Therapist destroyed marriage??
Channel: Marriage Restoration with Rabbi Shlomo Slatkin
Date: 2022-11-01

Is therapy making things worse for your relationship? Or is counseling actually helping your marriage?

The following 5 points are RED FLAGS that if happening to you in therapy may indicate that this therapy hurting your relationship rather than helping it. 

🚩 Are you simply repeating what you're doing at home in the therapist's office? If so, what's the difference? You're simply reinforcing and replicating what is already an unsafe environment in another unsafe environment! 

🚩 Are you coming home from therapy with new doubts about your partner? 
Sometimes therapists will talk about the other partner without even having met him/her and contribute to your existing doubts or create new ones!  

Are you feeling encouraged to leave?
More angry at your partner?

🚩 Is your therapist taking sides?

Your relationship is the patient not your husband or your wife. Yes, your husband or wife may doing things that upset you, but it's the relationship dynamic that is causing the problem, not one person or another. Caveat: Not talking about abuse!

🚩 Is your therapist giving advice and problem solving? If so, you may be missing out on opportunities here for you and your spouse to figure things out on your own, deepening the compassion and appreciation you have for each other. 

🚩 You're not walking away with skills...for how to actually get through conflict at home. 

If you don't feel equipped to actually know what to say or how to handle it when there's an upset at home, therapy may not be helping you. 

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