FreedomfromHomosexualityandGenderLdentityDisorder

DR．MELVmWONG

howhisencounterwithJesusChristfinallyfi11edtheemptiness
inhisheart，andshareShishopeinChristforhisfuture．

In thisinterview Dr．Wong
highlights commonmisconceptions

From Learning about Biblical Parenting to Entering aregarding homosexuality，

ReLationshipwiththe

PerfectParent

provides definitions of various
SeXual conditions，and explores
the differenee between sexual
orientation

andsexualbehaviors．1■Homosexualor

One of the foundational
COnCeptS Sanae says shelearnedthroughBarbaratranssexual

important truth that God
creates each child as aorientationgenerallylSnOtSOmethingapersonchooses，†■hethiswaysparenting class was thebehavioris a sin that a person chooses，but the sexualexplains．Thereisnocredibleevidencethatpeopleare

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differing abilities andgifts．
（notablyattachmentissuFSinone

canleadtosexualconfuslOn．

sparentalrelationships）that

Sheadmitsthatasayoungmother，

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repent■…Iwasalwayscomparing

themtoothers，andasaresultIwoundedtheirspirits．Ifailed
tofind theirstrengths and praise themforwhatthey couldandareunawareofhowtoministertothesepeoplewithlong−termcompassionandunderstanding．Theyhave bothsplrltual
andemotionalneeds；manyareinvoIvedincomplexbehaviors
andhabitsthataredi瓜culttochange．OnewaytheChurchcan
helplStOStOp OStraCizinghomosexuals andlookforways tosupportthemintheirhealingprocessthroughmentorlngand

do．Yetthroughthe parentingclass andthe prlnCiplesIwas
learnlngfromtheBible，mythoughtpatternsbeganchanglng．

accountability．Dr．Wongsharesthathehaswitnessedmany
liveschangedthroughthepowerofJesusChrist．

ButwhenwelearnhowGoddefinessin．wegalnamuChdeeper
understandingofhowitisimpossibleforustoliveuptoGodPsstandardsinourownstrength．Ifweloveourchildren，WemuSt
disciplinethem；Godisourexampleofalovlngdisciplinarian，（Hebrews12：5b−8）

P■AswecarefortheseindividualswiththeloveofGod，thesecan

becomesituationsinwhichthe

hesays，worksofGodlcanbedisplayed，

understandsinlasdoingthingsforwhichwecouldbearrested．

ThereareformerhomosexualsandtranssexualSall

overtheworldwhoarelivingproofofGod

shealingpower，Whoarenowministeringtocountlessothers．The samethingcan
happenrighthereinJapan．

HomosexualityandMe N0．1■

ShealsolearnedabouttheimportanceofBiblicaldisciplineandtheneedtoaddresssinfulbehavior．InJapanWeuSuallyonly

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Anonymous
Havingbeenraisedinanenvironmentwheremyfatherwas

almostneveraround，Igrewupneverfeelingloved．Asaresult，
myheartwasdeeplyscarredbythefeelingthatIcouldnTtlove
myself．Ithenfound myselftryingtofillthatemptiness by

KatieColesTidyingTechniques

IfGodweretosuddenlygiveyouanextrahoureveryday．how
wouldyouusethatextratime？Jesustoldaparableaboutarich
man who gavehis servantslarge sums ofmoneytomanage
on his behalf．Two ofthe servants doubled the money placed
intheircare，Whilethethirdjustburieditintheground（Matt．
25：14−30）．Timeisoneofthemostvaluableassetswehave，and
soitisimportanttoconsiderhowbesttomanageit．
Youmaynotevenbeawareofwhatisactual1yeatingupyour
time．IsitTV，Videos，gameS，OrSurfingtheinternet？Onewayto
findoutistotake2daysandkeepadetailedrecordofhowyou
spentyourtime．Youmaybesurprisedatwhatyoulearn．

turnlngtOSameLSeXrelationships・■

Byplanningaheadandkeeplngthingsorganizedandscheduled．
lItriedburylngthatemptinessbyimmersingmyselfin−thephysicalconsolationofhomosexuality．Mysexualdesireswere
satisfied，butmyheartwasnot．Inthe searchfor evenmore
fulfillment，Idailysoughttosatisfyonlymyphysicaldesires．
JustlikeitsaysintheBible・IwassomehoworanOtherledastraytoanidolofIfeelmorerelaxedandpreparedtohandlethingsthatcomeup．
IneedtorememberthatGodmayhavebroughtsomepersonor
eventintomylifeforareasonthatIdonTtunderstandatfirst．
Hebrews13：2says，

