# It Shoulda Been You

It Shoulda Been You is a musical with music by Barbara Anselmi and book and lyrics by Brian Hargrove. The musical ran on Broadway from March 17, 2015 (previews) to August 9, 2015. The musical involves a wedding which brings together the families who are quite, and comically, different.

## Production history

It Shoulda Been You premiered at the George Street Playhouse in New Brunswick, New Jersey, on October 4, 2011 and closed on November 4. The musical was directed by David Hyde Pierce and starred Tyne Daly (Judy Steinberg), Lisa Howard (Jenny Steinberg) and Harriet Harris (Georgette Howard). The book and lyrics are by Brian Hargrove with music by Barbara Anselmi, and additional lyrics by Jill Abramovitz, Carla Rose Fisher, Michael Cooper, Ernie Lijoi and Will Randall.
The musical ran at the Village Theatre in Issaquah, Washington, and Everett, Washington, from March 14, 2012, to May 20. The musical previously had a reading at the Village Theatre's Festival of New Musicals in 2010. The talkinbroadway reviewer wrote that "Lyricist Hargrove and composer Anselmi have created a pleasant score, if not one that offers many tunes you'll be humming as you exit." He called the musical "highly entertaining."
The musical premiered on Broadway at the Brooks Atkinson Theatre with previews from March 17, 2015 with an official opening on April 14, 2015. The production was directed by David Hyde Pierce with choreography by Josh Rhodes, sets by Anna Louizos, costumes by William Ivey Long, and lighting by Ken Billington. The cast starred Tyne Daly, Sierra Boggess, Harriet Harris, Lisa Howard, David Burtka, Montego Glover, Chip Zien, Josh Grisetti, Adam Heller, Michael X. Martin, Anne L. Nathan, Nick Spangler and Edward Hibbert.
On June 26, 2015, Tyne Daly made a curtain speech honoring the legalization of same-sex marriage in the United States.
The show closed August 9, 2015 after 31 previews and 135 regular performances.
The original Broadway production was nominated for six Outer Critics Circle Awards, three Drama League Awards and three Drama Desk Awards.
The musical premiered in New South Wales at the Independent Theatre in March 2017.
The musical was presented by the 4th Wall Theatre in Bloomfield, New Jersey, in June 2017.
The cast reunited for a one-night-only performance at the 92nd Street Y on March 5, 2018.

