by spwa4 | 2025-08-26 09:52:49+00:00
> securely attached children perform better in school

Lots of studies point this out. That part is true. The article is still a lie though. What is not mentioned is that the number one cause of insecure attachment is interventions by social workers, child welfare agencies, ...

A child with terrible, abusive parents can (and almost always is) securely attached. You see what makes parents good is not what they do or don't do, but how predictable and consistent they are. If a child's basic needs are met and the child can predict accurately what behavior leads to a beating, then the occasional beating doesn't matter (assuming no permanent damage). Really.

In fact, this is often the case in GOOD parental relationships. Any child tries to improve the relationship between their parents ... because they are a learning system: they predict what will happen and what they can do to help their parents, and in the vast majority of cases, they succeed at that. Obviously that is psychologically incredibly good for both kids and parents. And, of course, this has nothing to do with material comfort. This works perfectly in homeless families too, which are often ripped apart by child welfare agencies.

On the other hand, if a parent or caregiver is emotionally unresponsive to a child based on how well things go at work (something a child has zero influence over), then insecure attachment is much more likely, no matter the level of comfort, no matter how much luxury the child has.

The problem is: child welfare actions are based on budgets, agency efforts, working hours, bank holidays, personnel vacation bookings and, above all, government managers ... which are obviously not predictable from the perspective of a child. An "educated psychologist" can therefore never create a situation that leads to secure attachment even in optimal cases.

And the second problem is not the child's reactions but government employee reactions. An insecurely attached child is effectively a psychopath. They do not care how their actions affect others, only themselves. They also see nothing wrong with whatever actions led to the insecure attachment in the first place (and those actions may be violence, of course, besides, any child in a child welfare agency will for obvious reasons see nothing wrong with convincing children or themselves to run away). This means an insecurely attached child lies, does not create relationships, only deceives you into thinking you have one to get stuff, runs away, don't reciprocate anything, ever, and so on ... in other words, they are VERY hard to work with. Worse: fixing it takes a decade of constant attention by THE SAME PERSON. Very sorry about your personnel policy, dear child welfare agency, but for very obvious reasons children do not form bonds with organizations, only with specific people. That's how kids work.

In other words: few people can deal with even one insecurely attached child, and nobody can deal with more than one. And that, sorry to say, means there is nothing an educated psychologist can do. THEY know this, and so they avoid insecurely attached children like the plague. They only intervene where they AREN'T necessary (because budget per child means they need to have X children that can't be too hard to deal with ... or lose their job)

But! There's insecurely attached children in child welfare! If they try to avoid them, how did that happen? Well, sadly, it's because, for again very obvious reasons, intervention by child welfare agencies, by people like "educated psychologists" CREATE insecure attachment in children. And research will tell you: this is by far the major cause of insecure attachment, far more than poverty, homelessness or abuse.

Child welfare agencies THEMSELVES are the major cause of child abuse. Why? Because (for the child) unpredictable interventions are child abuse. If you can imagine the perspective of a child this is very easy to see: for a child, child welfare agency involvement is nothing but a totally random, VERY long and unpredictable series of long-term punishments.

Oh, and of course "educated psychologists" lie about this. Why? It means there's nothing an educated psychologist can do. It means, as cruel as it may seem but isn't, the situation with humans is similar as with any animal. A baby or child is better off with abusive parents than with professional care (it is much better to give resources to families than professional help). This is first of all the case because most "abuse" is parents that don't have a choice but take 2 jobs, leaving kids home alone, parents who become homeless, have a tiny apartment are not really abusive parents. Giving actual support (house, money, better job, ...) to parents is 10x more effective than any "educated psychologist" or other kind of professional can ever hope to be. Cell phones will be 10x more reliable than any human, even parents, can ever hope to be.

This theory also predicts something people here don't seem to understand is coming. Children, 10 years from now, and the effect has probably already started, are going to behave far more loyal to their cell phone than to their parents, to the police, to their country, religion, or whatever.