Love Your Narcissist? Make Him Stay, Depend on You (Tips, Resolutions)
Channel: Prof. Sam Vaknin
Date: 2020-07-19

New Year resolutions are notoriously fragile and ephemeral. But victims of abuse cannot afford this cavalier attitude: their mental - and too often physical - health depends on strictly observing the following promises to themselves:
 
1.     I will treat myself with dignity and demand respect from others. I will not allow anyone to disrespect me.
 
2.     I will set clear boundaries and make known to others what I regard as permissible and acceptable behavior and what is out of bounds.
 
3.     I will not tolerate abuse and aggression in any form or guise. I will seek to terminate such misconduct instantly and unequivocally.
 
4.     I will be assertive and unambiguous about my needs, wishes, and expectations from others. I will not be arrogant - but I will be confident. I will not be selfish and narcissistic - but I will love and care for myself.
 
5.     I will get to know myself better.
 
6.     I will treat others as I want them to treat me. I will try to lead by way of self-example.
 
7.     If I am habitually disrespected, abused, or if my boundaries are ignored and breached I will terminate the relationship with the abuser forthwith. Zero tolerance and no second chance will be my maxims of self-preservation.

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