What is the point of punishing children?Sadhguru English Speech||BY-Sadhguru English
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Date: 04/08/2022

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Sadhguru---(Indian guru)
Jagadish "Jaggi" Vasudev, known by the honorific title Sadhguru, is an Indian yoga guru and proponent of spirituality. He has been teaching yoga in southern India since 1982. In 1992, he established the Isha Foundation near Coimbatore, which operates an ashram and yoga centre that carry out educational activities. Wikipedia
Born: September 3, 1957 (age 64 years), Mysuru, India
Spouse: Vijaykumari (m. 1984–1997)
Parents: Susheela Vasudev
Children: Radhe Jaggi
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The Latin origin of the word discipline is ‘to teach’. Disciplining your child means teaching them responsible behaviour and self-control. With appropriate and consistent discipline, your child will learn about consequences and taking responsibility for their own actions. The ultimate aim is to encourage the child to learn to manage both their feelings and behaviour. This is called self-monitoring.

At its best, discipline rewards the child for appropriate behaviour and discourages inappropriate behaviour, using fair and positive means. Some parents think that discipline means physical punishment, such as hitting and smacking, or verbal abuse such as yelling or threatening the child. 
This is not discipline.

The consequences of physical punishment
Children learn by example. A number of studies show that the most influential role models in a child’s life are their parents. It is important that parents act as a model for how they want their children to behave.

Using physical punishment or inflicting pain on a child to stop them from misbehaving only teaches them that it is OK to solve problems with violence. Children learn how this is done from watching their parents use physical violence against them.

Other problems caused by physical punishment:

Damage to the very precious parent-child relationship.
Harm to the child’s dignity, self-respect, self-esteem and sense of a positive identity.
The possibility of physical and psychological injury.
Lost opportunity to use the child’s misbehaviour to teach them responsibility and self-control.
The destruction of the child’s sense of fairness and justice.
Long-term effects – the child may become withdrawn, fearful or use bullying behaviour.
The child may try to avoid physical punishment by telling lies.


Reasons for misbehaviour
Children misbehave for many reasons:

They are too young to know that their actions are unacceptable.
They are frustrated, angry or upset and have no other reasonable way to express their feelings.
They are stressed by major changes such as family breakup, a new sibling or starting school.
They are not getting your attention when they do behave appropriately.
They feel you have been unfair and want to punish you.
They need a greater degree of independence and feel constricted.
Your child’s ability to understand
Disciplining a child means teaching your child what is acceptable behaviour. A child’s intellectual ability develops over time. It is important to match the discipline of your child with your child’s capacity to understand. A very young child, such as a baby, has no comprehension of right and wrong.

Children under three do not misbehave – they have needs that they want met, such as hunger and thirst. They cannot yet respond to consequences by changing
behaviour and so need to be told the same message over and over again, for example, ‘put your hat on in the sun’. When they continue to go out in the sun without their hats, they are not disobedient – they just cannot remember.

Try to explain things to your child in a way that matches their development level and remember to also lower yourself to their physical level. Children act out their feelings through their behaviour, so it is important to understand the feelings behind the behaviour. If you know the reasons for your child’s misbehaviour or feelings, you can help solve the underlying problems


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