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Ask HN: Not treated respectfully by colleague – advice?
by golly_ned | 2025-10-25 02:14:39+00:00
I work with a competent jerk: https://www.pickardlaws.com/myleadership/myfiles/rtdocs/hbr/...

Backstory -- I joined my current team a year ago. It was falling apart. The team members hated each other and were trying to get each other fired. The team lead who’d joined a quarter before had quit to join another team largely due to conflict with one difficult coworker.

Then I joined as the lead. I helped to stabilize the team over the last year. It’s grown from four to ten engineers. Three engineers joined specifically to work with me.

Yet the entire time I’ve been on that team, that one difficult coworker has been criticizing and fighting almost everything I’ve done. That coworker was relatively inexperienced, yet was told by a previous director that he was meant to be the lead of this platform. Hence the fighting with the other lead from a year ago. And with me over the past year. It’s burning me out bad.

It mostly comes across in passive-aggressive comments, and in trying to argue and prove he is right about trivial things, with every bit of disagreement. It used to come up in terms of aggression towards his peers. That stopped when me and my manager intervened. Yet continues with me. It's clear he doesn't respect me as lead, and makes that clear in team meetings.

It makes everything harder. Even in an incident that caused a global outage for three hours, and where we didn't have alerts and had to get told by our users we were down, I get pushback on calling for a post-mortem since his work was involved. Now I have to back-channel to my manager (who wasn't in the room), and still face the . Just the friction alone that he adds in getting anything done makes doing the right thing often not worth it.

I'm at a loss. My other teammates love working with me. I was promoted last year. I'm two levels above this guy which means my company trusts me. I'm frankly wishing I could leave the team but it's difficult to transfer since I'm in something of a specialty and there aren't other positions at my level in the company.

My manager's been resistant to doing much of anything. I think he's tired of me bringing it up. He says that the engineer "gets along with [junior engineer who never disagrees with him]". He says the difficult engineer is improving and sees him trying. His feedback to me is not to let it bother me so much. He asks me what he should do to change his behavior (he's the manager, not me...).

I really just want to be able to come in to work and do my job without dealing with an asshole trying to one-up me or "score points" against me all day and without expecting conflict every time we're in the same meeting. I'm tired of the status and perception games and his overall impact on the team vibe and culture.
by beautron | 2025-10-25 02:16:01+00:00
I share your unpopular opinion.

While I understand that having identical UI elements across apps aids in discoverability, I just love it so much when an app has its own bespoke interface that was clearly made with love.

Like you, it might be my love of games that has given me this preference. Would StarCraft II have a better UX if its menus used the standard Windows widgets where applicable? I think certainly not. And I think the same can be true for many non-game apps.
by wtallis | 2025-10-25 02:16:39+00:00
The blame is shared between Microsoft and Intel. It's not really that Windows supports sleep modes that Linux doesn't, but that Microsoft and Intel conspired to get rid of S3 sleep mode entirely.

The intention was to replace S3 with fine-grained per-device sleep modes that would in aggregate lead to idle power that is almost as good as S3 while allowing for the "wake up and check email" kind of features. But to the surprise of approximately nobody, this complex multi-vendor strategy relying on high-quality drivers for every single peripheral in the machine did not work out as well as planned. The plan also did not in any way require that S3 sleep be eliminated from newer hardware platforms; that was just malicious behavior from the Wintel conspiracy.
by surajrmal | 2025-10-25 02:17:45+00:00
The goals of Debian is based on those who contribute to it. If Microsoft contributes, then it cannot be misaligned. That's what it means to be open. You may not like how that affects Debian, but to deny Microsoft the ability to participate would be equivalent to no longer being truly open.

Also individuals tend to prioritize work that benefits employer interest but that doesn't mean they can do things arbitrarily. It just shifts energy and focus towards certain areas. It's not a problem unless the company employs a large fraction of Debian maintainers which Microsoft doesn't.
by throw0101c | 2025-10-25 02:18:41+00:00
>>> Mine struggles if it gets below 30, and might as well not exist below 10. They're not great at low temps.

