Am I Too Femme? And Should We Change Ourselves to Date Someone?
Channel: Thomas Whitfield
Date: 2018-11-19

Gender and sexuality are spectrums. Being femme isn't bad. Love yourself for who you are. You're not too gay. It's ok to be you! 

Every now and again, I get an e-mail from a viewer/reader that really sticks with me. This writer told me that they are constantly feeling stigmatized and fetishized for being too femme… and should they change it? 

Most of us can probably relate with feeling lonely while single and wondering, "is there something so wrong with me that I'll never be loved?" And if that's the case, should you make changes to who you are? 

On my IG, I recently asked what people have tried to change about themselves in order to date someone. I got TONS of replies, and a lot of them were very similar. People have attempted to lose weight, dyed their hair, and even change their personality. But was it all worth? Or did you end feeling like you were playing a character, and again, not loved for who you really are? 

I also discuss Social Comparison Theory, which you can read more about here https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/basics/social-comparison-theory

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Episode 19: Am I Too Femme? And Should We Change Ourselves to Date Someone?
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