Why I Prefer They/Them Pronouns
Channel: Alex Zorach
Date: 2018-10-03

I prefer they/them/their pronouns when people refer to me, but my preference isn't for pronouns for their own sake: it's because of the deeper aspects of gender that they reference or symbolize.

In this video I explain how I care a lot more about the deeper aspects of gender, including people seeing me for who I am, and especially, refraining from assumptions about my ways of thinking or life experiences on the basis of gendering me male.

My main purpose for pushing others to use they/them pronouns is that I want to push people to think about me outside the boxes of male and female, because I think it leads to people better understanding me as a person, seeing me more for who I am, and treating me more the way I want to be treated.

This deeper stuff is actually much more important to me than the pronouns themselves, so if someone uses they/them pronouns without thinking about or doing the deeper stuff, they're missing the main point.