Comfort Objects and Relationship Satisfaction

The use of comfort objects is common among children and can have a lasting importance. The purpose of this study was to examine a possible relationship between childhood comfort object use and relationship satisfaction among young adults currently in a romantic relationship. Participants completed three questionnaires. The first questionnaire gathered information on participants experience with comfort objects in childhood, such as level of attachment and type of object. The second tested for general anxiety. The third looked at relationship satisfaction. Results did not reveal any significant relationships, which suggests that additional research is needed to explore possible links between the use of comfort objects and relationship satisfaction. Future research might look at potential maladaptive effects of comfort objects, in addition to positive effects. COMFORT OBJECTS AND RELATIONSHIP SATISFACTION 3 Comfort Objects and Relationship Satisfaction in College Students The formation and maintenance of romantic relationships is something many people will experience in their life. Adulthood is often considered the time to find a romantic partner (Aronsons, 2007). These relationships are, in part, products of our individual attachment styles (Pascuzzo, 2011). Attachment theory posits that the way we learn to relate to our primary caregiver as children, is related to our behavior in future relationships. An individual’s attachment style in infancy is often stable into adulthood because early relationships create a mental framework for the self and the self’s relation to the outside world. The way we form romantic relationships in adulthood, therefore, oftentimes looks like our early relationships (Hazan, 1987). The influence of attachment style, among other traits of personality in childhood, is often present later in life (Shiner & Masten, 2012). The relationship styles that develop as a function of personality remain stable from relationship to relationship, whether it be a romantic relationship or a relationship with friends and family (Caron, Lafontaine, Bureau, Levesque, & Johnson, 2013). Furthermore, Pascuzzo, Cry, and Moss (2011) established that the attachment formed between parents and children is related to functioning in later romantic relationships. Specifically, they found that attachment insecurity towards parents is positively correlated with insecurity toward romantic partners (Pascuzzo, et al., 2011). Attachment manifests in different ways, including relationships we form with non-living things, or comfort objects. According to Steier (2000), the emotional connection between children and their objects of importance is extremely strong. These comfort objects (i.e., teddy bears, blankets, pillows, etc.) have an emotional role in children’s lives and can offer solace in the presence of strife (Steier, 2000). The objects often help teach children how to regulate their COMFORT OBJECTS AND RELATIONSHIP SATISFACTION 4 own emotions, by offering tactile comfort or social interaction. For example, a child may seek out a stuffed animal when upset, to gain physical comfort from it (through cuddling, hugging, etc.) or by communicating with it to help process the upsetting event in a social way. This is an important developmental concept that is related to healthy relationships later in life (Steier, 2000). As comfort objects provide benefits during early development, it may be the case that lasting benefits exist that impact adult life. There are other factors that could create a stronger than average attachment to comfort objects. How individuals process sensory information (information gathered through sight, smell, etc.) is related to attachment to comfort objects. This then plays a role in the development of attachment style (Jerome, 2005; Kalpidou, 2012). Specifically, anxiety created by oversensitivity to sensory information is directly connected with a dependence on comfort objects. Jerome (2005) found that relationship anxiety could be strengthened if an individual has a high sensitivity to sensory stimulation. Anxiety plays a role in the relationship between comfort objects and attachment. Symptoms of anxiety are connected to an individual’s ability to regulate emotions. Research suggests that the development of attachment leads a child to imitate the parents’ coping strategies. For instance, children whose mothers exhibit anxiety have an increased chance of developing anxiety themselves. In addition to way this can be maladaptive, insecure attachment styles can contribute to a child never fully developing effective coping strategies. This then leads to anxiety (Esbjørn, 2012). Comfort objects do not always lose meaning as childhood ends. Kamptner (1995) found that, out of 249 high school students, thirty percent still had their childhood comfort object, some of whom still used them (Kamptner, 1995). They found that a significant number of participants COMFORT OBJECTS AND RELATIONSHIP SATISFACTION 5 used their objects for emotional activities, such as speaking to the object, needing it to sleep, or wanting it when upset. There was also a relationship between those who felt heavily attached to their object and their behavior later in life, specifically an increase in attachment (Kamptner, 1995). Although research has provided a look into some aspects of the effects attachment to comfort objects can have, research has yet to explore their links to adult functioning, beyond specific psychological disorders. Having established the effect that early development has on stable personality traits, as well as the important role comfort objects can play in early relational development, the use of a comfort object might be related to an individual’s relationship satisfaction in early adulthood. We first wanted to explore whether having a comfort object in childhood would related to relationship satisfaction later in life. We were then interested if the perceived strength of this attachment is related to relationship satisfaction. We also wanted to see if anxiety would mediate the relationship between attachment and relationship satisfaction.