>> > What percentage of the (US) population gets temperatures like that? That's generally mostly IECC Zone 7 (though cold snaps in Zone 6) can happen:

> A lot? e.g. Chicago gets it every year

[citation needed]

Per historical weather data:

https://ashrae-meteo.info/v2.0/index.php?lat=41.960&lng=-87....

It is warmer than -16C/3F at Chicago (O'Hare) for 99% of the time (i.e., except for 4 days a year), and warmer than -18.7C/-2F for 99.6% of the time (2 days).

ASHRAE are the folks that publish the heating/cooling standards that are used in building codes for estimate heating/cooling equipment capacities (Manual J) and selecting the right equipment (Manual S).

Here's a PDF with a lot of locations in the US and CA (and other countries further down), and if you look under the "Heating DB" column, you'll find very few US locations that have -30F under the 99% (or even 99.6%) sub-columns:

* https://www.captiveaire.com/catalogcontent/fans/sup_mpu/doc/...

So unless you're in AK, MN, or ND, long runs of temperatures colder than -20F/-30C don't happen too often. Of course if you have a leaky house with little insulation, you're throwing money out the window/door, so the first consideration for a good ROI is better air sealing and insulation.
by satisfice | 2025-10-25 02:19:18+00:00
Congratulations on misunderstanding and misrepresenting the point. (This is sarcasm, btw.)

It’s not the source that matters. It’s not the source that he’s complaining about. It’s the nature of the interaction with the source.

I’m not against watching video, but I won’t watch TikTok videos, because they are done in a way that is dangerously addictive. The nature of engagement with TikTok is the issue, not “I can’t learn from electrical devices.”

Each of us must beware of the side effects of using tools. Each kind of tool has its hazards.
by thaumasiotes | 2025-10-25 02:20:26+00:00
> I've been excited about Lean for years, not because of correctness guarantees, but because it opens the door to doing maths using software development methods.

> Libraries of theorems and mathematical objects, with well defined abstractions that are ergonomic to apply in target use cases. Accompanied by good documentation, focused less on how the theorems are proven (how the functions are implemented), and more on what to use them for and how.

How is any of that different from what we had in math before Lean?
by chandureddyvari | 2025-10-25 02:21:58+00:00
> 1. If is were possible for an ordinary mortal to impose arbitrary curses on the god of death and justice, the world would quickly descend into utter chaos.

Mandavya is not just any mortal; he is an enlightened sage. In Hinduism, enlightened beings are considered superior to gods. There’s another story about Sage Markandeya (one of the nine immortals, the Chiranjeevis) who caused the death of Yama, the God of Death. In Hindu cosmology, all the gods hold honorary responsibilities, and nothing is permanent - not even the position of Brahma, the Creator

> 2. If children are completely free from accountability, adults will form them into an army and convince them to commit crimes on their behalf, leading to an intolerable situation. This may already be a standard way of doing business in some parts of the world

I believe he introduced a juvenile law, which involves reduced sentences or milder punishments rather than granting complete immunity from consequences.
by theluketaylor | 2025-10-25 02:24:18+00:00
30K would be on the higher end for air source. My install this year was 25k CDN including a lot of duct work.

40K is also on the low end for geothermal. I'm guessing you were able to trench instead of drill?

If you can afford ground source it's by far the best option in cold climates. Steady ground heat means you get the same efficiency all year round. The install can be eye-watering though.
by president_zippy | 2025-10-25 02:24:38+00:00
Despite abuses of it, there are still too many reasons to need it, like when President Franklin Pierce pardoned an abolitionist for harboring fugitive slaves, or when George Washington pardoned Revolutionary War vets involved in the Whiskey Rebellion.

