lishPa ewithExcer p！S

＼一一一ノTheEn

The wift feels herhusband doesn．t deserve the kindlnterview：GoalofParenting，PastorKiyoshiMizutani

Ofrespecthe

sgettingfromhiswift．

−Whatis the goal0f

To suggest that respect fbr men should beParenting？

unconditional gets some wives downright upset．
Repeatedly，Ihearcommentslikethesefromwives：
HHow canI show respect fbr him when he comes

叩：Itis to takeGod一given

lives

andsend them out there tostand ontheirown．Givethem responsibilities

acrossassounloving？

respect；hehas…

He

hurtmeH．．．

doesntdeserve

Hovehim，butIgetso

frustratedandangryIdonltwanttorespecthim

according to their age

Loveiswhatmatters．Ifheloved

measl．

needtoandletthemfailsometimesandreaptheconsequences．
Kids should gradually becomeless dependent on thebeloved，maybeIwould have strongerfbelings ofparents，and eventually takefullreins oftheir own

maJOrPrOblemiswithhimandheneedstochange．

lives．

The truthis he needs tolove and respect me far

Codependencybetweenparent＆childtendtodevelop
from those who misunderstand this truth．The Bible

respect．．．MYes，Ihave

thingstodealwith，butthe

betterthanhedoes．一lteachesnotonlytoobeyyourparents，butalsotoleave
yourparentsinordertostartyourfamily（Gen．2：24）
Someone said that a child flourishes on theOVerflowinglovebetweenhis／herparents．Mothersthat
are not satisned with their husbands tend to smother
theirchildwithlove一▼thatshouldhave

beensharedwiththeirhusbands．

−What are some of the symptoms ofCOdependencyinChristjanfamilies？

叩：Both parents and the children．a！eParentingforbegInnerS＃4，
byJonathanBenedicta・Since ourchild was born，my Wife has
been devoted only to the baby，andlfeelleft
Out and unsatisfied．l wish she would care formelike she did when newly married．HowShouldllet her know my true feelings？
−LONELY HUSBAND♂・Thereisastoryofamanwhocheatedonhis

COllege−educated，butthechildrensomehowcannotJOln

wiftandsotheybothwenttoacounsellortotryto

the workforce．Some that are raised by Christian
ParentShavehighpronleinlift，SuChasteachersand

fix theirmarrlage．Thiswas his story．He saidthat
hisloneliness started with the birth of their nrst

doctors，buttheydo notknow how to relate to theirChild．His wife did everything fbr the child andSpOuSeS On an equalbasis，thereR）re CannOtmaintainmarriedlift．Iseesuchsadcasesfartoooften．

basicallyneglectedhimthereafter．Themanftltleft
Outandlonelyfbrcompanionshipandsoonfbunda

Isaytomothers，llWhatalovelyboyyouhave！Butdo

youseetheendresultsofitall？Mostlikelysomeother
WOman

Will

snatchhim

away

fromyou！一一（Laugh）Whatwillremainisyoutwo，husband＆wift．
Donotforgettoworkonyourmarrlage……

younglady at his workplace wholistened to him
andgave himrespect．And thateventua11yledto aSeXualrelationship．Thisis afamiliarstory andwe
ask the question，Who was at fault？The answeris
not so easy and of course thereis no excuse fbr
adultery，buttheblame

doesn

t

necessarily

alwaysrestonthemanalone．Marriageproblemsarerarely

官．

愛離鶴沼た

Love＆Respect
byDr．EmmersonEggrichs
酵rWhenItalktowives，theyhaveno

problemwithjust

himor

her．However，tOdays

questioncomesfromthemanandsoIwillattempt
toglVeSOmeunderstandingandanswersfbrhimas
thehusband．．…．

unconditionallove．Afterall，theyare
wiredthatway．Butwhen T mention

婁trouble grasplng the concept ofェ，，Jshowlng

unCOnditional

husbandsリit＞・Jp脚もrespectfbr

samuchhardersell．

．

1nterestlngly，atfirstmendontgrasptheideaofunconditionalrespecteither．Wivesand husbands believe respect ought to be earned．
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Movie Review：Les Mis畠rables
byTimColeJean Valjean（HughJackman）has finally beenreleasedfrom20years ofprisonlabor，fbrstealingbread to fted a starvlng Child．But now heis amarked man，reJeCted
by allfbr either work
Or dwelling place，

comfbrtlikeJesus

saidinJohn14：27日I

willleave

mypeacewithyou．一

except fbr a CatholicPrleSt，Bishop Myriel，

3Yourpersonalhistorycanbeeditedlikeanalbumandbeleftasatestimonyofhis／herChristianlife．
ConsiderthesepolntSandwhynotmakeyourown

