Sam Vaknin THERAPY is about Creating ANXIETY & Challenging your COMFORT Zone
Channel: Visceral Gravitas
Date: 2022-12-25

excerpt from https://youtu.be/vshLpYnw9FQ
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Rough transcript: 
therapy is about generating anxiety 
because when you're faced with an insight 
as I tell you listen look at your behavior, the way of seeing it is wrong, you should see it differently 
this creates dissonance and anxiety 
therapy is about creating anxiety 
what is anxiety?
it's exactly what self-states are trying to eliminate 
therapy is a fight against the self states 
we therapists should create anxiety 
where the self-state's goal is to eliminate anxiety 
so we are fighting, we are enemies 
if I had the possibility, if I could reach the point where I eliminate all self states simultaneously 
I could induce healing because the anxiety would be tolerated  
the person will survive and then be changed, transformed 
having experienced anxiety, there will be transformation in the set of principles 
that's why we say that Insight changes Personality 
Insight changes you, it changes the principle 
so if you were a loser and I've suspend your Loser self state and I work with you 
this will create a lot of anxiety because you are not used to not to be a loser you have a lot of anxiety 
but at the end of the therapy you will have a self-state and it will not be a loser anymore 
it will be some other self-state, you have this other self-state it's just not activated 
the therapy activates these self-states, by going through a phase of anxiety 
anxiety is a therapeutic tool and one of the great stupidities of modern psychology is the constant battle against anxiety and medication, constant terror of anxiety 
anxiety is a huge therapeutic tool, 
Freud induced a normal anxiety in these patients, so did you, 
all treatment modalities are based on unsettling you, discomforting you, 
challenging your comfort zone 
therapy is about creating anxiety 
challenging your comfort zone