# Men Going Their Own Way

Men Going Their Own Way (MGTOW /ˈmɪɡtaʊ/) is an anti-feminist, misogynistic, mostly online community that espouses male separatism from what they see as a gynocentric society that has been corrupted by feminism. MGTOW specifically advocate for men to avoid marriage and committed romantic relationships with women. The community is a part of the manosphere, a collection of anti-feminist websites and online communities that also includes the men's rights movement, incels, and pickup artists.
Like other manosphere communities, MGTOW overlaps with the neoreactionary alt-right movement and has been implicated in online harassment of women and domestic terrorism in the United States. Southern Poverty Law Center categorizes MGTOW as a part of the male supremacist ideology.

## History

MGTOW ideology emerged in the early 2000s, although it is not clear where it originated. A blog called No Ma'am was one of the first sites dedicated to the ideology, publishing a "MGTOW Manifesto" in 2001. Early members of MGTOW were largely politically libertarian and focused on individual self-reliance in accordance with traditional notions of masculinity. Over time, the movement's focus shifted toward male separatism.
Far-right commentator and polemicist Milo Yiannopoulos is credited with helping to popularize MGTOW with a 2014 Breitbart article titled "The Sexodus", in which he described men who were eschewing women, love, sex, and marriage because of feminism. MGTOW discussion forums include the subreddit r/MGTOW, created in 2011, smaller auxiliary subreddits, and MGTOW Forum, an independent website that emerged in 2014. Following Reddit's 2017 ban of a large incel subreddit, r/MGTOW was briefly the largest and most active manosphere forum on the site.
Researchers have implicated MGTOW communities in online harassment of women. r/MGTOW and MGTOW Forum are among the communities which "have been growing in size and in their involvement in online harassment and real-world violence", according to computer scientist Manoel Horta Ribeiro and colleagues. Communications researcher Scott Wright and colleagues state that "MGTOW propagate extensive and wide-ranging passive or undirected harassment and misogyny on Twitter." Shortly after publication of a 2020 preprint of a paper examining manosphere groups online, Reddit quarantined r/MGTOW, a restriction the platform applies to subreddits determined to be "extremely offensive or upsetting to the average redditor" which prevents them from earning advertising revenue and requires visitors to agree to seeing potentially offensive content before entering. r/MGTOW was banned in August 2021 for breaking the site's policies against promotion of violence and hate.

## Membership

Members of MGTOW communities are primarily heterosexual, white, middle-class men from North America and Europe. Unlike the men's rights movement, MGTOW do not permit women to join. MGTOW often disavow hierarchies and claim to be leaderless; some deny that MGTOW is a group or movement at all, instead emphasizing each member's individuality and independence within a collective.
Researcher Callum Jones and colleagues write in New Media & Society that "while the precise number of MGTOW followers is unclear, it appears to be a popular and growing group within the Manosphere". As of 2018, MGTOW was smaller than both the men's rights movement and the pickup artist communities online, with MGTOW Forum having over 25,000 subscribers and the subreddit r/MGTOW having over 35,000. The subreddit had grown to 104,000 members by 2019, with another MGTOW forum listing over 32,000 members.

## Ideology

MGTOW advocate for men to withdraw from what they see as a gynocentric society that has been corrupted by feminism. MGTOW believe that men are better off avoiding any relationships with women, including marriage. Instead, the group believes that men should either abstain from sex with women entirely, or alternatively only have casual sex while avoiding romantic or financial commitments. MGTOW groups are misogynist and anti-feminist, believing that feminism has made women dangerous to men, and that male self-preservation requires dissociating completely from women.
A 2020 study by Wright et al. found that despite MGTOW claiming to reject women entirely, some 59% of MGTOW forum posts mentioned women, with the majority (61%) of those mentions being misogynistic in some way. Jones et al. suggest that this reflects a need for MGTOW to perform their rejection of women in order to belong.
The MGTOW community uses jargon shared by the broader manosphere, including the red pill and blue pill metaphor borrowed from the film The Matrix. Those in the manosphere who have been awakened from feminist "delusion" to the supposed reality that society is fundamentally misandrist and dominated by feminist values are said to be "redpilled" or have "taken the red pill"; those who do not accept that ideology are referred to as "bluepilled". Other jargon includes pejorative terms for other men such as "beta", "cuck", "soy boy", and "white knight".
Like other manosphere groups, MGTOW subscribe to the "red pill" belief that there is systemic bias against men in society, including double standards in gender roles and bias against men in family courts. MGTOW endorse the belief shared by other manosphere groups that women follow a similar pattern in dating and marriage: young and attractive women are promiscuous and engage in "hypergamy", having sex with numerous men and abandoning a man if a "higher-value" man shows interest. They believe women gravitate towards "alpha men" who are attractive but mistreat them, reinforcing the ideology of feminism. According to MGTOW, as women begin to age, they settle down with "beta males" who provide for them financially, but to whom they deny sex, sometimes engaging in extramarital sex with more attractive men; these relationships ultimately lead to divorce, in which the women will be favored by the courts due to what MGTOW call female privilege.
MGTOW men gauge their participation in the movement on a series of four levels. At the first level, men believe they are used and manipulated by women (called "situational awareness" or the "red pill") but still believe in the value of marriage; they are sometimes described as "purple pilled". At the second level, men reject long-term relationships, cohabitation, and marriage, but will still participate in shorter term relationships and sexual encounters. At the third level, men reject short-term relationships and limit their interactions with women. At the fourth level, men minimize their engagement with the state and society, including employment; this is called "going ghost".
The Southern Poverty Law Center categorizes MGTOW as a part of the male supremacist ideology, a category they began tracking on their hate group tracking project, Hate Map, in 2018. Fellows at the Institute for Research on Male Supremacism publishing with the International Centre for Counter-Terrorism have said that members of MGTOW "openly disdain women, and normalize it through online harassment." MGTOW and other manosphere communities overlap with the reactionary, white nationalist alt-right and other white supremacist, authoritarian, and populist movements worldwide. Both MGTOW and the alt-right believe that feminism has destroyed Western society.

## Relation to other manosphere groups

The MGTOW community is a part of the manosphere, a varied collection of websites, blogs, and online forums promoting masculinity, hostility towards women, and opposition to feminism. The manosphere also includes men's rights activists, incels, pick-up artists, and the fathers' rights movement.
Although some consider MGTOW to be a part of the men's rights movement, others have cited MGTOW's separatist ideology as distinguishing them from the MRM, which engages in political activism to try to drive societal change. MGTOW members describe men's rights activists and incels as "losers" and "betas". Early MGTOW groups were primarily libertarian and opposed to "big government"; this led to a rift with men's rights activists who wished to lobby for governmental change, particularly with regards to custody and divorce law. Wright et al. state that the founders of MGTOW were originally men's rights activists who became disillusioned with political activism, believing the "gynocentric world order" could not be changed.
MGTOW is also at odds with the pick-up artist (PUA) community. Both PUA and MGTOW rhetoric is frequently misogynistic and objectifying towards women; however, whereas PUAs seek to manipulate women into providing sex, MGTOW claim to reject heterosexual relationships entirely. The two groups share a reciprocal disdain for one another; PUAs have mocked MGTOW as "Virgins Going Their Own Way", and MGTOW deride PUAs as being dependent on women's approval, contributing to what they see as overvaluing of women in society.