾💜🙏🏾💜