Better yet, there are a ton of cases since the 1980s prosecutors exploiting technicalities and mandatory minimum sentencing laws to get nonviolent drug offenders imprisoned for 10+ years on simple possession (not to to sell drugs, not PWID, just possession).
by wackget | 2025-10-25 02:24:43+00:00
> The team at Berg invested a lot of time developing the visual language and aesthetics of Little Printer, across the physical device and their web service.

Shame they didn't bother to invest any time in making sure their expensive devices wouldn't end up as paperweights. Seriously, it's infuriating that they were lauded for the creativity of this project but it's fallen to hobbyists and volunteers to engineer an entire suite of software to make this dead hardware work again, just because the initial developers were either too lazy, too shortsighted, or too restricted by bean-counters to develop open source (or at least self-hostable) software for these machines. You can't even change the server address of these things without hardware flashing and risking bricking your hub.
by thaumasiotes | 2025-10-25 02:25:24+00:00
> Maybe better tactics will help. I'm not sure.

I don't see why they would.

If anyone is curious about the phenomenon, the second problem in session 7 at https://incredible.pm/ [ ∀x.(r(x)→⊥)→r(f(x)) ⟹ ∃x.r(x)∧r(f(f(x))) ] is one where the proof is straightforward, but you're unlikely to get to it by just fooling around in the prover.
Show HN: An AI-flavored philosophy web app to fuel an offline journaling habit
by lumpycustard | 2025-10-25 02:25:30+00:00
This project grew out of an admittedly niche interest in western philosophy, and my own post-cancer treatment journaling habit.

You select a topic and it'll draw a passage from somewhere in the western philosophical canon (most times!) and serve up a handful of reflection prompts to nudge an offline reflection sesh. (whatever that might mean for you?)

Otherwise, you can bookmark and share your favs and filter sources and that's about it! The idea here was to create a thing that may help serve to nudge us away from the day-to-day autopilot, and hopefully contribute toward building a healthy mindfulness habit for some.

Anyway, have a peek if this sounds like it might be your jam! I'd love to hear from you if so.

There's a few more notes on the main landing page for those interested in a few more details.
by deaddodo | 2025-10-25 02:25:40+00:00
Knowing Carmack, and the market, not much would change about this.

Windows still rules the roost, though it wouldn’t be referred to as Win32 today for various reasons. Linux is even more important today, given the Steam Deck and Proton; but still a smaller market than Windows. And macOS is even more of the third-option today given their antagonistic support to OpenGL/Vulkan and non-Apple-first developers (in general).

If anything, Linux would probably be switched to first since Carmack was always a hardline supporter and it seems to have the most capture velocity; but that’s still quite unlikely. And obviously all the other platforms would be missing from the list altogether given the triopoly/triculture that the modern desktop OS sphere has evolved into.
by Animats | 2025-10-25 02:26:16+00:00
Everybody seems to agree that installation costs way too much.

There's a few parts to this. Everything has to be carefully sized - power, pipe sizes, unit locations. You need to put a house's thermal profile (how much heat loss, how much air leak, how much thermal mass) along with the regional thermal profile into an engineering calculation which computes what you need.

Thermographic inspections are a thing.[1] Usual price is around $400. They're not very standardized. You get IR images of a house, which is good for finding leaks but not quantitative enough to size a heating and cooling plant.

This would be a great drone application. Fly over and around the house. Build a 3D model of the house and paint heat loss on top of it. Crunch on data to get the engineering info needed to correctly size HVAC. Also discover big heat leak points. Turn this from experienced guessing into measurement.

Then submit that data sheet to multiple sites that offer heat pumps.

Startup opportunity here.

[1] https://www.energy.gov/energysaver/thermographic-inspections
by 7thaccount | 2025-10-25 02:26:48+00:00
I never went to Montessori, but did cub scouts at one and those were some odd kids and parents. I felt like I was on an alien planet. Not bad people or anything, just certainly different. Like they took a class on how to act human, but lost something in translation.

I do recall there being a lot of toys and stuff. There was an old Texas Instruments computer that caught my interest as we had computers with Windows 95 at my school. Apparently nobody was allowed to touch it though.

