Dunlap's Pennsylvania packet , The general advertiser — Philadelphia, Pa., 1774-11-28 00:00:00, page 6

In the Prejs, and fteedily will be Published,
A FA T II E R's LEGACY
TO HIS
DAUGHTER S.
By the late Dr. Gregory, of Edinbnrgh.
[From which thefollowing is art extrafl.]
f^ ^st^N E o ' the chief beauties in a female
p# ^ character is that modest reserve,
* "O * that retiring delicacy which avoids
^ .Bl the public eye, and is disconcerted
k.^*^^ even at the gaze of admiration. I
do not wish you to be insensible to applause. If
you were, you must become, if not worse, at least
less amiable women. But you may be dazzled by
that admiration, which yet rejoices your hearts.
“ When a girl ceases to blush, fire has loft the
most powerful charm of beauty. That extreme
sensibility which it indicates, may be a weakness and
incumbrance in our sex, as I have too often felt;
butin yours it is peculiarly engaging. Pedants,
who think themselves Philosophers, ask why a wo
man should blush when she is conscious of no crime.
It is a fufficient anfiper, that nature has made you
to blush when you are guilty of nd fault, and has
forced us to love you bec^ufe you do so. Biu(h
ing is so far from being necessarily an attendant
on guilt, that it is the usual companion of inno
cence." 4
This modesty, which I think so essential in your
sex, will naturally dispose you to be rather silent
in company, especially in a large one. People of
sense and discernment will never mistake such si
lence for dullness. One may take a share in can
verfation without uttering a syllable. The expres
sion in the countenance shews it, and this never
escapes an observing eye.
I should be glad that you had an easy dignity in
your behaviour at public places, but not that confi
dent ease, that unabashed countenance which feerhs
to set the company at defiance. If, while a gen
tleman is Speaking to you, one of superior rank
addrefles you, do not let your eager attention and
visible preference betray the flutter of your heart.
Let your pride on this occasion preserve you from
that meanness into which your vanity would fink
you.—Confider that you expose yourselves to the
ridicule of the company, and affront one gentle
man only to swell the triumph of another, who
perhaps thinks he does you honour in speaking to
you.
Converse with men even of the firft rank with
that dignified modesty, which may prevent the ap
proach of the moftdiftant familiarity, and confe
quentlv prevent them from feeling themselves your
superiors.
Wit is the most dangerous talent you can pos
sess. It must be guarded with great discretion
and good nature, otherwise it will create you ma
ny enemies. Wit is perfectly confident with foft
nefs and delicacy, yet they are seldom found uni
ted. Wit is so flattering to vanity, that they who
possess it, become intoxicated, and lole all felf
command.
Humour is a different quality. It will make
your company much solicited; but be cautious how
you indulge it.—lt is often a great enemy to de
licacy, and a still greater one to dignity of charac
ter. It may sometimes gain you applause, but
will never procure you refpeCl.
Be even cautious in displaying your good sense.
It will be thought you assume a superiority over
the rest of the company.—But if you happen to
have any learning, keep it a profound fecret,efpe
cially from the men, who generally look with a
jealous and malignant eye on a woman ofgreat parts,
and a cultivated understanding.
A man of real genius and candour is far fnperi
or to this meanness. But such a one will seldom
fallin your way ; and if by accident he should,
do not be anxious to (hew the full extent of your
knowledge. If he has any opportunities of feeing
you, he will soon discover it himfelf; and if you
have any advantages of person or manner, and keep
your own secret, he will probably give you credit
for a great deal more than you possess —The great
art of pleasing in conversation consists in making
the company pleased with themselves. You will
more readily hear than talk yourselves into their
good graces.
Beware of detraction, especially where your
own sex are concerned. You are generally accu
sed ofbeing particularly addicted to this vice.—l
think unjustly.—Men are full as guilty ofit when
their interests interfere.—As your ioterefts more
frequently clash, and as your feelings are quicker
than ours, your temptations to it are more fre
quent. For this reason, be particularly tender
of the reputations of your own sex, especially
when they happen to rival you in our regards. We
look on this as the strong proof of dignity and true
greatness of mind.
Shew a companionate sympathy to unfortunate
women, especially to those who are rendered so by
the villainy of men. Indulge a secret pleasure, I
may fay pride, in being the friends and refuge of
the unhappy, but without the vanity of shewing it.
