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Shizuoka Prefectural Gender Equality Centre Azalea Womenʼs Counselling

Shizuoka Prefectural Gender Equality Centre Azalea Menʼs Counselling

Telephone Consultation

In person Consultation

Telephone Consultation(By Appointment Only)●1st & 3rd Sat of the month／13：00〜17：00(excl. closed days)

Kamo Area

Menʼs Hotline (Shizuoka City)

Eastern Area

Telephone Consultation

Central Area

●2nd & 4th Tue of the month ／19：00〜21：00(excl. public holidays)

Western Area

Ai Hall Consultation (Hamamatsu City)●Mon, Tue, Thurs, Fri ／9：00〜16：00
Wed ／14：00〜20：00
2nd Sat of the month ／13：00〜18：00 (excl. public andTelephone Consultation●Thurs, 2nd & 4th Sun ／18：00〜20：00 (excl. public andyear-end holidays)

year-end holidays)

There are also consultation centres for women set up by other cities.
Domestic Violence Counselling
Shizuoka Womenʼs Consultation Centre

Telephone Consultation ●9：00〜20：00 (excl. public andyear-end holidays)(Spousal Violence Consultation Centre)

Youth Counselling
Shizuoka Youth Support Hotline

24/7

Youth AidToll-free

Sexual Abuse & Assault Counselling

LINE Consultation available (limited time only)

Police: Sexual Assault Consultation
Available Nationwide

SORA:Sexual Assault Care Centre

24/7
Yorisoi Hotline 11 languages

24/7

24/7

Things to Note

Toll-free

When Starting A Relationship

Unplanned Pregnancy Counselling●Wed & Sat ／13：00〜17：00
E-mail ／ info@s-ninshin-sos.jp

Shizuoka Pregnancy SOS
Gender Equality Bureau

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Dating Violence

Shizuoka Prefectural Gender Equality Centre
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Issued by ／ Community and Environmental Aﬀairs Department Gender Equality Division

Gender Equality Division PortalAzalea
Planning/Editing ／ Safety First Shizuoka (NPO)
Sept 2020 Issue

Dating violence issurprisingly commonWhat is Dating Violence?
Dating violence refers to abusive behaviour from your partner.
Your partner may have been kind in the beginning, but gradually he or she changed,
leading to violence and abuse.

Letʼs Check!
You might be in love with your other half,
but does any of the following sound familiar?
If even one of them checks out,
you might want to reconsider your relationship.

Dating violence can happen to both men and women.
Dating violence can also happen among same-sex couples.
The violence gradually escalates, and can lead to potentially life-threatening situations.
Dating violence tends to worsen over time without either party noticing.

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How common is Dating Violence?
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Most victims of dating violence are in their 10s ‒ 20s.
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Does Love Justify Controlling Behaviour?

Consequences of Dating Violence

When you love someone, you want them to think about you all the time,and you want to be with them all the time. But does that justify possessiveness?
・You stop thinking or deciding
for yourself. You think itʼll be better
・We always go home together. I will also skip my club activities formy partner. However, recently my partner asked me to quit my club.
・Although we are in a relationshiop, Iʼm always afraid of my partner
getting angry when I talk to someone of the opposite gender.

・Being abused and hurt by the personyouʼre dating can be unbelievable,painful, and shocking.

if you break up with them,but you have no conﬁdence
in your decision.

・You might feel that you canʼt
・I have to reply to my partnerʼs text messages immediately
and report what Iʼm doing every 30 mins.
・Even when Iʼm bathing・My partner gets jealous easily
or in the toilet, I keep my phone
and always wants to be by my side.
They even come to my classon me.
during the 10 min break.
・I was happy at ﬁrst but my partnergets angry if I donʼt pay attention to them,so recently itʼs been tough…

・My partner is very possessive. They text in the middleof the night asking me to go over immediately anddonʼt stop until I accede. If I donʼt go,
they lose their temper at me the next day…

・My partner secretly installed a monitoring app on my phone
and tracks my location through GPS 24/7. Iʼm scared…

trust anyone anymore.
You might lose your appetiteand even become insomniac.

・Youʼre always walking
on eggshells around them.
You constantly sneak
a glance at their face,afraid of accidentallyangering them.
Gradually you lose sight・You think about yourpartner all the time,and you canʼt focus
on studying.

of your thoughts andfeelings, leaving behind
only a sense of helplessness.

・You feel empty and lethargic,
・You feel unimportant andwith a sinking feelingin the pit of your stomach.

blame yourself for everythingthatʼs wrong.
To distract yourself fromthe emotional pain,
you might even cut your wrists.

