Secrets to surviving alienation
Channel: Secrets to surviving alienation
Date: 02/03/2021

Todays Guest is Lisa Goodpaster

Parental Alienation Survivor, Childhood Trauma Educator 

Alienated from both parents by her stepmom, Lisa’s the first child of divorce to come forward with proof of what happened to her. Lisa hopes  by sharing  her story it will bring  awareness  and action against parental alienation. While clearing the path for other survivors to come forward

The Stephood Project
What Goes Into The Mind
Goes Into the Body
I’m told by relatives and my parents I was a happy baby;
my natural state was calm and joyful. I walked at eight
months, curious, smart, and observant. My dad involved
me in soccer, and my mom had me in ballet.
Divorce was the marker for Alienation. I was four, and
this is when things changed rapidly between the ages of
7 through 13.
My Childhood
A mental prison, my growing body felt physical sensations warning me I was in danger. Some of them
included a fast heartbeat, restlessness, light-headedness
with tingly sensations.
Fear and shame, along with loneliness, constantly
lingered over me. I believed what I heard and read. I had
one good parent and one evil parent. Kids at this age are
like sponges; we soak up every word in our environment.
In my case, I became anxious and then angry, and I
couldn’t explain why. My biggest fear was losing my dad.
I stayed silent to protect my dad while rejecting my own
mother. I took a daily hit of rejection and bullying while
craving stability and safety.
The older I got, the worse it became. I couldn’t escape
and learned to endure it.
Today
I’m grateful. I rebelled and never
stopped trying to figure out why I felt so
broken on the inside. I had twenty-two physical
symptoms, from joint pain to unexplained rashes,
throughout my body.
I remembered where the alienator left her script of
lies. At 44, after raising my child, the proof resurfaced.
My body remembered everything I couldn’t explain.
Every physical sensation I pushed down. To grasp this
as an adult wasn’t easy. It was hell. I intuitively understood there are millions of kids who survive in silence.
The thought of any child trying to grow up in a wasteland of chaos and uncertainty set me on course to
where I am today.
If This Resonates With You, Know That You Are Not Alone
I’m living a new normal with no silence or shame and no pain. Grounded in a purpose to help bring awareness and
hope to all families suffering through this preventable poison of parental alienation and the danger of not
co-parenting our kids.
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