Donotforgettoentertainstrangers，forbyso

doingsomepeoplehaveentertainedangelswithoutknowinglt．

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TheFive−MinuteFather

In thisissue，the man shares his personalexperiences andRaisingBoys
ByJonBenedict

thoughts as aformer homosexual．He relateshis search forfulfillmentthroughthephysicalgrati丘cationofhomosexuality，

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family丘〉rumNo．55

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traitswhichIwanttoinsti11inthemJnparticular，Ⅰdliketo

takeupthreeofthem：honesty，leadership，andpurity．

toyourchildrenhowthismaterialshouldbeviewedandpolnt
Outitsproblems．
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WhenIwaslOyearsold，myfamilylivedimFujisawaandone
dayIstolesomechocolatefromaFUJIYAcandystoreinour
neighborhood．0vertheyearSthissinhauntedme；WhileIwas

betweenfantasyandrealityandsointhesecasesit■sgoodto

remindthemthatlThisisonlyastory．

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says，Twhateveristrue，Whateverishonorable，

attendingBibleschoolinHawaii，IdecidedthatwhenIgotback
toJapanIwouldgobacktoFujisawaandconfessmysinto
thestoreowners．IhadtheopportunltytOdothisseveralyears

whateveris right，Whateveris pure，Whateverislovely，

laterandthesurprisedstore owners were quickto dismiSs

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obediencetoGodTscommand．Itellthisstorytomakethepoint
thatweneedtoteachourboyshonestyandintegrity．Whenwe
arefaithfulinthelittlethingsGodcanentrustuswithbigger

rightdecision．

things．

TodayH
byTerumotoKiyokawaTheEvangeListWithoutLimbs
NickVujicic

Mr．Kiyokawa，aformer NHK director andone ofJapanls
leadingmediapioneers，isconcernedthatthemediaishavinga
badin且uenceonthechildrenwhoarethefutureofJapan．
In thisinterview．
Nick Vujicic．a manborn without arms orlegs shares his story
oflife withoutlimbs，describinghisdiscovery
ofGod■splanforhislife

whateveris of good repute，ifthereis any excellence andanythingworthyofpraise，thinkofthesethingsl（Philippians4：8）．
rehavingdi航cultymakingthe

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lchildrenWhoCanltBecome

Humans：Pitfallsin

Child−rearing‖Iftheconditionsorenvironmentnecessaryforproperhumandevelopmentaren

tmadesecure，Whatkindofstrainswillit

haveonthebodiesandheartsofchildren？Japanispresently
rightinthemiddleofthistest：

Heexplainsthattheincredibleamountofmediathatchildren
todayconsumeisholdingbacktheirpsycologlCalandphysicaldevelopment．Hebacksuptheseclaimswithabundantdata．

andthe manyactivities
he has been able to do，

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likehisowntofightSatanTsliesandknowthatGodisnearand

TheGospelthroughManga
byHidenoriKumai

andheMr．Kumai，a manga artist，

didnItanswer，Ithoughthedidn−tloveme．IthoughtlrmJuStshareshisobsessionwithmanga

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mediaonchildren．

whenIwaseight．IalmostthrewmylifeawaybecauseIfeltso

alone．Ifsomeonewhohadthesamekindofbodyasmehadtold

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melDonTtworry．everythingwi11bealright，■Iprobablywould

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becauseIcametounderstandhisplan．Godiswithbothyouandmeandhe hasnotforgotten aboutyouoryourfamily．
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matterformanga．Hismangaisjustone step toward getting
as many people as possible to pick up the realBible．Even
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Q＆AwithDr．Horithingisthatarelationshipofmutualtrustisbuilt・■‖childrenwatchtheirparentsandinstinctivelysensewhether

Inthis Q＆A session，Dr．Horidiscusses the differences

ornotthey are walkingwiththe Lord，Soeven thoughthey

betweenacultandfantasy，distinguishingbetweenfantasyand

maybecaughtupinmangaoralwaysplayinggames，ifthe

reality．andtheimportanceofexposlngyOurChildrentogood
booksandmovies．
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andresolvesomeoftheproblems．Thisisaruleofafamilylife
thathasGodatitscenter．

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onyourchild．it

simportantforyoutodiscussandcommunicatefamilyfbrumNo．55

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