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Education and Exploration (I promise to) :1- Take the time to educate myself about different aspects of sexuality, including diverse
sexual orientations, gender identities, and relationship dynamics.
2- Explore resources such as books, podcasts, and online forums that provide
information and perspectives on sexuality.
3- Engage in self-reflection and introspection to better understand my own desires,
preferences, and boundaries.

Practice mindfulness techniques and self-Compassion (I promise to) :1-Practice mindfulness techniques to stay present and non-judgemental about yourthoughts and feelings regarding sexuality.
2-Cultivate self-compassion by treating yourself with kindness and understanding,especially when facing internalized shame or societal pressures.
3-Challenge negative self-talk and replace it with affirming and empowering
statements that reinforce your worth and validity.

Connect with Supportive communities ( I promise to) :1-Seek out communities and social spaces where you feel accepted and supported inyour sexuality.
2-Surround yourself with friends, family members, or online groups who affirm andvalidate your identity and experiences.
3-Participate in LGBTQ+ events, pride celebrations, or support groups where you canconnect with others who share similar experiences and perspectives.

Set boundaries and prioritize self-care ( I promise to) :1-Establish boundaries that honor your needs and comfort levels in sexual and romantic
Interactions.
2-Practice assertive communication to express your boundaries and advocate for yourown well-being in relationships
3-Remember that self-acceptance is an ongoing journey, and it’s okay to seek supportand guidance along the way. Trust yourself and your unique path toward embracing
your sexuality with love and acceptance.

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Understanding each other’s perspectives
1.1- Exploring Sexual Orientation
Discuss each partner’s sexual orientation and how it influences their experiencesand desires.

Share personal Insights into what sexual attraction means to each of you.

Acknowledge and respect the differences in sexual orientation within therelationship.

1.2- Clarifying Expectations
Talk openly about your expectations regarding intimacy and physical affection.

Consider how your expectations may differ due to your respective sexualorientations.

Explore ways to reconcile differing expectations and find common ground.

1.3- Embracing Differences
Emphasize acceptance and appreciation for each other’s sexual orientations.

Validate each other’s experiences and feelings without judgment.

Discuss how your differences can complement and enrich your relationship.

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Communication and Boundaries
2.1- Open Dialogue
Foster a safe and supportive environment for open communication

Practice active listening and empathy when discussing sensitive topics.

Encourage honesty and transparency about feelings, needs, and concerns. Staycurious.

2.2- Establishing Boundaries
Identify and communicate personal boundaries regarding intimacy and physicaltouch

Respect each other’s boundaries and refrain from pressuring or guilting each other.

Discuss ways to navigate situations where boundaries may intersect or conflict.

2.3- Negotiating CompromiseWork together to find compromises that honor both partners' needs and comfort
levelsBrainstorm creative solutions for maintaining intimacy and connection without
sexual activity.

Be flexible and willing to adapt as you navigate your evolving relationship dynamic.

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Exploring Alternative Intimacy
3.1- Non-Sexual Intimacy
Explore different forms of non-sexual intimacy that foster emotional
connectionand closeness.

Experiment with activities such as cuddling, holding hands, and spending quality
time together.

Discuss what types of non-sexual affection are most meaningful to each partner.

3.2- Emotional Intimacy
Prioritize emotional connection and intimacy in your relationship.

Share your thoughts, feelings, and vulnerabilities with each other.

Cultivate trust and intimacy through deep conversations and mutual support.

3.3- Creative Expression
Get creative in finding ways to express love and affection outside of nontraditional
sexual activity.

Write love letters, create art together, or engage in shared hobbies that strengthen
your bond.

Embrace your unique connection and celebrate the depth of your relationshipbeyond physical Intimacy.

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5 THINGS THAT MADE YOU FALL IN LOVE WITH
YOUR PARTNER IN THE BEGINNING
REALLY THINK ABOUT THIS

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5 THINGS THAT YOU CURRENTLY DESIRE OR ARE
ATTRACTED TO ABOUT YOUR PARTNER
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DIFFERENT TYPES OF DESIRE/ATTRACTION

Platonic

SensualRomantic

Tthe desire to form a friendship withThis is the desire to interact with others inA feeling of love or strong attraction
towards another person, and the actions

someone, without being romantically ora non-sexual way, such as throughsexually attracted to them. It's also known

physical contact. It can include touching

taken to express those feelings. It can

as a platonic crush or "squish". Platonic

someone on the arm, kissing, cuddling,include the desire for romantic contact,

attraction can apply to same-sex or

holding hands, or sensual massages.

such as handholding, showing love, or

opposite-sex friendships.

Sensual attraction can also be applied inexpressing affection. Romantic attraction

non-tactile ways, such as attraction tocan also occur without the desire forvoices, or odor.

physical or sexual contact

SexualAestheticIntellectualThis is a feeling of sexual desire or theThe is a feeling of appreciation forThis is the desire to engage withability to arouse sexual interest in

someone's appearance, without

someone in an intellectual way, such as

another person. It can involve wanting tonecessarily wanting a physical,

having a conversation with them or

have sexual contact with someone, orromantic, or sexual connection with"picking their brain". It has more to do

showing sexual interest in them. Sexual

them. It's different from justwith what or how a person thinks instead

attraction can occur without romantic

acknowledging someone is pleasantof the person themselves.

attraction, and vice versa.

to look at. Aesthetic attraction caninclude: physical features,hairstyle, clothes, etc.

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10 OF YOUR FAVORITE NON-SEXUAL WAYS TOHAVE INTIMACY/CLOSENESSREALLY THINK ABOUT THIS

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What are some boundaries that help you feelsafe In your body and In your space?

Do you have any known triggers?

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Example: I commit to doing my best to listen to your concerns with curiosity

Alloastdcd ace poanA few notes....
Starting over in a relationship between an Allosexual (experiences sexualattraction) and an Asexual (experiences little to no sexual attraction) partner
can present unique challenges. This workbook was created to help bothpartners navigate their differences, communicate effectively, and rebuild afulfilling connection.
By understanding each other's needs, setting boundaries, and exploringalternative forms of intimacy, you can strengthen your relationship and createa more supportive and understanding partnership.
Starting over in this type of relationship requires empathy, communication,
and a willingness to explore alternative forms of intimacy.
Remember that every relationship is unique, and it’s okay to work throughchallenges at your own pace. With patience, understanding, and mutual
support, you can create a relationship that honors both partners.
We love this community and we hope this workbook and podcast episode help.
(Episode 6 on the Allo and Ace Podcast)-Skyler & Jessi**We are not professionals. We are not Therapists. We wanted to create thisguide to help others going through what we’ve worked through and what wecontinue to work through and offer what we’ve had help us.