Spouse refuses counseling, what can you do?
Channel: Marriage Restoration with Rabbi Shlomo Slatkin
Date: 2022-11-15

It's hard when your spouse refuses counseling.
It seems like it may be impossible to make any progress in improving your situation.

Should you pressure your husband/wife and "force" them to go with you?

The best thing to do is for you to take responsibility for the things that you know you can take responsibility for.

What does that look like?

✅Acknowledging that you are not perfect and that you've made mistakes in the past.

✅Focusing on yourself instead of pressuring your spouse is the best way to handle this situation. 

Why's that? 

Chances are, your spouse doesn't want to participate because they don't feel safe. 

Perhaps you attended counseling before and it wasn't helpful or made things worse.

Therefore, you MUST create emotional safety to the best of your ability.

Name calling, shaming, blaming, is going to be the opposite of emotional safety. 

Taking responsibility, using "I" statements, making sure it's a good time to talk, are going to show your partner that you've changed and are doing something different to shift the environment in your home.

That's the best way to *hopefully* get your partner on board!  

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