Why Social Competence = Social Anxiety
Channel: Erik Thor
Date: 10/02/2019

The most socially competent individuals may be the most socially anxious ones. And the least socially competent ones may be the best at blending and dealing with social interactions. 

A problem with social situations is there are so many potential mistakes you can make. You can make mistakes every minute. You can miss on small cultural quirks, fail to shake hands properly, say a word wrong, or accidentally say something you were not supposed to. There's so many embarrassing situations it's no wonder many of us are socially anxious! So perhaps the key to having less social anxiety is becoming less socially competent. More prepared to make mistakes and to brush mistakes off as if they were nothing. Being prepared to step on people's toes once in a while, and being fine with making mistakes here and there.  

This is why social competence = social anxiety. 

Regardless of if you are extroverted or introverted, you'll have to deal with people and social interactions. What's worse is, most people make social mistakes all the time, I mean, there are just so many things we can mess up about communication. Extroverted Feeling types are said to be good at this stuff, but truth is, they're constantly aware of all the mistakes and all the issues, and some of them can struggle with social anxiety as a result. Social anxiety makes sense because there are so many potentially offensive things we could say or do in any given situation and it's so very easy to be misunderstood. Social anxiety may be supported by an emotionally wired script. 

The only cure to social anxiety may be extroverted feeling and communicating and recommunicating and then communicating again with people to constantly clarify misunderstandings and to bridge conflicts with others. The solution to all the mistakes we make in social situations is to make more mistakes. Did you realise that humans self-correct and re-memorise social interactions? Most mistakes you do are constantly forgotten by your friends and family members. Only the big things stick.

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