## Synopsis

At the St. George Hotel, it is the morning of Rebecca Steinberg and Brian Howard's wedding. Jenny, Rebecca's sister, talks of her nerves before the wedding and how glad she is that she isn't the one having to have all the problems of a bride ("I Never Wanted This"). Judy and Murray are Jenny and Rebecca's parents. Judy, an overbearing, talkative Jewish mother, barks commands at Jenny to make sure things are organized. While trying to keep things together, Jenny accidentally calls Rebecca's ex, Marty, and lets it slip the wedding is taking place that day. Marty is convinced that it is a sign that he needs to stop the wedding and talk Rebecca out of it. He rushes to the hotel.
The bride and groom share their mutual excitement and fears ("This Day (Opening)"). Things go well with a few comedic missteps, including the visible impact of the wedding on the groom's mother, Georgette, who doesn't want to lose her son to another woman. When things seem to settle, the best man, Greg, comes in and announces that Rebecca wants to stop the wedding. Jenny rushes to her side, and Rebecca says that there's a smudge on her wedding dress—it must be a sign.
Annie, the "co-maid of honor", tries to talk to her along with Brian and Greg, until Brian insinuates that Annie has been too controlling over the wedding. That triggers something in Annie, and she runs off with Greg and Brian immediately rushing after her to apologize. Jenny once again smoothes over the situation by getting the stain out of the dress. Rebecca and Jenny sing about how much they admire each other, both seeing qualities in the other that they respect ("Perfect"). On the other side of the hotel, Marty arrives and is instantly spotted by Murray, who expresses his joy over seeing him before. Murray admits that he wishes it were Marty marrying Rebecca instead of Brian. He is joined by Judy, the drunken Uncle Morty, and flirtatious Aunt Sheila, who all echo this sentiment ("It Shoulda Been You").
When Jenny sees Marty, she tries to get him to leave. However, Marty appeals to their longtime friendship and all the times that he has been there for her. Jenny reminisces with him, and it's revealed they did get together, but for some reason Marty stopped calling her and she never knew why ("Who"). She reluctantly agrees to give him only a few short minutes with Rebecca. Meanwhile, Brian is having a few moments with George, his father. George says that now that Brian is getting married, he wants to try to have a closer relationship with him—something he and his own father never had ("Back in the Day"). He also gives Brian a pre-nuptial agreement and tells him to consider signing it before the wedding, completely unaware that Marty is hiding behind a plant and has heard their conversation.
The bridal party gets their hair and makeup done, and tensions between the conservative Christian Georgette and open Jewish Judy are running high. Rebecca and Jenny beg Judy to be polite. After Georgette, assuming a cheerful tone, takes a few back-handed jabs at her, Judy emulates her demeanor to hurl shots back at her, including pointing out Georgette's latest face lift ("Nice").
Marty arrives and throws everything into disarray when he announces the plans for the pre-nuptial agreement. Rebecca is shocked and runs off. Everyone goes to find her. Jenny starts panicking that the wedding will be over before it has begun. She is reassured by Albert, the wedding planner, that all will be well. He shares stories of all the weddings he's been involved in, pointing out that nothing has ever shocked him or prevented the ceremony from taking place, including that a wedding day pre-nuptial agreement is not legally binding ("Albert's Turn").
Brian tries to confide in Georgette and tells her that he owes everything he has achieved in life to her. As he leaves, Georgette laments losing her son to another woman and wishes he had turned out gay, or at least waited until after she died to find someone ("Where Did I Go Wrong?"). Everyone is still searching for Rebecca; they think she has left, but Albert appears with Rebecca dressed, made up, and ready to walk down the aisle. Judy and Murray admire her, and Judy tells Jenny to go get dressed. As she goes into the bathroom, Judy compliments Rebecca on how stunning she looks before saying she wishes Jenny had found someone. Judy suggests that it would be easier for Jenny to find someone if she lost weight. Rebecca retorts that this isn't fair, as Jenny has had a wonderful life and has done great things. Jenny hears this conversation as she exits the bathroom and is embarrassed. Everyone else leaves, and Jenny finishes dressing. As she does this, she expresses her frustration that even though she views herself as a truly beautiful and valuable person, she struggles to find people that view her as more than 'sort of pretty,' 'kind of sexy,' or just 'nice' ("Beautiful").
Outside the cathedral, Marty shows up one more time to try to convince Rebecca to call off the wedding. Rebecca considers it, but Jenny steps in and tells him to let Rebecca go and be happy. Marty reluctantly agrees, and the wedding goes ahead.
