Vol.23 (March 2018)
This issue focuses on “dating DV”. While the violence occurring
between married couples is called DV (domestic violence), theviolence occurring between couples in a dating relationship iscalled dating DV. The survey shows that dating DV is not wellknown compared to DV (Cabinet Office, 2014).

Damage situation in the young generation by dating DV

A survey by support

groups showed that 44% of teenage females who have had steady boyfriends experienced a dating DV
such as monitoring, interference, or violence. The survey covers approximately 2,800 male and female
junior high school, high school, and university students of 10 prefectures of East Japan and Kyushu. Thesurvey is the first nationwide survey of teens. The cases of the dating DV include 10% of the grave casessuch as being requested for photographs of nakedness and sexual intercourse. （the Mainichi Shimbun
on March 13, 2017）Dating DV is not an unrelated matter for university students.

Have you ever had the following experiences?
Your boyfriend or girlfriend
・beats you, hits you, or threatens you by pretending hitting or beating・throws something to you？？？

・ignores you

・says something that hurts you such as ”stupid” ”You die!”.
・blames you unilaterally

・restricts your relations with others

・becomes angry and silent when you are friendly with others.
・gets angry if you prioritize the schedule with others
・checks your LINE, phone history, SNS interaction without your permission
・forces you to pay always on the date・forces you to have sex

・not pays your money back・refuses to use contraception

The victims might think
・I was also bad, so he/she blamed me.

Because of such feelings, the victims are likely tohesitate to break up and hard to convey their feelings.
・if I refuse the request, he/she may hate me. The victims lose confidence by receiving negative
words continuously, which further strengthens
dependence on the partner.
・I should endure.
This vicious circle is very common.
・he/she will change someday.
・he/she is not always violent, and sometimes kind and considerate.

The relationship between a perpetrator and a victim of dating DV is often compared to therelationship of "control – controlled."
Let’s think about what is important to have an equal relationship.

Respecting your partner
It is natural that you want to contact your partner at any time, or you want to have a closer
relationship with your partner.
However, you should not impose your opinion when your partner has a different idea.
It is important to acknowledge and respect the difference.
Then, propose your opinion appropriately about how you think differently.

Respecting yourself
Taking care of your mind and body is as important as respecting your partner.
No one can hinder your decisions about yourself.
You should say “No” when you are forced to respond to an unacceptable request, receive an
unpleasant behavior, or suffer from violence.
Such determined attitude is consistent with respecting yourself.
Talking with your family and friends, and consulting with the services below can protect you.

Consultation services for dating DV include
・Women's human rights hotline
・Japan Legal Support Center・Police・Government agencies of a city or a town
You can also contact Harassment Consultation Center of Nagoya University.
Please feel free to contact us.

Nagoya University Harassment Consultation Center2nd floor, Engineering Building 7-B
Furo-cho, Chikusa-ku, Nagoya 464-8601
Opening hours: Monday～Friday (excluding holidays) 9:00～7:00
Tel: 052-789-5806 (Higashiyama)
Fax: 052-789-5968 (Higashiyama)
E-mail: h-help@adm.nagoya-u.ac.jp (for Higashiyama, Tsurumai,and Daiko sections)
Tsurumai, and Daiko sections are also available.
For more information, please see the website: http://www.shhelp.provost.nagoya-u.ac.jp/