"All White Male Assholes Are..." -- Stuff I Have Said.
Channel: nednednerB the Schizophrenic
Date: 28/12/2014

I have been called an asshole before. I have been called out by people I love for bad moves, bad words, bad sentiments.

I intend to be a good person all the time, but that doesn't mean I don't come loaded with bad training and bad habits and all sorts of white male (among other forms) of privilege.

Sometimes I am an asshole. But how do I respond, in the moment to being called an asshole by someone who loves me and is someone I love? I don't want to confirm it, but that is all too likely by the circumstance of not having a lot of practice taking responsibility for being called out on my loser shit.

I want to be better, so serious reflection and contemplation of my behaviour and what's wrong with... That's what's warranted when I am called out as a white male asshole, not compounding the issue with defensive, dismissive, derogatory attitude and statements.

My goal is to listen up when a woman of colour is telling me straight up that I've been an asshole. 

Need to learn way better to take criticism and take responsibility if I am liable to get reactive and violent when it's suggested I made an emotionally abusive, neglectful move. Not to shut women out or explain away and erase their experiences, my goal is to listen with respect and integrity when someone mentions their honest feelings and reports problems in my behaviour.

Need to listen.