BRILLIANCE of Codependent FAWN SELF!! Victimhood is the biggest CON game EVER!
Channel: Visceral Gravitas
Date: 2023-10-01

Excerpt from Visceral Gravitas Community zoom group 10/16/21
"What if the Codependent's FAWN self is a BRILLIANT Deceptive CON, par excellence? " 1h11m https://youtu.be/AiEmsqIJb1w

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transcript:
I discovered that I have a strong fear of negative emotions and I feel shame guilt and resentment 
feel them in my gut my throat sometimes in my head 
I also wrote down some questions to what am I afraid of 
why can't I speak out 
when was this seed planted and 
who am I trying to rescue 
that instinct kicks in to rescue others 
it's a fantasy it's not a reality because this person doesn't need rescuing and 
they definitely don't need my rescuing at that moment 
that's their situation 
is it controlling that's really what you're doing 
you're controlling 

you're trying to regulate your feelings by controlling somebody else 
if you control them properly enough your feelings will be regulated 
you're using them as a pawn for your own emotional ... 
you're using them as a pawn, you're using them as a pawn to regulate yourself because 
what if the purpose is different?
I'm really worked up right now  my nervous system is really really high right now I'm really worked up right now, 
it's really high but she has a judgment saying that's bad 
she was triggered and she didn't want to be 
why is it bad 
because that's not reality 
no, actually if your nervous system is triggered, it more real than real, you're living than real yes
you're feeling alive if your nervous system is yes 

it's a con game it's threatening the shell game a victim helpless, keeping all the pieces in order 
because she's still stuck in the childhood 
she's still stuck in a caregivers control all the resources 
but now you have a job you have your own resources 
you're not under the threat of the caregivers anymore

you can't ride this out 
I'm really worked up right now my nervous system is really high right now, I'm really worked up right now 
isn't this what people want when they go on a roller coaster isn't this what people want when they do bungee jumping
 isn't what they want in a highly sexual interaction they want to be worked up 
if you're in the moment wild crazy sex you want both you aren't saying oh that's too painful I'm not gonna go against the wall 

she was watching a drama play out and then she didn't like that the drama played out and blamed you for letting it play out

Stop going into story, this is not an example about story, 
this is an example of how she's framing feeling alive as a negative 
it's a con game this victim helpless con game 
she's framing feeling alive as a negative con game 
feeling alive as a negative yes yeah