Unraveling Limerence (just thinking differently isn't enough)
Channel: Re-embodying emotional experience
Date: 2023-09-07

When a person is dealing with limerence, trauma bonding, or other relationship-related longings that lead to damage, they find that trying to convince themselves to think differently isn't enough.  The root of limerence lies beneath the realm of thought, rationality, language and reason. Any mind-based work that you do can be enhanced by reaching to the root of your limerence through the body.  This is a somatic exercise using interoception and proprioception to activate the aspects of your limerence in the autonomic nervous system.  As you do this sort of exercise, other exercises involving imagery, language and other forms of cognition tend to work much more effectively.  Your system is designed to heal without having to suppress your natural, adaptive drives, and without having to deny your natural needs or wants.