The Innuendo Flirting Game
Channel: TheIntimacyDojo
Date: 18/04/2012

Want a fun flirting game that can start things off and warm things up?! Join sex and relationship expert Reid Mihalko from http://www.ReidAboutSex.com as he teaches Cathy Vartuli from http://www.TheIntimacyDojo.com this flirty game. You can use it to heat up your next connection!

The link for Reid's Speed Flirting Top Ten Tips is:
http://tinyurl.com/Speed-FlirtingTopTenTipsWMM

Follow up to video to How To Be A Better Flirt
http://youtu.be/jV3XSghbyNo

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=fofmvRP4Ga0

Reid: This is the Innuendo video.

Cathy: Welcome, everyone. This is Cathy Vartuli from http://TheIntimacyDojo.com, and Reid Mihalko from http://ReidAboutSex.com.

Reid:  Okay, so we just did this whole thing on speed flirting, and it was getting long, so we're jumping into this little second piece. This is the Innuendo Game.
When I used to bartend, I played this game with the waiters and the waitresses, and the goal of the game was to make another person blush. And the way you would do it is, you would kind of like "word volley" back and forth - a word that had some sort of double entendre, or innuendo - or you would just deliver it in such a fashion that the other person was like, "Whoa!" And when you make the person blush, that's how you score a point.
It's not word association. It's not prohibited, but don't think about it as word association. So if I say, (whispers) "Pickle..." don't go "Cucumber". It's not like that. But I could say "Pickle," and you'd be like "Lubricated..." Okay?
So it doesn't have to be word association. The goal isn't really to get anywhere. It's not competitive. You score points by making people blush. You create a reaction. It's really just about being fun and playful. All right? So would you like to start?

Cathy: You go first.

Reid: Moist.

Cathy: Hot tub.

Reid:  Turgid.

Cathy: (giggles) It's a LOT about delivery. I think you just scored a point. (laughing)

Reid:  When in doubt, you've scored a point.

Cathy: If they turn red. (laughing)

Reid: Your turn.

Cathy: Bedroom.

Reid: Touch.

Cathy: Hard.

Reid:  Point! (laughing) Get it? That's all! That's the game! And it's supposed to be kinda dirty, you know, but you could say, like, "Penguin" and have somebody blush! Because you never know what's going on in their mind...

Cathy: ...how they make an association...

Reid:  ...and what they do with words. Okay? So that's the Innuendo game. It's really just about creating fun and play, and also just understanding that, you know, with any kind of flirting, any kind of inviting people to be playful with you - especially with innuendo and sexual connotations - you might actually start getting turned on because you're creating kind of an intimate connection and exchange with your play.
And that might feel nerve-wracking or dangerous or inappropriate. If and when you do feel like that, where you're getting turned on and you don't know if it's appropriate, what I usually do is, I just tell people, "Hey, I'm actually getting a little turned on by playing this with you, is that okay that I'm getting turned on?" It's more to check in if you should "Well, let's not play this game any more," rather than "is it a bad thing that you're getting turned on".
It's never a bad thing, and just because you get turned on doesn't mean it has to lead to anything, in the same way that cuddling doesn't have to lead to sex. Flirting doesn't have to lead to a date, or it doesn't have to mean you're misleading somebody.

Cathy: But it can actually be flattering. So like, you're playing this game and the other person is getting turned on, it's like "Wow. I'm doing a really good job with this."