Emotions Evoke MOTION, numb your emotions = Paralyzed Stuck LOOPING
Channel: Visceral Gravitas
Date: 2023-01-27

Excerpt from 6/30/22 Fake EMPATHY, it’s often Imposed SHAME! 1m27m https://youtu.be/NovU46eg9dI

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transcript:
that's hard for codependents 
because when we get flooded you go into your emotional flashback in this competition 
in order to hold apathy you need to upgrade and do
alongside parallel sympathy
side by side empathy

which is hard to teach 
that's like holding space for people 
then you're calming them and you 
you're going into the feeling 
empathy into feeling

and when you go into feeling 
you're trying to evoke motion 
so you're trying to stir things up, increase emotion

where if you're in a group and you want people to be safe through rules 
you're actually trying to stifle emotion you're trying to make rules to squash expression 
if he makes rules to squash expression 
you're controlling safety through dominance and authority top down 
which is continuing codependence 
it's not a safe enough group 
it's actually a safely dead group if you have too many rules that block authentic expression 

because emotions need to evoke motion

but one person getting emotional triggers other people getting emotional and then people get triggered and fight each other and then that's a mess yes 

that's why you have to also stay calm and centered 
someone needs to hold the space and the container