# My Love Is for Real

"My Love Is for Real" is a song by American singer and songwriter Paula Abdul with backing vocals from Israeli singer Ofra Haza. It was released on May 30, 1995 by Virgin and Captive, as the first single from Abdul's third studio album, Head over Heels (1995). Intended as Abdul's comeback single, "My Love Is for Real" reached number one in Hungary and the top 20 in Australia, Canada, and New Zealand, but it stalled outside the top 20 in the United States, peaking at number 28 on the Billboard Hot 100, and failed to make a major impact in Europe. The song's music video was directed by Michael Haussman.

## Composition

Written by Abdul and Rhett Lawrence, the song fuses trip hop and traditional Indian instruments as well as Middle Eastern music with backing vocals by Israeli singer Ofra Haza, producing a darker sound not present in Abdul's earlier hits and also containing elements of industrial music. The single's B-side is the mid-tempo song "Didn't I Say I Love You", written by Elliot Wolf and Stacey Piersa.

## Critical reception

Larry Flick from Billboard viewed the song as "an overlooked pop-treasure", describing it as "cute" and "fun". Chuck Campbell from Knoxville News Sentinel described it as "Middle Eastern-flavored" and "slow chugging". In his weekly UK chart commentary, James Masterton wrote, "Her new single goes for the dance angle, reminiscent of her first hit 'Straight Up' but this time round unlikely to become too big a hit for her." Ian Watson from Melody Maker felt that "mucho respect" goes to Abdul "for first having the good sense to employ the wailing woman talents of Ofra Haza and then penning a pop song that flirts dangerously with the intense feelings found in the Arabic music world." A reviewer from Music Week gave 'My Love Is for Real' four out of five, adding, "Smooth, soulful vocals with a funky rhythm and oriental touches show Abdul back on form." John Perry from NME named it the "strongest of all" on the album, "mixing Ofra Haza's ethereal vocals over Paula's Madonna-esque whispering, almost turning a standard sexy ballad into Massive Attack's 'Safe from Harm'. Almost." Mark Sutherland from Smash Hits gave it three out of five, writing, "Nowadays thoughm she's reduced to copying Madonna with this stab at 'Justify My Love'/'Confide in Me' eastern-tinged sexiness. A hit the size of a house, but that's hardly the point."

## Chart performance

"My Love Is for Real" was intended to be a comeback single for Abdul, who had not released an album since 1991's triple platinum Spellbound. The single was not as successful as Abdul's previous releases and peaked at number 28 on the US Billboard Hot 100. The song fared better on the Billboard Hot Dance Club Play chart, where it reached the number-one position.
Internationally, "My Love Is for Real" peaked at number seven in Australia and became a top-20 hit in New Zealand and Canada. In the United Kingdom, the song peaked at number 28 on the UK Singles Chart and number three on the UK R&B Chart. The song did not impact Ireland or mainland Europe at all, save for Hungary, where it topped the country's chart, and Germany, where it reached number 87.

## Music video

The accompanying music video for "My Love Is for Real", directed by Michael Haussman, features Middle Eastern inspired imagery with Abdul appearing as the head mistress of a harem. The video received two MTV Video Music Award nominations: Best Dance Video and Best Choreography in a Video.

## Release history

| Region | Date | Format(s) | Label(s) |
| United States | May 9, 1995 | Rhythmic contemporarycontemporary hit radio | VirginCaptive |
| United States | May 30, 1995 | 7-inch vinylCDcassette | VirginCaptive |
| United Kingdom | June 5, 1995 | 12-inch vinylCDcassette | Virgin |
| Japan | July 5, 1995 | Mini-CD | Virgin |

## Strike version

British electronic dance music group Strike released their version of "My Love Is for Real" in November 1996. It was released at the fourth single from their only studio album, I Saw the Future (1997). The single reached number 35 in the United Kingdom and number 45 in Scotland. Outside Europe, the song reached number 157 in Australia.

### Critical reception

British magazine Music Week rated Strike's version of "My Love Is for Real" four out of five, adding, "The magic is still there from the band who have got making commercial pop dance down to a fine art. Another smash."

### Track listings

* UK 12-inch single (1996)
* "My Love Is 4 Real" (Strike's Big Outback 12-inch mix)
* "My Love Is 4 Real" (Strike's Small Upfront dub)
* "My Love Is 4 Real" (Ramp vocal mix)
* "My Love Is 4 Real" (Ramp dub)
* UK CD single (1996)
* "My Love Is for Real" (radio edit) – 3:48
* "My Love Is for Real" (Strike's Big Outback 12-inch mix) – 6:11
* "My Love Is for Real" (Strike's Small Upfront dub) – 6:35
* "My Love Is for Real" (Ramp vocal mix) – 6:37
* "My Love Is for Real" (Ramp dub) – 7:33

### Charts

| Chart (1996–1997) | Peak position |
| Australia (ARIA) | 157 |
| Europe (Eurochart Hot 100) | 84 |
| Scotland (OCC) | 45 |
| UK Singles (OCC) | 35 |
| UK Dance (OCC) | 3 |