Suicide: In Search of Perfect Life
Channel: MentorTalk
Date: 16/06/2020

Do you know that as per the same study, India's contribution to global suicide deaths increased from 25·3% in 1990 to 36·6% in 2016 among women, and from 18·7% to 24·3% among men.

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The society brands people who take their own lives as weaklings and timid people. But I have studied lives of many who took their own lives. I am not using the expression committing suicide because it sounds very cruel as if it is a serious and heinous crime. Choosing to end one's own life is not timidity but an act of huge strength of odds against even. It is overly complex riddle. It is a sensitive programming of mind software. We all know that death is inevitable but calling it or dialing it in early is a failure of life, and not failure of the deceased. Life at times can be unfair, we all have experienced unfairness at some point in our lives, some accept it while others give it a jolt by killing the life. That is what suicide is all about.

Medical science has continued to believe in many conventional general causes for suicidal inclinations like depression, bipolar disorder, autism, schizophrenia, personality disorders, anxiety disorders, and substance abuse—including alcoholism and the use of some particular drugs. But in reality, nobody has been able to conclude or crack with authority the actual cause leading to a suicide. It is just branded as some kind of a mental disorder. Some suicides are impulsive acts due to stress, such as from financial struggles, relationship crises such as breakups, or harassment. Ironically, mental condition is considered as a taboo because it is underlying, hidden and suppressed. It is perceived as a personal and private condition as against a physical injury or ailment, which is obvious and patent. 

We all must accept that each one of us has a unique mind software which is programmed naturally to begin with, and on the top it gets new programs as we grow in life. The latter is based on our day to day encounters, experiences etc. What we call impressionable events. These events build-up a chain of feelings and emotions. These get stored and bottled up inside our mind and convert into beliefs and views and perceptions. That is why you notice people with diverse views and beliefs. 

Now, some people are open about these thoughts and discuss freely, debate with friends and relatives. They get support in a way that it brings balance of mind and stability and rationality as to positivity of emotional and psychological health. Then there are people who are either introverts or are in a condition of solitude or loneliness either by choice or by compulsion like it happened in the last 3 months of lockdown due to Covid-19. It was compulsive isolation. People living alone got bottled-up with sadness, hopelessness and pessimism. Yes I know some who shared their experiences with me and I quickly advised them to consult a counsellor or a psychologist with no second thoughts and to have deep conversations with close friends and brothers, sisters, cousins with anybody they trusted. 

So, let us take a pledge today and make promise to ourselves to shun and discontinue the practice of text messaging when we can actually either pick-up the phone and talk to the other person or can essentially meet him or her personally. It is crucial before it gets too late.