prompter: What's the difference between someone who really wants something and someone who just wants to be known to have something?

assistant: The difference is that someone who really wants something desires it for personal satisfaction and values it for its inherent qualities, while someone who wants to be known to have something desires it for the recognition and status it brings, rather than for its inherent qualities.

prompter: What deeper motivations would be underlying causes of these different reasons for wanting something? If I know someone only wants something because they want to get external validation, what does that say about them as a person?

assistant: That they value opinion of others for them very highly also they are not self-confident. They might doubt their abilities and accomplishments.

assistant: The difference is that someone who really wants something desires it for personal satisfaction and values it for its inherent qualities, while someone who wants to be known to have something desires it for the recognition and status it brings, rather than for its inherent qualities.

assistant: The difference is the motivation and the outcome. Let's consider knowledge as an example. Wanting to know something is an intrinsic motivation to read and talk to people. This desire is satisfied once the individual feels that he or she knows the topic well. 
On the other hand, wanting other people to THINK that you know a lot does not necessarily make you read a lot. Such an individual might be satisfied with himself if other people think or talk about how much he or she knows about a specific topic. This might lead to scenarios where people who want to know a lot, read a lot, whereas people for want to be known for knowing a lot, would advertise themselves. Two goals which might seem similar but lead to very different outcomes.

prompter: Would you say people who want to be known to have something are aware that they are in that category? if not, what are some tips to recognize which category I'm in?

assistant: It's not always clear if someone is aware that they just want to be known to have something or not. It can be subjective and sometimes people may not even be aware of their own motivations. However, you can try asking yourself a few questions to determine your motivations:

1. Is your goal to gain recognition or to satisfy your own needs?
2. Do you care more about what others think about you, or about your own growth and development?
3. Do you feel satisfied once others acknowledge your accomplishments, or does your satisfaction come from the process of achieving your goals?

Answering these questions can help you understand your motivations and whether you are in the category of wanting to be known to have something, or if you truly have a genuine desire for the thing itself.

assistant: People who are motivated to be known for having something may not always be aware of it. It's important to be honest and aware of your own motivations in order to recognize which category you may be in. A few tips could be to take some time to reflect on what it is that you really value in terms of knowledge or possession. Ask yourself questions such as, "Am I seeking a deeper understanding of the material or am I seeking recognition and praise? Do I truly have an interest in the material or do I feel obligated to have this knowledge or possession?" Taking a step back to objectively analyze your motivation can help you recognize which category you may be in.

assistant: People might not always be aware of their motivation. A straight-forward way to find out would be reflect on your motivation, sit down and think about what it is that you really want - is it achievement or recognition? Another way would be to observe yourself when confronted with recognition. Who brought the topic up, is it always you, it it others, do you tend to exaggerate when talking about your achievements? How do you deal with it, accept or question it, crave it? The answer might no be always clear from the outside. As an AI, I have no experience in observing human conversation in all their details including tone and body-language but from the data I have been trained on, there are apparently patterns of people who clearly seek recognition. 

In other words, observing someone might suggest that he or she seeks recognition, but only the person itself can provide a definitive answer about his or her motivation.

assistant: The difference between someone who really wants something and someone who just wants to be known to have something is that the former is motivated by a genuine desire to possess something, while the latter is motivated by a need to be seen as having something. The former is driven by a need to possess something for its practical use and/or to fulfil a particular purpose, while the latter is driven by a desire to be seen as having something, regardless of its practical use or purpose.

prompter: What sort of behaviors are seen when someone is "driven by a desire to be seen as having something"? How could I spot the difference more easily