4 Reasons Why You're Afraid of Dating
Channel: Psych2Go
Date: 2024-02-18

Is it normal for you to be afraid of dating and not wanting to date again? is a common question people often ask. Do you feel anxious about diving into the dating scene? You're not alone. We all harbor fears of getting hurt, and sometimes past experiences can haunt us, making it hard to take that leap of faith again.

It's normal if you're not interested in dating. It could be that you're going through a breakup, focused on other things in life, are aromantic, or are not interested in modern dating. Sometimes, dating isn't for everyone which is ok! 

In "4 Reasons Why You're Afraid of Dating," we delve into anecdotes and research findings to explore the common fears surrounding dating. As always, if you're still struggling to overcome the fear. Do reach out to a qualified mental health professional to support you. 

Share your own experiences and reasons on why you're afraid of dating in the comments below.

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Researcher/Writer: Sara Del Villar
Editor: Brie Villanueva
Script Manager: Kelly Soong
Voice Over: Amanda Silvera (http://www.youtube.com/amandasilvera)
Animation: Naphia https://www.youtube.com/@Naphia
Project Manager: Cindy Cheong

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