How to heal after a breakup: Form or function; understanding what really hurts.
Channel: Clear Vision
Date: 2023-12-16

Welcome to Clear Vision, where I, Simon, share insights from my journey as a psychotherapist. In this video, we delve into the complex emotions of heartbreak and the grieving process following the end of a relationship. We explore a crucial question: Are you missing the person for who they are (form) or for the role they played in your life (function)? This distinction is key to understanding the depth of your heartache and can guide you on the path to healing.

Join me as we unravel the tangled emotions of loss and learn how to differentiate between the longing for a person's presence and the void left by their functional role in our lives. Whether you're struggling to move on or seeking deeper self-awareness, this video offers valuable perspectives to aid your emotional journey.

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0:05 - Introduction 
0:53 - Discerning between missing the form or function of a relationship.
1:19 - Is the grief for the person (form) or what they provided (function).
2:06 - The complexity of grieving the function: indicates deeper self-work and potential trauma.
2:53 - Importance of self-love and building a future independently to mitigate loss impact.
3:32 - Examining previous relationship patterns and attachment styles for insights.
4:59 - Strategies for moving past heartbreak by understanding personal needs and relationship dynamics.
5:23 - The exercise of listing pros and cons of the relationship to align perception with reality.
6:17 - Encouragement towards forming relationships based on form rather than function for healthier connections.
7:20 - Conclusion: The importance of letting go and focusing on self-growth for future relationships.