The Impact Of Parental Alienation On The Alienating Parent
Channel: The Nurturing Coach
Date: 2017-11-23

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The impact of parental alienation on the alienating parent

Whilst I do not want to give any time or credit to someone who believes alienating their children from a parent is appropriate I do think it is important we understand the motivation behind the behaviour and the impact it has on them.

Firstly nothing you did made them chose this path.  No matter what they tell you.  This was always in their game plan, you just weren’t looking for the clues.  They will tell you that it’s because you did x,y or z but the reality is that it’s part of their character and would have come out sooner or later anyway.

(Stage one and two of this process are talking about women alienators only, simply because of the subject matter.  Stage three onwards is gender neutral.  This is all based on real life case studies which i have undertaken with both men and women)

So many alienated parents are crippled with guilt over something they did and believe that if they had done things differently, they would be reasonable and the kids would not be suffering .  NEWSFLASH.  It is the alienating parent who is at fault NOT YOU.  Please believe that.  

Many alienators have this as their game plan all along.  They decided when they met you that they needed you because you met their needs - you gave them status or you were easy to manipulate or both.  But deep down they knew that you were “out of their league” so they concluded that whilst you may not love them and therefore leave them, you would love your child and be very reluctant to leave them especially if the threat of losing them should you ever dare to leave was planted in your head.

STAGE ONE - ATTACHMENT



STAGE TWO - CONTROL



STAGE THREE - BATTLE FOR CONTROL

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STAGE FOUR - REJECTION

 

STAGE FIVE - PUNISHMENT





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