What’s Wrong with Voluntary Sex Work, Promiscuity? (EXCERPTS)
Channel: Prof. Sam Vaknin
Date: 2022-07-20

What’s wrong with voluntary sex work? It has social utility. The sex worker can make a fortune out of activities that anyhow she engages in gratis.

I prostitute my brain. No different to prostituting one’s vagina. 

Condemning sex work is patriarchal thinking: men prostitute themselves - their muscles and brains - all the time.

The sex worker gets to meet fascinating men, have a regular sex life, gets invited to restaurants, bars, clubs, travel all over the world, and often ends up snagging a rich husband (a rescuer type). And I forgot to mention opportunities for group sex.

Promiscuity is not about how many sex partners you have - but about why you are having sex in the first place. If you seek sex for all the wrong reasons with all the wrong people - you are promiscuous.

Promiscuity is not gender specific. Men can also be promiscuous.

Promiscuity has only negative outcomes in every way: it fosters anxiety, depression, and substance abuse. On the social level, it renders men more entitled and aggressive when they are turned down.

The promiscuous have dark personalities: most of them are subclinical psychopaths.

Promiscuity is addictive: it is thrilling (dopaminergic) and involves novelty-seeking and reckless behaviors.

Finally: promiscuous people engage in sex without intimacy, meaning, and emotions.

This becomes an ingrained habit, an addiction which is bound to resurface at some stage.

Relapses are common: promiscuous intimate partners are far more likely to cheat and do it serially. They are a lot more liable to be unable to commit to the relationship and to break up.

Promiscuity rewires the brain and stunts the development of relationship skills. It conditions its practitioner to sever any connection between sex and true, profound long-term intimacy and vulnerability.

Sex positivity is counterfactual: it flies in the face of decades if cumulative research. It is a pernicious and dangerous ideology that has ruined and is still devastating the lives of countless young men and women.

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