Is Sam Vaknin a Misogynist (Woman-hater)?
Channel: Prof. Sam Vaknin
Date: 2021-11-20

Self-trashing – sexual, with addictions – is a form of self-harming. Men and women use each other to self-harm. Hookups Trap: Bad Sex, Female Raw Deal (Literature Review) https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=OJKjie8b4hI

Throughout the ages, women had been complaining that men are reducing them to sex objects, with no mind or personality of their own. Strangely, they are now fostering exactly such an attitude by giving in to casual sex.

Giving in because casual sex sucks, especially for women: 90% don’t even orgasm, 27% are raped, 50% are forced into painful anal sex. 

Focus on women because they are in driver’s seat of Greatest revolution, biggest threat (men and manosphere videos, blamed for being simp and misandrist).

Patriarchy: without consultation or voice, taxation without representation, subjugation, occasional horrific abuse, stunted growth, no self-actualization, sexual assault impunity (MeToo).

Women woke up and realized that most relationships with men are abusive.

Women adopted the abuser’s POV, male stereotypes.

Men are betraying women, coerce them into casual sex and then abandon them.

Everyone more narcissistic and psychopathic, men and women: tide that lifts all boats. But women regard their newfound narcissism as empowering ideology which legitimizes and contextualizes all misdeeds.
Men have to adapt to a Female Age, but so do women.

Equality is not identity: homogeneity (unigender, only fluid sex) leads to entropy and death (no relationships, we need children, no intimacy skills)
Counterfactual claims and myths in an age of truthism: no one is happy

Invulnerability signalling: autonomous, agentic, goal-oriented, unemotional, uninvolved, self-sufficient

Gender vertigo

Abolished gender roles, sexual scripts
Confusion as to appropriate behavior (codes of conduct)
In absence of institutions, Relationships must be negotiated from scratch each time
Destructive friction, frustration, aggression, exhaustion, abuse
Atomization and alienation, loneliness, boredom 
Collapse of agency and self-efficacy
Self-loathing
Acting out, recklessness, self-trashing

Stalled revolution

Masculine unigender
Women as breadwinners, surpass men
PC media revel in uniformity (“pregnant people”)
Women are defining themselves in what used to be exclusive masculine terms and are rejecting all feminine aspects and descriptors.
This “stalled revolution”, as it is called in the scholarly literature, is exploding among the younger generations where gender roles have been effectively abolished, leading to an androgynous unigender state.

Fluidity

Biological sex and socio-cultural gender

Defiance

Attitudinal shift from agency and self-efficacy to aggressive assertiveness replaced benign constructive discourse and inter-gender dialog
Refugees of abusive relationships and divorces: animosity, bitterness, hypervigilance, hatred, withdrawal, insecure avoidant attachment

Enshrined double standard

Women conform to male stereotypes of sexually emancipated “sluts”.
Claims of empowerment belied by introjection of male chauvinistic double standard, rampant discontent, and substance abuse.
Duality, self-denial, self-deception driving men and women apart

Ad hominem: arguments, not messenger (men, old). Even misogynists can have good arguments (broken clock right twice a day). Labelling is not the same as comprehending and arguing.

Scientist, like judge: emotions aside, where the data take me.

Observations based on studies, not on anecdotes, values, or prejudices (hookup video reviews literature)

Example: casual sex has deleterious effects – FACT, not BIAS: I had more casual sex, swinging, and group sex than all of you combined.

Self-trashing – sexual, otherwise – is a form of self-harming. Men and women use each other to self-harm.

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