Build Confidence with Women by Owning your Masculinity - Third Stage Men | Becoming FEARLESS
Channel: The Fearless Man
Date: 2015-10-03

If you don't feel confident or have the success you want with women, it's probably because you're not truly owning your masculinity - which includes being vulnerable.
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Watch the whole episode: Third Stage Men - Elite Success with Women & Life | Becoming FEARLESS 
https://youtu.be/Cny4sk8U0lQ?list=PLuXeW0mZF4UwRlKWME5L6K11ClQ6kl3yo

FEARLESS founder, Brian Begin, explains that most men today have some degree of "nice guy" syndrome - what "Way of the Superior Man" author, David Deida, calls "second stage" masculinity. They're not being authentic with people (women especially) and they're afraid of tension because they don't have good self-esteem and are seeking external validation throughout their daily life, even moment-to-moment. A guy who doesn't believe in himself enough to be authentic and confident with women and socially in general is unattractive to women for a multitude of reasons (See "Related Videos" section for more on nice guy syndrome.), so they often get Friend Zoned. 

The guy is  so "nice" and women often want to keep him around (especially if he provides for her, takes care of her, and/or is there for her emotionally) but there's no authentic man there for her to get attracted to - so if you're a "nice guy" enjoy the Friend Zone and/or unfulfilling relationships in perpetuity...until you decide it's time to drop the bullshit and get real.

The reason "bad boys" are often attractive to women than "nice guys" is because they are owning their masculinity, sexuality, and reality. They aren't desperate for validation, know that if one women doesn't like them, another one right around the corner or across the bar will. They'll be aggressive, lead, and they aren't afraid to piss women-or anyone-off. Because if you really boil it down to the core, bad boys love themselves a lot more than "nice guys" - that's what confidence really is, and confidence is always sexy to women. Bad Boys reflect what Deida calls "first stage" masculinity. Because they are very masculine, unapologetic, and penetrating with their energy...but they also aren't great with vulnerability or being in deep concert with other's feelingsand emotions around them. They're "first stage" because they often do unconsciously and/or uncaringly steamroll and disregard others.

"Nice guys," while having taken steps back in their masculinity, *have* developed their feminine, their depth of feeling, and ability to relate emotionally and consciously pick up on what's going on for others emotionally. These skills, again, are often developed and used from a place of validation-seeking...but once second-stage "nice guys" start stepping into tension, breaking their need for validation, and owning their natural masculinity, they move towards becoming a very confident hybrid who's extremely attractive to women: Third Stage Men.

Stepping into tension consistently and learning to love that, fear, and being uncomfortable is a huge piece of that puzzle, and as Begin talks about in the video, it's really the key to becoming a better man and succeeding in life overall...making you a better man, making you more confident and attractive to women.


Related Videos:
What Women Want - Women Crave Sexual Tension | Inside FEARLESS 
https://youtu.be/R5shyFDa6r0?list=PLuXeW0mZF4UxLZ3nfWWPldEPlez2H7nLE
Social Confidence Building Exercises - Build Confidence (part 1) | Inside FEARLESS 
https://youtu.be/NI7RlN07-to?list=PLuXeW0mZF4UxLZ3nfWWPldEPlez2H7nLE
How to Stop the Nice Guy Syndrome https://youtu.be/EGPxJPdq9oU?list=PLuXeW0mZF4UzSas0VrbT6XBoudW8d3T_X
Third Stage Men - Elite Success with Women & Life | Becoming FEARLESS 
https://youtu.be/Cny4sk8U0lQ?list=PLuXeW0mZF4UwRlKWME5L6K11ClQ6kl3yo

More great content - check out these playlists!
Inside FEARLESS: Elite Success, Confidence, and Dating Coaching https://www.youtube.com/playlist?list=PLuXeW0mZF4UxLZ3nfWWPldEPlez2H7nLE

Success: Be FEARLESS with Life
https://www.youtube.com/playlist?list=PLuXeW0mZF4UzVOFzYDPo9KYubLeliehVv

Men's Dating Advice: Be FEARLESS with Women
https://www.youtube.com/playlist?list=PLuXeW0mZF4UzVOFzYDPo9KYubLeliehVv

Becoming FEARLESS | The Podcast
https://www.youtube.com/playlist?list=PLuXeW0mZF4UwRlKWME5L6K11ClQ6kl3yo&spfreload=10


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