The Journey of a Father Embracing the Power of Hello | Feel Good Fatherhood | Ben Killoy | Ep 37
Channel: Feel Good Fatherhood
Date: 07/08/2023

In this interview with Ben Killoy on the Feel Good Fatherhood podcast, listeners can expect to learn valuable insights and practical strategies to enhance their fatherhood journey. Ben discusses the importance of leaving a lasting legacy for their children, the power of curiosity in personal growth, the significance of saying hello and engaging in conversations with strangers, and the impact fathers have on their children's identity and decision-making. The interview also touches on creating a calm and safe home environment, promoting open communication with children, and the importance of community and connection. Listeners will come away with a deeper understanding of the role of fathers and how they can positively impact their children's lives for generations to come.

Book Ben Mentions:
There’s A Hole In My Love Cup: The Badass Counseling Method, Sven E. Erlandson
https://www.amazon.com/Theres-Hole-Love-Cup-Counseling/dp/1625505388

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Key Takeaways:

1. The significance of leaving a lasting legacy for future generations, and how to intentionally pass on wisdom and experiences to your children.
2. The value of embracing curiosity and lifelong learning, and how it can open doors to personal and professional growth.
3. Practical strategies for building strong relationships with your children, fostering open communication, and modeling healthy responses in challenging situations. Discover the transformative power of saying hello and connecting with others to expand your understanding of the world.

What You Will Learn in This Episode:
[00:01:31] Discovering the power of saying hello.
[00:04:47] Curiosity drives learning; learn from others.
[00:08:13] Normalize conversation and interaction with others.
[00:11:19] Modeling healthy responses is crucial for parenting. By analyzing our own reactions, we can uncover the origin of our responses, which may stem from past experiences or traumas. Understanding this allows us to approach situations calmly and lovingly.
[00:16:20] Legacy: Prioritize family, pass down wisdom
[00:21:22] Simple lesson: be 02, not CO2
[00:27:18] Legacy of work, farm life, questioning identity. Marine Corps experience. Struggling with purpose, finding authentic self. Realizing the importance of self-worth. Letting go of negative energy. Achieving calmness through self-discovery.
[00:33:38] Community and connection are essential for well-being.

Standout Quotes:
"Your legacy isn't what you do here on this earth. It's what you leave behind… And once you have kids, they are the best chance for you to impact future generations. Your kids and the human beings they become are the best chance that you have."— Ben Killoy [00:17:5700:18:02]

"There is a part that we've left behind in the last 100 years, and it really kinda transitioned when we started going into factories that we were never really wired to do life alone... there was always a sense of community... it takes a village to raise the family...when you get connected to the right kind of people, you realize this new feeling comes into, like, you know what? I can do this because they're with me. I'm no longer by myself. And it's that deep-rooted feeling that we are alone, that truth that we often buy way too often, leads to the suicide rate among men."— Ben Killoy [00:34:3400:34:52]

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