by elmerfud | 2025-06-23 13:39:43+00:00
I think this person is asking where the men are without taking any self-evaluation into account. They accuse men of sitting behind firewalls and jerking off to porn (as a quick summary of what they imply). When in reality a lot of men have withdrawn from the dating scenes because so many women have an attitude like that.

A lot of men are just tired of it and have better things to do than sit there and be an object of ridicule and accusation. This entire article there is zero self-reflection on women's contribution to the withdrawal of men from the dating scene. This kind of attitude and her own admission where her life has been spent toward the manipulation of men. Men recognize this and at some level they were willing to go along with it if they felt there was some sort of reciprocity but in my own personal experience over the last decade of trying to date there isn't anymore.

Women that I've tried to date, and you can go look at the dating profiles, seem too largely be concerned with how men can act as a court jester and entertain them. So many are filled with don't be boring, I'm sorry if you find me boring but that seems to reflect more upon you and having no actual hobbies or interests or things that you know how to engage with than it does with me. My personal experience is that women seem to be obsessed with the pageantry of a relationship and of dating. Of going out and being seen on a date rather than actually engaging in any meaningful way with a partner. When they're obsessed with taking selfies to put on social media to proclaim that they're dating or worse yet to shame that they're on a date and it's boring that shows that they don't really have any desire to engage with the other person they just want other people to know what's going on in their life.

So the men aren't jerking off at home they're just asking what happened to the women. Because most men have hobbies and interests and other things to do that don't involve bragging on social media to make themselves feel important. They genuinely enjoy their hobbies because they genuinely enjoy them. Sometimes they find groups and other people that they can share them with sometimes they're happy to do them alone. Because they're not bored with themselves because they themselves are not boring people. They know how to engage and take an interest in someone.

So the men are here but they're asking the same question where have the women gone that are genuinely interested in a relationship. The women that aren't interested in having arm candy for their pictures or how much money a man can spend. The men want to know where is the good woman that is going to be interested in what he has to say and she is going to have something to say as well that doesn't involve attention on social media from thousands of other men.

So this is a two-way street here. The women have changed and so the men have changed. If you look at the studies you'll find women's happiness has gone down over time but men's has remained the same or gone up. So I think instead of complaining where the men have gone a bit of self-reflection, you know that thing you've asked men to do to get in touch with themselves, women need to do that as well.