What Are the Names You Call Yourself | Sheila Ram Mohan | Real Life Hacks | Lumiere 24
Channel: LUMIERE24
Date: 2018-03-30

You know, I watch movies because they throw up words of wisdom when you are least expecting it.  I was watching a teen romcom, Duff, where Bianca says, “It doesn’t matter what labels others give you, what matters is how you define yourself”. Wow! 
And I just knew I had to talk to you about this...Self-worth & how it can affect us. 

Duff is the acronym for Designated Ugly Fat Friend – this is the one person in a group of hot, sexy girls or guys, who is seen as less attractive, but more approachable, and is used to reach out to the sexy one. Now as you watch the movie, you realise that It's not about being the "Designated Ugly Fat Friend". Instead, it's about comparing yourself to other people around you, especially in your own friend group. Everyone is always going to feel like someone has prettier eyes or better hair or is better looking or more successful, more popular than them. But if you compare yourself to others and see yourself as uglier or fatter or anything less than them, you're making yourself a DUFF.

Do you remember how you were when you were a baby? Did you say things like “oh my god, my cheeks are so plump“  or “ Look at my tummy”…babies are BORN knowing their self-worth…but then as they start growing up, the comments, expectations, and attitudes of other people start chipping away at this  natural sense of self-worth. 

Self-worth is what strengthens the belief that we can do our best, contribute to the world and lead a fulfilling life. And that’s why,
Building it up again is important.

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