WhoglVeShimawarm

Orlglnalnote．

meal and lodging．
Vatjean cannot resist stealing some silver utensils
from the church．Heis quickly apprehended andBakingbreadrollsforEaster！

byHarukaOtsuka
You can teach a Biblelesson

draggedbacktotheprleSt，Where，tOhisamazement，
theprleStinfbrmstheauthoritiesthathehadgiven
the silver to Valjean，andin fact glVeS him even
YoumustaboutEasterbybakingbreadwith
kids．Theywillbe mesmerized touse this silver to become an honest man．H Thatisfind that the marshmallows they have putinto themore．TheprleStthenwhispersinhisear，

What Valjean does，taking on a newidentlty andStartlngaSuCCeSSfulbusinesstoemploytheneedy…

For allthe profbund symbolism and theinsplrlng
message，We CannOt reCOmmend this movie fbr
familyviewlng．Thesqualoranddegradationof19th
Century French streetlifeis portrayed graphica11y，
includinglmmOdesty，SeXualacts，andcrudeness，tO
Which children and youth should not be exposed．

bread

have

disappeared…Wecanuse

theobjectlessontotellthestoryofhowJesus−bodyvanished
丘omthe Gardentomb．
Doyouknowwhathappenedon

thefirstEasterSunday？JesuscametotheearthastheSonofGod，the spotless One，likethis white marshmallow，but
wascrucifiedanddiedfbroursins…‥一一（Cf．

You

BakeIt，ClubhouseJr．magazine，PublishedbyFocusontheFamily，Apri12012，P．21）

Evenadultsmaypreftrtoreadthebook，bywhichtheycan experiencethefullanduneditedextentof
VictorHugo

Book Review：sgenius．

BoundariesinMarriage
byJohnTownsend＆HenryCloud
Ask Pastor Hori

Thisisa・lnthemovje

Sickfather■s

TheEndingNotel

preparation

for，agraVely

hisdeaththethirdofthe

Boundaries

Seriesbythesameauthors．Themainthrustis that regardless ofwhether

wasfilmed by his daughter．Books beanng similar
titlesareamongthebestsellerstoday．Afterall，

you are the husband or the wife，

isit necessary to prepare for your own death
likethis？

be one with another．The boundary

SPOuSeS have to be mature adults to
COnCept Should be used not to

A・Whetherornotyouusetheendingnote，theChange others but yourself．

factisthateverybodywilleventuallydie，andhopes

MGenerally，thereis no right or wrongin mostthathe／she would notlike to be acause fbrworry

familyfbrthelovedones．Soitis slgnificanttowrite andleave a note fbr the time when the writeris nolongeronearth．．．…

However，ifthenotewastoodetailedandlengthy，itCOuldbecontrollingeveryonewhoisconcernedand
mayleavethem ftelguiltywhenthe wishes ofthe

conflicts．M

First

off，letthere

bemutualagreementthatitisalrighttopolntOutWhatbothers
youabouttheotherspouse．．‥

Ifyourmatereveals

What bothers him／her，do NOT be defbnsive，but
OPen−mindedandjustlisten．

Preventionisimportantas wellas treatmentasin
illnesses．Problemsin marrlage Can be called

deadwerenotfullyrealized．…

1ifestyledisease．．lTheessenceoftheendingnotearethreefbld：
10ne needs to repent the past sins and bereconciled with those who were not amiable withhim／her．

Itis not easy to notice your own peculiar habits

20ne needs toleave thegi氏ofpeace，love andthatmaybeaproblemtoyourspouse，SOreViewlng
the prlnCiples of the boundariesis a good
OPPOrtunlty tOlook back andimprove on yourmarriage．（TsuneoMaqiima）
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