After the wedding, everyone gets ready for the reception. Murray and Judy rejoice that their daughter is finally married. Georgette is in despair and grabs George to head for the bar. Jenny is happy for her sister, but sad for herself. Rebecca and Brian, now in a private room, are just glad things went ahead ("A Perfect Ending"). Greg and Annie interrupt the newlyweds' alone time with champagne in hand to celebrate. They drink, and it is revealed that Greg and Brian are lovers as well as Annie and Rebecca. Jenny and Albert walk in and catch the two couples in the act. Rebecca tries to explain things to Jenny, but she is interrupted by Judy telling them the reception is about to start.
At the reception, Greg and Annie perform a garish song to their secret lovers declaring their undying devotion under the pretense of having written it for the wedding ("Love you Till the Day"). Rebecca tries to talk to Jenny again, but she is interrupted by Judy, who says it's time for the father-daughter dance. Rebecca tries to resist, but Judy says Jenny can use the dance to search for a husband. That finally sets Jenny off, and she storms away. Judy follows her and tries to see what's the matter while still giving her orders about details of the wedding, but Jenny has none of it. She decides that she's tired of being pushed around and mocked; she's going to have a quick fling and throw caution to the wind ("Jenny's Blues"). Marty comes in and she impulsively kisses him. Jenny runs off after she kisses him, but Marty follows her into the bathroom and presses her to explain why she kissed him. She denies it as anything serious, but Marty continues pushing before letting it slip that he knew Rebecca was gay and that's why he couldn't call Jenny back. He didn't trust himself not to tell her after he promised Rebecca he wouldn't. He then says that he never loved Rebecca, but he always loved Jenny. He continues, saying that if she wants him, he wants to start a romantic relationship or whatever she wants ("Whatever"). The two declare their feelings for each other and kiss. Albert comes in and says that Rebecca is about to tell Judy and Murray that she's gay. They run off to find her. However, what they don't realize is that Aunt Sheila was also in the bathroom (hooking up with a busboy) and has heard the whole thing.
Brian and George try to talk Rebecca out of revealing her sexuality on the day of the wedding. Jenny and Marty concur, but Rebecca says she's tired of living a lie. She wants to be who she is and wants to be with whom she loves ("A Little Bit Less Than"). Jenny hugs Rebecca and tells her she is strong. Judy and Murray come in to tell them the speeches are about to begin. Rebecca tries to get up the nerve to tell them but ultimately chickens out. As the rest of the family comes in, Aunt Sheila drunkenly announces that Rebecca is gay and, to the delight of Georgette, Brian also confesses his sexuality.
Judy and Marty are shocked and demand an explanation for why they went through with the wedding. Brian and Rebecca explain that they both met in college, and when they found out that each other was gay, they became close friends. As they, along with Annie and Greg, hit 30 they realized they were broke. Brian remembered that he had a trust fund in his name from his grandfather's will. However, the stipulation was that he had to be married to a woman, so he convinced Rebecca to marry him. Rebecca also reveals that she is pregnant with Brian's child as during a period of time when she struggled with her sexuality, she and Brian had a drunken fling. After they got over the shock, Annie and Greg accept it, and they all decided to raise the child together. To the delight of Rebecca and Brian, both of their parents are accepting of their sexuality. Judy and Murray are overjoyed that they will have a grandchild, and Georgette and George take glee in the fact that Brian's grandfather—a racist homophobe—would have hated it.
However, the wedding isn't over. Marty proposes to Jenny, saying he has been in love with her his whole life. Jenny says it is too soon, being that they never even dated. Judy convinces her, saying that she should go for it if she truly loves Marty. She says that love isn't about fairy tales—it takes time, and it involves taking risks and having the little moments that make a relationship come together ("What They Never Tell You").
Jenny and Marty both admit they have flaws, but they love each other, so it doesn't matter ("Perfect/Whatever" Reprise). Jenny says she doesn't have a dress, but Albert has it covered and hurries her off to get ready. Spurred by this quick wedding, Brian proposes to Greg and Rebecca to Annie, and they hurry off to make it a triple ceremony. With both sets of parents now alone together, they reflect over the events of the day, with the two mothers putting aside their differences because they are becoming a family ("That's Family").
Jenny emerges in her dress, and Judy says she looks beautiful. Marty happily agrees and the two marry ("Finale").

