Great breakup/loss-coping movie that's aging very gracefully

Rating: 10/10 (26 January 2020)

I'd watched this film several times over the years - usually around Christmas - and always enjoyed it. Nancy Meyers usually makes amusing, nicely-written and well-directed, character-driven films with contemporary adult dialog and this one is certainly no exception. The stories of the two couples move smoothly in parallel with one another in this tightly written and well-acted movie and when combined with the very likable and relatable cast of characters, you easily find yourself quickly invested in and rooting for all of the protagonists.
But, it wasn't until this past week when I lost my best friend of the past 12 years that I learned how nice this film is as a coping tool. I was looking for a diversion to keep my mind off an unpleasant reality and since movies have always offered us that sort of escape, a movie playing in the background of my day seemed like the best solution. This one immediately came to mind since Christmas was only a month ago and the story lines are all about loss and, more importantly recovery - but with a lighter, comedic touch. The music and score are also really enjoyable since the blend of classic Christmas songs and Hans Zimmer's original instrumentals perfectly compliment the mood and promote the flow and transitions of the films many enjoyable scenes.
I've had the movie playing on a continuous loop in my living room while I've attempted to work and keep my mind from turning to darker thoughts in the study. I've often moved into the other room when my favorite scenes are about to be shown and nearly as often found myself staying far longer than intended. It's probably looped more than two dozen times by now (it's actually playing right now) and I have to admit being surprised that I've not become tired of the repetition. It's a rare film that is part 2006-modern rom-com and part homage to early Hollywood romantic comedies staring actors like Cary Grant and Katherine Hepburn. It manages to be smart and adult without being heavy-handed as it approaches the themes of relationship endings and new beginnings. The target audience seems to be people around the same ages as the main characters (mostly mid 30's), but it also manages to appeal to younger audiences as well even though it doesn't resort to raunchy, risque or crude jokes or sight gags like rom-coms from directors like Judd Apatow and so many others like him in the genre today.
The year after this film was released, I watched it with my friend when she and I were a couple - I never imagined I'd be watching/listening to it as a way to keep my spirits up while slowly grieving her loss, but it has honestly been a welcome and effective diversion. The playful romantic banter, onscreen chemistry and genuinely fun soundtrack and score combine with quite a few pleasant past associations with the film to help me feel less alone and sad.
If this film can help ease the mind of someone who's just lost their best friend, imagine how entertaining it would be if the most pressing matter on your mind is what movie to watch to entertain yourself after dinner.