POSTSCRIPT to the Pennsylvania Packet. No. 162;
The power of a fine woman over the hearts of
men of the fineft parts, is even beyond what die
conceives. They are sensible of the pleating illu
sion, but they cannot, nor do they wish to dif
lolve it. But if die is determined to dispel the
charm, it certainly is in her power : she may soon
reduce the angel to a very ordinary girl.
These is a native dignity in ingenuous modesty
to be expected in your sex, which is your natural
protection from the familiarities of the men, and
which you should feel previous to the reflection
that it is your interest to keep yourselves sacred
fiom all personal freedoms. The many nameless
charms and endearments of beauty should be re
served to bless the arms of the happy man to whom
you give your heart, but who, if he has the least
delicacy, will despise them, if he knows that they
have been prostituted to fifty men before him.—
There is a certain gentleness of spirit and man
ners extremely engaging in your sex ; not that
indiferiminate attention, that unmeaning simper,
which smiles on all alike. This arises either from
an affectation of foftnefs, or from perfect simplicity.
There is a species of refinement in luxury, just
beginning to prevail among the gentlemen of this
country, to which our ladies are yet as great stran
gers as any women on earth ; I hope, for the ho
nour of the sex, they may ever continue so: I
mean, the luxury of eating. It is a despicable
felfifh vice, in men, but in your sex it is beyond
expression indelicate and disgusting.
Every one who remembers a few years back, is
sensible of a very striking change in the attention
and refpeCt formerly paid by the gentlemen to the
ladies. Their drawing rooms are deferred; and
after dinner and supper, the gentlemen are impa
tient till they retire. How they came to lose this
refpeCt, which nature and politeness so well entitle
them to, I shall not here particularly enquire.
The revolutions of manners in any country depend
on causes very various and complicated. I shall
only observe, that the behaviour of the ladies in
the last age was very reserved and stately. It would
now be reckoned ridiculously ftiff and formal.
Whatever it was, it had certainly the effect of
making them more refpe&ed.
A fine woman, like other fine things in nature,
has her proper point of view, from which (lie may
be seen to most advantage. To fix this point re
quires great judgment, and an intimate knowledge
of the human heart. By the present mode of fe
male manners, the ladies seem to expedthat they
shall regain their afcendency over us, by the full
eft display of their personal charms, by being al
ways in our eye at public places, by converting
with us with the fame unreserved freedom as we
do with one another ; in Short, by resembling us
as nearly as they possibly can —But a little time
and experience will (how the folly of this expec
tation and conduct.
Confider every species of indelicacy in eonver
fation as fhameful in itfelf, and as highly disgust
ing to us. All double entendre is of this fort.—
The dissoluteness of men's education allows them
to be diverted with a kind of wit, which yet they
have delicacy enough to be (hocked at, when it
comes from your mouths, or even when you hear
it without pain and contempt. —Virgin purity is of
that delicate nature that it cannot hear certain
things without contamination. It is always in
your power to avoid these. No man, but a brute
or a fool, will insult a woman with conversation
which he fees gives her pain ; or will he dare to
do it, if she relent the injury with a becoming
spirit.— There is a dignity in confeious virtue
which is able to awe the most Ihamelefs and aban
doned of men.
You will be reproached perhaps with prudery.
By prudery is usually meant an affectation of de
licacy. Now I do not wish you to affeCt delicacy;
I wish you to possess it. At anv rate, it is better
to run the rilk of being thought ridiculous than
disgusting.
The men will complain of your reserve. They
will aflure you that a franker behaviour would
make you more amiable. But trust me, they are
not Sincere when they tell you so.—l acknowledge,
that on some occasions it might render you more
agreeable as companions, but it would make you
less amiable as womei : an important diftinCtiqn
which many of your sex are not aware of.— After
all, I wish you to have great ease and openness in
your conversation. I only point put some confi
deadons which ought to regulate your behaviour
in that refpeCt.
Have a sacred regard to truth. Lying is a mean
and delpicable vice.—l have known some women
of excellent parts, who are so much addicted to it,
that they could not be trusted in the relation of
any story, especially if it contained any thing of
the marvellous, or if they themselves were the he
roines of the tale. This weakness did not proceed
from a bad heart, but was merely the effect of va
nity, or an unbridled imagination —I do not mean
to censure that lively embellishment of a humor
ous story, which is only intended to promote in
nocent mirth.
TWENTYDOLLARSREWARD.
