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10 WAYS TO - Series Overview

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The 10 WAYS TO series provides advice, skills, andstrategies to the readers for successfully negotiating
different aspects of life. Each book suggests 10 clear,
useful ways to the reader. The reader is encouraged
to critically reflect on the reading material and theirown lives in order to make any changes that would
benefit them.The series includes the following.
10 ways to achieve work-life balance
10 ways to be more productive
10 ways to manage money
10 ways to be successful in love
10 ways to be assertive
10 ways to be smart online
10 ways to be environmentally friendly
10 ways to be healthy
10 ways to work in a team
10 ways to organize a trip

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be Successful in Love.... 4

1. Let go of failed relationships.... 6SO AN MP
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3. Work on your inside...10

4. Be more confident in who you are... 12

5. Don’t expect to always be successful... 14

6. Use friendly and open body language... 16

7. Focus on getting to know the other person... 188. Give your relationship time and space to grow... 209. Make sure the relationship is good for you... 22

10. Keep things exciting... 24

Summary... 26

Reflection Questions... 28

Vocabulary in Context... 29Vocabulary List... 36D

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10 WAYS TOIntroduction

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You hear popular love songs. You seeromantic movies about people who
quickly fall in love. You see people inlove in their everyday life. You know
people who are dating. You know
people who have just gotten married.
Maybe you know older people whohave been married for a long time.
They are still in love. They talk about
how having someone to love and share
their life with makes them happy.

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However, people who are single may
think it is difficult to find someoneto love. We may think we are not
beautiful enough for someone tolove us. We may think we are notinteresting enough or rich enough.

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We may read magazines and see
pictures of rich, beautiful, and famouspeople. However, these people often
have problems with their love lives!
Being successful in love has nothing
to do with being rich or beautiful.
It has a lot to do with being the best
person you can. You need to be open
to meeting new people. You need toenjoy getting to know new people.
You need to have confidence inyourself to make the first move.

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about your love life. Do you want tofind someone to share your life with?
Are you ready to find someone tolove? Let’s look at ten ways that you
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1. Let go of failed relationships

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Think about your closet filled withclothes. Some of your clothes are too
old to wear anymore. Some of yourclothes are too big or too small. Someof your clothes are no longer in style.
If you have a closet like this, youcannot buy any new clothes. You do
not have any space to put them. So,
why do you keep these clothes you
don’t need anymore?

DYour love life is the same as thiscloset. We cannot let new love into
our lives if we still think about our old
relationships. We cannot trust newpeople if we still remember times inour life when we were rejected.

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Stop using the internet to see what
your past loves are doing. Throw
away things that remind you of past
relationships. Or, put them away in abox. Write a letter to your past loves.
Say good-bye to them. Then, throw
the letter in the garbage can. From
now on, you can focus on your future.
You can find a new love.

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2. Work on your outside

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We do not have to be beautiful tofind love. We do not need the perfectbody or expensive clothes. However,
if we want to find love we must workon our outside. We show the world
the best we can look.

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Get a good haircut that is easy tostyle. Take care of your skin. Be clean.
Take good care of your fingernails
and teeth. Wear clothes that makeyou look good and feel good. A goodhairstylist or salesperson in a clothing
store can help you decide what looks
best on you.
After taking care of yourself, take agood look at your room. Is it clean?

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Is it full of things that show what youare like? Do you really like the thingsin your room? Clean up your room.
Throw, sell, or give away things you
no longer enjoy. Buy a few things you
like to decorate your room. Make itfeel new.

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After you have done this, you will feelbetter about yourself and your life.
You will be happy about your outside.
Now, you will be ready to move onto
the next step and work on your inside.

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Reflection Questions

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1. Can you remember the 10 ways tobe successful in love? Test yourself.
If you forget any, go back, and readthem again.

2. Do you do any of the 10 ways to be
successful in love in your life? If so,which ones do you do?
3. How could you use any of the 10 ways
to be successful in love in your life?

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4. What do you think you will dodifferently in your life after reading
this book?

5. Can you think of other ways to be
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Vocabulary in Context

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1. Dating• You know people who are dating. They spend
time together to see if they like each other.
• The boy liked the girl, so he asked her to go
on a date. They went to a movie together.
• The date didn’t go well. She didn’t have a funtime eating dinner with him.

2. Confidence• You need to have confidence in yourself tomake the first move. Don’t be afraid to talkto someone you like.
• She feels good about herself. She is a confident
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• It is easy to meet new people if you are
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3. Let go• It’s important to let go of bad memories.
Don’t think about them anymore.
• I don’t want my old boyfriend to call meanymore. I want him to let go.
• Don't care about your mistakes. Just let themgo.

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Vocabulary List
(Verb and Noun) to go out to an event, such as amovie or a meal with somebody for a romantic
purpose; an event, such as a movie or a meal, wheretwo people enjoy time together for a romantic
purpose.

Confidence:(Noun) a feeling where you feel good about
yourself. Confident (Adjective) is the feeling of
having confidence.

Let go:(Phrasal verb) to not think about or care about
events in your life that happened a long time ago.

Failed:(Adjective) to describe something that does notsucceed. Fail (verb) is the action of not succeeding.

Relationships:(Noun) when you are connected to anotherperson; to be connected to someone because they
are a family member, friend, someone you workwith, or someone you love.

Style:(Noun and Verb) to be in fashion (e.g. something or
somebody that is in style). Style (Verb) theaction of making something, such as your hair oroutfit, look good and in fashion. Stylish (Adjective)
describes somebody in style.

Rejected:(Adjective) to not be accepted or wanted.

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Focus:(Verb) to look at and work on only one thing at atime.

Personality:(Noun) your character; how you act around others
and how you relate to them.

Qualities:(Noun) good things or bad things about yourpersonality or talents.

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