Help me! 

how to help save my relationship with my boyfriend for 8 years?

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my name is elga i've been married with 3 kids but been separated. i've been seeing some one else for 8 years i love him with all my heart but there's issues concerning how i deal with my exhusband we have a few problems that's started a few years ago that still putting doughts and insecurity between us and i did something that aggravated the situation it became worst i really need some help i need to speak to someone and i also need some counseling can any one give me a referral am desperate thanks.