can the act of decaying and blossoming coexist?

Rating: 7/10 (11 September 2016)

The film beautifully captures the opposing progress of human condition: decaying and blossoming. The heterosexual marriage between Einar and Gerda deteriorates, yet a sympathetic and affection relationship between them is cultivated. The male image Einar blurs, leaving place for the emergence of the feminine Lily.
I was impressed by the construction of Gerda. A figure of sympathy and strength, she gives Einar her utter support despite initial doubts and denials. This is tremendously at her cost as approval for Lily to set in is synonymous with letting Einar go. The emotional breakdown is clearly highlighted, as evident in the occasions when Gerda seeks Hans for a shoulder to lean on, on her own attends her shows.
Einar triggers controversial thoughts in my mind. On one hand, he illustrates the burning desire to be his true self. Yet, a tinge of selfishness is implied from this; little is he depicted with sympathy for Gerda and consideration of her prospect. He is genuine, wishing to be accepted; yet a sense of egocentricity is connoted.
However, isn't this whole line of argument a repeat of what the subcultures face?