MidLife Awareness "The Rational Male Preventive Medicine" by Rollo Tomassi read by Sam Botta
Channel: Sam Botta
Date: 2017-09-10

MidLife Awareness 
"The Rational Male Preventive Medicine Volume II" 
by Rollo Tomassi 
read by Sam Botta 
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Midlife Awareness 

Probably the most common story I experienced when I did peer counseling was the disillusioned married guy. Most of these guys were professionals, mid to
late 30’ s and all their stories were the same: “I feel like I’ve done everything anyone ever expected of me for the past 10-15 years and I get no appreciation for it.” These guys “did the right thing” and either their wives’ were unresponsive to them or they still viewed these men as a “fixer upper” project that they’d been perpetually working on over a 20 year marriage. This experience is what helped me to better understand the Myth of the Midlife Crisis. Men, in most western cultures do in fact experience a midlife crisis, but this isn’t due to the trivialized and oft ridiculed pop culture reasoning. Women, and feminization, would have us believe that men experiencing a mid-life crisis need to buy a sports car or divorce their wives in favor of a ‘trophy wife’ due to some repressed need to recapture their lost youth. This of course fits into the feminized myth that men are egoistic, simple creatures and masculinity is infantile in nature, but this only serves to reassure women that they “still got it” at 40. The truth about men’s midlife crises isn’t about recapturing youth, it’s about finally
late 30’ s and all their stories were the same: “I feel like I’ve done everything anyone ever expected of me for the past 10-15 years and I get no appreciation for it.” These guys “did the right thing” and either their wives’ were unresponsive to them or they still viewed these men as a “fixer upper” project that they’d been perpetually working on over a 20 year marriage. This experience is what helped me to better understand the Myth of the Midlife Crisis. Men, in most western cultures do in fact experience a midlife crisis, but this isn’t due to the trivialized and oft ridiculed pop culture reasoning. Women, and feminization, would have us believe that men experiencing a mid-life crisis need to buy a sports car or divorce their wives in favor of a ‘trophy wife’ due to some repressed need to recapture their lost youth. This of course fits into the feminized myth that men are egoistic, simple creatures and masculinity is infantile in nature, but this only serves to reassure women that they “still got it” at 40. The truth about men’s midlife crises isn’t about recapturing youth, it’s about finally
 understanding the trappings they’ve been sold into through their 20’ s and 30’ s and coming to terms with that often horrible truth. They are forced to confront the part they’ve inadvertently played in facilitating a woman’s sexual strategy that was sold to him as his feminine-correct social responsibility. They come to the point on the time line when a woman’s maturity phase places her in the more necessitous position that he’s been in for the better part of his 20s and likely half of his 30s. He’s emotionally invested in her, or if not, the idealism of how he was sold a ‘healthy relationship’ should be, and this conflicts with both his realizing his SMV (or his lost potential of it) and confronting the reality of the part he played in facilitating her duplicitous sexual strategy. Some men do in fact buy the sports car, get the new hotty wife or act in some fashion that appears reckless and irresponsible. This isn’t due to infantilism, but rather a new understanding of their own position as men. They’ve “lived responsibly” for so long and for so little appreciation that when that true realization is made they feel the need to move. The true nature of the Game that’s been perpetrated on them becomes clear and they need to react. They’ve become respected, put in the hours, the sacrifice, the censoring of their own views, priorities and imperatives. They realize now that they’ve sold off true passions in favor of maintaining what others have told him was his responsibility – whether it was his choice or not. And all for what? A fat wife? A shrew? Maybe even a fantastic marriage and a wonderful family life, but also a nagging doubt about not seeing enough of the world or accomplishing what he wanted to do by 40 because of it – a nagging doubt that he’s not living up to his curse of potential. In truth, I worry about men who don’t come to this crisis, these are the men who are truly lost. These are the guys who remain life long Blue Pills, happy in their ignorance or forcing down truths too terrible to acknowledge.