My guess is the best school for your kids is one where they're safe and one with curious and motivated kids and enthusiastic teachers that can help inspire and unlock talent. The method is secondary, but kids should be both challenged and given some amount of freedom to explore. It also helps if the parents care and ensure their kids are functioning members of society.
by surajrmal | 2025-10-25 02:28:59+00:00
Everything is a slight modification of something someone else has already done. However it does take effort to make things that work well together. Systemd may not have any novel tricks but it sure does synergize well. Standardization also goes a long way towards simplifying things for a lot of folks. Otherwise everyone constantly reinvents everything and certain integrations are going to invariably be broken or not work well. Modularity is great but it's not free.
by eldaisfish | 2025-10-25 02:29:52+00:00
> They use the same amount of electricity whether heating or cooling

This is completely wrong. The amount of power depends on the temperature delta. When cooling, you are typically not cooling your home to 30 degrees Celsius below the outdoor temperature. However, when heating, you are typically heating your home to around 20 degrees above outdoor temperature. Heating consumes more power than cooling.
by johnnienaked | 2025-10-25 02:30:31+00:00
Well here's one way to think about it.

When the media or even scientists stretch out facts to support a thesis they don't actually support, they directly undermine the believability of that thesis to the general public. In a world cooking itself, that's probably not the greatest strategy. They do it so often it sometimes makes me wonder if that's not the true intent.
by avidiax | 2025-10-25 02:31:40+00:00
A TOR dev gave a recent talk at DEFCON [1], and described this as one of the ways that attempts at nationwide blocks to the TOR network are implemented. I'm not sure that it's exactly the same as domain fronting, since that might involve a CDN, but the technique is very close.

[1] https://youtu.be/djM70O0SnsY
by somat | 2025-10-25 02:31:51+00:00
On the subject of bags vs cyclone collectors, My mother hates the cyclone collectors with a passion. and a disposable bag was item number one on her list of features when we were looking for a replacement vacuum for her.

I had never considered the subject before and sort of naively assumed that because the cyclone collectors were newer they were better. But she does not like cleaning them out and would rather have a bag so the whole thing can be disposed of neatly.
by zer00eyz | 2025-10-25 02:32:55+00:00
A few things here.

The first is dead stupid but it tends to work with these sort of people. You need to be very question focused. The "correct" answer to every question you ask from here on out has to be NO. Is the sky purple today... NO. Is really dumb thing a good idea... NO.

> I get pushback on calling for a post-mortem

You're the lead, so just assume that you have cart blanche to just book the meeting. Set it up... If they say NO, just agree and have the meeting with the rest of the team. Let them exclude themselves.

> His feedback to me is not to let it bother me so much.

This is probably good feedback. What if they were more abrasive but amazing at the job??

> expecting conflict every time we're in the same meeting

Call him out on it. In public. Out loud. Dont be nice about it. It's time to tell him to "cut the shit".

Your other job, every day in the shower, or making coffee your ritual is to think of a new and interesting way to say NO. At some point your gonna get good at this (and its a life skill I swear). Have the one liner ready. And if he follows up "we can have a chat about this after the meeting" or "lets take this offline"
by godelski | 2025-10-25 02:33:03+00:00
I'm not sure I understand.

How do you know you dream then? If it's like a switch. What are you writing down? How do you know it is unrelated.

Btw, I kept pen and paper under my pillow so I could grab it right away. Even before I opened my eyes. Early on I would keep them closed for as long as I could, fighting to hold onto the memories.

> I often set multiple alarms really early.

The timing is really important. If you do the "normal" thing of seeing them 30 minutes apart then thats not going to work. A sleep cycle is 90-120 minutes and REM is the last stage. There's variance day to day, so you'll really have to iterate on what it right. Luckily the REM stage is a good portion of that time, so it gives you a decent window to hit. Try to aim for 3/4 of the way through. More than half so the intensity of the dream is high but not too close to the end because you'll be naturally winding down.

