Codependents and Narcissists: Wooden Puppets and Cruel Puppetmasters
Channel: Prof. Sam Vaknin
Date: 2020-08-28

Pinocchio and Geppetto: the fantasy to not be puppet is a death wish, to not be himself (because has no self). Without the puppetmaster, when he is gone, there is no puppet, only death.

Object constancy is existential and essential, but in cluster personality disorders and in codependency, the problem is an external locus of existence, not merely of control. There is an outsourcing sense of being, not only self-worth.

Pinocchio teaches us that the only way to become human is via fantasy (lying).

Survival is predicated on becoming the puppetmaster by becoming NPD/BPD:

1. Emulating the abuser

2. Becoming (merger or fusion) the abuser

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