being kind doesn't mean you can't set your boundaries
Channel: Ally's Corner
Date: 04/03/2023

I feel like growing up, I read many books and articles that taught and encouraged me how to be a nice person and how treat people with kindness. Now I might just be speaking for myself but in my culture, the idea of “just be kind, give love unconditionally, be enthusiastic at everything you do, with everyone you meet” is crucial and it is said to benefit you in the future if you just, you know, “be kind”. And you know what “being kind” got me: years and years of being so miserable from many unhealthy relationships, whether it’s friends, ex-boyfriends, neighbors, or even family members. The idea of being kind and giving love is so important that nobody ever even emphasized how to protect yourself, and simply just how to say no. It took me so long to learn that it’s okay to set boundaries and a lot of the time you don’t even need a reason to reject or to say no to someone. And all of these doesn’t make me a villain by the way. So I just wanna say.....