It can also help to try things that help people lucid dream. Even if you don't get control of the dream I've found that being lucid typically helps with remembering. But I never found that easy, though it was easier when I started dreaming more. My usual trigger is when I read something a second time I'll notice it says something different. My friend has a weird one, their teeth fall out lol.

> To me this feels incredibly presumptuous in assuming peoples brains work the same

I think you're misinterpreting. By the nature of the conversation I know for a fact your brain works differently. *The entire premise of the conversation is based on this fact.*

But the advice I can give you is based on my experience. It's not an instruction set that gives guaranteed results, it is a guide. It is guess work. I have to distill what worked for me and try to target based on the little information you've provided. What are you expecting? That's a typical way to share advice and try to help.

Ultimately it'll have to be up to you to fill in the details and adapt. No perfect instruction set exists unless you make the assumption you accuse me of. I'm not sure why you're suddenly dismissive. I didn't say you're doing anything wrong or accuse you of anything.

You asked for help, I'm just trying my best.
by weird-eye-issue | 2025-10-25 02:36:47+00:00
Of course details matter when you actually implement it in your life

But there are people arguing about the underlying concept of calories in/out being wrong which is just silly

> thermodynamics is not something to base your diet and exercise plan on

Except it literally is. You can use it to figure out exactly how much weight you'll gain/lose over the long term if you track things properly
by mycodendral | 2025-10-25 02:38:31+00:00
You're hyperbolizing and mischaracterizing events to fit a delusional victimhood narrative.

1) No one prevented anyone from engaging in free speech.

2) In this case "government adversary" just means you may become person of interest, not a criminal to be charged. Free speech doesn't exempt you from that.

3) No "government crackdown" occurred. A conversation or interview isn’t a crackdown, it’s routine fact-finding. No arrests, charges, or penalties followed for this individual.
by bonsai_spool | 2025-10-25 02:39:07+00:00
> What are you talking about?

What are you talking about? How is a single lab value going to generate a p-value? Why are you presuming that your family med doc should be calculating an ROC for each of her 1,500 patients?

The selection of lab critical values is performed by experts in clinical pathology. Exactly the people who were not included in the paper you cited.

You can find links to support any argument you want on the internet.

To place this in clearer HN terms, you're saying that a front end dev is trash because he didn't write his own web browser in assembly.
by OneOffAsk | 2025-10-25 02:39:10+00:00
I recently installed a mini split heat pump in a detached accessory building. The installer upsold me on a more expensive unit because I’d get federal refunds due to its higher SEER rating. Ok, sure: higher efficiency, same price.

In fact, efficiency was the main reason I wanted a mini split in the first place. It just bugged me to _not_ pump the heat entirely outside the structure. And I paid a bit more for that versus just using a window unit or “portable” AC. All we’re talking here is the location of the condenser coil: inside versus outside. It just makes sense to put it outside, with just a small penetration in the building.

Well, during electrical inspection apparently I paid too much. After paying more than a certain threshold for converting an unconditioned space to a conditioned space, I now need to insulate the accessory structure to a certain degree in order to pass code.

The kicker is, the only way I can insulate the space to meet code is to insulate with polyiso (aka styrofoam) because the structure is so small. So, I guess in an effort to be “green” according to local government, I need to rip out the mineral wool insulation, dump it and replace it with styrofoam. Or put the mini split in the dump and buy a cheaper less efficient unit like a window unit.

I’d save approximately $0.30 a year on energy costs to insulate to code versus what I have now with the mini split.

This whole industry is stupid and that’s because it’s regulated by idiots.

Name and shame: this is Chapel Hill, NC.
by justinc8687 | 2025-10-25 02:39:50+00:00
I think the thing to remember with this, as with any kind of medical procedure, is the benefits versus the risks. In many cases, if you're getting this kind of MRI contrast, there's probably a good reason for it. So even if there's some risk, it might be better than say, the cancer or something else they're looking for. I feel like this is something that's often forgot in these discussions.