tom wrote on wed NUMBER sep NUMBER r a hettinga wrote i know it s not the popular choice for a lot of people but i d suggest um church like woody allen said NUMBER of life is showing up right i think another venue for finding people is the workplace as a contractor i have had the opertunity to meet lots of eligables over the course of my wandering workhistory my wife was my task order manager years ago thats how we met her joke is that she is still my task order manager but now i dont get paid sure if you re willing to risk firing lawsuits etc the last full time job i had the sexual harassement seminar was pretty clear yes you can have relationships at the office but its extremely difficult and the pitfalls are horrendous owen 