Should you be friends with your ex?
Channel: Doris Füllgrabe
Date: 2024-03-13

Breaking up hurts... but sometimes there is so much love that the feelings just have to go somewhere, right? Maintaining a friendship with someone who knows you so well can be very rewarding - but the transition can be very tricky. It's easy to fall back into old patterns and habits "for old times' sake." Here is some evidence-based information how to navigate the transition from lovers to friends. 

00:00 - Transitioning from a sexy relationship to a platonic one
00:48 - Reasons for Staying Friends
01:33 - Tip #1
03:28 - How do you know a relationship has shifted?
04:47 - Tip #2
05:59 - Tip #3
07:40 - Something to consider
08:20 - Don’t make this mistake
08:46 - Remember, you have options.

References:

1. Griffith R. L., Gillath O., Zhao X., Martinez R. (2017). Staying friends with ex-romantic partners: Predictors, reasons, and outcomes. *Personal Relationships*, 24(3), 550–584
2. Bullock, M., Hackathorn, J.M., Clark, E.M., & Mattingly, B.A. (2011). Can We Be (and Stay) Friends? Remaining Friends After Dissolution of a Romantic Relationship. *The Journal of Social Psychology, 151*, 662 - 666.
3. Mogilski, J. K., & Welling, L. L.M. (2017). Staying friends with an ex: Sex and dark personality traits predict motivations for post-relationship friendship. *Personality and Individual Differences, 115,* 114–119. [https://doi.org/10.1016/j.paid.2016.04.016](https://psycnet.apa.org/doi/10.1016/j.paid.2016.04.016) 
4. Mason, A. E., Sbarra, D. A., Bryan, A. E., & Lee, L. A. (2012). Staying connected when coming apart: The psychological correlates of contact and sex with an ex-partner. *Journal of social and clinical psychology*, *31*(5), 488–507. https://doi.org/10.1521/jscp.2012.31.5.488

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