Question: where does big live in sex and the city

title: Mr. Big (Sex and the City)
text: Carrie eventually falls in love with Big , despite his fear of commitment . His reserved communication on relationship issues and Carrie 's coping with the ambiguity are frequent plot devices . Carrie repeatedly returns to the relationship even though he is clearly emotionally unavailable to her and unable to meet her needs . Although it appears Mr. Big was emotionally crippled by a series of failed relationships , the subject is often glossed over as him simply being selfish . Mr. Big 's tendency to take major emotional steps in the relationship more slowly than Carrie is often portrayed as emotional unavailability rather than the caution born of a repeatedly broken heart . Carrie 's misinterpretation of Mr. Big 's inner turmoil as unreachable distance often creates larger issues because of her misplaced feelings of unworthiness , and due to her propensity for not communicating truthfully until too late , results in a lot of painful misunderstandings . Carrie accepts no responsibility for her impatience and lack of empathy , often issuing ultimatums ( i.e. first break - up ) , and Big ca n't shed his ingrained emotional pessimism to fully embrace Carrie as a partner . They break up repeatedly , over the course of two years for those reasons , before Big marries a gorgeous twenty - six - year - old socialite and Ralph Lauren employee named Natasha ( Bridget Moynahan ) after dating her for only five months . This hurts Carrie , as she wonders why he could take steps with Natasha that he refused to take with Carrie . It becomes obvious later that Mr. Big had simply skipped many of the important emotional steps before marriage , many of which he had definitely , if slowly , taken with Carrie , creating the problems of distance and unavailability between Big and Natasha , which Carrie had so feared in their own relationship .