That internal voice - easy self help ways of coping with it
Channel: COPEScotland - Health and Wellbeing
Date: 2019-05-11

We often feel hurt or confused by how others have treated us or things they have said to us. How often do we really pay attention to our internal voice? The thing we say we are listening to it all the time

We all have an internal voice, now, it can be kind and considerate, or it can be pretty cruel and really affect our confidence and self-belief. Often, we aren't even aware of it consciously as it natters away in the background, BUT our unconscious mind is listening, and just what is it we are telling ourselves?

'I don't belong here. I'm not good enough.'' 

You would be amazed how many people you would view as successful have this wee voice in their head doubting their success and wondering when the tap on the shoulder will come, and they will hear.

 ''You don't belong here; we made a mistake.''

"You're useless, good for nothing.'' 

Sadly sometimes people have been cruel to us, and the echo of their cruelty still resonates in our head, to a point we pick it up and start being cruel to ourselves. Words can hurt as much as physical blows. Choose carefully what you say to yourself as you are listening.

''If only I had said this…'' 

How often do we find ourselves in situations where someone has said something to us, leaving us feeling small or hurt? Then later, once the situation has passed, we have this great idea of what we should have said or done, and this goes round and round in our head, often resulting in more self-criticism and damaging to our well being.?

"Oh, I didn't do that today.'' 

How often do we congratulate ourselves on what we have achieved that day before falling asleep? Or, do we find ourselves focusing on what we didn't do? The truth is, there is rarely enough time to do all the things we want or need to do, so do we focus on what we did or what we still need to do. Congratulations on a job well done can make you feel more motivated for the jobs still to be done.

"Things would be better if…..'' 

We all have an internal voice, now, it can be kind and considerate, or it can be pretty cruel and really affect our confidence and self-belief. Often, we aren't even aware of it consciously as it natters away in the background, BUT our unconscious mind is listening, and just what is it we are telling ourselves?

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