Tree of Memory für Werner Dieckmann - 26.5.2018
Channel: Trees of Memory
Date: 31/05/2018

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Today we plant the tree for Werner, who left us 6 years ago. Six weeks - from diagnosis to death. Six weeks of mental and physical pain. As a relative, a pain that you do not forget. A pain that is intensified by hope. A feeling that hopes for a miracle. A condition that most of us can´t withstand. 


Every day in such a situation you will be together, every hour means has the task to say goodbye and letting go. But can you just say goodbye to the love of your life? Can you let go the one you need, like the air you breathe, the one you love more than anything else in the world? For both sides suddenly a process is set in motion that is radical, that feels inhuman, that is irreversible.

Dying - mourning - new beginning - a perpetual cycle in life of all of us. These include letting go and reorientation, without a new beginning would not be possible. Those who consciously go through these phases, with or without help from others, gain a piece of wisdom that strengthens us, makes us mature, that leads us step by step into a new and somehow worth living future in which the love to the person we lost, always keeps its place.

But until that happens, we are overcome by the sadness that the beloved person will no longer be (with us). Worrying about the survivors makes it hard for both sides, because the fear of the future obscures the view for the present. And then there is the anger that culminates in the desperate cry for the “why” and receives no answer.


For both sides, everything can be: despair, anger and God's accusation. It´s very good. If these feelings do not have to be suppressed. It is the only true help, the only accompaniment that it needs at this time. Allow and listen without appreciation. That's hard to bear, for those who leave, for relatives, for the friends of relatives.



Michaela, you had to endure it and Werner had to endure it. Your husband, who was strong as a tree and protectively held his hands over you, like the canopy of a tree, had to go. That's why he now gets his TREE of MEMORY.


An Amber tree that carries all the facets and all the nuances of Indian summer especially in autumn. It fits, because Werner had his birthday in October and always felt very well during October. The golden October was his month. If the leaves change colour in a few months, each leave has its own story. Like a colourful mosaic of life, the stories of his and your life appear in each leaf. The moment you first met, the first holiday together, the first car together, or when you both realized that it was the most awful meal you've ever had. The birth of your children, a fight, a hug and much more. The colourful leaves are the colourful stories of your life, sometimes brightly brilliant and outstanding or gentle and in pastel they tell about a different time and a different life. As the leaves fall, life comes to an end, and I believe that we should tell and share the stories of the falling leaves in the last few weeks and days of a person's life. Such a tree has thousands of leaves. Such a human life has thousands of stories that show how fulfilled life was - even though it may have been short. I'm sure that we can bid farewell in the common memory of the great, the crazy, the loving and the incredible stories, and everyone can go on a new journey on their own.


You've made a good choice with an Amber tree. He belongs to the witch hazel plants. And I think that each love is certainly a bit of magic and and is full of surprises. Its appearance, which looks like a log fire in autumn, generates heat. Fine noses smell vanilla and cinnamon. In Mexico, it is a sacred tree and in Greece its resin was attributed to the goddess Hekate, who was responsible for witchcraft and magic. And magic is surely the essence of the moment in which you have fallen in love with Werner.


Amber trees are also considered as protection trees for house and yard, humans and animals. And that's exactly why he stands perfect here at this spot. It is your house, animals live here and above all you live here with your new life companion Rainer, who also supports you with this tree of memory. This is very valuable and a loving gesture and recognition.


This tree is a reminiscent of Werner and all your stories. The tree wears leaves that will fall in the fall and the winter "apparently" ends life. Personally, I do not believe in death, but in a journey, and none of us will literally be gone forever. T

And somehow I can not put the feeling aside, that the choice of a Amber tree is such a foreign-determined sign of this, because there are no coincidences. Maybe it's even a blessing for you and Rainer. Because the Amberbaum carries the scientific name Hamamelis. This is Greek and composed of the words Hama and Melon. Hama stands for "together" and "melon" stands for fertile.  Together fertile.