ST OLEN out of the pasture of the subscriber
living in Mil-Creek Hundred, Newcaftlecounty,
on the zoth of this inst. Oft. at night; a dark bay
mare, between 14 and 15 hands high, paces and
trots, about 15 years old, has no particular mark
but fiddle maik. \\ hoever takes up laid mare and
thief, so that the owner may have her again, and
the thief brought to justice, shall have the above
reward, or FOUR DOLLARS for the mare only,
paid by me JOHN WATT.
N. B. The mare is small boned and straight
limbed, but well made in the body, and She is flip
posed to be with foal.
4 known in America.
IT is as infallible, innocent, sure and effectual
a medicine as was ever known in the world, for
all coughs, colds, swimming in the head, and a
very admirable remedy for children'in the whoop
ing cough, and in most all their disorders ; by the
proper use of this balfim, for a reasonable time,
many have received great benefit and relief, and
some are effectually cured of the most painful rheu
matism, cholic, consumption, &c. &c. Dr. Hill's
own direction is wrapped about each bottle, and to
prevent counterfeiting this medicine, it is only to
be fold in Philadelphia by William Sitgreaves, mer*
chant, on the north fide of Market ftrett, near the
Court house ; at Germantown bv Cbrijiopher Sower,
printer; at Lancaster by Ludwig Lauman, merchant;
in New-York by Michael Hffman, (hop-keeper; and
by the subscriber, at his house in Kingfefs.
WILLIAM YOUNG.
N. B. At the fame pl ices are fold, DoCtor Hill'c
new improved Stomachic TinCture, ex ellent for
all weak stomachs; it gives a very good healthy
appetite and found digestion, and prevents many
diseases.
TO BE DISPOSED OF,
h^HE Indentures of an English servant Man,
I who has about three years and a half to serve;
he understands waiting upon table, taking care of
horles, and rides well. If no private person should
want him, he would do for an oftler, pottillion, or
a waiter at an Inn. Enquire of the Printer.
Baltimore-Town, October zzd, 1774.
WHEREAS the partnerfllip of Harris
and Donnaldson diflolves on the firlt day
of January next, by mutual content, and William
Harris is determined to quit she DRY GOODS
bulinefs ; they will fell their stock in trade on the
mod reasonable terms for cash only. Their goods
on hand consist of a 1 irge and general assortment of
European and East-India manufactures, a great
part of which are yet in packages, being just arri
ved from London, Liverpool and Glasgow. They
have onhand a considerable quantity of those articles
which have lately arose tb an unreasonable dearth,
a Small part of Such, to prevent monopolizing, they
will fell to their friends and customers who deal
with them for other goods at the most reasonable
prices.
N. B. They earnestly request all persons indebted
to them to make speedy payment, to enable them
to discharge accounts with their creditors, and re
mit to their friends withthat punctuality which they
have always endeavoured to observe.
You may perhaps think that I want to throw
every spark of nature out of your composition,
and to make you entirely artificial. Far from it:
I wish you tv possess the most perfect simplicity of
heart and manners. I think you may possess dig
nity without pride, affability without meanness,
and simple elegance without affectation. Milton
had my idea, when he fays of Eve,
Grace mas in all her flep. Heaven in her eye.
In every gesture- dignity and .eve.
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WILLIAM DREWET SMITH,
Has just imported in the last (hips from England,
AOJJ A NTITY of Baron Van Haake's
Royal Letters Patent Composition for ma
nuring land.
I his valuable Composition has been tried with
the greatest success in England, not only for arable,
meadow, and pasture land, but is allo excellent for
hop, turnip, tobacco grounds, and vineyards ;
likewise particularly adapted to kitchen garden#
and nurseries.
The above wifi be fold in quantities not less than
eight pounds to 200 wt. and upwards, with proper
print-d directions, at his store in Second-(tree t,
between Market and Chefnut-ftreets.
The sentiment, that a woman may allow all inno
cent freedoms, provided het virtue is Secure, is
both grossly indelicate and dangerous, and has
proved fatal to many of your sex.
Let me now recommend to your attention that
elegance, which is not so much a quality itfelf as
the high polish of every otker. It is what dif
fufes an ineffable grace over every look, every
motion, every sentence you utter. It gives that
charm to beauty without which it generally fails
to please. It is partly a personal quality, in which
lefpeCtit is the gift of nature ; but I speak of it
principally as a quality of the mind. In a word,
it is the perfection of taste in life and manners;—
every virtue and every excellency, in their most
graceful and amiable forms.
Lately imported from London, a frefh q tantity of
Dr. Hill's American BALSAM,
Of which the virtue and goodness are now so well