Wanting to control your partner
is not just possessiveness, itʼs abuse.

Constant abuse will wear
you down emotionallyand physically.

Does dating = sex?

Sexual Consent Must be Explicit
If you feel conﬂicted, tell your partner “I donʼt want to do it now ” or “Iʼm not sure.”
If you are uncomfortable, donʼt force yourself.

Date rape can occur even among couples!
Silence means consent.
If you love me, you should agree to sex.
If we kiss, I can have sex with you too.

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Refusing intimacy doesnʼt mean that you donʼt love your partner.

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So itʼs important to respect both of your feelings.
Nothing good will come out of forcing yourself to endureand do something you donʼt want to.

Dating means that having sex is ok.

Iʼm conﬂicted!

Going to your partnerʼs room signiﬁes that youʼre ok with sex.
Even if unwilling at ﬁrst, you will succumb to incessant coercion.

If you love me
you should agree

If you agree once, it means you agree to all future advances.

During a house date,

You donʼt need to use protection if you plan to marry your partner.

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your partner suddenly asks
you to be intimate with them.
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the moodMy partner might dislike me if I refuse…

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I want to be intimate
with someone
I really love

I want to reciprocate
my partnerʼs feelingsbut Iʼm scaredIʼm interested
but itʼs too fast…

Sexual consent refers to verballyagreeing to be intimate
with your partner.

Revenge Porn

Sexual Abuse and You

Is it ok to take intimate photos of each other?

Sexual abuse refers to any sexual activity without consent.
If your partner refuses to use protection…
If I post our date photos

Should you endure and accede to their demands?

Sending our intimate

on social media,

Unprotected sex can lead to unplanned pregnancy and sexually transmitted diseases.

photos should be ﬁne

I will get loads of likes!

Not only will unplanned pregnancy aﬀect you mentally and physically, it will also greatly change the course of your future.

if they are kept private.

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You might feel extremely blessed in the relationship,
wanting to last forever with your partner.
You might even have intimate photos that only
the two of you are privy to.
However, the photos may not remain secret forever.

Examples of reported
revenge porn cases:

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You can prevent an unplanned pregnancy if you takean emergency contraception (Morning-After Pill) up to 72 hours
after unprotected sex.
Approach the Sexual Assault Victims Centre if you need help!

Avoid sending scantily-clador naked photos of yourself.

Sexual abuse refers to any sexual acts performed without your consent.
You might think that sexual abuse refers to a stranger attacking you in the middle of the night.
However, perpetrators of sexual abuse are mostly people you know, including your partner, friends,
acquaintances, family members, relatives, teachers, colleagues, neighbours etc.
Abuse can happen to anyone regardless of age or gender.

If you mention breakup,
your partner threatens to upload
your naked photos and videos online.

After a break up, intimate photos
start circulating on the internet.

Itʼs hard to remove something
completely once
it gets on the internet.

Sexual abuse is not your fault.
The abuser is the one in the wrong.

Beware of Traps

We Are Here For You

Beware of the following traps!
I applied for a job promising high pay,
but was unexpectedly made to provide sexual services.

I signed a contract with an agency, thinking that they
were scouting me to be a model.
However, it was a contract to appear in pornography.
They threatened to make me pay fees for breaking
a contract if I refused, so I had no other choice but todo as they said.

I went to karaoke with someone I met online.
Halfway through, I began to feel groggy,
and I canʼt remember much of what happened.
When I came to my senses, I found myself in a hotel,
a victim of date rape.
My food and drinks had been spiked unknowingly.

Compensated Dating

Forced Pornography

If you are a victim of dating violenceItʼs not your fault.
The abuser is the one in the wrong.
You donʼt need to fret, worry,and solve everything on your own.
If your friend approaches you for help regarding dating violence
Believe in and listen to your friend.
Reassure them that they are not in the wrong, and that you will always be there for them.
Tell your friend where they can seek help.

Date Rape Drugs

If you think you might be perpetuating dating violence
Violence is wrong no matter what.
Violence is something learnt from the media or from adults around you.
However, you can change if you put your mind to it.

Donʼt give up! All is not lost.
Itʼs not your fault. You are the victim.

Contact usfor help

If you feel lost or you canʼt go to the police and hospital, please approach

the Sexual Assault Victim Centre for help.
If you are in imminent danger,

call 110 immediately.

We will protect your privacy.
We are here for you!

Approach an adultor a consultation centre
as soon as possible.