hear hear gary i m living with a guy right now who i met at a party emailed with for NUMBER weeks then powie we were both looking at similar goals in life in general had some attraction for each other and decided to wing it i can t say what s going to happen tomorrow but right now and for the past few months we ve been happy onward ho cindy on NUMBER sep NUMBER gary lawrence murphy wrote e eirikur hallgrimsson eh mad scientist com writes e you just can t tell important things from a picture and a few e words it s not how we are built there s no geek code for e the heart and soul nor is there a turing test even for someone with whom you ve spent NUMBER years boom bust and boom again and NUMBER children trust me there is no magic litmus test other than the totally empirical try it and see string bags full of oranges and matters of the heart people laugh at anything and things just fall apart michael leunig the only real test the only sensible test is to look back and realize your relationship has lasted NUMBER years and see no reason to believe it couldn t last another NUMBER in the absense of NUMBER years of actual ahem hands on experiential data a photo and a few words are as good as any provided you are prepared for the dynamics of it love is a verb sex is a shared pursuit there is no relation ship there is only the crew sail away i don t take no stocks in mathematics anyway huckleberry finn 