What You Can Do When You Feel Insecure #insecure, #insecurity
Channel: Joan W. Hellen
Date: 21/05/2020

what you can do when you feel insecure:
What is feeling insecure, it’s about not fully trusting yourself at the given time, and without trust, there is doubt  which leads to hesitation and struggles in making decisions, 
This painful experience is stuck in our subconscious mind.
So unconsciously we have allowed the pattern of destructive thoughts towards ourselves and others 
It’s normal to have some days when you feel insecure or feeling down, but it’s not OK to have insecurity as part of your life. 
The feelings of insecurity can take a toll in your life it can cause:
-health issues￼￼,-
-Emotional well-being, 
-your performance.￼
Insecurity can hold you back from being the true self.￼
The good news is insecurity is not a permanent problem, it’s something we can choose to overcome. Remember overcoming insecurity is a process, taking small steps towards being secure.￼
Why DO we get insecure:￼
1.When we make and unreasonable explanation of ourselves
2.  when you don’t feel your good enough, Which  can lead to lack of trust.       
 when you don’t feel good enough about yourself you feel unworthy and helpless around others. 
   Keep in mind how you feel about yourself ￼is not who you are￼￼.
There’s a difference between how you feel and who you really are. 
3. When you feel unworthy and helpless this can lead to worry, feeling of rejection, criticized, being judge, fear
Eventually You don’t live to your fullest potential￼￼.
4.Lack of confidence: especially in social situations; like parties, family gatherings, interviews or dates.￼￼
5.Perfectionism￼: when you constantly disappointed and blaming yourself for being anything less than perfect you will feel insecure and unworthy. Remember no one is perfect.￼
Behaviors that can hide insecurity￼:
Arrogance, selfishness, jealousy, been critical being competitive, being defensive, and blaming others￼,
what you can do when you feel insecure :
1. The first thing recognizing where your insecurities coming from,￼ are you tired of this is a pattern you have going on,
2. Identify the kind of insecurity you’re struggling with; jealousy, feeling threatened may be at work, friends, coworkers, 
-what have I allowed? 
- Why do I feel insecure? 
Ask yourself Why do I feel insecure about this,
-what belief do I have?
 What’s the root cause? 
3. Practice being open-minded:￼ Keep in mind insecurity comes from thoughts you have made about your self, others, and circumstances about what will or won’t happen.￼ 
It’s just a thought or opinion you have a loud to take over. 
To challenge these thoughts and opinions you have allowed think more reasonably and open-minded.￼ 
    -Ask yourself is this how these are or I’m just imagining? 
Consider your success￼:  Look back on your accomplishment, 
- what have you done to succeed?
what challenges have you overcome￼? 
4. Assess your situation￼￼: Evaluate the nature of the situation￼, 
what’s going on? 
The first thing that comes to mind is the worst
, ask what’s the worst can happen? 
So what? 
Things are probably not as bad as I am making them out￼ to be. 
How can I handle myself during worse situations or scenarios? 
- How can I possibly turn a horrible experience into an opportunity for something better?￼￼ 
- What regrets might I have when I love my insecurities get the best of me?￼
5. Have positive self-talk￼: I can do this, I’m a positive person, I believe I can do all things through Christ to strengthen to me￼
6. Be committed to overcoming insecurity:￼ -Break away from bad habits￼,
 -Have daily practices/routines that support your goals and success￼. 
 -have a new set of beliefs that empower you and align with your new habits.￼￼
7. Practice self-acceptance￼/love: 
-Be grateful for who you are, who you’ve become, and who you will become.-
5. Accept that everything is a teaching moment:  
6. Talk to someone you can trust￼￼￼
7.Break your inner critic call talk:￼
the minute the inner self-critic voice or thoughts comes, you begin to challenge it.
8. Be open to new opportunities:  author Adam Sicinski says “the best way to overcome insecurity is to say yes more often, say yes to things that make you insecure￼, 
The process of overcoming your insecurity is very much similar to flexing a muscle. As you continue to flex this muscle it strengthens and you grow all the time.”￼ 
-get out of your comfort zone ask yourself, 
what’s the worst that could happen if I say yes? 
What is the best that can or could happen if I say yes?￼
8. Be more spontaneous: 
9. Live by your standards:￼(if they are right) 
- When we try to copy others, 
- when you try to impress others. 
What personal boundaries will  I set that will give me freedom?￼
10. Continue to develop yourself: One of the best ways to overcome insecurities becoming a reader/learner. 
Take responsibility for developing your skills knowledge.
 improve yourself. 
 - remember it’s a process, be committed. and you will reap the reward￼￼
what you can do when you feel insecure: