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第1章
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・David Graeber, Debt: The First 5,000 Years (New York: Melville House, 2011),
131.

・Esther Perel, “The Future of Love, Lust, and Listening,” SXSW, March 9,
2018, Austin, Texas, 55:12.
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・Jeff Kauflin, “How Match.Com Was Founded by Gary Kremen,” Business
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・Barry Schwartz, The Paradox of Choice: Why More Is Less (New York: Ecco/
HarperCollins, 2016).【バリー・シュワルツ著；瑞穂のりこ訳『なぜ選ぶたびに後悔するのか：オプション過剰時代の賢い選択術』武田ランダム
ハウスジャパン、2012 年】

・Esther Perel, The Tim Ferriss Show, Ep. 241: “The Relationship Episode: Sex,
Love, Polyamory, Marriage, and More,” interview by Tim Ferriss, June 1,

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・Sheryl Sandberg, Lean In: Women, Work, and the Will to Lead (New York: Alfred
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第3章
・Renae Franiuk, Dov Cohen, and Eva M. Pomerantz, “Implicit Theories ofRelationships: Implications for Relationship Satisfaction and Longevity,”
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Harper Paperbacks, 2017), 7.【エステル・ペレル著；高月園子訳『セック
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of Life, April 28, 2016, https://www.theschooloflife.com /thebookoflife/howromanticism-ruined-love/.
第4章
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robert-de-niro-baby-girl-born-via-surrogate/.

第5章

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・ Suzanne B. Shu and Ayelet Gneezy, “ Procrastination of Enjoyable
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・ David W. Nickerson and Todd Rogers, “ Do You Have a Voting Plan?:
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・Daniel T. Gilbert and Jane E. J. Ebert, “Decisions and Revisions: The Affective
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Decision-Making, ” Social Cognitive and Affective Neuroscience 6, no. 4(September 1, 2011): 460–67.
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第6章
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第7章
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・Esther Perel, interview by Logan Ury, New York City, March 27, 2019.
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4, 2018, https://www.gottman.com/love-lab/.

・David A. Schkade and Daniel Kahneman, “Does Living in California Make
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第8章
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第9章
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・ Christian Rudder, “ How Your Race Affects the Messages You Get, ”
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ンティストが明かす：ビッグデータの残酷な現実』ダイヤモンド社、
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・Esther Perel, interview by Logan Ury, New York City, March 27, 2019.
・Richard Wiseman, The Luck Factor (New York: Miramax, 2003), 50.【リチャード・ワイズマン著；矢羽野薫訳『運のいい人の法則』角川書店、2011年】

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第 12 章・Demetri Martin, These Are Jokes, Comedy Central Records, 2006.

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