# Philippa Perry

Philippa, Lady Perry (née Fairclough; born 1 November 1957), is a British integrative psychotherapist and author.
She has written the graphic novel Couch Fiction: A Graphic Tale of Psychotherapy (2010), How to Stay Sane (2012), The Book You Wish Your Parents Had Read (and Your Children Will be Glad That You Did) (2019). The Book You Want Everyone You Love* To Read *(and maybe a few you don't) (2023).

## Early life

Lady Perry was born in Warrington, Cheshire. Her mother's family owned a cotton mill and her father inherited a civil engineering company and a farm. She was educated at Abbots Bromley School for Girls and at a Swiss finishing school where she learnt to ski.
She worked as a litigation clerk, an enquiry agent, and a McDonald's employee. She went to Middlesex Polytechnic where she gained a degree in Fine Art as a mature student.

## Work

In 1985 she trained and volunteered for the Samaritans, after which she trained as a psychotherapist, and was a member of the UK Association of Humanistic Psychology Practitioners. Perry worked in the mental health field for 20 years, 10 in private practice, before being published. From 2010 she spent time on the faculty of The School of Life, but she has subsequently discontinued this.
She had a regular column about psychotherapy in Psychologies Magazine for two years; in September 2013 she became Red Magazine's agony aunt. She also works as a freelance journalist specialising in psychology and was an occasional presenter for The Culture Show on BBC Two.
Perry has presented various documentaries including: Sex, Lies and Lovebites: The Agony Aunt Story (BBC Four); Being Bipolar (Channel 4); The Truth About Children Who Lie (BBC Radio 4); and The Great British Sex Survey (Channel 4).
In 2010 the academic publisher, Palgrave Macmillan, published Perry's book, Couch Fiction: A Graphic Tale of Psychotherapy. It is a graphic novel that tells a tale of a psychotherapist and her client, from both their perspectives. Underneath the graphic novel boxes, Perry takes the position of commentator and provides footnotes on what might be going on between them and what theories the therapist is drawing on or should be drawing on. There is an afterword by Andrew Samuels.
Perry is a monthly agony aunt for Red magazine and, since June 2021, for The Observer. She appeared on BBC Radio 4's The Museum of Curiosity in November 2019. Her hypothetical donation to this imaginary museum was "A swarm of fruit flies".

## Publications
### Books

* Couch Fiction: a Graphic Tale of psychotherapy. Palgrave Macmillan, 2010. With an afterword by Andrew Samuels.
* How to Stay Sane. The School of Life Self Help Series. Pan Macmillan, 2012. Edited by Alain de Botton.
* The Book You Wish Your Parents Had Read (and Your Children Will be Glad That You Did). London: Penguin, 2019.
* The Book You Want Everyone You Love* To Read *and maybe a few don't Cornerstone Press, 2023.

### Articles

* Perry, Philippa (2007). "Working with dissociation". The British Journal of Psychotherapy Integration. 4 (2). Palgrave Macmillan: 29–42. ISSN 1759-0000. Archived from the original on 27 June 2016.{{cite journal}}: CS1 maint: bot: original URL status unknown (link) Preview.
* Perry, Philippa (2009). "Relational marketing?". The British Journal of Psychotherapy Integration. 6 (2). Palgrave Macmillan: 47–51. ISSN 1759-0000. Archived from the original on 27 June 2016.{{cite journal}}: CS1 maint: bot: original URL status unknown (link) Preview.
* Perry, Philippa (18 January 2011). "How to be happy: a psychotherapst's view". The Guardian.
* Perry, Philippa (2 May 2010). "Ideas for modern living: chemistry". The Guardian.
* Perry, Philippa (23 February 2012). "Gender and the tyranny of the normal". The Guardian.
* Perry, Philippa (3 April 2012). "Why children kill their parents". The Guardian.

## Personal life

She is married to the artist Sir Grayson Perry, and they have a daughter, Florence, born in 1992. The Perrys live in London. She has often been asked what it is like being married to a transvestite and says, "Being the wife of a trannie is great, he always makes me look fantastic". When asked the same question by a Buckingham Palace press officer when the Perrys went to a reception there in 2005, she said, "As obsessions go, it's better than football".