## Musical numbers

Source: Internet Broadway Database
* "I Never Wanted This" – Jenny
* "This Day (Opening)" – Company
* "Perfect" – Jenny and Rebecca
* "It Shoulda Been You" – Murray, Marty, Judy, Aunt Sheila and Uncle Morty
* "Who" – Marty and Jenny
* "Back in the Day" – George and Brian
* "Nice" – Judy & Georgette
* "Albert's Turn" – Albert, Walt, Mimsy, Jenny
* "Where Did I Go Wrong" – Georgette
* "Beautiful" – Jenny
* "A Perfect Ending" – Company
* "Love You Till the Day" – Greg and Annie
* "Jenny's Blues" – Jenny
* "Whatever" – Marty
* "A Little Bit Less Than" – Rebecca
* "What They Never Tell You" – Judy
* "Perfect/Whatever (Reprise)" – Marty and Jenny
* "That's Family" – Judy, Georgette, Murray and George
* "Finale" – Full Company

## Casts

| Character | Broadway (2015) | Australia (2017) | New Jersey (2017) | Edinburgh Fringe (2017) | New Jersey (2022) |
| Jenny Steinberg | Lisa Howard | Chloe Angel | Julie Galorenzo | Marnie Yule | Evan T. Charpentier |
| Judy Steinberg | Tyne Daly | Kate Mannix | Jodi Freeman-Maloy | Cathy Geddie | Melissa Broder |
| Georgette Howard | Harriet Harris | Chapin Ayres | Christine Orzepowski | Rae Mitchell | Annette Winter |
| Rebecca Steinberg | Sierra Boggess | Michaela Leisk | Kelsey McCollaum | Elayn Fraser | Danielle C. Pennisi |
| Marty Kaufman | Josh Grisetti | Jon Emmett | Scott Baird | Ruairidh Nichols | Nicholas Culver |
| Brian Howard | David Burtka | David Berry | Chris Zika | Sean Taheny | Joshua Switala |
| Annie Shepard | Montego Glover | Dylan Hayley Rosenthal | Asami Tsuzuki | Christina Craven | Melyssa Searcy |
| Greg Madison | Nick Spangler | Greg Thornton | Shane Long | Andrew Gardiner | David Villa |
| Murray Steinberg | Chip Zien | Ken Goth | Bob Russell | Peter Robson | Bob Russell |
| George Howard | Michael X. Martin | Michael Saddington | Billy Brisley | John Bruce | Mark Dacey |
| Albert | Edward Hibbert | Atha Kastanias | Jason Tamashausky | Malachi Reid | Joseph Pierone |
| Aunt Sheila / Mimsy | Anne L. Nathan | Julia Brovedani | Ginny S. Crooks | Rowan Hall | Michelle Ward / Sam Szentmik |
| Uncle Morty / Walt | Adam Heller | Graeme Halliday | Karl Loveland | Jack Bruce | Matt Cavallo / Anthony Finke |

## Awards and nominations

| Year | Award | Category | Nominee | Result |
| 2015 | Clarence Derwent Award | Most Promising Male Actor | Josh Grisetti | Won |
| 2015 | Outer Critics Circle Award | Outstanding New Broadway Musical | Outstanding New Broadway Musical | Nominated |
| 2015 | Outer Critics Circle Award | Outstanding Book of a Musical | Brian Hargrove | Nominated |
| 2015 | Outer Critics Circle Award | Outstanding New Score | Brian Hargrove and Barbara Anselmi | Nominated |
| 2015 | Outer Critics Circle Award | Outstanding Director of a Musical | David Hyde Pierce | Nominated |
| 2015 | Outer Critics Circle Award | Outstanding Actress in a Musical | Tyne Daly | Nominated |
| 2015 | Outer Critics Circle Award | Outstanding Featured Actor in a Musical | Josh Grisetti | Nominated |
| 2015 | Drama League Award | Outstanding Production of a Broadway or Off-Broadway Musical | Outstanding Production of a Broadway or Off-Broadway Musical | Nominated |
| 2015 | Drama League Award | Distinguished Performance Award | Tyne Daly | Nominated |
| 2015 | Drama League Award | Distinguished Performance Award | Lisa Howard | Nominated |
| 2015 | Drama Desk Award | Outstanding Actress in a Musical | Lisa Howard | Nominated |
| 2015 | Drama Desk Award | Outstanding Featured Actor in a Musical | Josh Grisetti | Nominated |
| 2015 | Drama Desk Award | Outstanding Featured Actress in a Musical | Tyne Daly | Nominated |