Can You Change Your Attachment Style?
Channel: Prof. Sam Vaknin
Date: 22/01/2022

Attachment style is stable over the lifespan, but attachment behaviors and internal relationship models change in 30% of people.

Behaviors can be modified to counter effects of attachment style.

Intensity of attachment orientation changes.

The changes are mediated via:

Quality of relationships, type of partner
Traumas
Therapy
Personality Disorders
Life Crises

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Australian Journal of Educational & Developmental Psychology. Vol 11, 2011, pp. 60- 77 
Attachment across the life span: Factors that contribute to stability and change 
Megan McConnell, McGill University and Ellen Moss, Université du Québec a Montréal

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Personality and Social Psychology Review
Revising Working Models Across Time: Relationship Situations That Enhance Attachment Security
Ximena B. Arriaga, Madoka Kumashiro, Jeffry A. Simpson, et al.
First Published June 2, 2017 

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